Stuff You Should Know - How Mindfulness Works

Episode Date: February 24, 2022

What has become a buzz word for corporate retreats and a way to get a discount on your health insurance is, at its core, a powerful, centuries-old Buddhist method of moving through life and dealing wi...th the suffering that inevitably comes along with it. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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Starting point is 00:00:00 Hey, I'm Lance Bass, host of the new iHeart podcast Frosted Tips with Lance Bass. Do you ever think to yourself, what advice would Lance Bass and my favorite boy bands give me in this situation? If you do, you've come to the right place because I'm here to help. And a different hot sexy teen crush boy bander each week to guide you through life. Tell everybody, yeah, everybody about my new podcast and make sure to listen so we'll never, ever have to say bye, bye, bye. Listen to Frosted Tips with Lance Bass on the iHeart radio app, Apple podcast, or wherever you listen to podcasts. I'm Munga Chauticular and it turns out astrology is way more widespread than any of us want to
Starting point is 00:00:40 believe. You can find in Major League Baseball, International Banks, K-pop groups, even the White House. But just when I thought I had a handle on this subject, something completely unbelievable happened to me and my whole view on astrology changed. Whether you're a skeptic or a believer, give me a few minutes because I think your ideas are about to change too. Listen to Skyline Drive on the iHeart radio app, Apple podcast, or wherever you get your podcasts. Welcome to Stuff You Should Know, a production of iHeart Radio. Hey and welcome to the podcast. I'm Josh and there's Chuck and Jerry's here-ish. And this is Stuff You Should Know-ish. This is full-on Stuff You Should Know, Charles.
Starting point is 00:01:31 I remember that point. I feel like it was about ten, eight to ten years ago where everyone was just saying ish on the end of things, instead of saying like, you know, finding the real word that they were looking for. So like an approximation of the word or of the thing they were describing? So like I'm 40-ish? No, not even that. Like when there's like a real word that could be used and they would just throw ish on another word. I don't know what you're talking about, no. Yeah, it was a thing. It swept the nation. When was it? Or maybe I'm thinking of the Macarena. That's what you're thinking of.
Starting point is 00:02:11 Okay, all right. Man, that really did sweep the nation. Remember that? Who let the dogs out? It was like a one-two punch. Did they ever find that out? No, I think it was a rhetorical question. Ish. It's the kind of rhetorical question you could ask yourself, Chuck, while you're meditating. Yeah. But first, thanks, thanks, but I'm gonna step all over the segue because before we get started, Chuck, I want to do, if you'll allow me, another shout out for my little niece Mila's movie, big time movie called No Exit, that's coming out as far as when this episode drops tomorrow. So February 25th, 2022. No matter when you hear this, just immediately go on to Hulu,
Starting point is 00:02:55 subscribe if you haven't yet, and check out my niece Mila in No Exit because she is amazing. What'd you think? It looks like a taught thriller. She looks fantastic from what you can tell from a trailer. I know. Unless you just saved all the bad parts for the movie. I don't think they did. I was reading an interview with the director and he was saying like she was doing such an amazing job of being terrified and freaked out and everything that like in between takes like the other cast members would be like, are you okay? And she'd be like, yeah, why are you okay? You know I'm acting, right? Yeah, exactly. She's like, it's acting. Like John Lovett said. Yeah, so on Hulu, No Exit, February 25th, my niece Mila just kills it. There you go.
Starting point is 00:03:42 Can't wait. Thanks again for that, Chuck. So let's get started. Thank you for not passing judgment on that either way. You're re-segwaying. Because passing judgment means I'm not being mindful because a big part of mindfulness huge is to not judge. Yeah, so that's like, this is one of those ones, you know those episodes where we just start talking about the thing without defining it. This is not going to be one of those episodes because I think it'd be kind of rough otherwise, you know? Yeah, and I guess if you're going to define mindfulness, you need to kind of go back in time. I mean, I guess we could hop in the wayback machine. We haven't done that in a while. Yeah, it's been a while. Let's pull the
Starting point is 00:04:25 old cover off. It's quite dusty in here. And a little bit of mildew. A little mildew. There's some old crystals boxes. Those are yours. Remember you had them accidentally delivered to your house? Right, and then we went back to the old West to celebrate. You're thinking of Back to the Future 3. Oh, right, right, right. I call Mary Steenburgen, meaning if we get to play her, not date her or anything. Oh, I don't date Mary Steenburgen. I always had a big crush on her. Isn't that a really, that's Ted Danson's old squeeze, right? It's his current squeeze. I'm not going to fight him. Are they still together? Yeah, I think so. Gosh, they've been together for a while. Yeah, good couple. Okay, great. Good stuff. So, who knew we were going to be
Starting point is 00:05:16 talking about Ted Danson at the beginning of mindfulness? Not me. I could have guessed Richard Geer, but Ted Danson's a big surprise. If we get in the wayback machine and go back in time to sort of the beginning of Buddhism, you'd have to look at the language poly and the word sati, poly is P-A-L-I, sati is S-A-T-I. There are a lot of different words for mindfulness, but the one that we kind of identify with, it's kind of been used most from poly, which is a Middle Indo-Aryan liturgical language from the early branches of Buddhism. Yeah, the reason that that poly is so important is because they say that it was the language of the Buddha, and at the very least, it was the first language that the Buddha's words,
Starting point is 00:06:06 which have been passed down orally, were written down in. So, it's like legit old school Buddhist thinking and teachings, and one of the basic parts of that is, like you said, sati, which has been translated to mindfulness, but it was translated by a British colonial administrator, wasn't it? That's right, and it kind of more accurately is translated as memory of the present, which I think is a really kind of a cool way to look at mindfulness. Yeah, absolutely. It really kind of reveals what's going on, especially once you kind of learn a little more about it, you're like, that actually works about as perfectly as it can be. But it got translated into the word mindfulness, sati into mindfulness by a British colonial
