The Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous Podcast - Guys Give Their Hot Takes On: Men’s Sex Drive, Long-Distance Dating, And Money!

Episode Date: August 29, 2026

Brian Austin Green, Bachelor Nation’s Bob Guiney, and resident real-life single guy Mr. Right are giving you the male point of view you NEED!  Do men’s sex drive decrease as they age? Should you consider dating overseas if you can’t meet anyone? If the guy you’re dating is bad with money…what should you do?  Take notes - these guys are answering your questions! Email us at: [e-mail] or call us at 844-4-I Do Pod (844-443-6763)Follow I Do, Part 2 on Instagram and TikTokSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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and it's us. It's the guys. We're taking over this whole thing. I'm here with Bachelor Nations Bob Guinea and our resident real-life single guy, Mr. Wright. So let's dive back into some of these emails, shall we? Uh, Michelle, my husband passed away five years ago. I'm and I never thought I could open my heart to love again. But recently, I've been considering it. I tried to ask some friends in my office to set me up with single men that they knew, but no one has anyone in my age range in my early 60s. I hear horrible things about dating online.

Do you think I'd have a better chance at meeting someone in another country? Do long-distance relationships actually work out? No. No, Michelle. He's going to meet somebody in another country online who's going to tell her that, you know, he needs money to invest in something and fleece her. That's what's going to happen. Right.

Yeah. Like I so, okay, my advice, if your husband passed away five years ago, which I'm sorry to hear that. My condolence is absolutely that's, I can't imagine how tough that is. And you finally decided to start dating. Be patient. Be like, you know, right now you're asking friends if they have anybody and there's nobody that is in your age range, fine. That is, to me, that is a sign from the universe,

from whatever you believe in of like, okay, stop running towards something that isn't ready for you right now. Just keep doing what you're doing. Like you've been, you know, you went through this incredibly hard situation five years ago. Like maybe, maybe there's a lot that she still needs to work on before she gets into a new relationship, losing someone that is your partner in life, I can't imagine how difficult that is.

And I can't imagine how much there is that just constantly comes up that you need to unpack on a regular basis. And maybe she hasn't unpacked enough of it to truly move on. And so the universe is going, okay, we're going to just put this on the back burner. Like you're doing fine, just keep doing what you're doing.

Or she is completely ready for something. again, be patient. Like why if you're, you're obviously looking for something real. So be patient and trust that something real will come around. If you continue to just love yourself, be kind of the people that are around you, keep your head down and do what you're doing.

I think that'll find you. I don't think you need to continue searching and be and start looking internationally. because locally there aren't options, you know. Yeah, I think for, you know, for a certain age category, I think online dating just doesn't apply any longer. My recommendation or my advice, if anybody wanted it, would be to lean into the things that you're passionate about,

your hobbies, you know, philanthropic, community, whatever those things are, lean into those things and find community first. Find a community of people, you know, if you love animals, let's, you know, go volunteer, work with, you know, the Humane Society or something similar. If you're into golf or Mahjong or whatever it is, lean into community and find those people that support your passions. Yeah, that are like mind.

Sure. Going and finding somebody that's, oh, he's six feet. Oh, I like people that are six feet. Well, that's not going to, that's not going to be where you're going to find your next year. He only speaks Italian, but it'll be fine. Exactly. I can learn Italian. That's 60.

I love Olive Garden. Yeah. Sure. Yeah. Right. Sorry. Sorry. Is he in the breadsticks?

I love the all you can eat breadsticks. We really have some things going for us. I think certainly in a later chapter two, I think finding, finding your community, finding your people, and then seeing who gravitates towards things that you care about and you're passionate about, that's where you're not going to find them at the water cooler. You're not going to find them online. Unless your passion is the water cooler. If you're, you know, if you're into hydration. Great advice. I totally agree.

Can I go off script here real quick? Do you mind? Oh, yeah. Sure. Yeah, freewheel a little bit. Let's go. I was thinking about somebody we were talking about earlier about the age gap dating. You know, the older guys, younger girls, older girls, younger girls. So really when that I think hits, like the rubber hits the road there is when you start hanging out not just with each other. So, you know, you're going on dates or you're going on trips or doing, you know, these fun things.

