The Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous Podcast - Almost Good Advice Part IX

Episode Date: May 30, 2024

Ben and Ashley are back to share some unqualified advice and help listeners with their questions! Find out the etiquette for gift giving in a relationship, what you should reveal about your exes to your partner, and we hear some awkward dating stories that will make you cringe!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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they've been outrageous because I think a lot of us are dealing with something similar to the questions that we've been answering. Life is complex and then has ups and downs. It's not always pretty and perfect and write down a narrow line. Life is full of twists and turns. And sometimes we find ourselves in situations that we don't even know how we got there or how to get out of them. Well, that's what the almost good advice episode is all about. And today, we do have some questions that we want to answer from all of you. Ashley, take it away with Stacy. All righty. Stacey says, I think giving flowers to someone is such a sweet gesture. But in my 26 years of life, I've never once received flowers from a man. Even after saying to one of my exes that I'd like to receive some

flowers one day, they never got me flowers. And it just makes me so sad because I don't feel like I'm expecting something impossible. Sometimes I buy flowers for myself, but once in a while it would feel nice if someone would show me some kind and sweet gesture. Do I tell my next partner that I appreciate little things like buying me flowers? Well, I mean, do we quote Miley Cyrus here? You already take her advice. You already buy yourself flowers. No, I don't think so, not initially. I mean, this is a far off question being that I think that you're single right now. I think that you date this person, your future lover for a little bit, see if he buys you flowers. And if not, you can gently suggest that it's something that would make you feel really special.

I don't know, like six months in or something like that. I'm sure that like when you're in the first dating stages, you can like drop hints. You can be like, oh, those are so pretty. Oh, I love flowers. like nothing says like I'm definitely like a you can you can tell them that you are a um gifts person when it comes to your love language and that you think that flowers are just a nice sweet gesture but like you don't have to say like I would love it if you'd buy me flowers there's plenty of ways you can allude to it you know it's interesting Jessica is a gift

person she likes to give gifts and receive gifts it's what she how she feels loved it's hard It's getting harder and harder to get her gifts, considering, you know, she works in skincare and she gets a lot of skin care, you know, already sent. And she has a great job. And when she needs something, she gets it. Yeah. Yeah. It's harder and harder to get creative. I grew up in a family that was not gift givers or receivers.

We did not really do Christmas gifts or birthday gifts. I am very much a fan of simplicity. I've had the same clothes, really, since high school, college. Like, I don't go get new clothes. I don't get new boots. I spend my money on golf pretty much is, like, my main expense at this point in my life. So we are two very, I'm going about this to say we are two very different people, my wife and I. Well, what does she get you?

What do you get her? Like, in the past? I've gotten her a really nice necklace. that she wanted for her birthday. We've gone on some trips. Now are starting to do experiences more, which I think is really cool, and it's a good in between for us.

And so we do date nights. We have, you know, obviously taking trips together. It could just be because Jess and I run such different schedules oftentimes. It's scheduling out a day that we're just going to do this together. And that, and we're going to treat it as a gift to each other because we enjoy our time together. We enjoy getting to spend time together. I will say,

oh geez she's giving me the thumbs up um i will say this she does like flowers okay so let's go to this question of stacey without drawing this out too long she does like receiving flowers the the difficulty is uh how often stacey do you want these flowers because once is like once is a big deal twice is a huge deal but you i don't think you should ever let yourself no matter who you are and what we're talking about, flowers, jewelry, whatever, become expectant. These always have to be a very grateful moment, one that is a surprise, I think, one that is very special, one that's saying, hey, I just thought of you today in this moment. And so, Stacey, never get to where these gifts are expected or to where you're disappointed when a gift doesn't

match your expectation of what a gift should be and feel like. Because then that puts so much pressure on the other human. My whole talk about, you know, my wife having, you know, the skins care stuff that she cares about and that's her job. And so she gets all this good skincare. That'd be a great gift for me to give her a very easy gift. I can't get her skincare because she gets it herself, you know, all the time, is that it become, you never want your partner to become burdened with the idea that I've got to get my partner something because if not, they're going to be disappointed. I think that is a very unhealthy place to get to in a relationship. And Instead, the gift should always be, I want to get my partner something because I want them

to know I'm thinking about them. If that's once a year, twice a year, three times a year, whatever it is. I was going to say two or three times a year would be a nice surprise for me personally. Hint, hint, Jared. And the one thing that when I go down like a marriage rabbit hole, I'm like, and I think about the things that, like, we could be doing for each other. I'll be like, why doesn't he just get me flowers? It's the easiest thing ever.

