The Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous Podcast - Almost Good Advice

Episode Date: January 13, 2024

Ben and Ashley answer YOUR questions and share some (almost) good advice on how to handle relationships, parenting, and so much more!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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Hold up. Isn't that against school policy? That seems inappropriate. Maybe find out how it ends by listening to the OK Storytime podcast and the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Hi, my name is Enya Umanzor. And I'm Drew Phillips. And we run a podcast called Emergency Intercom. If you're a crime junkie and you love crimes, we're not the podcast for you. But if you have unmedicated ADHD... Oh, my God, perfect.

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listeners. Why? Because that's one way to connect. sitting in a space where you can share your stories and share your insights, but also this is called almost good advice because one of the ways that we're approaching this is we also want to learn from the listeners. We want to hear their stories and kind of learn where they're at in life. I can't promise that we're going to have all the great answers. But what I can do is promise that Ashley and I will talk through these situations like we would if we were sitting at a golden wedding or at dinner or on the phone. We would be as honest about these situations we can be and as vulnerable as we can be. Ashley, to set this up, I've read through the questions submitted

and we've gotten some really good ones. And you have not. And so we're going to kind of take this approach where just for this episode at least, you're going to go off the cuff. I'm going to have some thought that I've put in behind these. And we can kind of bounce back and forth. How does that sound. It sounds good. And I just want to say Ben's advice will probably be the best advice you could ever get. I feel like Ben is, that's one of your strongest suits is giving advice to other people. And I just have a big ego. So I just give advice all the time. You're so good at it. Everybody goes to you for guidance and you always have strong guidance. And there was a girl, there was one of the women from the Golden Bachelor who at the wedding was like, I just talked to Ben Higgins and he just

he had so much wisdom and like what I was asking him about I'm not sure if it was Ellen or Joan I didn't see Ellen at the wedding it was probably Ellen because I saw I think it was on Instagram that she said something like that yeah Ellen's really great what were you talking about

just kind of this process and the friendships that are coming from it and what life looks like now and like how do you make sense of this wild thing that happened to them right she's not her name isn't getting thrown around for the next golden bachelorette and so she's kind of in this space of being in limbo where she's made incredible friendships I think a lot of them don't necessarily want this season to be over and so what does life look like once it's over like that just that kind of the same stuff you would talk about with somebody in their 20s coming off the show I just think the perspectives might be a little different and the ways that you enjoy it are a little different when you're on the golden show or on the younger show and Ellen was just great I don't know if I had great advice for her for her other than I just got to listen

to kind of her journey so far and what she's learning and either be like, hey, you know what, truth is, this isn't going to last forever. But what has in your life? Like what has lasted forever? Even if you're in a marriage until, you know, the day you pass, things are going to change in that marriage. It's going to look different in five years than it does today. Like things change. And so how do we love the change? Like, how do we just enjoy the change? Steve, freaking fantastic advice. And Ellen is so amazing. How did I not see her? I actually did not see

her. Well, she's so freaking cute. Okay. All right, let's go with our first question. Yeah. We're going to do three stories today, three questions. The last one that we're going to touch on, I think, is going to be the most complicated to talk about. Yeah, I

see it. I'm skimming. Yeah, it has the most like nuance. And so let's start with Katie's. It starts like this. It says, oh my gosh, you guys are my favorite bachelor people. That's very nice. I don't just skip by that. I appreciate you saying that. Then she says, I don't really have a specific situation, but I wanted your advice on feeling like you're never going to find your person in your 20s. All my friends are starting to get engaged and I feel so behind. I don't want to settle, but I also don't want to be alone.

Did you ever feel like that? I already put myself out there and try to date. So I feel a little lost. Any advice? My advice is to keep on staying positive, stay positive. Keep on just living, doing like your thing, concentrate on yourself, make finding someone secondary because like I really feel like when you're doing your own thing and you're doing your own thing well. That's usually when the person comes along. Ben and I both are in the exact same boat. I think, well, so Jared came out about his feelings for me two months shy of my 30th birthday.

