Stuff You Should Know - ADHD pt 2

Episode Date: November 7, 2024

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Well, you get it. Got it? Live, love, mess. Listen to Mess with Sydney Washington and Marie Faustin on iHeartRadio app, Apple podcast, or wherever you get your podcasts. Hello, everyone. In case you're listening to these episodes out of order, we gave a heads up in episode one that we have a kind of a grown up talk about ADHD in these two episodes. So we wanted to say if you're a parent with a kid who has ADHD, maybe listen to it yourself first before you share it with them. On with the show. Welcome to Stuff You Should Know, a production of iHeartRadio.

Hey, and welcome to the podcast. I'm Josh, and there's Chuck and Jerry's here again, and we're starting up part two of our double episode on ADHD. That's right. And if you remember in part one, we discussed ADHD. Some people have it, some people don't. And we're going to talk right now about how you can figure that out. And that's called diagnosis. Right now, where we are scientifically, is that the biggest

factor on whether or not you have ADHD or not is hereditary. If you have kids and you have ADHD, as a parent, your kid has about a 50% chance of having it as well. And like we mentioned in the first part, a lot of adults from, especially our generation, Gen Xers, are now getting diagnosed in their 30s, 40s, 50s because they found out that their kid has ADHD and they're like, wow, little Chucky Jr. looks a lot like Big Chuckie. Yeah, that's a symptom. I thought that was charming. Exactly. I thought it was a bug.

And even if they don't recognize it in them, there's a 100% chance that their spouse will be like, I really think you have this too. Yeah, but there are some other factors, right? Yes, there's issues during pregnancy. That's a big one. Usually exposure to alcohol or tobacco. Premature delivery, if you didn't weigh very much when you were born, if you were exposed to lead as a kid, if you had a brain

injury as a kid. There's a lot of concern about some other stuff. I think you said at the very outset of part one, there isn't any research that suggests watching too much TV or living in a go-go-go world. There is some research that suggests that blue number one and blue number two food dyes may actually at least exacerbate ADHD symptoms. But for the most part, they think it's a combination of genetics, the environment you were raised in, and then possibly like actual environmental factors like being exposed to lead or your mom, you know,

smoking when she was pregnant with you. Yeah, and just to kind of clear up the TV and the screen thing, watching TV or being on screens too much or too much TV, quote unquote, isn't going to help give you ADHD. But there is a connection there. If you are a kid with ADHD, the pull toward a screen is going to be way stronger than a kid who doesn't have it.

That short attention span is going to really crave like the flashy graphics that video games or cartoons can deliver you. It'll deliver that steady dose of dopamine. They've done studies, there was a found one, a large study of five-year-olds that compared attention span of kids who watched less than 30 minutes per day of TV with those who spent more than two hours in front of a TV and of course we mean you know screens basically. Right. And pretty dramatic results. The kids who watched the most TV had almost an eight times more of a chance of meeting the ADHD diagnosis criteria and even outranked other things that cause attention problems

like lack of sleep or apparent stress, economic stress, stuff like that. So there's a link. It's not going to give you ADHD, but if you have a kid with ADHD, then you should probably just monitor screens even more. You should be doing that anyway, but maybe even more so. Yeah, because those sites are designed to release dopamine and train you to come back and do it again and again and again. And so kids with ADHD who don't normally have a flood of dopamine, when they get it, they really learn to do that thing that gives them that dopamine, which again, doesn't give you

like a feel-good rush. It just comes along with that and tells your brain, this is a really important thing to do. So do it again and again and again. Yeah, for sure. It's also like the age of your kid is really important when you're trying to diagnose if you're preschool aged or younger, or I guess that counts as all ages younger than preschool, but you know what I mean. That can be a lot tougher

because there are other developmental delays that may look like ADHD that change and you may not be able to get a really good diagnosis until they're six, seven, eight years old. And even when they're older, like teenagers, you gotta rule out a lot of stuff, like learning disabilities, mood disorders. If you have vision or hearing problems or a sleep disorder, a lot of that stuff can

fool you into thinking you have ADHD. So it can be tricky. Sure. It can be. So there's two lists. There's an inattentive list and then there's a hyperactive list. Yeah. And each one has, I think, nine, like, criteria. Things like, you know, you

lose things frequently, you appear to zone out while people are talking to you, stuff like that. And if you have six out of the nine on the inattentive list, you have inattentive type ADHD. If you have six out of nine on the hyperactive list, you have hyperactive type ADHD, and if you're really running up the numbers and you've got six of nine on inattentive and six of nine on hyperactive, you've got the combined version of ADHD. Adults, it's the same thing,

although the criteria's adjusted a little bit for, you know, runs around rambunctiously in class. You don't do that, but say you feel restless during meetings, like it's really hard to sit still. You may be mentally doing that. Exactly. I would love to jump up and spin in a circle. Right.

