The Adam and Dr. Drew Show - Classic #629: Speak Out, Oh Toothless One!

Episode Date: November 18, 2025

July 21, 2017 - Adam and Drew help callers about pelvic pain due to sexual abuse, debting addiction, ibuprofen intake, and increasing the amount of semen in ejaculation.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Time for throwback episode. This is 629. Speak out. Oh, toothless one. Yes, you've got to listen. This is from July 2017. We talked to callers about pelvic pain due to sexual abuse, deading addiction, ibuprofen, increasing the amount of semen in an ejaculate, something that callers seem never get tired of asking us about. Check out this throwback episode of 2017, episode 629. Corolla and board-certified physician and addiction medicine specialist, Dr. Drew Pinsky. You're listening to The Adam and Dr. Drew Show. Yeah, get it on. Got to get on. The truth is being a mandate. Get on. Thanks to tune in.

Thanks for telling a friend. We love that about you, don't we, Drewski? We do, indeed. You were just saying something off the air, and I was thinking about it. There's phrases I hear a lot, and I realize I don't think I've ever said it. I've never said nobody's perfect and I've never said I've done my best

there are things like that that you should just remove never said nobody's perfect that's for sure I've never said that I've never said I've done I did my best I've said I've said I've tried real hard

or something came up short but I've said best I'm certain I've said I'm not perfect and I'm flawed when I'm talking about like emotional things or something but in terms of behavior I've heard so many

of these TV talking heads like sort of do this thing where it's like you know before you judge so and so realize and none of us is perfect and we've all made mistakes and it's like well first off this person's accused of taking a table leg to the head of a disabled person you know so it's like I don't know how you judge yeah I woke up one morning and realized that I'd left the sliding door unlocked and that I was the last person out, is that what we're comparing it to? Like, things of that nature? Because this is a salt with a table leg with the disabled person. Where's the bar for we've all done things we wish we could take back?

Like me with the sliding door, wish I could build a time machine and lock it. And yes, not perfect. That part. But you're talking about assault with a table leg. I know. What's this preamble of we're all. perfect and all like you know i i don't do you get that no we we it's like we it's like it takes away the the scale the scale the magnitude right there by the grace of god go on we all we all have like

no no that's different i was one time i was watching god i can't remember if someone showed me the clip because i don't watch the view but somehow they were just talking about you know people being incarcerated and they were just all nod in their head when Whoopie was explaining, that could have happened to any one of us. You know, it's like, well, any one of us who decided to commit a crime, yeah. But short of committing a crime, I'm not sure. It's right up there at the school to prison pipeline. So we're just walking the dog and get sucked right into that thing?

It's very interesting. It's an interesting tactic, which is to remove you from the equation. Yeah. That is not, I'm not interested in sharing that modality with my children. There's lots of fallacies in the stuff that gets flown, a ballooned, kited these days. A lot of the ideas of fly around are sort of filled with fallacies. Yeah. Right.

Fallic-filled. I'm not interested in getting my, filled with anyone's fallic. But there's like the logical flaws in a lot of stuff. People float these days. Yeah, I'm just saying, I don't, a lot of a lot of a. associations and then causation attached to it and just kind of I've never said like if it happens here it could happen anywhere like I've never said that it doesn't mean anything it's a that's a fallacy it's just a statement of opinion that's sort of based on whatever I didn't well let's show me the data show me the data that could happen anywhere yeah or it could it could obviously it can like if a shooting could happen in Columbine it could happen anywhere it's like yeah it's true a shoot can happen anywhere. I don't know why you need to preface it with a sort of nonsensical, neither fish nor foul sort of statement. You know, everyone has to make this statement. And no,

you wouldn't end up in prison unless you did something to get yourself and you committed a few felonies. I would assume multiple felonies before you get caught. And then, yes, you do end up in prison. And yeah, nobody's perfect. Don't know what that means. We're talking about someone who did something bad or heinous or hurtful to someone else and uh try my best simply means i'm not up to the task of whatever it is you put me up to that i failed that don't not interested in that never no uh very curious though and i'm curious at people who walk that stuff out and use it all the time and uh the other ones you know like who amongst us here can say they've never made a mistake you know, that kind of stuff.

But it's like, it's just, it's rhetorical flair is looking for, looking for emotion. That's all. It's, it's, it's sophistry. Not interested. Yeah. All right. Hey, I'm having, uh, eye surgery soon. You are?

