The Adam and Dr. Drew Show - No Cement Ponds (The Adam and Dr. Drew Show Classics)

Episode Date: March 31, 2025

Adam and Drew open the show talking about Adam's life at home and how his anger could evoke the way people act around him. Adam also tells a story about his frustrations with his housekeeper and pool man as well as the horrific drivers in Los Angeles. The show wraps up with an epiphany Adam recently had.

This is Corolla Digital. Recorded live at Corolla One Studios with Adam Corolla and board certified physician and addiction medicine specialist Dr. Drew Pinsky. You're listening to the Adam and Dr. Drew Show. Yeah, get it on. Got to get it on a choice but to get Adam and Dr. Drew show. Yeah, get it on. Got to get it on a choice, but to get it on mandate. Get it on. Thank you so much for tuning in.

And thanks in advance for telling a friend. Good to see you, Dr. Drew. Yes, sir. How are you? Oh, man. I had a funny moment the other week talking with my wife about you and me and what's wrong with me and a lot know what's wrong with me and what's wrong with me

a lot of like what's wrong with me conversation it's also a weird thing my wife picks her spots and you know she's just weird she she picks her moments in a particular way sometimes to bring this kind of thing up? Yeah, this was brought up. Well, it's like, she'll do the, listen, you live how you wanna live. I'm worried about those kids and your attitude. And I'm like, okay, well, when we had this discussion, this a couple weeks ago,

but it was really about a week ago. This was on the heels of we had, I got up on Sunday and I took the kids with me to Fontana to do a vintage race. And I took them with me and they, you know, I say, you're my pit crew, you know, and they washed a car, they wipe the car down. They have a good time. And then it's a lot of daddy's the best racer in the world kind of thing.

I want them to experience things. I don't want them to sit in a classroom. They come, they see the trailer, they see the big dually pulling it. They hear the loudspeaker. I go, and I call them to the grid, group four, and they see me getting my gear on and getting in the car and then I come kissing them and they're sitting there and then they're going up to the stands

to watch the race and and and they're proud like and then I finished sixth out of 28 cars my son had reported to Lynette that I'd finished fifth out of 42 cars you know as I like it just out of curiosity, did Natalia like you less because you weren't up on the winner's circle? No, she was, you know, as a lot of daddy has to be the fastest, I explain these guys are real racers and the equipment varies and blah, blah, blah. But took them to the race. And then Monday, the following day after going to watch Daddy Vintage race, Daddy went and assistant coached Sonny's basketball team.

Natalia came and participated too. And then I got the, you're poisoning the kids basically with your whatever. And it's like... During the game? No, no, no. Afterward. After the game. Afterward.

But then it's a sort of like a, well, I'm not going to argue with you, but not all the time. That's funny. Because we had a whole day Sunday where they were just watching Daddy out there, Vinci Trace's car and eating hot dogs. You're not always a bad influence. Not always. Not always is what I'm saying.

They've had some pretty good experiences with them. All right, Ozzy just showed up to the shop. Make sure somebody monitor the number of cokes he decides to take for the road. You just saw him walk through? Yeah, I can tell it's Oz because you see the top of his head go by the thing. But Ozzy usually shows up, I like to say, when he says, we need to talk, I like to do

the, oh, you're going to pay me back all that money I lent you? It's never that. But it's always, Ozzy doesn't move where he takes the two. Two diet cokes or two cokes? No, no. That diet, yeah. No, no. He grabs the two for the road. Is there one for now, but

then he's going to want one later, right? Of course. Why not just have this math go on in perpetuity? I mean, what about tomorrow and the next day? Yeah, take more of the two. Provide a case of Diet Coke for you or? What happened, Gary? Why are you smiling? What did he get? One or two cokes. The word is two. The word is two. Is he still here? All right, you gotta go see how many are in the hand. All right, so. So she gets on your case after the basketball game.

That's all right. She's right. She's saying, look, she talked to, you and she had a confab and you know, I'm angry. I'm too angry. I'm too angry. And I go, I say the same thing to her that I say all the time. If she would tell her, if she would do what you ask her to do, you wouldn't be angry. I say this.

I have a propensity to lean toward that. Towards anger. Probably. Yeah. But we could mitigate it. But you and I had this conversation a couple weeks ago. A week ago we talked about people being scared of you because of the anger. Right.

Some are. Some claim to be and the anger. Right. Some are. Some claim to be and aren't. OK. Because I know by their actions. OK. OK. Got it. Let's not have that conversation again.

Yeah. My kids aren't scared of me. Right. Or they wouldn't be like, buzz off, old man. You know, it's like, you know, I'll go like, hey, go up there and throw your clothes in the hamper. I don't feel like it. Go up there and throw your clothes in the hamper. I don't have to.

