The Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous Podcast - Baby Talk with Blake Hortsmann and Giannina Gibelli

Episode Date: June 14, 2024

Ben and Ashley are hanging out with new parents in Bachelor Nation, Blake Horstmann and Giannina Gibelli! Blake opens up about how their relationship has changed since becoming parents and reveals that he struggled with connecting to the baby right away. Plus, Blake and Giannina share their reaction to Jason Tartick’s new relationship, and Ashley confronts the new parents about some baby name drama!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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we do have to talk about a friend of ours who had a big announcement come out. I'll be honest. I didn't know it wasn't public. So I'm glad they've... That's funny. Jason and Kat team just came out publicly with a hard launch I'll be again I didn't know they weren't public so I wasn't saying anything well they've been pretty public they've been like on vacation they've been like to so many places in public together

but I guess this is their first time posting like in the romantic way on Instagram yeah I mean obviously I think it's not been really a secret by any mean honestly it's kind of like us everybody kind of knew we were together you know post show but we can we like post or anything until we finally did and then but um but i mean yeah i'm super happy for him super happy for her obviously

we've hung out with the two of them um a few times i love cat venezolana yeah yeah oh yeah i forgot that part yeah yeah yeah um i think they're a great match too uh she's high energy she can match his energy for sure no 100 she's super high energy and she'll keep him on his toes yeah not that he needs it um but i just think that it'll be they just like feed off of each other in a really nice way um but they're just like in their bubble you know they don't want their bubble to be popped and now i feel like they feel like i think they feel like they're in a place now where it's like you can say whatever you want people can start you know shooting off whatever speculations etc etc and it's not going to touch us because we've solidified our relationship so

props to them to keeping that little bubble um and they feel ready so they're gonna they're going to crush the couple's contair they're going to crush pat's super creative and jason is so it'll be fun i can't wait for all the videos it'll be funny and she'll like take him out of his shell a little bit again not that he needs it yeah what shell i know i don't well she's been listen it's different when you're latinas i tell you what it's the latina we'll get a little bit of spice in his life yeah okay so do we time stamp this because you guys are way closer to him than i

I had dinner with him in like December I think right It was not December Ben loves to Like no I have no I have no I have no sense of time

I feel like it was December No it was not It was like March Was it? We had dinner It was late March Yeah Were you guys there at the dinner with Ben?

Yeah Yeah I was still pregnant Was that March? Actually because I played I played a show in Nash And it was right after I found out

And they were like pretty brand new Um yeah I want to say maybe maybe it was like Blake's got their receipts yeah no no I'm looking at my calendar I think yeah February but I think they're probably obviously talking before them but I don't know exactly Which is fine only they know there should be careful saying dates because there's going to be like people are going to be like they were hanging out in December and there was crossover and I'm like no I just didn't know I just didn't know like Like February-ish. We'll go with February.

Yeah. It's always a big step. Outside of everything else, excited, happy for them. They seem great. That's awesome. I understand and never have a problem at all with somebody not coming out publicly. Like, it doesn't bother. I don't know why it bothers people because you're dating.

Like, what are you going to do? Go on your first date and they're like, hey, we should share that we took a date together. But I do feel like when you're intentional about waiting, when you do, do finally announce it that is a sign that things are looking good like that you feel confident in what will become of your connection i agree you don't go public unless you want to like intertwine a lot of your life especially when your life is on social like that like their businesses are on social so i just think that this is a very like what you said very big green flag that it could be endgame

could be I always said I remember because I agree with you Ben I remember after paradise I was like I am never going public with a woman unless I intend to like marrying her I know I heard that I heard that podcast before yeah before we went public

and I was like oh shit oh no this is the one oh god oh no so when's the wedding guys I knew I was like this is going to right into the mask. I don't know.

There's some. I don't know. We just had a baby. We're worried about the baby, keeping the baby alive first. And then from there. Okay. So the baby was born two months ago.

