The 85 South Show with Karlous Miller, DC Young Fly and Chico Bean - Demetria Obilor in the Trap | The 85 South Show

Episode Date: February 3, 2023

TV personality Demetria Obilor talks about her new show on Revolt called “Black Girl Stuff,” where they discuss social issues and giving voices to people who don’t have a platform to share their story. Demetria also talks about being a journalist and news anchor before making the transition to the entertainment world. || Subscribe to 85 SOUTH on YouTube: www.youtube.com/c/The85SouthShow || Twitter/IG: @85SouthShow || Our Website: www.85southshow.com || Custom Merch: www.85apparelco.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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You keep bringing that guitar to work, man. When you're going to use it one day? That's just sound like when goddamn James Brown was on this way to the concert. This is one of them angry black men. That's what I'm saying. That's what I'm saying. Exactly.

Got to have that bass. You got the base right down. Mm-hmm. He's scared to play this shit, don't. Ooh. Hey. Hey. Man, you gotta walk with the bass.

Bro, don't them hats look like Jimmy John's logo. I don't care what you've been told, Jack. Get off of my back. Yeah, I can see why you say that. I can see that. It is right there. I didn't see it, she said. What you've been told.

It was all the two. Get off of my back. Black man. So what did you say? That's not what I meant to do. So where are you from? I'm from Kansas City. Kansas City.

Yeah. It's very. Yeah. See? It's another one. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know.

That's town business. When I thought that's town business. When I thought, yeah. Yeah. My first time. going to Kansas City, Missouri. I thought Kansas City, Kansas was like, a world away. This shit is seven minutes away, my nigga.

No river, no railroad, like, just right there. I'm like, the mall that you go to is in Kansas City, Kansas. If you live in, the good mall is in Kansas City, Kansas City, Missouri. What? No, no, no, no, no. We have the plaza in Kansas City, Missouri. The Chiefs play in Kansas City, Missouri.

The Royals play in Kansas City, Missouri. What's the mall in Kansas City, Kansas City, Kansas State? Don't do this with her. They beefed out. I don't know what happened up there. The legend is the outdoor outlet mall? No, the one with the Nordstrom's on it. Baby, that's, that's, that's, uh,

this Kansas in Missouri on the plaza. Uh, I don't know about the plaza, no, no, not that the plaza is an indoor mall. No, it's not, it's outdoor. I mean, the one I'm talking about in Kansas City, Kansas is outdoor, it's an indoor mall. That's nothing, that's in Kansas. Boy, you're talking to me like y'all plus and crips,

no disrespect. I'm just saying, like, hold on now. Let's like, you know, let's get it right if we're gonna get it at all. Like, you know, I mean, this is our city. And Chico be going to the mall. Because I go to cities and I go to the mall and they'd be like, you know your boy,

Chico came to, I know he needed it. If I know anything, I know the malls in every city, so. You don't do any online shopping? No. You just got to feel it in person, see if the past fit you right. Yeah, because that shit come and it don't fit right, and then you gotta end up going to the mall to take it back.

So you might as well go to the mall first time and not have to worry about shit. I don't like to feel the fabric, see how it is and everything, see if it fits. So. You made weird these. these days. Exactly.

Oh, for you, you got thick, thick boy problems? Yeah, you can say that. Yeah, you can say that. Yeah, you can say that. What's this? Leather right here, you know what I'm saying? No, these are my people, man. Imported European.

What's that? They reached out to them and they said they really like the way I'd be liking the way, you know what I'm saying, that I'd be putting it together, and they reached out to me on some player shit, and they say, you know, we're trying to you this care package because we're caring then. You know what I'm fucking.

with the Kappa shit, but I just always feel strange wearing some shit called Kappa, and I'm alpha. Hey, man, I feel like it's strange, my name. I feel like it's gonna track the right type of energy if you look at the logo. It's two ladies, right? Right naked back to back. They always look like you like it, right?

They look like the truck lady. I just like to put that shit out. Lady on the truck. Well, those, who do we have the pleasure? Oh, we ain't even get to AR. Oh, yeah, I mean, I'm just like, see me at this. Are we starting? Are we starting?

This is the pre to the pre? Yeah. Yeah, because I feel like, I was saying. I wasn't sure. Like, yeah, let's just really get straight. Just the conversation. Let's do it. That's how we get running.

That's how we get running. That's how we run the 85 cell show means now. You know what I mean? You know what I mean? We're still waiting. No, my name is a vibe. Yeah, we're waiting on a few final numbers to come in and things and just let the atmosphere kind of settle.

You know what I mean? Well, that's good. I like that you brought up. Kansas City, because that's what I wrote. Yeah, 100%. I can tell. I can tell. I scoot it over a little bit,

just to be safe. No one. Y'all don't know the elbow coming. Y'all don't know this lady? I know this lady. Oh, bro. You got to know this lady, man. You got to know this lady.

I'll tell you in a minute, but I want to let some of the Jay Brown play for a minute. You can give them a few fun facts before we really just kick in the dough with the po-po. I guess what? Give us a fun fact about Kansas City that we wouldn't know. Something historical about your city. that the majority of the country would not know unless you were from Kansas City. Damn, okay.

You didn't make shit too difficult. No, not the way she just talking about this. She should know everything. Okay, well, okay, so I'm from Kansas City. I grew up off 78th Street, Intrust. Okay, and Trust is, you know, historic street in Kansas City, Missouri because it was the dividing line, right, between blacks and whites, right, back in Jim Crow days.

And so that is very interesting because if you go to that part of the city, There are a lot of, you know, historic areas, and it's just one of those big things. And a lot of people in Kansas City know that. I don't think anybody outside of it would know that. But there you go. Mission accomplished. Yeah.

The dividing line. What's your barbecue spot? I mean, that's Gates Barbecue. Like, I got to give it, you know, that's the original right there. Shout out to Brother King's, he always brings me to him a whole lot of Gitchie's barbecue every time, anytime I'm going. Lord, that big, that big sewer lid. Yeah, it's a Ninja Turtle sewer lid full of meat.

They're all right. And that President's plan. Salute to Brother KT because he will call and just pray for you. Just randomly, man. Just, I don't know. He's always called. Positive brother. Don't want nothing.

He ain't ask you for nothing. He just called and give you a prayer, man, salute to you for that brother KT. I just don't. I get that beef on butt on break right there. You know, in Kansas City is known for its burnt ends. It has the best barbecue in the nation. A lot of people like to debate with me on this subject, but it's not up for debate.

So, you know. I'm an overmail barbecue spot one day. Atlanta barbecue? Mm-hmm. Like, how would you cook the meat? I'll tell you something about him. Mississippi. That nigger on them ribs.

Yeah, cold, motherfucker. Okay, beef for pork ribs, though. Pork ribs. See, I like beef ribs. You don't know. You want the big dinosaur ribs. I like those big, big, you know, meat falling off. There's this other place in Kansas City called Jackstock, and they have gigantic beef ribs.

Just ridiculous. Beef ribs and pork ribs takes totally different. I know. Yeah, absolutely. But I got to see these pork ribs you're talking about this. Shit. I made some ribs so good. That little boy told his daddy,

Dad, I like this chicken. What? He didn't know what else to call this. Dad, I like this chicken. That's some fashic. But you can't use any of that liquid smoke. That's not real barbecue. I don't know.

I gotta make sure. You gotta make the best ribs you ever had with about four ingredients. What? You think I'm gonna get on this show and tell my ingredients? Four ingredients. You got me fucking.

It's probably some pre-made barbecue sauce in that. Yeah, you probably. uses something from Kansas City and ask some sauce is the land day you don't even need no fucking sauce on you. Yeah, they don't you need. You got to put some sauce on the ribs, unless you talk about that dry. I don't like how you're having a damn thing my shit.

I want it butt naked first. I wanted no sauce first. Let me see if you really know what you do it. Then I go see what your sauce is that wild pour the shit though, because that's where you're from. See, I do weird things out of it. I don't eat ribs. I don't even eat ribs, but the time, this was years ago, but when he made them ribs, when I

seen how people was reacting to them ribs, I had to taste the ribs, and I understood why they were reacted like that. Like his father came and crept around. This is his daddy. This is the nigga that birthed him. That nigga that helped him be born. That nigga was sneaking around trying to get to them ribs. As soon as he came in with that tray, that nigger, Popper said,

you don't know nothing about that. Let me get a piece of that. You don't know nothing about that. I was like, damn, Papa, you was waiting on them. And everybody just swung him. I'm like, man, buddy nice like that. Hey, hey, it's the fucking guy right here. Come on.

Come on. Give me credit. What the fuck are you mean? As a man, you got to have one go-to thing that you just amassed as far as chef. What's that for you? Me steak.

Really? Yeah, it's a rap. You're not seeing me. Because I like my steak rare or medium rare. You know what to do with that? Easy. Okay.

I'm just making sure. Yeah, you just hold it over there and be like, you know? Easy. Yeah. It ain't got to be on there long. But it's going to come out right.

But is it going to be right? It's always going to be right. It's never going to be wrong. Okay. Yeah. Just once you get the base thing down, you're done. What about you, Tico? Barbecue chicken wings.

Ooh. Okay. And that's one of the things where it don't matter where or it don't matter what your function is. If I bring those, they're black who made these. I don't get fuck who it is, where it is, white people, black people, Asians. You had Asian people eating your shit? Yes. Birch, yes.

True story. Yes. Barbecue chicken wings. Dang. Jay Wim. Shut your ass up. Hey, that's a lady. Jay Wynn.

