The Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous Podcast - Countess Luann Teaches Us All How To Flirt and Get It Done

Episode Date: December 14, 2024

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Brought to you by opportunity at work in the ad council. Hey, it's your celebrity mentor, Kelly, Ben Simone, here on Ido Part 2. The podcast is a unique social. experiment in love, dating, and relationships with people that are open to finding love the second time around. Today I'm joined by someone who is one of a kind. She's loved and just like the rest of us, my former co-starred, Real Housewives of New York, an ultimate girl's trip. She's on tour with her cabaret, my true friend, the Countess herself, Luanne de Liseps. Hello, Luanne. I love you. I love New York. How are you?

You look gorgeous, per usual. Good morning, darling. How are you? So this podcast is all about people that are just like us. People that got married and are divorced and maybe single parents. But the one thing we haven't given up on is finding love. So for those who don't know, tell the listeners, Luann, a little bit about your love journey. You've married.

Well, first husband, you know, was the count that, you know, we met and he asked me to marry him five days later. but I made him wait and we got married two weeks later and now it's two kids later so yeah I mean it was a coup de fu we say in French which is the first sight as you know Kelly because you speak a little French

and so you know it was just magic when the magic happens it happens and you know when that train pulls up to the station don't have fear right jump on the train because you can always go home right and so you know I did it I jumped for my career in Italian television I was working in

in Italy at the time. I was living in Milan. And I said, you know what? This is the love of my life. It's time to go. And so I left my career and moved to Switzerland with him and had my two kids who you know, Victoria Noel. I was married for 16 years. And then seven years later, I would meet the second husband. And, you know, I work in seven years cycles. It's interesting because it is now, so I married in 2016, then I divorced in 2017. That was a quickie. And now, where are we? We are in 2024.

Seven years later, I manifested that this is my year of love. And it's just part of, you know, the rhythm of life. I think there's a rhythm and a flow. And so that is my flow. And in 2024, I've actually, you know, met a couple of guys that I really like. So, so 2024 is my year of love. And to prove it, I even got cast on a show called The Love Hotel. And I can't tell you how that ends

because I can't give away too much on that show, but it's going to air in 2025. And I do find some magic over at the Love Hotel, which is kind of crazy. So how do you feel, we're both single? How are you feeling about being single right now? I mean, do you like dating? And I say this, I ran into Scott yesterday on the street.

No. I didn't really recognize. I was like, I know him, but I don't. I'm not sure. But he's like, hi. And I gave an air kiss and said hello and then kept walking, but how funny, right? Anyway, so back to what we're talking about.

What was the question? You're like, anyway, just ran into your ex. No, we're both single. We are both single now. And I just was wondering, like, how you're feeling about being single? I mean, you said about the flow in the seven years. But like, are you liking being single or do you really, are you ready to get married again?

Like, how are you feeling? You know, at this point, I'm living my best life in my 50s. I have to say. It's the best decade. I mean, I love my 20s and my 30s. 40s are, eh. And 50s has really been the best decade for me. I'm just living my best life.

I love my career in Cabaret. I, you know, I love, you know, still working for the network, for Bravo. And, you know, I love dating. I mean, I'm having a great time. But I actually, you know, did meet somebody. And so, you know, we'll see what happens. But for the moment, I'm kind of taken. got to say. So I was going to ask you how many guys you are dating, but now you're saying you're

kind of taken. That's amazing. Yeah, I mean, I'm struggling between a couple, actually. So, but I feel like I finally found what I'm looking for. So did you, when you were dating, did you have like more luck with like dating apps or is it just organic? I mean, you're, you are a very sensual woman and so I'm sure it's like very easy for you to pick up guys as I've seen in real life. But, you know, I was on the dating apps during COVID, I have to say, and that's where I found Garth. Remember Garth on the last season? Yeah.

