The Adam and Dr. Drew Show - #1944 Dented Cans with Rudy Pavich

Episode Date: November 21, 2024

Today, Adam and Dr. Drew welcome comedian, and friend of the show Rudy Pavich to the studio as Ace shares his feelings towards low self-esteem & fair individuals, they then dissect pride, anxiety and fatherhood. Plus, they discuss panic attacks, the softening of society, and Adam imparts the $10,000 rule. Leave us a voicemail: SpeakPipe.com/AdamandDrDrew OR Click the microphone at top of the homepage, AdamandDrDrew.com

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So five, six, and did do that. All right, Rudy Povich, our friend is here. Rudy is a very funny comedian. It's also a skilled radio personality as well. Rudy and I have toured the country together. Mm hmm. Done a lot of gigs. Rudy's also good hang. Thanks buddy.

Which is always good. Not everybody is. That's half the battle. Yeah. Absolutely. Yes, I've realized I like low self-esteem. Injured. And I like- Anybody injured with low self-esteem, he's in. I like easy. Yeah. I was actually pulling up here today

I was getting to the gate with my truck and I thought you know what? I'm gonna go park four blocks away because I don't deserve a spot inside of the gate That's good. Yeah, that's exactly. Yeah, that's why I get dented cans like to group themselves with other dented cans They're only more people behave like this Well, it'll never work because everybody, okay, there's a bunch of stuff. Tilt your mic down a little bit, please. That'll be helpful.

There it is. There's some big problems in our society. First things first, everyone thinks they're nice. And everyone thinks they're good. Everyone thinks they're good, which is a big problem. Everybody, you go into prisons, they'll tell you that. Yes. I'm a good person.

Yeah, I don't think I'm nice. I agree. I don't think I'm good, but I'm fair. And if you're fair, that's all you need in a neighbor, it's all you need in society, it's all you need anywhere, any of the time, it's just fair with a dusting of low self-esteem. But let's see if we can quantify this thing. You know, I, all right, do you expect other people to do stuff for you?

No. Right. Yeah. But, but. I've actually, I'm uncomfortable when they do. Yeah. But. But. That's actually, it's uncomfortable when they do. Yes. Yeah. Well, okay, there's little tells, let's just say.

Like a lot of consideration about what the other person's schedule is or whatever. Like for instance, everybody would like to be picked up at the airport, let's say. So then somebody will say, I'll pick you up from the airport. And then you will think, what day am I arriving and what is it you are doing that day? And if you understand that that person is picking you up at the airport, but then that person has to be in Ventura to do a show that night or something like that, then you will go, no, don't do it, because you've got to be in Ventura that night.

And they'll go, I'll pick you up. And then you'll go, you pick me up but the plane lands at noon. And then you got to go back to Pasadena. And then they'll say something like, I'll just go from LAX to the theater and I'll just wait or I'll change there or something. And you go, no, no, no. But if the person is not doing anything and you're paying for everything, then you can go like, yeah, okay, thank you, pick me up

from the airport. Right? So, do we do that? Yeah. I will always say, like my girlfriend, if I get back to Minneapolis at 1230 in the morning. Which is your home? Yeah. I just moved to Vegas, but when I was living there, yeah, she my girlfriend, if I get back to Minneapolis at 12.30 in the morning. Which is your home. Yeah, which is, I just moved to Vegas, but when I was living there, yeah, she would be like, I'll pick you up. And I'd say, no, no, no, it's fine, don't worry about it.

But if I were to say, yeah, I land at 12.30 in the morning, she'd go, okay, well, I'll see you Tuesday. I'm like, well, where's the offer for the pickup? At least offer, at least make an offer and attempt, and then I will definitely say no, because I don't feel like you should have to come pick me up. Now, then the other thing thing is is being generally flexible But not being submissive per se yeah part. There's a hard balance