Like, I don't even care if they're like CVS flowers or grocery store flowers. It's like, would it be nice if he just, like, came home one day and, like, passed by the grocery store and just whipped in? Yeah. Yeah. It's very simple, which is why I think, like. That's why we have to fight those thoughts. You can never get your mind in a place of why aren't they? If you have those feelings, you could ask them in a different way.

But if it's, if you let your mind in a relationship get to, why aren't they doing this? You could do that with a billion things every day of your life. Why aren't they doing this? Why aren't they doing this? around. So Stacey, to bring it up to a partner, one of the best things for me with my wife is when she says, hey, you know what I would really like? And she tells me. And then I might do it tomorrow because that feels like I'm just doing whatever she's told me to. I want to do it in two days, three days, whatever. It just knows that I hear her. I appreciate her. I'm responding

to what she said she wants. And so make it easier on your partner. Don't throw a bunch of hints out there and expect them to pick up on it. I'll be honest. half the time most of my buddies that I know, we would never get the hints. We would never hear the hints. We'd never understand the hints. So it might just be. You know what I really love in a relationship? I don't want the fanciest stuff. What I would really like sometimes is when you're thinking of me, I love flowers. Great. Right now, yesterday, you know what I did, Ashley? Whalen and I went outside and we trimmed up some bushes and there's this really pretty flowered bush that we have in our yard and I trimmed it up and made it all nice. The flowers are smelling so good.

and I cut some evergreen, trimmed some evergreen bushes. And I took that and put it in a vase because when Jess got home last night, she was traveling. We had this on the table. And I said, hey, your dog and I, we thought of you today. Ben, you just happened to do this yesterday and you're just now bringing it up. This is so sweet. But I thought of her. And we wanted to make sure she saw that we were thinking of her even when she was gone.

It can be as simple as that. Anyways, the next question is from Anon. Anonymous says, I've been seeing someone for nearly two months now and have not discussed dating goals are really anything serious. It has been very casual. And we see each other about once a week. I like him. And I could see things potentially getting more serious. But I'm not sure if they will. I got married and divorced really young. Married at 21, separated 22, divorced by 23. It's not that I'm worried that he would particularly care or if this would be a deal Breaker. I just don't know how slash when to bring it up and we haven't talked about our past, our past relationships, future goals. What do you think I should do? Hmm. Well, it sounds really casual if you aren't talking about the past at all or any past relationships or any future goals. You guys are just talking about like movies and really serious stuff.

What's your favorite color? Yeah, like you, you've been dating him and he did for two months. and he doesn't know that you've been married before. I don't know. I don't know if it's going to get more serious then. I guess I think it's probably, if you want it to get more serious, this is probably the time to bring up this, your past relationship,

see how he takes it. And if anything, you know, even if he doesn't take it well, like, it doesn't, well, I don't know why he wouldn't take it well, but at least it's opening the door to more serious conversations. And then you can see,

how you are in serious conversations, because I think at two months, you are ready to take the next step in the depth of conversation. And I don't think, like, you have to make it a big deal as to when you do it, just like next time you're hanging out. You'd be like, so I haven't told you this yet, but I was actually married at 21. It should be honestly that simple. This isn't the bachelor. You don't have to wait to the nighttime portion of the date. You don't have to wait to the one-on-one. It's just weird to me that your partner is not asking you questions. I mean, it is casual. Two months, though, as Ashley said, it could still be casual.

