The Adam and Dr. Drew Show - Traveling Mishaps and Couples Therapy (The Adam and Dr. Drew Show Classics)

Episode Date: November 11, 2024

Adam and Drew discuss a traveling mishap Drew experienced over the holidays and they take calls on couples therapy, circumcision & testicular irregularities.

Recording live at Corolla One Studios with Adam Corolla and board certified physician and addiction medicine specialist Dr. Drew Pinsky. You're listening to the Adam and Drew Show. Yeah, get it on. Got to get it on. No choice but to get it on, Mandy. Get it on and thank you for joining the hottest podcast in America. Oh yeah. The Adam and Dr. Seuss Show. Back together at last by popular demand. So Drew. Yeah. I heard somebody Tweeted me, drove into a snowbank. I was just going to bring that up.

You were. Yeah. What happened? Well, okay. was just gonna bring that up. You were. Yeah. What happened? Well, okay, let me set the whole scene. You're on vacation. On vacation, we're skiing in Montana. We stay with Colleen Williams and her family. She's a newscaster here in Los Angeles. You know Colleen? Yeah, listen. I know. You've had, you had your way with her. No, no, no. We went to dinner with them. She talked about her son for two hours. Okay. All right. So they're friends. Intriguing for other adults to hear about 19-year-olds and what they're doing at the college level.

You'll be doing that one day too. People, can I, can please understand that other adults don't give a shit about your kids. They just don't. I mean, unless they're doing something interesting. Okay. Just being enrolled at a college is not enough. I mean, it's enough for a comment. Do you know what I'm saying? Yeah, yeah, yeah. You can definitely go,

oh, he's a freshman over at Pepperdine. And then I'll throw in a, and by the way, I'm done caring, but I'll throw in a, what's his major? And then you say, Polly sign, and I'll give you a, well, there you go. And then we'll move on to shit about me. Yeah, right. Yeah, I understand.

But somewhere around minute 107 of, Timothy was dating a girl his freshman year. Okay, sweetheart. All right. All right. So we're up in Montana. It's cold as shit. There's five feet of snow. And the- How's your son doing? He's doing great. He's a really good skier, brother. Want to hear about him? I like to talk about this. I spent an entire conversation talking about Colleen Williams' son.

So they're having financial problems up there. There's a lot of bankruptcies and stuff, so you have to kind of make your way around. You have to find places to park and things. What do you mean, bankrupt? Clubs are shut down and stuff, and the hills, you know, there's problems, you know, because of the economic downturn. And the hill is still best game in America period. But we had to park in sort of a, you know, sort of a parking lot cut out of ice basically, big day skiing, finish.

I'm in a suburban, filled with my family, their family was like nine people in this car. Take off right out of the, right out of the chute. You can take a little bit of a left turn and head down a 30-yard stretch of downhill, and then take a left, and then go back uphill. You're making a right with your hand. I make a left down the hill, then turn right. I'm sorry, I said left? Yes.

Take a right, and then up the hill. Four-wheel drive, probably not four-wheel drive low, just four-wheel drive, and immediately apply the parking lot and begin sliding. Start sliding down the hill. Immediately. Because you have a vehicle, you have a suburban. Yeah. That's probably 6,000 pounds.

Filled with people and gear and stuff. You have another 2,000 pounds worth of people and gear in that car. So you got a lot of weight. Crazy wild wheelbase on these things too, which I never noticed. That the back is, it's got a lot of work. Crazy wild wheelbase on these things too, which I never noticed. That the back is, it's like a hook and ladder. It's like it's doing its own thing.

So the back starts sliding on us. Back starts coming around in the front. And I, what do I do? Turn the wheel of course, crank the wheel, put the brakes on, now we're in full, now we're fucked. Now we're full like spinning. And so you did the wrong thing. Did the wrong thing.

But there was, you know what, there was no right thing. I made the mistake of pushing on the accelerator out of the parking lot and now it was just sliding. It just made it worse, but it was going to slide anyway. Into a snowbank. Deep in a snowbank. Deep. Now the four-wheel drive, now trying to get out.

Please tell me I had to eat Colleen Williams to stay alive. Her son. Her son. Her son. Better. It's all good. Better. And first thought I had. First thought I had?

Mm-hmm. Fuck. Adam's going to hear about this. I may have to call triple A. You may have to call triple A. To get out of here, I had a toe. Yeah. I was like shit uh-huh another book mm-hmm oh my right inspired another book yeah but what happened no no we were

men of men of actually outdoors and action and found a guy with a Jeep and a strap chain everyone carries those except me right in Montana and with some difficulty this guy hold our asses out of there. It took a while. And what was the deal? Did somebody take a shot? How to get on the Twittersphere? My wife took one of those panorama views with all... It looked pretty majestic. Oh there it is. Yeah. Took the... Oh Jesus. So there's my kids and standing around. At that point I believe I'm

driving which point Getting nowhere see the Jeep behind trying to pull right right eventually pulls us out the front. Oh, he went forward Yeah, cuz cool. We couldn't get anywhere back. Mm-hmm. And At that point John Dudley Cullings husband threw me out of the car. Well, he's a pilot Yeah, and he took over for a second. That's what I wanted to don't talk to her No, anyway, I drove all the way through. Alright. So yeah, good day skiing, good week of skiing. Took the family. Beautiful, right?

Beautiful Montana. It's nice. You go on family vacations. Look at that. Look at how great it is. Yeah, it's goddamn adjusting. And when I go on family vacations in ski trips, and we take pictures, again, see I have OCD, so I have intrusive thoughts, you come to mind.

That's good. You know why? Because of the 47,000 times you told me the stories about going to people's houses and seeing pictures of them on the mantle on their ski trips and you wondering how that was even possible. I thought they were photoshopped. Like they stuck their heads in a thing at the circus. Yeah, well, a little more advanced. Like Sonny has a Sports Illustrated Sportsman of the Year with him on the cover because he hit zero home runs and made zero baskets.

