The Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous Podcast - A Q&A with Ashley I!

Episode Date: May 8, 2026

She’s one of our hosts, she’s our new favorite Real Housewife, but is there something you’ve ALWAYS wanted to know about Ashley? This is your chance to uncover some major secrets! Ashley is doing a no-limits Q&A and answering everything from her love language to why she decided to become a Bravo girly. Plus, Ashley spills all on the cosmetic treats she’s had!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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or wherever you get your podcast. This is the Ben and Ashley I, almost famous podcast with iHeartRadio. Hey guys, welcome to the almost famous podcast. While Ben is away this week, we thought it would be kind of fun for me to do a little Q&A, have some girl talk with you. We got these questions from our social media the other day, and apparently you wanted to know these things for me.

So I'm here with Heather. She's going to be my little sidekick because I can't talk to myself like Ben can. You know, when we get breaking news and I can't get on, Ben can't. Ben can come here and just He can have a whole full blown 20 minute conversation to himself I feel awkward AF doing that So I am here to talk a little plastic surgery Or whatever it is with Heather

Because we know that that's topic that we like to talk about Oh my gosh, we should have looked for some plastic surgery questions I actually don't think those are in here But have you had plastic surgery? Okay, so I've never had plastic surgery you know how Kendall, Jenner, says that she's never had plastic surgery. Don't get me started. Wait, should we get started?

Kendall, I understand what she's saying about her nose, though. So my sister had a nose job, my aunt had a nose job, and my grandmother had a nose job. And then my other grandma, well, she did not want to have a nose job, but let's just say she doesn't have a tiny nose. And she's alive, and 102. I'm almost 103. right. But my nose is natural, but Kendall says that hers got smaller with acutane. And I also think that

my nose has gotten so much smaller with age. If you go and look at my nose, especially when I'd smile in high school and college, it was so much wider. And now I'm wondering, is it just acne medication in general because if it's if she if she's not lying which i really don't fully believe but if she's not lying and it is acutane it my nose got smaller once i started sporonal lactone at 24 interesting yeah for my acne i mean i was on acne medication in high school uh i was not on but not like deoxy cycling like what are you talking about like what what man of No, I took oral medication. I took...

Yeah, like, yeah, cycling, probably. It was red pills, I remember. They were red capsules and they were large. And I can say that my nose did not shrink on those. You went under the knife for your nose. I did, yes. If you're willing to share. Yeah, of course.

I don't care. Yes, I did. I have seen the Kendall Jenner pictures. and I don't believe them. I think she's talking on a technicality. I think that she's had work and reshaping refinement done to her nose, but she's not had a quote unquote typical rhinoplasty.

I think she's like trying to do a little loophole thing for us. We're like, I didn't have my nose broken. Well, neither did I. And I had a nose job. So you can have, it still categorizes a rhinoplasti, though. Any sort of surgical procedure to the nose that you don't have to, I think people have this false notion that you have to have your nose broken in order to get a nose job. And that's not the case. Yeah.

No. All right. And she's also had her lip done. Like, I don't know what she's talking about. That's what Kendall, what really pisses me off, Kendall, is that you, in old episodes of the Kardashians made fun of Kylie for her lips. You're like, you don't have to do that to feel being. beautiful, you're beautiful the way you are. And it was like her whole soapbox.

And then she goes and she inject her lip a ton. And it looks freaking great. It's fine. But just stay. And yeah, like is it plastic surgery? No. But in the conversation, it's in the, yeah, in the conversation of aesthetics, going in and getting something injected in her face, you should bring it up.

Be like, you know, I had baby Botox, as she said that she said baby Botox. And I have lip, injections, boom, that's it. Then everybody loves you. Yeah, I think there's more to it there. And then at least we won't focus on the nose. But back to you, what have you had done? Okay. So nothing under the knife, nothing to go to sleep with or anything like that. I've never been under anesthesia and I am the daughter of an anesthesiologist and it freaks me out. Like that's what scares me the most about surgery is that you go to some weird layer where your belief like traditional sleep. That gave me anxiety. I, that gave me anxiety. I

I would say literally right before I went in. Like a whole week, whatever leading up to it, I was like really excited morning of. I was excited and I'd say like an hour out. That is where the anxiety came from. But it was fine. Yeah. Have you ever been under local anesthesia and woken up? No.