Starting point is 00:06:51 administrator in Ceylon, which is now Sri Lanka, back in the 1880s. So, it was some British guy who said sati means mindfulness and actually kind of gave it to us today, although there was a long period where it had been forgotten. But I think you can't really talk about mindfulness, even though it's changed so dramatically, especially in the last decade or so, without kind of describing what it was originally meant to describe or what it still describes if you're a practicing Buddhist. And that is that you are not only paying attention to the moment and experiencing this moment without letting your thoughts wander to the past or the future or anything like that, but that whatever you're experiencing in the moment, no matter what it is, you're experiencing with equanimity,
Starting point is 00:07:41 which means that you're not passing judgment on it as good or bad or anything else. It just is. And it sounds easy to describe, but if you've ever tried it, it's one of the hardest things a human being can ever set out to do. Yeah. I mean, I think it's very, very natural for a human to seek out and contemplate and think about the things that feel good and please them and to try and stuff down and get rid of and avoid things that either hurt, literally hurt, or emotionally hurt or things that are painful or unpleasant. And boy, that is a tough thing to overcome, my friend. Just the condition of being human makes that very difficult. But yeah, and you just nailed it on the head not once, but twice, Chuck, when you
Starting point is 00:08:32 said that it's a very human condition. And part of sati, the point of sati, as far as like Buddhists are concerned, is that it's a step that you take on the path to enlightenment to free yourself from the cycle of like life and death and rebirth and to become like a truly enlightened being that's freed from all of that. And so you have to free yourself from that human condition. And a big part of that is to free yourself from yearning, from wanting, because yearning and wanting or being repelled by something and wanting to get away from it, there are two sides of the same coin as far as sati is concerned, which is you are wishing that something is different or was different than it actually is. And then that's the basis of suffering. And suffering is the thing that keeps
Starting point is 00:09:18 you in that cycle of life and death and rebirth. So meditating to become mindful and non-judgmental about your present experience is one step toward relieving yourself of suffering and then freeing yourself from that shackle of being born and reborn and reborn again. Well, you, my friend, have just spoken about the noble truths in part because craving is the cause of suffering, is the second noble truth. And to cease that craving will bring about the ceasing of that suffering, which is the third noble truth. And basically experiencing the moment without, and everything about the moment without judgment is sort of the goal. And, you know, for modern, you know, we're going to talk a lot about sort of the beginnings of mindfulness and kind of how it's
Starting point is 00:10:08 become kind of a hip thing to do here in the United States, starting in about the 1970s and on, and especially today. But we're kind of talking in American modern terms about stress and de-stressing. And the Buddhists have a term for that, which is dukkha, d-u-k-k-h-a. And that is, you know, again, to avoid or destroy something that we don't like. And what we usually don't like is something that's going to put a stress on us. Right, exactly. And they're saying like, dude, this is part of the point of life. I'm reading this really amazing book by Thich Nhat Hanh right now. I'm rereading it, actually. It's one of those ones you just kind of go back and reread. Very like easy, slim volume. It's called No Mud, No Lotus. And it basically says like,
Starting point is 00:10:56 without suffering, you can't have happiness. And vice versa. Pretty basic stuff. But like, he really gets into explaining how to confront suffering and understand that it's just part of life. And that's a huge part of the Buddhist approach to mindfulness. It's not to get away from suffering. It's to recognize it as it is and also simultaneously not make a bigger deal out of it than it is. Because suffering's enough, it's bad enough as it is. But another part of the human condition is to make it way worse by anticipating it, worrying about it, like focusing on it after it happens. There's a lot of stuff we do to our own suffering that explodes it. And part of mindfulness training is to stop doing that as well, too.
Starting point is 00:11:42 You ain't kidding. And the lack of judgment is a big, big part of all of this. And we're going to talk quite a bit here and there about John Kabat-Zinn, who is obviously easy far and away, the sort of leader of the modern American mindfulness movement in a lot of different ways. And we'll get to him in more detail later. But he says that awareness that arises through paying attention on purpose. And that's another big part of it. It's a very purposeful practice. But not meditation, which we'll get to that as well, because meditation is a true physical practice and mental practice, whereas mindfulness is more of a state of being that you're trying to get to. But he says on purpose in the present moment and non-judgmentally.
Starting point is 00:12:25 They always have to kind of hammer home the lack of judgment being a key part. Right, exactly. And he's a proponent and kind of one of the founders of what you can refer to as secular mindfulness, which is this current incarnation of mindfulness that's sweeping the West. It's like you said, hip, that's been kind of like removed deliberately, as we'll see, removed from its Buddhist roots and Buddhist context to make it more palatable and scientific seeming. Yeah, secular. Strip it of all the religion, and maybe we can sell it to Americans. Exactly. And an app. But the upshot of all this though, Chuck, is that no matter who you are, where you're coming from, if you're talking about mindfulness, you're talking about
Starting point is 00:13:10 paying attention to the present moment and doing the best you can at not judging anything that's going on in that present experience and just taking it on its face value and engaging in it fully. That's mindfulness in a nutshell. Yeah, and it's not anything that the Buddhists had a corner on. They just probably did it better because all different kinds of religions throughout antiquity had chanting or some kind of mindfulness practice, maybe prayers or through songs or dance. That kind of thing has been around as long as people have been practicing religion. So the Buddhists did not invent it, but I think they got it fairly right. So let's talk a little more about how we got here today, historically speaking,
Starting point is 00:13:57 after a break. What do you think about that? It sounds great. I'm going to breathe in the meantime. What advice would Lance Bass and my favorite boy bands give me in this situation? If you do, you've come to the right place because I'm here to help. This, I promise you. Oh, God. Seriously, I swear. And you won't have to send an SOS because I'll be there for you. Oh, man. And so my husband, Michael. Um, hey, that's me. Yep, we know that Michael and a different hot, sexy teen crush boy band are each week to guide you through life step by step.
