TED Talks Daily - Sunday Pick: The Truth About "The Zone" (with Steph Curry) | Good Sport
Episode Date: February 8, 2026When it comes to sports, is there anything more evocative -- and elusive -- than "the zone"? That mythical place an athlete goes to where focus is laser-sharp, nothing can go wrong and time just vanis...hes. In this episode of Good Sport, a podcast from the TED Audio Collective, host Jody Avirgan talks to NBA All-Star great Steph Curry about what "the zone" means for him -- and whether or not it even exists. Then Jody works on his mental game with sports psychologist Dr. Nicole Detling and follows Olympic biathlete Clare Egan in a step-by-step guide on how to foster mental resilience after failure.Learn more about our flagship conference happening this April at attend.ted.com/podcast Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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Hey, Ted Docs Daily listeners, I'm Elise Hugh.
Today, we have an episode of another podcast from the TED Audio Collective,
handpicked by us for you.
Every two years, the world turns its attention to the Olympics,
and this year is no different.
The Winter Olympic Games started in northern Italy just a few days ago,
and as we all watch the athletes prepare and compete,
it's wild how they're able to stay so focused.
What can we learn from Olympians,
even if we never compete at that level?
To dig into this question, we're turning to an episode of Good Sport from 2023.
Host Jody Avergan talks to NBA all-star great Steph Curry about what the zone is,
that elusive, almost mythical place an athlete goes, where focus is laser sharp,
nothing can go wrong, and time just seems to vanish.
Then Jody works on his mental game with sports psychologist Dr. Nicole Detling
and follows Olympic biathlete, Claire Egan, in a step-by-step guide on how to foster mental
resilience after failure. If you want more sports content from TED or just want to see the world
through a new lens, check out good sport wherever you get your podcasts. Learn more about the TED Audio
Collective at audiocollective.ted.com. In sports, there's a lot of talk about a magical place
called The Zone. You've probably heard of it, that place where everything clicks, where no matter
the weather or the crowd or the sweat in your eyes, nothing can break your focus, where you just do
everything perfectly. You sink every shot. Nothing can stop you. Now, when I think about the zone,
when I picture someone in the zone, I picture Steph Curry. Do you believe in the zone?
I do believe in the zone because it's the one time that everything kind of goes autopilot.
Well, if the greatest NBA shooter of all times says the legend is real, that the zone is real,
it's more than just a legend.
There's just synergy with everything that you're trying to do
and even your intentions are then validated by the atmosphere around you
where it seems like everything else is going right at the same time
and you kind of get lost in that moment.
I love that phrase.
Your intentions are validated by the atmosphere around you.
I suppose if I were hitting every shot in the NBA finals
in front of a roaring crowd,
I'd probably feel like my intentions were validated by the atmosphere as well.
But look, here's the thing about the zone.
Almost by definition, it is special and fleeting, and you can't force it.
You can't control any of that.
It's just, for me, when it goes away, it's the reflection on the feeling you just had.
I think it's just a natural experience.
You can recognize when it's gone, but chasing after it is almost a guarantee that you won't get there.
I don't think you can train yourself to appreciate it more than just you naturally do
because if you do then you start to distract yourself from what's actually happening.
So you heard it directly from Steph Curry.
Nice as it is when you find yourself in the zone, obsessing over getting there.
And there is a lot of obsession about the zone.
That will get in the way of what you're trying to do.
So today, we want to figure out what we can control, what we can train for.
because even if the zone is elusive, there are still ways to perform at your best to keep your head in the game.
My name is Jody Avergan, and from the TED Audio Collective, this is good sport.
We think about athletes getting their bodies in shape to compete.
But talk to top athletes, and a lot of them will say that the mental side of the game is the real key to peak performance.
It's one of the things I've thought about most as an athlete, how to get my mind in the right place.
To be clear, I'm not talking about mental health or emotional well-being.