And yes, did I have this mental deadline that I was like, oh, my gosh, by 30, like, I really want to be able to say that, like, I found the person that I'm going to be with, for sure. It made me feel good that we were getting on that track at my 30th birthday. you, did you meet Just, just around 29? Yeah, around 29. Yeah. So I do think that like you, are you 29, you 29, Katie? Well, it doesn't matter. I do feel like once you're towards your end of your 20s, things kind of start clicking.

I think it doesn't, it's not a coincidence. I think you getting closer to 30 makes you more confident in yourself, in your decision making. You don't care as much what other people are thinking. don't stress out about entering your 30 single either like it's just it's you have to stay positive and put yourself out there but like you don't have to make it a total job to date like I said I do think that like as you're doing and rocking your own thing the right person will come along it's interesting uh this question I'm sure is a question that most people have in their 20s, right?

I mean, I remember, we talked about it here before, but I remember laying in my bed at my old house in Denver after my breakup from the show and coming to peace with the fact that I might be single because that relationship ended similarly to other relationships that I had in the past. And I thought, Ben, you might just not be cut out for this. Like, there just might not be that person

that's going to love you fully. Isn't it funny that you had that thought in your 20s. In my 20s. You're so young. Like when you really put in perspective, you're so young. You're very young. But the point, Katie, is that you're not alone in this thought.

You know, there's many that are feeling this way. And I think most people who are single and wanting in their 20s are feeling similarly to what your question is. And I go off of what Ashley just said. And also what Tanya Rad, who is part of the IHeart family once told me, because Tanya was really desiring a relationship, really single and wanting for all of her 20s. And she wants, I said, Tanya, how, like, what advice would you give somebody else? This was before she met her partner now.

And in a lot of her 30s. I don't think she met Robbie until she was 32. 32. So there was this, you know, this was not a secret to anybody that Tanya wanted love, had it found it. And she just told me this. She said, tell anybody that wants love to never stop dating. Now, that means going on weird dates, going on bad dates, going on great dates.

And because I think you get a better picture of where that person may be, like, where, what kind of interest you're into, what characteristics you like. And so almost have fun with it. I also would say, but based on everything else, like, I have this really bad advice that I give people who are single in their 20s, and I think it's true. and I've shared it with multiple people like you aren't

promised a relationship and that seems so daunting to hear that right like you are not promised to be in a relationship that sucks that's why it's the most terrifying thing ever

because it's the most out of your control thing and probably the most desired thing about life and it will like freak you out when you're lying in bed at night being like this is the one thing

I totally cannot control. Like, I can control my career and all of that. But I refuse to give advice that I don't believe is true. And the truth is it is out of your control. You aren't promised it. Like, it's not like everybody's going to find it. So I say this, and then I always kind of sandwich it with. So as a result, what I would tell you, if you're asking me for my input in this,

is to really love yourself and love the season of, of life you're in because the worst thing that could happen to you in this is not that you don't find a partner. Like that sucks, but it's not the worst thing that could happen. The worst thing that could happen to you in this is if you go 15, 20, 30 years of your life, kind of in your prime of health and your prime of career and your prime of connection and energy and you waste it because you've just been wanting this thing that was not promised to you. And so start to enjoy the singleness, enjoy the adventure, enjoy the lack of responsibility, enjoy the craziness of it all. And then hopefully along the way, somebody will come. But if you don't enjoy this season,

if you don't enjoy singleness, I promise you, even if you find a relationship, you're going to look back and you'd be like, I wish I would have enjoyed that more. I wish I would have taken more adventures. I wish I would have traveled alone. I wish I would have gone to the movies alone. All these things that you're not going to be able to do later on. So you're not promised it. I can't tell you you're going to find it. I can't even tell you the secret sauce to finding it. But I can tell you to enjoy the season you're in because you are human. You have life. You have breath. And that is a really valuable thing. That is very, very sacred in a miracle months itself. So you are a miracle. So enjoy the miracle that you are. We should really just make this show Ben's advice because I would

just love to be an audience member to it. I would love to just listen to everything that you spew because it's amazing. It's something I wouldn't come up with. I think you would. You said the same thing I did just in different ways. Not really. I guess so. I do think that like while you are embracing yourself and loving yourself and all that, the more you love yourself, the more you're probably going to like exude that to the world and be more attractive to everyone and be more a better partner. Yeah. And the truth is your whole with her. without somebody else. Like you are.