Starting point is 00:14:55 Oh, not another one. Uh-huh. Kids, relationships, life in general can get messy. You may be thinking, this is the story of my life. Oh, just stop now. If so, tell everybody, yeah, everybody about my new podcast and make sure to listen. So we'll never, ever have to say bye, bye, bye. Listen to Frosted Tips with Lance Bass on the iHeart radio app, Apple podcast, or wherever you listen to podcasts. I'm Mangesh Atikular. And to be honest, I don't believe in astrology. But from the moment I was born, it's been a part of my life.
Starting point is 00:15:27 In India, it's like smoking. You might not smoke, but you're going to get secondhand astrology. And lately, I've been wondering if the universe has been trying to tell me to stop running and pay attention. Because maybe there is magic in the stars, if you're willing to look for it. So I rounded up some friends and we dove in and let me tell you, it got weird fast. Tantric curses, Major League Baseball teams, canceled marriages, K-pop. But just when I thought I had to handle on this sweet and curious show about astrology, my whole world can crash down.
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Starting point is 00:16:44 Yeah. He said, try to focus on anything else, chump. Right. There's a bunch of different mantras you can say, and I don't even sure that's the right word, but one that I keep using is, and it's just striking what taking a breath and deliberately focusing on that breath, just breathing in once and breathing out once, can do to just suck you right out of wherever your mind is in the past or the future. It's really striking how it can do that. But his was, it's a take, breathing in. I noticed that I'm alive and breathing out. I'm happy to be alive and just doing it once like immediately brings me back into the present
Starting point is 00:17:29 moment and it's really cool. I like it. It's all very new for me, but I think it's pretty cool. Yeah. There's a lot of value there. And you can practice something like this and those breathing techniques. It's not exclusive to mindfulness or meditation or Buddhism. That's a great technique if you have kids. I found that if my daughter is having a bad time, just get her to slow down and take a couple of good deep breaths, always a good thing to do. And Emily, who is someone who has a lot of anxieties in her life as a struggling small business owner, we will do this thing where we have a hug breathing, where I will go up to her and we will have a good tight bear hug embrace and we'll breathe in together. And it sort of
Starting point is 00:18:18 like doubles the power of it. Wow, that's neat, Chuck. Is that your own? Did you come up with that? Yeah, I mean, I'm sure. I mean, I didn't get it from anywhere, but I'm sure I didn't invent that. It sounds like a biking mindfulness. Like Hell's Angels? Sure, yeah. It's the Hell's Angels technique you came up with. You can call it whatever you want. It's your invention. It's a good one. Yeah, there's something about breathing together that close physically. It's pretty powerful. So if you went back a few hundred years, a couple hundred years even, and you spoke to any Buddhist around the world and said, hey, how often do you do mindfulness meditation? They would look at you like they had no idea what you're talking about. And if you said, you know, Sati, they'd say, oh,
Starting point is 00:19:04 that's not for us. That's for like the monks and the nuns up in the caves and the mountains. Like, we don't do that kind of stuff. We're super Buddhist. We care about morality and we worship local deities and all that stuff, but that's kind of advanced. That's more than the average Buddhist does. And it wasn't until I think the late 19th century in Burma that that was finally kind of broken up and meditation and mindfulness together were kind of introduced for the first time to like lay Buddhists, like just the normal everyday average Buddhist living their life. Yeah, this is pretty cool. Like, I know we love it when we can kind of pinpoint when things happen or when things change. And this is one of them on November 28th in 1885.