That's what it takes to make Sportsman of the Year. You need to hit zero home runs in your T-ball league. Well, not counting the one that where you hit the middle of the year, you need to hit zero home runs in your tee ball league. Well, not counting the one that where you hit the middle of the tee, talk of the tee, the ball sprang forward three feet and then overthrows got you got you into home. And then scored zero baskets in your YMCA basketball league. That's what makes you Sports Illustrated player of the year 2012.

That's what they're looking for. Goose eggs. Look for zero production. That's what gets you. There you go. Yeah, there he is. Sportsman of the year. He really looks like a ball player.

He really does. Does he like baseball? He's aggressive. Is he? Does he like it? I don't know. I don't. My kids dug it right away.

He doesn't, he has the hyper vigilance. We were talking last episode about Disneyland. He's not interested in them roller coasters. And I brought him onto the roller coaster, kicking and screaming, like he was literally crying. And I put him down in that chair. Did you like it? No, he didn't like it.

He held his ears, mainly the whole thing. The sound. The sound is too much for him. The, when you have the hypervigilance, the noise bothers you. And at that age, you don't really have the coping mechanisms. You just literally put your hands over here. You can't... He... You tell me if this is good parenting or bad parenting. Natalia's nuts. Nat's, she wants to ride everything. Call your child nuts at age six, that's good parenting.

She wants to ride every fucking, every ride, the hairier the better for her. Sonny wants nothing to do with roller coasters. He wants nothing to do with any, I mean like we said at a certain point during the Christmas break, mommy said, you know, you know what we should do? We should go to Catalina and go on that zip line. That's exciting. She did that once. She said it was fun. I said go on a zip line in Catalina. I said that sounds like fun. Sonny's like no way, not going on a zip line in Catalina. And then Lynette said, going on a zipline in Catalina and then and then Lynette said look it's fun you you don't have to take that three-hour boat ride you take a helicopter over there takes 20 minutes he said I'm not going on a helicopter yeah yeah I mean

listen he's a cautious fucking kid I know you're disappointed but oftentimes that that shifts that that can easily be something different. Yeah, it could. Jordan didn't like to walk on sand. He was so goofy about stuff like that. Didn't like what? What are you pointing at? Anything on a roller coaster? Examine the picture of that roller coaster ride.

Well, Lynette and Sonny look equally uncomfortable, interestingly. And you and Natalia look equally as in interested look at what Sonny's doing with his hands holding his eyes Yeah, yeah I mean Lest anyone thinks I'm ever exaggerating about anything. I ever say on this fucking show. What's the tally doing? She and you have the exact same smile, right? Exact and you're looking in the same place stranger. Look at you like this go gonna kill ourselves Lynette is leaning over trying to probably comfort Sonny and Sonny has his eyes closed

Now you want to ever is anyone want to know the difference between the twins? Course, I made him that way cuz I'm the man right? I forced him to be a pussy because all young, wait a minute. How does that work? You taught him not to cry. Did I give him guns or dollies? How did I forge this? How did I turn her into Evil Knievel and him into Mr. Tud Ball from the Carol Burnett show? I mean just look at him. Do you think I had any part of turning

my son into a full-blown puss or any part into turning her into a thrill-seeking maniac? And without you doing anything you could shift back around. Well, because I know Jordan's the one I said didn't like walk on sand, now he's the one doing the full those skydiving, just all that shit. Well, you tell me then you tell me if this was right or wrong. So We're now going to the Matterhorn and we're gonna ride that Matterhorn and son. He's like no, I don't think so I'm not doing it. You know, he's very he doesn't you know go Do I have to he just says I'm not no I mean he he doesn't bat an eye. Yeah, and he doesn't make excuses like it's not a thing where he's like

Hey, man, I got a bad ankle. I don't want to I don't want to and he'll look in the eye and go I'm scared like there's not an ounce of bravado, you know, like, you know kind of guys Oh, I'd fight you if I didn't have this bad back but no he's just I don't want to do that I don't like roller coasters I'm not gonna do it and I said well we're all going on it and you're going to and he said I you know and you know he's not a weirdo he doesn't start crying and kicking and you know he doesn't spaz out jump on the fly, I just sort of tugged him along with his arm. He's like I don't wanna and then at a certain point I even picked him up and I said we're getting in,

it's safe, you're riding with me and at certain points the waterworks started and the tears started coming down his face and Lynette who can't do enough for those two and only those two Look oh wait, there's Molly too Looked into his eyes and just said like okay. No, no, and I said no, no, no, no, we're getting on We're walking on to this thing right now and she sort of saw and I had to give her the hate He's getting on and she gave up and I just said he's on we're getting on right now and the water works and we went and we did it and we're done with the Matterhorn which is not the best place to pop your cherry because it's dark and

it's bumpy people forget that shit from the 60s it's like yeah really slaps you around and we got off and he said that's enough forget that shit from the 60s. Yeah, it really slaps you around. And we got off and he said, that's enough of that shit. He was done. And we said, we're proud of you. Aren't you feel good about yourself? And he said, not really. I'm not doing this.

And then it came time for the next one. And he did the same thing. Hey, you said if I rode the Matterhorn, I wouldn't have to ride any other ones and let's hold you to that. And I said, TS buddy. And I picked him up and I said, here we go. It was either thunder mount.

Oh, the problem was it was space mount or something that freaked him out completely. And then it was like thunder mount and then it was the new cars one. But the point is this, I forced him and pushed him on the first two sort of the third he kind of got on and by the fourth he was fine with it oh good job and when we were done he felt good about himself and I didn't want him to be the one guy who was not emotionally capable of handling a roller coaster while the big roller coaster the big we didn't do the biggest one but he got got, he cried, he said no, he said I don't want to. He didn't, like I said, he didn't pitch a fit and he didn't freak out, he just said daddy, no, I don't, and he cried and

I broke my heart a little bit, but I pushed him onto it and he's much better because of it, I do believe. Reminds me how you treated me when I had a panic attack. Very much that supportive, get the fuck out there. Is that what you said to your son, like that? Like you did to me? I didn't use that for it. But I think we're all happy that we do these things that we try to avoid and where's it end?