I don't know. Are you seeing each other weekly? Have you seen each other biweekly? Have you been on like four dates? Even by four dates, I would think that you'd be talking a little bit about this stuff. Well, and one of my favorite parts about dating and dating my wife is the ability to become curious about somebody else's story. Like, if you're not doing that, what else are you doing?

You just talking about movies? It sounds boring right now. Yeah, being physical. Like, one of the cool parts about dating in general is you have this one-on-one time with this other person. You're sharing space with them. You're sharing time with them. You are investing into who they are as a person, not even necessarily to figure out

if like, hey, you and I are going to be romantic for the rest of our lives. It's mostly for the fun part is the curiosity of I get to meet a bunch of cool people. And maybe some of them will work. Maybe some of them won't. but why aren't you asking these questions and maybe here this could be the idea you I feel like this is it should not be a deal breaker to some maybe it is I don't know anybody in my life that would be like it's a deal breaker if you've been in a past relationship and it didn't go right or um I think there's questions there of like what didn't work for you what are you looking for now what have you learned from that

to hear if maybe the two of you are aligning on you know your future relationship goals but maybe you need to start the conversation and ask them, hey, tell me about your dating past. I want to know about it. It was something, honestly, in my relationship, I had to push a little bit because my dating is weird, right? Like, I was on national television dating. And so it was like this awkward, how much do we talk bachelor? How much do we not talk bachelor? But it is a big part of my story. And that part of my story helps me make sense as I get older, right? And so you have to ask about these things. And so my my advice here would be maybe you bring it up first to show that you have the curiosity of the care and also the confidence in yourself and in this dating relationship to where

if he tells you yeah you know what I've been married before I was in loved ones that you have the strength to know hey we can still make this work even with that like that that might be a piece of your story but like I you know you can still make it work there has to be that vulnerability at some point to know that you can be yourself that you can can share about past relationships with your now partner, and you two of you can grow together knowing, you know, the backstory. You have to ask. Uh, so bring it up. I would say bring it up two months is plenty of time. Goodness gracious. Like there's been dates I've been on where in the first thing, it's like, hey, you know what? Like, you're new to Denver. Have you been dating? Have you

been anybody cool? Like, what have you learned about the people of Denver? Like, those questions are not weird questions. They're just questions you ask when you're dating. Yeah. Totally. My boyfriend's professor is way too friendly, and now I'm seriously suspicious. Well, wait a minute, Sam. Maybe her boyfriend's just looking for extra credit. Well, Dakota, it's back to school week on the OK Storytime podcast, so we'll find out soon. This person writes, my boyfriend has been hanging out with his young professor a lot.

He doesn't think it's a problem, but I don't trust her. Now, he's insisting we get to know each other, but I just want her gone. Now, hold up. Isn't that against school policy? That sounds totally inappropriate. Well, according to this person, this is her boyfriend's former professor, and they're the same age. And it's even more likely that they're cheating. He insists there's nothing between them.

I mean, do you believe him? Well, he's certainly trying to get this person to believe him because he now wants them both to meet. So, do we find out if this person's boyfriend really cheated with his professor or not? To hear the explosive finale, listen to the OK Storytime podcast on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast. The U.S. Open is here. And on my podcast, Good Game with Sarah Spain, I'm breaking down the players from rising stars to legends chasing history. The predictions will we see a first time winner and the pressure. Billy Jean King says pressure is a privilege, you know.

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My eight-year relationship ended early this year, and I'm feeling okay and optimistic enough to try to start dating. What advice would you give someone you care about if they were in my shoes? As someone who was literally only kissed two people as a teen and physically only ever been with one? I'm very intimidated. Obviously, I can relate to this. I was, I felt like dating. Well, okay.

