Tea at Four - Can you trust a guy with a girl best friend? We discuss dating dilemmas

Episode Date: March 28, 2024

This weeks Quick Cuppa becomes not so quick as the girls chat about our audience’s takes on what subtle things people do that are attractive. Do guys really find the messy bun hot? Is a man with a good whistle fit or just really annoying?  Also, Christie brings her own personal dilemma to the podcast to chat through, which poses the question of whether you can really trust a guy with a girl best friend... If you have any of your own dilemmas you want us to discuss, DM us on Four Nine’s Instagram and TikTok, or email us anonymously at [e-mail]

Hi guys welcome back to Tea at Four I'm Christy Hello I'm Lauren and welcome back to this week's quick cuppa Yes Oh yeah forget to do that little I don't know what that is It's just a little thing I like it though They're going to keep all this fluff in so be careful whenever you do the fluff

What's the fluff? Where we talk shit Oh the fluffity fluffity fluff But yeah how are you Lauren? Yes I'm all good I'm all alright Christy how are you, Lauren? Yes, I'm all good. I'm all all right. Chrissy, how are you? I'm not too bad, you know.

Are you sure? Do you know what? I'm a bit uptight today because I've got a bit of tea to spill. But I want to just ask you, do you remember last, was it last week or a couple of weeks back? Right.

And we had that little TikTok shenanigans back and forth with like Ellie and she asked whether it would be okay if your person had a best friend what was your answer my answer was yes as long as they were not territorial over my partner okay um i remember saying i think i was like yeah that's all right because i have no best friends more flashbacks in the corner please flashback but um i have now long changed my answer right i do not trust any guy that has a

as a female best friend why what's happened do you know what okay cool here's the scenario right so imagine you're going out with a lot like you are friends with a guy yeah and you guys have started going out and they've had a female best friend and you just thought yeah they're just you know they're just friends lovely girl whatever x yyz even though there's been a few red flags down the line right but you just it just goes over your head and plus there's been confirmation that oh no they're just friends it's cool it's fine nothing to worry about yes and then you find out that they were actually whilst you were dating that they were actually in a three-year relationship situation ship let's just call it that audacity audacity what do you do um combust right what else um kill them both oh what who has time who has the energy to have multiple women on the go

do you think you're some kind of like um what's the word polyamorous prince i i don't know if it's that i feel like it's the how do i say it not being emotionally aware that no you're deluded honey that's nothing to do with emotional intelligence two people so imagine you're thinking that the best friend's actually just the best friend but the best one doesn't know about you but him and the best friend have been but this is the thing girls find out everything so were there little telltale signs that you were going like i think for me what kind of tipped it off for me was at the person's house the best friend would be signed into the netflix account there would be like um hair brushes you know typical

things i'm ever brushing my hair at a friend man's house typical things like girls will leave like a hairband or like oh god a headscarf or like a brush or something and i was like oh yeah cool whatever you know if you're friends you guys have grown up together you're doing each other's hair of course it's fine but um i think for me what um tipped me off not tipped me off the edge because what went over my head is um we was very close so how did i not this is the thing realize yeah the signs if that makes sense so um so chrissy how did you not realize the signs how did i not realize the sign um I wasn't delusional because I did ask a lot of questions yeah and I do feel like from past relationships

where it comes to I want to ask is that him coming to get me right right let's run from past relationships it's not been in your head too much because I do feel like you know when you're in the beginning when you're asking too many questions or like you're talking yourself out of things and then it's like you're seeing things are not actually there so you know where it's like like a call maybe it's happened before i've thought xyz let me like not go in guns blaming give it the benefit of doubt especially when it's a friend i think you give them the benefit of the doubt right that like you would never do anything to detriment our friendship like this thank you very much surely where's the respect where's the respect

yeah so um it got me thinking whether I would allow my partner having a female best friend I think I should be

the best friend like I feel like as a relationship yeah you and me were best friends that's it no one else

nobody else me and you friends but you can't put a best friend right to another yeah I'd be mad yeah that's it no one else nobody else me and you friends but you can't put a best friend right so another yeah I'd be mad

yeah best friend's a bit childish anyway isn't it yeah it is except when it comes to me I am your best friend thank you I think that makes more sense

I think that was quite a revelation this weekend for me oh well bless you so I assume you're sworn off men for the foreseeable no I still believe in love.