Starting point is 00:19:48 This is when the British Imperial Army conquered Burma and said, King, we're going to mispronounce some of these. Thibault, maybe? I think that's right. You're out of here. And that King was promoting mindfulness and promoting Buddhist institutions throughout the nation. The Brits, of course, said, no, we're not going to really do that. So it fell to the lay people to get organized, to find new places to meet, to find their own, you know, gathering grounds. And a lot of times these were monasteries and it would go through monks. But they would, it basically went to them to kind of figure it out
Starting point is 00:20:27 because it wasn't, I don't want to say state sponsored, but it kind of state sponsored. Yeah, or state supported or something like that. Yeah. Yeah. But so rather than being like, oh, well, I don't know, I guess we're not Buddhists anymore. They took it by the horns and like they did something with it. But one of the outcroppings of that was that like these monks who used to just go meditate out in the, like in the mountains or the hills or in the woods, were now, now had audiences of like everyday people who were practicing Buddhists that they were teaching this stuff to. And it was, it was one of these guys, Lady Sayadao, who was a Buddhist monk who said, you know what, this isn't just
Starting point is 00:21:05 for us. This is for everybody. And closely in Lady Sayadao's footsteps came Mingen Sayow, S-A-Y-A-W, Sayow. I think that's right. And that, he, that monk was the first one to actually teach mindfulness and meditation to regular people, I think around 1911. Yeah. I mean, it's cool stuff. Like I love the idea that Lady Sayadao kind of put forth, which was, you don't have to go to a monastery even, like we've set these up for you. And you can, you don't have to retreat to a cave. You don't have to, you don't even have to go into a deep meditative state or anything. Like just momentary bits of mindfulness are very helpful. And that's a good way to reach regular lay people. And I think
Starting point is 00:21:54 through practice is when Sayow came along and said, hey, that all sounds great. And Buddy, I'm going to teach it. Right. So the, the, the people in what is now Myanmar are the ones who kind of broke out, broke mindfulness and meditation out of its little slumber. Sure, cage or something like that. And democratized it a little bit. But it was, as far as the people in the West are concerned, it was the Japanese and their development of Zen Buddhism that we have to thank because this is, you can pretty much trace a direct line between the mindfulness and the meditation and the approach to Buddhism in the West today, back to the 20th century Japan. And specifically a guy named Daesetsu Teitaro, Diti Suzuki. So Diti Suzuki was kind of a,
Starting point is 00:22:49 what's called a Buddhist modernist thinker who said, there's different things we can do with this, but let's approach this a little more rationally, a little less dogmatically and open it up to people like our friends in what's soon to be Myanmar. And not only that, let's, let's start relating to the West a little more and Diti Suzuki actually kind of carried this message, this idea of Zen Buddhism with him over to America and Europe. And it just started to catch on like wildfire. Yeah. I think it's really interesting too that it was another active war that led to, you know, that helped give rise to someone like Suzuki, just like when the Brits over through Burma, when the US Navy attacked Tokyo Harbor in 1853,
Starting point is 00:23:35 though was, you know, basically Japan was like, you know, we gotta, we gotta start relating to the West a little bit more and sort of modernize. And this was known as the Meiji Restoration. And part of that was saying, hey, Shinto is going to be our religion, our main religion, and not Buddhism, which led the Buddhist to say, hey, maybe we should modernize our religion as well to, you know, so we don't get left by the wayside. And that gave rise to someone like Diti Suzuki. Right. So it was from that modernization that Buddhist modernism came about. And it's basically what you would recognize as Buddhism today, like very thoughtful, very interior dwelling, the idea that the universe is all connected. All these were like Buddhist
Starting point is 00:24:19 thoughts before, but it was, it was Buddhism allowing itself to be influenced by modernism and by other groups like the Romantics and the Transcendentalists. Right. So they jumped on it big time. It was pretty, it was like a confluence of perfect timing as far as coming to the United States and like the counterculture ready for this. But in a weird way, it was like the United States unbeknownst to the counterculture beats and then later the hippies that their predecessors like the Transcendentalists had had pre-influenced what was coming back to them. So it was already in a very palatable form for Americans who were open to the idea of like mind expansion and taking acid and, you know, and meditating and were just open to the ideas of
Starting point is 00:25:05 other cultures of becoming like more in tune with the universe. It was, they were just waiting for it and it came to them in the, in the briefcase, I guess, of D.T. Suzuki and it just kind of took off from there. So the idea, everything we understand about mindfulness and meditation, you can trace back to like D.T. Suzuki and those beats. Absolutely. And there were three people in particular in the 70s and 60s and 70s practicing this, Joseph Goldstein, Jack Cornfield, and Sharon Salzberg, who were not together, but they studied separately meditation and Burma. And then the mid-70s founded the Insight Meditation Society in Massachusetts, which became sort of the center of the Vipassana meditation movement here in the United States. And they're still
Starting point is 00:25:56 around. They're still doing their thing. Right. So it was from that same group. There was actually a time where John Kabat-Zinn, the guy we mentioned earlier. Z-I, by the way, not Z-E-N. That would be too far on the nose. Oh, wait, what? If his name was spelled Z-E-N. Oh, I got you. Boy, I was not paying attention to the current experience very well. I'm sorry. Oh, that's okay. That'd be like a boxer being named Boxer. Yeah, it would be. But spelled differently. Right. I was, for some reason, I was going more toward the Cabernet Zinn play on words. Well, because you're, yeah, that eye is in there. Yeah. So he's known as the godfather of modern mindfulness, according to The Guardian at least,
Starting point is 00:26:47 which is a pretty legit newspaper. And by the way, thank you also to Olivia for helping us out with this one, Chuck. This was a tough one to wrangle. Very. She did. She did. But John Kabat-Zinn was among those people, Jack Cornfield, great name, Sharon Salzberg, and Joseph Goldstein. He actually taught at their Insight Meditation Society, and he was a big time practitioner of Zen Buddhism. And he had, he was on, like, I guess, a meditation retreat, and he had a bit of insight, well, I guess an epiphany is probably what you'd call it, that he was meant to help apply Buddhist techniques to help people who are in pain. He had either a microbiology or molecular biology degree, and he ended up applying it to medicine and figuring out how to join