You are a whole human. My boyfriend's professor is way too friendly, and now I'm seriously suspicious. Oh, wait a minute, Sam. Maybe her boyfriend's just looking for extra credit. Well, Dakota, it's back to school week on the OK Storytime podcast, so we'll find out soon. This person writes, my boyfriend has been hanging out with his young professor a lot. He doesn't think it's a problem, but I don't trust her. Now he's insisting we get to know each other, but I just want her.

Gone. Now hold up. Isn't that against school policy? That sounds totally inappropriate. Well, according to this person, this is her boyfriend's former professor and they're the same age. And it's even more likely that they're cheating. He insists there's nothing between them. I mean, do you believe him? Well, he's certainly trying to get this person to believe him because he now wants them both to meet. So, do we find out if this person's boyfriend really cheated with his professor or not? To hear the explosive finale, listen to the OK Storytime podcast on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast. Imagine that you're on an airplane and all of a sudden you hear this. Attention passengers.

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statement too. How did you not give up when he was saying it wasn't right? Ashley, take it away. Well, honestly, it was because his words weren't matching up with his actions a lot of the times, to be honest. So, like, he would

send me flowers, but then tell me we were just friends. And there was, like, a lot of mixed signals. And I and there's like a lot of chapters to it obviously like because at first like he he definitely didn't know I was the one at first but then when we got to know each other it was there was enough mixed signals there's enough interest from him for me to keep being like no no I know no I know but then I don't know how to describe it I definitely just fell in love at first sight it was so crazy I did not really believe in love at first sight

And it was like a, just a weird, like, slap. It was so crazy. There, I just, I just knew. There was just something about his personality and, like, how we had to be similarities that I'd never experienced in anybody else before. Had you guys had, like, when was the first time you made out? Like, when was the first time he showed interest in you physically? Well, like, we did make out on the show twice, three times. And then just remind me and remind everybody else, you made out in paradise.

Well, you made out in paradise. And then you didn't really start dating for how long in between there. It was two and a half years from like us first meeting to us dating. And yes. And but you kept, but you kept the faith. Like you kept saying like I still think Jared is the one. He might not see it yet. But those two and a half years kind of what, I mean, I think you just said it.

but what encouraged you to keep pursuing it was his actions or the things that you still found for him to be pursuing you, even if he didn't know he was fully pursuing you. Like, he couldn't get you out of, he didn't want to get you out of his life. Right. Well, there was a lot of just natural chemistry and just the fact that, like, we wouldn't go, like, a day without talking. And we would talk on the phone for hours. And it was so crazy. And we would all, like, he would stay my place every time he would come to LA and then we would do things with each other's families and he would come like down to Virginia for my sister's birthday there's just so much so there was plenty for me to feel like there was interest uh like I just don't think you

do that as a friend just a friend and we like fulfilled the category of a boyfriend and girlfriend emotionally it was just not physically so you just knew that like he he he even if even if we were going to try to take a break from each other neither of us wanted that yeah like you couldn't picture your life without him in it yeah and he couldn't picture his life without you in it yeah and that might be like the summary of the answer right if you when you can't picture your life without somebody that's when you know yeah i would also just say that like I hate, like, this is the advice that I give every time, and I kind of feel bad for it. But if there's somebody who has, like, a lot of, you have a lot of confusion about and they seem to have confusion towards you, if you start dating someone else and they don't seem like at all jealous or at all rattled by this, like, it really doesn't affect their life, then you probably have your answer that they really are just your friend.

yeah that's good advice actually and i feel bad because you don't want to use the other person it's not about of using them but like if you really are just like okay i am moving on i'm we're gonna like i found somebody that i like i'm dating them if the person isn't rattled by it then like you really have your answer and that can really help you move on because i guess as i always say i'm the exception to the rule most people who keep pursuing someone and then there's no supposed reciprocation or at least

it didn't seem like there was on TV you're probably not going to end up with them but that's a great way of knowing for sure I think you're right and I remember that season

where it was really hard when you tried to move on it was really confusing for Jared and I think for most people who are wondering

that is a great response because at some point you would have to move on like if that person is not reciprocating the feelings you would have to move on you can't live your whole life just being like