Go up there and put your clothes in the hamper. I'll do it when I go upstairs. That's not fear by any stretch of the imagination. Do you see what I'm saying? I don't have that at home, although, like I said, it's claimed. It's not enacted. I know what fear is. I've seen it.

I've been on the losing end of it. I've been terrorized by you. No, but I've had... They could be afraid of you. They could be evoking your anger. No. I'm not scared because then simple tasks and requests would be completed. Well, it's the fear of evoking your anger weighed against their sort of rebelliousness,

right? I mean, that's what you're dealing with. Okay. Listen, I'm not here to discuss that. What I need to know, and so what happened was, it's interesting. So I said we had a conversation and I said I would like to work on that. I would. What's going on is I, but what would help, what would help this is I'm very busy and I'm very pulled in a lot of different

directions. Help this mean the anger? Yes. And thus, when I say, I'll give you a couple examples. I just said fire the pool man the other day. And because of this, I have this sort of theory that no one really does their job anymore and no one really is interested in doing their job. So it's a little, I'll give you an example and you tell me what to do. I have a thermometer in my pool.

The thermometer is supposed to be tethered to something, otherwise it just gets sort of sucked into the basket underneath the thing. It even has a loop in it with a hole in it that says tether me. It then gets untethered and then just floats around the pool dragging the string and then it ends up into the suck sucker basket. Yeah. And that's where it lifts. Yeah. And every once in a while I pull it out and I set it on top of the sucker basket lid meaning hey here's this thing that just came out of the sucker basket and it gets thrown back into the pool and then it goes right back into the sucker basket again. And like I said it has a tab on it.'s made to be tethered that's what

you do with these things okay and I pulled it out three or four times I've laid it out on top of the thing saying here here we are and now my point is is you're fired you're you ever ask him to do now here's the thing you're fucking pool man you are pulling this thing out of the fucking basket that it's getting sucked into. Obviously, one would have difficulty reading the thermometer if it was inside the filter. Do you see what I'm saying? Yeah, I do. I think you do deserve to give him one verbal. I gave him the one verbal on the, hey, when you're done skimming the pool

and you have a basket filled with leaves, don't just capsize them in the dirt near the pool. They end up back in the pool. Put them in a trash can. Capsize your bag of leaves not in the planter four feet from the pool but in the trash can. I think I provided a bucket and I think now it's a little hit and miss but the bucket gets used. Look, I don't want to have to talk to you about your job. You're a pool man. If you don't have a piece of string in your truck to tie the thing off to that gets sucked into the filter every single time, I just want you fired. And I'm fine with that. At very minimum, the guy you get next when you're telling that story will keep him on his toes. Yes. The other thing, and if you want to know about anger, I will give you another little example.

But you tell me how you would feel about this. All right. I went, as I said, I did a race. I have a very interesting, very cool, very interesting, Max Pata could probably go get my phone and I could show it to you. Hey Ozzy. All right there buddy. Got your cokes? Good. Okay. He's having Gary go get an armful for him. You got to get the hand truck, get the cases out there. All right. Yeah. Dig. All right. Dig.

Dig this. I have this device on my phone. It's an app. What? Yeah. Well, Matt, the poor, some punisher figured this out. You dial in the track you're going to. It has all the tracks listed in it.

Oh, wow. Yeah. Cool. I mean all the big ones That's cool. Mm-hmm And then you go to that track and you put your thing in and hit start and it gives you all the data Nice. Here's your lap speed on your first lap second lap. Wow. Here's your average speed incredible Here's your top speed Wow, and you can kind of then go through it and go Oh lap seven was my fastest lap or what did I turn or what was my top speed or what was my average speed or whatever it is.

So the night before I was leaving to the track, I said, you know, I'm going to take my phone, which I leave in my car a lot, and I said, I'm going to plug it into the hard line at home and get a full charge on that baby. Because I do not want that thing, I want a full battery for this app, which kind of is a calorie burner for the phone. I set up a station by the front door that has a little station in it for charging the phones,

keeping the keys, and doing all that kind of stuff. So I shut my phone off, because it doesn't work in my house, and I plugged it into my house, and I plugged it into this thing, and I walked away. The following day, I left it off because, again, I wanted as much battery as I could. My biggest nightmare is having my battery dead and not be able to record any of my lap times and any of my whatever times, got to the track, turn the phone on, red bar where the battery was. I said, red bar?

How could be a red bar? I was plugged in overnight into household current, overnight, and then I went, oh. Fridays when the maid comes. When she vacuums, she unplugs. She unplugs the plug, she plugs in the vacuum, she then vacuums, she then unplugs the vacuum, but she never plugs what she unplugged back in. It's like you're fucking letting people in your house that are sabotaging your shit, and then you get a lot of this. Well, she doesn't speak the languages.

