The Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous Podcast - Almost Famous OGs: Double the Fun with Tenley Molzhan

Episode Date: April 17, 2024

Our Bachelor Nation OGs Bob Guiney and Trista Sutter are hanging out with Tenley Molzhan (runner up from Jake Pavelka’s season in 2010)! Tenley shares the realities of being pregnant with her second baby, and she opens up about her fears leading into life as a mom of two.  Plus, Tenley reveals how she found out about her ex boyfriend’s NEW girlfriend!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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people don't hear people have gotten past my last name Bob you know maybe because they didn't know you then like I did and so I'm you know I'm still hung up in the past no I'm not well I will say my parents have even gotten past it

and they're the ones you knew me when I was yeah if mom and dad have gotten past it I need to let it go I guess I think so maybe hi Bob how are you welcome to the almost famous OG podcast Podcasts people.

Yay, the podcast. And we are podcast people here in the podcast. Yeah, podcast people. I love your hat. Oh, thanks. That's really pretty. It's actually, I got it at a, um, at a triathlon. And Hana just told me she just did a triathlon in Hawaii.

I'm like so proud of you. What doesn't Hannah do? Honestly. I know, right. Okay. Okay. So, um, Tenley's in the waiting room. Our next guest is coming.

So let's bring in time. Yay! Hello, hello, how are you both? We are great. How are you? Great. So nice to see you. It's been too long.

I know, both of you. I was just going to say, Trista, you look as beautiful as ever, and Bob, you look handsome too. Oh, shucks. This old thing. I know, that's how I felt this old thing. Asley, now, you are always just such a ray of sunshine.

It's always so great to see you. And I will tell you that here at the IHeart Radio, a podcast family, you, you are universally adored. Trista, am I lying? He's not lying. Everyone was so excited, like the behind the scenes people, the producers and, um, everyone, Sugarman. Everyone. Yeah.

Oh, I love you. I mean, as does anyone who's ever met you. So, and, um, basically, anyway. Yes, of course. I just love seeing your face. Um, is Rell in the house. she's she's taking a nap but she's actually singing right now i cannot i'm like okay maybe we'll get to talk to you long enough to where she'll is she sleeping in a big girl bed she is but you know what

we did and i was so afraid of um mom shamers and parental judgment out there but what we did because we just we just moved her she was she's such a great sleeper and she is three and a half but She loved her crib so much that I was like, oh, no, this is going to just destroy everything. But we moved the crib to the baby, the baby that's coming soon, baby's room. And we got her a big girl bed, but like a day bed. And we turned it to face the wall. So she can't get in and out. And she loves it.

So she's in a big girl bed, but we, for the transitional time, while she gets used to like this bigger bed. She's not just getting up in and out of her bed and stuff. So yeah, she's in a big girl bed. So she won't be walking downstairs. In fact, she usually actually gets me a nap until it's two here right now,

until like four-ish. Amazing. She's still a great sleeper. See why I didn't want to disturb anything. Yeah. So Blake, our youngest, Blake,

who's two and a half, just basically stopped napping this weekend. And it has been, oh, it's been a grind. We're like, what are you talking about? But his brother was the same way. Grayson stopped napping at like two and a half, almost three.

And we thought Blake was going to just crush that and stay as a napper. And man, we are just, we're just not feeling so lucky right now. No, it flips everything. But I don't know. Maybe it's not over because when Rell turned two and a half, we went through like such a drastic. Like it was something I, like I was, I couldn't stop crying for like two weeks just because of her. everything, behavior, sleep, changed drastically. And we were like, what just happened?

And we kind of kept up with it. And we just kept going through the routine. And it would take, I just kind of took like a week off of work and responsibilities. And I would sit with her and do that. And then all of a sudden, two weeks later, she was back to napping and she's three and a half and still napping. So maybe don't give up. You know what?

I will take that to heart because he, when you said the behavior, I was literally just talking to a friend of mine who's a huge Disney fan, and I am as well. I mean, all parents probably are. But my son, our youngest, has picked up on a few key words that I've noticed show up in a lot of Disney movies. One is fool, where they'll be like, you know, you fool. Like, don't do that, you fool.

And then the other in the movie Cars, you know, where Lightning McQueen will pull up and he's like, you know, no tires, just gas, let's go, let's go. And the guy changing the tires is like, you idiot! So our two and a half, yeah, I'm changing his diaper this morning. It's like 6 a.m. And he's like, don't touch my diaper, you idiot. And I'm like, what?