Like even when I got my wisdom teeth out, my dad didn't want me to go under because he didn't want a dentist doing the anesthesia. So they numbed me and they gave me laughing gas. and it was my first time with laughing gas and I listened to Justin Timberlick as another thing we could bond over future stuff love sounds and I said I'm gonna this beginning

beginning to end on laughing gas guy like 7.30 in the morning and I'm like super tired I like saw a circus in whatever high state that I was in because I've never like it was like I was front row at the show but like I'm in the show I was like in the show it was very interesting. So have you woken up under,

what do you mean? Wisdom teeth, I went under local anesthesia and I have a memory of because you're, I want to say I was like semi sitting up like the, I wasn't like laying down in the chair.

And I have a memory of my head coming up, opening my eyes, my surgeon, my oral surgeon looking at me. And me. saying, I'm awake. You're saying I'm awake.

And him going, you're awake and then going back to sleep. That's where he is. That's the memory I have is like waking up, looking at him being like, I'm awake, and then him saying it back to me and going back to sleep. That's so. I also, after that experience, I don't know, your dad has probably told you about this, but the things that happen after you come out of, of anesthesia. So during that specific one, I actually burst into tears. I actually, like,

when I came out and I had no idea that that's normal, just absolutely sobbing. Yeah. So normal. Not fun. And then when I had cosmetic surgery, I had a lot of nausea and I ended up throwing up within an hour out of coming out of anesthesia, which is not fun. Incredibly common. Yeah. But back to you. So what have I done? So I get my lips injected about once a year.

I get an idea for 11 years. So it's been, I like the kiss, K-Y-S-E. Is it radiance? What is it? Restolin. A Jupiter brand. It's a J-Roscelain, Juvul-D-R-R-L-L-R-R-L. Yeah.

Oh, my God. is it wrestling brand? No, it's wrestling. Yeah. Yeah. I love wrestling. They did a partnership with me and that was awesome. And I've also done my God, I've done one of Jeter or Jain. Anyway, so that's, it's like been once a year, once every other year for the past 11 years. I got for the first time going into Bachelor in Paradise, too. And then Ikebox, really mine lasts a long time.

I think my forehead's kind of trained at this point. So it's really like every five months I do Botox. And then once a year, I'll do the Botox in my masseter muscles, my jaw. Did I tell you I just did that? Oh, no. Do you like it? No, I'm not going to do it again. Just did it for the first time.

I don't see a result that I thought I was going to see. And second of a while. At least two months now at this point. I didn't realize how hard it was going to be to chew after that. that's have you do you not experience that no maybe your jaw muscle was not strong enough to be to to do it no they it actually has like restricted and made like I think I like ate a handful of nuts or something and I was like oh it can't eat any nuts right now this is actually like taking a lot of energy to like chew oh my gosh yeah so I won't be doing that again you got too much

And I bet you your jaw wasn't too strong enough. It wasn't like that muscle wasn't strong enough to actually need to inject. So when I don't inject it, the jaw. I wanted a more defined jaw line. That's why I did it. No, girl. That's not how it works. It's not?

No, you need to feel that. That makes your jaw less defined. Oh. Yes, it makes it less defined, but it changes your shape. So for me, I go from having a square face to more of a heart-shaped face. when I have the masseter Botox because see normally like after a year and it's been almost a year my temple well right the top of my cheekbone line up with my jaw muscle right here so it'll be a straight line when I get the talks this jaw muscle comes in a little bit so it makes more of a

feminine shaped face does that make sense and then sometimes because this is what's sucky about it because it actually decreases the size of your jawline. The jowls. You might even get a little saggy. So you get jowls. So then my girl, which I know it's dumb, you're like, why would you do one and have to do the other? Then she fills in here to tighten up the line here

to make this look more feminine. No, you have a very snatched jaw line. Very. Thanks. Thank you. So I do that. And then the other thing that I love is chin. filler which I've been doing for like seven years too.

So just a little bit, that's a more customization thing just to like that. So that's what I consistently do. I've dabble with some other things. Sometimes there's like a drop of something in my cheek. But for the most part, I'm not like a big fan of having filler in the apple of the cheek.