That's like the age matters less. But eventually, if it starts to progress, you're going to start hanging out with, you know, his or her friends or his or. her family. And when you, as the older guy or older girl, start looking more like the parents than the friends, that's where I think it starts to really, you know, figure out whether it's really not. I haven't drank out of a beer bong in like 30 years, but okay, I can chug, I guess. Yeah, exactly. When you, you know, when you're using your AARP card to get into the, to the college bar, you know, then all of a sudden. When you're Will Ferrell running down the street naked talking about, we're all streaking and you're just by yourself. But, but it's, but it's a real thing because

like, you know, they're, they're, I've been in situations where I'm like, I feel way, I feel okay with this person. I feel like this person is more mature. I'm not the dude that should be in this club right now. Yeah, or not even at the club. I mean, that's the extreme situation. I'm just talking about a dinner party. I'm talking about like, you know, at a, you know, at a birthday party or a social event. Yeah. Or all of a sudden, like, I'm now looking at people, look at me and judging me. And even though the person that you might be, they might be wise and mature beyond their years. But what you're getting at face value, it sometimes it can erode very quickly that relationship. That's a lot less fun.

That's interesting too, because they could be really mature seeming, yet then you look at the people that they're surrounded by and you go, maybe not as mature as I thought. Like they're still hanging out with this group and doing these things. Like I think maturity is a big sign of the place that you are in your life. are the people that are around you. You know, I think that, like, I surround yourself with the people that are like-minded. And so I think that's, I think it's easy for someone to talk the talk. I want to see how they walk the walk.

I want to see if the walk lines up with what you've been saying. I, I have, you know, we have a dinner party and you look around the table and you go, man, this is a great group of people. Or like, God, I'm okay. Like, I stopped drinking Long Island iced teas like 30 years. Like, I'm, you know, I'll let those. But the family and the parents eventually if you're dating long enough, they're going to, and if they're hiding you from them or you're not wanting to go and hang out

with them. Or you become really good friends with their parents. That's when you know. Because you're closer at age. That's when you know like, okay, yeah. So your parents and I, we're going to go out Thursday night. Yeah. We'll see you after.

You guys, you have fun at the club. Exactly. Make sure you lock the door when you get back in. How fucking embarrassing would that be? Yeah. Let the dog out. Don't wake me up. Walk the dog before you go to sleep.

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I chose option B. I'm Julie Pinero, and I travel by myself because it's a rare space where I can say yes without asking anyone else first. I'm on a mission to reclaim the word Solita. trading the pity for possibility. Every time I tried to be alone, I kept meeting people, and they were like, you smiled at us. Not a lot of people smile around here. It's when you're alone that you're most receptive to the world as it is

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actually for you, Mr. Wright, because you seem like you are in this right now. I've been dating a guy for almost a year. He's a single dad of three teenagers. He's never introduced me to his kids, and I'm practically at his place every night except for the nights when his kids stay over. He gets weird whenever I bring it up. Isn't a year long enough? Do I give him an ultimatum? At some point, if you are, so from the woman's perspective, if he is after that long, he's willing to commit a year to me. And I'm willing to commit a year to him,

but he won't introduce me to those, you know, the kids. There's something going on there. Now, there could be stuff behind the scenes. You could have a very controlling ex-wife that is saying, you know, I don't want them to meet anybody. But the kids are teenagers. I mean, they're mature enough. I mean, I can understand if they're very young.

you know, there's, you know, there's, you know, there's certain developmental and maturity things that that may be come into play. But there is, in my opinion, there is no excuse. If the kids are teenagers, it's been a year, there is no reason, because they should also want to know why their dad is happy or where, what, is he just not talking about this, this woman that he's dating? Makes no sense to me. So I think that, um, the kids deserve to see who their father has been spending all this time with. To me, the key phrase being, do I give him an ultimatum? Like, that's a tough one. Ultimatums are tough.

No, I don't think you give it, not an ultimatum, but I think you say, if I'm important enough for you to spend this time with, I'm, you know, like we have this thing. Why wouldn't you introduce me to the most important people in your life? Right. Am I not on that level? So let's have a real conversation about it then, I would suggest. You guys sit down and have a real conversation about it. And, you know, ultimatum then being something at the end of it saying, listen, I've been in this for a year. year now. I really want to continue doing this. I want to meet your kids. It's starting to feel really

uncomfortable to me. If you're not in a place where this feels serious enough and real enough to you to do that, then we need to maybe split this now before I get any deeper in this and just get hurt more and more. That's a very real conversation. They should be, I think they should be having all of those conversation. Like you said, is it a sticky situation for him with his ex? Like, is there a lot there that he's really worried about? Is he losing, is he worried about, you know, like not seeing his kids as often as he wants to because she is controlling that. Like, what are the things to it? Is it just his own concern? Because it's like, dude, if it's just you, you know, loosen, loosen the reins a little bit. Like, let's, let's go. We've been doing it. I think she needs to protect herself too. I think that

