The Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous Podcast - Better Nayte than Never with Nayte Olukoya

Episode Date: May 23, 2023

Ben is sitting down one on one with Nate Olukoya for an honest conversation about his life since splitting from Michelle Young.  He reveals how things have been between him and Michelle since breaking up, and we hear how he handled the fallout after it felt like everyone had made up their minds about what happened.  You don’t want to miss this raw and unfiltered interview.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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with you yeah yeah and getting to talk to you yeah right yeah is that wrong no no we we talked uh on zoom once yeah welcome to the almost famous podcast thank you thank you thank you i always figured you're tall yeah you're taller than i expected yeah we looked each other in the eyes i think yeah how tall are you i know you're tall yeah yeah yeah i'm six eight but well i got on my tippy toes that's cool man that's fine just make me feel short today i don't like that uh Nate We have a lot to talk about today. I want to start just kind of getting the big questions out of the way. Obviously, a friend of the podcast is Michelle.

People really still, I think, and they always will, right? I mean, people still associate me with my relationship from the show. Even though that was years ago and I'm married and moved on, it's always going to be something people associate you with. So the big question that our fans want to know is, one of the last time. you two talked? Last time her and I spoke was probably like maybe a week after the breakup. That's been a minute. Is that weird?

I want to talk because like I've been in that situation before. Does it feel weird that it just ends so suddenly? No. I mean, it was, it ended for a reason and it had to end. And I think it was just like, let's let's not talk anymore. It was a pretty, like, cut and dry breakup. You know, it was just like, hey, we're not meant for each other. Good luck.

Goodbye. Does it make it weirder? Because you weren't prepped for this, that you then have to both watch and see what each other are doing and hear about each other all the time and be asked questions about each other? Yeah, I mean, the questions come up. They don't really phase me, and it's not really weird. It's not really weird, whatever I do see. Um, again, I wasn't, I wasn't, I didn't know I was going to be on a podcast today. So my brain's a little foggy. But, um, no, uh, definitely not weird. Not at all. Yeah, it's not. There's not too, too much into it. So, um, we like never cross paths ever. So she'll be here tonight. I'm kidding. I'm just kidding. I'm just kidding. I want to do that to you. Um, yeah. You got surprised at the podcast and you get a nice little reunion.

Well, okay, so if everything's good, it ended because it had to end or it should end or was the best if it didn't. Is there anything you wish you would have done differently personally through this whole process and through that relationship looking back now? Nah, no, I'll keep my comments to myself. Nothing. No, I just, I mean, there's some things I would have done differently, but I don't really think it's anybody's concerned. so yeah well then personally uh from the time on the show uh you know obviously it's a weird experience to get thrown on national television it's even weirder than to have a relationship that you're navigating afterwards as a person yeah uh have you grown uh since then or in what

ways maybe if people followed you have you changed uh since the show um i think i've changed in a few ways. I think I handle situations a lot differently. Obviously, when you go on the show, you're just regular Joe, you know, just a guy. And then a lot of people start caring about your relationship and they have their opinions. And I'm obviously super sensitive to those opinions. I'm a normal human being. So I think one of the biggest things that came from being on the show and having the type of breakup that I had and being with somebody like Michelle who's extremely loved in the eyes of the viewers is like my my skin is thick now you know like you can talk as much crap about me it's it's fine like it's it used to affect me quite a bit like that breakup uh you know being blamed

for things i should be blamed for being people speculating what it is that i did why we broke up whether i'm a cheater whether i'm an f boy you know all those things affected the heck out of me you know after the breakup the dms i was receiving um the things i was reading online about myself um it was tough it was tough and then you come out of it and uh you just come like you just you get that that thick skin you know what i mean and i think that helped me grow as a person because now i got a pretty tough skin um if in my opinion at least and i think that that's going to help me in the long run too just life you know life is always going to be hard in different ways and um you know i feel like that breakup kind of just made me a stronger person when it comes to dealing with

