The Adam and Dr. Drew Show - Bachelor Parties At an Older Age and Personal Hygiene (The Adam and Dr. Drew Show Classics)

Episode Date: April 20, 2024

On this episode, the fellas discuss bachelor parties and aging, their different beliefs in hygiene and our obsession with youth and getting old.

Welcome back to the Adam and Dr. Drew Show Classics. I'm your host Big Brother Jake, host of the Big Brother Jake podcast and we've got a great one for you today. First up, episode 507 titled Bachelor Party that aired on May 2nd, 2017. Adam and Dr. Drew discuss bachelor parties and taking time off for them, the pacification of America and the obsession of youth and growing old. Get off my lawn and take a listen. Alright, let me bridge over to the chorality, the choraling reality you'd like to do.

And before the mics heated up, you and I were talking about, we were talking about Gary taking an extendo bachelor party and how we would not know how to ask our bosses for things like that during the week. Right? Tell me about it. Well, to be a little clearer about it, not know how to ask our bosses. I've had one modality my entire life, which is when is this thing? I do it all day every day There's a car race coming up. When is it? What day is it? And then the pause and then I go I can't I gotta work that day And then moving on or as opposed to oh, I gotta talk to or a version see there's there's versions I I did this my whole life and I still do it my whole life, which is what day is it? It's a Friday Saturday Sunday I did this my whole life and I still do it my whole life, which is what day is it?

It's Friday, Saturday, Sunday. Okay, Friday's out, I gotta work Friday. Sunday, Saturday, Sunday, I think I can get there. I might be, what's going on Friday night? Because if I can catch a flight Friday night after work, then I can get there. Now the, about the only shaving on that would be is I might say maybe I can get out an hour early on Friday and get over to the airport or whatever it is,

but even that would be not a discussion I would have. So I wouldn't not dream of bringing this up with the boss. I would not discuss it because I wouldn't dream of it wouldn't come up to come up. Well, and then now that we're sort of on our own, we're, you know, I couldn't get away from my practice, you know, because no one else could, you know, I didn't have anybody replace what I was doing. I was sort of where the buck stopped just the way you are in this business. And so you can't, there's no one to talk to about that. You just can't go. I get it's a new world order and people work weekends and whatever and the dates and the times and we're not bound to the nine to five whatever anymore. I'm simply saying this. Bachelor parties

don't need to be four days. They used to be one day and when Max Pada was saying to me how they get to be four days, I said to him that's when this started. They got four days because it could be four days. Right? No one would ever You'd be insane to say to your boss. I need Thursday off Friday off for the bachelor party Whatever whatever day off it would never come up. So you're about these new guys. It's not hold on come on now It's not doable right? No, it wouldn't be a conversation. I do wouldn't occur to me. That's the thing Okay, but can I say this? Yeah, it wouldn't occur to me. That's the thing. Okay, but can I say this? It wouldn't occur to you X amount of years ago, getting back to our transgendered bathroom, to have a conversation about the rights of transgendered people or

gay people getting married or whatever is going on in our society. So you're saying it's a different time? I don't say there's nothing wrong with Gary. Gary happens to be 20 years younger than me. That's what's wrong with Gary. Okay, it's not He stands out amongst you know, you're not putting it as a value judgment on him. I got it No, you it's like putting a value judgment and talking to my kids about gay couples and whatever It's just it's a sign of the times now. Hold on It will hold you back. Right. That's what he said.

I'm not making a value judgment. But that's what you said. He goes, that's why they will fail. You said something like that. No, they won't. I said to my son the other day. You said this to me though today. You said something like, that's why they won't progress or something.

Well, if you have a motor, you will progress. If the whole deal is chillax and enjoy the concert, then you won't. And you said you're a son? I said, look, super simple. It's super simple. I don't care about college. I don't care about anything else. You are going to go out in the world with a bunch of super soft pussies.

All you have to be is a little bit hard and have a little bit of a motor and you'll conquer everything. So in other words, our entire country has become like a giant radio station. And it doesn't mean there's anything wrong with anybody because it's a new world order. Do you see what I'm saying? I do and what I said was what I was thinking was huh now you've been complaining about all this anti-social oppositional defiant stuff and your people that you're attracted to or have in your life and it occurs to me that a lot of what we're talking about here is the relationship with authority, and the relationship with becoming an authority. Both are things that people with oppositional defiance have real trouble with.

