The Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous Podcast - Almost Good Advice Part V

Episode Date: February 22, 2024

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at giving almost good advice and then I will give um very like 50 50 advice where I'm not even sure if I believe my own but you know what I'm feeling better today than I have in the past couple weeks the more we do this the more I'm like maybe people care maybe people like actually think that I have something to say about it well I think the responses have shown us that's what I mean they're positive yeah the responses have shown us this segment uh is really not only fun for us it's maybe helpful for us, you know, to talk through things and learn things about, you know, how we see the world personally, but also hopefully it's helpful for all the listeners who are writing us in or maybe listening to this segment and maybe feeling less alone or grabbing some

pieces of wisdom. Or if you disagree with us completely, that's fine too. Maybe at least you're thinking through questions about life and situations that you've never thought through before. We you to disagree. We want you to agree. This is a conversation for us just to try to find out what our listeners are going through and dealing with and thinking through in this world. And we're so honored that you let us host this segment. So let's dive into it right away. We have some really, really great questions today, some that are going to definitely spark hopefully a little bit of contentiousness, but also an understanding between Ashley myself. We start out with Marina. Here's a question. How do I work on not thinking about a situation that happened to me? I have something

specific that I'm thinking about. But I don't feel comfortable sharing that. I know that other people can relate on this. It is consuming me. Any advice would be great. Have you struggled with this? I'm literally fixated on this situation. It's hard and we don't know it. Of course, if it's something like so, so serious that you need to talk to a doctor or a therapist about, definitely I go that route first. If it's not something like that, my, I've literally had one situation and I don't even know it's the most random thing in the entire world. Should I share it? It happened to me as a child. Okay. So I was chosen, which is hilarious now that I have a good advice podcast segment. I was chosen in a fourth grade to be a peer mediator as a fifth grader and sixth grader.

each there was like 10 from the entire grade and you know my parents were super proud of this you don't even submit yourself that the guidance counselor and the teachers came together to make a decision on who would be this and my parents really proud because of course like that means that you know how to make a decision um you know how to like solve issues peacefully and um this one girl thought that I was like sealing her best friend and I was spending too much time with her and the other girl was annoyed because she wasn't getting as much time. So this other girl that I speak of happened to also be a peer mediator and she took me to a mediation. And I was like so embarrassed that another mediator would take me to a mediation because we should be able to just talk this out together.

right i know i was 11 it's like not a big deal but i never told my parents this and i told my parents everything so for like 20 years not 20 maybe like 12 years i held this secret from my mom i thought specifically i was holding it for my mom and it would eat me alive sometimes i think it was an absolute oCD thing where i'd be like what if something happens to my mom and i never told her that i went to mediation in fifth grade. It was so OCD, but I would get this cycle of thought. And it would stress me out. And then one day I was just like, hey, mom, I'm like,

Mom, I'm like, Mom, guess what? This girl took me to a mediation one day. And she was like, oh, really? That's funny. That was it. So you're telling me one of the most, like, traumatizing moments of your friendship as a child is the fact that you had a mediator come in between you and somebody else.

Well, that I had, that somebody took me to a mediation. as I as we both were mediators i know this is the silliest story ever but i'm trying to tell you that there is like there's a situ like this girl marina is saying that there's a situation and it's all consuming and to me my best advice is that it could be it's probably so consuming in your head but then when you say it out loud if it is something like a secret that you need to share with others to make you feel better once it's out there you're actually going to be like so relieved and it's probably hopefully not as big of a deal well yes it's the stupidest thing i've ever shared on this podcast it's not the stupidest no i don't

i don't think so so it's really hard to answer this without knowing the context of situation we don't know the gravity of the the thing that's consuming you um if it's a mistake you made You know, Ashley just talked about her situation where she was hiding something from her family that she felt like she needed to share with them because it was maybe embarrassing for her. And also, it was probably a realization that maybe for the first time somebody was actually angry at you. And I think that's always a moment you remember as a child is when you feel like, wow, the world maybe doesn't just completely love me like my family does.