Yeah. Let me do it. I need some extra bread. I'm, hey, we're, that, there's a, what are you paying this dude? Well, what do you, what are you willing to do it for? Whatever it is, knock 15 to 20% off right now, but that's dealing days, you know what I mean? And it ends soon. So I'm going to get the.

PRK, it's called They actually take your retina off and restrap it and stuff It's going to be intense But that's why I have to reschedule One of our recording days So that's in a few weeks Can you please get those giant glasses

You put over your glasses That old people wear? Yeah, I'll leave those for a few days I love those And I'll still need to wear glasses But my refraction will be way way Better, which I'm so excited about that It's going to be cool

Because now I'm at the point where the refraction is so intense I can't see things close up What's it like driving? with the after the procedure no just now with your glasses now I'm fine but it's I'm going to be fine without glasses essentially uh Chris 38 New Mexico what's going on yeah hey first of all I want to say I could never do what you guys do barring the fact that Adam's a comedic genius and Dr. Drew has a combined 50 years medical experience I could not handle strange people calling me up and beginning their phone conversation with what's up obviously what's up is you guys are doing a podcast

cast, and I don't know how you guys have the patience for that, but it's impressive. Thanks, Chris, and what's up? Just that part. So, my wife, I'm geographically separated from my wife due to a military commitment, and she was complaining of cramping and spotting over the last two years. So without a formal diagnosis from her doctor, she elected to have a partial hysterectomy. And initially they scope the outside, made sure it was okay. When they removed the uterus vaginally, they looked at the ovaries and said there was no abnormalities there. It's now two weeks post-op, and her cramping has returned.

What do you mean without a diagnosis from her doctor? What does that mean? She said that my uterus hurts, and I want to get it removed, and there was no identified diagnosis. Like, there was no defined condition that would predicate removing her uterus. That doesn't seem possible, but I'll take your word for it. But look what's on her paperwork. There's got to be something. Fibroids, menometro raja, something.

They would have to see something? They'd have to call it something. No, I have to call it something. Yeah. Otherwise, they could move forward with the procedure. But, okay. But Chris is sort of saying she's a little. hypochondriac or a little bit crazy or you don't quite she's going to have cramping her diet is

exceptionally poor and she's a long time smoker so i suspected that uh what she was experiencing was symptomatic of some lifestyle issues and i was really kind of pushing her to get healthier to see if the symptoms kind of were relieved has she seen a gastroenterologist yeah so they they did that and they they did the colonoscopy they saw no issues there i mean She was spotting and cramping, so she was certain that it was her uterus. They never scoped the inside of her uterus, just the outside, and I was really kind of pressing for that. So I really wanted something to say, this is the problem, and when it gets removed it on the way. Well, Adam and I are adding, we're adding the score up, and Adam, what's your diagnosis?

But she was abused. We've heard this, right, and sexual abuse. That's what creates unexplained pelvic pain. And Chris is a military guy who's very much sort of nuts and bold. brass tacks, and women don't think that way. And so what you're trying to do is you're going, look, let's get our diet, straightened out, let's put away the cigarettes, put down the booze bottle, and let's see if we can get this taken care of.

And you're right. She's not going to do it, but you're right. Now, here's the thing about something like diet. She's a relatively, she's a young woman. Right. She's 32. All right. The cigarettes and the diet are not helpful.

but without all these pre-existing conditions. It's really neither here or no now. Now, later on, it'll catch up to her, but it's not now. Like when people say, he had a heart attack at 31, he was a smoker. It's like, that's not from the cigarettes. Cigarettes aren't helping. Yeah. And they could be, there's pelvic migraines, things like that, can be made worse by cigarettes,

but this is sexual abuse. I mean, somebody is going, take my uterus out. That's sexual abuse. So what happened? So I also hypothesized that as well. She did have some, so, far admitted psychological sexual abuse growing up where her, a caregiver was inappropriate with stripping and stuff like that.

What? Whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, what? What's a caregiver, right? And what does that mean what you're talking about? I was trying to be vague, a parental, a non-biological parental figure. Mm-hmm. Right. Did what?