What you make? What you make you a lot? Yeah, exactly. What you're going to make for that lady? I'm known for my seven cheese macaroni. Seven cheeses. That nigga holding that good time. He ain't never put seven cheeses in no macaroni.

Ain't no. Name this seven. Ain't no nigga ever even been in the grocery when they start long enough to pick seven for cheese. Sharp cheddar. Mild cheddar. Extra sharp cheddar. Extra sharp cheddar. Regular cheddar.

What y'all not gonna do? Monsterlla. Talk to my popcorn. American. Sharp American. Mild American. Mild American. Miserie.

Swiss. I'm fucking with J.O.W. He probably got three-ed and his shit. That niggins J.O.W. putting Gude in free head, his macaroni and cheese. Oh, man. You know, I'm not gonna think. Wait, okay. I thought you were gonna say, I see I go, but I see.

I see where we at. Niggins gotta get exactly with that macaroni cheese. I put popcorn cheese in there. Pop-porn cheese. Cheese whiz. Hey, bro, my mad I'd be if I walk this, J-O-A, and pushing up some popcorn. Yeah, man, it's going on top.

You ain't even gonna taste it. You ain't even gonna know it's popcorn, my name. Cheese it. Only black fish, but you gotta put them in the mix. Only black meat, cook a bell beer is a type of cheese. It ain't velvita. Do you have a dish that you make?

Are you a cook? Yeah, I love to cook. I love to cook. things because it's really just me. So I was like, I just, what? Is that your way and saying your stuff is a little nasty? Yeah. No, no.

That's not. It's just, it's an excuse for why I don't know. It's supposed to say. Now, okay, hold on. My responsibilities for Thanksgiving are the greens and the macaroni and cheese. Okay. Those are important.

Those are my side. You're a side chick. I know. I know. Sometimes side chicks do it better. I don't know what to tell you. That's what I'm saying. No.

It's an untapped market. I think there should be a lady, some lady who plays off of that. Those are important, though. You just, and call it the side chips. Those are some of the staples for Thanksgiving. And it's a restaurant with nothing besides. Hey man, this would be the perfect time to tell them.

Welcome back to the 85 South Show. For those of you who don't know, man, I'd really be out here in these streets, in traffic on the weather channel. Up early, drinking coffee, watching the news. And I always tell ya, it's all about bringing people to the trap that y'all don't know nothing about. Now this lady right here,

yeah, you got it. Come on, I said it. I told her, I said, hey, you gotta come to the trap. Now she didn't came down here, they got a whole show. Ladies and gentlemen, and welcome to the trap, Demetria. Yes, yes, yes, yes. Thank you for having me.

All the way, thank you for coming. Well, you might remember me from your show out in Dallas a few years ago. You got the chop on the dresser, baby. Yeah. All right. That's a classic. That's a good old legendary song. I mean, right.

Baby. Exactly. Radio issue. That's what that was. Chop. That was that shit. All the way. No, but I'm excited to be out here.

You know, I'm hosting a new show for Revolt TV called Black Girl Stuff. You love. Yes. You guys are going to have to come on the show to. Oh, yeah. What is Black Girl Stuff? girl stuff. Black girl stuff, I mean, it's everything. On the show, we talk about social

issues, fun stuff, too, and it's through the lens of basically this very diverse cast of black women who come from all different walks of life. And, I mean, it's just amazing. I feel like we're giving voices to the voiceless here, and you've got to catch our next show.

It's going to be dropping here in a couple of weeks, so. You know what you should do? You got black girl stuff. You should have a segment called a side chick segment where women come make sides. Okay, because I was about to say you better I don't say that, because I don't know nothing about the rest of that. I'm talking about the sides. Yeah.

You just, we got to stay with me. It's size. They come and make greens and macaroni and, you know, because we know how to, we know how to make the main. Well, that's why you have the man to make the main. Then I'm gonna come in here and, you know, make everything else. You know, you gotta have them side. Then you flip that.

I feel like we get shorter in this deal. I remember they used to make both. They didn't need to make both. I'm not, fuck that half shit, man. I'm not doing that. I'm talking about on the grill. I was thinking the grill. Because anything outside the grill, I'm not.

Yeah, that's right. You know what I mean? I want to get to that point where you get to head a towel over your shoulder. I think when you grill, you don't just get the head of towel over your shoulder until you reach a certain point in life. No, this is how you know you're really good on the grill.

If three people call you before you put any meat on it, that's how you know. If you started cooking yet, no, we ain't going to do nothing about 2.33 o'clock. We're on our way. You know, shit like that. When you start getting them calls, When people ask you, do you need anything and they bring it?

Because that's when the shit, they're like, all right, that you got out of your need. When you ask somebody run to the store and they run right to the store. I'll be right back. That's it right there. That's it right there. That's a real one. So how did it start for you? I mean, of course we know Kansas City, Missouri, but how did you get into doing what it is that you do?

Oh, man. So I went to KU, right? Rock Shop. Let's go. Rock J-J. You know. Like, right. Rock Chalk, Jayhawk.

Yeah, that's our chant. Winners only, you know what I'm saying? Let's put that out there. What? I'm just saying I've got school pride. I don't win. I'm just saying, that's Kansas. I went to school there.

I went to journalism school. I worked in Kansas City at a TV station. I started off doing traffic. Then I went to Vegas, which is kind of like my second hometown. And they started calling me traffic bay and stuff. But, you know, I was really good at my job. And then from there, I got the call to Dallas. and I started working there as an anchor, traffic,

digital show host, all of that. And, you know, we just keep climbing, climb and climate. So, yeah, it's been a ride almost 10 years. Traffic Bay. Yes, hashtag traffic bay. Look at it. We remember it. Oh, you remember that?

We remember it. What do you remember about it? I saw the little bit, because you know you had a little thing. They were saying you wasn't supposed to be like this. And, yeah. Yeah, chance the rapper showed big love on that. Yeah, how you're not supposed to be how you are. Yeah, I was just a body shaming.

type of thing where a lady didn't, you know, felt like I was too big to be wearing the clothes that I was wearing and so. Nah, her dude was watching too close. Yeah, that nigga was watching too much. Yeah, he had to see, he used this. Hey, shut the fuck, no. I need the time.

Can you make, Tybalt me and leave me to fuck alone while traffic, you go. Go fix some stuff. She said, oh, shit, I didn't know what the temperature is. It's trap it, yeah, fuck it. Shut up. I've been with you for 22 years. I asked you for 22 years.

A day all the way. Well, yeah, some people even have hit me up, you know, saying things about my traffic segments. I don't even know if I want to get into it. But just crazy things. I mean, working on the news, working on television. I mean, you get all of those crazy messages in D.S. I've had people, couples come at me like, would you? I'm not going to say anymore.

I'm just saying couples come to me. Like, your segment really gets us going. And I'm like, wow, this is really interesting. Who knew? Some traffic on 435 would have people losing their minds. I don't know. Yeah, I feel it. I understand.

Yeah, I don't know. I don't know. I'm like, I shop at Dillards all the time. I don't know Dillard's time. I understand. I understand. I understand, man. Diggas be just bored at the house, man.

Anything that can spark that relationship up, man. You never know. Diggins go turn that TV on that traffic on like, baby. Come in here. You imagine the motherfuckers in jail. The whole jails you're quiet. Nobody got nowhere to go. Well, you know, it's crazy.

You're not going to worry about traffic like a month. Shut the fuck on. Freeway backed up like a motherfucker. No, but a lot of my supporters have, you know, sent me jail mail and stuff, prison mail. I've gotten a lot of that. Well, first of all, I mean, a lot of them are really nice. Sometimes they'll get out. Like, this happened a lot in Dallas.

Like, I've been working out. The guy just got out of jail and he was like, hey, I used to watch you all the time. Like, it kept me going. And I'm just like, I'm glad you. I got to get this. Hey, man, turn the goddamn camera round, man. Stop, bro. Stop, man.

Fight for my kids. Keep me going. I can't. No, but it was, you know. Stop, man, stop. That was a lot of a go thing. There was even some people who were music artists. Can't believe you did that.

Man, they were in jail. What else were they doing? My updates were very informative, Chico. No, there were some of that, but then some of the weirdos, too. Unfortunately, you get that in every business. like the people who become stalkers eventually. How do you navigate that as a woman? I mean, just as a woman doing anything, you have to navigate that,

but you're a public figure. So one of the things that people that aren't public figures don't understand is when you go out, you only see who you see, but everybody sees you. So how do you navigate, you know, living your normal life, being somebody that you already get it from what you do and then being a lovely lady, like how do you deal with that? I'm going to be honest. It's not been easy.

I mean, in Dallas, you know, I love Dallas, Texas. the people are so supportive of me, but some of the worst experiences in my life happened in Dallas, Texas. I had three adult men that, you know, I had to pursue legal action against people that I'd never met in my entire life that were stalking me actively. There was one man who came to the TV station like 3.30 in the morning. That's when we're at work. And he came dressed in a tux with a sign saying, Demetri, will you marry me with the ring? And the security was so convinced by what he looked like in his whole, you know, get up like, oh, Demetria must know him. They almost let him into the studio. And this is somebody who had been following me.

I mean, sending really, you know, profane, really terrible things to me. It just was very, very scary. Like, you know, even to this day, like, I still have to deal with it. And these are people I've never spoken to, aside from saying, the police told me to tell you to stop, or you're going to go to jail, and they don't stop. And so it just was that constantly, and it's something that I'm constantly having to deal with. And so I'm a very friendly person if you catch me in public. But sometimes I'm like, yo, just, I got to be careful because there's a lot of people out there.