Athletes like Simone Biles and Naomi Asaka have started really important conversations
about how an athlete's life on and off the court connect.
And honestly, those deserve an entire series of the room.
What we're talking about in this episode is the mental part of competition.
That invisible force that I think shapes every game, every race, every match,
and a lot of times separates the winner from the loser.
Dr. Nicole Detling is an expert on the mental side of the game.
She's a sports psychologist who's worked with Olympic skiers and skaters, pro baseball and football and soccer players, college gymnasts, athletes at the very top of their sports.
When she first meets with these athletes, all they want to talk about is being in the zone.
So when you ask people to describe what it feels like, what language do they use?
Interesting. A lot of them will say things like, I don't remember much about it.
I just kind of was lost.
I wasn't thinking.
I was just doing it.
And it was amazing.
And I loved it.
And I want to get there more.
But as she starts to work with athletes, she tries to shift their thinking.
She tells them not to think about the feeling of being in the zone that they're trying to chase after.
But instead, that they should work on building a solid and reliable skill.
That skill is mental resilience.
Being your best self in all circumstances, whatever that looks like.
You know what I'm only saying?
70% today, but I'm going to do my best to give that 70%.
Mental resilience means being able to find whatever version of
calm and focus you can, even when things aren't going your way.
Those times when you're trying to get your focus or regain it when something is
tugging at your attention, an unexpected move by your opponent, a mistake, bad weather.
It's about recovering from those things to still play your best.
Mental resilience is not elusive or magical. It's a habit.
We have these thinking processes and patterns and skills that we're teaching people to eventually get it to automate.
So it's an automatic process rather than having to turn on that mindset, you become that mindset.
And if we're going to talk about the mindset required for mental resilience,
I want to talk about a sport that I have come to believe requires more of it than maybe any other sport.
A sport where a test of mental resilience is baked right into the rules byathlon.
Meet Claire Egan, Olympic by athlete. Imagine her cross-country skiing, whizzing through the mountains of northern Italy, consumed by the drive to go fast. In fact, so consumed that she would sometimes lose track of where she was and go off course.
It did lead me astray several times, literally, because I was notorious for getting lost.
When Claire Egan would ski, she'd get lost in a sort of beautiful haze, focused only on her arms, her legs, on pushing.
forward. I can just focus on my body, my breath. I'm pushing as hard as I can and harder and harder
as much as I can. But here's the thing. Biathlon isn't just a cross-country skiing race where you can
allow yourself to get totally lost. No, there's another component, one that would often trip
clear up. Because in biathlon, you go from flying across the snow to a full stop. And then you take a rifle
off your back, and on a shooting range that's nearly silent, you peer through a sight and you
try and shoot five targets that can be as small as Oreos, 164 feet away. And those shots, it's hard
to overstate how much making them matters. Everything is on the line. If you miss a target,
depending on the race, you either have to ski extra laps or have minutes added to your total
race time. The pressure is immense.
I grew up watching the Green Bay Packers because my dad's from Green Bay, and probably most
Americans can think of the time when the kicker took the field, and of course there's
two seconds or something ridiculous left on the clock, and you just know, and that kicker knows
if they hit that kick the right way, it's going to be a win for the team, and if they don't,
it won't. And every biflophone race is like that for every. For every,
competitor.
In football, that kicker didn't sprint up and down the sideline 200 times before having to
them.
Exactly.
Yeah.
Right.
Right.
So biathlon is this test of body and mind.
That's the mental puzzle built into the rules, the big test of resilience.
You have to shift your brain from skiing to shooting.
Do it quickly.
Keep your focus.
But when Claire would fly into the shooting range, dripping with sweat, and, you'd fly.
almost delirious from her high-speed racing.
Her brain felt blurry and jumbled,
thoughts swirling around as she tried to slow everything down
and shoot those five Oreos.
I wasn't actually loose enough to be doing what I needed to do.