She's not from here. She only knows how to unplug. Well no, she knows how to plug the vacuum in. Only the vacuums. Only vacuums. You literally unplugged it. You cannot not undo what you did like literally I had to start painting I start painting shit on the French doors because people would open a French door

Walk out onto a balcony, you know shake out a rug then walk back in Shut it but not not lock it and pull the curtains over it And then I would go out of town for four days and I would come back and realize, oh the kids' room's door was open the entire time. And so I had to go around and take nail polish and put little marks on the thing, the thing. And then people are like, hey man, what's up? And I'm like, I'm drowning in this. That's why I'm angry.

Because I'm trying to figure out my next book. Yeah. Except for, not really, I have to set aside a certain amount of time to make sure the nail polish is on the thing and to make sure that when the thing gets unplugged, it gets plugged back in and that when somebody without my unplugged, it gets plugged back in, and that when somebody, without my knowledge, goes out on my balcony and unlocks the door and then pulls the curtain over it,

I have to go back and check and make sure that they locked it behind themselves. I have way too much of that in my life. I get that. So, um. So Lynette comes at you. And I said. You're too angry.

I said to her, you're right. I'd like to undergo this therapy. I would like to check it out. But EMDR, what would help mitigate some of this is you not making a three year process out of like getting my calendar together, you know, when I say, look, I'm going to go on the road, I'm gonna kill myself, you're gonna be in charge of my calendar, make sure everything's on the calendar and updated, I know all the phone calls

and all the promotions, all right, that'll be what you do, I'll do that. When we have multiple arguments about that, that does not help in this department, in this arena. And she said yes, understood, and I said, I will try this end of it, and then you try keeping up with that end of it And I don't know what we're gonna have to do with the this. This is our cleaning lady It's a constant source of pain for us because she does it all the time now

We could have a talk with her about it and somebody should have a talk with her about it What happened with me is I said, I will try this therapy and I will try to reel it in. Well, the main thing for that therapy, what we talked about with Cheryl Erritt was the stuckness you have with your stories about your parents that we keep hearing the same stories over and over and over again and it's like it's happening right now. Uh-huh. Approach that topic too. They're shitty, they're shitty abandoning, unavailable, nothing, nothing going on.

The vividness of that can be diminished so it doesn't come to the fore. For all of us, that would be nice. Yeah. For all of us, that would be nice. So I agreed to that. And then, well, what happened? Well, because of the protracted conversation, because of the protracted conversation, I found myself running late for work that night. And I jumped in my car and I went, I'm running late for work that night. That night. That night. And I jumped in my car and I went, ooh, I'm running late. And I really, there's enough people here

that are waiting on me and guests and things like that. I wanted to make some time. So I hustled down to the bottom of my hill and there was the guy and the Lexus just sort of parked at the stop sign. Should have been turning right or should have been doing something but he was just kind of parked there and I There was another car between he and me and did this what the suckers move is is slide in behind the slug

Whereas I had enough room for me to thread the needle to go to the right of him Yeah, but as I was passing him I looked at him and he was just texting, you know? And I honked on the horn as I went past him, meaning, hey, asshole, wake up. You're free to text. You're free to do whatever you want, but just pull over. Don't sit in the middle of the street and do whatever it is you're doing. So I honked on the horn. Then I got to the bottom of my hill and I had this. You know the bottom of my hill. The red light, no right turn on red. Well that,

that's, yeah, you, I don't even, don't even begin, don't even begin to contemplate that. The question is, is do I have a lamb? Do I have a lemming? Do I have a sucker in front of me down there? That's going to prevent me from turning right. Now I did a move where I can tell because I've lived up there long enough, nine, ten cars probably enough to cycle. The light was red. So what happened? I'm running late. This is a by the way when this light when you miss this light you got ten minutes worth of sitting. The light changed. People started gingerly. I always love it when this happens. You've been sitting at a light for a lifetime and then the light changes and you go

one Mississippi, two Mississippi. All right, now I'm going to tell my right foot to start depressing the accelerator. Like, this has not gone on long enough for you You'd like to extend this stay? at in Shea Shea, Camry you Want to extend your visit in your in Shea Lake Hollywood Street? Yes, like just fucking sitting there just sitting there and So that is so they start. That is something that's absolutely

characteristic about that intersection in particular. Weird. Yeah, they start filtering down. And now I realize I have one car left. And we're turning left. And they're turning left. I'm going to go right. And I'm going to ignore the no right turn sign

that whatever government thinks they're doing. I don't know the idea. No one should, nobody should, everyone should ignore this. But anyway, I got the one and the light is starting to turn yellow. And I'm now I realized this one car in front of me is and I get on the horn. Go, go, go, go, go, go, go, almost unbroken. Just go, go, go, go, go, go. They stop because you're out of it. They stop because you're blocking. They stop and we stop. I see it's still yellow And now I can't turn right and I'm trapped there and I'm fucking livid and