Starting point is 00:27:37 Buddhist practices and medicine to help people in the 70s. And it really started to take off from there. Yeah. I mean, he sort of had the same idea as previous cultures, which was, hey, if we want to, and not sell for money, but if we want to popularize this, we should get a little bit away from the religion part, the sort of hippie-dippy new-agey part. And he really wanted to start talking in concrete terms about things that everyone worried about, which was stress. And like, if you want to make your life less stressful, here's a way to do it, and more on mindfulness and less on meditation, which was still a tough sell to mainstream America, and still is today, I think. Yeah, but it's gotten less and less. I feel like if he finally overcame the threshold that was,
Starting point is 00:28:30 you know, keeping it back in the last, like, five, 10 years and achieved what he was looking for, I mean, think about mindfulness is everywhere today. And it is almost totally divorced from any kind of religious connotations. It seems like a neuroscience tool more than anything, the way that it's treated in the West. And that was his goal. He was trying to get it to the most people possible, study it scientifically, and then apply it to help people. And specifically, again, he was initially looking at how it can help people with pain. And he came up with mindfulness-based stress reduction, MBSR, which is still very much in use today. And then there was an offshoot to Chuck, mindfulness-based cognitive therapy. And that takes CBT, which is a proven
Starting point is 00:29:23 type of talk therapy, used extensively in psychology, and applies John Cabot-Zinn's approach to mindfulness to it, right? Yeah. And I think one of the big tenets here is to interrupt automatic thoughts and the automatic thoughts that can lead to an automatic behavior. So the automatic thought might just be your propensity to feel that stress and reach for a drink immediately. And not even think like, oh boy, I need a drink because I'm stressed out and that'll help out. It becomes this automatic thing. And he was all about, and the practice of mindfulness is all about disruption and disrupting that flow without judgment. Yeah. Because one of the big things in cognitive behavioral therapy is that you have a thought. Your thought leads to a feeling and your feeling
Starting point is 00:30:14 leads to a behavior. And oftentimes, it's like you said, it's very destructive and you don't even realize it's going on until your life is kind of falling apart or it's certainly not as good as it could be. And it doesn't even have to be a drink. It could be a donut. It could be yelling at a cashier at a grocery store, like all sorts of different things. And you are totally out of control of it. The idea behind this, mindfulness, adding mindfulness to cognitive behavioral therapy, is that you are training yourself to detach yourself from all thoughts and emotions so that you can evaluate them clearly so that none of them can jump out of nowhere, pounce on you, and the next thing you know, you've eaten a dozen donuts and had six gotchas,
Starting point is 00:30:58 and you have no idea why. You do have the idea why, and you probably haven't gotten to that point because you've stopped the whole process by recognizing it the moment it began. Ideally, theoretically, on paper, that's the purpose of using mindfulness to help, especially with mental health. Yeah, there's a journalist named Robert Wright, and he kind of put it in a way that I kind of like, which was to think of your thoughts and emotions as transient. So it's not like that kind of goes back to the no judgment thing. You can have these bad feelings and bad emotions and bad tendencies, but if you allow them to just flow through you, they become transient, they don't stick around, the same sort of ideas that you can't, why worry about
Starting point is 00:31:47 things that you can't control, but not in an office poster kind of way. You know what I mean? Sure. It runs a bit deeper than that. It's not like a Pollyanna thing. No, and as a matter of fact, if you want to trace it all the way back to its original Buddhist roots, it's that we have very little, if any, control over life and that recognizing that will free us from all of our desires and the idea that we have to have things and we want to hang on to it. It just lets you let things flow by and you can enjoy them and experience them as they come rather than hoping for the next one, needing the next donut or fearing the next loss. You just experience life as it comes. That's kind of the point of that, of understanding that everything
Starting point is 00:32:38 is transient and impermanent, including your own life. You're going to die one day. There's ultimately the big bingo number. That's ultimately what it's leading to, which is you're going to die. You yourself are impermanent. Understanding that through getting there through meditation, daily meditative practice is kind of the goal. Yeah, and it's interesting. They found that it's even though something like MBSR is more rooted in that sort of neuroscience-y thing and not spirituality or religion, they found it's sort of a chicken-and-the-egg deal where once you do participate in MBSR, you may become more spiritual as a result, even though you weren't going in. But I think the reason why is because even if these people don't know it, even if they're at a
Starting point is 00:33:30 corporate mindfulness retreat, they're engaging in a deeply spiritual practice that they're kind of doing it wrong, as we'll see, but it's still part of this very long established tradition that actually has legs. It's not mumbo jumbo. It actually has a pronounced effect on the human brain, the human psyche, that outlook that we have on life. And so depending on the context you're doing it in, it can be very useful. It can be harmful or it can be totally useless in some cases too. But it is a spiritual act, so it makes sense that it would make you more interested in spirituality. Well, I say we take our second break if that's good. Okay. And because we're stuff you should know, we have to talk about whether or not this works and if there have been
Starting point is 00:34:21 studies that tell us one way or the other. So we'll get into that right after this. What advice would Lance Bass and my favorite boy bands give me in this situation? If you do, you've come to the right place because I'm here to help. This I promise you. Oh god. Seriously, I swear. And you won't have to send an SOS because I'll be there for you. Oh man. And so my husband, Michael. Um, hey, that's me. Yep, we know that Michael and a different hot, sexy teen crush boy band are each week to guide you through life step by step. Oh, not another one. Uh-huh. Kids, relationships, life in general can get messy. You may be thinking this is the story of my life. Just stop now. If so, tell everybody, everybody about my new podcast and