Yeah, well it comes into play a lot and and again There's people people there's a lot of difficult people. I go on the road, they're difficult. They don't know who they are. They don't understand it, but I will understand them. I just speak my mind. You don't know. I'm just, what do they always say? They go, I'm a strong black woman and you can't handle it. And it's like, no, you work for Spirit Airlines and you're screaming at me. So what it is okay you go on the road you go on the road and you you go with Mike and you go with Rudy right and the road is a thousand different variables all the time it's it's sometimes simple like

what are you in the mood to eat you know but, but it's always a thing. It's like Can you drop me off at the hotel? I got to go to the club and drop off the merchandise after I get the rental car Mike will say I'll say well, I'm tired What if we go by the hotel first? Check in I can go up and take a nap and then you go drop off the stuff at the club. In which case, Mike will say yes all the time, but if the club is halfway between the airport

and the hotel, then he will go, we should stop at the club and just drop the stuff off on the way to the hotel, because it's halfway there, and then in which case I will go okay every time. But it's one big sort of negotiation, slash, you know, we need to figure out. Then you're gonna get up in the morning, and Mike will go, I'll get up in the morning, I'll fill up the rental car,

and then I'll meet you in the lobby at six, and we'll go to the airport. And I go, thank you. Yeah. Right? That was easy. And that's how Rudy is. And that's how generally I am.

So we can go on the road in perpetuity and never have an incident. And you say to Rudy and Mike, what are you in the mood for eating? Doesn't matter. Whatever you want. You're right. It doesn't matter. It doesn't matter because it doesn't matter. Why are we going to make this a thing?

In fact, the second night we were in Las Vegas with my girlfriend, I said, what do you want? What are you in the mood for? It's your birthday, whatever you want. Broke down into tears. Really? It's too much. I don't want to deal with it right now. You figure it out.

I was like, okay. Well, just because to me, it's just it's sustenance. I just want to eat something just to keep alive. That's it. I have my preferences. Yeah. And so does Mike August. But it's like, we're in Houston.

Oh no, we're in Nashville. And there's literally a barbecue place on one side of the street and a P.F. Chang's on the other side of the street. And I'm like, I like P.F. Chang's, but I like barbecue. So Mike, what do you want? And he's like, well, I'll do barbecue. I go, all right, but I like barbecue, so Mike, what do you want?" And he's like, well, do barbecue. I go, all right, we'll do barbecue. And that's, and easy people are easy. My son is easy. I've never had an argument with my son. He's 18. We've never had an argument.

People are like, oh, come on. No, zero argument. My daughter's difficult, had a lot of arguments. She's difficult. He's easy. That's them. I'm the same. And that's the problem is everyone thinks they're rooty, but they're not. Right. Yeah, I'll take that as a compliment. I try. I don't know. I have those moments too, getting back to the low self-esteem. My mom and I had a conversation. I just had to buy my daughter a car. I'm sure you've gone through this before, both of you, but I just bought my daughter. When we grew up, my first car ever had a giant hole in the floorboard that I could see the

highway while doing 60 miles an hour. The hood of the car every now and again would fly up and it'd smash the windshield. And we just, they didn't replace the windshield, they just put the hood back and then you went back to driving down the highway. And I just said, hey, we're gonna buy my daughter, we'll get her a $5,000 car. That's a hell of a car when we were growing up. Like, for us, $5,000 would have been

the best car on the road. But my family was like, we think that because you're gonna be living in Vegas, she's gonna be in Minnesota, they picked out a car. It was four times what I wanted to pay. And I just went, all right, fine, we'll just buy the damn thing. And then my mom had called me and said,

well, I want to make an offer to help pay for the car, but you won't take it because of your pride. Wow. Because of your pride, I was like, well, first off, it's not pride, it's called zero self-esteem, and I don't feel like I deserve it. And there's a big difference between pride and not taking your money

because I don't feel like I've earned it. Did you actually explain all that to her? Yes. Yeah. In fact, I called her back to explain it because I was so angry after she said it, we got off the phone. And I called her back and said, please don't ever say pride ever again, because there is zero pride in anything that I have done. Forty-four years of being a creator and a radio guy and a comic, there is no pride in anything. There are three guys at this table that I would say are confused by pride. Yeah, I don't know.

