Tea at Four - The ‘Bratification' of Wuthering Heights, 90s nostalgia and do you chat BEFORE a first date?

Episode Date: September 11, 2025

This week on Tea we dive into everything from how everything was so fun to bite in the 90s, and why lending money to friends can become an issue…Lauren takes back her wish for cosy season since trying to do her makeup by torchlight, Christie gets quizzed on whether she’s team Conrad or Jeremiah, and Billy debates whether we need to keep remaking films.We discuss the saucy new trailer for Wuthering Heights, and if the Bronte sisters would be offended by the new take, and try to give our best dating advice from a girl wondering if pre-date chat is dead...Send us your dilemmas, tea or quite frankly anything you find funny to [e-mail].💖 Watch on YouTube https://www.youtube.com/@Teaatfourpod💖 Follow on TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@four.nine💖 Follow on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/fournine/?hl=en Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I'm inspired by women have had like five marriages. Five? That is a different end of the spectrum. Let's go and can't get a single day. Morning. Morning. Morning. Morning.

Amazing. Have you seen this meme? Obviously she hasn't. No. Of course not. Obviously she hasn't. I was waiting for it like. I say every day at the moment.

Morning. Shevers and cream casigning. The trend that's like the Snapchat filter. The weirdest thing about that is I feel like I know that girl. Really? I see her face. all the time and I'm like, you've just such a familiar feeling to me. No.

No, but I just don't, I don't know what she actually looks like because that filter looks exact same on everyone. Oh yeah, yeah, yeah, Nina, Queen Nina. Nina, yeah. Which basically like disimpressions, yeah, it's really funny. Morning. Morning. Morning.

Morning. Morning. You're always in cream, what, Kazani? Kazani, yeah, Kazan. She's like, I'm answering the door and she's like, how different people would answer the door. And then she starts with this really rough guy. She does like this Essexy, like so how, how,

half sky and then she does this girl with like perfect glammed up makeup. Bold filter. Morning. Drillies and cream calzini. Amazing. Anyway. Welcome. Welcome back to TIP4.

I'm Billy. I'm Christy. And I'm Lachin. And this is the podcast where we talk all things that normally stay in the group chat. Whoop, whoop. Owie. How's, what you just say? Oh, yeah.

In French. She makes up words and says it's French. I know. My laugh just sounded like white chicks then. Play that back. Right, so what I want to talk about is I want to check myself because last week I was like, oh, I can't wait for the October, the cold, the, you know, the thingy nights. This morning I had to get ready using my iPhone torchlight.

What? And that is where I draw the line. That is middle ages. Middle ages. What happened? It was dark, Christy. You believe that? That's old maiden of you.

I know. Yeah, but then we'll start for shoes. Where was the light? Did you switch on the light? Switch on and turn on the light. No. I mean, yeah, that's a good point. But I don't want to get ready in the morning with the big light on.

That's such a vibe killer. Gosh, you're really going through it, aren't you? I know. It's a hard life in the trenches. There's something about September 1st that gives like start a first day of school vibes, isn't it? It's like self-improvement, it's like reflection, it's about new starts. Actually, really just, this weekend, do not. I wanted to do.

What? Go buy a new stationary. Stationery? Oh, new pencil case. Pensils, highlights. Oh good, yeah. What pencil case did you have? At one point I thought it was really edgy and I had a, you know, a video case.

Video. Case. Like, it would open up plastic and you'd have your video. Yeah. VHS. I'd use one of those. New six. Wait, that was your pencil case.

An actual fabric one or an actual VHS case. An actual VHS case. You freak. I didn't really. Freak. So you take that out in school. Then every day I could have a different film that I'd bring in. What was the video?

Sometimes it's Hocus Pocus. I bet your mum was fucking furious. I was just VHS type. I think she was so used to at this point. It was like, yeah, too. She was like, do whatever. Just do whatever, just get in the car and go to school. I only need to work out which one I want to use.

And also, saving her loads of money because all my pets cases got ruined. What did I have? I had, you see the Winnie. Winnie? Winnie the Pooh. Winnie, wait, Tigger. The Tigger. The Tigger.