And then he's like, you're a fool. And I'm like, what kind of parent? I must be the worst parent alive. You know, little sponges. I think it could be worse, Bob, a little bit worse than idiot and fool. You know, it's funny. I do have a couple examples that some friends share with me today who I just told that story to and they're like, oh, that's nothing.

here's what my son said to me at that age, you know. Right. So yeah. Well, we also hit the three and a half mark, you know. So she, I think that at these half marks, they definitely, there's like, you know, two weeks later, then all of a sudden they're doing, like speaking in full paragraphs and like big words and stuff. They're going through so much. But around like that three and a half marker, all of a sudden she got mean.

And now she's back to her sweet, sweet. itself. So like, it's just like a ride. Being a ride. It is. I have to say, I wish I could like relate to you both. I'm sure I could back then, but I don't remember anything. So there will be one day when you don't remember. I mean, I remember the good stuff, but I just don't remember the like, oh, they stop sleeping at two and a half. You know what I mean? Yeah. Yeah. But one of these days. You can't be believe. Blakesley has a birthday coming up, doesn't she? she just did she just had her birthday and henley she has a driver's permit no how is that even possible

they still give them out at 15 i was just telling bob i took her for a drive around the neighborhood and she's really anxious max could have cared less to drive blakesley is so excited and i was driving around the neighborhood and all of a sudden like we're stopped and my car she's driving my car is giving like on the on the dashboard it's giving this error message and I'm like blixley what was that she's like I don't know I wasn't looking I don't know and all of a sudden I look down and I see that her left foot is on the brake and her right foot is on the gas at the same time like uh I think they call that like some type of burn or something like that it's like a street car was like no this is not what's supposed to be happening.

Take your foot off of one of them. Oh my goodness. Should I share a really, really bad moment in my life when I was 15? Oh, my gosh. Yes, please. Okay. So I had gotten my permit and my mom thought my dad had like had gone around, had me going around the neighborhood and that I had had quite a bit of practice under

my belt. My mom had a friend in town. I think we had just picked her up from the airport. So she was still in the front passenger seat. My mom gets into the back. My mom has me get into the driver's seat as we're getting home and to go around the block. And I had my pedals mixed up. And I accelerated as I kept turning and I drove into a neighbor's fence and the telephone pole was about this close to the passenger side.

Oh my gosh. I could have killed my mom's friend. Thank God I did not. And or kept driving it further into this person's house. like this was some extreme um yeah bad those petals are important i still get it very important years later like what pedal is the right pedal oh my gosh yes i will i will share i will share with her the disney the disney princess even makes those mistakes yes oh yes oh yes i did a few but i i like to think that i'm a back driver now yes you don't have to worry about it

Yeah. Okay, so how is pregnancy going the second time around? Oh, my gosh. Well, my body hates being pregnant. Yeah. Maybe, I mean, I am an older mom, but also that I have all these ballet injuries and just the body's disposition the way God made me. I just like my body hates it. But it's such a miracle. So I'm obviously so blessed and like this baby moves so much. much. She's just pushing around and stuff. But it is hard with a toddler. Yeah. My pregnancy with Rell was I had debilitating pain from kind of those hip issues and stuff. And I've been able to stay on top of it a lot better this time around. Just kind of managing it. So it's not debilitating, but it's so painful and uncomfortable. And then but add the toddler, I can't decide which

pregnancy was harder. Maybe this one, I'm just like, exhausted. My wife went through that on the second pregnancy, especially because she was, she was, I always say she's an incredible mom and a terrible pregnant person, only because when she was dealing with everything, like she would just be sick every day. She would be, you know, exhausted. Then she got a hernia on her first pregnancy that then in delivery got exacerbated. And then when she got pregnant the second time.

it was just like she had a hernia the whole time. Do you know what I mean? Oh my gosh. Oh my gosh. So she wouldn't like, so I basically became like, I would always say like, well, you're basically on bed rest for the next nine months because, you know, so I would just like come home from work and come in and it'd be like her life revolved around the couch or the bed because she was just so in so much pain all the time. So yeah, I can imagine. And then dealing with our youngest, our oldest now when she was pregnant the second time, definitely up the stakes.

it's so hard but Wheeler's been amazing about it like I have a lot of guilt I'm definitely dealing with that guilt of not being the best mom or wife or like housekeeper all the things that usually I keep track of and he's totally

helping pick up the slack but like my biggest guilt is like that I just can't do and he's like he totally says you're growing another member of our family you're growing up in so that helps a little bit.

Yeah, that's a lot more important than picking up the Legos, you know? I think you got it down. You got the focus in the right place for sure. Yeah. But we only have almost, I mean, six-ish more weeks as long as she's on time or... You're 34 weeks right now? Yeah, I'm going to my 34 weeks. Okay.

Amazing. When was Relborn? Was she early or on time? She was basically right on time. I went into labor the day after her due date. Oh, I think I remember this, that you were like, okay, I've had a horrible pregnancy. Why can't you just come out? And then, but the labor was a long one.