I think that is not a good place for anybody like under 50. I've had my under eyes filled before, but it's been almost, it's been quite, has it. have been quite some time or was it recently? I just let my girl kind of go ham. She may have done it recently. So that's like to make sure that you don't have like any like indentation. For me, I don't get the puff underneath the eye, but I will get like a little bit of a scoop. Does that make

sense? Under eye scares me just because I've heard. I've heard so much about the migration in that area being you have to like so many doctors or injectors just like aren't like well versed enough in the eye area. I think if I were to do under eye, I would more likely do fat injection than filler. Smart. I think that that ends up looking the most natural. You can see, I also tried disport for the first time last time I was in. And I don't, I don't like it. I think I will go back. I've always used Botox. And you can see, I think the Botox was still good. But like she didn't put any, like, in my 11s and that's the only place I get my stuff. And so the masseter was like a first time. That was me trying something new. And then I've, nobody cares, but I've gotten filler in my cheeks

in the past, but probably haven't done that now in over three years because I didn't see crazy results and the price just wasn't making sense for me to where I was like, I might have to look into something more serious because I just can't be justifying $700 every six months. Exactly. That's why I was like, this doesn't make sense. The Botox makes sense, though, because I just see...

Preparative makes you feel good with makeup on because then nothing increases. I just see great results and so quickly, if you like injections, look into them. If you don't like them, that's fine. don't come for us to each the round. My biggest advice, though, is to be very careful with cheek filler in the apple. That is my biggest.

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So usually makeup, hair, outfit. it, I will sometimes do hair first just to let like some skincare products absorb. So if I'm doing like my process and I'm layering, sometimes if I don't have like a lot of time, I will be doing my hair while letting the absorption happen. What's yours? Not that anybody cares, but it would be it would be makeup first because you never want to get it on your

clothes that you're wearing. And then usually if my hair is like dry, then I would get dressed. But if it's not dry, I would dry it, get dressed. And then I would style because the thing that I can't stand the most is doing my hair and then having to put clothes on over it and possibly messing it up. So that's why. Good to know, though. Okay.

So this is from I am Kylie Morrison. they said, what was your favorite group date on The Bachelor season 19 and after party night? So when I read this initially, I was like, why do I only remember one after party night? I think I only had one. Don't they usually happen after group dates? Yeah. So my first group date was the tractor race and there wasn't an after party. because he chose McKenzie to have like a one-on-one time with.

And then the after-party I remember the most was when we went down the Santa Fe River, like the Santa Fe River. And that night, I was like being a sassy bitch. And that's the one that I remember the most where I basically was just like, Guys, I don't understand why we're trying. I basically said, why are we trying to be so nice to each other? I was like, why are we all happy for one another when somebody else gets the rose? I was kind of telling everybody they are being fake because I was like, why are we all so congratulatory when somebody gets the rose at this point?

Like weeks ago, okay, it made sense, like whatever, he's getting to know all of us. But today, we're all fighting for that rose. And we're all jealous of her. Let's just admit we're jealous. That seems so out of left field now of you to like say something like that. I know. I'm telling you, I was desperado back in the days of being single. I was just like, I must be loved.

I was just jealous. You weren't there to make friends. I was there to make friends. but like I just couldn't deal with the celebration that was the rose ceremony. Like was somebody else getting a rose and pretending I was supposed to be happy. I just. Yeah, I can't imagine somebody coming back from a one-on-one date and being like, tell me about kissing him.

Tell me about da-da-da-da-da when it's like I'd want him. You know what I mean? Like I get that. I get that. Yeah. Okay. And then, oh, I didn't have a, I never had. That's why I never had a true after party besides that one.

no wonder why it's the most, the one that I only remember. There was one week where I didn't even have a one. I didn't have a date. I was one of those like three girls that week that just didn't have a date. What do you do in that situation when you don't have a date? I think I wasn't stressed. Do you guys just sit back at the house and like? Yeah, you just tan and eat and it's great.

Oh. Interesting. Okay. Date More 57 asks, is Ashley? going to change her last name to Haven. I don't know yet. It's such a thing, especially like when like the house and the cars are like in that name. And then it's just like everything is in like insurances and stuff, bank accounts.

It's like just sounds like why do I have to do that officially when I can just tack it on casually. right can i say that your wikipedia page has you listed as ashley icenetti hyben oh really yeah like i have it on my instagram too like obviously i'm very attached to my eye i can't imagine actually eliminating the eye part of my last name ikenetti just sounds nicer than hayman um people are like actually fought so hard for Jared. Like, how could you not change your name? I'm like, I am Ashley Acadetti Haven in so many ways. I just don't know that I have to change it and go through that process. It's just, it's another job that I just don't know if I can undertake. Yeah, I don't know how important it is to me now for it to be like actually in writing. Some women make their maiden name, their middle name

and then take on. It would be. It would be. Like, there's no way. But I would, but I would, but I would make it Ashley Nicole, I Kennedy Haven. I couldn't drop. You wouldn't drop a name. You wouldn't drop the middle name. No. No. And like, I don't want to say that it's not as important.