They don't really want to become that authority person because they hate it. They hate it. And so automatically, they're going to be thinking, what can I do to get around this authority because authority sucks, that's antisocial, obditional defiance, as opposed to, hey, that's just to do with a job. How can I, let me just talk to him and figure out how we can get both of our needs met. No, it's an authority, bad. And then I have a bigger sort of thing.

I don't know if I mentioned to you last week, but I think it's somewhat of a result of all of our conversations, which I'm beginning to think. Did I talk to you about this, about sort of an archetype that we've been following in this country? I think I mentioned it, but I don't know. Well, maybe off the air.

I don't know if it's on the air. It's just not a very, it's not yet a really developed notion. I need to study it and think about it more a bit. I kind of feel like we were in this country, a hero archetype into the Second World War certainly. We sort of thought of ourselves in the country as sort of heroic archetype. We bail out other people in countries when things are going, when evil is raining down

upon them. other people in countries when things are going when evil is raining down if you were to look upon the prevailing psychological archetype that this country had at the time we take in the international we take in the poor we take in the Refugees we take we go save sort of a heroic archetype. Would you say? somewhere about 1965 we decided oh well that sucks. We're the antihero We're the antihero. We're the not that guy. We're going to make, I remember the student body president was some screw, everything was a screwball.

Everything was some sort of antisocial, sociopath was elevated. Rock stars, those are our heroes. Criminals, those are our heroes. Godfather. And so, I think we are still living in that weird archetype of rejecting everything of a authoritative sort of authoritarian certainly and and we're in the kind of the tail end of that Sort of burning out on it

Let me be clear here because I think I can fix all this in your brain. Okay. All right, you ready? I'm gonna make all the dots connect. You listening Max Paddiff? Before you do, before you do, do you, do you hear me? Does it make sense? Yeah. Is it, am I on to something? You're on? I, look, I've said many times, you know, when you say like, you know, it's my thing about these horrible Saturday morning cartoons, they entertain seven-year-olds and and or I always say retarded adults because when they say oh he's 44 he has a mentality of a seven-year-old then you go okay that's severe

retardation. Alright, I get it. Kids used to be kids and kids were sort of meant to be seen and not heard. They didn't really get a vote. They literally didn't get a vote until you became an adult in this country. And we didn't listen to you. We were adults, you're the kids,

you were the ones who didn't know anything. And we're gonna smoke in the car with you in the backseat, and we're gonna listen in to Les Brown and his band of renown, not your new pop music, the Archies or whatever it is. We don't listen to that. I'm the adult. I own this car. It's my car. It's my radio station and my radio. And when you're older, you get your own car, listen to what you want. Right now, you listen to what I want. All right. So those were kids.

What decade are we talking about there? 50s, 60s, 70s? Historically, it's always been you're the kid, I'm the adult. And it's some... But it's meant different things. I would argue that that was particularly that way in the 50s, 60s and early 70s. No, and the 1850s are probably more than that than the 1950s. Because I think then it was like, hey, man, I'm worried about you need to survive. We're all trying to survive here, that kind of thing.

Well, I mean, it was like, I don't know, they're on a form and they told the kid to get up at six and go milk something. Because if you don't we're not gonna milk. Yeah, but you're the kid I'm the adult I tell you what to do or what not to do and you don't ever. And to be fair again I'm really trying to refine this in the 56 and 70s the adult declaring all that was sort of a prick Sort of an asshole. Yeah, and that may have been It wasn't a prick or an asshole was And that may have been... It wasn't a prick or an asshole, it was just that was a relationship. I'm the adult and you're the child. It was sort of like Mad Men. We were too inflated from the victories of the Second World War

or something. We felt too good about ourselves. Well, maybe there was an element of that, but in and either way there was an adult, there was a child. But I get it. I'm trying to really drill it down, because I know where you're going. Well, if you let me fucking finish, then maybe we could get to this. They had adults, they had children. Really children. And they acted like children, we act like adults and at some point we decided to be obsessed with youth and it could have been you know, hey what's the prime demo 18 to 34, 18 to 30, young young young. You talk to people all the time and you'll go well the guy's got five million viewers but he's only got 800,000 in the demo yeah and you go what about the demo they go that's all they care