And she finally came out. But she was born a couple days after her due date. So right on time. And then I'm hoping people say second, it's usually come a little quicker. Yeah. Give me that hope. Did you have complications in your first pregnancy? Complications?

Yeah, it took a long time, but were there any complications? Oh, yeah. I mean, if it's not too much for the ears, I mean, it's part of the body. They couldn't find my cervix. Wait, what? When I went into that. How does that happen? Right?

My contractions were once, two minutes apart. I had labored at home for like a night and a whole day with my mother-in-law who used to be dola she had helped in there and she's like okay time to go to hospital check in like I said contractions were one to two minutes part like so gnarly and I was trying to go unmedicated and um the nurse that was checking us in she's like I'm sorry honey but I've been doing this for 17 years and I cannot find your cervix so the roll had gotten the head like like it had gotten tucked behind so I was not able to progress but my body was still doing all work. And I kept trying to go until a shift change nurse came in and like they hadn't told me

what I was at or anything. She's like, honey, you finally made it to a six. And I was just like, a six after all. Hit me up with that stuff. Give me enough. So that's like thinking back to that. No, no major complications besides like not being able to. Yeah. Moving out. So. Oh my. That's. The doctor did pull it forward. He had to go in and find it, which was not comfortable. No. No. It would have been.

Was that before or after you got the epidural? That was before, because I still had hours trying to progress on my own. Oh. Oh, my gosh. And, yeah, I was, like, when she said that, I was like, well, do I have one? Like, don't have one? Do I have one? Oh, my gosh.

Like, how can you not find it? And you have to have a cervix, right? Like, is it biologically necessary when you're delivering? Correct. It's part of the prereck, I think. Yes, correct. You have mentioned, I thought I heard you say he. Then I thought I heard you say she.

So do we know the gender? Yeah, it's another girl. Oh, that's so great. Yeah. So we'll have two little sisters. She's so sweet about it, too. I mean, I'm just, oh, she's so. adorable. I want to meet her in person. Just like, so Bob Tenley came to see Blakesley. Well,

she's come to our house before, but Blake'sley was a junior. Seven years ago. What? I'd be like, wait. She was so long. She was probably four or? 2015. Yeah, so nine years ago. Okay. So she was six. So she came and watched her practice at the junior of Denver Bronco cheerleader practice. Oh my gosh. It's the cutest thing. I like to see those cute little girls beep popping around with their pom-poms. Oh, gosh.

That is so awesome. I always thought we were going to have a little girl. I really did. I thought our second baby was going to be a girl. I was convinced. And we were, you know, obviously very lucky to have another boy. And, you know, to have the two little dudes running around is, is definitely a different experience than I would imagine to.

little girls or, you know, or even to have a boy and a girl. But it's funny because every time anyone meets my wife, they're always like, yeah, you're a, you're a boy mom for sure because she just gets in there and just starts, you know, she's aggressive. I'd be more like a girl, dad, though. I'm in the background, honey, do you need anything? I'll be over here. It's so funny.

Yeah, I wouldn't, I wouldn't know what to do. I mean, I nannied a little boy for a long time, but, and I adored him. And so thought that I'd be a boy mom someday. And then when I had REL, like, I'm such a girl mom. And, you know, but did you wait to find, did either of you wait to find out genders? Or did you both find out beforehand? I waited with Max. So first time, we didn't want to know.

So we just painted the room. There was like a, I don't know if you remember this, Tenley, but there was like a chocolate brown like stripe like a horizontal stripe and then depending on whether it was a boy or girl we were going to paint blue or pink stripes and I think that my dad did it before we actually got home he did that so um or no never mind it was chocolate brown stripes vertically and then we yeah we had like the blue or the pink paint and um yeah we didn't find out with max which was really fun like I wanted to be traditional in you know not finding out but then with blakesley we just, you know, figured we do it differently and see if we could.

It's fun to know, huh? I'm sure it's fun to be surprised at the end, but I feel like birth itself is enough of a surprise. My sister-in-law has done three babies, didn't know any of their genders the whole time, surprised every single time. But for me, it's like, this is hard. I don't know. I like to visualize and kind of bond with the, like, try out name, stuff like that. We were told originally that our second was twins. And I lost my mind because I was, I'm 53 right now and my son is 50, is two and a half.

So I was 50. And I'm like, twins? And I almost had a heart attack. I almost literally had a heart attack on the spot. And then they came back like a week later. And I'm like, I finally got my head around it. And I'm like, oh my God, this would be amazing if it's a boy and a girl. Because then we get the girl and, you know, or, you know, or two girls.

I mean, yeah. And then the guy's like, it's a boy. The doctor was like, it's a boy. And I kind of forgot that he told us it was going to be twins. And this guy's not like a quack or anything. I don't know what happened. But I'm like, okay, that's the first one. Because this was during COVID.