being in the public eye and again like we're not really it's not like we're famous you know we're just dudes that you know but we're just dudes that ended up on on a show and it's like we're regular regular dudes so it's not like we have to deal with a lot of public hate uh especially anymore i've been off the show for like two years now so it's not like i deal with that stuff too too much anymore but if anything were to happen or you know i don't know long story short it just made me a stronger person my skin is really thick um people don't really affect me that much anymore you know if I see comments that still come up every now and then or DMs or whatever

it's just it's over my shoulder I'm like you guys put me through fucking hell after that breakup like it can't get worse than that so I'm yeah it put my it made my my skin really thick I mean I'm six I'm six years out and it's but those it's easier but those still get me yeah yeah especially on a bad day yeah on a bad day the comments the things said can still hurt

the headlines can still hit deeper than I like them to and a question that was asked me the other day on an interview that I think is a great question is what's the difference between having thick skin and navigating these tough comments and a calloused heart like to being completely closed off to any you know criticism or or maybe even a different way to say that is who do you listen to now for accountability and to keep you making sure that you're the man you want to be yeah I mean definitely listen to myself I kind of you know Obviously, I have my friends around me. I talk to my friends all the time.

My mom, for sure. Talk to my mom. She helps me through a lot of stuff, especially during the breakup. She was somebody that I was leaning on quite a bit. Ronnie, for sure. I mean, I live with the guy, so he's seen me at my absolute worst. But I love that the people who I am around, whether they're strangers or not, because, you know, especially in Batchar Nation, like, you'll cross past with people for the first time.

And then, you know, they get to know me a little bit. Like they know. Like, you know, the people that know me, even if it's for a short amount of time, they're like, yeah, everything I've seen about you online is false. You know, so like that, like, just knowing that the people who do know me, whether it's for a brief moment or for a long time, like my friends and family, like, they know, they know me. They know how I am as a person. They know how I hold myself as a man. They know how, like, they know who I really am. So just never forgetting that whatever these people say about me online, like, it's just not the truth. You know what I mean? And whatever they, they say, I mean, I don't know, it doesn't really affect me anymore. It really doesn't. Like, not, like, if it affected me. It affected me deeply. Those couple weeks, month after that, that breakup, that was tough, man. But now it's just like, you know, you'll see stuff every now and then, but hey, what can you do? It's just like, that's just another person on a computer screen, like miles and miles away who will never meet me. And I'll never meet them and they'll never say it to my face if they did meet me in person. So, hey, what am I going to do? You know?

My boyfriend's professor is way too friendly, and now I'm seriously suspicious. Well, wait a minute, Sam, maybe her boyfriend's just looking for extra credit. Well, Dakota, it's back to school week on the OK Storytime podcast, so we'll find out soon. This person writes, my boyfriend has been hanging out with his young professor a lot. He doesn't think it's a problem, but I don't trust her. Now, he's insisting we get to know each other, but I just want her gone. Now, hold up. Isn't that against school policy?

That sounds totally inappropriate. Well, according to this person, this is her boyfriend's former professor, and they're the same age. And it's even more likely that they're cheating. He insists there's nothing between them. I mean, do you believe him? Well, he's certainly trying to get this person to believe him because he now wants them both to meet. So, do we find out if this person's boyfriend really cheated with his professor or not? To hear the explosive finale, listen to the OK Storytime podcast on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast.

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time and you could correct me but I don't remember you personally you running to the media or ever kind of getting your side of this story out there. Which isn't, which is pretty rare, especially in the Bachelor world, because the headlines start running and everybody's out there to protect themselves. You didn't do that. Why? I mean, even if maybe you were in the wrong. And again, you don't want to share that.

That's fine. Yeah. But you just never came out publicly and either protect yourself or defended yourself. I definitely had, like, defended myself once. I think right after the breakup when it was just like everybody had an opinion of, like, like he must have cheated, he must have done this, he must have done that, whatever it is. You know, I think I wrote like a thing on my story of just like, one, I did not cheat. Two, I just kind of like addressed a whole bunch of things that were coming my way.