I hope you know oh I love this guy who doesn't love me so you'd have to move on but when that happens what does it feel like? Yeah and it would probably be it's honestly

at that point probably empowering to move on too my boyfriend's professor is way too friendly and now I'm seriously suspicious. Oh, wait a minute, Sam. Maybe her boyfriend's just looking for extra credit. Well, Dakota, it's back to school week on the OK Storytime podcast, so we'll find out soon. This person writes, my boyfriend has been hanging out with his young professor a lot. He doesn't think

it's a problem, but I don't trust her. Now, he's insisting we get to know each other, but I just want her gone. Now, hold up. Isn't that against school policy? That sounds totally inappropriate. Well, according to this person, this is her boyfriend's former professor, and they're the same age. And it's even more likely that they're cheating. He insists there's nothing between them. I mean, do you believe him? Well, he's certainly trying to get this person to believe him because he now wants them both to meet. So, do we find out if this person's boyfriend really cheated with his professor or not? To hear the explosive finale, listen to the OK Storytime podcast on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast.

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on the IHartRadio app, Apple Podcast, or wherever you get your podcast. Okay, Ashley, we have a banger. the conclusion of this first episode of almost good advice is going to end with with jenna's question and again i asked you not to look at these and have any preparation so i'm going to read it to you i think your first response uh is going to be very very helpful here like if a friend was talking to you about this and then i have had more time to kind of think through how would i navigate this or what type of advice would i give but this is a difficult situation um so so here it is Jenna writes it, Ben, I loved seeing you dance at the wedding. You're hilarious.

Truth is, I love dancing. Super excited to hear your guys' thoughts on my situation. So basically, me and my two neighbors have been best friends for years. My one neighbor, Sarah, is getting divorced, but still lives in the same house with her husband. My other neighbor, Isabel, is now sleeping with Sarah's husband. Sarah doesn't know and Isabel made me promise not to tell, but now I feel awkward around Sarah. Isabel says she just wants to wait to tell Sarah until she decides what to do. Should I give her more time or should I tell Sarah? Ashley, first response.

my first response is that you have to tell Sarah but you also probably know that you're probably not going to be friends with Isabelle afterward but I don't know that like I'm kind of Isabelle's character is a little bit fuzzy right now I want to reenter this question for you first so if one of your friends is sitting in the similar situation let's call it your best friend one that you've known for years Okay, I already have it in my head like my sister and I have our two best shared friends

We're like a foursome and that's like we have our group message and all that Yeah, if the single one was sleeping with my married friend's husband Yeah, I'm holy crap like yeah, but we got to tell her We got to tell her but then at the same time like I'm so judgmental in my head towards my single friend That I'm like I don't know if I could be friends with that person of character So there you go. So yeah. So there's some things here we don't know.

Like what type of person is Isabel and what type of person is Sarah and what type of person are you? Like how does this friendship work? But you're best friends. So we have that at least. But like are these girls like we understand that Jenna is best friends with the two neighbors. But are the two neighbors best friends as well? Like are they a threesome of best friends? Yeah.

I'm assuming based on the sit and so basically me and my two neighbors have been best friends for years. Can you believe this? Yes. It sounds like fake. Like did somebody write this for us? No. No, I can believe this because this is a situation that I don't think is that uncommon, right? The best friend, you know, finds a way in with their best friend's husband once there is a divorce.

So do want to hear my thoughts? Yeah. And I guess we do have to reiterate that like they are getting a divorce. They're split up. I think that's an important. It helps a little bit, but it's not like they're just like having an affair. Well, there's a friend code. You know, there's a friend code.

A fair is not the word you can use here. I think that is, that is like clear and a boundary you should set is a fair is not the word you can use here. Now, going against friend code, doing something that feels like it might be stretching your morals and values. Maybe we could get to, but it's, this is difficult. And so, well, first. You're still living together. We'll first acknowledge that this is difficult. It's a really hard thing to talk to.

I am on the side where Jenna cannot tell. What? Are you just playing devil's advocate to me? No, I'm not. Why? Because the husband needs to tell? I think the husband has a big role in this. Okay.