Starting point is 00:35:30 make sure to listen so we'll never, ever have to say bye, bye, bye. Listen to Frosted Tips with Lance Bass on the iHeart Radio app, Apple podcast, or wherever you listen to podcasts. I'm Mangesh Atikular. And to be honest, I don't believe in astrology. But from the moment I was born, it's been a part of my life. In India, it's like smoking. You might not smoke, but you're going to get secondhand astrology. And lately, I've been wondering if the universe has been trying to tell me to stop running and pay attention. Because maybe there is magic in the stars, if you're willing to look for it. So I rounded up some friends and we dove in and let me tell you, it got weird fast. Tantric curses, Major League Baseball teams, canceled marriages,
Starting point is 00:36:16 K-pop. But just when I thought I had a handle on this sweet and curious show about astrology, my whole world can crash down. Situation doesn't look good. There is risk to father. And my whole view on astrology, it changed. Whether you're a skeptic or a believer, I think your ideas are going to change too. Listen to Skyline Drive and the iHeart Radio app, Apple Podcast, wherever you get your podcasts. All right. It's fun to sit around and talk about mindfulness. So fun. And to just sort of zen out and lose ourselves, become one with each other through these headphones. Yeah. Man, you sound like Rory Cochran and Daisy Confused. What was his name? What was his name? Oh, Slater. Was he Slater? Maybe. Slater, you happy,
Starting point is 00:37:20 get me drugs, man. Yeah, Slater. You're right. Get some from your mother, man. It's funny, I've seen him and he's been in a bunch of stuff since then. It's always impossible to see him as anyone other than Slater. I mean, he was on CSI Miami, I think for years and years and years. And you're just waiting for him to whip out a doovy. Yes. And he's all clean cut and everything and you still can't not see it. I totally agree with you. He's not fooling anybody. All right. So does this stuff work? There have been plenty of studies, of course. And there is a lot of evidence that mindfulness programs can help people through emotional problems, through mental problems. They've done controlled trials of MBSR programs
Starting point is 00:38:04 and clinical settings and non-clinical settings. And they generally found that they do, and this is self-reported stuff, obviously, but they reduce self-reported anxiety, depression, and stress and increase well-being as opposed to people who got no treatment at all. Yeah. So yes, it does seem to be effective. There's also, especially with self-reporting, Chuck, that seems to be the big one, that if you look at studies where they're using self-reporting, it has the most pronounced effect. Objective tests, there does seem to register some sort of effect on the objective experience of, say, pain or something like that. But social psychology has jumped all over this. It's like, we're going to study this.
Starting point is 00:38:50 And there's this one study from 2021, which I have to give a hat tip to Yumi because she turned this one up. But it was a study of white people, some of whom received mindfulness training and a control group who received sham mindfulness training, which is hilarious, and the effect that it had on their willingness to help black people who they saw in need. And not like in need like homeless or something like that. They would be subjected to a test unwittingly where they'd be in a room and like a black person would come in and like drop their papers and their willingness to help that person pick up the papers. Or if a black person entered the room and they were on crutches, their willingness to give up their seat. And apparently,
Starting point is 00:39:38 black people tend to help, black people more, white people tend to help, white people more, Hispanic people tend to help, Hispanic people more, people help their in-group more. But this mindfulness group actually kind of crossed lines way more than was expected, right? Yeah. I mean, I think that kind of says it all. You do help your in-group more, but the people that received the real mindfulness training were definitely far and away more willing to step outside their in-group and help someone of another race. There's something to be said for that. Yeah. And I mean, it was significant. Three times more is really significant statistically speaking for a study. And it seems like it was a pretty good study. Like the fact that they had sham
Starting point is 00:40:21 mindfulness training ruled out the possibility that the group that got mindfulness training was behaving a certain way because they thought like that's what was going to be the result of it, almost like a placebo effect. So the group that received sham training thought they were getting mindfulness training. What was that like? That's what I want to know. I would love to know what sham mindfulness training looks like. Right. It's like breathe in, really concentrate on all the anger, really feel it. Or they'd let them in like Lamaze breathing where there's like a you're like, I don't think that's right. That doesn't feel right. They start to float away. That's really funny. And shout out to Cal State San Marcos and Professor Daniel Berry and I guess
Starting point is 00:41:06 Yumi for all that. Yeah, sure. The trifecta. Yeah, sure. What's Cal State San Marcos' mascot? Oh, jeez. I'm going to bet $5 on the Lobos. That sounds good. Okay, let's go with that. All right. Los Lobos even. Yeah, that's the banless Lobos is their mascot. And not coincidentally, they're halftime entertainment as well. But we do need to say that there's another school of thought and it's not a competing school of thought. It's just a hey, be aware that it's not always great for everyone. There's this one article you sent about people that experience trauma in their lives that have buried it and it sits in their body as unconscious trauma that mindfulness practices and meditation
Starting point is 00:41:57 practices can dredge that stuff up. Yeah. And so they found that when these people, they're studying them and they're doing these mindfulness practice, they're experiencing like rage and anxiety. And it's like, whoa, whoa, whoa, this is the opposite of where we're supposed to be headed here. And I think they have figured out in a lot of these cases, it's people that are uncovering these buried traumas. Yeah. And here's where we reach like the first initial part where the West has kind of screwed this up because it is unexpected when somebody in America goes to a meditation retreat and tries to become more mindful and they're confronted with trauma or they're confronted with rage or self-hatred or something like that and they're not expecting it.
Starting point is 00:42:39 If you went and talked to like an actual like Buddhist monk, they'd be like, well, somebody probably should have told you that that's a real possibility. Right. That you're not, this isn't all, this isn't like, you know, it's like an acid trip. It's not always like flowers and sunshine. Sometimes it's like the darkest thing you'll ever be confronted with kind of thing. Same thing. The good thing about mindfulness meditation is that you can stop immediately, but supposedly in some retreats and some situations they're like, no, you got to press through, you got to press through and people are kind of enticed or forced into staying in really uncomfortable trauma experiences way beyond their comfort zone and it can actually be damaging.