Maybe I will have conflict in life. your first moment of conflict. And that's always a memorable moment as a child. And we can always all speak to that. But I don't know. So I'll go out from the angle maybe of if this is a mistake you made or it's or maybe it's a way somebody has made you feel. I think the best way for it to kind of process through your mind is definitely to speak to somebody. I always think that's a good option because I do think having another ear to hear it and kind of bounce some truce off of you will always help you move forward. I also think for me, when there's something on my mind, or maybe I'm feeling down and out in a day because it's something somebody said or

maybe something I did that I, when I hurt somebody unintentionally, is I like to sit in those moments a little bit and think through what I'm learning. Like what is actually bothering me? like what actually offended me what actually hurt me here like was it my ego was it what they said about the way i looked was it about the way they said was it something they said about the way i treat people or the way that i come off to them as a person and i have to really sit in that and think through why did it affect me so much like why is this on my mind so heavily because then i can start to get to the root of the issue i can really start to like dig deep inside myself and say okay this is obviously an area of my life that I need to work on or an area of my life I need to bring to

somebody else to talk through with them because this is a very sensitive place subject for me. I also have this theory in life that we're all going to mess up. And I think as long as your intentions were pure, like as long as your intentions were not to mess up the way you did or to hurt somebody the way you did, then it's a learning moment. It's a moment for growth. It's a moment to say, okay, I don't want to do this again because I don't want to have this feeling again. I don't want to sit in this thought again. I want to get better next time. So I know next time when I go into the situation, maybe I won't lie. Or maybe I won't be so direct to somebody to hurt their feelings. Or maybe I'll listen more than I talk so that they can

trust me. Or maybe I won't share that secret with somebody else. I think knowing, like really sitting in where your intentions were. And if your intentions were not good, then there's another moment for growth is to ask yourself why your intentions were good? Why were you trying to hurt them? Why were you trying to make them feel a little less about themselves or any of those situations? So I think there's a few things there. One is, as Ashley was mentioning, kind of that first moment of conflict. I think the other thing is to sit in this and understand why it's affecting you so much. I don't know how bad of a situation this is, but I always I always recommend talk therapy.

I always recommend speaking with somebody in these situations to try to just get a mediator to go back to Ashley's kind of example to kind of understand where you're at. My boyfriend's professor is way too friendly and now I'm seriously suspicious. Wait a minute, Sam. Maybe her boyfriend's just looking for extra credit. Well, Dakota, it's back to school week on the OK Storytime podcast. So, we'll find out soon. This person writes,

My boyfriend has been hanging out with his young professor a lot. He doesn't think it's a problem, but I don't trust her. Now, he's insisting we get to know each other, but I just want her gone. Now, hold up. Isn't that against school policy? That sounds totally inappropriate. Well, according to this person, this is her boyfriend's former professor,

and they're the same age. And it's even more likely that they're cheating. He insists there's nothing between them. I mean, do you believe him? Well, he's certainly trying to get this person to believe him because he now wants them both to meet. So do we find out if this person's boyfriend really cheated with his professor or not? To hear the explosive finale, listen to the OK Storytime podcast on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast.

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For reference, I am 19 years old and he is 25 years old. Here's some background. He is currently dating. Mary, and has been for three years now after cheating on his ex with her. I was the one who told the ex about the cheating and ended their relationship, which really strained mine and my brother's closeness. Me and Mary get along well enough, but I wouldn't consider us friends. He has cheated on her once before with his ex, right after they officially got together. And I'm the only one who knows. I had never said anything because me and my

brother are close and I didn't want to hurt our friendship more and that we had finally rebuilt. But this is making me second guess what I should have done. A few days ago, he invited over one of his female friends. This by itself would have been fine, but I could loudly hear them in the next room being intimate. When the girl left and he realized I was awake, he told me it's okay because him and Mary had broken up. I didn't respond, but he reminded me that they are not together so I shouldn't pull another stunt like I did with his ex. And I said, okay, but I have heard him on the phone with Mary for the past three days. He always calls her baby pet names. He laughs with her and they still act like a couple. My last relationship ended due to my ex cheating. So it hurts

knowing I could be helping my brother get away with an affair. But he claims they aren't together. Should I tell her about anything? Or is it not my place? You go first. let me go first yeah I guess I mean okay here here's mine

I don't know your brother's definitely lying and I still think you should probably stay out of it I don't know if Mary ends up coming over you've just heard her on the phone but she ends up coming over

me can maybe like drop some slight hints if you guys are alone try to vibe out how she's defining the relationship and how seriously she's taking it. They've been together for three years him and Mary though.