So I couldn't even go to the appointment. Oh, right. That is getting the ultrasound. And I'm sitting at home like on my phone watching, you know, Grayson. And I'm like, and he's like, and what? I'm like, well, you said it's a boy. What's the other one? He's like, what are you talking about?

I'm like, dude, do you go? Oh. He had twins coming. And he's like, oh, sorry. The reading was, you know, off and, you know, whatever. Oh, just one. You got a boy in there. I'm like, okay.

Yeah, so I was. Did your son eat his twin? Yeah, you know what? The way this kid eats, that's very possible. That's very, it's probable, in fact. I'm just kidding. No, believe me. He's a grocery getter this one.

But yeah, he, if he did, you know, then I'm sad to hear it. But no, something happened. We don't know what else. Wow, it was crazy. That is about emotions. Oh, my gosh. No, kidding. I'm like, no.

Then I'm like, I mean, for you, yes, but your wife, I can't even imagine the emotions. She's going through, like, thinking, oh, my body is going to be housing two, it's not just one. Yeah. She's five, three, like, you know, she's, yeah, she's like, I couldn't even, she's like, your kids are huge. The first one came out. He's like, nine pounds. Where am I going to put it?

Yeah, I'm like, I don't know. No kidding. The two of them. Wow. Yeah. Oh, my goodness. Hi, my name is Enya Emanzor. And I'm Drew Phillips. And we run a podcast called Emergency Intercom.

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up contender and we won't name her until we meet her and we're not sharing it. But it, let's see, I gave a hint on Instagram, but it, I don't think it will help, but I'll say two things. It was one of our,

um, top boy names. Okay. It's definitely what we were going to name our boy. It's not going to be every cup of tea. I'm sure my parents when I first, who care. If we name her,

like they'll probably be like, huh and i'll just say but you named me to henley so and then uh it's also a part of a song that we love and so a lot of people started guessing names from songs that just say those are my two hints it was a boy name and it's part of a song we love interesting now now you get like i'm spinning right now in my mind i was like right when you said it first it was like a top boy name i'm like shame and i don't know why i've never even thought of that that's cute yes oh for a girl that is cute actually yeah i love greetings for girls yeah we went with blake for our son um and we were expecting it to be a girl and we were going to name her blake and so we had blake for either one so i like i like the names

that can go in the different direction you know i mean 10ly and trista are both such you know boring basic names and then you got like a real original one like bob and people are like I'm like, oh, my God. How do I get my head around a name like that? Oh, my gosh. I'm going to go back and look at your Instagrams and see around when you were giving birth and see if there's any cute, any clues.

Oh, good call. Yeah, right. She probably not. She deleted it. Yeah, no, I don't think there's anything out there. My best girlfriends and my sister, like, all trying to remember, like, you saw your baby name list at one point. What was on there?

What was on there? He's come out there. But so we'll see, but it's unique, I feel like. Do you have your room ready? Is the nursery ready to go? There's furniture in there. There's decals on the wall. We're waiting for some blinds.

And like now it's time for me to organize and like wash rous old clothes and have a sprinkle coming up in a few weeks and weekend. And so maybe there will be a little. extra things that will help me fill in the space and make it feel like it's a functional room. So yeah, it's coming along. That's so exciting. Yeah, it is fun. I love it. So today we posted this picture. We had Easter this weekend with our family because we were out of town the week before. And we took a family picture. And we don't get a bunch of them like we try, but they're always ruined. And so we have one. And my oldest son is holding a pink egg.

And I realized no one reads my captions. Because I think my captions are kind of funny. Apparently, no one reads them because they're all like, you're having a little girl? Are you announcing a girl? I'm like, oh,

that's funny. They're like, well, look at in the second picture, why is Grayson got an angry face? Because my son is like this. Everyone else is smiling and he's like, you took away the iPad.

I'm like, I took his eye, thank you, Trista. At least someone's paying attention to what I say around here. And I'm like, you know, no,

I read the thing. I took his iPad away to get a picture taken. He was angry. And they're like, Oh, we thought he was mad he was getting a sister. I'm like, my mom. I thought he's mad he was getting his sister. So I'm like, mom, I'm like 80.

Like, what do you? I don't want to do this to a child. Like honestly. I'm going to be like, if I had a kid right, if we got pregnant right now, I would be 71 when that little rug rat turned 18. What a disservice that I'm going to be like an old 71. You're young at heart. Yeah, you're young at heart.

And also I, I, somebody, there was. a statistic going around, maybe it's not a statistic, but like something was going around Instagram saying the older parents actually live longer. Oh, that's probably true. And so, I mean, I'm going to live till I'm 100. I'm going to be 40 when this baby, well, this baby's due dates around my birthday. That's awesome. So are you high risk?