But a kid will actually do that, whereas the adult in the meeting will just struggle through that. Exactly. So the criteria is essentially the same. It's just kind of adjusted for adults. And then for adults, it's five of nine for either list. And then also with kids, when you're diagnosing kids, you look at their educational records, you talk to their parents, you talk to guidance counselors, you get as much information as you possibly can

to properly diagnose somebody with ADHD. Because there's not one like, here's our ADHD test, whether it's a blood test or a written test, you're basically pulling all of these disparate info together to put together like, okay, this kid has ADHD and it's this kind. Yeah, and that's why parent-teacher conferences are super valuable. I think when you first start to have to do that stuff,

you're just like, oh God, kill me, I gotta seriously like, because your experiences from when you were a kid, like what a waste of time, but it's not at all. When you go in there as a parent, you know how your kid is at home. You don't know how they are at school. Because you don't have a little camera in their classroom where you can just sit around and watch what they're like.

Rich parents do. Right, maybe so. in their classroom where you can just sit around and watch what they're like. Rich parents do. Right. Yeah, maybe so. But you can really glean like, I think when you have challenges with a kid at home as a parent, you're dying to know if it's just you or if it's just the way it is at home, in other words. Obviously, not just the parent's fault. But you're wondering.

So you're like, when we get in there with Ruby's teachers, we're always just like, so what's going on? What's she like? Does she have trouble with this or that? And sometimes it's like, yeah, she has the same trouble with this or that at home. And sometimes it's like, no, it's not at all at school. And so it's really super enlightening.

Yeah, that is super enlightening. Does it make you feel better? Or is it more just like, it just answers the question that you have? Yeah, just, I think, you know, knowledge is super enlightening. Does it make you feel better, or is it more just like it just answers the question that you have? Yeah, just I think, you know, knowledge is power. So just knowing that stuff that, dude, we should start doing that with you and Jerry. They need to be adult versions of parent-teacher conferences. Oh, that's a great idea. You know, I would be so anxious.

Oh, no, it'd be good. We do it over drinks. Okay. One other thing, you can find a lot of really great, accurate diagnostic tests on sites like TikTok, which have lots of misspelled words in the title. So those are always really great to test whether you have ADHD or not. Be aware of the, I mean, social media stuff can help. There's a lot, some good resources,

but what was that study? Like half of that stuff on TikTok was just wrong? Yeah. If I think 52%. Yeah. When it came to this? Yeah. More than half.

Yeah. So one of the big questions that we're still answering today, and if you haven't picked up that we don't have a full grasp of ADHD in any way, shape or form yet. Um, that's correct. But, uh, one of the factors that we're trying to figure out is the prevalence of ADHD among kids and among adults. And it's kind of all over the map. It does seem like we're starting to kind of zero in

a little bit, we're figuring out like the criteria to really like, to really diagnose ADHD. And it seems like the numbers are starting to get a little smaller as time goes on and we get a little better with recognizing ADHD. Yeah, and correct me if I'm wrong, because I know that you found some other numbers, but we'll just go through them and you can just say,

eh, if I'm off. Wrong. Between ages of three and 17, so school-age kids in the US, United States of America, around 10% have been diagnosed with ADHD. That number does get bigger with age because a lot of times you won't get tested until a little later.

And some diagnostic testing requires money and sometimes a lot of money. I mean, you can do like a, you know, diagnostic testing requires money and sometimes a lot of money. I mean, you can do like a, just a sort of a psychiatric evaluation, maybe if your kids go into a therapist or something and they may just look at criteria and ask a few questions. But if you want like a real deal diagnostic evaluation, like those aren't cheap and that sucks because, like, these numbers are kids who have been diagnosed because they were able to be diagnosed. So I'm sure there are a lot of situations where that's not possible.