Right? So I was on the apps and then I got off because I just, you know, I like to meet people in person. I prefer, you know, to have that personal experience. And so, yeah, so I'm, you know, I find guys, you know, everywhere. You can find a guy walking down the streets, you know? And people always ask me about my dating tips, et cetera. But I feel like timing is everything. And, you know, I was talking to this, to makeup artist yesterday, and she was saying, you know, that she's always falling into the wrong guys, right?

That she caught cheating on her, et cetera. I said, you know what, why don't you just be alone and love on yourself? Because I feel like a lot of women are loving on themselves. They're a certain, they're in a kind of a desperate search to find a guy to complete them, you know. And I think the real magic is to be complete yourself. Be complete in loving yourself. being happy with yourself and that kind of energy is what draws around that positive energy because you think more with your heart than you do with like oh you need to find a guy he needs to be

this needs to be that needs to be the other thing so you know you know I said this all the time you know you know put down put down the um keep down the you know the energy which is like you're looking for the right man and she said to me you know this makeup artist I you know I'm looking for a guy and you know this guy cheated on me he's like I said you know what why don't you just take care of yourself why don't you just enjoy and pamper yourself and love yourself and before you know it you're going to turn around and the guy's going to be standing there because you have to put yourself in the right place you know timing is one thing but you have to be in the right place for that timing and you can only be there if you're living in in love of yourself first that's how I feel

about it. Speaking of timing let's talk you guys you guys Grant. So let's set this up for you. You're in the Hamptons. And you find out that Hugh Grant is at Pierre, which is in Bridge Hampton, a restaurant in Bridge Hampton, which is such a beautiful restaurant. And you call Pierre up and you say, Pierre, is there a table next to Hugh Grant? Because I'm going to be sitting there. And you show up and you sit next to him. I sit behind him. And then I push out my chair. I push out my chair and bump his chair. I bump his chair and I go, and I turn around and I go, oh, I'm so sorry. Oh, let me buy you a drink. And that's how the conversation starts. And he knows who I am because he's a friend of Andy's, right? I don't know if he knows who I am or not. I don't really care.

He's a man and I'm a woman. And I'm going to let him know that I'm interested. And so that's how I started it off. Wait, you bought him a drink? Well, first of all, I asked him if he wanted a drink. And he said, I'll take a shot of tequila. And I said, and he goes, but I'm going to join you at your table. so he came to sit with me

and my brother was there my sister-in-law, Paul and Michael sitting there right and before you know it he's like sitting at our table doing shots talking a little bit and then we start kissing and my brother's like

I can't believe you're making out with Hugh Grant I said me neither wait hold on so now we have to come back I mean I love first of I love this whole Hugh Grant story that all of that but I have to ask you one question about offering a guy a drink so what do you think about

I've never offered a guy a drink but do you think maybe Why not? Maybe I should be like, I could be like a drink. Why not? Why can a man offer a woman a drink? And a woman can't offer a man a drink. Right.

My boyfriend's professor is way too friendly. And now I'm seriously suspicious. Well, wait a minute, Sam. Maybe her boyfriend's just looking for extra credit. Well, Dakota, it's back to school week on the OK Storytime podcast. So we'll find out soon. This person writes, my boyfriend has been hanging out with his young professor a lot. He doesn't think it's a problem, but I don't trust her.

Now, he's insisting we get to know each other, but I just want her gone. Now, hold up. Isn't that against school policy? That sounds totally inappropriate. Well, according to this person, this is her boyfriend's former professor, and they're the same age. And it's even more likely that they're cheating. He insists there's nothing between them. I mean, do you believe him?

Well, he's certainly trying to get this person to believe him because he now wants them both to meet. So, do we find out if this person's boyfriend really cheated with his professor or not? To hear the explosive finale, listen to the OK. Storytime podcast on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast. My name is Ed. Everyone say, hello, Ed. Hello, Ed. I'm from a very rural background myself.