I like that move where you're honking to go faster and they stop That's the default setting for idiots. Now. I promised my wife that I would calm down Moments earlier that I would calm down moments earlier but then I realized I can't do it as long as these fucking people are live hey it's Adam Kroll from the Adam Kroll the show bet online is the world's most trusted betting platform and your number one source for online betting from the earliest odds to in-game live betting bet online Provides you with all the action and the ability to watch and bet on games as they happen with the largest selection of odds on everything from football NBA

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of Zura where from 20 feet away she pulls the cord and snaps it and it rolls up over. She has to walk over to where it is. By the way, hold on, the apple cord is bright white. I mean it literally winks at you. It's white and it's dangling. She literally has to knock the white dangling thing away, unplug the fucking vacuum, and then walk back up knowing that she unplugged said white thing. And again, it's not one of these. Well, we transported her from time back back in time, several thousand years.

She was a peasant woman, an Egyptian, Aztec times. No, she has a cell phone. She charges her cell phone. She sees the cell phone sitting up top. She understands the plug and the cell phone and the whatever. It's just what the fuck, Drew? What am I supposed to do? I'm supposed to just get to the track and go, ah, I have no power on my device that I use for recording my lap times.

Well, that's neither here nor there. Even though I made a... That one's on me. I should have gotten down and made sure that no one stuck into my house and unplugged it. I guess it is. What if you went through life assuming you can't change other people, you can't rely upon them to be as fastidious as you, and you have to double down on your fastidiousness and double checking in order to accommodate and compensate for them?

Well, as I said, just to the- So it becomes leave the house earlier. Through the grace- Check the plugs. Through the grace of God. Check the doors. Both my kids are alive. Don't rely on anything that anybody else can do. You got to do it yourself. Through the grace of God. Check the door. Both my kids are alive.

Don't rely on anything that anybody else can do. You got to do it yourself. Well, that's good, except for I'm on the road. I understand. I understand. And I'm very, very busy, and that's when the aggravation level kicks in. And as I said to Lynette, I could definitely reel it in. Also, folks could step it up,

and we could meet in the middle. You need a enchila, a handmaiden. You need just somebody that walked around. What's her name? Anchila? What novel is she from? Just call her enchila. Just call her.

Where's she from? It's just Ancilla. Just call her. Where is she from? It's just an Italian or Latin or Italian word that the word ancillary comes from. Oh, it is. I got the porcelain punisher does a pretty good job. He needs to walk around behind you constantly, wherever you go. Not just here. He does that wherever you go. From his home. Yeah. So again, I'm pulling

the thermometer out of the pool filter and the gardener, and like I said, the gardener after the 26th time he left the gate open so the kids could drown in the pool, I just said, well, that'll be 50 bucks the next time you do it. Oh, I took 50 bucks away from him. And guess what? I started closing the door. What do you know?

So all the people have all their theories about, well, there's an English, there's a language barrier, or he comes from a land where there's no cement ponds. All those things go up in a puff of smoke when you remove $50 from his pocket. But that's a really important lesson. How does that work? Well, how do you motivate people to the question? How do you explain this to the educated people that are explaining to me why I can't ask

this of this person? How come as soon as the $50 comes out of his fucking wallet, he immediately problem disappears? Well, maybe he's a little sharper than we thought. Becomes a priority for him. You made it a priority. Right. Now, me employing you and asking you to do something should get into the priority basket in your fucking feeble mind.

But it does not good enough. My request, not enough. And yeah, as far as pool guy goes, it's been an ongoing thing. No, I've never pulled them aside and I don't want to pull them aside. There's a fucking thermometer that gets sucked into the pool basket filter every time. Would you think that's where I would go to look for it or I would like it to read said thermometer? No.

And when I set it on top of the cover deliberately, I literally, I have a handle that lifts the top so you can get to the, I threaded it through the handle and I said, here it is. And he went right back in the pool, it'll go. And then two days later, I fished it out of the basket again and now he's gone. Don't you like that society or what do you want a society

where we sit down, I get a dry erase board out and we have a powwow about it or you just start fucking doing your job? What do you think? I think doing jobs good. All right. So I like giving people a chance to do their job is good. Giving a chance to do his job. I'm just being clear about this. That's all I'm saying.

He's there's I think when you buy this product, it has a tab on it that says tether me. I get it. Don't encourage him like that. Stop with the nodding and throw the glass there. My point is, it's a little passive aggressive to go here and see what he does with it, as opposed to being direct and going, hey man- I can't wait for him to show up. I don't know when he's going to be there.

He may be there, I may be out of town. I may be at work. Put a note on it or something? I understand it's more work for you. I get it. Dear Tard. No. Here's my point.