There's also a shortage of psychiatrists in the United States. So it's often, there's a long wait list to even be seen from that psychiatrist you have to pay a lot of money to. Not all psychiatrists specialize in ADHD. So you really need to find from an even like smaller pool to choose from of psychiatrists. And then also once they diagnose you, the outlay of money is not over there. Like you have to keep seeing them and they charge you every time for that. And psychiatrists are medical doctors,

so their fees are not on the par or on the order of a psychologist or a therapist. They're four or five times more on average probably. I'm pulling that out of thin air, but it's very clear that you're going to pay more for your psychiatrist than you would for a therapist. Yeah, for sure. Generally still, boys are more likely

to get that diagnosis than girls, about 13% to 6%. There's also variations by race. I believe the highest percentage is black kids are at 12%, 10% for white kids, 8% for Hispanic kids, I believe the highest percentage is black kids are at 12%, 10% for white kids, 8% for Hispanic kids, and 3% for Asian children, which is just super interesting. It is interesting for sure. And there's gotta be some clue in there somewhere. Yeah.

That seems like there's, that's weird that there's a difference, because I think all of those numbers were for kids in the United States. Yeah, it was. I think globally they've come up with in a 2017 study across the world that almost 5.3% of kids have ADHD. And there's a question like, okay, is this overdiagnosed? Because I said that the prevalence rates

seem to be kind of getting a little smaller as we zero in, better and better, but the diagnostic, or the rates of diagnosis have really picked up, or they really did at the beginning of the 21st century. Between 2005 and 2014, diagnoses of kids with ADHD doubled. Doubled. That's crazy. That's of kids with ADHD doubled. Doubled. That's crazy.

That's a huge increase. Doubled. It's almost like 100% more. Yeah, and you know, there's just no scientific consensus right now on whether it's an overdiagnosis or whether it's just we know more now and there's less stigma. There's more kids getting tested now. The criteria changed in 2013 from the DSM-4 to the DSM-5 as far as that threshold.

So all of those things probably factor in to the doubling, I would think. Yeah. One thing though, if you are taking your kid in to be tested, make sure that it's, since they kind of evaluate the kid against the expectations of their grade level, if they're young for their grade, that needs to be taken into account

because they can easily be misdiagnosed because they're actually not at that grade level yet because they're not of that age quite yet, even though they're in that grade. Yeah, and with COVID kids, you know, not at that grade level yet because they're not of that age quite yet, even though they're in that grade. Yeah, and with COVID kids, you know, potentially missing out on, depending on what happened where you were, on a lot of valuable schooling. So, yeah, it's important to look at, because Ruby is young for her grade. So, in some cases, she's like eight or nine months younger than some of her classmates.

And then when you throw, even though she did COVID kindergarten, which was a real boon, they did their best. It wasn't like regular school still. So teachers and educators are having to sort, and parents are having to sort through all of that still. Chuck, just to kind of give a hat tip to some of our listeners in other countries, I saw that the NHS says in the UK 5% of kids have ADHD. In Australia, they estimate 6 to 10% of kids have ADHD. Canada says 5 to 7%. Not bad, eh? And then our friends in Germany can expect a percentage of 4.33 for the number, or for the percentage of kids that have ADHD in that country.

Funderbar. They probably had it in childhood and it was just undiagnosed and they just didn't get diagnosed until later in life. That's typically what happens. Well, my friends, let's take a break and find out those results right after this. Hi, I'm Marie. And I'm trying to reach your friend. Y-S-K. K-A-A. Hi, I'm Marie. And I'm Sydney.

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Yeah, collective seat. Yeah, because it's collective. Collective soul. Collective soul. Collective soul. That's a good one. The rate of the condition into adulthood is all over the map. You might look at one thing that says about 5% because, you know, that's kind of what it is for kids-ish. And then you might read something else that said, no, like 75% adults have it.

It's really, really startling when you start looking into this as an adult. There was a study from 2021 that found that it can fluctuate over time, and you know, it's kind of what I was talking about being on the spectrum. But about 9% of those diagnosed as kids, they said had quote unquote fully recovered in young adulthood. So I don't know what that means though. Are systems in place such that they've learned to manage it? Yeah, that's the weird thing is there's no known cure for ADHD. All of the stuff that we use for is just managing it.