about the demos only care about it's like 41 year old dudes don't have money to buy out he's like they just care about the demo they just care about the demo remember the demo then was starting to buy records and all these crazy new technologies and things but we started focusing on the demo and then I started noticing it some years ago when it's like sitting in a sports bar in Detroit. Why are we listening to Rihanna? When did all this come in? When did we need, then being old became, it became a put down. And we call somebody old that's like calling them fat or dumb or something or

maybe the old or worse. Back then it never the good part of the establishment man. Yeah. No, I'm saying now then The point is is we turned it to youth and we start turning everything to you You know every commercial to youth all the music to youth everything was about accommodating the youth and wanting to know what the fresh hot was about accommodating the youth and wanting to know what the fresh hot 17 18 19 year old pop star wanted and then we started curtailing society toward the youth and so when you talk to what just read your thing no no no I keep like looking down and flapping around no no it's actually cuz I'm deep in thought

okay thinking about so finish up please all right, I know you get up... I have a thing when I'm thinking. Alright. So, it was all about youth. Well, youth... They're stupid. This thing is like, oh, I have so much to learn from my kids. Are these blowhard... You should see these blowhard actresses and actors.

They get up there and it's like, I learned what courage was by looking into the eyes of my 18 month old daughter. And it's like, you didn't learn shit about courage. I don't learn anything from my kids. ["Dreams of a New World"] Welcome back to the Adam and Dr. Drew Show Classics. Up next is episode 649 titled,

I'm Gross Because You're Stupid which aired on August 21st of 2017. Adam and Dr. Drew have a deep discussion on soaps, fragrances and hygiene. I really can't get down with Adam's point of view but listen for yourself. The difference between the two of us is I got a swimming pool the other night like Lynette's like yeah I hit the shower and I already did just like You went in the pool. It's like that's the same as it. That's that's my shower. That's it. You don't get You can't convince me that you get any cleaner than in the pool. I thought that way in my hair turn green

Oh really? Well, it's different though. The pools are much better cared for. We got a little salt water in there, you know, it's no big deal. I don't feel like I get any cleaner than being in and out of the pool, soaking in the pool. How come I ask it any cleaner than being in the pool? And everyone's, it's the funniest thing with all these kids today. I noticed it with my son here, an Italian friend. It's like, could you imagine being 11 years old getting out of the pool after playing in the pool for an hour and going, oh I got a shower. Like they go hit the shower.

And yet after football practice they don't. No, they don't. Which is crazy. There is a weird thing. Isn't that weird? Well it's not weird. What happened was is Procter and Gamble did a great job on everyone's ass Except for mine, but they did a great job, which is Harry. Yeah No, they're psyche do which is they did this great thing

Which is they first decided that everything that sort of lives on your body Oh, yeah is gross like you're gross your you're gross. They don't say, when I tell people I don't really shower, I just say rinse off, you don't use soap? No. They don't go, I disagree. They go, gross. That is so gross. You must smell weird. What's growing on you? You don't realize mental midget, you have been brainwashed by fucking Procter and Gamble. I'm not stupid You are I? Understand that all shampoo is exactly the same and you probably shouldn't be using it and I and I know that all soap is The same you are the stupid one who's?

Duped by the scent in the bottle and made up words. This says Pro V Vitamin 8 with Nutriis. Hey, retard, they're making up words and selling them the Suave Bottles 279. You're paying 14.21 because they made up a word called Pro Nutriis. Yeah, and a V, and it made a cool color. And you're saying I'm gross because I'm not stupid. Yeah, there must be some predilection in the human to be disgusted by body stuff, including whatever secretions or oils are on our bodies. We know so much naturally I will disgust for that and they're just playing on that. Because people react emotionally, like, oh, it's disgusting. Oh, oh, bleh. And I go, and I go, well, what do you do in the shower? I just rinse off

What about soap? No, I don't use up All if I don't eat a bar soap every day I fucking smell like an ass man I can't and then they start getting other people involved Sherry. Come here. He doesn't use soap. Yeah, don't you show oh Sherry, come here. He doesn't use soap. Yeah, don't use soap. Oh, it's gross. And then what about shampoo? Don't use shampoo. Listen retards. You guys use shampoo. You strip away whatever's supposed to be in your hair and then you use conditioner. Two, chalk up two points for Procter and Gamble in the TARD competition. They don't get any of my money. I don't use shampoo. I don't use a fucking bottle of shampoo in 20 years. I won't use one.