Yeah. Two months ago. Ten weeks roughly. I think he's 10 weeks old. His name is Heath. And I said like, Heath was kind of on our list for our next baby. Yeah.

We won't, we weren't going to use it. but because you guys took it from her she wouldn't do that I told Jared I was like Heath is out because because Blake and G already named their baby

Keith and he was like we could still do it because of them I was like are you I don't know like I don't want to be a name stealer plus don't worry it's not like so high on the list

that like I felt like it was a steal it's not a steal plus he you have the alliteration too the HH Heath Habe him yeah we've been thinking okay I like Hayden and I think Hayden Haven is too ridiculous, right?

A little, it's a really close. Hayden Haven you cannot do. It's too bad. I think it's got some flow. Oh, really? Yeah. The middle name would be big. The middle name would have to be a big middle name.

It'd have to be in like a really good middle name. To not, to like break it up. Yeah, just break it up a little. Hayden Haven. That's a little tongue nice. Oh, all right. All right. Keep it on the list.

How do you feel? I'm like, it's just like it depends on the hour at this point yeah you know like sometimes it's just like I'm so heavy and I'm so like defeated and just like it's heaviness yeah and then there's sometimes where I am pretty fine but I know that you enjoyed pregnancy so good for you you and I had the absolute opposite pregnancies of all time because like you are one of the few people that I've heard of that like enjoyed it I didn't think I would I really terrified I thought for sure she would hate being pregnant and it would be so rough and she just hated all but she loved all of it yeah I was like waiting for the other shoe to drop I was just like all right like I'm waiting to hate the shit and I like I'm so jealous like it was I don't know it just it is what it is and I just didn't have any symptoms that were overwhelming we horrible tired yeah tired I just like a ton I didn't get morning sickness

I mean, F you. Right. Like, I was waiting. Like, I was waiting for it. I was, you know, I would get dizzy. I would get, like, a little bit of nauseous. But, like, I never, like, fully threw up. Maybe, like, five times throughout the whole pregnancy.

And it's because it traveled, like, a ton. Yeah, traveling, you'll usually get a hit. Yeah, you got a hit out of it. But it was. Yeah, you didn't have any, like, breakouts. I felt really, like, feminine. Yeah, you looked really feminine and beautiful. Thank you.

You look so good. Thank you. I'm like, shit. I wish. I wish I was still pregnant. Right now, I'm just like, ugh. I'm trying to get back, and it's just, you know, just try not to take, just trying to take the pressure off of myself.

But I'm, like, ready to just, like, be back and I'm not. See, everybody has, like, their part. Blake, hold on. What do you think about, Blake? I love her so much. I mean, it's been hard to watch her be like, okay, the baby's out. Like, I want to be back, you know. and there's that fine line of being like encouraging her but not like being like yeah and it's also

like shut the fuck up yeah it's like babe you're you're breastfeeding like I'm trying you know you're just a fine line to be like encouraging but not too much being like get your ass in the gym if you want to you know what I mean there's like that fine line of being like okay babe like you want to come to the gym with me today you're more than welcome like that kind of thing so like my body feels good I'm I'm emotionally healthy which I'm super super grateful for like again I thought I was going be like ppd like i mean it could hit you like at any point you know post part of yeah yeah but i just feel pretty normal um so i want to look like myself again so that the two aren't really clicking right now so that's the hard part i got it i get it for me um with dawson i thought that i thought

that i bounced back super quickly because the weight fell off really quickly right but then i look back on pictures and I still wasn't myself at all until like three or four months both part of them or like yeah like I still had like serious acne and stuff but it was because it was better I was feeling like really right so you got to take the where they where they fuck up honestly yeah it's been insane obviously her experience you know I can only speak to my experience but like it's being insane watching like what a woman's body can do it's literally nutty like it's the most which is the most which is Are you ready then?

