TED Talks Daily - Two US governors — a Democrat and a Republican — on why there's hope for democracy | Matt Meyer and J. Kevin Stitt

Episode Date: November 12, 2025

Two current US governors — Democrat Matt Meyer of Delaware and Republican J. Kevin Stitt of Oklahoma — trade notes on how to rebuild trust without partisan theater. Hear their thoughts on leading when people live in different realities, how to swap outrage for outcomes and why we need to govern like neighbors, not enemies, as they join us for “On the Spot,” TED’s rapid-fire Q&A format. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

You're listening to TED Talks Daily, where we bring you new ideas to spark your curiosity every day. I'm your host, Elise Hugh. Here at TED, we believe in the power of ideas to bring people together and to build bridges across political divides. So at the second-ever TED Next conference in Atlanta, we invited Democratic Governor of Delaware, Matt Meyer, and Republican governor of Oklahoma, J. Kevin Stitt, to ask each other a series of questions. It offers a rare glimpse

at what productive disagreement could look like and the moments when we realize we have more in common than we think. All right. Good morning, everyone. It's great to be in this hall. It's about the size of Delaware. What can Democratic and Republican

can governors do together to restore trust in government? Well, thank you for that. You know, I think, first off, that trust in the federal government, our founding fathers never envisioned the federal government to dominate every single part of our lives. They thought about this idea of federalism, that the states are closer to the people, that the states know how to educate our kids, we're focused on education, we're focused on infrastructure, we're focused concerned on the economy and health care. And when you have a one-size-fits-all, it is a problem. And so we know that Delaware is different than Oklahoma. Our founding fathers knew that New Hampshire was different than Virginia. And I think if we get back to states' rights and having the states,

this 50 laboratories of democracy, I think we're going to be much better off than a top-down approach. Other countries were a little bit different, where the federal government created these subdivisions, but it wasn't that way in the US. The states created the federal government. Congress has about a 15% approval rating right now, and states are where it's at. That's where the ideas, the innovation comes. I think the more we get back to that, I think the people are happier. You know Delaware. I know Oklahoma. That's right, Kevin. States right. So 10 years ago, I was a 6th and 7th grade math teacher, and I ended up running for Teachers in the crowd.

Not enough of us going to this business, politics. And I ran for office. I ran for a county office. And I'm a pretty progressive Democrat. And I realized pretty quickly the MAGA Republicans, the Bernie Democrats, and pretty much everyone in between

would support me if I kept sewage out of their basement and kept their sewer fees low, if we answer 911 calls quickly, police qualified, well-trained with a sense of the community they're serving, showed up quickly at people's door. I think the way we restore trust in government is we deliver for people. If you go to 50 governments, if you go to 50 governors

across this country, Democrat, Republican, the bulk of our budget is four things. It's education, it's medication, it's transportation, and it's incarceration. And I assure you, if all 50 of us can do those four things with excellence, deliver, and maybe reduce your tax bill a little bit so that it's affordable. I think we will get support and we will win back the American people. That's the way we win the trust of our people. Good. Okay, second question. Even information is now polarized. How do you govern when people may not share our reality or your reality? Wow, you give me the easy ones. You make me start on this one, Huh? My wife is an emergency room physician, and we often joke that when someone comes into her

emergency room, there is no alternative reality. If someone cannot breathe, and the data shows someone cannot breathe, she doesn't have a nurse, or she doesn't say, hey, you're breathing, right? There's a reality. Someone can't show a TikTok video to say, oh, your foot is not falling if it's actually falling off. I wish that that same sense of data and truth that she has in her emergency room I had in my world. I wish that we looked at the data on vaccines, for example, and used that, it's black and white, and use that to make policy for our country. I wish we lived in a world where one social media influencer can't change the course of what data actually says. I think one thing that we both get a palpable sense of is how many Americans today are in echo chambers.

They watch the same TV station, hear the same thing that gives them a pat on the back and reassures them. We need to do everything we can to break those patterns. It's going to be hard for us to build a democracy together without that. Yeah, very good. And I think the reality is we don't all think the same, right? Delaware, like I said before, is different than our state. And I think we all should ask ourselves this question as Americans, because there's people watching. There's probably people in this room that hate me just because I'm a Republican.

There's people watching this that hate Matt just because he's a Democrat, that we're polarized, that we're driven to our corners by social media and the media. And I know Matt, I know his wife Lauren, he has three children. Where I'm halfway to Kevin Stitt, he's got six. That's right. You're not done yet. Don't tell my wife, yeah. We just went to Switzerland together to study education and their model there and bring back these ideas about workplace, workforce learning and apprenticeships.