And so sometimes I would leave the range,
having missed three out of five,
and I'm thinking to myself,
what did I just do out there?
I don't even know what I did.
Is it true that most people miss the last shot or people miss the last shot more than the others?
The shooting statistics for the last shot would be worse than for the other shots.
But that's probably only if you've hit all your other shots.
But what's going on there?
You know exactly what's on the line.
It's easy to become distracted because you start thinking about the outcome.
It's such a distraction.
It's a distraction that is being shoved in your face and it's unavoidable.
you have to be strong in your mind.
You have to be well prepared to say,
okay, I'm distracted.
Now what?
Now what?
Claire was competing in major events,
the World Championships, the Olympics,
and she wanted medals.
She needed to figure out a strategy
for how to handle the mental challenge
at the heart of her sport.
So she made a routine.
As a first step,
Claire tried to identify what she called
her transition area by looking at the race course.
She'd show up early and plot out where on the course
she had to start shifting her mind from
I need to go as fast as I can to
I need to breathe and focus.
She'd pick a change in the terrain or a landmark
like a flagpole.
And physically at that point
I would bring my pace down to a level
where I'm no longer accumulating more oxygen depth.
So I'm not, I don't want to be getting any more tired
than I already am.
And once she got on the shooting range, she started using what she called an emergency check to make sure that she'd really made the transition.
The last thing I need to do is sort of like put my cheek down on my cheek piece and look out through the sights.
The last thing I did before I would lower my head is I would make sure that I could see the target clearly with my eyes.
Like that I wasn't so tired and out of it that I was like blurry because sometimes I was really.
seeing blurry. And so
I would
kind of double check, okay, like, am I
seeing the target clearly? Okay, yeah, now
I can make intelligent decisions about
what I'm doing on the shooting range.
It was all about finding simple,
repeatable cues, a routine
that could consistently get her
mind where it needed to be.
This would also help Claire handle the pressure
of shooting. Quiet,
that inner voice that was saying,
if I hit this, then...
Then I'll have hit all five.
like that's not a helpful thought
and when you recognize,
oh, I've had that thought, that's not helpful,
then you can replace it with something
that actually is helpful.
Like, okay, I had that thought, that's fine.
Now I'm going to take one more breath, exhale,
and then do a really good job on the trigger.
Keeping her mind focused on process
is how Claire learned to handle shooting mistakes as well.
I asked her to tell me about a time
when she really struggled with recovering from an error.
Sorry, not to take you there.
Every race.
I think one of the most painful ones was a race out of world championships where I hit the first
17 and then missed the last three.
That thing about biathletes struggling with their final shots, it happened to Claire.
17 in a row, then missed the final three?
Brutal.
It was a minute of time penalty per miss.
you know, to be in metal contention and then miss the last, like to throw it away in three seconds at the end of the race was so painful.
When Claire thinks back to that world championship race, she struck by how certain she was that she'd make all her shots.
In her mind, it was the only possible outcome.
And my third to last shot, I think was probably really, really close.
In fact, I know it was close.
It was what's called a split.
It was like half in, half out.
But it didn't, the target didn't go down.
And I got so distracted by that.
I probably flinched.
I was so shocked that I missed.
And instead of resetting, I don't even remember taking the last two shots.
You know, I was not, I was distracted.
She lost sight of what she had to do to shoot well, like checking the wind direction, adjusting her sights, and having a steady trigger squeeze on every shot.
This process versus outcome thing, I think it's bled from sports into the rest of the world, almost to the point.
almost to the point of cliche.
I've heard of people in office meetings talk about focusing on process.
It's worked its way into the world of self-help books and podcasts.
Oh, God, is this a self-help podcast?
But yeah, focusing on process is really, really hard.
Because there are all these moments when outcome tries to rear its ugly head and throw you.
And you have to try and refocus on the steps you need to take right now.
But thinking back to that world championship, Claire also sees,
a deeper lesson about the mindset it takes to perform at the highest level.