My dad is a farmer, and my mom is a cousin. So, like, it's not, like... What do you get when a true crime producer walks into a comedy club? I know it sounds like the start of a bad joke, but that really was my reality nine years ago. I just normally do straight stand-up, but this is a bit different. On stage stood a comedian with a story that... No one expected to hear.

On 22nd of July 2015, a 23-year-old man had killed his family. And then he came to my house. So what do you get when a true crime producer walks into a comedy club? A new podcast called Wisecrack, where stand-up comedy and murder takes center stage. Available now. Listen to Wisecrack on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. What would you do if one bad decision forced you to choose between a maximum security prison or the most brutal boot camp designed to be hell on earth?

Unfortunately for Mark Lombardo, this was the choice he faced. He said, you are a number, a New York state number, and we own you. Shock incarceration, also known as boot camps, are short-term, highly regimented correctional programs that mimic military basic training. These programs aim to provide a shock of prison life, emphasizing strict discipline, physical training, hard labor, and rehabilitation programs.

Mark had one chance to complete this program and had no idea of the hell awaiting him the next six months. The first night was so overwhelming, and you don't know who's next to you. And we didn't know what to expect in the morning. nobody tells you anything listen to shock incarceration on the i heart radio app apple podcasts or wherever you get your podcasts okay so let's back to hugh grant so you guys are having shots then you're kissing in front of your brother i brought it up to him the other day because it's the news has been

spread around recently and you know and i love hugh grant's reply didn't you love his reply he's so elegant? Well, he said, you know, he said, apparently my memory is not as good as the countess is. Which I love. He didn't deny it. I thought that was so chic. No, he did not deny it because it's true. So. I love it. So on a scale to 1 to 10, how good of a kiss her is. Oh, my God. I'm sure you know how long ago this is. It was like, come on, let's forever. Yeah, 15 years ago. So, I mean, he was really hot. Yeah, he's a good kisser. Went to 10, he was at 10. I love that.

I love that. Hugh gets a 10. You know, it's so funny because remember when Arod was texting me, like, literally sent me thousands and thousands of texts? You know, I love how Hugh Grant is like, maybe I did, maybe, you know, her memory is better than mine, which is such an elegant response, like A. Like, literally twice, he met me in an art basil was literally like pulling me around Art Basel.

And then later, he, like, knew I was single. through a mutual friend of ours and starts texting me. I mean, thousands and thousands of texts, like things like, do you like me? I'm like, I don't even know you. Well, maybe you should have shared the text, darling, so you could have, I don't like that. I mean, if something happens, a guy should take responsibility for that. You know what I'm saying? He should have said, you know, yeah, it's true.

And Kelly's gorgeous and who wouldn't want to take Kelly? You know, instead he denied it, which is, it says a lot about his character and who he is. Well, I think he just is like, he's like a mad texter and all he wants to do. do is just text women like and so he's like instead of being like you know I mean he's he has a great business he's a he's a smart guy but I think like he gets like sidetracked and it's like that's just a gen for me I've noticed that like guys who are mad textures not just like hey how's your day thinking of you um I feel like when they're texting a lot of people it's just like they're just super insecure and like you don't need that serotonin uptake because all day you know

you can get it from other things well I know but guys do. They, you know, they're just, you know, especially a guy like A-Rod. He's like a peacock, right? So he needs to show his feathers, you know, and it gives them excitement and makes their heartbeat. I mean, I'm not mad at that. I'm mad at the fact that he didn't admit it, you know. Me too, but he's also not a deal closer. He just likes to, like, have a lot of friends out about, right? It's what they call a player. And guess what? Isn't he, he's a baseball player, right? I don't know I can't keep my athletes straight darling can't keep my athletes straight you can keep your actors straight but not your athletes

actors straight but the athletes I have no idea I mean you took me to my first Knicks game god's sake and Rangers and Rangers finally wait which one did you like better did you like the Knicks of the Rangers game you know they're so different but it was I mean something else being on the floor of the next game where the basketball's you know it was almost in our face and the sneakers were skimming towards us. I was like, we're going to get hurt here.