Because I was like 36, I feel like. and I was high risk. Are you high risk? No, I'm not high risk, but I am geriatric. Yeah, that's a nice number, right? You're 32. Is it 32 or 33 when they say you're geriatric? 35, I think.

35, okay. So I think, and I was that when I was pregnant with Rural too, but yeah, they, you know, my doctor's office is so sweet about it. I think it's pretty common now, like that people are getting pregnant later in life. And I have a couple of friends that had babies in their. 40s and so you know and um thankfully i have no like other complications or anything that would cause me to be high risk but they do treat you differently and maybe they've changed how they call what they call it and how they treated you um 16 years ago but um yeah now i can't believe that

but now yeah they i just a couple more like anatomy scans which i obviously you don't have to do them, but I'm like, might as well. Anatomy scans. So they look at the baby, like I have to go to a specialty doctor to like see the baby in like, they do the 3D and then they look at all the like the blood and like the valves of their

little chambers of their hearts and like the brain and just like really watching growth. Yeah. basically checking, like, checking on baby a little bit more. Amazing. Yeah. So far, so good. Yeah. I love it.

And is grow loving, getting ready for baby? That's what I was going to say. She's really excited and she keeps saying it's almost May in May. My mom is it May? Is Grandma Beth coming yet? My mom's going to come down. My parents will both come down, but my mom will be here hopefully in time for, I want baby to come early so I have my mom coming early enough so she'll be here to hang out with roll but yeah so

rel's kind of like focused on those things but I think her world's going to be rocked quite a bit but I'm doing the best I can and kind of like talking to her already about like you know mommy's going to hold the baby a lot but you and I'm going to take care of the baby she's going to need mommy a lot you're going to share mommy but just let me know if you need special mommy in real time and obviously that's sweet I'm trying to already tell her that she can ask even though I'm going to need to probably make sure I'm doing

it just as much because she's not going to know to ask but yeah that's very mindful of you that's really thoughtful well I'm the oldest child in my family my sister came five years after me so I think that there must be some scars

there some deep rooted I had five years of my parents to myself so I think my world was rocked a little bit so I am very sensitive to rebe becoming an older feeling that's really sweet that's really sweet i think just being cognizant of it and and making sure that you still make time for just you and rel is really special

well we've had like really just like she's been my best pal like i love our routine and i love just how we do life and the things that we do together and just i don't know it she's she's me being a mom really fun besides those half markers in those really hard parenting days but um yeah i i am prepared for her world to be rocked a little bit but she's excited i think she yeah gets it pretty much does she have other friends who have little babies in their house yeah and um cousins too like we her youngest cousin is one and a half so she saw her aunt being pregnant and um when he was new, although she was still younger at that point, but she kind of gets it. Yeah.

That's awesome. Yeah. Now, other than us, I want to shift gears a little bit here, other than us, how often are you keeping up with the Bachelor world? Do you keep your, like, a toe in the pool at all and, like, watch the show or where are you at with all that stuff? Of course, I watch the show. I'm still a fan of watching the show. probably not as diligently

on top of it as like I once was without a child but Taylor watches it with me but he's still never seen any of my shows which is fine with me wow yeah Canyon claims my wife claims she never saw my season either yet

her mom will be like oh you were my favorite bachelor of course yeah so I'm like interesting so Jessica never watched it yet she lived at home at that time yeah interesting but I I was going to say, like, did Taylor ever, so he's never been curious enough to dig through the archives? Well, so he actually, like, he doesn't remember it, but he did watch, like, the first night

of my season because there was a girl that had gone to his school, Christina McAllen, who went to rancher, what school did they go to? Anyway, Santa Fe Christian. And Christina had been like in Taylor's sister's year or something. And so they did watch the first night. But he he doesn't remember. Taylor's actually going to me. So he was quite young when I was on.

But so he, yeah. And then he hasn't really shown any curiosity. I'm like if the only one I'd actually feel comfortable with him watching is the very first on The Bachelor. with Jake because I just, I am such a different person from that when I was on that and I just grew so much from then on. And then that was, it was, it was an important part of my life. But I turned it on because it was on Hulu and I had seen it. And he was like on a call to China for work sitting on the couch. And so I started kind of watching it out of curiosity and all of a sudden I saw myself kiss Jake.

And I was like, well, never mind. I don't feel comfortable watching this. So, so yeah. So I turned it off. He's never, he's seen little clips here and there. Yeah. Yeah. Would you show the girls when they get older?

Yeah, I think it's kind of, I think it's cool. I think to see those moments of me having like affection with other men. Yeah. I'm not Bachelor Pad. I'd be okay with Bachelor and Bachelor and Parish. The Bachelor pad, like there was a kissing contest and I participated in it and it's just like stupid. So I like the thought of The Bachelor or Bachelor in Paradise were some of my very, very like, there was a lot of growth and positive stuff that came from all of that. But yeah, I would let the girls watch it someday, but maybe not the affection with other men.