Ew. Why is it? Tigger used to be the G back then. Tigger's gay, I fear. Tigger's by. By? Tigger's bye. You think he's by?

Yeah, 100%. Piglet, raging homosexual. No, it's the other one that was E-O-O-G. E-O-O-R-E-O-R-E. E-O-O-E-O-E-O-E. E-O-O-E-O-E. Who's E-O-E-O-R-E?

No, E-E-O-O-R-E. Oh, I feel it was E-O-O-R-E. Do, how do you smell it? E-E-E. E-E. No, there's no G. Is that a French thing? I don't think we had a winning European French, but it's E.org?

It's not Eeyorg. I'm pretty sure it's Eorg. Is it not? No. Do you learn something every day, but... Yeah, I don't know if Eel's gay. I think he's just depressed. Oh, is that the same thing?

No. We're gay people that are depressed. They're manic and crazy. Okay. That is a straight depressed person. Yeah. The only reason I said Tigger, now I'm thinking about it, because his tail looks like a willie.

Doing. Anywho, yes, my pencil case was a funky friends one. Funky Friends one. I don't know where that is. A lot of funky friends one. Groovy Shick. No funky friends. Put some fucking friends.

I don't know. In my head, I'm hearing, you're saying funky friends, but I'm hearing funkyfidgen. I don't know. That's so true. I don't know. That's what I'm here. You mean your funky pigeon pencil game. Literally out of them.

No, wrong. I don't know who funky friends are there. Yeah. What's funky friends? Is that like from Poundland or something? Do you know? Thank you, Bobby. Do you actually know it? Yeah, I had one of them as well.

I think one of their names was Zoe and then I'm not sure on the other girls. This sounds like some kind of like off-brand Poundland station. Oh, shut up. You can't write it on it. Tell me a picture. I need to know what they look like. Oh my God, I saw such a funny Jake Shane skit the other day

and it was like, you know, he does the skits of funny things. He was like, um, Beanie Babies, um, talking to Laboos. Oh, I thought that. Oh, it's hilarious. That was funny. Yeah, funky friends. Libibos are these new. I don't.

I know what they are I saw them yesterday for the first time They have little spores of Satan aren't they Funky friends I feel like Lauren's lion Oh I know them Let me see There's a diary

Yes FOMI FOMI You're diary They had a pencil case Why would things so good to buy In the 90s Like Polly Pocket

So I just bite Barbie's heads Yeah I used to chew The plastic rulers The ones that used to bend? Yeah. Oh my God. That's what you got to look at me like. I love smack in that.

Yeah. I think they actually banned them. Why? Flexball rulers, I say. Yeah. All the ones that were built in pieces and they'd like go, woo. Yeah, those were fun. I can't lie.

So what else is big this week? We've obviously got all our government text alerts. Oh my gosh. How you're feeling? I didn't get it. Got a text. I got it today and I was just like, what the heck? Got a text.

Oh man. We're at war. Oh. Oh, man. Yeah, it's actually so scary. It's like coming up on all the tube stations, like on TV, getting a text. I've not seen it on, depending on I don't watch TV. But, yeah, I went this morning.

You spoke about it yesterday and I was like, really? Is that actually going to happen? And I went to this one, I was like, oh, this is a real thing. Yeah. Well, it's coming all in the same week that Trump's obviously not really been pictured in public. He apparently is quite ill and also could be done. so I reckon he's just going to push the button soon. I think it was more over like security.

Is it something going on in China as well? There was a big, big parade the other day in China of like military parade and then like Vladimir Putin was there. Oh wait and also Sheehan used that picture of Luigi Mandionde. That's crazy. I saw that.

That's crazy. Anywho, onto the actual news. Did you see the Wuthering Heights trailer? They dropped last night. Did, yes. I have no idea what goes on. I have no idea. I've never read it.

Is it olden times? Yeah, so it's based on the Emily Bronte novel. Hello? Are you crying? Because I don't know what this is. I've never watched what you guys are talking about. I only came out as well. I only came out last night.