The birth itself was like the most magical thing I've ever been a part of. I love giving birth. It was so emotionally overwhelmed. Like, and I could see, like, it was, it's almost like the feeling I got anyway. Again, I can only speak to myself. It's almost like addicting. Like, you could see maybe why people, like, have a big family and like being, like, pregnant and having kids. Because, like, it is such an incredible feeling.

And I, it was awesome. I loved it so much. I understand. My boyfriend's professor is way too friendly, and now I'm seriously suspicious. Well, wait a minute, Sam. Maybe her boyfriend's just looking for extra credit. Well, Dakota, it's back to school week on the OK Storytime podcast, so we'll find out soon. This person writes, my boyfriend has been hanging out with his young professor a lot.

He doesn't think it's a problem, but I don't trust her. Now, he's insisting we get to know each other, but I just want her gone. Now, hold up. Isn't that against school policy? That sounds totally inappropriate. Well, according to this person, this is her boyfriend's former professor, and they're the same age. It's even more likely that they're cheating. He insists there's nothing between them.

I mean, do you believe him? Well, he's certainly trying to get this person to believe him because he now wants them both to meet. So, do we find out if this person's boyfriend really cheated with his professor or not? To hear the explosive finale, listen to the OK Storytime podcast on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast. A foot washed up a shoe with some bones in it. They had no idea who it was. Most everything was burned up pretty good from the fire that not a whole lot was salvageable. These are the coldest of cold cases, but everything is about to change.

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And we didn't know what to expect in the morning. Nobody tells you anything. Listen to shock incarceration on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast. My name is Ed. Everyone say, hello Ed. Hello, Ed. From a very rural background myself, my dad is a farmer, and my mom is a cousin, so, like, it's not, like...

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So what do you get when a true crime producer walks into a comedy club? A new podcast called Wisecrack, where stand-up comedy and murder takes center stage. Available now. Listen to Wisecrack on the IHeart Radio app, couple podcasts or wherever you get your podcasts. I'm Dr. Joy Hardin-Bradford, and in session 421 of Therapy for Black Girls, I sit down with Dr. Athea and Billy Shaka to explore how our hair connects to our identity, mental health, and the ways we heal.

Because I think hair is a complex language system, right? In terms of it can tell how old you are, your marital status, where you're from, you're a spiritual belief. But I think with social media, there's like a hyperfixation and observation. of our hair, right? That this is sometimes the first thing someone sees when we make a post or a reel is how our hair is styled. You talk about the important role hairstyles play in our community, the pressure to always look put together, and how breaking up with perfection can actually free us. Plus, if you're someone who gets anxious about flying, don't miss session

418 with Dr. Angela Neil Barnett, where we dive into managing flight anxiety. Listen to therapy for black girls on the iHeart radio app apple podcasts or wherever you get your podcast let me ask some follow-ups here did you expect to feel that way or like when did i guess for both of you when did it hit you because this was not planned your your pregnancy was not planned it was a great scenario and how it worked and you guys made the most most of it but it wasn't like you were planning to have a child at this point in your lives in this year and so there's a probably little shock i went out to dinner with blake and i was like how'd you guys respond he's like we're good it just yeah it's new we didn't we didn't know what was going to happen all right let's go

so when did it hit you that you're like no i could see why like this is actually something awesome something awesome um i had a rough couple of weeks just again adjusting to like whoa my life is not all mine anymore, you know? So that was August 1st, we found out. And then I think, like, truly, when we told your family, we told his family at six weeks. And they were so happy and, like, jumping up and down. And just like, it was the best news in the entire world.