It's a detriment. Yeah. But I don't even know how to, how do you go about feeling? I don't know, why I don't have any. I had a long conversation. So I do, Michael Yeoh, as you know, you're a friend of his. I do the Yeoh show with him, and him and I had a long conversation

because after I just, you know, maybe- Yo's got pride. Yo's got pride, yo's got pride, for sure. But I was talking about how when, anytime you see somebody post something nowadays about something good that they've done, whether it be, you know, I'm moving to a new city, or I got a new job, or whatever it is,

people put, they reply with, I'm so proud of you. I'm so proud of you. I'm so proud of you. You didn't do shit to help me get here. Don't tell me that you are proud of me because you weren't in any of this equation. It's not like you raised this person or they were like your apprentice or maybe somebody you took under your wing

to be either a podcaster or maybe in the medical field. And then they went on and did great things. Then you would say, yes, I am proud of you. But there's this sort of Still would I pride again still is confusing. I would say I'm happy for you. Yeah, that's exactly I would say yeah, good job Achievements yes, that's the one that drives me nuts where I go you had nothing in the equation that we've gone to sort of second-order pride I'm a proud person. I'm proud of other people. I don't, I think there, I think there are things that we try to cultivate and

build up like self-esteem and pride and it turns out to be a liability in our society. If it's earned self-esteem or earned pride, then that is perfectly fine. If it's grafted onto you, it's detrimental. And a lot of the problems I think we're having stem from the self-esteem movement. My low self-esteem and lack of pride have served me well in my life. I've said yes to just about everything that anyone has ever put in front of me and it's it's been beneficial. I don't have conditions. I'm I'm always surprised when when I hear people adults, male, female, whatever, I hear them say like all the time,

I'm not going to do that. I go, oh, you're allowed to say that? Yeah. Like, yeah, I'm not doing it. And I'm like, I don't think I've ever said I'm not going to do that. I've said I'm not going to do that as it, well, Drew, you've been with me for a long time. I've said it in the context of a super lame TV producer going, why don't you hold this giant phone up

and pretend for a Love Line promo ad or whatever. And I went, that's a bad idea. And I'm not going to do it, because it's a bad idea. You don't start with, I'm not going to do it. No, I never do. No, I don't. You start with, maybe we can come up with something better. What do you think? And then it's like, I'm not sure it's a good idea. And so then it's like,

okay, history will be unkind to this. I have said that to many people. But I've never said, you've never heard me say I'm not going to do anything. Rarely, rarely, rarely. Yeah. I'm not going to wait for Pamela Anderson to get here. That was what something you said. I'm not gonna do well I'm not because the last show I did she was late for Donnie Marie's show And she made everyone wait and I was like fuck this. I'm not waiting. We're starting the show

No, you said we're enabling her so fuck it. We're gonna do it. Mm-hmm Someone needs to tell her to stop being late Yeah, it's a long story, but look the point is is I am surprised when people go now i'm not doing that Um, and there's a lot of that and it's weird. It's weird to me but the more vexing problem that we're facing is Everybody thinks they're good everybody thinks they're good, everyone thinks they're nice, and everyone thinks they do so much and get nothing in return.

Ooh, that's an interesting piece of this. That's a thing. Oh, they do everything for everyone and no one appreciates it and nobody cares and they get nothing in return, which happens a lot. It's a female thing. Yeah, most sounds like they just think all they do is sacrifice all day and then nobody or no one appreciates it or respects it or Whatever, whatever it is, but there's a there's a chasm, you know, I mean like and so there's a there there is a

Maybe insurmountable but sort of large Chasm between sort of reality and then the sort of reality in their head, you know or whatever whatever Play their casting in their in their head, you know, yeah and and and and they have an and and The people who are who do that have a sort of endless amount of spackle to spackle over every crack in their argument. Let's get into this a little bit. You had an anxiety disorder, is that correct? I did, yeah, a long time.

And from trauma? I think so. I think from a lot of it growing up, my dad especially, my dad left when I was two. And then I also believe that I didn't know that it was anxiety like I definitely can see family members my Uncle Randy is Riddled with anxiety, but he won't he won't ever cop to it He won't be like oh because he get flies off the handle so easily and you can just see it in him He's just always so shaky and I'm like dude if you would just chill out, you know

Like there are exercises I can help you get through these little tantrums you're having and he just refuses to believe it Did you ever spill your anxiety on other people? No always kept it in dump it on No, are you familiar with that experience of other people dumping it? Absolutely. Yes, who tends to do that? Like that you're like in my life. Oh, uh Definitely my uncle but a lot a lot with my uncle. He sprays it on you every yeah Because it was always like we have to be to this place at this time and you have to get your shit together And I'm like, but he was he's the same guy that will Loves concerts, right show starts at 7 o'clock. We got to be downtown by 3 p.m. Yeah, I was like 3 p.m

I was like what why 3 p.m. And he was like, well, we what if there's a line what if and I'm like who dude We're all gonna get in, it's fine. That's OCD too though, which that's a flavor of anxiety can have OCD. Really? Okay, yeah. But no men in my life do it, but women all over the place do it. Would you agree with that, Adam?