It only came out last night. Yeah. On Netflix. Do you know what Wuthering Heights? Wuthering Heights. Wuthering. It's a book. A weathering height.

The Wuthering. The Wuthering Heights. Yeah. What the fuck is that anyway, to be fair. The Wovering Heights. What does Wothering? I think it's a book about sex. It isn't.

It isn't. It isn't even about. About sex. Like, it's not even erotic fiction. She's just full saltburn est it. Ain't saltburn the horror? Yeah. Well.

She's made by the same person who made that. And Jacob Rourdes in it. Yeah, I couldn't tell you what's about. It just looks old maiden to me. Looks really pretty. Look jolly sexy. Emerald fennel. What actually happens in it?

Basically, so there's Kathy and there's Heathcliff. And you? I can't. Heathcliff. Yes. What a name. Sorry, the name got me. It's a film based on the classic literature.

that has been adapted so many times, like so many times. And now they've got a 2026 version coming out by Emerald Fennell that did salt burn. And yeah, it's basically porn. Oh, she got me hot under the covers. Oh, she wasn't even out of the covers. She watched it twice this morning.

In the office. She's already seen it. And it's got Charlie XXX plane in the background. Like, it's so yassified, so brattified. I think there's something healthy about coming up with new ways to find old literature really, accessible, sexy.

Rather than just like repeating the old things. Like I completely understood Romeo and Juliet after seeing Leonardo DiCaprio once my English teacher smack that on. I was locked in. But if I was reading the book, I didn't understand what the F anything was going on. I mean, Hot Take,

I just think it's a cheap way to make new films. Like there's so many other stories that haven't been adaptives and the same boring ones getting remade and remade. It's just kind of like, oh, don't we care? Like how many pride and pride? prejudices or sense and sensibilities you're going to make. It's given George Michael, me like my fire. But because the copyright's free, they can adapt it and do whatever they want for free

instead of paying new authors and new writers to create new stories. It's cheap on their part, I think. Do we think the Bronte sisters would be angry? I don't know who they are, but I'm not a Nicky fan. I think she would be a fan of Charlie XX. Yeah. The Spice Girls. Absolutely.

I mean, it's highlighting the story again, ain't it? So, I guess. Yeah, but they're probably quite prudish back in the olden days. When was it written? Like, Victorian? Oh, old, old, old, old. What do you think they're going to revisit in the future from our time? What's going to be a classic?

Mean girls. Now, hear me up. Mean girls. I think it's got to be something that's shaped culture. Okay. So something that shapes the time period. Harry Potter. They've already fucking doing it now.

No, I'm bored of that. No, reading. it in class as part of literature. Don't they do that? Really? Evil. There's an evil thing inside of there today. Well, the whole point I think of English literature is to kind of like sometimes add historical

context to the time period and like why was it so monumental? What about it shaped people's opinions of things? And Harry Potter is one of the biggest like book series of all time and it's shaped so many people's... Lord of the Rings? Lord of the Rings, yeah. That's so long. People couldn't study that.

There's no way. They could study like an extract. from it. Did you go to school? Yeah, we did extracts, didn't we? No, we read full books. Of mice and men. Okay, I read that.

I think that's the only thing I read. To Kill a Mockingboard? Robia, Julia, Julia. What did you say? Borgant Bored. Were you bored when you were reading it? Kill a Mocking Board. To kill a mocking board. That's our audience right now listening in.

In terms of other media that's obviously come out, you watch the summer I turn pretty. That is the most boring show I've ever seen in my life. It's so boring. It sounds like, I like the title, the summer I turned pretty. I like the beat. I like the beat. My flatmate watches it.

And I hope she doesn't mind me saying this, but she was bawling her eyes out last week at the episode. Crying because like something happened where she's at the airport and the person she really loves is there. And she goes over to, well, you think she goes over to speak to him and it stops. And she was like, what? And I was like, you're okay, honey? Yeah. It's just so bad. The acting's bad, the story's boring, speech is so cringe.