I think you can't like make the declaration to Mary about there's something going on. You can you can maybe hint at it if you see her in person. Steer her in the right direction. But yeah, you can't say anything.

I don't think. I don't know. It's hard. Ben. Well, the first issue here is that you live with your brother. And I think in a healthy environment, that could be a really cool thing. And maybe really good for your closeness and for memories together. I think at this point, he's putting you in situations that are no longer healthy for you guys to be living this close to each other, especially in the same apartment. And so if it's straining your, like your relationship with your brother by seeing how he,

is on an everyday basis, I think it's probably good for you to move out if that's an option in your life. So that would be like my first piece of advice would be try to find a separate place to live because this does not feel like a healthy environment for you. And it feels like over time, this is only going to get more unhealthy. The second point, and this is just going to be brutal honesty, your brother's not a good dude. He's not. And he's making decisions that are going to really hurt people. Not only yourself, who's writing in here, but also the women that he's doing this to. He's practicing a behavior and getting kind of in a rhythm of a behavior. It's becoming a trend at this point that is going to lead him in a direction that's going to cause

a lot of pain probably in his own life at some level when it catches up with him. And it will. It will catch up with him. And so, you know, I think one of the things that could be done here is when it comes to advice would be have a conversation with him and tell him, hey, this isn't the man you want to be, I don't think. And if it is, I need you to tell me that. So I understand you better. But I don't think you want to be a man that continues to hurt people along his path in life and affects relationships and treats intimacy like it's something that could be thrown away. And I think as a sister, that's a really, you're a trusted, loving source of truth for him and I think that is your role here first and foremost is to ask him who does he

want to be in life and is this behavior leading him in this direction I think the final thing when it comes to your question of do you need to tell Mary or not I think it's a little different than the question that we had a couple weeks ago when it came to the neighbor cheating on the ex-husband I don't know I don't know your relationship with Mary she says that she's not close she's not friends yeah they're they're close but they're not considered like friends i i don't think that you need to um and the the reason i say this and this this is a really tricky situation the reason i say this is because i think your brother's relationship with you right now is the thing that you need to work on the most it sounds like and your brother and his behavior

is something that you need to be focused on at this point the most because he's your brother and I think family matters deeply and you want to see your brother be a good man to others and you want to be proud of your brother and you want to see him thrive and and you want to see him live a life that is fulfilling and not you know practicing this behavior and so for me I would say I don't think your focus needs to be on if you need to tell Mary or not I think your first focus needs to be on sitting with your brother and if that conversation goes poorly and you feel like he is going to be hurting Mary as time goes on

then I think I would go with the same suggestion we gave the others which is hey you need to talk to Mary about this and if not I'm going to so you need to let him know first because I think him being blindsided by you doing this twice

even though I think you're in the right and I don't think there's any wrong to what you did I think the blindsettiness of doing this twice will lose your ability to speak any truth into him in the future. And I think right now he needs that more than anything else. Does that make sense? And it's fantastic advice.

Ben, stop it. We're going to have to rename this segment. Ben's great advice. No, I mean, I do. I think it's just tricky and it's hard. And there's like this is one of those situations where everything is so, and so much in a gray area. There's no black and white right response here or right answer.

If she told Mary, I don't think you're on the. the wrong at all for doing that. I just worry about your ability to support your brother well if he finds out you did that again. Like I think the first step needs to be sitting with him and then you can make a decision on how to move forward from there. But I think first he he probably could need you and use your love right now because he's, again, we said it last week, hurt people, hurt people. Right? Yeah. So that's my advice. That's Ben's advice. And if it were me, I'd be like, Mom, what should I do? Because my brother, his brother is doing this. He's so gross. It's tough. It's hard. He's obviously hurt, though. I mean, I read this and I see probably

some type of pain in his life or whatever has happened, you know, in your guys' upbringing. has kind of probably, I'm hoping he has a good example back home. I'm hoping you do have parents that you can call and trust and talk to, but I'm assuming at this point you don't just because it wasn't mentioned in the question. And so if that's not an option, then my first step would be sitting with him. My boyfriend's professor is way too friendly and now I'm seriously suspicious. Well, wait a minute, Sam. Maybe her boyfriend's just looking for. extra credit. Well, Dakota, it's back to school week on the OK Storytime podcast, so we'll find out

soon. This person writes, my boyfriend has been hanging out with his young professor a lot. He doesn't think it's a problem, but I don't trust her. Now, he's insisting we get to know each other, but I just want her gone. Now, hold up. Isn't that against school policy? That sounds totally inappropriate. Well, according to this person, this is her boyfriend's former professor and they're the same age. And it's even more likely that they're cheating. He insists there's nothing between them. I mean, do you believe him? Well, he's certainly trying to get this to believe him because he now wants them both to meet. So, do we find out if this person's boyfriend really cheated with his professor or not?