And I was just like, wow, this is, because I felt like I was going to get in trouble. I don't know, like my teenage self, just like, you know, I don't know, kicked in. I was like, why do I feel like I'm going to get in trouble like that I'm pregnant? right now and my family just reacted beautifully um but i think it was like when we told your family that i was like okay i feel pretty good everyone's super happy like i just started embracing it from there on yeah you embrace it pretty quick for me yeah pretty quickly i did you know and and then you're like figure this out but like for me obviously we're not like i wasn't pregnant my body isn't changing yeah i'm still doing a lot of the things i was before like you know i didn't have to cut out

alcohol I didn't have to cut out certain foods I didn't you know it was just like so nothing changed for me for a really long time um so I've talked about it but it's like this weird feeling of like am I you know she's already so attached to the baby she's already so in love with the baby she's carrying it they have this attachment this connection and I didn't feel it and then obviously and like there's part of me that's like what's wrong with me like why am I not there yet um so I got you know I would get emotional over that like God I hope I love this baby like I you know for some reason I'm not feeling it yet and Jared never puts his hand on my belly like he doesn't care he does not care when it's like no attachment well and then it's one of those things you put my hand on the belly and he stops kicking and I was like oh 100,000 percent they will never kick for anyone other than the mom yes exactly so it's a lot of weird emotions you're going through and you know together us together but everybody kept telling me like just wait until the baby comes out like just wait to you see them just wait to you make contact just wait to touch him and I was like okay you know like that's what everybody says but for me it truly was that moment it was like the second I saw his little half of his head coming out of me I just broke down it was like

instantly it was I'm getting used instantly it was just like oh my god like that is my son you know and I'm still getting craziest feeling so that was that was like really it was like a relief for me because I was like oh my god I hope like I'm gonna feel that way so it was really cool to feel that like right away and I know still there are parents who don't there are dads even our moms who don't but for me personally that's my story and I was just like immediately like thank God worried about you. I knew you'd get there. See, I have a lot of, but, I mean, most of my friends at this point have had children.

And I have, you know, everybody who's on a spectrum, I have a buddy who, six months, he's like, I don't feel anything. And he was, like, going crazy. He's like, I don't have it. And then all of a sudden, one day, I don't know what it was. His son reached out for him or something. He was like, oh, okay. I love this thing.

I'm in. I don't know what to do. Yeah, I've heard that even about mom sometimes. It takes, you know, almost a year sometimes for them to be fully because they're just so exhausted. Yeah, so everybody's different. You know, everybody has a different story. It's, how is your relationship changed? I mean, now your parents, you have a third in your family.

How, like, what has been the ups and downs of your, of your romantic relationships since the birth? Hugo. Don't let Ben pressure you. No, no, no. No, it's a good question. I think we weren't sure, like you kind of said, Ben, like, like we didn't like this you know we didn't plan to get pregnant he was a surprise yeah he was a surprise the best surprise um so I think like we I didn't know what to

expect like after the the the pregnancy of the birth because like you said everybody has different stories but I mean I think I mean I don't if anything it's almost like she became this like I don't know the word I'm looking for sacred thing it was like what is now she's not my girlfriend or my whatever she's like the mother of my child. So, like, I always look, I look at her through a different lens now. And that happened pretty quick to it. And especially seeing, like, what she went through, whether it be through the pregnancy and the birth and then even post birth, it's like, I'll change a diaper. Like, I saw how much you went through. Like, I'll change a diaper,

all, you know, whatever it is. So you just look through it for me. You look at her, at least I look at her through like a different lens. And it's no longer just like, you know, a girlfriend or even at, you know, a wife. It's like, oh, my God, it's like the mother of my child. it's like very different for me. I'm not your dirty, dirty girl anymore. You know?