You don't even know that they've sent you 20,000 messages, and they're coming to you in person and you don't realize that they've been stalking you for years. And they didn't take everyone that you ain't answered personal. Like, I know you know what I said. I know you look.

And there's some people get really angry and men who threaten violence and stuff. I mean, that and all of the dozens of, you know, pornographic images, well, it's more than dozens, hundreds. She got nays out there, like, slim-off players club. I mean, it's crazy. Right. So, yeah, it's hard.

It's hard, you know. So be, you know, gentle with your work. Yeah. Hey, man, just because you see somebody every day don't mean, you know that person. That don't mean. Well, there were people who would think I'd be speaking to them in code doing my traffic reports. They'd be like, oh, you said 1408, E-71st was the first digits of your phone number right there, right?

And they would be sending me stuff from prison, just weird stuff. No, I don't know. I was just given an address for a traffic report, avoid this area. What if he got it right? He wasted his chance to win a lot of things. Where would you receive your jail mail in? You know, some people would send it to the TV station, and then some people had found my home address, you know. And so that was really, really.

scary and so then it's like oh I got to get the police involved and so it's like constantly a police matter you know because you have to document my address but you're here now yeah that's what I'm here now are you still in Dallas I'm here in Atlanta right now because that's where the show is filmed but we already they already broadcast it you know we're going to show it later yeah but I'm always you know I'm everywhere right but it's like yeah we shoot the show here so when I'm working is it a love for what you do that keeps you from saying fuck this shit and you know not being a public person anymore because I'm sure that's

traumatizing, you know what I mean? You get unsolicited everything. Like, is it just simply the love for what you do? Or do you have an ultimate goal that you're trying to get to that you just... Ultimate goal? All the way, Chico, I mean, I don't let anything stop me. It's nothing that you can say to me. I mean, you could try to scare me, do weirds, whatever. I don't... You know, this is my

path. This is what I'm built for. And I'm from Kansas City. Like, you know, we grow up a little tougher. I don't know. But I'm just like, I don't play that. And I'm getting the thing and I'm just like, I can start talking that, you know, talk right now. but I don't play about that. Don't even do it. Don't you know what?

You know, try me like, you know. But, yeah, other than that, I think that people who follow me, who've supported me over the years, like, they know my heart. I'm a good, strong person, and so try it if you want. Yeah. Welcome to Pretty Private with Ebeney, the podcast where silence is broken and stories are set free. I'm Ebeney, and every Tuesday I'll be sharing all.

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Yes. Welcome back to Black Man Stuff. Yeah. Oh, my high street. Yeah, we got a show called Black Man. We didn't even know we had the show called Black Man Stuff. Right. We were just talking about, you know, inflation and the, you know, the housing crisis and things of that nature.

Because, you know, us as black men, we have to be worried about shit like that. Hell yeah. So how do you feel about the Atlanta traffic? I gotta get your perspective on this on you, the traffic later. Oh my God, it's crazy. You thought you were gonna come here and not talk traffic with us? Right here? Yeah.

I'm 75 South. No, hold on. Yeah, no, it's crazy. I mean, the thing that people warn me about coming to Atlanta is like, don't have road rage, because you never know what somebody might do, right? And I kind of have a temper and stuff. Like, I'm definitely that person. You got to relax.

Oh, you got to relax. I was like, let me relax because I was like, I don't ever know. That is ironic because the traffic lady got broke raised. That's dangerous right there. Right, right. But out here, I heard that, I mean, you just got to be really careful how you move. move and one of my friends used to live out here. So for me, I'm just like, okay, let me, let me chill.

Like, you know, I've had people do some crazy things to me on the road, but I'm just like, what is, what did your road rage develop? I was listening to T. Grizzly first day out, and they just hit me so hard that I was like, yo. That's when it started. That's the exact moment that I'm starting. You're like, wearing on my down phone? Yes.

And in the blessed, she's like, fuck these cars. That's crazy. I just listened to my music real loud, everything. That's kind of how I grew up. Like, you know, for me, I just. I just go around a lot of people with 15s in their vehicles. Yeah, the spinners on the wheels and stuff. So for me, it's all about that vibe.

So I vibe so heavy about being cool. Yeah, that's how I feel. Right. Just roll with that. That's crazy. Literally. So for me, I'm like, it gets you in that mode. I'm like, well, go, hold on, chill down, chill out, you know.

You know, put on some usher or something. Relax. It's not that serious. Don't let that music hype you up now. Shit. Don't let, yeah. I'm listening to Little Baby right now. I'm like, you know, no.

Yeah, a little baby won't get to the bag. He won't get back. Make money, man. No, I know. It's been amazing, though. I love that there's so much culture out here in history. It's been great. I feel like, you know, I need a little bit more time to do some exploring and stuff.

But you guys are going to have to show me. The atmosphere is just, in Atlanta, it's just different. Especially when you, you know, doing something. Mm-hmm. It's always when you have a job, yeah. Yeah. So when you're doing, you went to journalism school, so I'm taking you a communications major in college.

Journalism major. A journalism major. So how did you go from journalism and going that path to going to revolt and doing a show that's more, you know, entertainment-based? Yeah, I'm an entertainer. Demetri the entertainer has a nice ring to it, right now. You know, I'm like Cedricentry. Yeah, I know, to meet you the entertainer.

There you go. No. I love him, though. But I just feel like it was the right next move for me. I don't want to be typecast as just the news lady. Like, I'm more than that. And that's never what I just wanted to do. but I looked at some of the people who have the accomplished.

You know what I'm saying? There's so much more that I have to offer, and I think this is an exciting opportunity because they encourage you to have your most truest voice at Revolt. I feel like it's in the name of the network, Black-Ole network. It's really amazing to be there, and I just feel like there's so many opportunities here in Atlanta,

and I'm just really excited to be here, you know? And people have been so gracious and kind, and, you know, I just have been eating a lot, so. That's what you've been doing on? Yeah, I mean, no, I've just been enjoying it, though. I mean, I feel like you never know when you move, like what you're going to find. Yeah.

Like when you go to Kansas City, Missouri, you might find you a nice girl or something like that. I hope I find a couple of them. I hope I find a couple of nice Kansas City girls. There's some nice girls there? Yeah. What do you mean by nice?

Nice, just good, upstanding, wholesome. Holesome? Wholesome women. Yes, some good wholesome women coming out of Kansas City. Yeah. Yeah. They got a little wrong rage. Tough, just a little spice, like some spice, you know what I mean?

Like, but me, I'm the oldest of four, right? I've got three brothers. I grew up, yeah, like kind of. All we did was play dozens. I don't know what y'all call it out here, but all we did was roast people for a living. That's like all we did. I know. Big time is video and on Wilder.

Yeah, that's what I'm saying. She got on the show. You ready. All the way. Now, being a, you know, I went to school for, you know, I was a communications major, but I thought I was going to be a newscaster when I graduated. That's what I thought I was going to do. You have the perfect voice.

It's never too late. It's never too late. Man, do that shit. The thing about it is. Right here. Oh yeah, I used to be, I used to be the sports anchor. Welcome back to Ram News. I'm Anthony Bean here with your update

about the Winston-Salem State versus Livingstone game. Unfortunately, we took the L, but we still put up a good fight. That's what I used to do. All the way. But there's a difference. There's a difference in being on camera in that capacity versus what I'm sure you're doing a revolt. on that revolt, how did you make that adjustment?

For me, I've always fought to be my most authentic self, right? And in the news world, you have to kind of earn your voice. Limiting, yeah. Right? And I did that, though. Because when you come in and you really take what you do seriously and you're great at your job, and I say that, I'm like, I was getting to people, you know, to work

on time all the time. Do you know me? Like, no, I'm kidding, but also, but no, that's the truth. I'm serious about that. And also being new tag. Hell yeah. You can't be late during the traffic. Oh, shit, y'all. Hey, this shit been going for a minute. I was saving people's time getting to work on time to get that bag. You feel and be like, don't take this world, take that. You're part of the day. I take everything that I do very seriously. And so with that, I earned that and it just was, I put myself out there.

I feel like there's some things that I said that people in the news industry would never say in fear of losing their job. But for me, I felt that I had earned the value to say that. And to be like, okay, you know, what's your next move then, right? And to give a voice to the voiceless. I mean, there's some serious things that happen in Dallas, Texas. A lot of black people who've been killed unjustly, and for me, I've always spoke in defense of our people, right, and trying to find justice. And so, you know, some people feel uncomfortable talking about that on the news. But for me, I earn that voice, so I use my platform in that way. And I'm like, I have the value here. Like, I'm really great at what I do. So I'm going to take this risk and see what happens.

That's the kind of advocacy that I respect when you put everything on the line to fight for what's right. That's another thing I can tell you at the journalism school because you talk with your hands. That's my Nigerian side, too. When I heard y'all talking about my guy, what is it? Burnaboy, yes. Yeah. Yeah. That's my favorite part.

Any song right now. Somebody's going to chop breakfast. You know what chop breakfast means? No. It's like, eat. It's like, let's go chop. Oh. I thought he said everybody go to breakfast.

No, let's go chop breakfast. I was listening to it in five in the morning. Like, I got to go to our house. I gotta go. What does Sayo means? Is that just an ad list? He's from a different tribe. And so first, I thought he was

I forget, was it, somebody told me it made me drink. What you know, what you know? You know Igbo? You know Igbo? Yeah, Kedu. Okay. That's what it mean? I don't know.