I don't want to put a note on it. I understand that. I get it. I want to know where he's at. Well, also, by the way, the next guy message will be received. The next guy it'll be clear to. One would hope. But either way, I don't know, where do you guys stand? Do you want to write a note that says dear person who does this for a living?

Gary. No, I mean, I understand the part and look, I would say to the maid, hey, when you unplug this thing, plug it back in. I don't know why I have to have that conversation, but evidently I do. Yeah, there's a weird thing that when people are in a certain behavioral mode, it almost is a psychological predisposition to get people that pay bills late and stuff, they keep doing that. It's hard to get them out of that mode.

People that pay them early, like me, I can't be taken out of that either. Right. It's a weird thing to get them out of that mode people to pay them early like me I can't be taken out of that either right it's a weird thing, but it is a weird thing to not He understood the thing is bright white it got unplugged the vacuum Was only plugged in for 20 minutes in that neighborhood Entry hall kind of thing like it wasn't like it was there plugged in for days She didn't come back the following weekend and then unplug it was like unplugged it 20 minutes later Plugged it back in or whatever it is and never bothered to plug in the thing, but that's alright

We'll have a conversation there pool man. I don't want to have a conversation with him about I don't want to have a conversation with him about doing a very basic and fundamental aspect of his job. Okay. Well, they get weird about, like, do you ever try to get a pull-up to fill your pull-up with water? He's fine. He doesn't have string on him to tether it, and thus he ain't doing it. So it goes back in, and it goes back in the basket. But I, and it used to be tethered. It just, it came undone and went into the basket and he will not re-tether it. Doesn't look at that as part of his gig.

All right, so would you guys write a letter to the pool man or would you fire the pool man? That's the question. I like the guy but I like little pets. First of all, I need you guys to imagine being a rich right guy with a pool man. I want to know- You need to be a millionaire like Adam Kroll. Just imagine what that's like. What I'm saying is I want to know where this guy is at. I could follow everyone around

and tell them what to do and they would do it but I- Just imagine you're Adam Kroll, a millionaire. Here's what I'm saying. And you have would do it. But I, you know. Just imagine you're an Adam Kroll millionaire. Here's what I'm saying. And you have a pool man. I don't want to tell the porcelain punisher to flush the toilet after he destroys it. I want to know that he's a person that does that. I understand. Imagine. What do you guys think? No or not?

I don't think you need to know, but the verbal warnings that give him a few and then if... He didn't give many. I think he gave no verbal warnings. Here's what he had. He had passive aggressive signals. No, passive aggressive. Passive aggressive symbols left around. What he had is this thing is supposed to be tethered.

It's designed to be tethered. It has a tab on it with a hole in it, number one. Number two, he has the, it was tethered for some time, but it came undone. And then he has the, it's been pulled out of the filter 11 times. And then he had, it is now sitting on top of the filter cover. And he's decided to throw it back in the pool, which then gets it back into the filter with all, not the filter, but into the catch basket. Where obviously if you want to know the temperature of your pool, you have to fish it out from the pile of leaves and lift the lid and go, there's no way, Lynette would never know,

by the way. She would go out, look around for it, not see it, not have any idea what's going on. Gary? Um, careful. Say whatever you want. Gary? Um. Careful. Say whatever you want. Chris disagreed with me. I just be stoked to have a pool man. A verbal warning. Yeah. Thank you. Same here.

Thank you. Yeah, I just be stoked to have a pool. Verbal warning. Imagine you're jaded now. You say verbal warning. You're jaded and you're angry. I wouldn't do well, listen, I wouldn't do a written warning because I don't know your pool man but I would imagine.

But now a verbal warning involves you catching him or you calling him. Now see I'm a nerd, I'd take a picture of it and then when he showed up the next time I'd be like, look at this bullshit. This is not okay. Yeah, but show up next time means I'm not home. He could be there now. Adam has to go out of his way and call him. I'm not going to be around.

You guys are painting a scenario where I'm sitting out like when a Liberace's boy toy's holding one of those reflective things under my chin, and then he comes up and I go, oh, Carlos, I'm not home. Nobody's home. I don't even know when he shows up. That's the whole thing. I don't know the guy's phone number. I don't even know when he shows up. That's the whole thing. I don't know the guy's phone number. I don't have his phone number. I could probably, I could

find it. But now I'm going to burn some calories having a string conversation. Now mind you, the guy's supporting three kids. This is a critical part of his employment. If you're supporting three kids, you should get some fucking string. That's my point. That's my point. As far as the note goes I don't know if it's gonna fucking blow away or get rained on. I don't know what I don't I don't know if it's the notes going to physically be there. I don't know where to put the note. I understand. You see what I'm saying? I understand. The note was left. Which was guess who fished this out of the filter. That's the note. Hey thermometer with tab and hole in it, it was fished out of the filter. Where would he tether it to?