Oh, good. I still believe in it. Say it in your chest. I still believe in love. Do you believe in love? I do. But I do feel like there needs to be honest conversations. And also be, I feel like guys and girls should be open to kind of like say what it

is if they've been intentional or not or like if they've been in like whatever oh i just come out of a relationship just be totally honest yeah regardless of how so what's happened now is he's still staying with the new girl he's the old girl the three no so i think the best friend they they don't talk no more so they've stopped talking I've completely I've told him you're dead to me do not ever message me if you see me in the street I'm going to

your face and he's got a new partner now they do be moving they be moving fast I'm just like wow when I used to date I couldn't even keep one man on the go

I couldn't text multiple people how do they do it how do you have that energy how do you not say the wrong names how do you and I think that's crazy as well I couldn't even keep one man on the go. I couldn't text multiple people. How do they do it? How do you have that energy? How do you not say the wrong names? How do you? And I think that's crazy as well.

He's very, you're very delusional if you're watching this. I'm pretty sure you're going to listen to it. You're very delusional. But how? I'm sending shots. It is what it is. How can you even say that?

Oh my God, you should meet my friend. So he wanted me to initially meet the best friend. That's a little bit like, little bit Ted Bundy or something. Yeah, it's a bit like, how are you so sure of yourself that it wasn't gonna come out? Yeah, they're brave.

Yeah, so I think for me, that's where it's just like, wow. The lengths people go to, to kind of like, you know. Proper spin doctors. They should work in maybe politics. Maybe. Yeah.

Good career for that person. Best career for that person, to be honest. I'll send you a CV in right away. But yeah, it was a very character building weekend for me. Oh, good. Good. And you said that you drove up to Alexandra Palace and did what?

And parked there, just like ranted to who to myself in the car oh that's nice how long were you driving the car i was riding for three hours how much petrol is that christine this cost a living crisis let's just say i had a full tank by the time i got home um it was like half the full tank was good i said right so send an invoice you should send an invoice we're gonna build that for you yeah i should send an invoice um yeah it was a good drive well good yeah got it out now yeah um and interestingly maybe not coincidentally we have been looking at a trend this week on tiktok where men talk about things that girls do that they find attractive. Yep. Now, I don't personally give a rat's ass about what a man thinks is... Well, maybe.

Maybe at the time I did. But it's like, also, some of the things these men come up with are truly wow. So, should we go through a couple? Yeah, let's go through a couple if I can open it up. So, number one on attractive things that girls do that they don't know are attractive we have dancing confidently now i can dance confidently but it doesn't mean it's good yeah what is dancing confidently my moves can be like year eight gcsc dance choreography to like fucking fortnight i mean i think the only way i i can see that

happening let's say for instance it's like a tiktok dance or something that you know like back to back that you're dancing i still think that's a bit cringe or maybe they just start they start on the side like yeah that's my girl that is my girl yeah over the corner nah oh that makes me feel sick and scared next one saying my first name in attendance i do get that i like i like the first name i like the bell i like the first i like the first name it just shows what is it about that i feel like it shows you appreciate the person like because i can talk to anybody anyhow but like yeah yeah something about my

government name just with it say my name say my name when no one is when we drive away from the baby the little boo-boo the little goosey goose it's lauren say my name yanny laurel say my name that's the stuff i like saying boys names like if I direct you with it I really like you give us an example put a C put a C and E on my name and do it

a C and E so a boys name Clarence Clarence Clarence Clarence Clarence Clarence

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Call me anything but Clarence. Lawrence. I'll give Lawrence. So why did you do that, Lawrence? You see that? So why didn't you do that, Lawrence? No. No?