I mean there's going to be a life of going to the dentist and going into taking finals And I mean I at least listen gonna be bringing your service dog all that stuff Oh, yeah, there's gonna be a pile of stuff You don't want to do that that a you don't want to do or be you're scared to do that You just better get over in life. I'm not talking about riding a motorcycle. No helmet drunk in the rain I'm just talking about the challenges in life. The things that scare you a little bit. Stuff that you are unnecessarily fearful of.

Like a safe roller coaster. Right. Getting on an airplane. And then, but take it a step further and say, you know, there's certain things that do flirt a little bit with the possibility of danger, like going skiing, you're saying, depending on what you do on those skis,

but there are definitely things that could cause some bones to break and paralysis and God knows what else. I mean, you can always ask Sonny Bono how that goes, or one of the Kennedys and or Liam Neeson's wife. Yeah, I mean there's ways to perish skiing and it's but big picture it's worth the thrill of going down that hill at 30 miles an hour and hanging out with your kids and hanging out with your kids and doing whatever and I'm sort of the same way with vintage racing. It's fairly safe but there is some risk involved but it outweighs in my

mind the satisfaction and thrill of doing it. Anyway questions and by the way you want to support the pirate ship here you can click through the Amazon link on the Adam and Drew page and easy with the phone and go to adamcarolla dot com and uh... support us alright any questions jumping out? Yeah well no no no i got some more material here around this and if you've seen this this rape uh... scandal that's hit this one school where these kids apparently allegedly raped a girl that was so intoxicated she like was unresponsive and urinated on her

and then now a video came out today. The kids? Yeah. Yeah. Today, these kids talking about it and it was – it's chilling to hear how they don't like seem to acknowledge that there was a person there. You know, they talk about, oh, she's dead, and they're making fun of what it's like to have sex with a dead person, and,

you know. Are we, what, we're talking about Yeshiva here? Yes, that's right. That's right. It's that school. That kind of school? Jewish kids? Sorry, I'm just, mm-hmm.

Steubenville High School in Ohio. And the football teams are involved with it. And it's interesting that... How's the video come out? I got to read more about that. I got to find out. I just caught wind of it before I came in here today. And on anonymous leak, according to your crack team.

Not on anonymous leak. The group anonymous that's been releasing all that stuff on the internet apparently hacked and found these videos and released them. How do you hack and find these videos? You go to police stuff? Or do you go to everyone's computer in their house or something?

This group is known for cyber attacks on people that they feel are improper. Right now they're trying to take down the Westboro Baptist Church and they're all extreme tech geeks that make me and Chris look like Luddites. So they will attack the computer from a remote location and get the information and then leak it. They do this to all kinds of corporations and stuff like that. I like that. Social justice, but I'm sure it'll get out of control.

Anonymous Leak, by the way, is a Florida state DB, by the way, who should go pretty early in the next round. Do you know that? Anonymous Leak is what was happening to that poor girl. So these kids were talking about... They're in the same class as a Divigorous Lover. Sorry. Well, anyway, these kids were talking about it and it's just, it's just, you know, it's –

So girl passes out, gang rape. Right, yeah. But A, no understanding that this kid was like, should have been hospitalized at being unresponsive. You've talked to me about that before. Your friends would throw people in the shower and stuff when they were unresponsive. That shit goes to put them in a shower. Did you tell me your cocks on them? Yeah, and then threw them in the shower. Well, they would know they would duct tape No shower would wake them up

You said you've once told me stories about guys getting so intoxicated that you thought they were not breathing and you know No, no matters in your own hands No, we would duct tape them the chairs and draw cocks on them and I would ask them to sleep in the bathtub if I thought they were going to vomit. It wasn't you that was talking about this. I didn't throw them in the shower. Shower wakes them up. No, I get it.

But I remember a conversation with you when people should have been like on a ventilator and you guys were taking things into your own hands. That's what was going on here. But then in the meantime, they're justing because she's a slave, who cares? And then urinating on it because it's funny. And then talking about it in really, in ways, it makes you just stop and go, what the fuck is going on here? And you hear kids in the background going, dude,

this is rape we're talking about here. And then the rest of the group like, ha, ha, ha. Oh, Mr. Uptight, let's talk about what's funny here. And I want to bring this up to you. The level of detachment from the personhood of this girl made me wonder, is this now what we're going to see from all the pornography and shit that's raining down on young people and the social media where people just attack each other? I'm not talking about bullying.

They just fucking attack each other in social media all the time or attack celebrities or attack whomever. That they stop, unless parents actively get them to understand, no, no, that's not real. These are persons and sort of cultivate a sense of empathy that all this shit is going to create these kids that can't even sometimes tell when they're talking about an object or talking about a person. You know what I'm saying? Does that make sense to you?

No. Listen, we are being bombarded. We're being desensitized. And if you're 14 or 11 and being desensitized like this right it can change you I think and also we are sitting back and sort of creating this bureaucracy that fixes everything and does everything so there's a there's it's sort of a one-two punch, which is you were sort of

People are just sort of sitting around getting fat We're sort of, people are just sort of sitting around getting fat, letting the government handle everything and then just soaking up tons of negative imagery, literally eating and playing video games. And you know, people say, oh, come on, you can't blame these violent video games for this, that and the other. But hold on, I'm not blaming violent video games for desensitizing. But let's face it, these video games are basically instruct not instructions. I mean, they're simulators. When you want to fly an airplane, you get in a simulator when you want to drive a tank in the army, you get in a simulator.

Yeah, you're simulating shooting people all day all day long. It helps. And it would same way. I could take you take you to a you know proving ground somewhere put you in one of these tank simulators for a two-day session not to mention 13 hours a day for five years but put you in there for a couple days you get out you get an M1 Abrams tank I bet you could drive around the parking lot. And fire it. And fire it yeah. But but I say I think we kind of know we all have kind of a sense of that piece of it. The part we don't yet have a sense of is pornography, starting at age nine or ten, who knows what

the hell this shit gets down on their computers. You know, you can't avoid it as parents. And again, social media and the acting out and watching people attack each other. We don't yet, and I have a feeling that that's what this is, unless parents are actively cultivating something different. Again, these are football players and stuff. These guys have coaches trying to make them good young men, all this stuff. These are not the kids sitting on the couch playing video games.