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Listen to Family Secrets Season 12 on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Ben, I'm going to read the next one. Okay. I don't even know where to start because this guy sounds so. Gras. Why? Okay. I'm so, I'm so, um, like, I can't even like put myself in the situation because I've never encountered a man. Probably read it. Okay. This is Lula and she says, how do I get nudes off my boyfriend's phone? My boyfriend sexed somebody who I thought was my friend behind my back. Well, that was my friend, apparently, not so much. She was interested in a threesome and asked to see

my nudes. So he sent her photos and videos of me that he had. By the way, guys, rated R question. I feel absolutely disgusting and I'm gearing up to leave him, but I need to get some things in line first due to kids and living with him. I would also like to make sure he doesn't keep any photos of me. So I asked him to delete them as a condition of staying together. And he agreed to do so. But the other day, he mentioned that since we haven't been having sex, he decided to restore an old version of his phones that did have the nudes on them. He had done it in a couple, he had done it a couple days prior to telling me and only admitted it when I was kind of fishing for information to see if all of them were actually deleted. How can I remove them

in a way that he won't be able to recover them? I still have all of his passwords. Yeah, this dude sounds gross. You know, first off, he's holding these pictures over Lula in a way that's... Like, blackmailie? Oh, yeah. I mean, it's terrible. You know, this feels like a techie question for me, actually. And I don't, I'm not a tech expert.

And so I do believe we probably have a producer on here who would know how to permanently delete photos and videos. I don't have that answer. but let me start let us start Ashley with kind of talking through the situation in general. One, I'm really glad

you're getting out of this relationship. I can't understate just how disgusting really this behavior is. The fact that he would not only send your videos to somebody else, and I'm not quite clear here

if it was with your permission or not. No, no. It doesn't. really seemed like it was. I feel absolutely disgusting. Okay. So let's say that. Well, first off, that's terrible.

I mean, there's very few things that are more violating in life than somebody that you're intimate with, that you're close to, that you trust, taking advantage of that trust and intimacy and also of taking advantage of you as a human and doing whatever with these videos he is. So this is a terrible situation. And I feel for you, Lula, and I hope you're listening to this and just understand that if you're feeling really like, like you said, disgusting and, and kind of just down and out, we're sorry, first off, but we hear you, but you're not in the wrong here for wanting to get out of this thing as quickly as possible. I do believe, though, you're, there's a lot of wisdom, Lula, and what you're saying where you have to get some things together first. and I don't know how he would respond based on the behavior you've mentioned. It doesn't sound like he's a great dude, so I'm doubting he's going to respond well.

If you were to say, hey, this is over and I need you to remove those videos and pictures. I also don't know what kind of legal recourse you can have if somebody has videos and pictures of you on their phone and you've ended this relationship. I don't know if there's maybe some legal recourse you could have to make sure that those get. deleted permanently from his phone. I don't know that kind of law and I can't really speak to it, but I do believe that that is a really smart first step here, is to make sure that those are gone. But I would hope you could be honest with them and say, we're done. And as a result, you no longer have privilege to me and these pictures of me, you've taken

advantage of this privilege, you haven't treated me well, and I need those pictures gone immediately. And I hope, I mean, it sounds crazy to even say, I would hope you would just respect you and do that in front of you for you. Now, let's bring in, let's bring in Easton. I think Easton is our tech expert. Easton, is there a way to make sure you permanently delete pictures and videos from your phone? There is, the thing that frightens me, I don't want to be the bearer of bad news. But when you delete a photo on an Apple device, they exist in like a recently deleted folder for I think 30 days and then they're gone forever. And you can go in there and clear those out. But the fact that she said he restored an old version of his phone,

this man is going to extreme lengths to hide these pictures and get them back. I wouldn't be surprised if he has them on a computer somewhere to our drive or something. I would go through every piece of technology that you can get your hands on from him. You do have the passwords. I would use them. Go through every photo album, delete everything you can find.