So. Yeah, no, I've enough. Why did you do that, Christopher? Yeah. No, a bit nicer. Nicer, okay. Christopher, are you coming over later? See, that's nice. Sounds like I'm reading a script lawrence what you want for dinner

do you get is that oh yeah it's nice it's nice i get it i get it sprinkle sprinkle all right boys we'll do that more we'll do that more attractive things that girls do that they don't know are attractive wearing their hair in a messy bun i'm sorry but when my hair goes up you can see my car parking spaces my hairline it's not giving just gonna throw my hair up no do you know what i wish i could do you know when you guys have like you do your messy buns and you wear a cap i've got short hair so i can't do it and my hair won't go through like the the cap right i think that is i think that is absolutely attractive so i hear it when guys say that really yeah like you have the baseball cap and you just get your hair just oh it doesn't suit me it doesn't suit me i don't like fucking mistrust i love that i

actually love it oh my god and also on a hair thing another thing i saw a guy saying he loves what girls do yeah is when they get hair in their face they like blow out like that only fucking pixar characters do that i don't think i've ever blew hair out of my face fucking disney pixar like inside out shut up no one's doing that it's just a that's a very ugly face as well no me trying to impress a boy just added that on the train blow a little smoke pipe yeah and then the smoke pipe

goes into like a speech bubble yeah is this Tom and Jerry so me is giving Disney no so yeah no one's doing that

no one's doing that okay another thing girls do that men find attractive is hugging me hugging them when they're doing the dishes um a bit get out my way i'm doing my job but it's quite nice a little bit of physical touch it's give a movie yeah yeah a bit like that what's that film ghost

when they're doing pottery clay but instead of doing a lovely clay thing you're just fucking getting the tomato tupperware i knew that was going um another one oh my god when they do extracurricular activities e.g exercise i i kind of get like the idea of it's really nice when a girl has a hobby or a passion yeah but one of the things i stand by is like i would never want my boyfriend to see me doing this thing called rebounding which is like mini trampolines i i can't even look at myself in the mirror of the fucking gym hall i'll purposely go behind so many heads i don't have to see myself bouncing fucking rank i don't i yeah i don't unless jew it is this is my thing yeah when i go to the gym i'm doing extra extra english extracurricular activities yeah i don't go there to look nice i go there to do my flipping workout sweat whatever

calories i need to burn and then go home so now you're telling me you want to look at me like that no no do that i don't even have gym clothes i wear pajama tops right i wear the most ugliest like wig caps i look like a bald toad that's what i look like i look like a bald toad yeah that's not what you're telling me you find that attractive no maybe they're just like hearing it hearing that we're doing it yeah probably the rest of your imagination um another one is um bringing up how funny my joke was from weeks ago which i quite agree it's nice when people remember yeah basic memory like little things about your shows they've got an active interest yeah yeah i can understand why they like that bit of a vibe okay um another one someone said was drinking guinness it's like alexa play shamrock tell me ma all right all right all right belfast belfast city

who's saying that oh my god what even is guinness guinness is the b yeah but what's in it i don't know but have you i've had it it gave me fucking ibs i think that triggered me i went to galway and i think i had seven uh seven galways seven guinnesses to impress obviously because you're in the land yeah are the three no that's not ireland uh i was having several guinnesses and my stomach was like a sludge was it actually yeah i don't know what that's made out of but i'm not gonna be that girl to you sorry oh yeah that's another one actually liking pints i can't imagine you being a pint girl yeah no i couldn't i've had you before you're not having to pour it yourself you've watched it with your senders.

You're not gonna get behind Nars puller. I know I have to get a good head on this one. Well basically when they do it, you gotta tilt the cup, right? You're not serving yourself. Why not? Because you're not working the establishment. I think that would be even better.