And you're like, oh, my God, I love his legs. Oh, yeah. I was checking out all the guys' legs and their bodies and what, you know, and the moves of the next day. I mean, they just have a flow, which is unbeatable, those guys. I mean, they work so well together as a team. It was so great to watch that because, you know, I love sports. I'm a jock.

I love sports. You know, I grew up playing sports. So, you know, I love the boys that like to play sports. Can you play basketball, too? What? I was on the basketball team at high school. So I have athletic tendencies. I mean, I like to ride horses and stuff like that,

but I wouldn't say that I'm necessarily a jog, so I think it's very funny that, like, I mean, I love going with you because you definitely, you are a real jock. I am not. Yeah, no, totally. So, you know, I grew up with four older brothers. So they told me how to do everything, you know.

I got hit in the face of baseballs. You know, we had our own volleyball games. We were seven kids. You know, we had our own team of everything. We played flag football. We played, you know, I don't ride snowmobiles and motorcycles. I mean, they told me how to do everything.

I love that. Do you think that going to the Knicks or to the Rangers where there's a lot of men? Do you think that's a good place to find guys? Darling, I can't think of a better place to find men than a Knicks game or the Rangers. Everybody loves seeing you. They were like literally going crazy seeing you there.

You're going crazy for you. We're going crazy for us. We're a good wingman. we are but i think it's also when they see us together i think people think that like you know most people are on a show and they don't see when they don't see people together so when they don't see people together they get really excited okay so you're bold flirting move let's get started tell me tell me what to do teach me guide me well besides backing your chair up to a guy in a restaurant i mean you could always let your napkin on fire you know i think when you make eyes at someone you know and you

and you lock eyes with someone. I think that that's important. I think, for example, okay, you're out with your girlfriends for drinks, all right? And there's a guy at the bar that's eyeing you, right? So you kind of connected that way. But, you know, the guy is not going to walk up to a gaggle of girls, right? He's maybe a little insecure about that.

And a woman is not going to walk up to the bar, right? So what do we do? We use our waiters to write a note. So the way, so you write a note. write a note, because nobody writes notes anymore, right? Write a note to the waiter saying, please join us for a drink. And you invite him.

So women have to invite men. It's really up to women to make the first move. So when you ask me about the shot, sure, why not buy a man a shot? And, you know, in this instance, you know, the guy is going to be like, oh, now I have an invitation to the table, right? So it's not going to come over. He's going to come over and say hello. If you know, because you can tell by the way somebody looks to you,

feel like you or not, right? So what do you say in the note? So write a love note. I'm saying, what do you say? Like, I love you. Come over? Like, what do you say? No, you say, please join us for a drink.

Very simple. All right. And then the waiter will say over there. I'm just going to have those printed out. And instead of my business cards, I'm just going to give those. Please join me for a drink with, oh, and put, you know, not, yeah, maybe it's too much, but thinking a little lipstick on there. But that you should do, you know, when you.

already have a guy, you want to keep a man, leave a love note on the mirror in red lipstick. I love you. Or whatever it is, you know, leave a note. So when he looks at the morning, he goes to brush his teeth and he sees his lipstick on his mirror. I mean, how great is that? I did that once to a guy who was dating who was actually a Mexican footballer. I don't know if you remember him, Rom. He was so hot for Mexico.

Oh, yeah. And I left him a love note because I had to go back to New York. And he took a picture of it. He took a video that he loved it. I love it. It's very sweet. What are some of the things that are too bold? We talked about things like love notes you like and, you know, making them feel special.

But what are the things you think are too bold? Too bold. Oh, gosh. Well, you know, going up to a guy and just, you know, saying the wrong thing and, you know, let's see. That's something I would do. You know, doing something that can be not very, what's the wrong? Look, we're not hopeful, but not pleasant. You know what I mean?