It's not important to me. I just feel like, of course it's important to me, but I don't, it's like our family name. But I just don't know of having to do it legally is important to me. Yeah. So, I guess. Yeah. No, I get it.

And it also, that's a very long last name when you take on both. So I get it. Sacred Moon Healing Light asks, why did you decide to be a Bravo girly? Well, I mean, when the opportunity comes, say yes. I'm kind of a yes person. I probably maybe say yes too much. This was not one of the cases. I'm glad that I obviously said yes here.

But it's simply put, I would rather say yes to an opportunity and then later say no, I'm over it, than to say no and then always wonder what if. I try to eliminate all the what-ifs in my life. I really like that. That kind of goes into the next question, I guess, from Dana. They say, do you have any regrets? Honestly, I do not. I mean, I don't have any regrets that keep me up at night.

Do I, have I said stupid things that I wish were particularly, like, not on TV? Yeah. But I don't really like. I'm interested. This is a question for me. Are you the kind of person to get embarrassed easily? No, obviously, no. That's what I thought you were going to say.

Like, you don't seem like a person who there's people out there, right? Who, when they lay their head down at night, the loop just goes of all the things that they did. Yeah. Yeah, she has to keep the TV on so that she doesn't think about those things. Yeah, interesting. I have always been... Are you? No, I think I've always been on the more shy and reserved side for most of my life, but there's very little times I've actually ever been embarrassed by things that I've either done or said and I like, I'll leave like conversations and walk away and I will not stress or think about anything that I said in that day.

I don't know if I sit around thinking a lot about what other people think about me, just in general. I don't. I don't. I kind of just like, I really don't. I really don't care. And again, have I said things probably in passing that I've been like, ooh, probably could have said that better, maybe nicer? Sure. I think I'm also quick, though, to acknowledge if something isn't like how I would usually say something.

I have a memory of one time, you know, working with somebody and being like the day after being like, you know what I said yesterday was actually not nice and wasn't indicative of like, you know, how I actually feel. And so I apologize for that. And moving forward, I'm going to try and do better. Yeah. That's the kind of stuff that will eat me up if I say something that I know is out of character for me or like a little bit snippy or could have been interpreted as hippie. That's the kind of stuff where I'm like, I'm going to come back on that. But embarrassed, I actually don't get embarrassed that often or ever. Yeah, I really don't get embarrassed often. It would usually just be with guy stuff back then. Yeah. Now I don't care because I don't have any

guy stuff going on. Um, at A.A.Dill. F.0786 asks, how did it feel? after you and Jared fell in love, considering you broke up twice on Bachelor and Paradise. I'm assuming that she's alluding to the fact that, like, were you worried? Were you ever nervous? Yeah, like, did you ever think back? Like, on that of like, oh, we've broken up before. Like, it could happen again.

Well, I'd say that we never really were together and therefore we never really broke up. So when we were actually together, I never had, I mean, it was straight to marriage. Like we both knew it. And that was one of the reasons that Jared kind of always was tiptoeing and noncommittal because he kind of knew all along that if we were going to be together, we would be married. Like we would have to. It wouldn't be like we're dating.

It's like we were dating with very much intention. So yeah, I never did worry. It felt very good and very comfortable and very happy. And no, I never had any worries. I love that. At I do 284 asks, will we see anyone from Bachelor Nation make a cameo on Real Housewives of Rhode Island? Yeah, I hope so. We're trying to figure that out.

I would like to have some on there. But it would, it's, it's an undertaking to kind of, I feel bad. Part of me feels bad because it's just like, hey, can you come here? It's like not going to be like a great quality time experience. Or are you willing? It's and it's kind of going to feel like work and you want to come to right. You know what I mean? But like I know that I have some girls that would be willing to do that like as friend work.

Do you know what I mean? Like as like. And we're talking. You're talking about next season. We're not talking about this season. If there is even a next season because we are talking out of our butts right now, it's actually not been like technically greenlit for a second season. Correct.

We just assume so. Correct. It's been great. It's great success. Yeah. Okay. another question from that same user. They said, how do Dawson and Hayden like having the cameras around?

So Dawson and Hayden, with that, you know, they were one and three and a half when the cameras were around. And they didn't act as if anything was like, they weren't phased by it. It's weird because it's not just a camera or two. Like you have a whole production team in the house. Yeah. And they like worried phased by it. And I don't even know why. They did their thing.