Spill their stuff onto you. You have to experience their feeling overwhelmed or anxious. Yes, I mean, it's predominantly a feminine trade where you have to experience whatever it is they're sort of experiencing. I mean, you do it a little bit, Drew. That's the OCD stuff, I think. You're a little anxious about stuff.

We used to argue about that. More OCD, I think, right? I don't know, I don't know exactly what it was, but like remember back when we'd do Love Line and like Producer Anne would go, our affiliate in Knoxville wants us to do whatever, or you know, wants you to lay down a thing for the station ID or whatever, and then you know, once you lay down a thing for the station ID or whatever, and

then you'd like stand up and go, OK, let's do this. And then I'd go, when did they give you this request? And they'd go, she'd go tonight. And I'd go, when do they want it? They said they need it by tomorrow morning. And then Drew would go, OK, here we go. And then I'd go, well, if they need it for tomorrow morning, they shouldn't have waited until the night before to get you.

They should have told you on Monday that you needed to do it, not do it the night before. And then Drew'd be like, well, let's do it. They need it tomorrow morning. And I'd go, no, we'll do it on Monday because they should learn not to tell you the night before that they need it the following morning And I don't know that they actually need it the following morning because that's not the actions of somebody who needs something

Right to do it the day the night before and I would take almost a stance at this go Tell him we'll give it to him on Monday, but Drew had a lot of like we need to do it again But that's not really a bad quality No, but there's a little bit. Yeah. Yeah my workaholism was in full swing then as well as my anxiety Yeah, but that's again more OCD stuff I had to I had to get stuff done now now now now now because would start to accumulate and then I'd get anxious Yeah, I have noticed because I went to a hypnotist in Minneapolis, and I'm telling you, game changer. Absolutely game changer.

Yeah, I wasn't even going in for anxiety. I sat down with this guy for 10 minutes. He was like, I think I know what's up. And people think when I say hypnosis, that it's, you're getting sleepy with this watch. No, no, no, he really does. You do this process. The first time I got out of the chair,

felt like I was floating. all the anxiety was gone and it's still he even said like it'll still pop up from time to time but now you have tools to be able to get through it and now you know that there's a backside of it and the backside is where you're gonna feel normal again did you have more phobias no nothing like that no but it was, yeah, but the thing about losing some of that anxiety, I have noticed my productivity has gone down. Oh, interesting.

Because the anxiety is what would keep me going because I was so afraid to get that text message from a client or I was so afraid to get that email from somebody who was waiting on something. So I would get up at 5 a.m. and work all day, like 18, 19 hour days for months, years on end, because I was so afraid of having somebody think ill of me. Yeah, I kind of had that too.

Yeah, and the anxiety would just, it was killing me. Would the word harried be better than anxious? Because you're like, harried all the time. Yeah, maybe. Yeah. I was going to ask you this, because while this was sort of going on, Yeah, I was gonna ask you this because while this was sort of going on I started losing my beard Oh, and I still have like a spot You can kind of see a little bit right there But it was like patches and I have a big giant huge thick beard Yeah, and it just started falling out one day they can inject it with steroids. That's what I've heard. Yeah

I haven't gone through it yet. But but yeah, that was the part as soon as my beard started going away I thought all right now it's time to make some changes We need to take a quick break. We'll be right back with Drew and rooting myself right after this Hey, I'm Adam Kroll. That's Brad Williams and Jay Leno. Hey everybody. Over there We're doing our third annual comedy fantasy camp That's gonna be January 23rd through the 26th, right in Hollywood, California. Where else would it be?

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All right, so Rudy, anxiety, bad dad. Yeah, I'm so, I'm happy I never have any anxiety, which is, and because I don't have it, I'm not sympathetic to others. I'm not sympathetic to... Very unsympathetic. Very unsympathetic. I would warn you right now. Yeah, yeah. Well, I mean, I will tell you why, or part of the reason I'm purposely unsympathetic to people and their anxiety is I do think people in over indulge themselves in their own, you know, foibles and shortcomings and

invisible diagnoses, spectrum diseases. It's way, way, okay. People most of the time need a kick in the ass and told to get the fuck out and start get to work and it all goes away. They indulge themselves. Shall we talk about case A? Go ahead. Moi? Go ahead. I had a panic, I had a fight with John Favreau on our set. And we would just go from show to show to show. We'd do like four or five shows a day.