After her race was done, she ran into a friend of hers, who at the time was the best
by athlete in the world.
He'd made a similar mistake at the Olympics.
He missed his last few shots.
He was kind of joking, you know, how badly did you just throw away your race?
And I'm like, real bad, real badly.
And I, but I said, hey, you know, but I think I remember you doing it in Korea, too.
So, you know, I'm maybe not alone.
Even heroes do this kind of thing.
And he said, yeah, that's true.
That happened to me, but I won the next day.
And that reminded me that what happens the next day is completely unrelated to what happened the day before.
It's a fresh slate.
And that's a beautiful thing.
The one term I've always taught was just sort of flush it, right?
Something goes bad, flush it.
And you just move on.
Oh, yeah.
And people who are.
are awesome at their sport are flushing a lot.
What can you learn and then move on and never think about it again?
Okay, we're 15 minutes into this episode.
You just learn something.
Flush it.
Let's move on.
Growing up, Dr. Nicole Detling loved sports.
In fact, I was the first girl in my school to play football.
She ended up running track and playing basketball in college.
Just focused on her game, wins and losses, points scored, having fun with her teammates.
But one day, she was having a chat with her dad.
My dad called me and said, did you know there's a field called sports psychology?
And I said, what? No.
A whole new world opened up.
Eventually, it would become her career.
But it also started to change the way she played.
One of the first things that shifted, something she now works on with her athletes,
was just a basic understanding that the mental side of the game is always there.
Every time you play physically, every time you train.
every time you think about your sport, your mind is involved. If you don't know what's going through
your mind, you're not aware of what's helping you and what's hurting you. And quite frankly,
it's not even just sports. It's life, it's business, it's performance. It's everything we do every day.
And talk about something that feels like it's worked its way into the larger culture, but just
mindfulness and staying in the moment and just going one moment at a time. I mean, that's, you know,
that's exploded in sports, but in real life too, we have we have apps.
that I try to get us to focus on just this one moment.
Yeah, and it's so difficult in this world
when we have so many things pooling on our attention,
our phone dings, our computer dings, the TV.
You know, we always say in sports,
the most important play is this play and then this play.
There's a line in one of my favorite books
about the mental side of sports called The Inner Game of Tennis.
It goes, it is perplexing to wonder
why we ever leave the here and now.
Here and now are the only place in time
when one ever enjoys himself or accomplishes anything.
And I think about that a lot,
how performing well at anything,
being an athlete, being a manager,
being a partner, being a parent,
is often about giving the present your full attention.
So when athletes come to Dr. Detling,
she convinces them that they need to work
on the mental side of the game,
and then she gets to work to build that mental resilience.
What I'll often do is ask athletes,
okay, tell me how you warm up,
or what do you do between plays? What do you do? What's your process? And then I'll say, okay,
at each one of those points, what are you doing mentally? And most people don't know what they're
doing mentally. So then what I'll do is say, okay, well, here's what we've been working on.
So I don't want you to change what you're doing physically. But when you do this, let's tie in that.
So maybe you're saying a confident statement to yourself. Maybe you're reminding yourself
what your assignment is on that play. Yeah. I mean, I have, you know, memories. It's one of my favorite sort of
things. It's like during a really high level game, let's say there's, you know, 10 people on the
field or the court or 15 people or whatever, you know, if you were just like at a super critical
moment, you know, if you were to look around or even close your eyes and listen, you know, be like,
this person's muttering to themselves. This person's singing a song. This person's tugging on their
lucky jersey. This person is like, oh, you know, but it's like everyone's just doing their own little
their little thing. But it's, you know, you take half a step back. You're like, wow, look at these
bunch of people. I'm sorry.
Yeah, I couldn't agree more.
And that's why those are the things that I look for when I go and hang out with teams is I'm looking for baseline.
So I've noticed you do this.