How do you handle that, Tristan? You know, it's funny. I just got asked this question again. I feel like I'm we used to get asked the question what is the secret you know that was our number one and now I feel like it is what would you you know yeah something about the kids would you let them be on the show and I always say it would be super hypocritical if I didn't support them because it's how I met their father um but I feel like it's just for me it's very different because you know there was so much controversy when they announced that I was going to be the first bachelorette and people thought

that I was going to look like a slut and they were calling me all, you know, all these names without even knowing who I was. So I went into it really kind of really thoughtful about who, you know, what I looked like to my grandma, to, you know, to all of these people, to the people who were clearly going to be judging me right um and so i think that i mean i've i've shared this i just did uh chris harrison's podcast and we were talking about it and like jamie blake on one of the dates which bob was on he asked me for a kiss and i was like well how about on the cheek can we tell the backstory to this so i first of all i think tristan i think i've heard this story before yeah i've said this to trista before you handled yourself masterfully on that show and i think

that you were always like, you were such a lady and so just, I don't know, perfect. Intentional. Yeah, very intentional. And it was like, you know, she really set the tone, I think, for my season and for seasons after that. Like, I remember saying to the 30 women on the first time, like, look, you guys, I just came off the best, like, experience. And I want you all to have this as well.

So don't fight with each other because it, this is no prize here. This is a disaster. So you don't want this. Now, just I never had to say that. but I'll never forget. So they came up to me and Trista, you might remember this. We were at the beach and they came up to me and they're like,

it was Jason Carbone and he goes, he hands me to Corona and he's, here you go, buddy. Trista is waiting for you on the beach and she's excited to kiss you. And I'm like, really? He's like, yeah, I go, on a group date with eight dudes, she just walked up to you and said, man, I can't wait to kiss Bob. And he's like, yeah.

And I'm like, okay, nice try. Try it with somebody else, bro. I'm like, look, I got a sister. If someone tried to mac on my sister on a group date, I would kill that guy. And so anyway, I go and grab myself a beer and come back to find Jamie to tell him this ridiculous story that Carbone just tried to talk me into. And I look and there's Jamie on the beach with Trista going in for it. Just was like, oh, not a chance. And so afterwards, we're in the limo and I'll never forget it.

And we're all toasting, you know. And I'm the one, of course, who's like, you know, everyone let's raise a glass to Trista. And now I'm like trying to protect myself. So I'm like, Trista, I just want to say, you know, this has to be really difficult for you to be on a group date like this with a bunch of people. And I hope you don't think that if someone doesn't try to kiss you on the beach that, you know, that means they're not interested in you or find you lovely and wonderful. And Jamie Blyce looked at me and he's going, I'm like, just like if someone does try to kiss you on the beach, that doesn't mean that they're, you know, the total leech. you know, we're all on, but it was like so funny because Tristan, you just handled it so great. You would just giggle and make it all nice.

And we'd be like, okay, now we're moving on, you know. Yeah. Anyway, I feel like that's totally different from like back those days. You know, I was very intentional about not being physical with people or at least giving into it when I really truly felt it. And now it's like everyone kisses their, everyone. Like everyone is getting the first night, right? So it's hard. It's hard to watch.

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I always thought Tenley was going to be a Bachelorette. I remember after watching Jake's season, and then especially after watching the post-season interview that the two of them did, remember that? Oh, yeah. Jake and... Oh, Vienna. Yeah.

And I remember watching that going, oh my God, like, who would do, who, I mean, I was just blown away, but I remember literally from watching like night one of that show, I remember thinking Tenley's going to be the next Bachelor. There's no way. Yeah, the conversation, not like, not like a proposal, but Alon definitely was kind of, I felt like he was kind of pursuing me because he would come to my house in Huntington Beach. and he'd hang out with my family and stuff. I felt like they were still kind of keeping close. Like, I mean, I wanted to believe that he was a true friend and he was. But at the same time, I felt like once it was offered to Allie that things changed. So, but they definitely had dangled some stars in my eyes. Like, I remember coming home from St. Lucia after being.

dumped and not being proposed to, which, you know, I know it was definitely their best way for me to go. But anyways, they were like, oh, dancing with the stars and maybe the Bachelorette, like all of these things that were definitely sounded really cool. But you know what? I for sure would have been a horrible Bachelorette. I don't think that I, my heart could have handled it. It is hard. And I think I would have, I mean, how do you, like, I know that you just have to, you have to put it in the work and stuff because I watch them. But I think I would have picked out a guy within the first, like my top guy. Like, I really quickly. And my heart be, like, I'd let my heart go all into him.