I won't go through a bottle of shampoo. I don't use any of that shit. It's gross, whatever. No it's not. Your body will regulate. Your body will figure it out. If you want to get into this thing where you're scrubbing constantly, your body's going to start producing more oil

or more sebum or whatever it needs to produce that you're scrubbing away. Anybody's skin, like their face that are working and scrubbing and scrubbing, look, when I was in high school, I was like, get the alcohol. Get the pads. Get the alcohol in the pads, scrub that oil away.

You got that excess oil, it's around the bridge, you have that oil in the nose, that's your T-zone, man. That's an oily combination skin with an oily T-zone, man. Get that oil going, get that pad, scrub, scrub it, scrub away. What the fuck did that do, Drew? Did nothing. Scrubbing just produces more. It's not like, oh, the oil went away.

We scrubbed it away. Everybody's secreting it. It's not an oil slick. Could drop out of Valdez. It's producing it. It's coming from below. What is all this fucking notion and who is this and what the not, I don't think shampoo is good for you. I don't think you need shampoo.

I don't think you need to do anything but rinse your shit off. That's it. Now, I don't even use hot water. I used to use hot water. Now it's just cold water. Whatever's on you, is on you. Have you seen that guy, the Wim Hatt or something?

Wim Hatt. Has he seen him? Mm-hmm. Yeah, well I just go cold shower 45 seconds, done. And just about every day, done. Shampoo. Cold showering, I'm an advocate. I am every day. Now let me say that. And somehow it's doing something to my body in a good way. I don't like to brag. You know, I don't like to brag.

I know that. But I have to. Yeah, it's your duty. I do not believe that anybody can tell the difference between my hair and my skin, either on my body, on my face, on my head, whatever, because I don't use shampoo and don't use soap and don't use, don't cleanse and don't deep clean and don't do anything

ever. I don't think there's any difference. I don't think there's any difference in my appearance whatsoever. There's no way you could tell. Now some things are genetic. You have no funk and no oil. That's you. That's me. That's you. And some people may need to tend a little bit. That's you. That's me. That's you and some people may need to tend a little bit Come on now. I get I get the funk but yeah the oil but the scrubbing of the oil just creates more oil That's that's what I'm saying mop it up, but I don't know scrub it out. I don't I don't think so go crazy I'll look everything is genetic. Yeah, is shampoo do anybody any good? some people

The majority of people I don't think the majority of people need shampoo. I think they need to rinse themselves off every day. I don't think they need to scrub with detergent. There's no way God, nature, whoever decided it would be good for us to scrub with detergent your hair every day. And you've noticed that the the higher-end shampoos are barely soaps. Yeah. The lighter, the lighter, the more pH balanced, the more they're not soaps anymore. Well they're like, they're like, I don't know. This one's made with McAdoo. Right. It's a new kind of a melon. Do you know the McAdoo? I just know it. It's it's from New Zealand. I figured it sounded like a New Zealand product. Yeah. The McAdoo. It's got Dose Braavos 5. Oh, Dose. Dose Braavos 5. Oh my God. Yeah, it's Dose Braavos.

It's Macadoo melon. It's the essence of Macadoo melon. Essence of Macadoo. Well, they go to Australia. Well, you read the label, it's less than 1%. New Zealand. New Zealand. Excuse me.

New Zealand. Yes. It's a Kiwi adjacent. It's not a Kiwi. I know. It's a Macadoo. It's a Macadoo. It's not a kiwi. I know it's a macadoo. It's a macadoo. It's a Spravos 5. It's emollients in essence. It's your hair craves. Did you know that? Your follicles, okay, your hair are like tentacles on an octopus. Yes. What they feed, it comes

back to the center. Oh, I see. They pull it back. Yeah, they pull it back. What the Sbrava 5 does is it soaks up the emollients, the balsam and the macadoo, and it sends it back to the roots and then the healthier roots. And it also heals the split ends. You ever see a dead tree? I've seen one.