I think they'll find that attractive. I'm pulling you a pint and I'm just like, here you go, babe. How do you want it, trophy at the top? And you kind of like, you know, here you go. And go and then the fucking bar manager's coming what the hell are you doing back here y'all need a job i'll have it with my husband said how about it yeah yeah right okay so chris you can't okay um another one that things that girls do that um guys find attractive is elongated eye contact with a small

smile that's cute yeah oh i don't know i've been on a date once where i've been so focused on the eye contact like it's made one of my stigmatism eyes start going in and then all i could just couldn't look he was like you're not very good at eye contact and it was really embarrassing so i was just my lazy eye anyway um are you doing it now that's weird i think that's that's another thing i think sometimes when you're so uh concentrated on um eye contact and smiling you're not fucking listening to what the person is saying that's that was an example of me i was so focused on making one eye not go the other way that i didn't even hear the words coming out of his mouth i eye not go the other way but i didn't even hear the words coming out of his mouth i don't like staring at people but i i feel like if i can have a good

sense of eye contact with you we're on one same page we're on a vibe yeah yeah fair fair fair another one on names when they use mr and then your last name mr dar. Darcy. Mr. Darcy. Yeah, I used to do this quite a lot. I'm like, weirdly used to like say sir and stuff. I think so. Yeah. But it's something very patriarchy about it. And now I feel like a peasant and like cosplaying Bridgerton.

Do boys like that? Like, Mr. Yeah, but is sir a bit much? Sir is a bit. Can you let us know? Yeah, please. I don't mind it. I don't like it. It's fair. I love it. Mr yeah but is sir a bit much can you let us know yeah please I don't mind it but what's the equivalent you'd never go hello morning

no missy missy or miss that's cute morning miss good morning Mrs good morning clarence yeah that vibe all right yeah it's a bit teacher isn't it yeah but it's quite it's quite a bit

it's quite cute all right gives me fanny flutters oh yeah okay love it um uh another one was when they are a yapper if they can tell a really good story and they're funny like sometimes it's like what the fuck are you talking about and i completely agree with this one and i learned this word from harry starr's bio on twitter 10 years ago yeah it's called a raconteur someone that's very entertaining about that's a french word yeah i completely agree i like that yeah i agree yeah um when she's cuddled up with a tea before bed i i've tried this before i've tried being this girl and i was pissing all night i don't i don't think that was it's not realistic at all i was getting up seven times and i was googling have i got diabetes oh no another one i found quite interesting is girls who just

drive a white car all hot girls drive white cars i'm taking whatever i'm given exactly and plus a lot of girls that drive white cars what if the car's not clean exactly that's probably in it yeah big ick what cars are white these days like uh any cars white lorries oh i don't drive as you can tell when an uber turns up it's like says the name of registration or what's the name that brand of the car i'll say the color can't say the color yeah like is that what it's called like a brand of a car a type a genre a genre of a car a genre of a car this is well it's all right guys everyone go fund me for driving lessons please um another one when she gets the zoomies what's that as in like when dogs rush around, are you looking for a girlfriend or a golden retriever? What? That's a good one. Oh, this is a good one.

Go on. What they find attractive is being lovely to their mum. That's nice. Yeah. That shows she's a good woman. Yeah. Let's always look at the relationships they have with the women around them. This is a girl though.

LaVita, his mum. Oh yeah, because boys fancy their mums. And boys' mums fancy their sons. No, they're mummy's boys. Yeah, I said what I said. Sitting in the passenger seat, feet up on the dash. Okay, car crash victim. Right, because-

You are going to die. Why are my feet on your- If anybody did that to me, I'd be like, excuse me, do you want to drive? Because I'm not an Uber. I'm not an Uber. Yeah. Put your feet down.

It's giving Quentin Tarantino. Right. What's going on? Get them down. Yeah, no. It's so unsafe. I hate road unsafety. I can't see.

You move just too tall just poking down not in front of the wheel yeah nah hmm nah how big are their feet

if their fucking toes are in front of your eye like you're big down there no I've got what size are you I'm size five oh good