I don't know. I just knew that, I do that. You know, Kedu. I was just saying back to you, what I mean? Kedu, how are you doing? Okay, that's what's up. And the response, when you say, Kedu, because we're teaching you a little bit of Ebo here.

Like, I'm not the Ebo expert, but I know some things in my dad taught me, you respond, oh, demma. Odemma. Just fine. So your dad is Nigerian? My dad is Nigerian, yes. Have any of you guys been in Nigeria before? No, I haven't had the pleasure.

I want to go. Now there's some beautiful women in Nigeria. Yeah, I know, man. I want to learn how to give you credit cards for it. Hold on, not the scamming though. You're talking about the scam. Boy, I don't want to do it. I just want to see how you do it.

They kicked it up a night. Just give me the game. Just so I can know what to look for. Bro, it's about to happen. Be like, all right, when the number turned to what? I appreciate you, bro. I told you, the first people scamming like that in Atlanta was Nigerians. I see Nigerian dude, he paid for his gas,

the hotel key. I said, Holiday, he ain't got credit card. He said, do, no, no, no, no, no. Don't do this. Don't do this. Don't do this right now. Hey, I said, oh, they scamming, scamming. They scamming, scamming, yeah.

And then you've met some of my family, the Nigerian princess, too. Oh, they imagine. Yeah. They almost got me, brough. Oh, fuck you said, my uncle's daddy left me $55 million. Hey, I need to get to fuck up, bro. All I need to do is respond back.

You need your account. If he can send it to your account, he'll let you keep. No. All right. You're a mess. Y'all are a mess. It's a beautiful place, though. You should go check it out.

You should go check it out. You have to visit sometime. You've been in when you go. God. I just want to go to Africa. I want to hit a few countries, man. I want to hit a few countries out there. Nigeria on the list.

Really? I've been to Africa. I've been to Egypt. I've been to Northern Africa. I haven't been to, you know, I want to go to Nigeria. I want to go to Central Africa and South Africa. We have a big follower in South Africa. Oh, wow.

They rocked one down there. Oh, man. What? I mean, it's just to South Africa specifically, though. Like, I've seen, I've gotten videos of people in South Africa. videos of people in South Africa, like, in parties and groups of people, and they got us playing, like, on the TVs and shit in the park. I would have cried if somebody sent me some shit like this.

What's going to be crazy then? You don't remember that video? They put their tag dollars on it. You got to find it. Yeah, yeah. He cried at the time. He just don't remember, yeah. That's the type of shit that's beautiful, man.

I definitely want to go. They'd be all up on the mountain with their age. I'd be like, oh, they took you overseas? That's crazy, too. And just see them in the airport, seeing somebody in the airport. somebody in the airport with the stuff, R.B. Like, oh. Somebody sent me some shit from Russia, though. What? Yeah, they was

watching the shit over there. Right? Well, you wasn't supposed to accept that. Don't say that on him? Well, yeah. He said it was rush delivery. Rush delivery. The UPS man was rushing. When he brought him in Philadelphia let this shit ride, nigga, we're good. Yeah, you're right. He's the blackness. They got to give us back Britney Griner first, though. Come on, man.

She's still over that? They got to give us back our girl. Yeah, she's still over there. Yeah. They got to get her. Yeah. I got to get her. I got to That you got on the table right here. That's, you know. Hey, let me see the line too. And they got to get her back. And they got to let the people go over here

that's still locked up for weed. If you could get weed and you could trade that shit on the stock market, then what the fuck we're talking about? Why people still locked up? No, I'm saying, bro. Damn, my shit. That's great. They do need to let her go, man,

because soon as she get back, we're gonna smoke so much weed for her. And she's gonna smoke it with you. I'm saying like it's gonna be a blowback. Oh, yeah. There you go. Now, now, like, Being in the industry, you know, that you're in the entertainment industry, is there anybody who you grew up watching or that you watched now that motivates you to, you know, who are

some of those people for you? Jay-Z, Lil Wayne. Okay. Is it all rappers? Yeah. You are the most gay-and-news? Yeah, no, I'm sorry. People ask me that all the time and it's like, who's probably expecting to hear, you know,

some famous journalist? I thought you're going to say, Connie Chunk. No. No, I didn't know. That's the family guy. She's a real person. No. She said, Connie Chung from Family Guy, my name.

That's crazy. Isn't that the real? Okay, I might be one. No, she's real news. That's Maury's wife. Mori's wife. She was the news lady. Okay, well, I watched too much family guy, sorry. She was the shit.

No, okay, no, I know that, but dang, okay. Well, see, that just shows you what, for me, what inspires me is music. Like, I love music. Like, I sit here, talk about the college dropout, or I talk about the black albums from my most favorite. I was talking about, I have this tweet that's always been popular. about J. Cole. And I love J. Cole, but I said, you know, it's Friday. I ain't trying to hear no J. Cole. Okay? And so people just resweeted that like a storm. But I love Jay Cole. One of my favorite projects from him ever, you know, Friday Night Lights, because it's inspiring to me. You see the hustle, the hunger and the journey and that's where I'm at. So I love it. I'm the black album. Like, I'm like, yo, I love that. I love that. I love that. I love it. I'm like, you know, when I think about, college drop out last call. Of course. Oh, yeah. A blueprint. Reasonable doubt. I mean, all of that. I mean, all of that. But for me, there's so many songs on there, like, you know, when I think about encore, you know, when I come back like joy and wearing a four, five, it ain't to play games with you.

There's so many inspirational lines there. Polly maim you. Lo, you're the smithereens. Take one for your team. And I need you to remember what thing? I came my saw a car. So, if you want this encore, I need you to stream until you, you know, so we can quote hove all day.

Like, that's the kind of stuff that inspires me. The blueprint to me, in my opinion, and the blueprint is the best rap album ever made. Favorite home line? He said all time. No, as far as structured album, it's not my personal favorite as far as my personal, just in my, you know, this list, but as far as structured albums from one to the bottom, like it's really a blueprint.

You get from the first song, if you listen to it from one all the way down to the last song, it's literally a blueprint, how to make it as a black man in America, no matter what your situation is. Had that number up with the one I said before. You were down looking at one smart black boy. Mama ain't raised no food. Put me anywhere on God's green earth. I triple my worth.

You know what? I love it. See, that's what inspires me right there. So for me, it's just, I love it. Like, I just do, man. I could quote whole Kanye all day, and I do in a lot of my interviews. And I'm just like, those lines mean so much to me. Like, last call from the dropout.

Like, for me, it gives me chills. You know what I'm saying? You think we can still get that deal right? Rockabella. Like, you know what I mean? It's part of the culture now. It's so much like, I remember with ESPN, that was first the little thing where Stuart Scott might say some shit from a song or

somebody. Then it just became a staple and it's like, yeah, now it's like it reaches so many people because it's been going for so long and it's just still time. It's dope and I feel like being here in Atlanta, I mean, in the history of music that's here, I mean, it's just amazing. What you know about Atlanta history?

I mean, don't hold on people quote me on, you know, years and stuff or nothing, but we talk about the music and the artists that have come here, the legends, the icons that live here today even. I mean, it's just, it's dope. I always would say that it was a cash money, no limit, bad boy raised me. That's how I feel.

Right? Okay, so with that thing, excuse it. That shit was an error. That's what I mean? Cash money took over in the prime fucking time, real. It was $9 and $2,000. It was with so much negativity of music,

Like, you could have looked at the positive shit. This niggins looked half. I got a platinum helicopter. I'm trying to put platinum eyebrows on these holes. What? I'm gonna dip a hole. I'm gonna take a brown hole and dip a platinum. I just bought platinum football field.

Exactly. This that music itself, like you listen to that, like, man, that. And plus they be yon. Man, manifest in. I hate a fucking ass. I be back in a brain. in a brand new Fleetwood, Cadillac. License place, save money making nigger for show.

Chillin' by your boy house kissing on these holes. These bras won stars, big dicks down in the draws. Seven days a week, seven brand new cars. Yeah, I done it. Both the GST three hundred, check what's in front. The Navigator, you're not a hater. You're not a hater. The four second flow, so you can see the motherfucking big time is car

show. They're on the left side You got the brand new beds and on the right side Bitch is shaking ass for ears and in the middle Niggas throwing 20s and 10 and on the top Niggas dragging juices with Jed, juices with Jed, juices with Jed Los. New cars, pretty broad, neighborhood superstar, going far.

That's the Super Bowl. Exactly. You know, it's my shit. That's good stuff. Great. With that type of influence like coming from the news world, I know you're dealing with a lot of tenured people, a lot of old mentality. How do you navigate getting those people to see what you see and see the value and what you think?

They don't always see that. You know, I mean, for me, I've always listened to the kind of music that I've listened to, and I always fight for this new idea of what professionalism looks like in the workplace. There are a lot of people who would say, oh, you're listening to Jay-Z. I remember one time I did this post, what was it, bad and bougie, Migos, I was singing in Cuevo's part, and my boss. had called me in at the time in Vegas. She was like, do you want to be a news anchor?

I'm like, yeah, but this is a really hard verse right now. Like, I really like this. You know, it became like that. But for me... You was doing it on the air? Oh, no, no, I didn't sing that part on there. I was just singing it in a video and I posted to my Instagram. And then she, you know, wasn't too fond of it.

There's a time when I was on the news and people were asking me what kind of music I listened to when I work out. I was like, you know, a little jeezy, yeezy. And I got pulled aside and said, you know, Demetria, you know, we don't like all that club talk on television. I'm like, what the hell do you mean? Club talk. Club talk.