Did what? I actually suggested that it might be. Um, um, it was, um, uh, it began with, uh, hey, I have to inspect you to make sure that, uh, uh, you're developing as you're supposed to around age 12, 13, and then later on it turned into it. Well, if you want to go stay at your friend's house, you have to put on a show for me type of deal. Okay. Well, that's profound sexual abuse. Profound. Oh, absolutely. Yeah. So that's not, that's not a little light dusting. That that's somebody who needs. No, no, no, no. But hold on, unless it's a hot stepmom and a, and a young teenage boy in which case that is a little capo that's a man from heaven that needs a psychiatrist or a psychologist that has training in sexual trauma immediately she's already right she's already mutilating her body over this she's already demanded a surgery oh what a horrible step whoever remember i was screaming about last show when you break up the families and you bring the person in and the person abuses is this what we're looking for people can we at least take a stand on this one subject that we know is so beneficial to the kids staying together parents raising the kids yes yes yes the basic community so i pushed for psychology about a year ago she found a psychiatrist that did specialize in sexual trauma okay good unfortunately that psychologist has moved on to another

practice outside of our um hMO type of deal um but i i hypothesized that it was a psychosomatic sort not stand from pain. Yeah, don't, don't, you're not an expert in this. She had sexual trauma, people with sexual trauma frequently have, women of sexual trauma, frequently have unexplained pelvic pain. She's at high risk for substance use, too, in this. Go, go back and find somebody else. Don't try to understand it.

It doesn't really even make sense. Just understand that when you've been through something like that, the information that comes out of the body is misprocess, is overwhelming to the brain. It's like it can't process it properly. If you want to listen to the podcast I've done with Stephen Shore, excuse me, Stephen, yeah, Alan Shore or Stephen Porges, we get into this stuff in detail and explain me how it works. But it's not something you should try to understand in some sort of logical way.

Yeah, and, hold on. You guys have kids? Yes, too. All right. So on behalf of the kids. But, yeah, this is going to be some work. And it'd be nice if she participated, you know. It'd be nice.

But I wouldn't, I wouldn't count on it at this stage. You know, I, you know, it's like, would you please eat right? Like, okay. And then no. You know, that's, I've, I noticed that's basically almost everybody. Yeah. It's, whether you've been abused or not, that's, that's. Change is hard.

Kind of just life. If you're not motivated change, it's impossible. possible. All right, let me talk to Mary 57 Napa. Oh, hey, Mary, what's going on? Hi, this is Mary. You guys are funny, first of all. I just want to say, I've never listened to your podcast. So I did listen to your Dr. Drew on the Dave Navarro show the other day. And your info is so spot on, which is Hubbard. So my issue, and I don't know if you can even respond appropriately, But basically, I'm 34 years clean and sober, and 57 years old. I make a great salary.

I've worked on an IT project manager for 27 years with the same HMO, and I do, I create art. I have this great life. I make my mortgage. But I'm always struggling for years with money and financial. Just kind of, I've always got high credit card debt. I pay them, I pay my mortgage, and I know what's in my family of origin stuff. I mean, my mom and dad struggled, big Catholic family, eight kids, and done, therapy, done, you know, off and on over the years. I don't go to meetings now, but I've tried, I've seen two financial counselors.

What do you mean? What do you mean, two financial counselors, for what? Just to help you, you know, just to help me get on track, to not spend money, to track my money, to do all that. I saw this one guy 10 years ago, and he said, wow, you're my poster child for a successful person because of my salary was very high. And I didn't go back and get a degree. I raised two kids by myself. All right. Why are you not?

There's, you've just switched addiction. What was your primary drug of choice? Crank. I got sober in 83, so I guess crank and alcohol. And did you work with a sponsor? Did you do steps? No. Oh, yeah.

I went to a six-month inpatient program, which I think is actually the best, and that's what helped me get sober. Let me ask again, did you work all the steps? Yes. Okay. So the best of my ability. And did you sponsor other people? Oh, yeah, I did.

Okay. She's going to keep going and tell. No, no, no, because I want to know where she's at with this. You have your A monogram clear on your smoking jacket. I don't have, oh, ha, no smoking jacket. I knew it. I'm just, I'm never wrong. I don't understand.

I told you. I quit smoking. I lost 40 pounds with Weight Watchers in the past year. I mean, I've done all this stuff that's so great. Well, tell us what's so out of control about your spending. I don't get what, I'm not hearing what's wrong here. She's deading all the time. I know, but.