I've got small feet nice oh good um this another weird one when i look disheveled the boys seem to like it when you're there looking a bit like shit that's a big lie man i think that's a big lie they don't they're all saying it i don't believe it i think they're capping there no but it's true that i saw a funny

tiktok the other day of um a being like, she's literally dressed in her post-nap, you know, in your like, pajama bottoms are three quarter length, like peasant wear, hair in a messy bun, looking like shit, no bra. And then it was like, I look like this 99% of the time and my boyfriend still says I'm fit than Michelle Keegan. That's so me. That's just, yeah, guys being nice. michelle michelle keegan that's so me that's just yeah guys be nice anyways what do men guys do that we find attractive so before we go on the list off head lauren what would be one for you oh my god um i would say again the paying attention to little details thing that's nice that's lovely yeah um don't fake laugh around me hate that hate that yeah um god it's a hard one when they smell really good yeah i'm surprised no one said about that well yeah i'm dead but um yeah perfume they smell

nice um they brush their teeth something like that sort of mass loads of tiktoks about girls that say they had to like persuade or beg their exes to brush their teeth basic oral hygiene wow mad i think for me it would be i love a guy that's tidy like when you they just like move things back when they need more english but they move things back where it needs to be right i just find that oh yeah man that's beautiful aren't you so tiny you're so ocd it actually moves one thing back just you know center it really i love that oh wow oh no that wasn't compatibility with me. Really? I thought you were going to say details. Oh, I like that. Interesting. Okay, so what did the internet and our audience say?

Do you want to go first? Um, oh my God, sorry. I'm instantly drawn to number two. Being a good whistler. Girls like when boys are good whistlers. That's annoying. Shut up. That up jarring that's acting like that's acting like it was in a time before like stereos were invented and people only had their

mouth so a guy was doing that through tesco the other day i looked around shut up what are you doing how dare you you know you've got to be like it's archaic and it also it's like it's drawing attention to yourself in the most obnoxious way it's like what are your headphones in do some internal whistling that's horrible yeah it's a no for me i don't agree with that one guys sorry y'all that sent that in a man as well no for me men should be seen and not heard um christy next one next one um reverse parking when they put their hands on the back of the passenger seat and her certain turn around yeah that's quite a fit nice nice cock you know when they look at you as on this i like yeah i think that's quite cute the only hard thing about this

is that whole sitting arrangement is being a passenger yeah that's my bad side and i'll be on a road trip sometimes and i'm thinking he's looking to be a bit too long he's like he's he's having a bit too much time with this oh would you like purposely turn around and be like i should be the one something horrible about me oh uh another one is when they put their hand on the lap oh on your lap yes when they're driving lovely again rose safety issue but also peng you don't know that again i think it's a little bit too much like touching me and he's also being

aware of my left side again like i don't know i mean hold my hand fair enough but you're holding my hold your hand wait if he's gonna crash if a truck's coming there he's linking up with you but maybe he's driving with automatic car so he can he can't afford to hold my tesla both automatic perfect that's what i need and then we can both burn you're right i don't know i would rather at the roads just legs popped lol people are there with tess has been like yeah imagine like you know what you could do if they know hands on stuff it's like no i just won't get my boyfriend to look at me from the left hand side i don't know i would yeah hold my hand i don't i don't think i like the i think that's a bit too much commitment there really if something happens quick there's not a i mean if you're driving a automatic car you're fine man just okay so you

know straight road a10 or something nice that's nice yeah like a bit hand action yeah why not um as in in a very intimate nice sense yes yes um next one is holding a baby and i vouch for this one there um did you watch one day how about that oh my god she's never watched the other thing on iplayer except for he send us um so the series one day came out and there's about a romance kind of story and there's this one scene this one scene where the character the boy dexter has baby ah and i felt my that was my womb he has a baby and the baby like curves its head into it and just holding it not even his baby but he obviously had a good connection and um wow me and my boyfriend both rewound that back and then i filmed it for later not not anything like just to watch and then i put my

instagram story and then i reposted it on tiktok something about it and boys always do that on their hinge profiles i feel they always have a picture of a random baby in there random baby and a dog yeah if it's not the baby it's the dog you're right yeah you're right interesting serial killer okay guys tying their shoes and then looking up and smiling at you I it sounds a bit it's giving like Bratz movie like i that doesn't happen in real life that's quite cringe i'm not gonna lie also i never stop when someone's doing their thing i'm walking ahead move move i'm not gonna stand there i'm not gonna give you the chance to look up at me i'm already five steps ahead that's a bit creepy