And I wonder if we were to film again how Dawson would take to it. Just because he does have his times where he doesn't want to be on camera and he won't be on camera. You know, like, hey, can you want to say this? Like, or do that again? It was funny. Or can I film that? And then he's like, no. And I'm like, all right.

So we'll see if he's angsty with it. And I don't ever want him to be on camera if he doesn't feel like it. He's very hit or miss. with it. Sometimes he wants to play the camera and sometimes he doesn't, which I think is probably all of us. I bet they're just not phased by it because you guys aren't faced by it. You know what I mean? You just act like business as usual when they're around filming you. So they, you just set the tone like for your kids. They're just probably like, okay, you know, and just keep it moving. Plus, you guys are always filming content and stuff in your own time for your jobs. So it's just probably

something that they're aware of, like, that this is what mommy and daddy do. Okay, from Haley, some of the biggest celebrities are Bravo fans. Since joining Housewives, have any new celebs slid into your DMs or started following you? Huh. Not sliding into the DMs. Okay. Start following me? I wouldn't know, I guess. I wouldn't see it. Pull out your phone right now. I'm going to go through some of the biggest ones. And let's see. see if they are following you. Okay, John Hamm is a notorious Bravo fan. Oh, my God.

He is not. Oh, that's so cool because friends and neighbors is my show right now. Literally, he is on watch what happens live all the time. He's a huge summer house fan. He does like housewives. Like, he is very vocal about how much Bravo he watches. It is not a secret. No, he does not follow me.

It's so funny. Jennifer Lawrence, also a huge Housewives fan in general, Bravo fan. She doesn't have social media or if she does. She's not the one using it. So that's not worth looking at. What who? Jennifer Lawrence. Okay.

Does it make you excited, nervous when I tell you that these A-listers are like most likely watching you on the show? No, I think that's so cool. But I'm trying to think of like other. big name celebs. There were, oh, like, Milakuna's, I think. Milakunes, I've already

like have a rapport with. I met her twice and she's super nice. And she, I mean, she's chatty. You know, like, what I mean, like, I don't have to say, hi, nice to meet you, like move on. Like, we've had like two conversations. Is she following you on Instagram? No.

No. But she is a good, Bravo girl. She's a bravo person. She's not following anyone. She got zero. She follows zero. Okay. Well, fine.

We won't hold that against her. I'll think of some other names as we go. Oh, it does say, no, it says, this is a fan account of Milakunas. Milakunas has no social network. Oh, that makes sense. I'm Cynthia Lois. And I'm Josie Dye. And we're done pretending we have it all figured out.

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Don't be nervous, it's much easier going from zero, from one to two than it is from zero to one. I don't know. It's just a wild time in my house. Like every day of my life, I feel like I have, like over-simulation Central, like I have just like a lot of demands on me. Like, does that make sense?

Like, it's like, I have to do that for Hayden and I'm hearing mom being screamed by my name, being screamed by, awesome and then there's just more more invisible load a lot it's just a lot and like I love it it's wonderful it's the best and when you see them like hugging and like calling each other best buddies it's the cutest thing in the entire world and I know that this is like particularly a phase I mean how almost two year old and a four year old is like the thick of it as they'll say so I bet you if you come back to me at four and six I'll be like oh it's like good but I have

always found the tinge. It was harder. Obviously, I'm not a parent, but I would say that probably when they're both in school at the same time, that'll also be really different. Definitely, definitely. That you'll be like, yeah, this is amazing. I dropped them both off. Yeah. When I say this, like, make note that it's like, I also, housewives became a thing before my son was even one. So it was just like, I've been going through a lot. So if it were like I was just living my normal life.

Like maybe I wouldn't think it was as hard of a transition as it feels. Yeah, that makes sense. At Maria Loves, I Can Dream Center asks, what do you love about Jared? Well, literally everything. Like, he's just quite something. He's just as, he's as close to perfect as can be. He is like the most hands-on dad. he is a carer like he takes care of us very well for instance the other day like he goes to audrice he does

something he brings me home coffee he lets me sleep while he's making dawson's lunch wakes up dawson takes care of like then like i'm up and then like i get dawson like clothes or whatever he takes stows him to school he's just the and then he's out mowing the lawn and then he's back at work then he's telling me something it's just like the man is non-stop and constantly being like productive for our family and then he is just as sweet as you think he is like he's he's also sassier than you think he is but he is just the most like well character of man like he has the best heart and only wants to do good He hates herding to the point of like I've said that like he can't even watch the show because like he feels bad that anybody would be feeling bad. Yeah.