Do they have dads or not? Because if they have dads, this shouldn't happen. Well, the dads may be as, what about when these kids become dads? It could be just, you know, it's a, we're a couple generations deep here. I know, but when these kids become dads, they're not gonna raise anyone.

They're there for the fucking part. They're not there for the feeding part. Yeah. So say at the Corolla. What I mean is, is if you're around to raise your kids, that's a huge step in the right direction, sadly. Even if you're raising them poorly, just the fact that there's a voice of authority under that roof makes a huge difference.

I think in this, especially young males, in this sort of amoral behavior, I really do think they keep the kids, or at least help keep the kids on the straight and narrow. Now, we are doing this thing where we're becoming exposed to more and more, but yet we're turning in more and more. So we're broadening our horizons. You mean informationally, like with the internet and stuff? Yeah, I mean, distant lands are open to us,

whether it be porno or not. You can go anywhere, you can travel anywhere, you can do anything, but we're also becoming more narcissistic and more inward, more focused on us. It's me with my screen as opposed to me with other people. Yeah, yeah, and so. You know, there's a weird phenomenon I've seen with young males, which is like,

they're not wanting to date. Like, well, girls are kind of a hassle, and they're kind of, they're literally saying things like, well, they're crazy, it's a hassle. And in my head, I'm thinking, oh yeah, you got your pornography at home, you're fine with that. You don't need a real person. Right.

It's weird. Well look, there's a couple things. We're never going to be able to get rid of whatever they're seeing. That's gonna be hard to unring that bell, the porno bell or whatever. I didn't suggest, I'm just saying we have to actively No, no, I know you don't suggest that.

parent against it. No, there's one, there's two, say it all the time, there's two ways to stop this plague, or maybe cut it off at the pass, or head it off at the pass. Intact families that do some parenting and a society that does some judging with some punishing. That's, that will do it. If we

cannot judge, we stop all the judging and we break up all the families, then it's just fucking Lord of the Flies. That's where we're heading. All right, one other quick thing drew I don't know why not nearly as bad as the gang rape but for me personally maybe worse I I went and saw a movie over the Christmas break and I saw Django. I did too. All right, and I

Had tell me who this person is, because you know, you and I, we're NCIS folks, like we just need a little composite, we just need a little dust of DNA to really get into somebody's psyche. You know, I don't need much. As a matter of fact, you know, I have people that do that thing where they go, you don't know me, you don't know me at all, you don't even know me, how can you make that judgment? You don't know me. I go, you don't know me, you don't know me at all. You don't even know me. How can you make that judgment? You don't know me. I go, it's easier. It's easier for me to judge you.

When you don't know them. You know why? Because when I know you, maybe we used to fuck. Maybe you baked me a pie at some point. Maybe, God knows, maybe I like your brother. Like there's a whole confluence of things going on here. The relationship affects your judgment. No, I just saw you and studied you and decided.

It's like, what, the dog goes to the vet who got ran over and he goes, you got a broken paw. You don't know me. You don't even know me. That's why, that drives me insane. When I see like on TV somebody behaving manic, manifesting mania, and I go, no, I don't know this person, but that's mania.

If I were to show a video to medical students, that's the video. You don't know them, dude. You don't even know me, dude. The bottom of that is that, oh, so as a physician then, if I see a rash, I can't. You don't know that rash, dude. I see, I listen to the lungs, I hear fever,

and I hear the rattle of herpes. I can't, no, I can't. Because I don't know them, I can't. Yeah, no, I know. People grieve misconceptions about them. No, it makes it much easier for me to judge not knowing you and I had this person it was funny, so Went down to see the movie did the whole arc light thing where you sit there everyone got settled in and I had this Thing where it was like it was a packed movie house

But the two seats to my left were empty and I was like I love that buffer zone I love that stretch out my elbow buffer zone and then there was that kind of thing where it's like all right the place is packed oh shit here comes two people up the stairs you know please don't turn in on our aisle they turn in early shush you know turn it now the. I'm like, I think I got this. I think I got, you know, doing on flights every once in a while. I think they closed the door, they closed the door. And all of a sudden, Chick and Dude come up,

turn down the aisle, I know where they're sitting. Chick sits down next to me, she's got a soda, takes the straw, now the movie's starting, takes the straw and takes our, cup holder, our, no's starting, takes the straw and takes our cup holder, no, no, takes it takes a straw and we have our sort of joined armrests, both our armrests, and her technique for opening the straw is banging it down on my, where my arm is resting, just like, like it's got a paper, it's a piece of paper. You could pop the end off and slide it out,

you could blow on it, you could push it back like a foreskin, but her whole thing is like. And so I'm like, what was me looking at Christoph Waltz is now drawing my attention toward her and her fucking straw. And then her next move is every time she sits forward, and it's you know two hour and forty minute movies so there's some moving around people crossing their legs and that kind of, every time she sits

forward when she sits back she sort of throws herself back a little bit she makes a move back which knocks my seat back too because they're sort of attached and I'm like there's a way to sit back where you just sort of settle back in your seat. She'd pop back every time and pop the seat with it. And I like somewhere around the six times she did it, it's like, I'm going to kill this cunt. But then I thought, what's going on? How important is it to you that I be aware of you?

Like first thing you did is you came in late and I had to sort of get up while you walked past. Then it was evidently it wasn't enough. So you had to do the straw thing and now you'll remind me that you're sitting next to me every time you throw yourself back in the seat. And then I thought, obviously I don't think it's conscious. I don't think she's here.

I'm gonna bother the shit out of the person next to me. Is this me? What's going on two thoughts? I have first It must be a glorious world for you. Just sinking back into yourself and your cyber screen It's gonna be a perfect world eventually. We just don't have to deal with people. Yes. Yeah, how can you not happier? We're moving in that direction. You should be happy of all people. We're creating all these shitty young males But you should at least be happier.

You seem more irritable these days. Okay. But I think the simplest way to understand that, obviously there's a million different reasons for people to behave like that, but a simple way to understand that is, have you ever been in pain? Okay, when you're in pain, what are you thinking about?