What is it that you're indulging in that would get you into that day? Yeah, and that's the thing, and that's what I say. It's like, I'm not taking trips. I want to travel. I really want to travel, but I'm spending money on out to eat. I've got a daughter who's working on her master, so I just gave her $300. I buy clothes. I mean, I live near Walnut Creek.

There's all kinds of shopping. It's not like I'm taking long trips, you know. No, but whatever it is. is you're spending your money on it's it's not it's amazing how people can spend their money no matter how much they have it's just weird it's just crazy listen uh look no further than mc hammer or mike tyson or now what's what's his name uh mayweather he got a hundred million dollar check and now he can't pay the taxes on it because he spent the whole thing imagine that how that could happen hold on we have to think of a white guy damn um Bernie madeoff yeah there you go

I can't go all black. That's racist. I'm paying off against my retirement. I think they're going against my retirement. Mary, Sir is it. You need to go to debtors Anonymous. And why you haven't gone until now, I don't understand. But there's shopping addiction, there's debting addiction,

and this sounds like particularly a debting problem. And debting and shopping kind of go together, and you start with the debtor's anonymous. There is a debtor's group. A lot of them are gamblers that are in there. But there's also people that are shopping compulsions. And start there. You have a deep connection with the recovering community.

You will find this an easy move. Lots of your peers will be there. It's a common phenomenon. And just to start with that. I'm shocked that your counselors didn't send you to that previously. It's surprising to me. It's interesting. I spend a lot of money, but not on clothes.

Cars. Yeah, but on stuff that has a value. Resale value, yeah. It has a value now and may have more value. down the road with that in mind. Clothing has zero value later and zero value when you buy it really. I don't

the people that spend you know over $100 for a shirt or something like that I got to tell you, did I tell you about a I didn't remember what it was. It was like an $80 t-shirt. Yeah. I was uh, I took

Natalia shopping and she was like over there shopping and I was over here just standing looking at stuff going and I never buy anything. I get stuff for free. My nanny got me this shirt. Like for Christmas. And my birthday, she just gets me a shirt,

and I just wear it. And that's about it. And the Thai shopping around. And I'm looking at this t-shirt. It's like $80. And I kind of wanted a t-shirt that had a color to it. I have white ones and black ones. I wanted like a red one or an orange one or a blue one or something.

I was just kind of looking at it. And some guy came out like, sir, you know, that's a fine t-shirt, you know? And I was like, I just remember thinking, what does an $80 t-shirt really do or look like or what's different about it? And then I thought, well, maybe there is something different because I just wear free t-shirts. So I bought the $80 T-shirt. And it is the only T-shirt I have that has the built-in bacon neck that's always, you literally need, you would need to iron. I don't wear it.

But if you did wear it, you'd need to iron the collar because all the free podcast T-Chiard. shirts and all the motor car to stuff I got from car, you know, oil filters and all just a free junk I get, where they just give away stuff. Their collars are all perfectly fine, and this one needs to be fixed. And look, you know me. I don't care about personal appearance or hygiene. It's weird and wrinkly and no good. And it happened the first day I wore it and the last day I wore it.

It was fucked up from the word go. And I don't even know what it is, but I don't want to have to iron it. So I don't wear it. That's it. And there is no difference whatsoever. So lesson learned. So we give a difference. Line 4 has been hold for a while.

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BenMGGM operates pursuant to an operating agreement with Eye Gaming Ontario. Hey, Aaron, 36, North Dakota. Yes. Hey, hey, guys, thanks for taking my call. What on? Hey, quick, well, I just have a quick question. I've got friends that think that a 800 milligram ibuprofen, the kind that you get after a surgery a doctor prescribed is like the best thing ever.

And I want to know, is there any difference between taking an 800 milligram ibuprofen versus just taking 400 milligram ibuprofen, you know, Advil that you buy over at the store? No difference. I've never seen any difference. So why is everyone? I've also never found anybody that loved data milligrams of ibuprofen. Who loves that?

Well, I don't know. I guess I mean because it's prescription, it must be better. Well, that's called placebo. And, you know, the placebo effect is very powerful. You know, making a lot of something we prescribe adds to the placebo effect. So the analgesic properties of the 800 milligrams ibuprofen that's prescribed with a flare, that's the placebo effect is very powerful it is but it's not different they've never been any difference in my experience scott 44 kansas city oops hey guys oh there it is love you um okay so

real quick my question is um how can i increase the amount of semen that i ejaculate um why yeah okay adam you're gonna love this i like that best hi girlfriend My girlfriend, I joke with her that she missed her calling as a porn star. She genuinely gets off on what they call in the industry facials, you know, et cetera. So this isn't in any way like we're trying to get pregnant or anything like that. It's just, can I, is there any way with diet, exercise, anything that? I got to say this is a guy who's seen a lot of porn. Please, oh, now something.