Dating in my early 20s was definitely super intimidating because of my lack of experience. And you're like, you just get further and further down the hole because you're scared to date because then there's going to be like a chance for like the physicality. Like how do you stop it? Do you, what are you going to regret it? Are you not going to regret it? Do you know, it's just do you like, how are you going to be awkward? I think that's like the major concern is like, hey, you're going to be awkward. Are you going to tell the person that you're.

um not very versed in this stuff um and then like are you going to be in the middle of like hooking up with somebody and then you're going to be like oh guess what i'm a virgin or are they going to know your virgin and well you're not but like you know what i mean you're inexperienced but i'll tell you that because you've gotten over that hurdle it's going to be a lot less awkward than it was for me um and then once i went on the show and everything kind of got a lot easier for me because everybody knew it and if they didn't know it it was just easier for me to talk about because once you talk about it on national TV, you can pretty much talk about it to anyone. So like I get where you're coming from. I feel you. But like I think that when in your case,

being that you have had a little experience, you will, you will, it'll be natural and you'll be fine when you are with the right person. Ben, any advice there? I mean, you spoke to everything from experience. I can never, you know, speak any further into what you just said there. What I will say, Lauren, probably what I don't know if you need to hear this or not is start dating. Go on bad dates. Go on good dates. People, we all have bad dates. We all have dates where we show up and we're awkward and we say something that throws the whole thing off and then the two of you, you know, leave the dinner and you're like, hey, this was fine, but we're not going to see each other again. That happens.

And I think in today's society, especially on social media, we see all these people in their perfect scenarios and they feel so smooth and they seem so beautiful and they seem like they have it all together. I'll be honest. It's not true at any level. Every human has been on bad dates. They will be on more bad dates. I've been on bad dates with my wife where I've said something stupid on a date and we've been like,

oh, goodness. You're right. Bad married dates do exist where, like, you just, like, kind of don't ever, like, get in the groove of, like conversation and you're like, this is weird. Yeah, I don't know. I don't have anything to talk to you about. You want to go and watch a movie or like you mad at me for, you want to be mad at me for a little bit? Is that cool? Like the, that happens. So start dating because I think you kind of get in the practice and a flow of dating and you get stories from dating, get thrown out there. And the other piece of this is everybody I know, no matter how smooth, no matter how successful, no matter how good

looking, no matter how experience, whatever. Everybody I know has been intimidated by going on dates. So you're not alone. My message to you is you are not a loan. Everybody else is feeling the same way. Probably the person that you're going to go on a date with next is going to be intimidated to go on this date with you at some level. There's nerves. There's anxieties. That's also a piece that makes it fun because you know what? That season leaves at some level where you're not as nervous to go on a date with your partner of eight years. You know, you're more in a rhythm with them. You know, you are more comfortable with them. So except the awkwardness, except that yes, everybody is intimidated and know you aren't alone as you

enter back out into this dating pool because everybody else is in it with you. There's, if people are going on dates, they're doing it to try to meet somebody. And that is a very intimidating idea that this could be the first last date of your life. That's a heavy, heavy idea. So just get out there and have fun with it. Shake it up a bit and figure out what you're looking for again. I'm sure you're a gift to whoever you're going on a date with. And they're going to be a gift to you hopefully too. And to go back to our last conversation from Anonymous, ask good questions. Be curious going on these dates. That's one way. When I had a season of life, Ashley, and then I'll end it here, where I was probably in my early 20s. It was before the show.

I had stopped dating because I would get so nervous for these dates. I would get so anxious for these dates that it wasn't fun for me anymore. I was so intimidated by going on dates. And I had a mentor of mine at the time be like, well, you want to date because you do want to find a partner. How about you just go with this strategy for a bit? Ask them all the questions that you want to know, right? Like maybe you don't go in there and try to talk about. yourself. Maybe you just ask them questions, let them talk for you until you guys get in a comfortable rhythm where you feel like you can start opening up or where you feel like you can start responding. But maybe the idea is, hey, take the weight off of yourself by letting them