Not being out of pain? Well, you're thinking about putting other people in pain? No, what are you thinking about? Not being out of pain? Well, you're thinking about... Other people, putting other people in pain? No, you're not thinking about that. You're thinking about yourself. Yeah, you're thinking about yourself. When you're in pain, you're thinking about yourself. Oh, yeah.

And so I think people that are in pain are very focused on themselves, first of all. So there's no perception of the outside. And they're in pain. And one of the ways to try to manage that pain is to sort of project it or put it off onto somebody else or just, you know, you just can't think about anything else. The pain you're in. Right. So there's sort of a lack of awareness of your surroundings when you're in pain. So we can A, say this woman's in pain, right? Secondly, there's something called projective identification, which is a primitive thing of people who are injured early years to

projective identification, which is a primitive thing that people who are injured early use to manage their feelings, they put it in someone else. So some of her misery and the uncomfortableness, she's projecting over onto you. Some not conscious thing. It's just something that people do. So there you are. No, I accept that.

And this is combined with my hyper vigilance. I know, see that was my first comment. Yes. About you living in a cyber world should be nirvana. You should just get out of humanity entirely. Yeah, that makes everything that much worse. All right, quick break. Back with your calls.

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Let's just go right down the line. Alright, starting with Jose. Jose? Hey, my two fellow dingles. Adam and Dr. Drew. What's going on? Yeah, my question is about circumcision. I'm having a newborn here at the end of the month. Mexican having a baby in LA? What's going on? Yeah, question is whether I need to make a decision whether to circumcise or not circumcise. Yeah, well here's the deal. Circumcision is now painless. They have an anesthetic and these things

don't hurt the kids. There's a massive movement internationally to try to get people to circumcise their kids because of significant health benefits in terms of reducing the risk of HIV transmission, reducing the risk of human papillomavirus transmission, and reducing the risk of cervical cancer in the women who are partners of circumcised males. So, I mean- Hold on. Jose.

Yes? Is anyone going to argue with you about this? With your wife, you mean? Yeah. No. Oh, okay. They want that. There's also a practical funny wiener thing in terms of the kid getting laid later on in life. But, you know, look. A practical funny wiener thing? Let's all... Those are not words I've strung together ever in

my life. I'm just saying, we should all just listen to the Jews. We really should. They knew what they were doing with this stuff. And now there's a whole health thing. And this didn't exist years ago. And all these nut jobs, these restore-the-foreskin nut jobs. Well, now they've kind of morphed into this is genital mutilation. Why is it different than what you do to females? And here's the difference. It's anesthetic. It's infant. It's completely the kid is not aware. And it has significant, there's anesthetic, it's infant, it's completely, the kid is not aware, and it has significant, there's a significant, it's like saying, it's mutilation to take somebody's appendix out of there.

Right. No, no, it's a, and there's a guy named Anthony Fauci who's the head of, I think he's head of the NIH right now, and he was, I was at the White House recently. You were? Yeah. They took interest in my show called I'm Positive about HIV, and Fauci gets up and goes, here's the one thing we can do internationally that'll make a massive difference, save thousands of lives, circumcise kids. Really?

We shouldn't be talking about it, we should be doing it. By the way, same thing about the HPV vaccine. We should be just giving the damn vaccine and not talking about it. It's weird how we get all kind of caught up in shit. Jose? Yes? There you go, the great Dr. Drew told you to get circumcised or told you to get your son circumcised. Well, you make your own choice. It's a personal choice. Because you name them, Adam dr. Drew told you to get circumcised or told you to get you know, you'd make your own choice a personal choice

I'm gonna do you name a man is this gonna name him Miguel We don't need another Miguel We're lousy at McGill's yeah, go with Adam. Okay, give the kid a chance. All right, buddy. Thanks for listening Well again, there's this thing where everybody has an opinion and your opinion is just as valid as that doctor's opinion and not so fast and Jenny McCarthy is going to tell everybody, hey, whore, who graces the pages of Playboy, shut up and let the doctors do the doctoring. There's actually a website now that's documenting number of deaths related to the vaccine avoidance

movement. Yes. Number of deaths of children. Of course. Talk to those parents. Oh my God. Talk to the fucking people in Africa after they outlawed DDT and all the ones that have been killed by malaria because it affected some of the fish indigenous fish or bird population well that's nice but now you got a bunch

of dead babies nice work nice work everybody so thanks Jenny thanks do gooders thanks Joni Baez thank you for killing all those people awesome work keep it up talk about on Oprah next time. Well, I want some accountability for that stuff myself. No, we can't judge. Remember that I used to scream? Were you around when I used to scream about the spin magazine? Yeah, yeah. Oh my God.

Listen, it's great being me because when Jenny McCar- you know, when I had kids, they were going through all this fucking Jenny McCarthy my son's got autism because of his smallpox vaccination or whatever and my wife was like I want you know of course they watch all those shows you see the thing is is I don't have a feeble mind I understand every nimble mind I have a very nimble mind it just jumped into the next room. Hold on. Bring it back. Oh, there it is. There it is. I know everything. It's great. People are like, you're not a doctor. You know, I just know. I just know that my son doesn't need a fucking corrective helmet

and I know that Jenny McCarthy's a fucking whore who just spouts out about nothing. And I'm not going to my science for Jenny fucking McCarthy. So we're having kids and my wife's like, I saw Jenny on Oprah and maybe... Now to be fair, she didn't fight me on it, but there was a discussion six years ago. I was like, no fucking way. Get them every fucking shot they have and circumcise the boy twice twice pull it off put it back on and then take it off again gave that HPV vaccine to myself to my sons the second that thing was approved and then their doctor prescribed I just administered do it all do it fuck all yeah what are we listening to all these idiots well I I

don't blame Jenny I would defend Jenny it's the world she got caught up in I would blame. Yeah, yeah. You know what I'm saying? And the media that listens to that I would blame. Well, okay. Hold on. First off, so you don't blame the 14-year-old inner city youth that shot your son dead.

You just shoot the gang he was in? I blame that. Okay. Fair enough. We shouldn't blame Patty Hearst. We I blame it. Okay. Fair enough. We shouldn't blame Patty Hearst. We should blame the SLA. Fair enough. Eh, something like that.