Please, let me weigh in. Your monocle just fell out of you, right? I'll land in my brandy sniffer again. God, I had a dream tonight because I was wearing a monocle in here with you, for real. Can I say, well, maybe it was after the eye surgery. Well, you know, I was thinking of it. One went wrong. Yeah.

Okay. We love to talk. about what it is that you're doing and why is it, why is it you're 26 years old and your hair's thinning? And then we all jump in and we go, you're over conditioning. Or we go, you're under conditioning. Or we go, there's a product. Are you eating enough B? You're going to have B vitamin. You're anythings are rich in B vitamins. What does Cindy Crawford say? Yes. And then we take a look at a guy with beautiful, big sculpted calves. And we want to know what his secret was.

And he says, he lives on the second floor and he always takes the stairs. So what happened to be from Samoa. But anyway, he wants to be doing. Yeah, right. And then we take a look at, you fill in the blank. The person that can roll their R's, the person that can take their tongue and make it into a taco shape, and then the other one that can't. The person that is double-jointed, the person that, whatever, fill in the blank, and we want to know what their secret is. Their secret is, this is how I am.

Genetics. Genetic. And then the poor Shlove who gets cancer at 32, and we've decided he lives too close to the power plant. Right. Would you want to be a superstitious native? This, now, the whole semen thing, that is as genetic as I've ever seen an example. Yeah. I mean, you know, you bring up other things in polite company.

Your seminal vesicles are just so big. That's just what they contain. but you can enhance, you can maximize your particular volume by delaying, like, between... Oh, well, yeah, sure. Save up, as they say. Don't be emptying the lines on a regular basis. Go as long as you can. Now, one follow-up question.

I am an insulin-dependent type 1 diabetic. Would that have any... Yeah, it can a little. Yeah, it can a little bit. Did you have a period when you were younger when you didn't take good care of your diabetes? Oh, yes, definitely. Yeah. That's mostly the residual from that.

Hold on. Move over, Wilford Brimley. I think we have a new spokesperson here. You just finish up on your girlfriend, diabetes getting in the way, the things you love. Having to curtail your vigorous lifestyle because of diabetes. Don't let it slow you down. Now, of course, it's all tasteful. Of course.

We don't shoot it from the way that we see her arm moving. And she likes, she loves it. We see her in a sort of prone position. Yeah, well, obviously for a commercial. Well, she's going to get up and smile and, you know. No, we're not going to show that. No, I know. She'll clean up a little bit.

Yeah. Right. What should we call it? It has to have a euphemistic name. Well, I don't, I'm trying to think what Wilford Brimley is, is talking about. I was talking about diabetes. He's just diabetic. I think you're mostly talking about blood sugar control.

Mm-hmm. Yeah. So, Scott, good. And I actually do keep my blood sugar under pretty good control. Yeah, it's good. That's so maximize that. Are you any of the medication? Well, like I said, insulin dependent, you know, so I shoot up before each meal.

So when I said any other medication, I meant besides insulin. Oh, any other medication? Just, I'm sorry. Just some stuff for my heart, you know. I'm sorry. Stuff for your heart. Other medication, name it. For your heart.

Yeah, yeah, that was it, yeah. No, no, no. What's the medicine? Oh, you know, I can't remember. Does Lexaprosan am right? I can't remember the name of it. Um, is it for cholesterol? Lassanapril.

Lassanapril, okay. All right, it's for your blood pressure. You know, it started with an owl. It's for your kidneys and your blood pressure, but your kidneys mostly. Also, David Allen Greer's, uh, one of his siblings. I'd yell from the porch. Yeah. Let's in April!

Yeah. Uh, anyway, that should not be contributing to this at all. They did the exact same bit on SNL, by the way. I know. They stopped that, uh, Carmichael show. Oh, yeah. I thought he was the new Archie Bunker. I really thought that was a brilliant character.