You know what kills it? Bad roots. Oh, of course. You nurture the roots and the tree growth. So we do that with hair. We do that with hair with McAdoo, right? Those problems five it's not free. No, but you're worth it Yes, I'm worth it or you could use a Dalip of fucking dish soap and it'd be exactly the same for the rest of your life except for that Doesn't smell like anything and you're dealing with stupid people And they got to deal with scent

dumb people Much more scent oriented think about it. You're more of an animal you this Nutricia this stuff works the best Yeah, I seen I seen the chick from Sex and the City uses this Yeah, I seen the chick from Sex and the City uses this stuff. She has a good life. She knows what she's doing. We'll be right back with more of the Adam and Dr. Drew Show classics.

All right, last up for today we go to episode 781 titled, That's Not My Kind of Music, which aired on March 9th, 2018. Adam elaborates on how he processes people's way of thinking as well as his own. It baffles him. He doesn't understand how some people have the rationale that they do. Listen to how he explains this. It's an interesting thing, Drew. Here's an interesting subject.

What we should be empathetic and sort of sympathetic and understanding about versus, oh come on, we all have with our spouses and people we work with and stuff like that. Which is, I walked over to the other shop after doing my show, I walked in, there's Phil sleeping on the sofa. And I said, where's Lynette? And they said, she's gone. I said, whoa, we had a deal. She was taking care of Phil today, and I'm working today. And she said, yeah, she forgot.

Forgot Phil and left him? Yes, and there's a part of me that went like, oh, come on. And then there's a part of me that went jealous. I wish I could do that. Well, there's always a jealous part. But I feel that way when I see corpses. No, there's a part of me that has almost forgot Phil on many occasions where I've just he's here. He melts into the background. I'm done. I'm rushing. I get my car. I may do it later on today. Yeah. And things that I realize are within my possibilities of things I could do, like I could

do this, or I almost did that, or one time I did get in the car and like shut the door and someone ran out with Phil, I immediately just brush off and say, okay, well I could have done that. You know what I mean? You do a school shooting, I don't go, well I could have had a bad day. I go, no. All right, school shootings. I have thoughts on that. So you gave Linda to pass what you're saying. Absolutely. Absolutely not No, no, no, no at emotional pass. I'm not bringing anything up. Okay, but I mean I I'm not gonna go home and go Hey, you shouldn't huh? Because I could have done that any of the I could have done for me personally the same way if I see someone doing something and I could do it, it becomes nothing. If I see someone doing something and I can't do it,

when I hear people speak multiple languages or play the viola or something like that, I'm very impressed. And in terms of doing, not doing things you could also not do, like, you know, forgetting to shut a door or something it lets assuming it's something you would never try to write right do you have any capacity to understand why somebody might have a

different sort of set of biological guidelines in their brain that set the standards for their own behavior? I understand that there are pretty big differences between me and many people. My only problem with people who don't take care of business, so to speak, is if they were insanely consistent about it and it just didn't happen because it's not really something they're capable of then Then no, so I'll give you I'll give you I'll give you a perfect example. Okay, you ready? Yeah, I Said a million years ago when we're in this warehouse

Donnie had an old Bronco old Ford Bronco big with a big lift kit on it like big knobby tires on it and everything and the big with a big lift kit on it like big knobby tires on it and everything and the Thing just was sort of sitting in the back. It didn't have an engine or transmission It was kind of a rust bucket and we found ourselves because of the way the warehouse sort of laid out It would sit here in the driveway and have to like someone's moving their car out We'd have to push it, you know push it back and you're doing this like five point turn to get it out of the way and then someone's pulling their car back and then pushing it in. And we pushed it around for a long time. And at some point I said, I would like that Bronco out

of the warehouse. Now it's got your warehouse. I probably just said the warehouse, but yes, my name is on the deed. Okay, so I said I would like it out and I'm not telling you you have to drag it to your own house Um put it out in the parking lot put a cup put some plastic on it or something But it's just taking up space for pushing around you're not working on it. You're never working on it So i'll tell you what i'll let you park it in my parking lot, and again, take the bumper, take everything and just throw it in the bed and put some plastic over it, mothball it, put it on the parking lot. Okay. And then I do what I do with most people, is I go,