But I think one of the reasons also that they were like, it's just a childhood disorder that you outgrow is because some people actually do, somehow. So you actually can. Okay, so that may be the 9% or part of that 9%. I guess, but to pull one of your old, old school words in, it seems hinky to me. Like I don't understand how, yeah. I don't understand how you could outgrow something that arises from your brain being literally different than other people's brains.

Yeah. I don't get it. But maybe we just don't understand it quite yet, but it is true. I'm not 100% sure. But for the most part, it does seem like if you have ADHD as a kid, you have it as an adult as well. Yeah, and if you're an adult with ADHD, you're probably seeing it play out with organization

and focus, you know, a lot of times with your job, but just in your life as well, because it's always there. You might have some pretty severe mood swings. You might be a procrastinator. A lot of times you're misdiagnosed because it might make you really anxious so there's like no you have anxiety or it might really bum you out with these mood swings and they might say oh you're just depressed. All of that could just be ADHD or a comorbidity. Yeah and we'll talk about comorbidities

in a second. I got it. But with adults, you know, again, adults don't get up in meetings and run around the table and they're like, just go ahead, I'm listening, you know? Instead, they're just going to sit there and just, you know, use all of their energy to not do that and then also to try to focus on what's being said. And then girls with ADHD, Chuck, tend to fall

through the cracks much more frequently for a couple of reasons. But the main one that I saw is that girls are so expected to be like demure and quiet and self-possessed that girls learn to mask their symptoms earlier than boys do, who are, can get away with being more rambunctious than girls can. So it goes undetected. And then finally, when they grow up and have a family, there's like, I can't, there's too many plates,

I can't do this. I'm just exhausted and I'm not doing any of this the way that I'm supposed to be. And they'll usually get diagnosed with depression and then anxiety or something like that, but if they find the right doctor, they'll be properly diagnosed as ADHD. Yeah, for sure. You mentioned comorbidities.

Autism is a very interesting one. 30 to 80% of people with autism spectrum disorder are also diagnosed with ADHD and about 20 to 50% of people with ADHD also have autism spectrum disorder. Right, and you're just like, why aren't they the same percentages? But it turns out that ADHD is actually more common than autism. So that brain buster is solved. For sure. And there is a lot of overlap there.

I think before 2013 with the updated criteria in the DSM-5, they thought that it was like a mutually exclusive thing. And some people, this is much the minority for sure, but there are some researchers that do think it's just sort of a single condition manifesting in a couple of different ways. Right. But most researchers don't think that. They think it's like, you know, two separate things that live alongside one another a lot of times. Right. And Chuck, I just realized, I don't know if we've shouted out Livia this whole time yet

for helping us out with this one, but she did a great job. She did a great job. And before I forget, the other thing as far as ADHD and autism spectrum disorder is you're more likely to just do better if you have one or the other than if you have both that may feel intuitive. But I think it was, you know, a bare saying. Did I interrupt and interject that Livia thing? No, it's fine. Depression's another one, Chuck.

I think kids with or people with ADHD are five times likelier to have depression than neurotypical peers. Yeah. And they're not exactly sure why. A lot of people are like, well, it's obvious. I mean, it can be a really hard life to have ADHD, especially when it's undiagnosed and untreated.

So of course, people have depression. Other people are like, no, we're talking about actually clinical brain-based depression. It's possible that there's actually, they share similar roots in the structure of the brain, and that might account for it, that there's a lot of overlap physically between depression and ADHD. Yeah, for sure.

And about 40% of kids, and I think we touched on this a little bit in part one, also have anxiety, which just makes it all tougher to deal with, because it kind of feeds on itself. 30 to 50 percent of kids with ADHD fit the criteria for a couple of other conditions, one called oppositional defiant disorder and conduct disorder, which we should maybe cover, we could probably cover both of those

in one episode at some point. We should, man. One of the most heartbreaking things I've ever seen in my life was on a plane and this kid was just kicking the back of my chair nonstop, hard, and I turned around to look like what the heck's going on? You mean you said don't, Josh, no. Right.