Yeah, I've heard that was great. Oh, he's so good in that. That broke my heart when they stopped doing that. Hey, Ira, 47, Texas. Yeah. Hi. What's going on? I didn't expect you to switch to me already.

I'm sorry. It's okay. So my daughter, yeah. What are your feelings on that there's a big movement that seems like kids not sleeping with their cell phones or allowed to sleep, you know, once I'm not able to form the sentence here. How do you feel about kids during the sleep hours of the night with their cell phones and their bedrooms?

My general approach to this, by the way, kids are not who they are anymore. Like, I was in the kitchen this morning. Sonny was in the living room, and I let a nice big blast, big morning fart go. He wasn't impressed. And then I yelled to speak. His monocle fell out. I do what I listen to. I yelled, speak out, oh, toothless one.

So I like to yell when he fart. It's funny. And it always made me laugh. I buddy Chris's dad, I get drunk, put his feet on my back when I was watching TV. Let a big blast going and yell, speak out, oh, toothless one. I now realize he was drunk and it was funny to him, but made me laugh. laughed especially because he put his feet on my back and laying on the carpet watching TV

and I started laughing and like Sonny's like and I was like ah come on you love it and he goes and I say I said you're and your friends you fart on each other though right and he's like no we don't I was like 11 year old boys are they not farting I'm like no it's like you don't wrestle no we don't that's me certainly you throw shit out of you guys

God willing in a few months Sonny. Don't jinx it. Have we ever talked about extruding? I would tell you about what Chris would do from the rafters of the bathroom. How dare you. It was only six, seven feet up. Oh, Jesus.

So here's the deal. Here is the deal. I feel what I'd like to do is this thing is going to be a part of their lives and they're going to get to it. The phone. The phone and in the world. And I'd rather just sort of coach him up on. the responsible use like I think of like I'm a gun owner

now who wants to teach kids about safety and responsible use not hide the guns so much as have them respect the guns understand how to use them understand the power understand the negativity negative consequences but he's asking about the screens in the room at night and that's really the issue yeah I don't I don't

like it on the other hand and I don't know how old your kids are I would like that does depend on the age of it I live in a world where I go look you turn off the phones when you go to bed You put the screens out, and you turn the charger on, and that's what you do. So maybe 9 o'clock, all screens go off. Even that's a little.

You're allowed to have them, but if I come in and I see you looking at at 11 o'clock, then you're not going to be allowed to have it. It's just a sort of, you know, consequences and responsibility. Bad for their sleep, bad for their mood. It's not good. Yeah. Well, that's why you make how old are your kids? They're actually, I've got twins that are exactly a year older than yours.

It's crazy. Yeah, so I think, I think. the deal is set some regulations that aren't super stringent, but they're pretty pretty easy to follow. And then if they don't follow them, then consequences. I think that's the key. The key is if you try to tell a 17-year-old girl her curfews 8 p.m. on Saturday night, she's going to sneak out of the house, and it's not even really her fault. You're kind of creating a consequence. It's not really, you're creating a criteria that's not really followable. On the other hand, if you pick what you think is a sensible curfew, say midnight or 11 o'clock or whatever it is,

and the person comes on with one, then you can start enacting punishments. It's hard to punish someone who sneaks out at 8.15 at night. Yeah. It's still light out. That's what I'm saying. So think as a society and as a parent, what is a reasonable ask? You know what I say to people all the time? You know, they go, you know, they're doing work at the house. and I go, ah, be there around eight.

And I go, eight. And I go, around eight. And I go, I'll tell you what. You pick the time. And they go, I should be there around eight-ish. And I go, I don't want eight-ish. But also I'm not going to tell you eight if you don't think you make it before eight-thirty. You pick the time.

Why don't you make it eight-thirty just to play it safe? You pick the time. I won't tell you the time. Think about it. And when you arrive on the time, I will expect you to be there at that time because I'm going to be in my bathroom, stand by the front door. at that time. But you picked the time. And so it's reasonable. They're still late. Yeah. It's not reasonable for me to go, you got to be here at 6 a.m.

because that might be unreasonable. It's not reasonable. You pick the time and then we need to enforce it. I think another good thing is to have sort of a consensus amongst the parents on a lot of stuff. As much as you can have a unified front, the better off you're going to be. And also then, you know, you know what certain households are about if they are outliers. Right. All right, go to Adamcroll.com. We have the podcasting masterclass. That's an Irvine Improv.

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