How do you fake it and put it on a show? Like, I don't know that I could have. That was hard for me too. Yeah. Yeah, I get that. But you just, I guess you just. compartmentalize you know you you try to keep it separate for every person i know and i it's tough i can't even imagine so yeah but yeah life obviously went the right way for me it was quite

until i finally met the one but um here we are okay that's okay i love those kind of stories it doesn't matter when because you have the rest of your lives together so yes and you know i think too it's like one of those things too i mean i can say this from my my bachelor, my bachelor's and bachelor's experience, of course, but as long as it ends up in the right place, you know, all of those experiences are what got you there, right? So like, I mean, I think about that and I hate to ask this question, but I, you know, it's on a list of questions to ask, so I hope you don't mind me asking it. But, um, most recently one of your exes showed up on Instagram with, uh, with his new partner. Right. So Kipton and Angela, um, kind of went

public on Instagram and do you keep up with any of that stuff and you know is that something that you saw happening or you thought you could see happening if you knew both obviously new Kipton but if you knew Angela as well from seeing her on TV did you kind of see that happening and you know what are your thoughts on that well from okay so we live kind of in a small town yeah he's the reason why I ended up where I live and then I ended up meeting my husband because I lived here so that that all worked out great and I'm very happy for them because I think I think he's you know it's been years since we were together this is the first like real public relationship he's had besides the mother of his child and that was after close after we had broken up but yeah yeah so

I think that this is a big deal but what I have seen it coming between the two of them I do not know how they met but what's funny is our little small town I don't even need to get into the details, but yeah, I had heard, like, he had a girlfriend and who she was because of another one of my friends who's in the franchise, too, Crystal Nielsen, or now Crystal. She was taking Pilates at our girlfriend's Pilates Studio, and there was Kip, and she's like, oh, hey, weren't you, Tenley's ex, you know, and they started talking, and Angela used to be friends with Crystal. And so she was, what? And then I'm like, wait, what's close to my circle?

Yeah. But I know, Kim and I run into each other not very often, but we do. And it's always cordial and fine and wonderful. But I mean, my church is across the street from his house. Oh, my gosh. We never see each other. But it's just like there, you know, there, there's lots of ties and stuff. But yeah, it's so funny how small the world it is because I think it was like three weeks ago. that I kind of got the news that he was in a relationship with somebody from the show or the franchise. And I was like, oh, that's, how did they meet? You know, so I don't know the story, but happy for them, especially because if they've

gone public with it. And I think it's been like over a year that they've been together. So, oh, wow. That's what I heard. The band go public. Wow. Yeah. I mean, I think it's a big deal.

So I'm happy for it, especially if this. is the one for him or for her. So. Wasn't it funny? You're so sweet. Isn't it nice? Like I think about a lot of time like when someone, you know, like for example, with my season, when Estella finally got married and I was like, oh, my gosh, she's so

good. Right? I love her. Studio. But I was so happy for her because she's so sweet and wonderful and kind. And it was like people were, you know, people were like, well, are you excited for her? I'm like, what do you think? Of course I am.

I mean, I loved her. So I'm very excited for her. And I want her to be as happy as I am. And, you know, when you see someone who hasn't found that person, when you know what's inside of them and, you know, it's like to then when they finally do, you're just sort of like, okay, it's not like it's your responsibility for them to be happy in their lives. But once they finally are, you can kind of go, okay, I can get back to my life now or something.

I don't even know, you know, not going to be aware of it. But, yeah. But then for me also, like my life is established and I finally found the person. that I was actually meant to be with and stuff. And he was and Kip was definitely a part of my journey and getting there and growing up and learning things about myself and just, you know, past relationships are a big part of your life. But at the same time, like, you know, it's not something I think about on a daily basis.

But when it came up, that great news and also just really funny how like actually tied into my, there's details of it all that are just so funny of how small my world is. That is funny. But yeah, Estella, I love her. She's such a... Oh, I love that you go with it, that you're doing her class, like her, I love that. When I'm not pregnant, yeah, but she is so sweet. And then she actually, long time ago, when I was dating Kip, she briefly went on a few dates with one of Kip's friends.

So we went way back when. That's awesome. Yeah. She's so happy. Oh, my gosh. I would like to see a treat of all of us, like how, you know, how they connect everyone because there are a lot of connections

of that I think that we don't even know about. I bet there's tons of connections. I mean, I had a few other little things, but... I know that one of those. You don't need to go there? No, we don't need to go there. But, yeah, it's so funny, but there should be some sort of, like, yeah,

family tree just out of, just for comedic or out of curiosity. Some sort of like intertwining or like Oprah special of, um, yes. Like an ex-lose, yeah. Yes. What is a tree that has like a billion branches? Because that would be my tree and I don't even want to look at that. No desire.