Bucker. I know. All right. We'll take it, I guess. No, I like that. I mean,

it makes sense because you do. Like, there is a new lens of like connection, too. I think, I mean, the sacredness

also would lead to you being feeling closer because there is, you know, the two of you ran, you know, you have a unique dating history

where you ran two very separate lives for a bit as you're dating and loving each other but you're running two separate lives now like maybe the dependency is a little bit more because you're both raising this child together which I think is beautiful when it happens naturally like that and I've really enjoyed watching the two of you through the social media lens as parents it has been really beautiful but I will say gee you are one of the only people I've ever seen through social media that's made pregnancy looks so easy. I talk to

Ashley every couple days a week. Usually social media they do, usually on social media it looks nice. Sure. Right. Not, you know, I make sure that I don't make it look like. That's good though. That's good. Was it nice? I would have, and you know, the days

that didn't feel nice, everything, I should hold that. Like, I was very transparent through it, even when I was in the beginning where I was like, listen, like, I wasn't really expecting this and it took me a while. And I've been very transparent about It's just I happen to have a pregnancy

that treated me like And And go ahead, sorry I don't know I really never know what you're going to get I was just saying even It's not even per woman

It's like per pregnancy It is because like Her next baby She should be like No more Like we're done I know It's like this one was so great

You know My first would like Wrecked me Like you guys in every single way It was so awful And now in this one, I'm like, yeah, it's pregnancy. And it's not the best, but like, I'm not destroyed. And I was terrified of doing it again because I thought it would be the exact same.

But it's definitely dependent on the pregnancy. It's so weird. 100%. And it's been hard for me because, like, G has been, I mean, watching G go through all of this on social media, like, sometimes she'll get hate for having a good pregnancy. And it's like, it's bizarre. it's like people are so mad and that's crazy

I got like we're talking like angry like people get mad because your true life experiences that's always weird it's like I'm sorry that she had a different experience than you know so that's been hard for me but also I've encouraged people because like I was scared of having

a baby because of all the horrible crazy stories that people just immediately tell you as soon as you get pregnant they're like well my cousin's friend had you know this happened this and you're like, Jesus, like is everything like that? And then like TV shows you like every single traumatic experience a woman can go through while having birth because it's like a good storyline, et cetera, et cetera. So I had all this conditioning that like my pregnancy is going

to be rough. My birth is going to be rough and I'm going to have a really rough time. But because I didn't, I also wanted to show that it is possible to have a beautiful experience. Even though you're not feeling perfect 100% of the time, it can still be a really great experience that you want all over again. And I do. I just didn't think that that would happen to me. So people are pissed and some people are encouraged. You can't. Yeah, you can't.

You can't please everybody. You'll never win. Oh, definitely not. Because when you hate it, then people are like, you're not appreciating it. And you're so lucky. You know, some people can't have kids. And it's a huge, you know, conversation around it. So I just try to be as honest as possible.

And if you don't think I'm being honest, I don't know what to tell you. I actually didn't realize that there was different types of pregnancies because I've really learned this through Ashley, who's a champion. Because I do. I get talked to her multiplines a week. During her first pregnancy with Dawson, we'd be doing this show and she'd be like, sorry, I got to go through it up real quick. And she'd just like, lean over, do whatever she, and then be back recording. I'd be like, my goodness. Women are superheroes.

I was like, this is insane. It's crazy. And just how tired you guys get, which I get it, right? about you're growing a human being, but the amount that she just couldn't, like, function. No, and I still traveled the world with you, and I still went to be your shows, and I still worked,

and I still renovated a house, and I still dated every single thing. It was, it was crazy. Like, women are elite. I, I agree. I really, you know, I know we say it all the time, but it's like, I really wonder what would have happened if, like, guys had, you know,

they carried the child. definitely designed for us and then like you're bleeding out of every single and then you have to like literally put yourself back together again it's wild you guys the most insane thing I've ever seen and then the babies depending on you and only you and it's just for food and

you know and you're it's like the only thing it knows and you're like want to cry for 30 minutes but it's just like it's really rough it's crazy but it was great My boyfriend's professor is way too friendly And now I'm seriously suspicious Oh wait a minute, Sam, maybe her boyfriend's just looking for extra credit