But aren't you making a leap as someone... He can tether it to where it was tethered previously. Where? Who cares? But I've looked at your pool, where the hell do you do that? Is it a chair or something? I'll put it to you this way. There's a couple little of these spouts that come out of the side.

Currently, the thing that dispenses the chlorine tablets is tethered. He tethered it. There. So there's two more moors he could tether it to. He's chosen not to. And he's done it the entire time. And again, there ain't much science to this. If this is too tall an order, but yes. Well, just let me offer a potential defense for this guy. Careful.

If I walked up to your pool and this was my job, and I saw it sitting out there, that would set off an an alarm for me and I would realize that you were unhappy. Does this guy necessarily work with you enough to understand that because it's not where he left it that means somebody took the time to take it or is he so out of it that he just sees it and says well that's supposed to be in the pool and kicks it? He's so out of it that he says that's supposed to be in the pool, but he knows it will not be long before it ends up in the filter. But he doesn't care. That's right. He doesn't care. So that's why he needs to leave. He knows it's a thermometer. He knows it's supposed to be tied off but he doesn't feel like walking back to his truck or maybe he doesn't have twine in his truck just like he doesn't feel like emptying the leaves in the trash can which is a further distance than the dog run or whatever it is. Off with his head. Just, just he knows if it

goes back in the pool it's going back into the filter basket. That's what he does know and he willingly puts it back in the pool. Which means I will then have to fish it out of the filter basket and set it on top of the thing again. I could write him a note, but I feel like that's all that he has all the pertinent information that he needs right there in front of him. The note would be redundant. Thank you. Okay. I like the guy, by the way. He's a nice guy. But he needs a lesson. Everybody, everybody needs a

lesson, Drew. We have decided to get out of the lesson business. I like the lesson business. Why should your lessons stop? I haven't all, isn't all great literature really about lessons? Isn't everything in the Bible about a lesson? Yeah. You know, is there anything that says he fucked around on his wife for a long period of time, got no venereal diseases and was never caught.

The end. What movie has an architect who goes, you know what, we should cut some corners and then some, hold on, Act One, Chuck Heston comes in and he goes, you cut corners. We're an earthquake country. Earthquake hits. We're going to be in big trouble. And he goes, don't worry about it. I'm going to save some money, even if it means endangering people.

And the earthquake never comes. Is that the society you want to live in? I like the earthquake to come. It helps. Thank you. I understand you like people to be harmed and hurt and be out of work and be damaged by earthquakes and things. I understand that.

I do. Lessons are important. Yes, they are. Don't totally disagree. However, we were talking about you being less angry. That's where this started. Fuck that shit. And you don't have to be everyone's lesson provider. You don't have to be everyone's teacher.

And maybe if you did a little less of that, you'd be a little less angry. That's all I'm saying. Not that you're wrong. By the way, radical recommendation. Right, but what shall I do when my thermometer's in my filter and my phone is dead at the track? Thou shalt h have forgiveness and charity for the pool man with three kids. But I would like to avoid this in the future and I

think I can avoid it by shitheading him. Maybe. But there'll be another lesson to somebody else five minutes later, the person texting at the bottom of the hill. I have found, well that's true and that's unavoidable, but I have found that when you weed out certain people with certain tendencies and surround yourself with others that don't have those negative tendencies, your life gets smoothed out quite a bit. So you're not angry anymore? I mean, we've done this for years and years. You find you're not being angry anymore?

No, I find myself angry at other things, but not the operational part of things, at least as it pertains to this, for instance. Like this operation? Yes. Yes, things are improved here. Yes, and they constantly get improved physically and sort of psychologically.

But there's an interesting lesson here for you. Your anger has moved on to other things. You're not less angry. You just found other things to be angry about. Well, I will tell you a revelation, and then you can dig. And I'm going to do this therapy. The MDR? Me and the pool man.

But it's not specific for the anger. It's to de-emphasize the tapes about your parents. Yes. Yes. And that might make you less angry. Who knows? Well, no. But I will tell you about an epiphany I had on the driveway with Lynette in this arena. This conversation. This conversation. And it'll shed some light. The conversation that made you late. The conversation about being less angry, which you drove out of the driveway and got angry at somebody about it. Okay, got it. Check. I went almost a quarter mile before I had my... Well, that signal drove. You don't make

that signal. No, I don't drive. All right. We'll take a quick break. No, no. What's the epiphany? After the break? I can't stand it. True. That's how... let's do it after this Are you looking for your next case? Pluto TV has all your favorite crime drama streaming for free You're gonna need some backup which means suspense is free very cool watch CSI New York criminal minds blue bloods tracker

FBI and swap all for free you can't outrun this Someone's gonna pay for all this crime But it's not gonna be you take care of business fellas It's Get gas. Yeah. Get it on. Get it on, baby. So interesting and interesting topic. And Drew, a couple things. Yeah, I don't know.