And the parents were there with him and they just gave me a look like, what do you want us to do? We can't do anything. And I've never seen two people look more tired and more defeated in my life, and their kid was probably only three or four. And it was just like, still today,

I just feel so bad for those people, because that's your kid, and there's not a lot of understanding or treatment with that. And certainly not out in the general public who turns around like, you know, what are you doing? Why is your kid doing that? Yeah, and in the old days, like, you would tie your kid

to a plain seat or something, a barbaric like that. Yeah, which I'm sure helps a lot. No. All right, so if you don't have ADHD, like me, it helps to grow older because you do get a little wiser and you do gain empathy, hopefully, at least I have. So it's hard to put yourself in someone's shoes until you are close to someone with ADHD. And then, like I said, it really benefits everyone

if you can lead with empathy and understanding, like in your case with that kid even. And that's coming from someone with ADHD, recognizing maybe this behavior in a kid. But it can be hard if you don't have it to understand this stuff. Yeah, so like low empathy generally with people walking around who know about

autism are probably like, yeah, that's that's that that has to do with autism. Turns out it's a huge symptom with ADHD too. And probably the exact same stuff applies to people with autism. But with ADHD, it's not that you don't care, you couldn't care less or whatever. You do care. You just either lack the ability to, like you said, put yourself in that person's situation so, so your empathy can be triggered or you lack, um, emotional empathy, which is where you're like, Oh man, that's terrible that that happened

to you, but I'm not feeling empathy. Like I don't feel it. That's, that's terrible that that happened to you, but I'm not feeling empathy. Like I don't feel it. That's the difference. They're not sure how many people with ADHD have low empathy and exactly how it works, but it is a huge problem because again, like they're, if you can't empathize with people, that's a basic human thing.

And that will really cut down on the number of connections you have with people. Because if somebody's telling you something and they've just inserted that pop, like the end of it, and like, this is what happened, and you're like, oh, uh-huh. Like, you're just taking their words at face value and you're losing the emotional component.

It's missing, it's not landing on you. And they're just like, well, what is wrong with you? Did you not hear what I just said? And you can stop and think about it and be like, oh yeah, that's crazy. But in the moment, it's not there. Yeah, yeah, totally. And this is something I never knew anything about

until we started researching this, but false memory or faulty memory can be an issue if you have ADHD. And it's not just, well, I just don't remember things as they really were. It can literally be like a false memory. They've done tests with kids and they showed that kids with ADHD are much more likely to remember things

that weren't on a list. And this is sort of the key here. Not only that, but be really emphatic that those memories were correct in trying to defend those memories. And that can be not only a frustration, but a real challenge, especially as you get into adulthood, to sort of be able to construct your autobiography of who you are, because that's all based on your memories. Yeah, because if you can accept that you have false memories and that you embellish stuff that you don't remember,

inadvertently, you don't know that you're doing this, you start to question all of your memories, like which ones are true, which ones are made up. That's a huge problem individually, but also as far as relationships go, you're accidentally inadvertently gaslighting the people that you're like, no, that totally didn't happen, or you said this,

I didn't say that, and to get to a point where you can trust the other person's version of events, what you're doing, you're having to disavow your own version of reality and rely on somebody else's version of reality. And that's probably the hardest mental thing a person can do in their life is abandon, like just not trust their view of reality and be like, okay, I trust your version instead.

It's one of the hardest things you could possibly ever do. And that's what it requires to not accidentally gaslight people and not get in arguments all the time because your memories are false. Yeah, and I imagine, you know, you keep kind of going back to this, how so much of this can lead to a lack of ability to connect with people in different ways. I imagine when you find your person or your persons in your life, it may be a smaller

number than it would have been otherwise. But I would think that maybe some of those connections, because so much trust is involved, can be even deeper sometimes. Yeah. Oh, for sure. If you can find somebody that you feel like you can be yourself around and just let your guard down and they accept you as you actually are,

you hang on to those people for sure. And that's true whether you have ADHD or autism or nothing. Oh for sure, yeah. Like if that's, whenever you find those people, but it's like you said, they're gonna be much fewer and farther between because you're lacking that initial easiness of like, oh, I like you. Oh, I like you too.

Let's start hanging out more and cultivate a friendship naturally without even thinking about it. Each relationship is a lot of work for people with ADHD. So yeah, of course you're going to have fewer of them. Yeah, for sure. And these are, you know, we're kind of going through just sort of like what it's like to live with it. So some of these are downers.

But you are more, I believe, twice as likely to be injured in life. If you have ADHD, which sounds kind of weird, but it makes sense. If you're distracted or if you're impulsive, if you take more risks, that's going to lead to more injury in life. There's also this very, very strange thing called the ADHD sway where it's a literal physical imbalance, a postural imbalance that's associated with ADHD, which could be a short stuff on its own maybe. I think so.