Well Dakota, it's back to school week on the OK Storytime podcast So we'll find out soon This person writes, my boyfriend has been hanging out with his young professor a lot He doesn't think it's a problem, but I don't trust her Now he's insisting we get to know each other But I just want her gone Now hold up, isn't that against school? policy? That sounds totally inappropriate. Well, according to this person, this is her boyfriend's

former professor and they're the same age. It's even more likely that they're cheating. He insists there's nothing between them. I mean, do you believe him? Well, he's certainly trying to get this person to believe him because he now wants them both to meet. So, do we find out if this person's boyfriend really cheated with his professor or not? To hear the explosive finale, listen to the OK Storytime podcast on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast. My name is Ed. Everyone say hello, Ed. From a very rural background myself, my dad is a farmer and my mom is a cousin, so like it's not like... What do you get when a true crime producer walks into a comedy club?

I know it sounds like the start of a bad joke, but that really was my reality nine years ago. I just normally do straight stand-up, but this is a bit different. On stage stood a comedian with a story that no one expected to hear. On 22nd of July 2015, a 23-year-old man had killed his... family. And then he came to my house. So what do you get when a true crime producer walks into a comedy club? A new podcast called Wisecrack, where stand-up comedy and murder takes center stage.

Available now. Listen to Wisecrack on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. A foot washed up, a shoe with some. bones in it. They had no idea who it was. Most everything was burned up pretty good from the fire that not a whole lot was salvageable. These are the coldest of cold cases, but everything is about to change. Every case that is a cold case that has DNA right now in a backlog will be identified in our lifetime. A small lab in Texas is cracking the code on DNA.

Using new scientific tools, they're finding clues in evidence so tiny you might just miss it. He never thought he was going to get caught. And I just looked at my computer screen. I was just like, ah, gotcha. On America's Crime Lab, we'll learn about victims and survivors. And you'll meet the team behind the scenes at Othrum, the Houston Lab that takes on the most hopeless cases to finally solve the unsolvable.

Listen to America's Crime Lab on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. What would you do if one bad decision forced you to choose between a maximum security prison or the most brutal boot camp designed to be hell on earth. Unfortunately for Mark Lombardo, this was the choice he faced. He said, you are a number, a New York state number, and we own you. Shock incarceration, also known as boot camps, are short-term, highly regimented correctional programs that mimic military basic training. These programs aim to provide a shock of prison life, emphasizing strict

discipline, physical training, hard labor, and rehabilitation programs. Mark had one chance to complete this program and had no idea of the hell awaiting him the next six months. The first night was so overwhelming and you don't know who's next to you. And we didn't know what to expect in the morning. Nobody tells you anything. Listen to shock incarceration on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast. I'm Dr. Joy Hardin-Brandt. 21 of therapy for black girls, I sit down with Dr. Athea and Billy Shaka to explore how our hair connects to our identity, mental health, and the ways we heal. Because I think hair is a complex language system, right? In terms of it can tell how old you are,

your marital status, where you're from, you're a spiritual belief. But I think with social media, there's like a hyperfixation and observation of our hair, right? That this is sometimes the first thing someone sees when we make a post or a real. It's how our hair is styled. We talk about the important role hairstylists play in our community, the pressure to always look put together, and how breaking up with perfection can actually free us.

Plus, if you're someone who gets anxious about flying, don't miss Session 418 with Dr. Angela Neil Barnett, where we dive into managing flight anxiety. Listen to therapy for black girls on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast. Okay, well, let's talk about him now, like, in the present because he's here. So, like, tell us this funny story about how, like, getting used to parenthood. Like, do you have any funny stories about just, you know, sleep or eating or anything like that?

Like, not knowing what to do when you take a shower and you're alone. Yeah, I mean, all of it. especially in the beginning my mom stayed with us for like two-ish weeks my dad also he had no idea what he was doing he was just like

my dad literally he held Dawson for the first time like a week later he was like I'm gonna break him and now he's obsessed exactly he was like shaking like no and I'm like I'm gonna take a shower first I'm like great yeah I'll get clean

I don't know but that was really funny I think I'll say one And I think having a boy, which, you know, the pee, the pee is just everywhere. It's just cute. Yeah, yeah. Well, that's another thing. I find everything he does so cute. Yes, I was just going to say, like, I wasn't huge.

