Ten Percent Happier with Dan Harris - How Not To Be A Jerk (Even with Difficult People) | Bonus Meditation with Oren Jay Sofer

Episode Date: July 23, 2021

With guidance from Oren, this session will let you experiment with ways to find a genuine sense of kindness for yourself and for others. To find this meditation in the Ten Percent Happier app, you can search for “Practicing Kindness,” or click the link for the ‘Kindness: Ted Lasso Style’ singles meditation pack: https://10percenthappier.app.link/KindnessTedLassoStyle. Watch Ted Lasso on Apple TV+. Subscription required. Apple TV+ and/or select content may not be available in all regions. About Oren Sofer: Oren Jay Sofer teaches mindfulness, meditation and Nonviolent Communication. He has practiced meditation since 1997, beginning his studies in Bodh Gaya, India and is a long-time student of Joseph Goldstein, Michele McDonald, and Ajahn Sucitto, and is a graduate of the IMS/Spirit Rock Teacher Training program. He holds a degree in Comparative Religion from Columbia University and is the author of Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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named Ted Lasso who's a football coach based in the US. But the conceit of the show is that he gets called over to the UK to coach a soccer team, even though he knows nothing about soccer. And the reason he's really able to keep his head above water and actually succeed is that he deploys the tried and true tactic of being a high quality human being. In other words, he's very, very nice. So the question for all of us is, how can Ted and how can you remember to be kind when you're under a lot of pressure? Just as in sports, the answer is, of course, practice.

And to that end, 10% happier has created a free pack of meditations to help you cultivate kindness in your everyday life. In fact, the meditation you're about to hear is from the kindness meditation pack, which is available on the 10% happier app. If you want more of these meditations, just download the 10% happier app wherever you get your apps and then tap on the singles tab to find the rest of the aforementioned kindness meditations or you can just click the link in the show notes here. All right, let's get started now with this guided meditation from Orinj Sofer. Hey there, this is Orin. Let's start by finding a comfortable posture and settling in. Take a few moments to do whatever helps you to shift gears.

I usually like to look around the room, orienting to my surroundings. You might want to take a few deep breaths, relaxing your jaw and your shoulders. And whenever you're ready, go ahead and let your eyes close or let your gaze be soft. Feel your body sitting and breathing. In this session, we'll experiment with some different ways to find a genuine sense of kindness for oneself and for others. Approaching relationships with some warmth and care can go a long way to work through a rough patch and bring us together. It's not always easy to find, so it's helpful to have some reliable ways to get back to a

baseline of goodwill. As you tune into the breath, see if you can get a sense of its natural rhythm. Our life depends on it, so each in-breath is like a little gift. Each out-breath brings some ease and relaxation. Check this out and see if you can sense the simple kindness of allowing your body to breathe quietly. Next, let's use our imagination to bring up the sense of care and goodwill. I'm not talking about some rare, special state here, just that ordinary, simple sense of kindness. I invite you to think of a good friend. Someone you enjoy spending time with who it's easy to be around. Go ahead and let that person come to mind. You might even get an image of them.

Imagine them smiling at you, really looking right at you. Now, notice how you feel. What's it like to think of this person? As you reflect, you might notice some warmth in the center of your chest, or a pleasant Let yourself really take it in. Let it nourish you. When you're ready, you can let your eyes open. Bring your attention back into the room and the space around you. Thanks for joining me. Thank you, Orin, and we'll see you right back here on Monday for a brand new episode with Dr. Cristiana Wolf. We're going to talk about managing pain, in meditation, and in your life. [♪ OUTRO MUSIC PLAYING [♪ Hey, hey, prime members.

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