Starting point is 00:43:20 And it's very rare from what I can tell for there to be like lasting harm, but there are reports of people having to go to therapy for years after having gone on basically a bad trip at a meditation retreat for years, years of therapy. So it can happen. And I guess I like, I think Chuck, there was a 2019 study that found like 20 to 25% of people who meditate reported experiencing unwanted effects, right? Like negative effects that they were not planning for. And that's the big, that's the big problem. There's no, there's nowhere very little warnings about this stuff. It's all treated in a very Pollyanna's naive manner as if like, you know, America and Europe got its hands on, on like the, the secret, the cube from Hellraiser and just like, this is
Starting point is 00:44:12 awesome. Let's figure out how to be more productive using this thing. That's kind of what's going on. Yeah. And I think another thing that can happen is it can lead to a spiral of anxiety if you're not able to get to that place that you think you should be getting to by practicing it. So it becomes like this cycle where, you know, you're thinking like, well, I'm practicing this meditation. It doesn't seem to be doing anything for me. Why can I not even do this right? And all of a sudden, that is building upon itself and creating anxieties because you feel like you're supposed to reach this sort of moment of like float, floaty bliss that is, I mean, that's really hard to maintain. Yes. Yeah. I mean, not maintain, but like even touch. Even reach. Sure. And it's been packaged
Starting point is 00:44:55 like that. It's been marketed as something that you will just reach some floaty bliss with. And yeah, I can totally see being stressed out because you don't reach it because it hasn't been explained to you even what you're doing, right? So there's a, it's a, it's a good little short read. It's called mindfulness, meditation and trauma, proceed with caution. I found it on goodtherapy.org and it, it doesn't say like, don't do this. Even if you know your trauma, don't meditate, don't try to become mindful. It says some, you know, make sure you find like a good coach, a good guide, a good teacher who understands how to deal with trauma and can prepare you for it and can pull you back and be like, don't forget, life's actually good,
Starting point is 00:45:32 you're good. And now let's try a little more and just kind of little by little expose yourself to it rather than like, you know, ripping your shirt off and standing in front of like the baseball pitching machine. There's, when it comes to physical pain, that's a pretty interesting area as far as the studies have been concerned, like the idea that can it actually help reduce physical pain or at least the subjective experience of pain. And, you know, in some studies, in some cases, the med, people who practice meditation do report lower subjective experience of pain or what they call pain unpleasantness. So this might be a little bit of a mind over matter, like the actual pain is still there, but I've gotten my mind to in such a place that
Starting point is 00:46:20 the unpleasantness or the anticipation of that unpleasantness isn't as great as it would be if I weren't able to practice that mindfulness. Yeah. Which ties very closely into a Buddhist tenant of the first arrow of suffering, which is where everyone has to experience that. Let's say you're bitten by an ant. It's not a very pleasant sensation and everybody's going to experience it roughly the same, but there's also a second arrow where you can be worried about being bitten by an ant and it makes the first arrow 10 times worse, not just twice as bad, but 10 times worse. And the idea is that if you're mindful, if you practice sati, you won't really experience the second arrow, just the first arrow and that's the best you can hope for in this life. That's right.
Starting point is 00:47:06 Right. Message for you, sir. What? That's from, I always just crack up when I, every time I think of an arrow hitting a human body, I only think of Monty Python on the Holy Trail when that guy takes the arrow. Message for you, sir. There was one study though in 2019, a review of studies actually that found that MBSR can reduce severity of chronic pain or improve daily functioning and depression about, like, associated with that pain, which is, you know, that's, there's something to be said for that. Like, I don't think it should only be looked at as some sort of hippie-dippy thing. Like, if you have real physical pain, it could possibly help. Yes. And yeah, for sure. I mean, think that that's kind of like one of the outcomes of it being
Starting point is 00:47:55 exposed to westernization is that it's being studied and it's actually holding up in studies. And boy, is it being exposed because if you work for a big corporation, if you especially work in Silicon Valley, chances are there are mindfulness retreats, maybe mindfulness rooms in the offices where they say, hey, we know we work you to death and it's not fair. Why don't we set up this little room that used to be a room for, you know, for your kids to come to work, but we don't let that happen anymore. It used to be the nursery, but we'll put you in here and you can zen out and be cool. And here's one of the criticisms. As long as you come back and you get all that work done, we think it's a great tool for you. Right, exactly. And not just corporations, but the military is
Starting point is 00:48:45 using mindfulness, schools, little kids are being taught mindfulness and to meditate, prisons. And there's an enormous amount of like just out there in the culture. It's gotten really popular. I guess in 2012, just over 4% of Americans meditated. Five years later, it was up to 14%. That's a pretty big increase in just five years. And I would propose it's probably more than that now in 2022. So it's everywhere, but it's also really kind of lost its way. I guess once it hit America and corporate America in particular, mindfulness kind of got perverted, I think, is a way you could put it. Yeah. I mean, that critique is really valid. It's great that a company might take mindfulness into consideration as something beneficial for their employees,
Starting point is 00:49:43 but to ignore the root cause, which is you're working too many hours a week and you're overworked and you can't possibly get done what you should get done. And that's where this anxiety is rooted. Here's a mindfulness room so you can help correct all that. I like it totally puts the onus on the employee to sort of self-adjust to what's probably way too much work instead of saying, hey, maybe people wouldn't be in this position to begin with if they didn't have to work 60 hours in a week. Right. And the same thing goes for social movements as well. Like some people say, hey, you know how like a lot of us are mentally ill these days? That's because society's screwed up. So rather than putting the onus again on the individual person, just kind of suck it
Starting point is 00:50:28 up and deal with it in a mindful manner, why don't we focus instead on these social problems that are causing all of these other social problems? So we don't have to do that. And those are really valid criticisms of westernized mindfulness in 2020s. And there's actually a term for it that a guy named Miles Neal coined. And another guy named Ronald Perser wrote a book using that name. It's perfect. Mic mindfulness. Yeah, I love that word. And they're basically saying like, hey, you guys have so completely detached this from ethics and morals and religion and kind of coopted something that had its roots there that, yeah, there needs to be a term for that. You've micked it. Yeah, you've been screwed it up. You've mick screwed it up. Exactly. You miffed it.