Those are the wrong moves. You know, it's like, it's like texting, you know, like drinking and texting. Don't ever do it. Right. Drinking and texting. It's a no, no. I know a lot of women who will, like, insult a guy to get him to say hello to, say hello to them. Well, I think that's not a good way to go.

One of our mutual friends, I wanted to ask you this, our mutual friends, she does that. She insults the guys to get them to, like, you know, be on. on their back foot, which I think is actually funny. Have you ever dated anyone that's Bethany's date? Because I've been on a lot of dates with guys in New York because obviously I'm single. And if one more guy says, oh, my God, I know your friend. I'm like, who? And they're like, Bethany.

I'm like, we are not. Well, you know, it's funny because I don't think Bethany and I have the same taste of men for sure, no. So it hasn't happened to me once. I think I need to get on Europe. I'm like your, like, your vibe and not for some reason they're all her vibe. And I'm like, oh, yeah. I mean, well, you know, downtown.

Well, I'm more similar. I don't know why on earth that they would like someone like me and like her. Like, we're totally different. Well, totally. I'm a supermodal. Can we go back here and there? I had to do it. I love you so much.

You're here on the dating pool and she's over here on the dating pool. Right? And we're up here. I'm talking about dating now. boyfriend's professor is way too friendly, and now I'm seriously suspicious. Oh, wait a minute, Sam. Maybe her boyfriend's just looking for extra credit. Well, Dakota, it's back to school week on the OK Storytime podcast, so we'll find out soon. This person writes, my boyfriend has been hanging out with his young professor a lot.

He doesn't think it's a problem, but I don't trust her. Now, he's insisting we get to know each other, but I just want her gone. Now, hold up. Isn't that against school policy? That sounds totally inappropriate. Well, according to this person, this is her boyfriend's former professor, and they're the same age. And it's even more likely that they're cheating. He insists there's nothing between them. I mean, do you believe him? Well, he's certainly trying to get this person to believe him

because he now wants them both to meet. So, do we find out if this person's boyfriend really cheated with his professor or not? To hear the explosive finale, listen to the OK Storytime podcast on the Iheart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast. What would you do if one bad decision forced you to choose between a maximum security prison or the most brutal boot camp designed to be hell on earth? Unfortunately for Mark Lombardo, this was the choice he faced. He said, you are a number, a New York State number, and we own you.

Shock incarceration, also known as boot camps, are short-term, highly regimented correctional programs that mimic military basic training. These programs aim to provide a shock of prison life, emphasizing strict discipline, physical training, hard labor, and rehabilitation programs. Mark had one chance to complete this program and had no idea of the hell awaiting him the next six months. The first night was so overwhelming and you don't know who's next to you.

And we didn't know what to expect in the morning. Nobody tells you anything. Listen to shock incarceration on the IHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast. My name is Ed. Everyone say hello, Ed. I'm from a very rural background myself. My dad is a farmer and her mom is a cousin. What do you get when a true crime producer walks into a comedy club?

I know it sounds like the start of a bad joke, but that really was my reality nine years ago. I just normally do straight stand-up, but this is a bit different. On stage stood a comedian with a story that no one expected to hear. The 22nd of July 2015, a 23-year-old man had killed his family. And then he came to my house. So what do you get when a true crime producer walks into a comedy club? A new podcast called Wisecrack, where stand-up comedy and murder takes center stage.