Yeah, I have moments where I teach you on to being like so self-aware that it's so cringe that I hate it. And then you have moments where you're just like, oh, this is a piece of light television. True. I then I fucking knocked back into like, oh, this is so awful. Like, what is this? And but, yeah, people absolutely love it. You never heard of it. No.

I knew you were. Lucky you. Lucky you. It's actually rated really highly, which is. It's got a huge fan base who probably are now going to find. my dress and burn my house to the ground. Oh, absolutely not. And also, I dare them to use a song that isn't by Taylor Swift.

Oh my God. The fucking budget for that must be crazy. And all the budget has gone on the Taylor Swift songs. Because all their outfits are shit. Yeah, outfits are shit. Their engagement ring is the tiniest piece of rock I've ever seen in my life. Wedding Dress. Ugly.

Ugly. Sorry. Maybe they spent it all on the lobster rolls at the wedding as well. Because what the actual fuck? Or on their colour grading sepia tones. Oh, yeah, balance. and doing signs everywhere that says cousins what even is that?

Insest. Well, they're two brothers that fancy the same girl that is the storyline. Oh. No, the place that they live is called cousins. Oh, I'm saying what? But I thought it would be funny. Basically, for context, as Billy said,

there's two brothers. Yeah. They're called Jeremiah and Conrad. Nice names. And I want to do a quiz to see if you're team Conrad or team Jeremiah. Cool. Because I think it'd be funny.

Can I call a friend? Like, can you do you? No. I can help. I don't know enough about it. I've only seen a couple of episodes. Okay. We're actually obviously trying to matchmake you

because you're looking to get married with in the next year. And actually they're both single at the moment. Huh? They're both single at the moment. And they're both single at the moment. The characters. Oh, the characters.

Sorry. Yeah. Okay. Christy. Okay. Are you team Jeremiah or team comrade? Mm. I like a love interest who is A, bubbly and at B

or B, or B, broody and mysterious. Bubly and up B. Oh, gosh. No, I agree with you. Yeah, because you can't be too, no, you have to be a bit. There's nothing sexy about someone who's moody and broody. Yeah, because if you're moody, then you'll bring my mood down. If you're bubbly, let's go, bubbly, bubbly.

It's actually an ick to have someone that's like, ooh, gosh. Like Edward Cullen from Twilight in real life. Oh, no, yeah, no, no, no, thank you. No, no, no, no. Right, which summer job would you be more likely to do? A, busing tables or B, lifeguarding. Wait, busing tables, what's that busing a busing? Busting in a bussy into the tables.

And he's like, it's like, like, waiting for me. tables. A world record, Christy not knowing anything actually. Yeah, this is like, busting tables or what? Lifeguarding, do you know what that is? Being a lifeguard.

No, let's bust the tables. I'd be a lifeguard. No, man. Actually, no, when thought about you. In the rain and then running to go save people. Who touched people? Who should be swimming in the rain? Some people do surfers.

They can swim in their own. Which aesthetic is more swoon worthy to you? I always adar dark and mysterious love interests or I'm a fan of the surfer girl slash boy look. No, the, that, The first one. The Turf girl reminds me just of Lucy from, um, Love Island.

Oh! That's a big do. I slobbered a bit too far on that. There we go. Look, are you spilling? Are you an introvert or an extrovert? You're... I'm introvert now.

You're... I don't know. I think I'm introvert now. Do you think? Yeah, I think I was... Yeah, I'm an introvert now. Yeah, you don't like new people, do you? Okay, introvert.

How do you feel about change? A, I'm not very kind. comfortable with it and would rather avoid it or be changes normal she's not very comfortable with it. Bro, what do you want? Sorry. Sorry, I know it's the truth. It is, isn't it?

Yeah. The thought of changing offices gave her nightmares. Oh my gosh. I didn't well. Yeah. Okay, I am more likely to crush on someone who is a confident but a little bit reserved or B the centre of retention. Oh, a confident, a little bit reserved.

I can't do centre of retention. Oh my day. That's you. Do you believe in love at first sight? Definitely. I am a true romantic heart or not really I think love develops from experiences you share with a person. Love develops from experiences

you share with a person. Oh, right then. They're calculating the answers. Oh, please do you remember. You are team Conrad's. Oh! She ain't going to be clear it is. He's the nicer one. Is he? Is he? You don't know.