First of all, did you know you did that?
Second of all, why are you doing that?
And third of all, what's happening mentally while you're doing that?
If that's something you're going to do, let's use it.
Let's utilize it in a positive way that gets you ready for the next play.
There are some things I do to try and keep my mind calm and my body ready.
Before taking the field and ultimate, I'd always do three tuck jumps, just the little routine to center myself.
And I actually don't think I've ever said this to anyone, but for like 20 years, as I've played sports or worked out,
I've had this little snippet of a song that runs through my head, something I find myself humming.
I have no idea what that song is, but it just shows up whenever I'm trying to get into that flow state,
hundreds of times a year for 20 years.
I probably owe whoever wrote that song serious royalties.
But for all my humming and tuck jumps, I've still struggled with slipping out of the moment.
So much of mental resilience is realizing that everything isn't going to go perfectly.
I've worked on that.
I've worked on, here's one of my favorite cliches, getting comfortable, being uncomfortable.
The good news, Dr. Detling says, is that you can train for that.
some of the things that we've done with some of the skiing Olympians that I've worked with,
and actually I'll talk about speed skating too, is we've not waxed their skis, and they've had to train with unwaxed skis, right?
With speed skating, you know what? Your blades aren't quite as sharp as you would want them to be.
Train that way. Train with, you know, forgetting, you know, there's a little, tiny little tear in your suit.
Train without your goggles one time. That's why a lot of teams will pipe in crowd noise.
So they can't hear during training sessions.
They can't hear each other and they're working on those things and training for those things.
Because at the end of the day, we all want to show up and feel great.
But yet there will be comp days.
Sometimes the biggest competition of your life and you show up feeling like crap.
If you've trained feeling like crap, then you know you can compete feeling like crap.
Okay.
So you can train for the uncomfortable moments.
Train to keep some focus when there are uncontrollable external circumstances.
But what about the internal?
What about when you, yourself, are the problem?
When your own thoughts are distracting you,
that voice that pops up at all the wrong moments,
telling you how badly you're doing,
how much the game is slipping out of your hands.
When she was a college athlete playing basketball,
this is the kind of thinking that really tripped up Dr. Deadling
and really propelled her to want to explore the mental side of the game.
I was basically my own living, walking self-affirmed.
filling prophecy where I'd get fouled and I'd be going to the free throw line thinking,
oh my gosh, I'm going to miss this. Oh, I can't miss this. I really don't need to miss this.
Oh, come on, Nicole.
I mean, listening to that, I just missed a free throw here in the studio.
So I was setting myself up for failure and assuming I was going to fail before I even got there
and gave myself a chance.
Today, this is a big part of what Dr. Detling works on with athletes, self-talk.
I think we all know what self-talk is and we can understand that she was hurting her performance
with all that negative self-talk.
We get, too, that the opposite is positive self-talk.
I can do this.
I got this.
That kind of thing.
But Dr. Detling thinks it's a little more nuanced
than just positive and negative.
It's really about what does the talk do for you.
Here's her example.
She's a runner, and she lives in Utah,
where it can get to 100 degrees in the summer.
But she's out there running anyway.
And there will be times that I will catch myself out there going,
Oh my gosh, it is so hot. Yeah, that's true. Oh, my gosh, I'm so tired. My legs are so heavy. Both of those
things are true. And then I start thinking, oh, I could just call my husband and he can come pick me up.
Oh, I could take this short way home. And what I'll recognize in the moment is none of those
thoughts are helping me achieve what I'm out there to do, which is run. And that's negative self-talk.
I will catch myself and Jody, I will literally say to myself, Nicole, you're being fucking stupid.
What it does for me in that moment is I flip a switch and I run.
So in that moment, that is positive self-talk because it's getting me to where I want to be to do what I want to do.
So yeah, it's important to think about helpful self-talk and try and keep unhelpful self-talk at arm's distance.
But easier said than done.