And we went on to the next show. And all of a sudden I had a panic attack and I couldn't concentrate, I couldn't think. I just was like paralyzed. If you've ever, have you had panic? I've had one panic attack, yeah. They're pretty fun. And I was like, hang on a second, I need to take a break.

And so I went in my dressing room and Adam came in and said, get the fuck off the couch, get in there. If I have to spend one more minute on this fucking set, I'm gonna kick your ass. So get in there. I was like, all right, here we go. And he also said, you'll carry the show, which felt pretty good. He said, you just sit there.

Because to be fair, he said, you just sit there like you always do. Ah, yeah, yeah. I'll do all of the work. That's a very chick thing right there, too. Right. So, that's an extreme example, but it worked, actually. Yeah, it did. No one has anxiety when they're being chased by a bear,

you know, I always say. Yeah. You know, it's just, it's on. You have to- Well, but panic is appropriate, you know what I mean? Oh, yeah, but jump into a freezing cold lake and tell me if you're worrying about whatever it is you're worrying about. The problem is people indulge themselves way too much and our society tolerates this indulgence way too much and they encourage it.

Here's the deal, exposure is the treatment for this stuff. We tell people, no, don't avoid those people that make you upset. Well, avoid, avoid, avoid, save space. That's the opposite of mental health. And all of this is about exposure and resilience. But it runs really deep. First thing we now tell, like, hey, kids, if you got the sniffles, do not come into school.

Do not come in. Our childhood, you know, our early years were spent having, you know, me trying to talk people into the fact that I was sick and I didn't want to go to school and they were like, you're fine, go. You know, I have a stomach ache, you'll be fine, go, you know what I mean? I don't feel well, go. All right. And coaches going, are you injured or are you hurt? Because if you're hurt, you can get up, rub some dirt on it. But if you're injured, you know, like getting, you know, telling coaches,

I'm cramping up and then yelling keep running. You know what I mean? So there is a benefit to that that we have lost in this super indulgent. You got to feel like you're 100% otherwise you're not doing anything. And it's like, listen, everything I've done has been less than 100% for everything all the time. Just get up and do it. I'm also amazed at jobs where you sit all day in a conditioned environment and look at a screen.

It's like, he's not feeling good enough to come in today. It's like, what's he doing? Well, he's just gonna sit home in his bathrobe and watch TV. You know, it's like, okay, well, how about he sit here and watch the computer? Like, no, he's not good. He's sick. I was like, well, is he in a hospital bed or is he just gonna be putzing around his house in his sweatpants eating and watching TV all day? Because you can come here and putz around at work. You know what I mean? All day, every day.

First off, look, it's all, it's 99% of all this stuff is bullshit. Drew, how many days of work have I missed in 25 years? Zero. Right. Why? Because you don't. Because it's not an option. It's not an option. It's not an option. How many days have I been sick? I've been sick. How many days I had bad days? I've had parents die. I've had bad news.

I've had situations. I've had it all. How many days have I missed? None. None. Okay, why not? It's not an option. All right, I'm fine.

I didn't get people sick at the workplace because I've come in less, you know, with something, which is always. So it's, I tell people all the time, it's not that I don't get sick or I don't have tragedy in my life or I don't have events in my life that everyone else uses to take a week off. I just don't do it. You can make that choice if you want. People don't like it. They don't want to. They don't want to come to work the day after they find out their mom died. They don't want to. They don't want to they don't want to come to work the day after they find out their mom died

They don't want to they don't want to come into work when they're not feeling physically a hundred percent and maybe they have a cold or flu or something that some bug or viruses if they don't want to I get It but you can and remember the ten thousand dollar rule drew. Mm-hmm But you can, and remember the $10,000 rule, Drew. Every single person I've said to would like said, I couldn't do it and I couldn't move the thing in time or I couldn't come in that day or I had to, I go, what if I said I'll give you $10,000 to come in? They go, oh yeah.