It says, Your team, Conrad, you're a sucker for the soulmate trope who truly believes in love at first sight. You don't mind a brooding love interest and find it entertaining to follow a character who plays hard to get. You're a romantic at heart who knows that love is worth fighting for.

Yeah. We get a fair. I feel like he would hit me. What? Oh, who said that? Who said that? Is he given, like, kind of like, he's scary.

He's really scary. He's like, give me my fucking phone. He was having a temper tantrum last night. Bless him in the episode. Yeah. He just got left at the altar, but, you know, he was a bit stroppy. Give me my Gatorade.

Look, look, look. Leave me alone. Oh, I'm upset. I've just been dumped. That is literally him. Yeah. Horrible. Horrible, horrible.

Okay, then we'll see you at Conrad and Christy's wedding. 2026. Conrad and Christy. What's your ship name? Chris Rad. Chris Rad. Conry. Connie.

Oh, he's called Connie in the show. Conry. You're meant to be. No, that's his full name then. Concedy, yeah. Constity. Constipated. Constipated.

That sounds like a thrush cream. Constit sounds like I'm constipated. No. She is. And that's his. That's all we've got time for today's episode. So right now we are going to share a few dilemmas and we're going to get into it. Settle a debate for me and my friends.

If you arrange a hinge date, should you check in the day before the date? Because I didn't hear from a guy until the afternoon of the date, a week after it was arranged. So I assumed it wasn't happening and made other plans. But my guy friends think I'm the one in the wrong because I cancelled last minute. No, I actually think there's nothing more beggy than being like, are we still on for today? I hate doing that. even with friends, not even a date, like, if you want to show intention, show you want to spend time with me, like, just check in.

Seems like your obvious answer. Yeah, like, it's weird, like you'd go a week without talking. Yeah. For a day. You shouldn't be going out anyway. Yeah, like, if you're going to, like, they've got nothing to talk about all week. Then then there's nothing there. Yeah, I wouldn't.

I think she's in the right. But, no, I think she's the right, actually. Yeah. That was, yeah. If you're not, lazy to text me. If you're not going to speak to me, they'd leave me alone. Like, show that you're interested in the West. I'm a priority. If you asked me to go out, I'm a priority now.

Never waste a Friday on a first date as well. Why? Chapel Roan said that. There we go. Especially if they're wearing fugly jeans. I thought it was fuck me jeans. No, fugly. Oh my God. There's such a thing. Fugly jeans like fucking ugly jeans. How can the gene be, I should know that there's a day. I was really saying.

I always thought it's fuck me jeans. No, why would she be saying like this? I thought that's such a good like term. And he's fuck me jeans. No, and he's fuggly jeans. She's slagging him off. But yeah, I'm glad you agree. I agree.

Yeah, I wouldn't. You don't not talk. Like, you'd assume it was that. Yeah, I would. You've showed no interest in me for a week. Why would I show interest to you? I'm leaving. I'm going to do something else.

100%. I'm fucking a holiday or something. Because what the heck. Yeah. I think that's actually rude. Like you get somebody excited that you're going to go out on a date and then leading up to you're not saying niche. Like, what the heck? Yeah, agreed.

You need to speak to me every day. otherwise I think you're bored. Not every day, but at least try to get to know me before. So on the day, what we meant to talk about? Really? Maybe that's why I'm going wrong.

I always, I just, like, if someone doesn't speak to me for a day, I think, okay, that's over. No, I disagree. The only time I've, because, you know, something like,

they make it seem like on sex and city and things like that. It's like, if you, if you just save all the talking to the date and you, like, build up to that and you don't have, like, the meandering beforehand, the only date I've been on and done that,

it was fucking awful, and I wanted to leave, like, instantly, because you kind of figure out if someone's a weirder or not. Yeah, exactly. And their intentions and they're like, why are they dating? How long have they been single for? You gauge that whether, and then it saves me from wasting an hour or two out of my evening. I think it's just, maybe like I'll give you the slight kind of benefit of the doubt.