What are you talking about? She's like, well, you know how she was scrambling, defined because what she was saying is that you're talking too black for television. That's what they do now, club talk. Yeah, people make fun of my voice and say I have a traditional news lady voice. This is just my voice right here. So it was funny as hell to hear her say that. I'm like, oh, wow.

But it's like that. She probably meant to say plug talk and got it confused. She really wanted to say, I'm not one of your little friends. Yes. Yeah. So you have to like that. She ain't know for it in the words. She meant blood talking.

Let that be the last fucking time you drink Cuevo at my station. All right, I don't care who your Migos are, okay? Next time, you bring some Cuebo to work, you're out of here. Also, now you're a Latina. You bring some Cuevo to work, you're going to have to take off.

That's what you're going to have to do. And, hey, we're not going to offset your fate either. Oh, my God. All the way, all away, all away. Oh, yeah, but you just fight for it. And I feel like a lot of young people who are entering that workforce, right? Because, I mean, there's a certain standard

that's been set there, but you have to prove yourself. And I did, all right? Like I said, I take what I do very seriously, everything that I do. And so I'm really that. I was really that good, right? You know what I mean? I was really that good in my job.

And people think, oh, it was just traffic. It's like, no, I worked with the state. I worked with the county. Like, I was really involved in the community and getting real traffic problems fixed. teaching people. I got to know this. I never knew this.

What the hell? Okay. I had to think about it. Then I thought about the traffic copter, but like, who the fuck is calling in the traffic? Like, I wonder if the news know about this. Like, you're the news lady, but you got like a network of like tipsters and shit. Well, yeah, there are people like that, of course. And then there are also.

You got a Batman computer? That too. Yeah, and they got the bat line to the traffic news studio, right? So they just call it straight in right there. I'm like, oh, for real, thank you. But there also is a helicopter as well. Some stations have helicopters that they have the budget for it, but it's a scanner. We don't have a helicopter.

We did sometimes, depending on the station I was at, sometimes they'd launch it into the air and we'd have those aerial use. You got the police scanner. We have the police scanner. We have the police scanner. You wait for driving and the regular calls come through. Yeah. But they have the three scanners. Look at these niggas.

Turn it all. We live. We laughed. Turn up. They have all of that. They have all of that. motherfuckers fan. Hey, switch the other three.

Switched out of three. That's crazy. They do. I mean, it's cool. You know, you make it what it is. And I feel like I always make the best out of everything that I do. I mean, it was cool, you know? It's cool.

Is it easier? So you're done with the news completely? I don't want to do news anymore unless it's on a bigger scale. I still appreciate news. But as far as local news, no, I'm never going to do local news again. You want to do good morning. You're saying never? Bigger stuff.

Good morning in America. No, I won't ever do local news ever again. Yeah. I get it? She want to be on good day to day, NBC. I have cold dreams. No, it doesn't even have to be that. I just feel like you just continue to build your audience so that you can have doors available to you. There are a lot of things that I want to do. Good morning America.

Yeah, all the way. That's a lot of way. I mean, just, you know, whatever comes, you know, my way, that that's the right fit. And so I'm grateful for this opportunity here at Revolt right now. But there's a lot of things I want to do. I want to do some acting. I want to do some singing. You're in the right city.

Exactly. So you can say, you can blow it. little bit. We'd have heard a few little things. I mean, on the gram, I feel like I'd heard. Oh, yeah, they're roasting me for one video, but I don't take it off. I'm like, you can't pump me. Like, I don't care it's going to be up there. You're going to. You were singing on the shit. Yeah, and they ain't like it. I put some things.

People be hating. Like, what do you mean? Like, hate it. Well, they go, who are they, fuck them? I don't, I'm not worried about it. I'm like, you can't bully me into taking a post down. I'm a grown ass woman. What are we really talking about right now? Like, come on. And I don't really say much because for me, I'm like, just, it's too easy. Like, yeah.

I don't say, I don't get into the base with people online like that. If it's in an educational way, if I want to teach you something or, you know, it's a teaching moment. You can't teach people shit. That's true, but the thing is

is, other people are reading and it's like, okay, I see where Demetra's coming from. You're learning something about me. I'm teaching you about me and my perspective, and I feel like my audience, they want to know more about Demetre,

where does Demetra stand on this issue? So it's like, now you know, right? But they're ignorant-ass people who will delete their comments after you say something. I try never to just, I'm not cussing anybody I don't want. I could, but I don't.

That's a good point that you just made. What do you consider to be your interview skills over here, Chico? You love here now. What do you consider to be your audience? What makes somebody your audience and your perspective? Man, there are people who've been rocking with me since my first job in Kansas City. I feel like people who are interested in what I'm talking about, invested in what I'm saying, the people who follow me on my social channels, whether you support me, hate me,

whatever you're doing on there. You know what I mean? I just feel like I'm putting this out there. I'm giving you content. I'm showing you more about who I am, what I'm about, what I'm trying to do. And that's why I feel. My audience, you know, on Instagram in particular,

I mean, you know, big cities. New York is the number one, and I've actually never been in New York. Isn't that crazy? Why not? Because I didn't have time for a long time, and whenever I had vacation from news, you know, work. Wait, wait, never.

You've never been in New York? I've never been in New York. But New York people rot with me, though. Like, you know what I mean? Like, my number one following is from New York City on Instagram. And that great? You got to go. I am going to go.

Now I'm on the East Coast, I could go, but it was hard, like, that work schedule. I was working 3.30 in the morning, so, like, you know, noon, you get home, you're a zombie, you're tired. You don't have much vacation. Anybody tell you to pick that schedule? I know, well, you know. Yeah, they could have been in late night traffic, man. That's the easy. You know, I know.

Y'all niggas slow down. Amen. Hey, hey, oh, whoa. All right, I do, man. Y'all are a mess. Y'all are a mess. But, no, it's been cool. It should put the red lights on the traffic, the ones that take a long-ass

time to change. Out here, the lights take forever to change in Vegas. No, that should be making, I didn't run two men of them. Yeah, man. They threw a wrenching the game with them cameras. I'm from DC, man. That shit is a hustle, man. They made like $20 million off camera phone pictures from speeding on the, man, that shit.

And then it's like, they get you to where if you stop even, you ain't run the light, but if your wheel is on the white line, line. Fuck five. Yeah. Light your shit up. Yeah. You see that shit and your dumb ass think is, oh, I guess it's lightning. No.

You know what I'm telling you, bro. Ain't nothing like that shit ruined wherever you was on your way too fast. You don't even want to go no more. You're driving that shit, foo-foo! You're like, fuck! Now, the picture be so clear you can't dispute it. I'm hanging out the window on my shit. I'm like, oh, this is me.

That's crazy. That hasn't happened to me yet because I, in Vegas, they do not have those. I have those. Yeah, no. Do they have them here in Atlanta? Some places. Some places I've seen them. Some places.

I'm always scared. I'm like I don't believe in that type of shit. That kind of surveillance. I feel like if the motherfuckers didn't catch you in real life, they shouldn't be able to say shit. Right. You got to, no, fuck that, man. You should have been, if you didn't catch a motherfucker in real life, you shouldn't be able to say shit. I had that same theory about the helicopter.

The police be cheating, man. They don't supposed to use them. They're not for them. Why I can't know if dogs was a wrench in the game too, bro. I told you the dogs, they're not real. They don't exist. Get that out of your head. Ain't no fucking drug dogs.

Not a drug dog. I'm talking about the dog they let loose to come find your ass in that trash can. Not in the capacity that they use that. I won this round. Why, you know what I'm saying? I won this round. You're like, give up again.

Like, bro, I catch me the next time. We're going to see each up again. I won this round. You're going to cheat and let the dog loose. Right, man. They'll be putting their trash. You talk about, you talk about the dogs to go get your ass.

Yeah, exactly. That's, yeah. That's a dog. That's a man. But the drug dogs that you're talking about sniff shit, or they don't do that shit? No, I don't know. I don't know. I feel like those-

They've reported those chases and seen it and, yeah, you're not getting away. Oh, you did the high-speed chases before? Yes, it appears this person is veering off the roadway in a residential area. Yeah, I've seen it. Like four people hop out the car, like, yeah, y'all aren't getting away. Helicopters right there. You're not getting away. That bird, you can't get away from that bird.

You can't get away from that bird, man. That bird. Oh, man. That bird to worry about that. You're like a Hyundai driver. No, that helicopter in love for you. Don't have to worry about it. Let me look right at you.

Oh, such make just shit on itself. Yeah, exactly. That's valuable information. They got the thermal image and all. The heat coming up. It's Steve coming off in their ass. Oh, that's a bad one. There's Steve.

Then you got it. The Steve is running straight. Boobo Man's on the go. Shit man. Shit man to the left. Oh, my God. Yeah, that's crazy. Like, so what are some of the crazy

He's running towards that school. We got to go. get him before he gets this. Don't let him hit the playground. Don't let him hit the playground. He's going down to fly. Oh, my God. That's crazy. What are some of the crazy experiences you've had as a newswoman? Oh, man. So, you know, for me, a lot of my work. Yeah, well, you know, a lot of my work was in the studio, right?