Available now. Listen to Wisecrack on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. All right. Now, let's talk all things cabaret. First of all, your cabaret is just so fire. You're doing so great and it's so much fun and you look drop-dead gorgeous and you are an unbelievable entertainer. Hands down, incredibly entertaining. You do a really good job. I know you're working so hard and I'm just, I'm really, really proud of you. So Mary-Up Kill, which I love. So what can they, what are they going to? Well, Mary of Kill is, is, you know, that came from. from my fans. So I'm always inspired by my fans because every cabaret show I was doing and I talk about this in the show

is they asked me because I do a Q&A with the audience like Mary F. Kill Countess, but every show. And it's so funny because we never played Mary F. Kill on the housewives, which is crazy to me because it's a game that girls play all the time. And I don't remember ever playing Mary F.Kill on the show. So it's really inspired by my fans, you know,

that show and that's where the song came from and the tour came from. And it's actually F. Mary Kill, right? But it didn't sound good to me. so I changed it to marry F. Kill. Yeah. And, you know, so that story has been so much fun. You know, I include that song on my upcoming tour for the holidays

because really I'm doing holiday shows right now. It's Christmas with the Countess now. And so I'm playing dates in Chicago. I'll be in Chicago, Cleveland, Cincinnati, and Royal Oak, Michigan. So I have Christmas tour, you know, finish out my Christmas tour now. And, you know, it's so much fun because I take Christmas music, I turn it on its head, you know.

I wrote a new song called Sonia got run over by a reindeer. I don't know if you heard about it. And then I go, Bethany got run over by a reindeer. Good. And, you know, it's just tongue and cheek. What's your website?

Countslauant.com for tickets for the upcoming Chicago, Cleveland, and Cincinnati shows. In Michigan. Michigan. So check it out. And then I'm going to Europe for my new

tour that's going to be February and I'm playing England and Dublin and Scotland so I love I love creating the show you know for me it's all about the creativity people think they know my cabaret show from TV they do not because they never show the music because of music rights and so it's always the drama around my cabaret show

you never get to see my show right so so it's you know it's cabaret people don't know what cabaret. The cabaret is really personal stories of your life, right? So I start with, you know, a song I love, then I back into it with a story that, why do I want to sing the song? What's the story there?

And then I picked the perfect Giovanni dress, as you know. So my show is pop culture, right? Meets Cabaret, meets comedy, meets a fashion. You're so fun. Let's do our own Mary Affkill, Housewives Edition. Okay, so Maricio, Kyle's act. P.K. Duritz, ex, Michael Darby, Ashley's ex, on Potomac. I mean, can you imagine?

She was on the show with you? They're all exes at this point. I mean, it's the housewives curse. Anyway, you know, that's why they're doing a dating show right now because they built a stable of single housewives, didn't they? Anyway, so, I'd say that. Anyway, so Mary F. killed. Well, I'm going to marry P.K.

I'm going to, F. Mauritio, and I'm going to kill Ashley Darby's ex. I love that. Speaking of divorce, we've both been there. So have our listeners, what's the one piece of advice that got you through your last divorce? Run. Run. Run. you know, especially if you know this person is not good for you.

I mean, you know, I think that when you're not happy and someone is not making you happy, you need to change it up. And, you know, divorce is not easy. And, you know, it's like moving divorce and taxes. You know, those are the three stressors in life that could kill you. You know, bad marriages, you know, and a divorce. You know, and there's nothing wrong with that. You know, it's not a failure.

It is closing one door and opening another, you know. If something doesn't work for you, you have to move on. And, you know, and you just have to know that it's not your fault, right? It's just how it is. And it's not easy, like I said, but, you know, you have to keep staying in the driver's seat and try to know that this is one door that's closing and another door is open. This is just the stepping ladder of life. Yeah, I was just trying to think, like, the best advice that I got through when I was getting divorced is actually my neighbor.