If it's like a friend that you've known for a while and you're like, let's go on a date and like. That's okay. Like you've already kind of built up that relationship. Then maybe you owe them the common decency to be like, obviously. But if it was a friend, would you still feel? think the same like if it was someone that I was like had been friends with and then I was like oh maybe we should go on a date because I already have a relationship with them and I'm not a texter I don't expect to really continue the conversation but when I get to know someone I'm like

if you're not interested in I'm not interested in no but I'm saying like if a friend if you were supposed to be meeting up with a friend and you mentioned it you haven't spoke for a week I think that's fine if a friend's fine I think that's fine I reason went on a date and I feel like we spoke every single day and I feel like that made it better it eased it eased the day in and it was easier to just have conversations us on the date. Yeah. Because I feel like if we didn't speak.

Yeah. I think hinge dating, that's becoming common and it almost feels a bit like clinical. Really? Like you arrange a date. Don't talk. Next one.

Yeah. That's weird. I haven't really been on that many. I think that's weird. You're weird. Yeah. People are just putting them in their calendars for things to do on the weekdays.

So I'm just basically a filler now, basically. Pretty much. Nah. You need to talk. I've not got the time nor money. No. And you're also taken. Well. Like Eva Sam.

I've been trying to date my whole adult life. I'm a 33 year old woman and it just doesn't seem to be happening for me. I've never had a serious relationship. At what age do I seriously start thinking it might never happen? And how do I become happy with the new reality when all I've wanted is a relationship? Stop idolizing it. That's what I would say. Because once you stop idolizing being in a relationship, you start living for you.

And then that's when that's when that's when that's when. the relationship comes when you're not looking for it. That's what I'd say. Yeah, I also, I don't think there's an age limit. Like, she shouldn't be putting like, okay, I'm this age, I've not had this and I want this. There's nothing to say that like it might not happen. You just can't put age limits on things like that.

And I think it is hard because I feel like I've kind of resonated with that idea quite a bit. But I think recently I've also just learned that actually... Grass ain't always greener. Yeah, not always greener. I think I also, not Sarah idolize it, but I always really am inspired by women

have had like five marriages. Five? Like, imagine how many different lives. I know this is a complete different, but like how many different lives you've been able to live? That is a different end of the spectrum. It's not going to get a single date.

I don't know trying to make it's like, people that are single or people that go the complete opposite end where you've like had so many different experiences with different people. Actually, this person is saying they haven't. That makes me feel bad. Yeah. Okay, ignore that.

That was not a point. I think there's a real beauty in being single and being able to fully, truly know yourself and especially getting to 33 and being able to have that freedom and not go to bed, worrying about someone was cheating on you. Those relationships are the worst ones.

Maybe you're truly the universe is saving you up for the right thing. But I actually think the irony is you just can't go looking for it. No. Like don't, yeah, don't focus on it. I do feel like you're stopping yourself from living life and enjoy in your singleness. For a lot of people, they want a relationship. When they get into a relationship,

they hate their relationship because they haven't enjoyed being single. So I would say, sister girl. Like, just don't think about it. Find a hobby. Go out of your goals. You know, spend time of family. And then when it happens,

when you least expect it, it'll be super beautiful. Absolutely. Agreed. Period. My favorite part of the show where Christy learns to read. What is the amount of money

that becomes except, English. I rest my case. What is the amount of money that becomes acceptable to ask back from a friend? Like, I know I shouldn't ask for every pint or coffee back,

but after a while it adds up. What's the cut off? Question mark? A 10-R question? I actually completely disagree. I've quite an open conversation with my friends all the time. And if I buy them something

or they buy me something, just Munza request it. You know, otherwise people just end up out of pocket. And like, if you're even like, you think you're being tight for asking it but actually the other person is tighter for thinking that they owe you the money do you know what I mean I think it's much easier to have a relationship where you're like I bought you this um can you just transfer me it for it and then like when they

or unless it's like small things but like if I go to the pub someone will either buy me that back or they'll be like oh you bought loads of points last night how much was it and I'll split it with you and just like being that kind of like openness and being like so it should be something that expect them. Or like if your friendships are like that. For instance, I could go out with one of my girls and I say for instance, we went out for brunch and I may have got like something small and they've got like a big meal.