But I think one of the most interesting things, green screen, anchor desk, you know, all of that. But I feel like for me, there was this, when El Chapo was getting, what it's a change. I can't believe he didn't work out yet Man that niggins good at me Hey man He's mad as hell Because one of our Journalists at the station in Dallas

Had done a story about it And had, you know What is it? Profiled Some of the victims' families And all of this And apparently some people from El Chapo's team Had reached out And was like, you know

We don't want you doing these stories or whatever He got a team of media Yeah you know His autographs Publishing? His public Yeah, better have a promise all that goddamn cocaine. You better have somebody to call it

me off. This is, it's crazy because at the time my boss was like, hey, we need everybody to repost this story. And I'm like, what the hell do I look like reposting something about El Chapo when they didn't told you to take that story off? You know what I mean? Like, these are glass windows

at the AA. The new station was by the Mavericks where they played the American Airlines Center. Yeah. Right. And I'm like, so you want them to come up in here with this non-bullip-proof glass with them AKs and the movies and lay me out. I'm like, I'm not doing that. So for me, that was scary because it was such a real threat. And the thing about

Dallas, Texas, I mean, close to the border, ain't nothing from the cartel to just come up. North, it's nothing. Come up. They're already there. They're like, are you there? I said, come up. No, it was a scary thing because it was like, you know, it's your job telling you, hey, repost this, support this.

I'm like, hell no, I'm not supporting this. I'm trying to go out like that. So that, the stalkers, of course, which is, hella scary, but then, I mean, there's always something, you know. But the stalking, I think that was the craziest thing, and it keeps going. I still can't even believe in myself. What question, do you have, are you in a relationship? Is it hard for you to have a boyfriend doing what you do?

No, I'm not in a relationship. You know that nigga. Oh, his heart broke. He had that hooked right now. LinkedIn to the TV. Oh, he'd be acting like a woman when you get home. So what are we doing? He's sitting at the house.

Hello, darkness, my old friend. Hold on, let me help you. Oh, um, yeah, no. I came to talk with you again. Softly streaming. And the window. Take it back I love you babe

I'm sorry I'm just kidding No I'm just kidding No I'm single I'm single No no no And is it hard to find people I feel like there are a lot of

People There's a lot of people that hit me up I mean there's a lot of people That hit me up I mean it's kind of hard to choose It's like walking into the ice cream store Like damn it's all these flavors I don't even know if I want none

No more I'm gonna go home Can't choose It's a good problem to have Baskin and robin My fucking That's only two players I'm gonna fucking You're gonna pass the ice cream

Like I'm like No it's just How much for one scoop? Can you just put a sprinkle in my head? No, there's, there's some motherfucking net. Just keep getting them little spoon. Yeah, let me try this strawberry.

That's all right, man. Hey, hey, let me try the chocolate. You said that one got nuts, isn't? What kind of nuts that one got in? Get a little bit of that one, yeah, that's a good one. Give me some of the chunky muggy. So you did. So you did.

Green with pistachial on. That's your orange. He tan their ass up. Try that orange on the get it. They say it's coming to cone. You're a cook, right? Y'all just try to figure out where to want, I ain't. Y'all got baseball mitts.

You don't got baseball mitt. That's a good problem to have, though. So you say, you don't remember the baseball men with the gunball men? I don't know. I feel like it's difficult. I mean, it's very difficult. It is because there's a lot of people who hit me up on the daily and it's very hard to like, I don't,

What am I supposed to do? Who are you? Like, I don't know how these people are crazy. I mean, but I think that goes, that's more your responsibility. You have to know what you don't want, and then what you want, or come to you easier. There are some people who, like, came up and I'm like, I just don't, I don't know. I don't want my name attached to people. There's people who, you know, maybe more popular and stuff like this.

And it's like, for me, you know, you're not about to be out there like, oh, yeah, you know, I smash traffic bay and all that. Like, I'm not, like, you know, I don't like that. Like, for me, I feel like it's hard being a woman because guys are the ones that always stand to benefit, like, oh yeah, I had her, I had her. Me, it's like, no, man or not. Men, women aren't, what it was good. Yeah, it's not true.

I feel like, that's having it easier that way. Yeah, because I'm like, I'm not gonna have you, when you look at my name, you're not gonna see some other guy attached. Everything that I did is self-made and everything, but there's also, you're not gonna have people running my, you know, name through the dirt looking like, oh, yeah, he was with her, she was with, like, it's kind of messy, and I don't like messy things, and a lot of people don't understand that.

There's some people that I'm like, yeah, we can go out, but it's gotta be really private, because I really don't want to be seen with you like that. And people take that personally. But do you tell you the reason you don't want to be seen with them? Yeah, but I feel like people. Tell them they're ugly.

Say, I don't want to go out like that. Oh, man. I want to go out. Like, we get some shit from somewhere and we go back in. Oh, no. You don't get out the car the same time.

I don't get out of the car. I don't get out of the car the same time. You get out of the car. You're going to go in the car. pick up the food. Matter of fact, get in the back, and I'm going to act like I drove the Uber. So I'm separate. Yeah, yeah, we like that. Yeah, yeah, we made it.

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But I mean, when you say somebody dragging your name through the mud, are you being specific to men who you will have to encounter in your work? I just feel like there's some... Because any man that you've been with can do that. This is true, and that's why it's so... It's kind of rough because it's like, I like to... If I'm going to date somebody, I like them to have something to lose, like I have to lose in the public realm.

There are some people who, you know what I mean? And it's just like, you know, so it's kind of like on an even keel there. But anybody can do you scandalous, like you said. It really doesn't matter. But for me, there's some people who have reputations attached to their name. And it's like, oh, they've been wanting to take mad. And I'm like, I don't know about all that because, you know, I'm not trying to just look like, you know. I mean, well, if you say you don't like the, and this is just from what you just said,

if you say you don't like the fact that somebody can drag your name through the mud, why would you allow somebody else's name to be dragged through the mud before you find out? I wouldn't. Because I've never done that to anything. You can't control that really, though. I never, I know, I've never, I know, just, for me, it's just kind of a, I feel like some people don't have an appreciation for it, okay? I have a lot to lose all the time, right? And it's not as easy being a woman, I feel like. I feel like, like I said, it's usually the men who benefit from being able to say, like, oh, I had her.

Women aren't really the ones to be like, oh, I had him, had him. You're going to be called a slut. You're going to be called all these kinds of things. And I just feel like, for me, I like to limit that a little bit and be very selective of people who, who are really going to appreciate me and not use me as an accessory to say, oh, look who I've been with. I'm just going to have her around like this

because there's some people who view you that way. So I have to find somebody who really values me everything that I bring to the table and appreciates me as a person because that's what I give to somebody. And it's not always easy to find somebody like that, especially when you're working all the damn time. Somebody that you actually, you know, connect with

versus somebody that's seeing you as a good look. There's some people who do that, and it's hurtful. It's just like, damn. It's like, and I'm very cautious of that because some people wouldn't care if they, you know, grabbed you, took you somewhere, flotted you all around, da-da-da-da-da, and it's just like they're just using you as a pawn.

It's never happened to me in particular, but it's just something that I'm, you know, concerned about because I don't want you just, you know, I don't like that. Like, I'm not, you know, don't, you know, and people do that. In defense of that type of shit, you know, as difficult as, in defense of? In defense of. In defense of.

Don't literally, because I hear a lot of women say that, but the thing about it is I think it's because of the standard that's been set. As a man, we have to, to bring something tangible in order to get your attention. We have to be in a position to do certain things with you from the moment you meet us. And the reason why I think a lot of men are like I had her is because all of the things that he had to do to get you is the reason why he feels like he's had an accomplishment in that because I had to pay for

something. I had to go somewhere. I had to do it. I can't speak for everybody. That might be true for a lot of people. But for me, I've never been the kind of woman that goes out and uses a man for anything. There are plenty of nice things that I could have right now if I decided to mess with somebody and not, you know, but not really mean it, right? There are people that I could have taken advantage of in that way, but I've never done that. I would have rolled up in here with some crazy, crazy things if that was the case. Like, you know what I'm saying? I wouldn't, you know, I'd be off at some disclosed location, you know what I'm saying? Like, it's not like that for me. Okay, I've had those opportunities,

but I don't take advantage of anybody. But those things have been offered to you. Oh, my God, condos, cars, money, people I never met before. But you know what goes with it. This is what they're expecting in the bullshit. But it's even more than that because there's some people. That's what I'm saying. Those are the things that I mean. And you don't know what.

And it may not be what it seems. But there's some people who genuinely have wanted to be in a relationship with me and wanted that. And I'm like, but I don't view you that way. And so I couldn't take these things from you because it's not genuine. would never do that. I don't want the trouble of that and I wouldn't want somebody doing that to me. And that's, that makes me sad. How you turned down a condo? I don't feel, I wasn't feeling, it was like, 21 years old. This guy was 29 and he was trying to lock me down. And I was like, no, he wanted to buy me an alley. He wanted to buy me with me. He wanted to lock it down. He's

like, oh, she's the one. Like I want him like, bro, chill out, bro. He bought you an outie? No, he wanted to. Oh, you turned down an out-outty and a condo? I turned down a lot of things. You wanted to go on things. Brookes. I wanted the Lambo who'd be an artist. Is that like you ever been turned down? Do you go through that? Like, do you get rejected?

Do you deal with rejection at this point? I don't really reach out to a lot of people like that. I wish I was living like that. I didn't turn it down no fucking condo. You're going to do what that lady's like? With the aisle? So you're going to do what that lady's like? For a little bit?

For how long? How long do you think you got to earn your condo? Until she said, fuck you ain't that outy, Nick. Hey, you got the out of it, you know what I? So how long, how long you? How long? I'm gonna egg right for a little bit. For a little bit?