He pulled up because he was taking his, our children with the same age, and he pulled up in the Hamptons right in front of my house. He goes, I'm going to help you unravel this situation. You're going to get a mediator and you're going to just handle it and you're going to tie a bow on it. That's why I learned tie a bow. He said, you're going to tie a bow on it and you're just going to move forward. and then you're going to do a nice piece in the press that just says nice things about both of you and you're just going to move on gently. And it was the most elegant way. And most people have asked me so many times like, oh my God, how was it? Listen, it was not easy. I mean, two young kids, I have a lot of fear

of how I was going to provide for them. But I also knew that the way that my children were being raised in that environment was not good. Well, I told to get it, you know, because so after I divorced the count, I, you know, it almost destroyed me, right? So I went to, I was going to go to St. Barts and party with girlfriends of mine. And I had a girlfriend call me. And she said, no, you're not. You're going to go and take care of yourself. So you have to pamper yourself, take care of yourself, be kind to yourself, be good to yourself. So I went to Deepak Chopra, and that's how I discovered meditation and yoga. So, and that changed my life, you know, and I realized, oh my God, there was a a being in here, a human being.

We're just beings, right? And you have to take care of that inner being and that, you know, your soul. And you can't let it wreck you because, like I said, it's not about you. It's about things not working out. And sometimes they don't. And you've got to take it one day at a time

and just take care of yourself. I love that. Let's go back to dating. How did you meet this new man friend that you have eyes for? Well, listen, I, you know, I met somebody I really liked at the Love Hotel. I've been dating somebody in the Hemptons. We met at a hotel at the Burma.

By the way, I'm so sad and get to go in the Love Hotel. I was so excited to meet you there and see all these guys and, like, check out, like, who is interested in my lip? I'm, like, very protective of my loo. It's like every woman's wet dream come true, darling, to be presented with a ton of guys. I mean, hello, get paid and go on vacation for three weeks.

It was paradise. I loved it. Where do you think are good places to find guys? Not the Regency place. Well, I mean, listen, the Regency Bar ain't bad. I think bars are a great place. I mean, I think you could go to the bank, you know, drop something on the floor if you like a guy. He's going to come and pick it up, won't he? And then you can lock eyes and say hello.

So, you know, you have to. Like Bill Bouquet or Pierre's or. or I think everywhere, restaurants, you know, bars, I'm trying to think, or at the Love Hotel. You've got to go to the Love Hotel, darn. I'm going to put your name in for next. I'm very excited about my new love life. I am not going to lie, I am. Yeah, what's going on with you, by the way? So I was dating two guys. One of them, I had to put on pause, and the other one is amazing. I'm just kind of waiting to see, you know, like how more of that is going.

But I'm just like excited about, it's interesting what you said before at the top about, and I think J-Lo did a disservice. She said to everyone, I have a bad picker. And so people started using that as like a way of talking about the way that they meet men. And I don't think that women have bad pickers. I think that women aren't, like you said, I think they put there in that kind of of tone in their day or their life where they're putting it out there that they're single and they want to meet someone and then they're happy on their own that they don't need a man

you know this is all about it it's like putting out there that you're happy you don't need a man and you know what then that then they can come to you because you know otherwise if you're looking to you know what is if you're looking so hard you're never going to find it it's the that's it magic i remember after i got um you know i i called off the what i and someone from page six called me and they said, are you single? Are you dating? What are you doing? And I said, I was like, I don't like that word single. Single means

like to kind of desperate and I'm definitely not desperate. You know, I have a lot of great friends. I'm beautiful family. I love my children. I love what I do. So I'm very happy in my life. I just want to share that with someone special. So I'm not like desperately looking for someone. Well, that's on them.

That's what they're thinking. It's not what you're thinking. Who cares what people think? This is the first thing is like, who cares what people think? Single is not desperate. Single is single and ready to mingle like Kim Cottrell on sex in the city. That's single. So wait.

That's power seat. That's I'm in charge and I will pick you if you're lucky. That's how I feel. You're a marrying kind of woman and so am I. I definitely want to get married again and I've been very, you know, specific about who I think could be a good person for me. and when they're not, I do not go through with that. But what do you think of getting married again? Do you want to get married again?