Maybe I'll end up just living on a mountain one day. I feel like our society's, I do feel like it's kind of coming undone a little bit. Like I'm stepping in a lot of other people's chewing gum and stuff like that. And it's hard to laugh that stuff off. You know, basically being taxed to death while calling 911 and getting no response. It's hard just to, ah, water on a duck's tail. You know what I mean? Like, oh, who cares?

You know, there's an element. Especially you that you see as your stuff gets through to you. Well, also I see- You can't screen stuff out. People tweet me things like, they tweet me a picture of, oh, I live in San Francisco and here's what the sign says. And there it is right next to the light in the right turn lane. It says, you can turn right on a red when it's clear, which is something we desperately

need in this city with the worst traffic in the world. People aren't aware of it. But do we do that? No. I mean, if he ever goes, he gets to be governor, look out world. That's when we shift into, I'm fucking retarded, just talking about running for governor. Does anyone else find that totally insane? Or is him running for? So politics kind of is though. Once you've been somewhere, you can go somewhere else.

You know what I mean you can is it more insane that he run for Secretary of Transportation Or was even on a short list of Obama's transportation secretaries. Did you understand he was on that list? No, I do I'm not as harsh on him with that stuff as you well. He has a personality disorder You don't do you disagree with that? I really don't know enough about the guy. I really don't have you heard him speak disorder you don't do you disagree with that I really don't know enough about the guy I really don't have you heard him speak I honestly I've have you heard the have you heard the mayor of your city not give a lecture no not give a letter I heard him speak no I've heard him answer questions and stuff but never give a talk but he's failed the bar four times in a row nice that sound like

someone you'd want running your business if I gave you a a choice, hey, here's a guy who's never filled the bar, oh, wait a minute, passed the bar. How many politicians went to MIT? You don't have to go to MIT. You know what I'm saying? Okay. Governor. Point is this, yes, I see a lot of things I see

that could be improved, but here's the discussion I had that I was was maybe a little epiphany for my wife, which is I said to her, look, here's my problem. I spent the first 30 years of my life doing nothing, crawling under buildings, picking up garbage. Were you equally then as affected by people not doing their job and that kind of thing? No. It didn't bother you then?

Or you were just too out of it, you were too out of it? I didn't, first off, I couldn't, I didn't pay anyone to do anything. No, I understand, but you still would have been bothered by people not turning right or slowing down in front of you when you honked that kind of thing. Or were you just so depressed, so out of it, none of that got through

less of it got through because I was so Struggling to live right basically that I less of other people's whatever's in Inconveniences were inconveniences right and I was looking to eat, you know, and I Spent the better part or the first part of my adult life crawling under apartment buildings and digging and just doing demo work you know taking garbage out right now doing not you know wasn't even like oh I'm looking at some plans and framing a condo. I did a lot of just pure, what you just call straight grunt shit work.

And just a lot of shoveling and carpet cleaning, you know, just repetitive, sweating away. And I never thought that there would be anything else in life other than pretty much cleaning carpets and digging ditches and doing that kind of grunt work. And then at a certain point I met Jimmy and I met you and I had for the first time in my life human beings say, oh what you're saying is interesting. That's funny. I'm amused by it. You should write it down. So when you were working in improv stuff, no one ever said that to you? When I was working in improv, it was understood that I was funny, but there was no place for it,

no practical application for it. There were not the Comedy Central's and all the college humor dot com. Why are you wasting your time kind of stuff? It was like, that's interesting that you're funny. I always say it was sort of like having a gasoline refinery a hundred years before the internal combustion engine. Right, right.

This seems interesting, but what is the practical application? Why don't you make kerosene? We need lamps. Yeah, where's the whale blubber? Yeah. Like, what are we going to do with this? Yeah. So it was an element of, well, that's nice.

Now, here's a shovel. Right. And then at a certain point, I realized, oh, I have the ability to do certain things. And I can write a book, even though I may not be able to spell, I can write a book. And even though I may not have this training or that training I can make a documentary and I can make a I can make a movie And I can do a podcast and I can I can I can go on on stage and do a show with Drew and Dennis Prager and do stand-up and all the stuff and then it became I gotta make up for lost time Because I spent the last decade crawling underneath a house. You're thinking that now

It is it is come to me more recently the last decade crawling underneath a house. You're thinking that now? It has come to me more recently. It didn't come to me initially. Well, lost time. Initially. That's a surprising thing. Initially, the feeling was, oh my God, look, someone just paid me to tell a joke.