For how long? For a condo. This is your condo, right? It's a nice time. Yeah, it's a nice time. At least until I find out like how much, like if it's my shit, like if they just like paying for it

and I'm living. When you see your name on the paper? Yeah, like with my name on some paper. And it's paid off because you don't want them to leave you with anything. Yeah, I'm sure my aunt. Don't let me find out the house and like if I find out that I can't lose this shit.

No, I can't. You fuck about, I think you get in a condo. It's one the motherfucking part. Be in that motherfucker. I'm bringing the out-out-out-out. Return up the Mac. Return out the Mac. Yeah.

As soon as everything transferred to my shit. I'm straight. You shouldn't use people. I think that opens a terrible kind of books. We don't even get the chance to use a mother-buck-low. Yeah, and with you, you got, you know, some accomplishments. You got to want to do that.

Hold on. You can't find a man in this fucking building that met a woman with some abundance like that. Fellas, you ever experienced a woman with a burglance? You had to turn down your fucking dream out. Hey, hey, hey, hold on. This is too much for me. You got to amend it.

You're taking me too bad. You got amended. Gracious abundance. Yes. Because the abundance will be there, but she make it clear. Yeah, that ain't for you. Yeah, that ain't. Yeah.

You ain't never met her mind. There ain't no woman like that lady off there. all thin line between love or hate because you'll deal with the crazy if diggins look at it happened my uncle was like that woman she wasn't crazy miss that lady birthday my uncle my uncle said that shit that god rest my uncle's old he was like man this nigger mottin tripping on this motherfuckin tripping he fumbled the bag that's what they're fumbled the fucking band you had to workin he was a promoter you're a party promoter you was a promoter she had to teach you how to ride horses boy that man went

I bought Lalik crystals. Right. Got the suits that was telling to him and all that. That nigga was still traveling. You don't play with people. That's the moral of that story. Don't play with people. I wouldn't even knew old girl was back in town the way

I would have been big chilling in Malibu. Man. Big-ass crib. Oh yeah, you're in the chicken can. You're in the chicken can. Go fuck with Miguel New Year's. Hey, all I run now is robes. Oh my God.

Silk roads. Come on, man. Now, how do you not become corrupted by power because you're around a lot of it. Like you just said, you just said, you turned down condos and houses. That got to be a hell of a month. You around some hell of a niggas.

That's just like, hey man, you want somewhere to live? That ain't some shit that's just all right. Yeah, I was over your crib, I ain't like it. I bought you another one. That's another one. That's something else, bro. Hey, yeah, moved your house. Yeah, that's my home.

You back room ain't built for the niggas seven feet, so, bought for something this morning. Exactly. Go to see, yeah, high ceiling. And leave their car over there, too. It's an out of there, pop. Yeah, we got to. Don't take your favorite color.

Got your name stitched in the seats. It's like, how do you, how as a woman, or, you know, especially as a professional woman, are you not, you know, affected by those things? I have a very strong sense of self and I'm a go-getter and a hustler. You can't buy me. You can buy me.

Buy me some shit. Fuck working. I feel like you're sitting in the wrong messes. Fuck working. I'm older than her. I feel like you have to work too with that, though. You know. I'm getting real with you.

That's a, that's a drill. They can say, I'll keep it real with you. She keep a real with your hard work, it's going to pay off. It works for some people, but for me, it's like, you know. No, I don't. It'll pay off. The motherfuckers who benefit from hard work don't never have to do it. But what if I like them, that'd be different, yeah?

Basically, you're saying that if a man that you were attracted to and like were to offer you these things, you would be like, come on with it. Yeah, because it's genuine. I'm attracted to you. I'm interested in you. I'm going to give you the time of day. Things are going to be genuine, right? I have been approached by a lot of people that have memes, and I have, and I,

I turned them down. It could have drastically changed my life. It's a dude somewhere eating a two-piece from Papa and right like, man, you're like? I'm not. I'm not. It's just the truth. But for me, it's like, I do believe in love, and I do believe in that, and I'm a very genuine person, and I don't lie about things. And I can't lie to somebody's face. A bum-ass boyfriend? Yes, I have. My first boyfriend was a bum-ass boyfriend. And I was, I was such a devoted girlfriend. You know, he said he was going through tough times. I would send him groceries to school. I would send him a pizza

because we went to different colleges and you know, I'd buy him the nice groceries. That don't count. Wait, hold on, hold on you got to let him. You got a little bit of college? Oh, okay. Well, we can't. Just regarding the whole time frame? Okay, well, then I take it back. My last book. Okay, well, I thought it was going to be funny. I thought

y'all might like it. Right? So he told me he didn't have any money or whatever like this, but he was really spending all his money on weed and I was buying the dates and I was buying the list. Like I said, That time frame don't count. Okay, fine. Well, we can fast forward into my adult life. That's fine. Yeah. Okay, so that situation.

My most recent boyfriend, how that ended, I don't think that he was ready for something serious. I was very devoted, very caring, because for me, I'm a huge romantic, and I go all out. Like, I'm bad, like, I bounced a check or two because I'm like, I just wanted you to have this. You know, I know you like it. It was some designer stuff that I didn't even have for myself, but I'm like, that's what you like, and I just wanted to do it. Hell no, no, no, no, no. I was overdrew. I was overdrew.

I used the holiday hand card. Air Force and Dior's with a hotel key. Yeah, here you go. Oh, the mandria. Nice. The Mardria. Not the mandria. Babe, are these a marriage?

No. I just went all out, and that was somebody who didn't reciprocate a lot. But for me, that isn't going to stop me from giving, you know, I have a heart that just goes on and on and on, like, you know. It's endless, right? So it's like, I'm not jaded. It just wasn't the best situation. My heart liked to make real.

Limited time only. It comes and it goes. And when they go, you'd be mad that motherfucker's gone. You got to get me right at Christmas time. Well, not for one person, but I feel like some people get jaded. And now because somebody did them wrong, now they're too afraid to love again. And that's never been me. But I know what I'm looking for and I want.

So it's like I'm very selective. And so you ask me why I'm single, and that's why. It's not for a shortage of options because there are many suitors. Yeah, but it's like, do I really like you? I'm not going to waste your time to what, go on a vacation with you and use you for your means. I'm not going to do that. I don't like that.

I don't want to do that. How do you establish like, though? Like, I mean, if somebody, you know, with all that you deal with, what you say you deal with all these crazy. Are you trying to eat? No. He doesn't like me to. I wouldn't do that to you.

Okay. You wouldn't do that to you. Okay. You wouldn't even do that to you. Wait, hold on. Because you've been asking me a lot of questions, what do you mean? Are you a bad guy? Is he a bad guy?

A lot of questions. He's terrible? No, it depends on who you ask, but if you're looking for what you're looking for, I'd be horrible. What am I looking for? Not a nigger like me. I'll tell you that much. I'll tell you that much. Oh my God.

No idea what you're looking for. No shit. We all know. How do you establish that though? Like what's your, do you have a vetting process or do you just, are you consume with work? And that's what, and that's cool to be that way. No, I'm, you know, I'm a woman. I have a real.

real clock in all of these things. So yes, I mean, I definitely, yeah, we all have our biological clocks and so I take that into consideration and stuff, but I'm selective and I'm not going to settle for something just because I'm like, oh, I want to start to do that. Oh, you don't settle eventually.

That's what's wrong with y'all. You guys, so when did settle become a bad thing? Because it used to be settled down. Either when you found the motherfucker that you like, you're going to settle for something. Settle down. Trust me, you know. You're going to have a mole on his back or something.

No. It's going to be some shit that you do not like. Nobody's perfect. I'm not perfect either. I told you I have road rage. So, you know, there's little things like that. It's got to be deeper than that. I believe in love.

I believe in love. I believe in those kinds of things. And so for me, I know what I bring to the table. I'm a very compassionate, empathetic person. I'm a great listener. And I bring a lot of things. All these things sound very free. Money, I just told you I bought this man designer things and I went damn near broke doing it.

That could be anything. That could be anything. That could be anything. That could be that little key chain. I was making $50,000 a year and, and I was making $50,000. $50,000. I don't know how much that comes out to every two weeks. It wasn't much, but I bought this man some Versace that he wanted and, because that's

the kind of stuff he's like. That niggas, it's a Versace of all this. He wanted some Versace. They were wrong. You ran into one that was Vegas. She ran into one that pimped ass niggas from Vegas and he didn't. He was not from Vegas. He was a way.

Listen, Lizzie on me. This is when Versace is cool. This is when Versace was cool. This is really cool. This is really cool. It's limited edition. Niggas only three of these, niggit. Anyway, you know what I mean.

So, damn, damn. You never know, maybe somebody out there watching. Like, oh, I don't know, she's a nice girl. Damn, you spent a whole check on some designer shit. Yeah, I just, I knew I was going to get the money back. I mean, I had a real job and everything. But it just was like something to see somebody smile. And for me, I just was like, you know, I wanted to do this.

And I'm very proactive about that. If I see, like, there are little gaps in your life to make your life easier, like, I fill those. And I'm very active in that. So this mother-pawks needed a massage shirt to smile? What kind of? Happy-e-haired thing I'm like to find a show you like I told you what's going to go in that hug. Hello.

That's what I'm saying. That's a different type of person. What's the matter, I don't have anything to wear. Right. It was a gift. Yeah. It was a gift. Some lot of shirts in there, but none of my mizage.

But you said you said everything sounds free. My time is not free. The kind of attention that I bring to somebody's life and helping in the way that I do, what I do? Like, it's, you know what I mean? It's very valuable. I fuck you up. I didn't hear what you said, I feel asleep.