talk on that first day, asking them the questions that matter. Oh, it's so easy to be the interviewer. So easy to be the interview. Just ask about their dog. I don't know. I also wanted to throw out there that like because you've been in an eight year relationship, you've been able to be like very emotionally intimate with somebody and sometimes that can be even more intimidating and you're a little concentrated on the physical right now you're experienced in the emotional intimacy and that gives you like probably the upper hand to a lot of people out in the dating world today a lot of people are inexperienced these days yeah what do you think's easier the physical intimacy and i'm not talking sex here i'm just talking like you know even holding hands hugs kisses whatever

or emotional intimacy Um, I guess it depends on the stage of the relationship, probably, probably emotional intimacy for me just because, like, I hate that whenever I have a serious conversation, I literally am just crying. I have to cry. Like, I cannot, I can't stop myself and I get really frustrated because then I can't say everything that I want to say. And then, like, Jared will get, well, he's quite understanding at this point. but like it's just not the ideal way of communicating of course like as a 36 year old and I'm just like I just really wish that I could talk without crying we've talked about this my my wife is a crier and she'll just cry and I'm not and I'm like I don't know and she's like sometimes you just need to cry and I'm like I don't get it like if I cried it's a big deal like it is deep it is heavy it is sometimes she's just crying like sometimes she's just letting it out there I do want to bring in Kendall, who is one of our producers. She's filling in this week for Hannah.

Kendall's younger than both of us. She's been in a serious relationship. Kindle, the same question is asked to you. What is more difficult for you as you started dating, the physical or emotional intimacy? Oh, God, Ben. I think emotional for me because I have a hard time expressing my feelings. It doesn't get easy to me. I'm kind of like people joke. I'm the man. of the relationship. So I think that was harder for me. That's fair. Seems like emotional definitely ways.

What about you, Ben? Yeah, Ben. Yeah. What about me? I'm a very emotional man. So emotion comes very easy and very quickly to me. My dad is a very emotional man. It comes very easy and very quickly to him.

I think it's the physical piece that would be the biggest hurdle for me. Because for me, there's a lot of, like, insecurity questions concerns you know boundaries all that that has to like run through your head and you know during those moments and it's like I didn't I think in my past I've led people on and so for me when I was dating my wife it was very intentional to not like push things farther than where I felt like our relationship was and sometimes as a hard question to understand is where exactly are we until you know you start to talk about the future together so I think for me it's the physical. You've led people on because you were too physical too early. Yeah. Yeah. You know,

college is weird. Like you make out somebody at the bar and all of a sudden the next day, they're texting. You're like, oh, no. Um, my boyfriend's professor is way too friendly and now I'm seriously suspicious. Oh, wait a minute, Sam. Maybe her boyfriend's just looking for extra credit. Well, Dakota, it's back to school week on the okay story time podcast. So we'll find out soon. This person writes, my boyfriend has been hanging out with his young professor a lot. He doesn't think it's a problem, but I don't trust her. Now he's insisting we get to know each other, but I just want her gone. Now hold up, isn't that against school policy? That sounds totally inappropriate. Well, according to this person, this is her boyfriend's former professor and they're the same age.

And it's even more likely that they're cheating. He insists there's nothing between them. I mean, do you believe him? Well, he's certainly trying to get this person to believe him because he now wants them both to meet. So, do we find out if this person's boyfriend really cheated with his professor or not. To hear the explosive finale, listen to the OK Storytime podcast on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast. The U.S. Open is here, and on my

podcast, Good Game with Sarah Spain, I'm breaking down the players from rising stars to legends chasing history. The predictions, well, we see a first time winner, and the pressure. Billy Jean King says pressure is a privilege, you know. Plus, the stories and events off the court, and of course the honey

deuses, the signature cocktail of the U.S. Open. The U.S. Open has gotten to be a very fancy, wonderfully experiential sporting event. I mean, listen, the whole aim is to be accessible and inclusive for all tennis fans, whether you play tennis or not. Tennis is full of compelling stories of late. Have you heard about icon Venus Williams' recent wildcard bids? Or the young Canadian, Victoria Mboko making a name for herself?