Okay, you're probably right. Bad example. But the point is this. She was dumb enough to get caught up in this thing and dumb enough to spearhead it. And now there's dead people. Nice work. Anything else you'd like to take a stand against?

Clean drinking water? With a lot of nut jobs and a lot of fucking people that don't live in reality. Look, let's just fucking live in reality. And again, that is a secular religion is what... Well, yeah, yeah, it kind of is. But more so, I always blame the lack of science education on how people get, because they don't understand science. It's just another story to them. They have no foundation to reason because there's been no science education.

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everything most everything in life comes down to a This I'll give you a quick story. I don't remember all the specifics But at some point my money manager Tony Reed called me and grandson of a Fredson That's what I found out later my money manager Tony Reed called me and grandson of a Fredson stone, that's what I found out later, okay, um

Not a fan of Hannah Barbera, so okay But a good guy honest guy and been in the business for 35 years and he's heads the company now And he knows what he's doing and he called me one day, and he said hey, there's this program the government is whatever that's kind of interesting which is if you Give fifty thousand dollars as a gift to like Jimmy's kids for his college Whatever then he can gift you back fifty thousand dollars and you can both ride off or it's not taxable or something like that thousand dollars and you can both ride off or it's not taxable or something like that. Some new government bullshit, you know. It's not taxable. And I said, oh, okay, sounds good. Let's do it. And then I said, wait a second. How many times can you do this? And

he said, I think it's unlimited. And I said, I don't think it's unlimited. And he goes, well, I've studied the work, the paperwork or whatever. And I think it's unlimited and he goes well I've studied the work the paperwork or whatever and I think it's unlimited and I said so wait a minute Then I can do this with dr. Drew and I can do this with Daniel Kellison I can do every guy knows got 50 grand. I'll give him 50 grand He gives me 50 grand and then I get 50 grand. I don't have to pay taxes on I Think so he says I said no he said well. I've read the paperwork. I no yeah he said but I did study I said go back and look at it I hung up the phone with him and then he called me two days later oh it turns out that you can only do it one time whoo glad I'm sitting down I know what the answer is I don't

know shit about tax law no shit about. I just know that as soon as you figure out, oh this Then I'll do it times a hundred people. Yeah, and not pay any money on ten million dollars No, no way. No way. So when you hear the no way then I know I don't know anything about tax law I know what no way is and When you see the flyer that says we'll clean any three rooms and an entry hall of your house's carpet for 1995, you should be thinking no way. They can't, for 1995 a company cannot stay in existence, a guy drive a van to your house and clean your carpet. I'm not making the leap to science yet.

How does that work? I get you gotta have judgment about too good to be true. I know that there's not a human being I grew up with that had a corrective helmet and How does that I get you got to have judgment about too good to be true. I know That there's not a human being I grew up with that at a corrective helmet and now everyone needs a corrective helmet That's a no way that to them. It's science. Oh, no, this guy's a craniologist. He's an expert You know, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no doesn't exist. Yeah, don't need it doesn't exist and when I hear about diseases that are found that are new and That are just there to provide really That they don't have where people are starving in Africa? A cover, right. For being, you know, when everyone's allergic to everything, yet every guy ever worked with on a construction site was never allergic to anything, something's up. And I know what the answer is. I know things don't appear this way

I just know it and so it's it's a little intuitive, but it's really just it's called just having horse sense judgment Yeah, so judgment. It doesn't it doesn't make sense Having me be able to launder fifty thousand dollars times a Thousand transactions or a million transactions does not work. That doesn't make sense. One time, I understand. Two times, I don't understand. And thus, that always wins the day.

That argument wins the day. Do you think that kind of judgment is what figures into your ethical compass too? You're right, because you have a pretty clear thinking on that too. Is that something different? Yeah, no, it's the same thing. Are you being fair with this person?

Is what you're asking, is that reasonable? I mean, I have people and have had people just look at me and go, what you're asking for is unreasonable or you're nuts or you and go, what you're asking for is unreasonable, or you're nuts, or you don't know what you're talking about. I'm always like, tell it to the next person, it sits next to you on your next Southwest flight. Because I, there's nothing, once I've decided, whether it's a monetary thing,

or whether it's an emotional thing or an effort thing or whatever, once I've decided that I have done what is reasonable before I fire somebody, yell at somebody, pay somebody, hug somebody or punch somebody, in my mind, I've done everything required in order to do that. So it's clarity. Clarity of judgment. I've done everything required in order to do that. So it's clarity. For me, for me it's clarity and that's why it's not, it's not going to behoove you to argue with me because you will have a very difficult time making me feel differently about myself.

Do you ever change your opinion when it's, when you have that kind of clarity? I know where my weaknesses are and I know where my strengths are, but when it comes to like someone saying, you've been a little unfair with your dad or something like that or like why didn't you or something like that, I was like, no, I leased my dad a car for 10 years and then I didn't lease him a car after that. I told him a couple of times what was going to happen. Look, my dad had a podcast and as you know, and he liked it but it didn't make a nickel and it cost me a nickel and it wasn't working and I let him do it for a couple of years and I said to him at a certain point, listen, what you're doing is costing me money.

And it's a hobby for you, but it's a business for me. And this is hurting my bottom line. So let's do something to adjust this. And he said, what are we going to do? And I said, I'll tell you what we're going to do. We're going to cancel the show. And he said, I'll tell you what we're gonna do. We're gonna cancel the show. And he said, I don't wanna cancel the show. I have a lot of fans out there and I have fan out there.