get it done and let's go well hey it's a fucking velcro trainers we wouldn't have this issue velcro yeah it's an interesting one what do you think when they stretch and their v-lines pop out with the little bit of their stomach i don't like being with the boy that's got a better body than me so that would mean him having a six-pack and then that would mean i feel inferior no i wouldn't mind having if you have a yeah just don't show off why are you stretching like that stretch but don't stretch yeah sometimes they do it too much right and it's like it's not necessary put your arms down right actually reminds me of i used to have this

poster of zach efron rolling stones i got from hmv and he was like like this in my bedroom massive on my wall yeah and it's just got a little i was lapping that up stretch but don't stretch too much please thank you yeah yeah um sorry veins in the hands when they pop out. It's giving Frankenstein. When you're very veiny. I don't like that. I don't like that. No.

No. No. No. It's giving scary. It's giving scary. Yeah. Oh. The morning croaky voice. Yeah.

Good morning, miss. That's... Breath. the morning croaky voice yeah good morning miss that's breath oh no this is actually a thing apparently i think this is a thing for both sexes i've seen online we both like sleepy looking each other i love a sleepy looking boy and apparently boys like sleepy looking girls really yeah i like the sleepy voice more than the morning croaky voice like eye dust crusty breath rank no yeah do you know what i mean someone like nice that sleepy looking boy kind of it's just like very humble and then they're like nice soft yeah they've not woken up yet enough to like hate women in the world that's when you can kind of like you can just tell them things and they'll happily agree yeah you can tell them things that happen to agree

yeah marry me you've caught them in like a sleepy vulnerable state there you go yeah um interesting uh another one when they've been doing something that wears them out and they look up oh i was thinking like abseiling or something um when they've been doing something that wears them out and they look up all tired and sweaty no because that means go to the shower and yeah yeah so that's funny i think they were referencing tech but i thought they were talking about a sport oh or are you talking about i think they were referencing tech but i thought they were talking about a sport oh are you talking about i think they're talking about sex right oh sorry sorry um no i do feel so imagine if like let's say like you're lifting something heavy like you're moving to a new house and they you know they try to carry something up the stairs yeah and they huff and puff maybe that's a bit that seems like they're

unfit they're having problem from carrying a box no no not for me um oh my god having more than one pancake pillow oh my god when their pillows are yellow and they've been folded over i'd get acne grown every time i'd go there i'm so sorry that that will you will never see me again i promise you yeah yeah i'm easily turned off you will never see me again yeah same i'm a big big bed hygiene person dust mites yeah ew i know no goodbye big bye that again is the bare minimum men you should be having multiple pillows thank you and changing your sheets and changing your sheets thank you they don't they won't do that they're never gonna stop doing that niche knowledge pub quiz knowledge little facts they can just pull out please and thank you because you can't

come and embarrass me yeah that's nice i love being told facts yeah oh my god i didn't know that i want to learn something new when i'm with you like oh my god really yeah like all right like hey remember you told me this now i know it yeah and not even niche but useless information as well love that shit yeah i agree yeah i'm there for it being able to cry at things now this is a big thing and i i would like a man that cries yeah but my boyfriend will never admit that he's crying he just goes like oh my eyes are wet or like my throat feels tight it's like just let it go baby let it go he just won't let himself do it yeah i think vulnerability is very attractive. Very attractive. Yeah, I do feel like, especially in a world where men are told you've got to man up, you've got to da-da-da-da. Just having that, being comfortable enough to cry or let go or release in front of your person.

Release. Is absolutely amazing. I feel like everybody should be in a relationship where they can fully express how they actually feel. 100%. That should be number one to be honest and also you feel so good after a crime men should try it yeah maybe there wouldn't be like war and like everybody else in the world do you think putin cries nah i feel like as a human he has donald trump wipe a tear away? No, saying it's fake tan.