We all know what it's like for your mind to wander.
And then all of a sudden, you're back at self-doubt, that unhelpful voice in your head.
This is where Dr. Detling introduces a concept I hadn't really heard before.
Honestly, my biggest takeaway from our entire conversation, neutral self-talk.
Neutral self-talk is basically keeping your mind occupied and ready, but not exhausted.
What I'll often tell people to do is just in your mind, commentate what you see around you.
All right, number 10 has the ball.
They're moving up to midfield.
I'm going to run to that open space.
Okay, they passed it to the right.
I'm going to drop back a little bit.
make sure this guy's covered over my shoulder.
Neutral self-talk is like hold music for your mind.
And when you're thinking neutral, you're not thinking negative.
And your confidence can rest.
You can play in neutral.
You can live in neutral.
Neutral's a great place to be.
Man, I wish I knew about neutral self-talk years ago.
Because when I played sports, it was rarely neutral.
I'd often ride a roller coaster of emotions.
and often the emotion I most felt was anger.
I've always been one of those athletes fueled by anger
and a bit of animosity towards my opponent.
Anyone who's played against me probably didn't have a very fun time.
I often didn't have much fun playing.
Maybe I was kind of a dick.
But it was also hurting my game.
I didn't have Dr. Detling all those years ago
when I was driven by anger, but I have her now.
How do you handle someone
who is driven by that.
Well, let me ask you.
Let's do a little bit of work here.
So how do you find that place of anger where you like to be?
How do you get there?
Just get petty, but like intentionally, right?
But just, you know, or if it's a rivalry and it's someone I know, you know, use something
from a previous match.
But, you know, I always find that spark.
Like, I don't think I cheated, but I would often, early in a game,
Find a way to scuffle with someone or talk a little shit or be aggrieved in some way.
Just something, a spark to get me motivated and fired up.
Okay.
And if we go, like, think of a scale of 1 to 10 where 10 is like as angry as you have ever been,
like probably maybe even a little too far anger.
One is you have zero.
You're just kind of there playing.
What's your ideal level of anger?
I mean, it's definitely not a 10, right?
Because I think I know what it feels like to be out of,
control and be and the diminishing aspect of that. But, you know, it's close, an eight or a seven,
you know, I can't be, I can't be at a four. So let's say if it's a, if it's an eight,
then your ideal range would be a seven to a nine. So eight's where you want to be seven,
a little too low, but you're okay there. Nine, a little too high, but you're okay there.
And so if you get to that 10, you have to have your strategies to bring you back down. And if you're at a
six or lower, what are your strategies to bring you up? And it sounds like for you beginning a game,
sometimes you have to fabricate it. It's just not there naturally. So then let's go to what are
your specific strategies to fabricate that anger that's not there inherently? And you talked about
opponents. Yeah, go ahead. What else do you have on that? No, and I mean, to me, you know,
I think the thing that I've always prided myself on and I think has put me in a position to
when I've performed well, perform well, is just a level of intensity.
and everything. And so, you know, it's it's the warm up. It's the behavior on the sideline. It's
maybe, you know, mixing it up with teammates in what feels like a way that it's, we're pushing
each other up. But, you know, I can't, I can't just flip the switch. I kind of have to be in this
stew of intensity. Okay, well, there you go. So now you're using the word intensity instead of
anger. So which is it? Is there a difference between those for you? Yeah. I mean, that's maybe that's
Maybe that's the difference between seven and ten, right?
And anger feeling like something that you're sort of holding on to the live wire and intensity feeling like something you can ride a little bit.
There you go.
Now thinking about the difference between those two, anger can be really hard to facilitate.
But intensity is a lot easier.
And so even identifying the difference between those two for you can be incredibly powerful.
Listener, I promise going forward I will podcast with intensity, not anger.
Deep breath, deep breath.
The mental side of sports, it's a new frontier.