How about Naomi Osaka getting back to form? To hear this and more, listen to Good Game with Sarah Spain, an Iheart women's sports production in partnership with deep blue sports and entertainment on the Iheart radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Presented by Capital One, founding partner of IHeart Women's Sports. I don't write songs. God write songs. I take dictation. I didn't even know you've been a pastor for over 10 years. I think culture is any space that you live in that develops you. On a recent episode of Culture Raises Us podcast, I sat down with Warren Campbell, Grammy winning producer, pastor, and music executive to talk about

the beats, the business, and the legacy behind some of the biggest names in gospel, R&B, and hip-hop. This is like watching Michael Jackson talk about Thurley before it happened. Was there a particular moment where you realize just how instrumental music culture was to shaping all of our global ecosystem? I was eight years old, and the Motown 25 special came on. And all the great Motown artists, Marvin, Stevie Wonder, Temptations, Diana Raw. From Mary Mary to Jennifer Hudson, we get into the source. soul of the music and the purpose that drives it.

Listen to Culture raises us on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Hi, I'm Kurt Brown-Oller. And I am Scotty Landis, and we host Bananas, the Weird News Podcasts with wonderful guests like Whitney Cummings. And tackle the truly tough questions. Why is cool mom an insult, but mom is fine? No.

I always say, Kurt,'s a fun dad. Fun dad and cool mom. That's cool for me. We also dig into important life stuff, like why our last names would make the worst hyphen ever. My last name is Cummings. I have sympathy for nobody. Yeah, mine's brown-olar, but with an H. So it looks like brown-holer.

Okay, that's, okay, yours might be worse. We can never get married. Yeah. Listen to this episode with Whitney Cummings and check out new episodes of bananas every Tuesday on the exactly right network. Listen to bananas on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Hi, my name is Enya Umanzor. And I'm Drew Phillips. And we run a podcast called Emergency Intercom.

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And we have one more thing to say. While we're giving her advice about jumping into the dating pool again, Ben, I have a question for you. How many dates do you think you should give somebody if they're continuously asking you? Because I, my mom one time said three. You know, my mom's always said, do three. And I think it should be two. like if you're not interested yeah like if they're fine if they're good they're fine it was fine time because i made the mistake of doing three ones and then i was suckered into going on

four and that was definitely crossing the line because i was asked to go on the fourth eight well on the third that really puts you in a sticky spot you know i don't know if i i think two is is fair i think three makes sense because it is kind of like three strikes you're out um kind of idea. When I was younger, I was really bad at this question because I would date longer than we should. Even if I wasn't into it, I would just say yes, out of guilt, you know, whatever. And the show really did a huge deal for me where it gave me some confidence or it gave me perspective that being honest and straightforward with each other as early as possible was the healthiest path for both of you. I had friends that would go on dates with people. They would

stop dating them and they would still be friends and that both people would talk very highly of them. What ended up happening with me is I'd go on too many dates and then it would end kind of abruptly and then people would have really hurt feelings and a really like jaded idea of me. And so what I learned later was the quicker, the better, be honest, be concise and be confident and just say, hey, like, you know, this isn't me. telling you I think you're a bad person. We just aren't clicking or I'm just not clicking with you. And so, hey, this has been great, but we don't need to hang out again. It's hard. It's awkward. There's no easy way to do it. It's definitely for me was the worst part of dating. But you,

you, I think it is the quicker, the better. It's kind of like getting fired, you know? Just be less words or better. Quick, easy, simple. Get out. Well, thank you for answering that. Interesting question, right? It's, you know, almost good advice has been an absolute gift to us and hopefully to the listeners. We want to hear more from you. So please email us at Ben and Ashley at iHeartMedia.com. Give us your questions.

You can also write them on to our Instagram page. If you just message us, we'll check there too. We'll continue to answer your questions. We'll continue to break down headlines. We'll continue to talk about Jen's upcoming season of The Bachelor. and we're going to bring on some interviews with past contestants that I think all of you will be very excited about. So thank you for joining in to the Almost Famous Podcast. Until next time, I've been Ben. I've been Ashley. See you guys. Thank you.

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