Another question from me. What is your love language and what's Jared's love language? It's probably the most point of contention for us. Really? Like if I were, if you were to say like what is like a disagreement in your marriage? it would be our love language not being the same. But you know. I can't actually imagine it being the same. That would be like maybe overload.

That would be weird. I don't think a lot of people have the same love languages as their partner. Okay. So I'm a touch person. I am the much, very much touch person with like words of affirmation, probably be my second because I didn't really kind of pick too. Jared is definitely a.

Sounds like acts of. service. He is an acts of service as a number one because he is always providing me with acts of service. So when I'm like, but you haven't like touched me. Like where is like a cute, sexy touch? And then he'll be like, I just did all of this. And I'm like, yeah, but babe, like that's wonderful. And I accept that as being so wonderful. But I don't accept that as being like love and romance. But I think there's two things here, right? That's how he gives his love language. But what does he like to receive? No, he likes to receive

acts of service as well. Okay, okay. He likes to receive that. Okay, got that. If like he comes home and the house is clean and like the dishes are done, he'll be like, thank you like that. That means like a ton to him.

And then he also likes quality time. Like he likes going out on to dinner and movie. And then he, but yeah. So mine is like all touch. And I'm just like, that that that when that's the funny thing is like sometimes like he doesn't he doesn't he doesn't love the lung ligages he's like blah blah blah blah blah blah I was like respect we love language.

Mm hmm. Mm-hmm. Interesting. I like that though, that you, I like that you're aware of it and that it's something that you guys discuss even though you said it's a point of contention. I think it's good that it's at least out there. I wouldn't say it's a point of contention where it's talked about a lot. No.

But if we're ever going through like an annoying week or two, which it's been a while. But you know how like every couple's going to have their ebbs and flows. Whenever we're having like an ebb, I'd be like, read this book, the five blog language is. Okay. Nicole, Nicole Millway asks, why another reality show? Well, I mean, it's kind of my job, you know. It's kind of like I've gotten this. That's my stars.

if it weren't for that, I wouldn't have become an influencer. So it's kind of a symbiotic nature that is influencing in reality TV going. That's the truth. But I think, Ashley, you and I both know people that are like one and done. Like they just, they don't want to do it again. Or they have such negative experiences. Or, you know what I mean? I think for you, I would say that reality,

TV has given you so much, obviously, and in your life, your husband, your family, you know what I mean? I'm so grateful for it. I think, and I think that translates how appreciative you are for all those things. And so why would you turn your back on reality TV when it's given you so much great stuff? And you've had clearly good experiences. Oh, 1,000%. Yeah. Like, I am, I've had great experiences. That's one of the reasons that I wanted to do it again. Fundamentally, are there tough days, especially with housewives, like, being very argumentative. Yeah. But like, it's such a fun experience overall. And I have everything to owe to it. Yeah. So, and I'm forever grateful. And I have a, I love that. Always thinking, like, how did this happen? How'd I fall into this

amazing, amazingness? I know. And I think that translates when you're on camera. People, people connect with you for that reason. Um, Bella, asks, what is your favorite alcoholic drink and favorite drunk food? My favorite alcoholic drink is a mimosa. I'd like it to be normal at all times of day. I just feel like that's the drink that I can drink like super, like, I don't drink very often. But when I do drink, I want to, I do honestly want to feel it.

Okay. So with the mimosa, I can drink it fast enough to feel it. Because it tastes good to me. When I have a drink and I don't like it, that I'm just like gently sipping at it and then I'll never end up feeling it. Another thing that I've noticed, and wow, like I blabber, man. But I really can't get drunk while filming or at any events. When my brain is in like, you're in some sort of like work present yourself mode. I don't ever let myself feel it.

probably also don't drink ever fast enough to feel it in those environments. But that's good. So whenever people are like, oh my God, Ashley was so drunk on this or like in that scene. I'm like, absolutely I was not. I can tell you I was drunk two scenes during Bachelor and they were when I was at my most relaxed. Like I knew I was getting a rose that night. Okay.

What about favorite drunk food? Oh, my favorite drunk food is just like anything for the drive-through, obviously. McDonald's, most. McDonald's. I mean, I love all the drive-thrues. I really do not discriminate when it comes to fast food. Depends what I'm in the mood for. Have you seen the online TikTok discrimination with Arby's lately?