No, I have people out there who rely on the show and who want to hear the show. And I feel like I'll be letting those people down. And I said, well, good, I'll tell you what we'll do. We'll set up a little PayPal account. You tell those people, hey, therapies, 100 bucks for 50 minutes. You get this 50 minutes for free,

plus a little trumpet at the end. So if you're interested, and this is the kind of thing where if this show is important enough to you to keep it going, then go ahead and give me five bucks or eight bucks or three bucks. And if we can break even, I'll continue to do the show." Well, he went back and did his next couple shows and didn't ask for any money. Oh. And I said, Dad, what's up? And he said, yeah, I didn't understand

that whole part. And I said, you didn't understand the part where I'm losing money, you're costing me money. Well, that's a zone for you that you have great clarity on. The zone of motivation. You need to ask for money. I know you don't want, you, Cause you're not motivated. Your idea is your son who's smart and busts his ass built a cool studio and you can come in here

and yammer into the mic in front of a hundred people while I fucking underwrite it. But that's not reality. So if I hear you earnestly asking for money and explaining to people what is going on then you can continue even if 80 bucks comes in I'll probably just look the other way if you're earnest about it. Yeah. But if you play stupid with me and he went in and he didn't really do it again and then at a

certain point he kind of indicated that he wasn't comfortable with it and I said well then you're clipped and people were like you fucking clip your old man's you know podcast I was like I'll fucking shoot a nun as long as I know that he had a very fair chance, not bending over backwards three times, but you did the show for two years, it did not make a penny, it cost me multiple hundreds of dollars. Now I've come up with a very fair-minded solution that involves little to no effort on your part in order for you to keep this going. You don't want to give me my nickel back on my dollar. You're clipped. Do you think if your dad had invested in you growing up like more than a couple pennies,

a couple shekels, you'd have been more inclined to give back a little bit? I do, but this is not payback. No, no, it's not payback, but you have the scales of justice in your head. Well, there's nothing to give back. No, I do. I understand I'm a dick in my head. But what I'm saying is this. Even if he had sent me to Ivy League college and work three jobs to take care of me, I still would

have said, look, this just makes sense. Yeah, you would have gone longer, maybe. You're doing this show, you've done it for two years, it's not five episodes, it's two years, it's costing me money. So let's figure out a way to not have your son lose money so that eight people can hear you play tangerine on the fucking flugelhorn. Let's have you ask for money. It's gonna take 30 seconds a show.

And- Why don't you tape something and just run it during the thing? I won't do that. Because you wanted to see the motivation. I want to see you do it. And by the way... Chris, you got it. He wants to see.

That's why you guys jump when Mr. Corolla says, come on over here, gentlemen. The fact that I'm telling you that it's costing me money and that's neither here nor there to you is not a good... that's not helping your cause at all. I resent that. Yeah. Yeah, I Resent that I resent it when I say to people I don't hear resentment for you I do I now when I say to people

Here's what I need because I am doing this and I need you to do that and they don't do it Their whole thing is like Hey, man, I forgot and I'm, no, that's a fucking slap in the face. Like if somebody says, you know, hey, we're building a campfire and you go, I'm going to go off here into the woods and collect logs so we can get enough fire to keep us warm through the night and you go off the other direction and get some wood. And then you're out, you know, chopping wood and piling up and huffing it back and forth and throwing it down and doing it. And then you come back come back the guys reading a mad Magazine and you're like what's up? And and he's like yeah, I forgot about the wood part and you're like

You understand I have to collect twice as much wood now because you decide to read a magazine and he's like hey fuck you Why are you coming at me for I'm just reading a magazine and by the way, this has nothing to do with you I just want to read a magazine Yes this has nothing to do with you, I just wanna read a magazine. Yes, it does have something to do with me because I'm having to collect twice as much wood because you're not doing what you're doing. And it's always this thing of like- An interesting metaphor for the lot

that goes on in the world today, isn't it? Yes, and there's this thing of like, first, why are you hassling me? And it's like, well, I wouldn't be hassling you if you were just doing what you're doing. Secondly, I'm not asking you to do anything that I'm not doing. I'm asking you to do what I'm doing I'm not saying you go collect wood while I sit here and read my magazine I'm saying let's both go collect wood

Yeah, but the argument would go well you had a proper upbringing and you're a able-bodied guy and you're able to do these things Not me Well, yes, I'm able to do it because I've forged myself into the kind of person that could do that. But look, he's my father. I was exquisitely fair with him. He chose a path, which was to play stupid and not to ask for money. And that's it. And by the way, he learned a valuable lesson by just

announcing that for some reason I decided to cancel his thing and you know he wasn't gonna beg for money and you know that kind of stuff it's a great business head look and also I would say this how badly do you want to continue doing a podcast old man how badly do you really want it? Because I would argue when someone wants something, drugs, sex, food, we get pretty creative. And if you really wanted to continue doing a podcast and you knew that these were the parameters,

you'd simply comply to them. But you didn't want it. And I know that, the other thing I know too Drew, and Drew and then just doing 20 minutes on more shit that I know I know what people want and what they don't want through their actions not through what they tell me. Through what they do. And not what's in their heart. Tired of hearing what the fuck's in people's hearts. I watch them and I go here's what you want and they go that's right what do you mean what do you know me? I got all time don't tell me I'm not interested in this that or and I go here's what you want and they go that's right. What do you mean? What do you know me? I got all time. Don't tell me I'm not interested in this that or that

I go I can see what you're interested in I can see what you're not interested in because I'm watching you and I can Tell where your interests lie ultimately When it's important and I've seen everybody do what's important to them and I've seen everybody do what's not important to them Myself included I have plenty things that what's not important to them myself included I have plenty things that I'm not interested in and plenty things I am interested in and I will act accordingly and When you're told here's a very simple thing you must do to keep this thing alive And you choose not to do it then whether you know it or not. You're not that interested

Okay, so say it's cruel so says cruel so says God choose not to do it, then whether you know it or not, you're not that interested. Okay. So says Corolla. So says Corolla, so says God. And so is written. So is written, so is true. Do you agree with that? Yeah, I do. I've known you long enough to know exactly

what you're talking about. I'm not sure everyone really gets what you're talking about. But don't you feel like there's a lot of people that go, bullshit, I totally wanted to do this. I wanted to write that book. I wanted to do my podcast. I wanted it, but it's like it's been 10 years and you haven't done it.