Like, I didn't hate babies, but, like, I wasn't like, oh, like, can I hold the baby? Like, I wasn't that guy. Yeah, yeah. But, like, with my, yeah, same. Everything he does is cute. Like, everything he cries, and I'm like, this is the cute thing I've never seen. You know, it's just like, everything he does is cute. It's such a weird feeling.

And we get, like, so excited when he's, like, holding his head up. And we're like, did you see that? Yeah, I'm like, look at him go. He just, like, he just laughed. Like, he's learning how to laugh right now. And I'm like, I'm so proud that my baby is, like, using his voice. Like, it's just, like, little things like that. And I mean, funny stuff.

He's, my mom has this joke. She's just like, where's the baby on Janina's boob? Where is Janina, like, eating the baby. Like, my tits are constantly out. So if you live in Denver, you're welcome. You're welcome. You're welcome. My breath.

That is for sure. Can you believe how big they're at? Huh? Can you believe how big we get? Massive. My tities are massive. Everything is big. I got a good one.

I got a good one. Something funny the other day we were at the gym. And she was like running on a treadmill. And also she's like, and I was like, what? She's like, my milk came in. And she's just like, running. She starts like, yeah. She's like, my milk's coming in as I'm running.

It's just crazy what the body does. Wait, yeah. Explain elaborate. it a little bit what happens like all of a sudden you you can feel milk so you feel like it's called the letdown I think this is what the letdown is for me it's like I just feel I don't know imagine like the feeling you get right at like right after your foot falls asleep but it doesn't hurt it's just like a little tingling like it's just kind of something's moving I don't know I don't know how to explain it yeah it's like a flow you feel like a flow whoa just get bigger and they just

wild. Start hurting her. Where is that coming from? I, you know, I haven't really looked into it. I don't know how I'm making milk. Like I from the brain. Ducks. Somebody who knows is listening to this.

Like, you guys are idiots. Some hormone release, okay? I don't know idea how I'm making milk. I know that I have milk ducks, but that's it. I don't know how they turned on, how they turn off. Well, that's the other thing is like when you, as soon as she hears them crying, whatever, you know, they'll fill up or hear another baby crying will even do it it's like yeah yeah it's just so cool human nature you know like the nature of everything is just so and now he's like doubled in

weight and i'm like i think that like my boobies is all chunky he's got chunky legs and and he looks just like blake that's what we're here he looks just like like but with like little little like dashes of me um but i wanted him to like i wanted to like i wanted to give birth to blake that's so cute I was like, well, that's how I knew I wanted to be with you. You told me that. Yeah, I was, I actually, Brittany, Cartray asked me on her podcast last year before I got pregnant. And she was like, how do she's like, how did you know like Blake was the one or whatever? And I was like, when I realized that I wanted my babies to look like him.

And then my baby lives like that. That's really, that's so, that's really, you guys, he's going to be a stud. Like, there's no question in my mind. He's going to be very handsome. He's a little cutie. He's the best. I'm ecstatic. Just, I mean, it's fun.

It's super fun. I love doing it. Like, I knew I'd like being a dad, but like, it's just so fun. Like, every morning, he, he, he, she wakes up before me and he's like, ooh, ha, and I like, wait, roll over. I'm like, oh, yeah. He's jealous. Smiling and, like, start to talk.

Yeah, I get jealous. That's so good. I got one more last question for you guys, personally. How, what advice do you give to parents that find themselves in the similar situation that you guys did where it was unplanned but you're like all right unplanned life change biggest life change one of them here we go okay okay i got i got i got one um i think obviously like this is without you know it doesn't need be said like make it a priority um i think you know read all the books do all the classes we did the hypno birthing classes we read books um and don't don't put

Stuff more on your plate. So, I mean, for us personally, that meant not, like, running out and, you know. Go to the courthouse and getting married. No, not even that. More of them planning a wedding. It was like, let's not, like, put another thing on our, like, let's just do that on our own time. Take this one milestone. All the millions of DMs calling me a POS because I'm not married to her, you know.