Shut up. Fuck that shirt. Hey, man, you ever seen a Skydweller? Baby, this bitch nice. I love to have one of these. Y'all are a best. Well, I do my best. I'm just playing, unless you go get it.

Oh, God. But black girl stuff, like, tell us about the show, specifically what it is. You consider yourself a black girl. I am black. I'm just, I'm asking. I'm doing my interview shit. I'm a black woman, yeah. But, yeah, black girl, too, yeah.

Uh-huh. I saw your little clip you was discussing your blackness. Yeah, we were talking about colorism on the show. Colorism? Yeah, there were some comments about the show and they felt like there wasn't enough of different hues of darker skin people on the show. That's what they said?

There were some people who weren't happy about that. And we talked about it, and there are people who said that, you know, you're not black enough. And that's something that I've always heard my entire life. Was there a lot of people? I don't. No, not on my page.

Like, so it wasn't really that kind of a thing, so I don't, I don't really know. But they wanted to talk about it, and it is a relevant issue. And we're talking about the media who's historically cherry-picked lighter complexion people to represent black people on the whole. Not only on TV, but in film, it's not okay. I think black people look too serious. Really? Like, you know, black people faces we look too serious when we're delivering news and shit. Really?

It might cause a hysteria. A mass hysteria. Damn. You know, shit just hit different when a black person said. White people be chipping when they delivered that bad news. The water system is poison coming up at the season. Nick would be like, bruh. Fucked up out.

Bruh. Yeah. Watch this shit at 5.30. And then everybody like, man, what the fuck about to happen? Oh my God. I don't know. So we need a black news network, no. I just remember.

Well, did he have a black news network? It's one. Because Revolt and it's one in New York called the Black News Network. Now, we needed to be. Well, Diddy's is actually black-owned. A lot of black stations and channels aren't necessarily black-owned.

And we do have Revolt Black News, and it's a great product. You should check it out. And if you don't have, you know, regular TV, you can download it on the app, too. I got Revolt. We fuck with Revolve. All right, thank you.

I let you tune in. And why are you asking you with the show? Because I'm giving you an opportunity to promote your shit. All right, let me talk my stuff. I know all about Revolt. I remember when... Stop it.

Before they hired everybody. Yeah. Back in the day. I remember when they came out and it was called The Revolution. Right. It was the whole revolution. They changed it. I went to put up office.

Yeah. And drunk Sarak with him. We did that. And what about that Delio no? You tried that? No, that wasn't out there. We was on Syrac that day. That's that coriac.

We ain't drinking that until we go back to court office. Ah. When we go up there, we'll have something with them next time. All right. We got to go back. Well, do your thing then. Shout out the puff. What's the bill?

Shout out Diddy. I know, yeah. Because I asked him personally, you remember? He said, yeah. Yeah, that's true. Call him whatever I'm comfortable with, just I'm calling broke. That was his rebuttal. Can't call him that, that's for sure.

My partner. That's for sure. Do you, is this the first company you've worked for that's been black on? Is it a difference in regards to? Well, I turned at a radio station in Kansas City when I was in college. Can you be on the news and the radio? at the same time. I interned before I was, before I was on the news, right? But you some, they might, you know, especially if they're owned by the same company. Yeah, I'm sure.

Sometimes you hear the little weather person or the traffic person. I remember in Illinois. Yeah, it depends on who owns. And you're like, oh, that's the horizontal. Yeah. Depends, yeah. Pretending like they're in the helicopter. I don't know, looking down. Yeah, making noise. We're flying above New Year, ain't. It's that show here. So coming from that world that you come from, what's the benefit of working for something that's black owner, a company that's black owner. I just think it's historic, and I think we talk

about black ownership, and we talk about how that trickles down through our leadership. The creator of the show, Monique Chenault, of the creator of black girl's stuff, she's black. Our executive producers are black, our producers are black, and so you have this. It reminds me so much of this show the creator. This show is black.

Our executive producer is black. Our directors is black. It's a huge thing. That's a huge thing. You don't always see that. Except for Ryan. But he black, too. He black a little He's black a little bit. He eat barbecue chicken. He said it earlier. That's good enough.

Yeah, no, I think that's amazing to be able to see these kinds of perspectives that have been muffled and hidden for so long. And so now you're getting this. And it's amazing. And we've got the Revolts Summit coming up at the end of the month, too. I already know. So, yeah, those people are going to have to check that out as well. Yeah.

I already send my media pets. Black Girl stuff is going to have a panel there on Sunday, right? So it's going to be really dope. We've got some amazing artists who are going to be stopping through as well. Well, drop your social media calls one good time. Yes. We had a good time on. My social media, yes, on Instagram at Demetria Obelore.

Ohbelor. Obelor. There you go. I like how we're saying. Yeah. Obelor. Yeah. Yeah.

Yeah. We got to do it with the overlords, man. Hey man, is this the chief overlord? Uh-huh. People say that too. My mom's an art teacher and they'd be like, Mrs. Overlord. So that's me, yes, a Demetri Obelore, yes. Across it.

It's good you got it for everybody, because people probably see it and it's good to hear you say. I think that might be the only Demetri Obelore out there. Wow. No, that's another one. I don't think so. Bitch, you ain't by yourself. There's gonna be some more now.

There might be some, but I'm just like, I don't think so, not that combination. Oh, oh, she is not the only Oberloor. I'll probably see. I have been an obelore. Are you, Demetri at Obelor? Like that. My name is Demetri is Obelior.

My name is Demetri. I have the head of the overlord family. Oh my God. Well, thank you so much for having me. You guys have been awesome. Thank you for having me laughing. I needed that. Exactly.

You have to stay focused. Yeah, the news came. I'm glad you away from the news and you can be you. Oh, to do that in regard. Yeah. That's what's up. Yeah, that's me when I ran cross country, and then that's, you know, me, the VR for my birthday.

Man, man, when you're trying to get flu cross country, I fade. What? I flew myself cross-country. Uh-oh, freak-ass cat. Hey, don't do it. Do you go ahead, Kat. The Cowboys' Chalier outfit and what you're doing with the rodeo? Oh, yes.

Oh, you did? What? The ski rodeo? Not them, no. Oh, a different rodeo? No. The hip-hop Cowboys Rodeo? No.

You got a picture on Instagram in that outfit? No. I'm just saying it because I know he commented on the motherfucker. For me, I don't want to go see what he wrote up. You know, I'm in Dallas. Like, I'm going to put on the Dallas Cowboys uniform. It looks cute. I'm like, it's fun.

You know, it's a costume. I love to dress up. I've got Mortal Kombat outfits, too, if you keep scrolling. And I'm fired. Who you dress up at? Melina and Catana. The scary one. The military.

The name. I did a really good job with it. My mom made the mouse for me. The outfit is bomb. I love to dress up Halloween as my, is my favorite holiday. So I'm taking costume requests. Nothing crazy. He better put some respect on it.

What you're gonna do? You gotta divv into the, uh, you did motorcombe or you got to different to street fighter? Shun Lee is what people keep asking for. So maybe I'll hit him with that Shun Lee. I have legs for it because, you know, I squat like 225. Freeway. Yeah, my legs really strong. All you get the cammy.

Kick the shit out of the other one. I know, but I have that outfit. I don't know. Yeah. Did you win that this is sparting. Get that nice braid and. Baya! Camie, I love candy.

Jay-O-A, what's your social media? Hey, Jay-O-Way. Now, we're going to change it to seven cheese macaroni. That's what it's going to be. I got to try some of that. No, sure, for sure. It's a video on my Instagram, actually. Ooh.

The secret is one of the cheeses is orange juice. Oh, my God. You got to sit that cheese on that counter, man. Chico, you never told us what you're good at making. I did have barbecue chicken. Oh, that's right. It just sounded so, like, boring. Like, is it air fried?

Damn. It was just kind of like... Got me fucked up in there, man. I'm just saying, like, what's you? Hey, don't do chicken like, you know? Yeah, you know what I mean? She's gonna do me Greek. Now, I see how you me tell the niggins, you don't like that.

That's how she doing, dude right there. Yeah, chicken was a little boring, man. Who is it an A5? Oh, so cute. I don't, I love cars. We could talk about cars all day, but yeah. And then he wasn't offering the right kind of Audi anyway. I was like...

I just said it. I think he said, yeah, I think I'm funny. You weren't the one from Iron Man. Like, man, I'm not except for nothing that I wouldn't want for myself. She wanted that transporter, nigger. That's the way she wanted me. That nigger be rounded around and the transporter. It wasn't no other option.

It was just an outy. It just, I didn't indulge him further. I'm like, bro, I don't like you like that. So we don't even to talk about this anymore. You could just stop right there. You should have pushed the issue. A Audi? You think that's all I'm fucking worth?

Mother fucking outy, do I look like an outy bitch? Maybe you need to get you an outy bitch. Because I ain't no outy bitch. I'm traffic, motherfucking bang. Yeah. Your chicken cooking ass, nigger. And that's thing with dress. And your chicken wasn't even good, bitch.

Bitch. Hello, darkest, my old friend. I'm tired right now. Oh, shit. I'm nice. I'm not that bad. I can be. I can be,

but I'm not superficial in that way. Now, we just talking shit. I appreciate you stopping through the trap. Yeah, I appreciate you guys. I appreciate you stopping through the trap and all that old good-ass shit. This has been another 85 South Show production. Yeah. Yes, sir.

Out of it. Got a little remiss. Good shit. Thank you. That was fine. Yeah. You was dope. Oh, that is great still.

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