Right. And the wanted to, which is true, versus sort of knowing how to get off the couch and being motivated to get off the couch is a pretty complicated thing. For you it's like black white. Well, no, it's not complicated. I know how to do it. Yeah, but for a lot of people, listen, I deal with this shit all the time, worse than ever now with people, where they just, you know, I've held people's hands and put job applications

down in front of them and go, I've already talked to the manager, the job's available, just fill this out for me, and they don't do it. Sure. And it's like, yeah, they want a job, they wanna make money, but they can't do it. Well, look, I want world peace. Yeah, but listen, but if you held it,

if you had a gun in the room, they'd run away from it because they're motivated. Yeah. It's a different kind of motivation. No, I know. Look, that's the whole point. Shut up and listen to me. I understand how to do of motivation. No, I know. You know. Look, that's the whole point. Shut up and listen to me.

I understand how to do this. That is your whole point. I will tell you how to do it. I will guide you. So if we just had a world, gentlemen, are you listening carefully? Did you get that? All three of you? Yeah.

God, these guys, you got them like they're like peeled dogs. They know who I am. They know if they just listen to you life will be good. Right? That's what we're saying. I can tell you how to do whatever it is you want to do or you cannot. Now look if you don't have talent or an aptitude for something I'm not going to be able to get in and fix that. See, for me, that's where the complexities come in, right there. Right, but... Because that's the part that's like, why doesn't somebody get off the couch?

Doesn't tell you to get off the couch. They're depressed, they've never done it, they have no... who knows what the f. Ian? Trying to get sober for a while. So what's up, Ian? What are you getting sober from? Uh, no, drinking. I'm trying to. I don't even know if I got a friggin' problem or not, but So what's up Ian? What are you getting sober from? Not drinking I'm trying to I don't even know if I got a friggin problem or not, but I drink like four days a week and I know you and Drew might be split on it, but I

Don't feel like it's getting in the way anything when you say bring four days a week How much you drink in four days a week like like just get to get glassy I'd you know like seven eight beers you know like I it's not a blackout thing I know you guys have people with way worse sobriety problems than me calling but I don't know I just want to know where you guys stand on it like through you might think of the problem and I'm just saying compared compared to the rest of guys over there in south e i'm just saying yeah you are you are you gonna be no mark walberg will be coming up with a

or look at this and alcoholism is a spectrum it goes from predisposed to advance severe fatal you're clearly in sort of a zone in the spectrum. You probably have it in your family, right? Dads, uncles, grandparents, yes? Yeah. Okay. You inherit this potential and it's a potential that creates momentum to it and

you have consequences from your using but you choose to, you know, choose you as part of this condition, ignore the consequences and the use progresses over time. So what we can say is this is going to get worse, there's going to be more consequences, and when you're ready to stop, when it's not working for you anymore or you're able to see that the consequences, which is hard for people to see, are sufficient, then you're motivated and ready to stop and you'll go to 12-step and you'll stop drinking. In the meantime, you probably won't. Charles? Hey, Adam. Hey, Dr. Drew. Hey. Going a couple therapy with your girlfriend? Yeah, our problem is communication. She says that I don't know how to communicate

my thoughts to her and my problem with her is that she doesn't believe me when I tell her that I have a problem. What's the problem? Well, whatever the problem is. Like what? Like what? Give me an example. Balls are too full.

Say she forgot to do something and I have a problem with it and she literally tells me no, that's not your problem. How the hell are you going to tell me that's not your problem. How the hell are you gonna tell me that's not my problem if I'm coming to you with it? Well, we went to counseling and the counselor agreed with her mostly that I need to change how I express my feelings to her or how I express my problems to her.

And I'm like, well, okay, what do you want me to do? Let me, hold on a second. I swear to God, three quarters of these counselors are either chicks or they should be chicks and they always agree with they always agree with the fucking Chick because it's right emotionally. She's just but but Charles is practically right, but Charles Let me just nip this in the bud because run out of time. Let me just say that I Have learned this the hard way Women are they're not as smart as we are, and they're based, they run off emotion.

They run off, they're much more in tune. You try to, in tune, you try hysterical attune, you try to use reason on emotion. That makes them angry. And it does not work. That makes them angry. And you think it's a courtroom, but it's not a courtroom. It's a bedroom Yeah, right. So Sam so could you guys like that shit?

Why do I encourage him like that the point is because you're gonna stop peanut gallery in the other rooms No, because the thing is is I beat my wife in every argument We ever have because I'm fucking right except for it doesn't solve the problem It gets her more pissed off being right right how you lose relationships. So you've got to sacrifice a close a relationship that works for being right. What you need to do is treat her more like a puppy than a human being. No I know this sounds horrible. Yes. What I'm saying is is they understand Looks and touches and things like that's not don't be up in your head, you know I will make her under what is going on even just describe to us what went on he he confused thoughts feelings and

Right and wrong those are those are not where you should be you literally just tell her she looks really good today For no reason you tell her the next time she makes fucking lasagna you go nuts over it even if it's stofers, you know what I mean? And you just go, this is really fucking good lasagna, you've outdone yourself. Next time you talk to her about something say, I'm feeling, and whatever you're feeling, you go ahead and talk about that. And then let her respond to that and go, hmm, well maybe I didn't understand the feeling. Always try to start with, I'm feeling, or here's how you make me feel. That's a language that will work better.

All right, Drew. Tim has one testicle bigger than the other. What shall we do? It's probably epididymitis. That's the most common reason for that. It can be tumors and cancers, and sometimes it's spermatocele, the cyst. You need to see a urologist, Tim. All right, Tim, see a urologist, okay? Okey doke. All right, buddy, sorry we couldn't get more time in that. That's all right. And Ray's got a long thing that's gonna take a while.

Yeah, nice guy, girls think he's creepy. He's 16 years old. All right, first off, no mass killings, right? No, absolutely not. I am one of the normal kids if I don't do anything, you know, don't have gauges don't Listen the good news is makes him normal you use this You like look you the worm will turn the worm meaning your penis some sometime after high school

Yes, you have a shitty high school career. You'll not get a lot of pussy. You'll be that much better for it He'll own a computer communication company. You really were. You really will. The guys I know got a ton of pussy in high school are all roofing today. All right. Thank you very much for joining the show. Again, you want to support us, you go to the Adam and Drew page, AdamCurl.com and click through the Amazon link. And until next time, this is Adam Curl the Great Dr. Drew saying, Mahalo.