Starting point is 00:51:22 You've mick miffed it. I like that. And that, you know, you can't ignore the theological roots and have it be the same thing. And HR reps across the country say, oh, yes, we can. And look what happens. We're really screwing people up. So there's a, like a couple of quotes I found that I really feel like kind of get to the heart of what happened when mindfulness came over here and got picked up by corporate America and the military and just other surprising groups and maybe put to not the best uses. There's a really good New York Times article from back in 2015 that was kind of a meditation on the idea of mindfulness or the word mindfulness and what it, what it means by Virginia Heffernan. And she says that what commercial mindfulness
Starting point is 00:52:15 may have lost from the most rigorous Buddhist tenants that it replaced is the implication that suffering cannot be escaped but must be faced. And that's, that's that mispackaging, that mismarketing that we talked about, that the idea that if you meditate in your mindful, it's going to free you from all your problems, make you less stressed and more productive and just happier. And that's not necessarily the case because we in the West tend to really like to, like you said, avoid all of the stuff that, that really stinks and just get as much of the stuff that we like. And that's not what that's meant for. Yeah. This, I think it's from the same article about mindful fracking. Could that be next, putting a neuroscience halo around a
Starting point is 00:53:00 byword for both uppers, productivity and downers, relaxation to ensure a more compliant workforce and a more prosperous C-suite. There it is. And there's another one too. The Dalai Lama apparently pointed out that even a suicide bomber would likely have to cultivate some sort of mindfulness, that it's not, it's not inherently ethical. And if it's not inherently ethical, then that means that you could conceivably use it to nefarious ends. And the way that Buddhists for thousands of years kept it from being used to nefarious ends is by encasing it in wholesomeness, like mindfulness, specifically what's called right mindfulness by the Buddhists, is it's a wholesome approach and separating wholesome thoughts from unwholesome thoughts. And if you just take the mindfulness
Starting point is 00:53:49 practice out of that context, you have a problem. You want to read that quote from Andrew Olenski? True mindfulness is deeply and inextricably embedded in the notion of wholesomeness, just as a tree removed from the forest is no longer a tree, but a piece of lumber. So also the caring attentiveness of mindfulness extracted from its matrix of wholesome, coerising factors, denigrates into mere attention. Yeah, that's the best you can hope for is it just denigrates into mere attention and not something harmful, you know? So I think it's great. I think it's wonderful that people want this and they're seeking it out and they're trying it. I think the people who are selling
Starting point is 00:54:30 it to everybody need to just package it more transparently and explain the true purpose of it and stop using it for productivity. Agreed. If you want to know more about mindfulness, go research it and see if it's for you and give it a shot and go into it with right eyes, right vision, I can't remember. And since I said I can't remember, of course, that means it's time for a listener mail. I'm going to call this tribute to Ziggy Bombach from his son Michael. We got a great email that I've been conversing with Michael for the past couple of weeks on this. Good dude. And his dad was a good dude. Hey guys, long time listener. I recently lost my father and have been going through a great deal of grief. My dad was at high risk for catching COVID,
Starting point is 00:55:22 so I made sure it was my priority to keep him safe. And since being social, was an option over the past couple of years, we turned in nature during the pandemic and rekindled our love for the great outdoors. Though he never had to rekindle his. He was born in Poland and immigrated to the States in the 60s and was only ever comfortable in his gardener in the woods. He was a simple but passionate man, so he started driving out to western north New Jersey to Stokes Forest to get spring water and go fishing. It's a gorgeous part of the state. It was about 50 minutes each way, perfect to introduce him to my favorite podcast stuff you should know. Even though I had to describe to him what a podcast was, he was
Starting point is 00:56:00 instantly enthralled and I can still hear him quietly asking in the car if Chuck and Josh were going to be broadcasting today. It's just adorable. Like me, he adored your ability to convey something complex and tough information, such a sweet and conversational way. He would always come home and tell my mom what he had learned with so much isolation the past two years that was warming to hear him happy about all these new subjects that he was learning about. You gave him that happiness and made his life that much better over the last couple of years of his life. I can't thank you enough for everything that you continue to do. There's so much bad in this world right now and people are hardly operating at their best, but you continue
Starting point is 00:56:39 to do something worthwhile and worth making, something worth learning. So thank you for making the life of Ziggy Bombach a little brighter towards his end and that is from Mike. And he sent me a picture of Ziggy and I read the obituary, I looked it up and Ziggy seemed like a great, great guy and I had to zen out to reading this so I wouldn't cry. I cried every time. That's a really amazing email. Thank you so much. It's impossible to not pass judgment on that one. I'm going to say I feel very proud, Chuck. That's right. In this case, great judgment and RIP Ziggy. You sound like a great guy. Yep. RIP Ziggy. And thank you, Mike. I'm glad we could help bring you and your dad together.
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