But the thing is, I know that he cares about Delaware citizens. And I know he cares passionately about education and giving people in Delaware a better life, just like I do in Oklahoma. So I think that it's not our job to change everybody's point of view. I think we need to lead and we need to ask ourselves this question and we need to not just be so driven by polarized politics, and when you bring the humanity out in each other and when you spend time with people that think differently, and this idea that we can debate policy and we can still like each other, and we may have a difference of opinion on how to lead

things. It's so refreshing, and that's why we love doing these type of things together, showing that there's a Republican and a Democrat that actually like each other, and we can disagree, but we don't have to do it disagreeable. That's right. All right, Kevin, what's something your state has done that other states can learn from? Yeah, you know, I think it's very topical right now with the government shutdown and SNAP benefits

are really affecting all of our states. I know governors, we've been on the phone, we've talked, what are you doing, how are we going to meet the needs of the most vulnerable in our state? And so we set up, and really I did this back in 2019 when I was first elected, but I put up a be a neighbor. Be a neighbor.org because I don't believe that you can pass a law in Washington, D.C. or Oklahoma City that can fix some of these social issues. It takes neighbors walking with neighbors. It takes churches and nonprofits.

And so our be a neighbor concept is if you have a need, you can go to this website that we've set up and it connects all of the non-profits. the church communities, the state resources. And so that's something that I'm really proud of. Also, behind them, and we get a little wonky on policy, behind the meter, this idea that we need to win, the energy race that we pass in Oklahoma, the fiscal responsibility that we've done as coming from a business world that I brought to state government. I believe that our job as governors is to be the CEO of our state.

I've got a $40 billion budget, 30,000 state employees. I just want to deliver better services for Oklahomans. And I think that sometimes we elect people that don't have that focus. They're more playing politics and actually delivering for the people. And you said that great well ago, too. Yeah. So that's great. I know in Oklahoma, I know in Oklahoma there are a lot of Taladaean night fans.

And, you know, I'm a big fan of, there are in Delaware, too. I'm a big fan of Ricky Bobby. I love Ricky Bobby, yeah, who says, if you're not first, you're last, I happen to be from the first state, so I just want to put that out. And what we're trying to do, what we're trying to do on a serious note is we're trying to put affordability at the center of everything we do. What's happening, I believe now in today's economy, is you have billionaires with greater opportunity to build their wealth and working people who are getting squeezed by public schools that don't seem to be working. by energy prices that are skyrocketing, by health care that seemed saddled with 20th century problems and costs that seem to have no end.

So we have an affordability agenda. We're working on building a medical school so that the medical providers will be available in our state. There's never been a medical school in our state. We're working on streamlining permitting, something in which I think we agree, getting rid of what the former president, someone I like, called bureaucratic malarkey,

getting rid of all the friction, that prevents us from building the housing that our people desperately need to bring down rents, and we're working on building new energy sources, something that desperately needed for our economy and so people can afford their power bills. Thanks.

If you could fix one aspect of American political culture, what would that be? One? Fifteen years ago, I was a diplomat. I was a U.S. diplomat embedded with the Army for 12 months in Mosul, Iraq. I wasn't a soldier, but I lived on a base with 10,000 soldiers during Operation Iraqi Freedom.

And what was amazing is there were soldiers on that base from every corner of America. I said, I went to Iraq. I thought I was going to learn about Iraq and Arab culture, which I did, but I learned a lot more about America. And there was a team there. I left the base two or three times a week to go and meet with Iraqis to build a lasting peace.

And we weren't always on the same page with the Iraqis we were meeting with. but the American team was a singular team. I often wonder in Delaware, how come when we're talking about housing or health care education, we're talking about growing our economy, they're incredible divisions. How do we build that same sense of teamwork? We're in the midst of the greatest human experiment

and self-government that's ever occurred. We're in almost the year 250 of this experiment. I think we need to find a way as Americans to sit on stage together, to break bread with each other, to understand that we can't just channel all of our energies into knocking each other down. There are opportunities to be made in Oklahoma and in Delaware that people will realize if we do find a way to work together.

Good, good. You know, the one thing I would change, Governor, is just inject more integrity into politics. And what I mean by that, you know to me integrity is doing what's right just because it's right even when it's costly and i think politicians especially that's why people hate politicians is because they can see right through them they're not doing what's right they're blindly following some uh teams it's either your skins or shirts you're democrat you're republican and and uh and you blindly are following things let's

call a spade a spade and let's not be driven to the corners. Most of America, you've got 10% on the far right, 10% of the far left, but most Americans are right there and they're taking their kids to piano lessons and soccer practice. They want the best life for their for their kids. They want the best education, the West health care system. And so I think the more that we can talk like this, that we can come together as Americans and stop being so polarized and really debate the ideas, I think the better off will be. I also, I'm a huge fan of President Lincoln and at the end of Civil War, it was almost over, and he was doing his second inaugural address, and he talks about a malice towards none and a charity for all. And there was people that

wanted to, you know, punish the other side. And much like we are today, we've got a pendulum swinging from one side to another, depending on who's in office. And we've got to stop that. I don't think Americans like it. You can't weaponize the Department of Justice. You can't cancel business deals based on politics, one side of the other. We've got to allow Americans to innovate and meet the needs of Americans. Right. So next question. With AI's influence on education, what happens to the neighborhood public schools? You know, it's interesting. It's been said that the one thing Democrats and Republicans can

agree on is social media needs to get out of the classroom. many kids off social media. My first year of teaching, I was in a program called Teach for America in Washington, D.C. The TFA in the house? And I had, we had no computers in our school teaching the Anacostia section of Washington, D.C. And so we went on a mission to go talk to businesses,

nearby universities, get any computers we can. Within a few months, we had two, three computers in every classroom. We plugged them into the wall and saw kids' faces light up as we brought something called the World Wide Web, where they suddenly had opportunities to explore and learn outside the walls of our school like never, ever before. I think AI similarly presents incredible opportunities.