This is awesome. And then the other part was, I don't even own the, I don't owe the IRS any money. And then it came to, I'm thinking about buying a house Really that me owning a house and then it became I got a car and it's only two years old You know, it just kind of kept moving up the chain, but what's the lost time? I don't get that the lost time was I spent a decade not

Doing any of the things I was put on this earth to do. Right. More than a decade. Yeah. At least 15 years sitting in classrooms with teachers that were horrible, learning nothing, crawling under buildings and digging with a coffee can. I don't get them making up for last time. No, no, no, listen to me. Listen.

No, no, no, listen. I know when people say I was falsely accused of a crime and I was put in prison for 15 years and now I'm out. I'm going to make up for lost time. You go, I don't get what you're talking about. No, I don't get. I don't get. Do you mean you'd need to make more money or you need to have more fun? Or what does that mean? I make up for lost time. That's what I don't get because I don't experience you as like, I have always experienced you as sort of, hey, this is great. Not I need to, quick, I need to make up for lost time. That's a different kind of an attitude. Well, maybe make up for lost time is not, no, it's pretty good. I feel like you should get this concept a little more easily.

No, no, I get the concept. I don't experience it with you. So I'm curious what it is that you're making up easily. No, no, I get the concept. I don't experience it with you, so I'm curious what it is that you're making up. Is it the racing? Is it the money? Is it the creating more things? How do you make up for the lost time?

Well, you do what you're put on this planet to do. Which is? Create. Create stuff. So I need to create more things. Yes. I need to write another book. I need to do more things. Yes. Okay. I need to write another book. I need to do a Paul Newman racing documentary.

Right. I need to do another independent film. Right. I need to then write another book. Okay. I need to do another lecture. I need to expand this thing because I was cleaning up garbage for a decade and I should have been doing stand-up or doing what have you.

I should have been building this sooner. Got it. Right. So as I was saying to Lynette in the driveway, I feel a sense, a certain sense of urgency, a certain sense of I'm not getting any younger and there's a lot of stuff I want to do and sadly I spent a long time not doing it. And so now I'm trying to do a bunch of things simultaneously and when my schedule and my calendar is fucked up it eats into the time I would be spending writing the independent film because I got to go out and deal with the pool man.

Got it. And the resentment that comes from that is somewhat channeled from the past, family and all that kind of stuff. Unfortunately, it comes to the surface in the present, which is I have a phone that's not charged and a filter that's clogged and I got to go run this thing down. I should be writing my script right now. Yeah, that's where it's and if you can handle that, then I'll be free to write the script, bring the money in and we'll get to keep another pool man.

I got it. That's what I'm saying. Yeah, yeah, I got it. You with me? Yeah, yeah. I dig. Wow. Powerful. All right. I want to thank everybody for sitting

through this cathartic experience. But here's the last more thing. The EMDR is going to, as you pointed out, and I think Bill might have missed this, if you weren't listening carefully, that the family and whatever stuff that comes into the present, that will take the heat off some of the intensity of this, if the EMDR diminishes that traumatic block.

I'm looking forward to that. I have no... I don't have a problem with therapy at all. I've done a lot of therapy. do believe, do believe on occasion that therapists sometimes become part of the posse that if they give you too much resistance, you may cut them loose. Some people are this way. Here's what I'm saying. Here's one of the problems I do feel with therapy.

Therapy gets to hear about your problems and more specifically your problems with spouse, co-worker, whoever, teacher, whoever, through your prism and your prism only. Correct. And then sometimes what would happen with me is I'd get a lot of my therapist thinks your way out of line and I do the That's interesting because if I brought your therapist over to the house and showed them a couple of key things I bet you I could win them over to my side really fast. You're giving them the your version of Me not necessarily the reality It's really why therapists shouldn't go, oh, really? They're awful.

That's terrible. They should just go, uh-huh. They shouldn't take sides at all. They should just acknowledge the feelings. They go, that must feel bad. That must feel tough. At a certain point, they become... No, no, no, no.

You're missing my point. Maybe it's not... Yeah, no, I understand what you're saying because they can become a sort of cheerleader for you. Well, then you get stuck in the resentment back. It's like, how does that get you forward? You're going, yeah, your husband's an asshole. So then you can go, well, now you got to,

how are you going to solve that? No, you just go, oh, I support those feelings. I must feel tough. Let's process those feelings. And then there's another side of it, which is like Ray, who's been in therapy with my dad for 20 years, I feel like some people use it as a check that box. I'm

in therapy. I'm doing my thing. Ray's a lot better though, isn't he, because of that? He's better. Emotionally. But as I always say, if you put on some work boots and put a tape measure on your belt, you'd be even better than whatever goes on in the therapeutic. Act as if. It's huge baby. You'd be surprised how fast you become the person you're acting like. Alright. Thank you all so much for listening and if you want

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