But I wouldn't feel no type of way. I still just split it in the middle. Yeah, I'm going for meals and stuff, I would agree. But like for smaller stuff, I kind of feel like it's just so much easier because also then if someone is always the person that is going up to get things or buying things, that person ends up out of pocket and it's just easier. like if some of my friends would be like oh I'm going to the shop and then will transfer me like a pound for like what they want even though it's a pound just because they're so much like I don't

want you to have to spend any money on me I've got my money I don't feel ashamed to like spend my money and I don't expect my friends to pay things for me so there isn't is there a cutoff point not really like I would say in my head the first thing it came up in my head was like a glass of wine I'll buy for my friends or like a drink I'll buy for my friends a bottle of wine maybe I'll split yeah yeah that makes yeah I'll buy one they buy the next yeah I agree you should do that um taxis also I feel like split them um if someone asked us something as well like I'm also also I'm not the type of friend that expects the money I lot a lot of the time if it's a small amount I'll be like no it's fine I'll get this yeah yeah but a lot of my friends have like common decency to be like

oh if you're going to the shop can me a can of Coke and then they'll just transfer me the cost of a can of code, even though I don't ask for it, I think it says more about someone like... I just be being considerate, isn't it? Just thinking of other people, yeah. And you'll get me something. Here's the money for it. Or often there's the money for it instead of... Yeah.

Oh, you can get that for me. Yeah. Do you think that it depends on who you're with as well and what friendship group you're with? Because that's something I've discovered recently. That's what... That's the thing. Like, it's hard.

When people... That's why I kind of like hate it when people don't keep track of like what they spend, because then it's kind of like it just becomes messy. Yeah. And it's like I don't really want to like, do you know what I mean? Especially when you go on big holidays with like friendship groups and then you say like I'll get the bill but we're splitting the bill. And then like some people be like, oh but I also bought this and that and it's like just put everything into like Monzo and split it when you buy it then and keep track of it that way. Otherwise people just end up out of pocket and it's like yeah, it's really frustrating.

It depends on the circle as well as the circle of friends. For instance, they say for instance, we would think. to go to like let's say I had um east enders watch party um concert tickets right and I was like guys I bought tickets for you and you and you're thinking okay Christy I don't really you guys don't watch it you know I mean it's not so you guys are interested in but I've got gone out my way to buy it for you I wouldn't go like that sounds like a horrible answer but I would say oh sorry give it to someone who wants it or sell it right I don't want that responsibility of paying for something I don't want to do see I feel like it's all about it's all about it's

about having, being able to speak confidently and openly enough in your friendship groups because a situation like that then it's like, I could be like, well, then send me back the money that I paid to get you a ticket. Even though you didn't say anything about it. Oh, you wouldn't get it. Right. And I've been in them situations

and I'm just like, whoa. Yeah. I think this is where you, especially in friendships, you really have to like speak, especially when you come to money. Living crisis right now is crazy. And obviously people are working maybe even two jobs or they're finding hard to pay rent and stuff like so i said um so i feel like when it comes to money is a very touchy subject but also one that we should be very much open to speak about um so yeah

i feel like coffees and little little bits and bobs like i think that's fun yeah i wouldn't expect that i wouldn't i'd always offer as well yeah i think 10 pounds maybe for strangers as well is the cutoff point because sometimes you don't meet people and you're like also i just get i kind of get the yick of asking money back for on a night out unless it's a big round or like i'm buying like Do you know what I mean? Like bottles of wine and stuff that's being shared. If I've offered someone a drink most of the time, it's because I don't mind buying them a drink.

Yeah. But like if I've bought something and like it's someone who's a friend of a friend, but it's like, I don't know, like a ticket to a theme park, let's say. I'd expect that money back. You know what I mean? Or like, even if it's 10 pounds or like if I'm buying like. Interesting conversation that one is. What do you guys think?

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