Like, it was like, whatever, like, we're going to do this on our time because we felt like we want to make Heath a priority, not that they aren't. people aren't but like yeah i was just like for us personally it was like we weren't going to rush like no i'm going to run out and get a ring and then we're going to plan a wedding in the next five months like it was like well no let's like we needed to like take one step at a time yeah um for me personally i mean i think you said it really well like we got educated pretty quickly um or and it just felt i felt more in control even though the situation was out of my control i understood what was going on body more i understood like how i could you know bring a baby into this world and and do it on my own terms at least like there was a lot of education that happened but for me i went out with a couple of my

girlfriends and she no one knew yet it was like still my little secret and i chose to tell this one mom and she told me like the simplest advice but for whatever reason it just clicked like beautifully at that moment she was like i did whatever made me happy and it's so simple but when I was in it I felt so overwhelmed and I felt like I had to do all these things and I had to buy all this stuff and I had to get ready and so I was just like wait that's actually brilliant so I slowed down and I just focused on my happiness like I kept doing the he was happy and you were just it was just like this really beautiful cycle of like I knew my baby was happy because I was so happy too um and yeah like I still traveled like I didn't really

restrict what I was eating like I'm sorry I ate sushi like I cold like cold like I'm eating dally sandwiches like crazy yeah I we want to you know so on so many trips like I just kept doing what made me happy and that made it such a great experience because I didn't feel like I put myself lost like it was me and my baby and then in turn I didn't make blake's life help so it. So it's a good cycle. Very important. Yeah, very valuable.

It was like, it was hard. Like, you had to click. I had to click into it. I like the, um, one of the things Jess and I say right now often is take the next best step because we get very overwhelmed and we try to do it all and we're trying to fit so much in. And I think to hear you two say in the midst of what will be, will be the biggest moment of your life and probably could have been one of the most difficult moments of your relationship you guys

decided to take the next best step and it led you to today where you have a baby you guys can do it like i think it's very obvious where it's all good yeah yeah exactly yeah that's the other piece of everything will be okay everything will be okay everything will work out and also one more there were times where we were like tested the universe was testing us in certain different points of this pregnancy. And I always said, the universe is testing me right now because why are we going to cry? I'm talking too. Like, you cry for everything.

Yeah, I know. What? Every single time without fail. Because I'm going to have like the biggest reward. Mm. The biggest reward. It was true. Okay, I'm done.

Bye. That's a great way to wrap. I don't have anything else? No, I'm proud. I mean, not proud of it. That makes me sound like, inspired by you guys, encouraged, excited, all the good stuff. You're doing great. Cannot wait to continue to see Heath grow and your family grow and all the good things

in front of the two of you. Thanks for coming on. It means a lot. I know it's a busy time and I know that there's a lot going on. I totally feel you on the tears. Like now and the few weeks afterward, it's crazy. The few weeks afterward for me are even crazy. her. Oh, she was...

Like, way worse. Like, I would cry because everything was too good. I was like, my life can't get better, so I'm really worried that everything is going to be downhill from here. Yes. I've peaked. But then, I'm, uh, we're running to go pick up my new full bag PXGs right now.

Oh, my goodness. Yeah, man. Full bag, like, it's all fucking everything is new and stuff. How many days a week do you get to golf? Because let's go golf. none now so I mean now on we're going to go more we're going to go more now I got to get back I was like but you can go

we'll get out and golf that's amazing what a deal well hey it's been great to have Blake and G here on the almost famous podcast again congratulations to the two of you we're very appreciative for your time we know your time is very valuable always but especially right now so until next time

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