I'm not going to tell you the date it needs to be removed. I'm gonna say how much time do you need and then you be generous and pad that time and give us a time, give me a time when you can comfortably take care of this. I've heard a few of these stories over the years. Never turns out good. Never. Well you know how it never, you know it never turns out good? You're hearing the story. Yeah. If it worked out perfectly you wouldn't hear the story. Yeah. And then worked out perfectly you would yeah story Yeah, and then he moved on I think I would That be that would be accepted and so he said Two weeks. Okay, two weeks and I said, okay two weeks and then I do what I always do

I'm not gonna bother you or harangue about it. It's two weeks. Today's the third That'll be the 17th and that'll be that that. Can I... We'll move on....jump in a little... this is just just my way of conversation. Maybe that's your mistake in the sense that you're giving too much trust in the other people's ability to remember the time frame, keep it as a priority, start planning and moving towards that date, unless you were reminding them, since it's a little more of a priority to you because what's in it for them. Yeah? Look, there are more effective ways to get stuff done.

I'm not going to argue with you. I just like to ask people, what do you need? Tell me what you want. How many times you got to do that before you stop doing it? I don't do it that often. He said two weeks and I said good. I won't bug you and we'll just do it.

And two weeks came and went. Shocking. It was exactly where it was, and I said, what's going on? And they said, didn't move it. But here's the interesting part, and this is the part. You talk about people's ability, what they can do, what they can't do, some people are wired differently, so on and so forth.

I said, I gave you two weeks you didn't do it it's in the same place it was what gives he said I was busy a little more than I reckon for more parts I thought so what are you gonna do and I just said what if I said you move in two weeks you'll get ten thousand dollars would you have made it happen he said absolutely and I thought okay well at least we have an answer that you can do it. It's just you don't do it under normal circumstances. You do it when there's $10,000 at stake. Did that conversation go on in your head or out loud?

No, I said it. And that's how most people are wired. So when you go, hey, but people aren't wired for, oh, they are when they would like to, when there is something there, when there's a carrot and then how to go after that. How long was it there for it's what I've got it got moved at some point then junked after that but the point is this I have understanding sympathy and and whatever for the person who literally can't do it. But we're you don't know many people literally can't do it. Yeah. But, you don't know many people who literally can't do it.

Most people couldn't do it or would not do it for free. If you gave them $100, they might very well do it. If you gave them $1,000, it would get done. Right. So... If you gave them $10,000, it'd get done tomorrow. Right. So, now we all know we can do it.

Now we're making a choice a choice on whether to do it or not based on what the compensation is i understand what you're saying and there are people that would a hundred percent agree with you i unfortunately work in a world of broken motivations and motivation is really what you're talking about here he's not motivated

so it ain't going to happen until you will will for something for money. Yes. Right. Yeah. So that's the point. That's why I was advocating that you motivate them by like, Hey, I'm counting on you, dude. I'll tell you, I'm getting that thing done. Right. You got it. You got to get the coach counting on you. That's not going to work with those people. So my my thing is, if you're capable of doing something, and you forget or don't do it then that's an issue but if you're not capable then I'm not interested. Yeah. All right. See you have a motivational system that includes your scale of justice that no one else has. I have a you know, I have a motivational system that works this way

Did you agree to do this task in this time period or do this task you meaning you yourself Yeah, I agree. Yeah, if the answer is yes that we need no more discussions about but then carrots It's your scale of justice kicks in and you say I committed to something. That's the right thing to do I'm gonna do it. Most people have no scale of justice It'd be nice if they started, and as a society, we started to focus on that instead of making excuses for them like a puss like you. No, no. Thank you. Hang on.

I actually agree, and I just don't know how we operationalize that so much. We start kicking people in the fucking ass. That's how you do it. I think the thing goes to kids, but let me hear something about it. Oh yeah, you start kicking kids in the ass. Here's something about it. Yes. All right, that's all for this week. Thanks for listening to the Adam and Dr. Drew Show Classics.

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