And then after that, I can't imagine that you have too much power unless he were to, of course, share them in the future after you guys break up. Hey, and by the way, do that deleting

before you announce the breakup to him. I mean, if you have all those passwords, I say log into his iCloud and delete the old versions of his phone too i mean this man doesn't deserve a backup of anything yeah it's a great point we're working off the fact that hopefully this guy has an apple where it's like all very easy like that yeah but if yeah he has other stuff there's not like an i cloud that's all like consuming i would uh i i i don't know why i want to say this but i just feel like i should too um when you do do this process uh when you go through

uh the steps here as is eston mentioned i do want to reiterate there a way to permanently delete these if it's on only a phone you go you delete it and you go in the recently deleted files and delete those and then they're gone so make sure you know if it's just on a phone that's a good step uh when it comes to other you know devices that he might have stuff saved on you would know that a lot better than we would if those exist or not if they do exist then make sure you check those but i did want to just mention that when you go through this process i feel like i just want to say you should have a peer there with you um a trusted friend. That's really good advice. Yeah, you should have somebody with you because I feel like this

could be a very contentious moment. And based on the question that you asked us, it doesn't sound like this dude is a good dude. And it doesn't sound like he'll probably respond very well to it. And so I would just recommend having somebody there that you trust beside you as you go through this for multiple reasons. One is they can validate that you've asked him to do this if this ever does become a bigger subject. And two, just to have that support next to you and with you as you do this. This could be a very emotional time for you as well, because there is going to be things that probably you have to go back through and look at and see. And it will probably mess with you a little bit. And that's okay if it does, but I just want you to make sure that you kind of have

a community around you while you do that. It's really smart, Ben. Ashley, why do, I mean, I've never been a fan of the saying that guys suck. because I just don't, I know so many good dudes in my life. I know so many men that I look up to, that I get wisdom from, that I talk to, that I learn from, that support me well, that care for me well. I have an amazing dad. I've been lucky to be surrounded, I think, intentionally and sometimes just by luck with really good men.

So I've never liked the word that guys suck, but goodness gracious, these questions are making me question that. I know, right? I mean, some guys, let's, like, I think at this point I'd agree with, yes, some guys do. Like, this is, this is some terrible stuff that these dudes are doing. I don't like it. It's actually, like, firing me up, and it makes me sad and angry for the women that have entered into these men's lives, but also for the men, because I know they can be better.

Like, I know that they, they're better than this. And they're, for whatever reason, doing things that aren't just done with poor intention. They're doing things that. are drastically going to affect the mental well-being of these women's lives. And I think that is a power that nobody should have over somebody else. Or nobody should at all release that power on somebody else. Right. So this is, this is heavy stuff. I hope if you're listening, again, we go back to the beginning of this episode where we just talk about if you're listening and you're finding yourself in a similar situation, maybe you're feeling a little less alone.

maybe you're gaining a little bit of insight into how multiple people on this show would deal with it. But if you disagree with everything we're saying, again, that's okay. But maybe you're thinking through these situations a little bit. Like you're at least considering how you would respond or what your advice you would give. And I think that's a benefit to everybody as well. Because these are tough. These are real. This is what people are going through who listen to the show. weekly with us. And I hope the almost famous podcast maybe gives you not only a place that you feel less alone, but a little brevity in life to talk about some crazy reality show that gets

the air on our TVs. And hopefully this podcast is a place where you can just maybe take a second and realize that your problems, yes, they're major, but you're not alone in them. Other people are going through stuff too. well put ben seriously you're i again sermons got put them out there these are basically this is basically ben sermon except for we don't call it ben sermon ben sermon that'd be great i did just speak at a church last weekend and i just got back from reno nevada actually um where uh i got to hear um the head coach of nevada give a speech to

his team that really fired me up and rallied me uh my best friend coached out there and i see his wife and two boys. And it was really cool to kind of hear what it's like to be a mentor and a coach, not only my buddy, but the head coach. So I feel like I've gained some wisdom this week and learn from some great men just here. That's really cool. Yeah, it's cool.

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