You may have found this hilarious video I think on on Instagram of somebody saying what it's like walking next to somebody with ADHD. And because the ADHD person will accidentally walk in front of you or walk way too close to you or something like that, you end up, the guy was walking along next to this girl who's talking to him, and he ends up having to climb over a jungle gym and ends up having to climb over a jungle gym,

and ends up having to walk through a bush, and all this stuff. And the person with ADHD is totally oblivious that all of this is going on, but it's because of that ADHD sway. As far as I know, no one knows exactly what it is, but they think it could have something to do with the differences in brain structure,

has something to do with the balance as well structure, has something to do with the balance as well, because that's in the brain as well as in the ears. Fascinating. Beep. All right, we're in the act one, two, three, four, five, or we're headed toward the act six. Wow, is this the one where the guns go off? Oh, I hope not.

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How about the one on borderline disorder? Better yet, birth order Heard that one before But it was so nice I learned it twice Everybody listen up Oh, it's Charles and Joshua It's tough, it's tough, it's tough

It's your now So Chuck, you promised that we're gonna talk about masking And stop, and stop, and shut your mouth So Chuck, you promised that we're gonna talk about masking, so I feel like my back's against the wall and I have to start talking about masking, which I will right now, okay? Okay, are you masking? Right now? Sure, yeah.

I think at all times people with ADHD mask. To varying degrees for sure, I feel very comfortable on the episode, but you know, yeah. I didn't mean to put you on the spot. I was kind of just joking. What is masking? Let me ask you that. Masking is camouflaging your symptoms to blend in better.

And how bad can that get and how bad is that for somebody? In some ways it's necessary and needed just to navigate the world, just to blend in. And not to blend in like, don't look at me, but to seem, but to be able to interact with people in levels that they're not like, huh, what's wrong with you? They're paying attention instead to what you're saying or the value that you have.

You have to, if you have ADHD and autism, a lot of neurotypical disorders, if not all of them, require you to mask to be able to just kind of live in the world, right? So in that sense, it stinks. And there's a lot of, I think you kind of mentioned it either earlier in part one, some employers are starting to create more neurodiverse, inclusive workplaces, where it's just like, just be yourself. But traditionally, if you want to just make it in the world, you have to

mask to some degree, right? And so in that sense, that's okay. Or at the very least, that's not the most insidious version of masking. The problem with it is that starts to carry over throughout other parts of your life, and you find that you eventually develop a version of yourself that you assume other people would prefer to be around. In a lot of cases, you're probably correct. And so, in addition to all of the exhaustingness

that it keeps from not getting up and running around the conference table during a meeting and being like, no, go ahead, just keep going, I'm listening. You also, your self-esteem takes a real nosedive because what you're training yourself is that your you is not good enough. You have to hide yourself for people to accept you

or value you. That's the most insidious part of masking. Yeah, I can't imagine that. Even it can get so bad where you lose your sense of self because you're masking so much. Obviously something like this can manifest in bad ways. Mood swings, anger, those are symptoms that can be associated with ADHD because of the masking. And, you know, regulating those mood swings, being unable to, to be sort of generally in a stable emotional state can be very, very challenging.

And that takes a of the fatigue that can come along with ADHD is you're, if you're always on or playing a role that you think you should play to fit into work or life or the world, it's got to be exhausting. It is. So you're more irritable, so you're more prone to like get mad at somebody who cut you off in traffic, whereas like a neurotypical person might be like, huh, that guy's having a bad day, or what a jerk, or something like that, you know? Yeah. You add all this stuff together, and research consistently shows that people with ADHD have lower self-esteem and lower self-compassion too,

than neurotypical people. Yeah. And that's, yeah, again, like I said, there's a really insidious part of ADHD, and just being neurodiverse in general. Again, it's not just ADHD people who have to mask. Anybody who isn't neurotypical will feel like they have to mask, at least in some situations, unless they make a conscious decision not to do that.

It's almost like resisting an impulse and just being like, I'm going to be me in every situation. And to tell you the truth, I'm not even sure that that's possible. Yeah, and resisting impulse is one of the challenges anyway. Right. Yeah, exactly. Good point. So, you know, as far as families go, we already mentioned that that can, you know, family members may be on eggshells. There have been studies that have shown that you may have a lower parental warmth and especially maternal warmth toward a kid with ADHD, which is super sad.