No, I don't need to see that drink. It would take forever. It would take, yeah. It would take forever, Bob. You're that old. Oh, no, no, no, no. That's not how old. Oh, gently.

I know you weren't saying it that way. I just like to, I just like to harass him because he's did that much older than me. I am an ancient, I'm a fossil. Like, we always say that, you know, Trista's like the, the fairy godmother of the franchise, and I'm the grandfather, like the great, great grandfather of the franchise. You're the Bobfather. The Bobfather. There we go. The Bobfather.

The Bobfather. Okay. Oh, my gosh. Okay, well, we have loved seeing you. I love seeing you like I wish it was just in person. Please give Rao a humongous hug. And thank Taylor for letting us borrow you for a minute. And good luck with delivery.

I can't wait to see beautiful baby girl. Thank you. Yeah, prayers. And if you don't mind, just put in an extra request with God that this baby will come, you know, maybe two weeks early. That would be lovely. There you go. Yeah, right?

When is the due day? When is the due day, Tenley? You said May. When is it? May 22nd. Okay. So two weeks early would be May 8th, which is a magical day. That's my birthday.

Oh, see, babies. All right. I'm pushing for it. Not too early because my mom doesn't get here until the 10th and I need my mom to be here for a row. That's right. Good call. Yeah. We'll go May 11th.

Yeah. Oh, Tenley. We love you. Thank you so much. We love you, Tenley. Thank you so much. So happy to have seen both of you. and I hope everything's well for both of you of two.

Thank you very much. Bye, guys. Bye. Trista, she is so lovely. Jesus did the best. She's one of my all-time faves, like one of my probably closest friends from the franchise that, you know, that's not a lead or whatever, but.

Yeah. You too have a lot. I've always thought when I, the couple times that I got to spend time with her, she reminds me of you in a lot of ways. Like, you guys have similar, similar characteristics about you. A huge compliment. I mean, it is one. I sincerely do.

I think for both of you, I mean, I think it's a nice compliment. You guys are both like very, you pay attention to the people you're talking to. And, you know, it's just, it's nice. You like engage and you listen and you laugh and you, you know, share parallels and stuff like that. And she's just, I mean, only she would, obviously I was feeling so awkward to ask her the Kempton question. And only she could make you feel good about it, you know. And I was like, oh, thank God. She's so sweet about it, you know.

She is. She is the sweetest. I mean, she truly was a Disney princess. So, like, she's sugar from the cane, like, sugar from the cane. Amen. Well, we've got a lot of great stuff coming up. Obviously, having 10 Leon is just the tip of the iceberg, but a beautiful tip of the iceberg, of course. And I'm so excited because we've got, we got so much lined up over the coming weeks.

So, you know, thank you guys so much for listening in. for requesting more of the OGs. We'd love it. And I actually, with that note, I would love to hear from people if there's anyone that you just wonder what's going on in their lives from early seasons,

someone that you really liked. I'd love to hear from you. I'm sure Bob would too. So if you want to reach out to the almost famous Instagram page and just DM them and give them some requests, we would love that.

We would. And you know, it's funny, after hearing Tenley talk, I mean, someone I haven't even thought to reach out to is Jake Bevelka. So, okay, I have a story. Yes. And when you first mentioned it or when his name was brought up, I was like, oh my gosh, you just reminded me. He reached out to me on Instagram like last week. And I forgot that I like text messages and DMs. I swear if I don't write back, write that second, then I for. forget or it gets buried or whatever. So I am going to write him right now. He wrote me and just said, hey, um, how is everything? I just wanted to check in and say hi. I was like that. Oh, we've got to have him on. And, you know, I want to give a special shout out to one of our, one of our listeners, Angela, um, you know, Angela, after every one of our podcasts will, you know, she'll reach out and she'll write something and she'll be like, you know, I was listening to the show and, you know, blah. It's just always like, she's really just very, just very

sweet and you know she listened to our last podcast with Evan yeah she she reached our listened to our last podcast with Evan and reached out about that and just was like talking about how sweet he seems to be and she loves how compassionate you are and just you know how funny we are together and I just I love her her recaps because it makes me feel like I don't know it makes me feel like somebody's listening and someone actually cares and you know it's paying attention it's not just my mom so that's nice Yeah, it's not just our moms. You know, they're like, my mom's like, oh, you guys have the best podcast.

I'm like, mom, you don't even know how to listen to a podcast. I send it to you. She's like, I know, but I really love it. I just really love it. Oh, okay. So, thanks, Angela. We love you, moms. We love you.

Shout out to our moms. And to handle up. And then, yeah, to everyone out there, if you have any request, just reach out on the Instagram page or DM us directly, of course. Yes. But always fun, chatting. And we'll talk to you next time. Bye, everybody.

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