No surprise, with all the money in sports, people are trying to figure out shortcuts, shortcuts to focus,
some kind of magical zone pill or resilience wearable or whatever.
Athletes are experimenting with computer simulations to train their minds.
There's research into supplements and hormones that might calm our brains.
I tried to put Steph Curry in an MRI machine during our interview.
He was not having it.
I want to tell you about the vagus nerve.
It's a bundle of nerves, we all have it,
that runs up your neck and around your ear.
It connects all the way down to your heart and your gut.
Some people think it might be the key
to how your brain and body interact.
There's a lot of research into vagus nerve stimulation
and devices you can wear to activate it
with the goal of relaxing your mind and body.
A lot of these devices attach
at your ear and create a sort of low-level sound and vibration.
There's these videos that show someone wearing a vagus nerve stimulator,
and they're on a putting green, and they just stand there calmly, sinking one putt after another.
In fact, over the last 45 seconds or so, we've been playing a version of that sound.
If you're wearing headphones right now, you are likely entering the zone.
Try it out. Go take some free throws, do some writing.
take a knife, throw it in the air, you'll catch it by the handle.
Now, I'm just messing with you.
Dr. Detling says Vegas nerve stimulation might help some athletes in some sports.
It seems to depend on the person and the situation,
and it's hard to know how much is just placebo effect.
It's just not that simple, which is actually what makes this so wonderful.
Think about how dynamic sports are, how complicated the ecosystem of a game is.
Every time you go out there to compete, there's you, there's your opponent, different players, different plays, different field, different weather.
But research is done on controlling variables so that someone like Dr. Detling can say X caused Y.
I will often get asked, you know, where's the objective evidence or the data that shows that what you do makes an impact?
And there isn't any.
I don't have any other than athletes saying that it makes an impact.
coaches saying that it makes an impact.
People continuing to come back to me year after year after year
or hire me year after year after year.
It does make an impact,
but we don't have the scientific evidence to prove that.
We just don't have the capacity to study it yet.
Perhaps someday we will.
I love the idea that sports are too dynamic to study.
The drama, the constant change, the unpredictability.
It's what can make sports feel like life.
Life is usually more messy,
than clean. Lord knows it's uncomfortable. But that's where the lessons you learn in sports
can teach you something about the rest of your life, too. I've personally had, what, 10, 12 surgeries
now related to sports. So an athlete comes to me with an ACL. I'm like, yeah, I know, I've been there. I got
you. Okay, let's do this. So whether it's, you know, having those injuries or it's having,
you know, personal struggles, I'm on my second marriage. My first husband just walked out the door one day
and my kids were six and three.
And so as horrible as that experience was,
and to go through that experience,
it's helped me help other people
who go through similar things.
We are all so much stronger than we think.
We can get through so much more than we think,
and that's part of what mental toughness is all about,
is not that you're always this stud out there,
but that you're pushing through whatever it is
that you're dealing with.
You're figuring it out.
And some days it's easier than others,
but you continue to persevere.
You do your best on your,
worst days. You leave your mistakes behind. Flush it. Get comfortable being uncomfortable.
And on those days where everything is clicking, where you race across the snow and make all your
shots, where you're the Steph Curry of reading books to your kids, you just try to stay in the
moment. Why would we ever leave the here and now? Here and now are the only place in time
when one ever enjoys oneself or accomplishes anything.
On the next episode of Good Sport.
What should we do here ethically?
Never, ever comes up when you're negotiating a stadium deal.
Is there such a thing as a good stadium deal?
Or maybe just a less bad one.
Good Sport is brought to you by the TED Audio Collective.
It's hosted by me, Jody Avergay.
This show is produced by Ted.
This episode was written and produced by Camille Peterson.
Our team includes Isabel Carter, Ponzi Rutch, Sarah Nix, Jimmy Gutierrez,
Michelle Quint, Ben Ben-Banchang, and Roxanne High Lash.
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