You know, listen, I'm spontaneous. I don't, you know, I'm trying not to predict my future. You know, I'm the kind of girl that rolls day by day. You know, I, you know, I get, I marry quickly. I dive in quickly. That's how I live my life. You know, I'm passionate. I don't try to predict the future, like predict the housewives, you know,

every year. Are you coming back to the houses? I don't know. I don't know until I get to that bridge if I'm going to cross it or not. So I feel the same way about dating and men. I don't try to particular, am I going to get married again? Sure, I would love to get married again because I'm a hopeless romantic. You know that about me. And I know you are too and you're looking to get married again. But I wouldn't say I'm looking to get married again. I'm looking for a partner in my life. Yeah, somebody I can count on who has my back, who loves me, who is protecting me. And, you know, that's what I'm looking for.

Married again. Yeah, you know, we're hopeless romantic. So. Good and white. You were a beautiful bride. I was at that wedding. You're gorgeous. Oh, my God.

Oh, that was a fabulous wedding. Too bad. The guy wasn't white, but, you know, wedding was amazing. What a fabulous party weekend it was. What about for our kids? Because we both have daughters. So what kind of advice do you impart to Victoria? And what kind of advice should I, you know, tell my girls?

about dating and being. Well, listen, you know, it's so funny because Victoria met a guy in the Hamptons last summer. And it was primarily a lot of older people, very wealthy people in some mansion in East Hampton. And she went with a gay friend of mine, right? A gay queen, I love my queens. So she went with the queen.

And it's like queens and older people, right? And then a boy plops down across from her at the table, right? And she goes, She leans over and she goes, are you straight? And he goes, yeah. They've been together ever since. So you just never know, you know. And, you know, for me, I want my daughter to be happy.

I want her to be to have, I want to see a man loving on her. I mean, I just want to see her happy and, and, you know, and get married one day and have her own children, you know, so, you know, that's the kind of wisdom I impart to her, which is, like, she was dating a guy for like 12 years, my daughter, since she's a teenager. And I knew he wasn't right. And I said, you know, don't worry, you'll grow out of him. And she would be like, and because we can see, right, what they don't see as parents. Right.

Right. And so I could tell that. Now, this guy, I think he might be right for her. I mean, I have to get to know him better. I haven't spent a lot, a lot of time. He's actually going to be spending the holidays with us. So I'm going to get to know him a lot better. Yeah.

But I do, I love him very much. I think he's a great guy. He's a European boy. He speaks French. He grew up in Paris. So I love my daughter with the European. Yes. I love that.

Okay. So Luann, last question for you. What advice do you have for single parents when they get back out there and they're starting to date? Well, listen, you know, I never, as a single parent, when I was dating and single, you know, I didn't bring a guy around. until I was absolutely sure that this is somebody that I want in my life. So, you know, it's sleepovers with men and, you know, all that kind of stuff I don't think is a good thing for kids. Because, you know, I think it just shows them that you're unsure, right?

Because if you're popping around to different guys, you're unsure of your own, you know, dating life and unsure of, you know, who it is that you want in your life. I think that it's so important for as a parent and you're dating to not bring you anywhere. I think so important as a parent to not bring anyone around your kids until you really are positive that they're going to be a part of your life. I totally agree. I totally agree. And on that note, we love you, Lou, so, so, so much. I want to spend the holiday. I love you.

I love you. I love you. I love you. I'm proud of you, too. And more fun. We have more fun to come. We have more fun. Yeah, let's go to another next game.

I'll take you on, are you here December 23rd? Oh, I am. Let's go. Yeah, I fly in the 23rd. Let's go. All right, perfect. I'll talk.

Yeah, let's do that. I love you. Thank you. Bye, happy holidays. Oh, yeah, happy holidays, darling. It's a very good count as Christmas. I love you. Love you, darling.

Bye, beauty. Luann is so great. Be sure to see her on tour. and I love all the great flirting tips she gave us. I'm going to go out and try some of those, especially the love note. We love hearing from you listeners on the podcast, so be sure to reach out to us. Call us or email us, follow us on socials. All the information will be in the show notes.

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