Okay, Arby's fries are the most underrated fries of all of them. It's a delicious franchise. There's just not many of them. It used to be like my weekly meal over in college. Really? That's so funny. No, people are being like, watch me call my office and tell me, tell them I'm buying them all Arby's.

And then they'll like tape themselves. And then everybody, they'll be like, yeah, I'm picking up Arby's. What do you want? And they'll be like, Arby's. There's like a million of these videos online. That's so funny. Absolutely hysterical. And I bet you if these people actually bring Arby's to work, they're going to say,

wow, we've been sleeping on this. I went to a school that did fast food as like what you could buy at school. I don't know if they did this. They do this at all schools. So we would have like Pizza Hut one day, Arby's another day, subway another day. Like. What? I've never heard of this.

I mean, this happens when you grew up in Orange County. Exactly. Yeah. So when I was in junior high, Arby's was a day of the week that you could buy. Cool. We used to bring our lunch to school though, so it didn't even matter. But, okay. The Tampson underscore 10 asks, do you feel out of place on the housewives of Rhode Island?

And their follow-up question is Jared glad that you're doing the show? Yeah. Okay. Let me answer the Jared glad thing first. Jared and I were both, like, very skeptical. He was more skeptical than I was. He really could have had it either way. He probably would have preferred not to, you know, he was just like a little bit more, like,

on the fence. He was like, why should we change our life, which already wonderful? And then I was like, but the opportunity is so immense, right? Yeah. And now I think he's glad that I did it.

And I think that he's glad that I haven't gotten in any drama or said anything really particularly stupid. Because there's one thing, me saying it. And then there's like one thing like watching it back and being like, oh, okay. She's doing,

you know, she's right. She was right. So I think it's been relieving that there hasn't been any drama around us. If there was like he, yeah. And then do I feel out of place? I certainly do to a certain extent. Yeah.

But I really feel like my friend Rosie is feeling very out of place too. So I feel like to some degree everybody kind of probably feels out of place. Maybe, maybe not. I don't know. It's a new group of people. Like, of course there's going to be like some, you know, I'm getting to, you're getting to know them just as they're getting to know you. And, you know, some of these women clearly have really longstanding connections of high school or elementary school or something. So of course it's natural to feel a little bit out of place in those situations when you're trying to break into a group that's, you know, super connected. I think anybody would understand that. Yeah. So, yeah. So, yeah. I do. And how long have you been living in Rhode Island, remind me?

Living around for five years. So five years, though, compared to some of these women who have been there, their entire lives. I mean, you're still, you know, in a lot of ways, like learning. And, you know, I think that that's totally normal. I actually want to know, though, another question from me, the community of Rhode Island, What's it been like since you've gone to the grocery store or like just been out and about, you know, are more people stopping you, making comments? You know, what's the line like at Audrey's lately? The line at Audrey's is unbelievable.

It's to the door every day. Wow. It's great. Thank you, Rhode Island, for showing up. Like, wow, that is one of the biggest differences in our lives. And Audrey's, let's be clear, like, despite some of the stuff that you see on the show, it's always been pretty busy. It's always been successful.

It looks busy on the show. It just hasn't been financially worthwhile. You know what I mean? Like, I think there's a little bit of, I wouldn't say a confusion, because I don't know that it's been presented so much. You haven't seen enough to understand yet. But it's like, it's always done well, but it has been working. it to us when we have another income stream is basically the real question here. Because everybody, it's got great reviews and it's pretty busy, it's been pretty busy,

but now it's like slammed. It's like, whoa, which is awesome. It's great. And then I haven't necessarily noticed that I've been getting more recognized in Rhode Island. Sometimes I do feel like people make more eye contact with me everywhere that I go and slightly smile like in an acknowledgement and I'm like are they just smiling me or are they just are they like kind of saying like I know who you are with that smile so that's been happening you haven't had people coming up and being like I'm loving the show oh my gosh you're so yes definitely

okay okay I was gonna say that's crazy yeah but not necessarily like in Rhode Island like I just I've you know I'm in Virginia right now I was in Kentucky I've been in like like like everywhere I go Yeah. It's like a, I love this. Yeah, it's so nice. Everybody's been super kind. Literally. It's taken over my TikTok feed.