I think we can eliminate standardized testing in our school. If you look at the tools that AI has, we have better, more thorough assessments of students on a day-to-day basis using modern technology than would otherwise. One of the biggest problems I had is the sixth grade math teachers is some students walked in with fourth grade, fifth grade skills and other students walked in with seventh grade, eighth grade skills. Using technology, we can deliver education like never before that's relevant.

But there are threats. We need to make sure we control the technology and the technology doesn't control us. And most importantly, it's not driven by trillion-dollar companies what our kids need, that our kids, families, and teachers drive what the needs are. So good. So good. You know, one of the technologies that we're trying to implement in schools in Oklahoma,

and back to your point, what amazed me is I observed a sixth grade teacher teaching their class, but this sixth grade student wasn't reading at grade level and was way behind. And I was like, why are you teaching, why are you continuing to give this kid sixth grade material? And she's like, well, I'm a sixth grade teacher. What am I supposed to do? And with AI, we can go back and teach first grade. grade phonics to that kid or second grade and we can bring them up to grade level. We can use technology to benefit our students and get them and help and be a tool for our teachers. So

we're embracing it. I think we need to embrace it. On workforce and education, I think that the thing that we need to think about is get businesses more involved. We just got back from Switzerland. And this idea in Switzerland that compulsory education ends in ninth grade. And then every single kid like signs a contract. It was amazing for us to see. They sign a contract and they actually start going to work because they think workplace education is education. And so these kids, it's permability. They can also go work. They get accreditation, but then they can go on to college if they want to. And so it's not a dead end like we think of it here in the U.S. that, oh, if you're going to a vocational school, you're a dead end person, right? We want them all going to college. It's not

that way in Germany, Switzerland. And I think we need to reinvent ourselves. And they were making money, too. It was amazing. The kids were making a thousand Swiss francs at 15, which is, I don't know, 13, 1,400 U.S. But it was a great model, and we're bringing that back to Oklahoma and Delaware to get kids more engaged in the workforce. That's right. All right. Last one. Kevin, what gives you hope for American democracy? You know, as the chair, we're both in the National Governor's Association. It's the bipartisan group of all the governors. I'm the chair this year. and my initiative is reigniting the American dream. And the American dream is this idea that is so unique to our country.

And other countries all want to come here because the idea is that you can be anything that you set your mind to. It doesn't matter who your parents are. It doesn't matter if you were rich or poor through an education system, through free markets. You can achieve your American dream. And there's as many dreams as there are people. And it may be that you want to coach your daughter's soccer team or you want to start a nonprofit or you want to start a business. Whatever it is, you have the freedom to do that.

And as long as the American dream is alive, I think the American democracy is worth fighting for. And we need to fight for that. And we need to not teach our children that there's such things as, you know, equal outcomes for everyone. But we want equal opportunities to go chase those dreams. And I just am so passionate about that's why I think education is so. important to giving those kids, those opportunities, and expose them with what's possible. Because God has uniquely created everybody differently with great skills and desires and abilities and giving them everybody an individual ability that we want to help that next

generation find. And I think that's the greatness of America as we are different. Delaware's different than Oklahoma. But it is worth fighting for. And that's why we're up here demonstrating that we do get along. We do like each other. And we do. we can lead our states, maybe a little differently, but it's still American. We're still fighting for it. Yeah, I call that, I give him a round of applause for that. I call that, Kevin, a diverse, equitable, and inclusive America. So don't use the initials.

Don't make them use the initials. Listen, I got to be frank, I didn't really come here to say this, but last Tuesday's election gave me a little bit of hope for American democracy. I think I'm outnumbered in this room, actually. Listen, I'm a big Simpsons fan. And there's one of my favorite episodes of the Simpsons is when the Simpsons go to electroshock therapy. You know, if you feel empathy for the ones you love,

you're going to care for them. And they shocked each other for a few minutes until all the power goes down in Springfield. And I feel like when I look at Washington, that's a lot of what's happening right now. The point I wasn't, we weren't sure if we were going to be able to fly here, maybe with what's going on, we'll be able to get out, no problem. Our people literally aren't able to eat or haven't been able to get SNAP benefits.

Listen, there are an opportunity here for us as governors sitting together as human beings, as Americans. Go and talk to someone who disagrees with you, not to argue with them, but actually to listen to them, empathize with them, understand the position that they come from. That's what I had to do as a teacher. That's what many Americans do. And that's how we ultimately have hoped for the next 250 years of this great experiment in self-governance. Thank you very much. Thank you.

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