So that was like the one thing I did to kind of defend myself. The way I looked at it is that I'm not going to win this fight. And you got to just, you got to just take that, right? Because at the end of the day, this is Michelle's season, right? like this stupid analogy I always make stupid analogies but at the end of the day like this is Michelle season

they didn't they didn't tune in to watch Nate Rodney Joe Brandon like they tuned in to follow Michelle's story they fell in love with Michelle I was just the guy she chose right so they have like no

quote unquote loyalty to me I'm just like stupid analogy again like if we equated to the Batman like Michelle is the Batman I'm just like what's his little sidekick I'm just robin

You don't watch the Batman to watch Robin. You watch the Batman to watch Batman, and Robin's just in there. That's how I'm Robin. You watch The Bachelor to watch Michelle, and Nate's just there. Right? So those are her fans, and I'm not going to win against her fans. You know what I mean? Like, Michelle's loved.

Yeah. Like, she has her fan base, they rock with her. I'm not going to, I'm not going to fight against them. You know, so if they want to say I am, whatever, I can defend myself. The few times I did try to defend myself, I got made fun of defending myself well as i said this the first time we won't sit down i've never uh gone out with you hung out with you um but if the headlines read that you were a player that you were an f boy if sounds very opposite of that is how you're claiming and saying that you actually date is like one at a time

get to know them end it move on so in itself uh by saying that you're kind of deflecting and saying those headlines were very false oh it's never been who you are yeah no no those everything like it's funny like you'll be like um posts about or pictures of me like paddleboarding i remember that was one of the funny ones uh that i saw and and got dm this stuff of me paddleboarding with a girl and they had no idea that that girl i was paddle boarding with is my absolute best friend's fiance who i'm going to their wedding in a couple months and she i used to live with her because i used to live with all three of them yeah or both of them at the same time and it's just like you know anything anything to make me be the bad guy right or yeah um pictures of me and a girl in a

Austin. Lo and behold, that's actually Michelle's like really good friend. It's like we're just out in Austin. Her friends were in Austin. I lived in Austin at the time and we went out because I know them because I was with Michelle at the time. But no, there's there's a lot of stories of like girls that I've hooked up with while with Michelle or cheated on Michelle with this girl and they don't know that these are like Michelle's friends, first of all, or my roommate who is my best friend's fiance who again, I'm going to their wedding in a couple months. Like they're just their friends who are women but if there's a picture of me with them i must be cheating it must be a story right so yeah yeah yeah well uh final question for you you know what is next then uh i'm assuming you're out here in l a

yeah right you live you're living in l.a now uh rodney still your roommate yep okay uh what what does life look like for you out here yeah um right now i've been getting into modeling so i got signed to an agency i've been uh i've had a couple shoots so i got a couple more next month uh so flying for those shoots in a couple weeks but yeah trying to you know trying to see what can happen in the modeling world working on a couple other side projects but I'd not really like to talk about these side projects until they're they're actually there I feel like it's bad juju but something that I've been focusing on right now is definitely modeling skin care you know I love my skin care anybody who follows me knows I love my skin care so just kind of stuff like that

just just yeah little different projects but mainly like model It's been kind of seen like some promise in the modeling world. So we'll see where it takes me. Are you a model before the show? No, no. This is all new. This is all new. How does that happen?

Somebody come up to you and say, hey, you're really good luck and you should take pictures. I've been getting told to be a model for years and years and years. I just never pursued it. And then, you know, enough people, especially after the show, enough people were like, you should really, like, give this a chance. So I gave it a chance and we'll see where it takes me. Oh, well, best of luck. Thanks for coming on. Thank you so much. Thanks for having me.

Yeah, thanks for answering the questions. Thanks for sitting down, even though you didn't know you're going to be sitting down. We're going to fix that for any interview in the future. We're going to tell them, hey, actually coming in for an interview. But Nate, I appreciate it. We hope to have you back. It's been a pleasure. Appreciate it. Thank you so much. The almost famous podcast is here to always bring you the best interviews and the greatest content, especially during the off season. When we all need it, this has been an incredible interview with Nick. Until next time, I've been Ben. Follow the Ben and Ashley I, almost famous podcasts on IHeartRadio, or subscribe wherever you listen to podcasts.

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