You and I are on the same algorithm. Just how much people are loving the show. And then I told you, you know, my sister and I, we are huge fans. And my sister and I just like talking about the show, other people telling me how much they're loving it, people on our team that, you know, work, you know, and what we do is talk about Housewives telling us how much they love it. And so I just have not seen the Bravo universe take to a cast as quickly as when they did to Salt Lake. And, you know, that Salt Lake has been like bumped up to my favorite since New York went away a while ago. So I think it's great. It's just, it's been so

exciting to watch. Well, I mean, Bravo to my cast, they are, they are something to watch. Everybody. It is a wonderful combination, wonderful setting to have it in. It's like, I want to go to Rhode Island. I've never been there before. Like, it's just a whole lightning in a bottle situation that we have,

which is amazing as a viewer and a lover of the franchise. Okay, your last question is from Steph, who says, what's one piece of advice you'd give to anyone thinking about going into business with their spouse? Well, that's hard because Jared and I,

like both quote own audries but he is the like manager he runs audries you know owner and operator i don't do a single thing there but you do promotion and decorating you go no as i guess you do instagram campaigns it's not like you together it's not like you don't oh yeah yeah that is where we actually work more together is like on instagram campaign and i'd say that do something but have your two roles in it. You know, like Jared and, Jared and I are really good when it comes to making ads together. We're both very creative. And he has, I have kind of like the gauge on the audience. And then he has the eye of a director, producer. He has the movie eye. So together, we work really well on ads. Then, and we go if it gets excited about it. It's like something that like when we

have the time and the creative freedom, we have a really good time with that. But I think that's good advice, right? If you're going into business with your spouse. Have two different expertise under the same umbrella. Or have two separate roles, right? So if somebody's going to do the interior design for the business, that means that that's that person's job. The other spouse is going to maintain the finances or the books or the hiring process.

Like it doesn't mean we meddle and we, you know, cross lines and blur. because that's what's important, like you're saying, about working with your spouse is different than working with a business partner or another employee or somebody you're not related to. You have to maintain those separate boundaries because that's when things aren't separate. That's when you see businesses or marriages fail because of those blurred lines. Anything else that you've learned about working with your spouse, things that people maybe don't say or talk about. To me, I think it's easier to work with your spouse than it is to work with a friend because I think you're going to be on better behavior with your friend. I feel like so

comfortable with Jared that like I don't love something. I'm going to say it. And sometimes he wishes that I was actually more pleasant because sometimes he'll be like, oh, why do I? Why am I even going to tell you that? You just put it down. I go, no, no, no, no. I didn't put it down like that. I like put down that like little section of it. Whereas a lot of times with friends, in amiable enough with him to do that. And with friends, I probably would just go along with their idea because it wasn't necessarily going to affect my entire life, but also I just wouldn't want to hurt their feelings. And I'm a little bit more apt to hurt, not hurt his feelings, but be critical in a way of like, let's work together and get, and make this perfect,

versus just like trying to appease. Are you big picture and Jared's more? And, Jared's more detail-oriented because I think that that's also important when working together with anybody, spouse or not spouse, two people I think in business cannot both be finite, get in on the detail people. Somebody's got to be able to pull back and be a big picture person at times. That's the opposite. I was wondering if that's something that you guys both are. He is the big picture guy and I am the detail-oriented one. Like I will. drive him crazy because in doing whether it's a video or even like decorating the house it's just I'm the one that's like we have to move that an inch or we have to shouldn't we address this part and shouldn't

that be there and then he's like no no work with me here just trust me like when I put it all together it's going to look good or it's going to make sense because I will I will take so much longer with my content and videos and curation and he is just like no no no no like he says that there's certain directors that need like a bazillion takes right

and then there are directors that take like five takes and they're like one of them will be good and they both have hit movies you know what I mean mm-hmm mm-hmm well this has been fascinating for me I feel like I've gotten to know you on a

completely different level In-depth peace on it. No, I mean, I think we have to do these more regular. I know that we, I have to, now I have to do it one with Ben. I need to know Ben on a different level because we've done ones with you guys together. So if you've got more questions for Ashley, please leave them in the comments, send us a DM. We will continue to do these kinds of episodes because I find them fascinating and I think you guys do too. So thanks Ashley for, you know, being under a microscope today.

Oh, of course, so fun when I have a Bravo expert. And I just think that because you're in casting, like you understand personalities really well. And that's always nice to talk to. Oh, my gosh. I mean, you are a casting person's dream in so many ways. You know, and that's why you are on the other side of the camera and having continued success. And it's so much fun for me to watch. So thanks for all of this.

It's been fun. And we'll do more of these in the future. And until next time, I've been Ashley. I've been Heather. Bye. Bye. Follow the Ben and Ashley I, almost famous podcast on IHeartRadio or subscribe wherever you listen to podcasts.

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