Yeah. Okay, well, now we know it can be done. Absolutely. So we're saying you could do it, you just need to be bright. What's that say about you? You know what I mean? The $10,000 rule is universally applied for everything in life. They're too proud to do it Adam. My mom would tell you it's their pride. You can do it if you want. Yeah my daughter's mom was very

fast when my daughter would be like I'm just not feeling it this morning. Oh you can stay home. It's fine stay home. And when my daughter would be like, I'm just not feeling it this morning. Oh, you can stay home. It's fine. Stay home. And when my daughter got to high school, she wanted to go to a private school in Minnesota. And it's insanely expensive, way more than what I can afford. And I said, I said, fine, I'll pay for it.

But she is not to miss a day of school. From the first day of freshman year to the day she graduates, she is not to miss a day of school. And that lasted about three months. And then, she's just not feeling it We had this conversation. There's no more of those days I mean unless there is hemorrhaging from the I want to I want to live missing That's what I want for you to be able to miss a day and she stayed pretty good about it

My daughter's very studious. She's very Good grades. She's a great student and and even she has kinda told her mom sometimes, like, it's fine, I can go back to school. And I'm like, yeah, good, I'm glad you got that in you, yeah. And it also stems from growing up, because my family owns a roofing company. And even when I was 13, 14, up to like 17, 18 years old, working for the company,

even though I was a part of the family, if you didn't show up, you weren't getting paid. And damn, that's the other thing, is that when you get in a relationship with a job where no matter what, especially coming from radio where people were signing six figure contracts that they were getting regardless. I remember the first time I got fired fired,

I had six months of severance. I'd just go home and do nothing and just sit around I was like this is the best ever it's not it doesn't motivate you to want to get up that's why when I see people that are in for the longest time I didn't want to go on unemployment because I was like again I know I'm not I don't deserve it other people deserve it so I tried not to and then a friend of mine had said that when he was on unemployment, like about two months before he was supposed to be off of it, they extended it and then they raised what his unemployment was.

So instead of motivating him to get a job before the deadline, now he's got more money coming in and an extra six months and I thought, I don't want that. Yeah, we have no idea what we're doing in terms of motivation. That's the other major societal problem. People are not inherently good,

they're not inherently bad, they're weak. Most, the number one characteristic I meet, I realize with most people is weak and sort of soft character. And they have a lot of pride but they have almost no character. Character and pride, pride is used in place of character. It's like a a cheap euphemism for character. They just have pride and then we feel it and then we attach stuff. It's like I'm half Samoan. Oh, oh, so you got that pride. Yeah, I got island pride.

Andrew, ask me where I'm from. Where are you from, Adam? I'm from the 818, bro. Oh, you got pride in that. Okay, so look out. Me and Chris Corolla and Jim Corolla, we're all from the 818, bro. It's quite a lineage. So, you know, you don't, don't fucking roll up to me like you're from the 818 cause I'm from the 818. Okay.

It takes place of character and we need character and we don't talk about character ever. We used to talk about during the Clinton era, if you remember. We used to talk about something called the golden rule all the time when I was a kid It was golden rule golden rule golden rule and then wowwowwubbzy Fucking took the golden rule and corrupted the shit out of it and and morphed it into the golden rule is now You do what you want to do all the time and you don't care what other people think because you're the best because you're the best Which is the exact opposite of the golden rule.

So we used to talk about the golden rule. The golden rule, corny, wow wow wubbzy, is be yourself and remember the golden rule, be yourself and you'll be cool. You're the coolest. Because you are the coolest. I scream about, I tell people, I sounded the alarm. I saw this motherfucking episode 15 years ago. I just started ringing a bell.

Stop it. No, don't do it. It's bad. And we're there. We have a group of these people. Now, people lack intestinal fortitude. They don't really realize what they're capable of. They don't realize how resilient they are.