If Simpsons haven't shown him crying, then I don't believe it. Oh, that's so valid, Christy. Thank you, our historian on the podcast. Thank you very much. And then,

singing whilst doing things, absent-minded singing. So, just singing. It's's quite nice if they can sing or if they're like if they're trying you though guys like when wait oh no no we like it we like it when men say oh yeah i like when a man sings i do but i hate when oh i oh i do you know what i hate for instance yeah let's say you're driving and your favourite song's playing and they don't know the song and they're trying to sing and hum to it.

Shut up. Don't sing. Keep quiet. Don't ruin my song because it'll piss me off. Leave it to gigs. Shut up. It will piss me off. No, but even worse than that,

when we're playing a song and they're trying too hard. Oof. Oof. But it's nice in a funny jokey way like oops i didn't hit that note but when it's like yeah oh you're trying to compete with me as well yeah don't do that yeah tell it that my song my song lead back up yeah thank you i think that's the only child in me i'm like sorry i didn't didn't know where I asked you to come in on that one. It's all about me. I think me, I'll give a little stare like.

Yeah. Okay. A gentle wink. Weird. A gentle wink. I don't remember the last time a man winked at me. Orders for me in a restaurant. No, I'll get my own.

No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no. And I'm meant to sit there and eat it. Yeah. No. No. No. own no no no no no no no and i'm meant to sit there and eat it yeah no no no um pump the wheels on my bike yeah i do love that actually i hate doing anything that's like mechanical to be honest yeah the other day when i had like a pop tire um and i went to the um the petrol station to try and put air in it um i stood there i was like what do i do i need a man what do i do i need a man and the guy came and i just asked i was like ask the girl before i asked the guy because i was like oh that's very respectful i'm not gonna get myself

in trouble and she was like babe how do you you gotta do this i said okay thank you thanks thank you darling thank you yeah and i did it myself but was like, maybe if a guy did this for me, I think I would have liked it. Come to my rescue. Yeah. Lovely. I like, yeah.

I love a handyman. Yeah. Love someone that's going to be able to, you know, I've got a problem, babe. Like my phone's not working. Don't worry,

I'll do it for you. Okay. That's a bit specific. Apple technician. Genius. Genius. Genius. Yeah. Yeah. I was thinking more just like

you know change your light switch okay yeah but fair but a plumber um and having a maid bed yeah that's fair please but i also really bad at making my own bed but i do it a lot now i do it a lot now i think well i read somewhere i think this is why i always do it um if you start your day the first thing you should do before you leave your bed is your bed um it just shows discipline it kind of organizes your day um and think about it when you get home your bed's done it's really just oh i'm about to open it up again to get back in yeah but at least it's just nicely yeah prepped you know it's just a neatness thing isn't it yeah uh and the last one is watching me do the mundane things um describe mundane what does that yeah what is that like you watch me whilst i scroll

on tiktok weird um mundane things What are mundane things? Scrolling. Scrolling. Every day activities. That's nice, but again, are you looking at me because you think I'm beautiful and cute or do you think I'm ugly on this side of my face? Like you're staring a little bit too long. Watching me doing mundane things. What would your mundane be?

Watching EastEnders. Christy, you're the best yeah just yeah sit with me while i watch these vendors no but watching you watch these vendors why not like because the passion when i'm in the story google boxing yeah literally yeah and you're now thinking why does she love you so much like how can i also react next to this joke yeah man yeah probably that or cooking yeah oh cooking's a nice one yeah cooking's nice yeah or doing the laundry or like ironing that's cute that's nice all right well fair well it's very interesting to see uh we both kind of like all the same things but men also feel like i feel like they've got a

very idealistic romanticized view of us because i don't look good in a messy bun i don't look good when i blow up like that that one for me no that's that's a big no and i'm not putting my feet up on your dashboard because i don't want to get killed in a car crash yeah well this has been a quick not so quick cuppa yes but we've actually hit on quite great you know points we really hashed it out today yeah i really did enjoy that i hope you guys enjoyed it too we want to know what you find attractive in your partner or potential partner the little things the little niches just make them sprinkle sprinkle yeah so let us know in the comments you can you know dm us or follow us on instagram tiktok all of our socials um and we'll discuss them maybe in the next podcast

yeah we'll see you next week