Yeah. More stress, more depression they found among mothers especially. And if you have like one neurodiverse child, one kid with ADHD and two or three other kids or just one other kid who is neurotypical, that can be really challenging for everybody, including the neurotypical kid. And they have found adults with ADHD have about twice as likely a chance of getting divorced as a neurotypical couple. Right. So yeah, there's a lot of challenges just in living everyday life at home even, not even just at work or at the mall or something like that. There's some other real bummer downsides to having ADHD as a population, you're very susceptible to addiction.

Because again, like these things flood your brain with dopamine, so you learn to do those over and over and over again. So it's really easy to get addicted to just about anything if you have ADHD. There's a study of people who are in treatment in the US, I can't remember when it was conducted, but they found a quarter of them had ADHD.

And another quarter between 24% and 62% of homeless people in the US were found to have ADHD. Despite, again, only maybe 3.1% of adults globally having the disorder. So they're disproportionately represented in those populations. Yeah, for sure. So here's the good news, everybody. We've been through five acts and a third of some good things, some bad things, and real

challenges. We laughed, we cried. We laughed, we cried, for sure. It's a very, in fact, one of the most highly treatable conditions or disorder, I don't even like saying disorder, but I guess that's how they list it, that you can have. There are a few things you can do treatment-wise. There is coaching, there's therapy, and there's medication.

You may try one of these things, you might try two, you might try all three as an individual or a parent if you're helping your kid through this situation. That's the most effective usually is all three of those. Yeah, I mean medication can be very effective. As of 2016, 62% of kids in the US that are diagnosed were on medication. 30% of those were only on medication. 32% were on medication and behavioral treatment. And 15% shunned the medication and just did behavioral treatment.

And that's kind of understandable for a parent to make a decision, and that many parents to make the decision, like, I don't want to put my kid on speed, because again, like central nervous system stimulants are the go-to drug for treating ADHD, because it really, really works. It's like flipping a light switch, I understand, where like just even from the first dose, you're like, oh, this is what it feels like

to be neuro neurotypical. Right. And one of those stimulants that is prescribed, one type, Adderall, Vyvan, Stratera, they are literal amphetamines. So the idea of putting your kid on amphetamines really does not sit right with a lot of parents, even though the state of understanding,

the consensus in the professional ADHD community, despite a lot of non-professionals giving contrary advice or information. Yeah, anecdotal usually. Yeah. Study after study has shown that kids on stimulants for ADHD treatment do not get addicted to those stimulants. Like it just doesn't happen. And then it also doesn't set them up for increased, um, addictions later in life. And it may actually decrease some studies have shown the, um, proneness to addiction

of other stuff later in life even too. And I don't want to be just like a lackey for psychostimulants as ADHD treatment. There's a lot of different info out there, but from what I could tell when I researched it for this, the professional community generally agrees they are not harmful to be on even long term. Yeah, there are a couple of kinds. There's immediate release medicines. That's sort of as needed, like maybe up to four hour effective time window. You may crash really hard after that, or get really tired

or depressed after that. There are extended release medications. That's sort of the morning pill that can last all day sometimes. Sometimes it's six hours. sometimes it's up to 16. Sometimes people tag team those, take that pill in the morning and then either as needed or in the afternoon or evening, one of the immediate release medicines. And you have to get screened for something like this.

They're gonna do like a cardiovascular screen for health risks and stuff like that. But it's sort of, I believe they haven't found link to cardiovascular disease, right? But didn't they, there was something about the heart you found that was contrary to that, right? Yeah, there's a study in the Journal of the American Medical Association that I think from like 2023, that was like, actually we studied some dudes in Sweden and it seems like they were at an increased risk of cardiovascular disease from long-term psychostimulant use from ADHD.

So again, it's possible that we just don't know enough or people haven't been on it long enough, but again, these things were developed in the 50s and kids have been on them since the 70s, 80s at the latest when they started putting them on, well, effectively speed to treat this stuff. And there doesn't seem to be a lot of research that suggests they are harmful.

Right. If you don't respond well to those, if the side effects are no good, there are other medicines that you can take that are not stimulants, alpha antagonists sometimes. Sometimes like they found that some medications to treat high blood pressure like clonidine have improved ADHD symptoms. So, you know, talk to your doctor if this is something you're interested in. And, you know, just, we're not medical professionals, so, you know, speak to your doctor and like,

really do some research and dig in. It's, you know, putting your kid or your adult self on any kind of medication is not something to take lightly. So, just, you know, really, really dig in there and ask questions. For sure. And no shade on you if you're a parent that's like, I don't care what you say, I'm not putting my kid on speed.