They don't realize what they can take, what they can do. I can't tell you, it's always people going, I can't, I could never do, yes you could, go do it. You know what I mean? I couldn't do the cold dunk into the pool. I could never do something like, yes you can. Go get up and go do it. How about doing it? Yeah. It's it's it is a diff. It's part of the feminization of society. Women are that men are always get up and go do it. But the women won. And

that's that's what happened. Rudy was describing to me how he saw a guy in Vegas in the morning where he's moved to now wearing like essentially a parka, you know, because it was what, 52 degrees or something? Yeah, it was about that. Yeah, I stopped at Marshall's the other day and I was buying some stuff for the apartment and they sell winter gloves in Las Vegas. In Las Vegas, I was like, get out of here with that. I said to him, I said, oh, that's me. Yeah, I'm pushified. So it's not just feminized. It's also push a fuck Yeah, well, that's it's it's soft. It's softening. I I Realized my son was like missing some Fortitude, you know, he's grown up in 7500 square feet fucking Grubhub and nannies, you know, he's a good dude

He just he's missing that thing that that part where the coach yells at you and you're fucking scared, you know, whatever and So I just said to him one day I Don't know. He was probably 13 Yeah, I'd say was 13. I said look you're on your own now son I said look you're on your own now son Toughen you up a little you gotta you got to have enough a boy especially I

Got a lot out of being that the reason I've never missed a day of work drew Is cuz I'm tough. Yeah, I'm mentally tough. It's not that I can squat 500 pounds. I'm mentally strong Yeah, it's not that I don't get sick Yeah, I don't miss days of work because I willed I have a will not to do it because I'm mentally strong. Yeah, it's not that I don't get sick Yeah, I don't miss days of work because I willed I have a will not to do it because I'm not soft and and men need to be a little bit hard and and they think that's toxic masculinity or beating your old lady or Getting drunk and throw it shooting the TV set. No, no, it's simply a little mentally tough. Mm-hmm, you know and I Wanted to toughen up my son. So I said to him look I go out and I do stand up on weekends and I work weekends and do things like that and I get paid Okay, but on the nights

That I drive from La Cagnata into the comedy store and do a show for free to get better, even though it's an hour each way and I don't need the money, I'm not getting paid. On those days, I need you to take a cold dunk in the pool with me. Only on the days I work for free. Probably be, that might average to twice a week. Maybe once a week, it'd be about that.

That need toughen you up. And you need to understand to do things that are difficult for free. That you impose on yourself. Like yeah, like working here all day, driving back to Lacanon, then at 6.30, and I gotta get in the car and go out to the comic store. That lasted a second and then my wife was like no no no no no you know it's called now

They don't know they're doing damage to people. That's the scary part. They're like progressive politicians I love the homeless. Yeah, I know but you're hurting them. You're hurting them. You know, yes You are you think you're being kind to our son You are robbing cold, right? You're robbing him of an important experience. Yeah, I understand Yeah, that's what happened. But but they win Because I'm gone. Yeah, and he doesn't want to go in the pool So that's the new world order when we bought my daughter this car that I paid way too much for I was like, I can't let her just get a car, you know?

So before I gave it to her, I took her downstairs into the basement of my sister's place and I was like, hey, by the way, here's a deal. I know I've been gone for a week. You've been pounding me about this car. I don't think I can't get it for you. And not because I don't want to pay for it, but because I don't think it's right to give somebody at your age a vehicle of this amount. So I went online and I found five or six vehicles that are in the price range

that I'm willing to pay for. And then I'm going to look at them tomorrow and I'll make a decision. And then I will give you a car. We'll buy it. And then you will have a car. And she was very upset and she was throwing her eyes. And but here's the thing. She didn't like lose her shit at me. She was like, okay, fine, that's totally fair. She walks upstairs, she looks at my sister,

she rolls her eyes like, god damn it, I'm a man with a cheap ass son of a bitch. What she didn't know is the goddamn car was in the driveway with a big bow on it. And then she walked out and was like, yeah, sorry, I was kinda talking shit about you inside there for a moment. I'm like, well yeah, but you yeah Sorry, I was kind of talking shit about you inside there for a moment I'm like well

Yeah But you at least in front of me you kept it inside and you waited until I left the room instead of being like you Cheap-ass old man. I'm tired of your shit. Thank you for at least keeping it on the inside I thought that was like a step in the right direction. That was a nice little motivational. Yeah, nice move basement speech Yeah, then he tied her up and beat her down there. Alright, Rudy, plugs for you. Live dates, Stress Factory, New Brunswick, New Jersey, November 22nd, 23rd. And then House of Comedy, Bloomington, Minnesota, November 26th through December 1st. website Rudy Pavich, p-a-v-i-c-h comedy.com is

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