I also think Jenna, if you can part-mentalize each situation, she has not put herself in the situation to lose either friend. She has not made the decision. that Isabel is making. So as a result, if the question here, I guess, is what is the right thing to do? Or how do I keep my friendships? There's two, there are two different things. How do I keep my friendships?

Jenna has not placed herself in this situation of, like, this difficult situation. So what I would do if I was Jenna is I would start hard pressing Isabel. Like, you need to tell her and you need to explain to her. The reason is it's going to affect not just Isabel. and Sarah's ex-husband, but it's going to affect Jenna, Sarah, Isabelle, and the ex-husband.

I would start pushing Isabelle to share her story with Sarah. I don't think Jenna needs to be that person. Start pushing Isabelle to start, okay, sharing the story. Like, it is,

it is Isabelle's issue. This isn't even Sarah's issue. Sarah's going to be hurt. She's going to be sad. She's going to be confused. She's going to be probably even more angry at her ex-husband and then she already is.

But this is Isabel's issue to communicate. And then when Sarah comes back to Jenna and is like, how long have you known about this? You need to tell, Jenna needs to be honest with Isabel and say, I'm going to tell Sarah that I've known about this the whole entire time. And the reason I didn't tell her was because I pushed her to tell you.

This is her story she needs to tell. She needs to own up to this. She needs to be an adult. She needs to acknowledge that this situation's messy and weird. And here's the thing. isabel doesn't want to tell sarah and so isabel knows this is a messy bad weird situation but i don't think jennin needs to be that person i don't know if we ever need to be that person because you still have that friendship with isabel and she's confided in you about this she obviously trusted you

with this information and if you want to keep the friendship whatever that means then jennin just needs to start hard pressing isabel or here's another idea here's what i'd do if this is my life i'd say okay Isabel, I'm going to give you one week. I was going to say, yeah, I give a timeline, uh-huh. Yeah, I'm going to give you one week to tell Sarah or your husband needs to tell Sarah or you guys need to do it together. You have one week. And if you don't tell her in one week, I love you, I care about you, but this is going to affect

me and I'm going to have to tell Sarah. I don't want to tell Sarah. I don't want to have to be that person. But I'm going to if you don't. So I made the promise. I've stuck to the promise. but I also in return have the ability to tell you that I'm going to tell Sarah because this situation is ugly. Yeah, Ben, I can get behind that one. I think that's probably the best

for reasoning. It's just, it's just hard. It's unfortunate that this has to happen because you know what? Maybe the most unfortunate thing here is that Jenna is kind of stuck in the middle of something she had no part in. That's too bad. All right. Well, Ben, let's go with yours. Yours is probably, I mean, not that we have to decide the best, almost good advice, but yours is probably the best, almost good. Well, and I think this is the way that, you know, we, life doesn't always work perfectly. But I think in difficult situations, ones that you feel stuck, I feel like the best way to navigate it is always overcommunicate.

Like you have to over, you know, if it's marriage, if it's friendships, whatever, the more you communicate, the, the, the, the, the, the, the, better it kind of flushes itself out. And so here it's the communication to, you know, and that's also great advice. The only, the times in my life where I felt the most stuck are the ones where I've tried to make like people happy on both sides. And then like I end up not over communicating and like kind of keeping a little bit too secret on both sides just to keep everybody happy. So that's amazing advice. And I just feel like you should be a minister with a sermon on Sunday every week.

That, yeah, that would not go well. I think it would. Ashley, this has been our first episode of Almost Good Advice. I think it was Almost Good Advice. I don't know if it's the perfect advice. We didn't promise that. But it's a lot of fun for us to hear from you. I know your situations in life are all crazy.

It's full of joy and pain and confusion and isolation. It's full of the human experience. And here at the Almost Famous Podcast, our Almost Good Advice, episodes. Just hope to help you feel a little less alone, know that you aren't doing this thing isolated, that other people are in it with you. And if you hear a story that you relate with, reticent, we would love to hear more from you. Now, we're going to come back. We'll be back next week with another episode of Almost Good Advice. Keep your stories flowing in. We don't want to stop this anytime soon. We'll only have to stop it if the story stop coming. So, write in with your stories,

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