For sure. Totally get that. Like I respect anybody's decision about that. Because it doesn't mean that you don't care about your kid. I respect anybody's decision about stuff like that. Of course. So I said that the most effective, I guess, approach to treating ADHD is not just medication,

but also different types of therapy, and then also some other interventions like exercise and nutrition. And when you put all that together, it's much easier to treat ADHD symptoms. One of the first things, especially with kids with ADHD, is family training, where you teach the family how to teach the kid how to act and behave like what's expected of them, what the consequences are, and not just the kid.

The whole family is supposed to fully understand and be very clear on all of the house rules and the structure of the family. And I guess so the younger kids can effectively tell on the kid with ADHD when he misbehaves or she does. And I saw that authoritative parenting type is the most effective, which was described as high control with high warmth and high support. Oh, interesting. But also that means, okay, so high warmth, right?

Does that mean that some parents make a decision to not be warm to their kids? Like, they think that that's the best way to raise kids? Well, I mean, sadly, sure, there are all kinds of parents. But I feel like that probably, high warmth probably means extra warmth, like being really attuned to providing that extra warmth would be my guess. Just on fire, like a furnace of a parent. You mentioned exercise, of course,

that's good for everybody when it comes to mood regulation and your brain functioning at its highest, but for sure, if you have ADHD, it can increase dopamine, it can improve your executive functioning. If you have a lot of pen of energy, especially if you're a kid, you know, with hyperactivity, exercise can really help for sure. Coaching is another one too.

There's therapy, obviously, but coaching is huge in the ADHD community because you're not like, okay, what's wrong with you? Let's figure out all your traumas and stuff like that. It's like, okay, you're having trouble with time management. Let's figure out what works for you for getting better at time management. It's a legitimate way to approach ADHD symptoms. So are productive strategies where that will probably also come out of coaching sessions. One thing that you'll learn very early on is phone calendars that are easily accessed that you can put reminders

on all the time, alarms on your phone, anything that can remind you can become like second nature to use to really help you navigate ADHD symptoms and remember important stuff. Systems baby, that's the key. That's right. Getting systems in place, ADHD or not, systems are just, the older I get the more I realize it. If you don't have a system in place, then you're just flailing, you know?

You got to get a system. They did, you know, outcomes are pretty good. There was a survey, this is a little bit old, but it's, you know, I think it's probably still pretty on par, but a 2012 survey of 351 English language studies, so I guess this is like a meta-analysis, of long-term outcomes of people with ADHD found that 72% of people treated had improved outcomes when it comes to everything from self-esteem to fewer accidents behind the wheel, less rates of addiction, antisocial behavior, increased employment, increased academic success. So 72% if you are treated, that's great. That's really successful.

Yeah, there's a lot of good resources too for ADHD. There's a researcher named Melissa Orloff. She holds marriage seminars that really kind of paint ADHD in a almost exclusively positive light. And if you're a couple that's tried like traditional marriage counseling, you've been like, this isn't working. It's because that stuff's geared toward neurotypical people. Hers is geared toward neurodiverse people. Melissa Orlov is very frequently criticized as being overly positive about ADHD. There's a researcher named Gina Perla who came out with a much more balanced look. It seems like an ADHD called, is it you, me, or adult ADHD?

Which is a, yeah. And then Russell Barkley has written a lot of books too for kids and parents and adults. And he was the president of the American Psychological Association for a while. So he's no slouch. No. And again, be very wary of who you're listening to on social media, but there are psychiatrists who specialize in ADHD who post a lot on social media and can be really helpful.

On Instagram, too, that I wanted to shout out are Perry Nichols Mandanus, it's great, and then the Psych Doctor MD, Sasha Hamdani, she has ADHD herself and she wrote a book called Self-Care for People with ADHD. All great resources and you know what, let's get listener mail all together and just encourage people to support one another, dig into those resources, try and lead with empathy and understanding. You get much further in life. And rate and review our show. Well put, Chuck. Very nice. In the meantime, if you want to get in touch with us, you can email us. You can send us that email to stuffpodcast at iHeartRadio.com.

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