She should also, I mean, an ultimatum sounds like such a weird word. I mean, it's like a very like definitive word. But an ultimatum can be like, hey, this ultimatum for me is like, my worth is this. I'm valuable enough to be part of this guy's every part of his life. There shouldn't be these parts that I don't understand or know. I deserve after a year to know every part of this guy's life. And there's something that he's keeping from me. Maybe there's a reason that he's keeping it from me.

And this relationship is stalled. And maybe he doesn't think I'm special enough. to introduce to my kids. And that's just, that's something that she should keep in mind as well. It might put a magnifying glass on things for her too. Like, you know,

are they exclusive, right? If they've been exclusive for a year, then obviously it's time, right? But maybe he's not exclusive and she has been. And that's something that she'll find out by having this conversation. I mean, Brian,

you said it a bunch. It's like, it's all about communication. And it's like, you know, if she's there every night, it's pretty obvious. They're exclusive.

I was just going to say that. If she's there, every night except for the nights that they're not there. Yeah. That, that becomes a little weird, like, oh, my grown kids are coming over. So you've got to go back to your, to your place. You know, it's a, it starts that, that I can see that would be an incredibly uncomfortable situation. Yeah. If you're not talking about it. If you are and there are clear reasons for it, then, yeah, you, you know, you might want to, you might be okay with a little more leeway. but I think that that's that that's a conversation that needs to be had for sure,

especially after a year. Yeah. Natalia, I love that she starts with this. Be honest, it's like, yeah, it's kind of what we do here, Natalia. That's the point of the show. As men age, do you notice that your sex drive is lowering? Sure, absolutely, of course. Like that's, that is a chemical thing. That is testosterone and that is what men as they age start naturally losing.

you can take supplements and you can, you know, go the opposite direction. But to me, honestly, absolutely sex drive lowers. There's no way to avoid that. I didn't ask for it. Well, when you're 16, 17, 18, 25, whatever, it's like all you think about is sex 24-7, right? And it's like, you know, how am I going to have it? Where am I going to find it? You know, and, you know, whatever.

As you get older, you got so many other things going on in your life and so many other responsibilities and so many other things, you know, it's just, but yeah, you're right. I mean, there is definitely a regimen to follow as you start realizing that as you get older. I mean, I think I'm the oldest. I'm 55. I know we're all around the same age. But yeah, I am married to someone younger and part of me making sure that I am there for her in the ways that she needs me to be as well. You know, you can't just sit on the couch all the time and expect to be the guy that's ready to go. You're ready to go. Yeah. Yeah. But I think there is this, without question, Brian, you're right. There is certain chemicals aging. It is, you know, age and time is undefeated. Yep. But there is something, I think, that happens with men as they get older is they don't lose passion. And passion and like sex driver, I think, are connected to a certain degree, but I think that passion still is there.

And I think that that is a kind of a cool thing about an older man is that there is a maturity and there is a passion that is more controllable. It's not as urge driven as it is for younger guys. It's not just the physical act the same way. It's not that there's a lot. It's the connection. It's, you know, it is all the other things around it that I think sometimes the young guys, you know,

are missing and don't get it until they mature. But without question, there is, there is a fall off in terms of sex drive in terms of that like crazy urge. But I think it's replaced by something a lot more important. Yeah. Agreed. Dude,

that's well, well said. That's why he's Mr. right, right. All right. See you guys later. Yeah, it's why you're Mr. Wright and you're not just Mr. Right now.

That's right. You know what? I would be curious to know why Natalia is asking. Like if she's with an older man and she's not getting what she needs, like what, you know, what's the purpose of the question? Just because you have a scientific mind and you want to know. I think a lot of guys, you know, don't address it. I think a lot of guys aren't honest about it. And then all of a sudden it becomes this like very, very weird elephant in the room that we're just not discussing.

And, you know, it's like, it's okay. Like, like, there are certain realities of life. And again, you know, that's why I'm trying to frame it in such a way. We're like, yeah, there is certain things that are different, but certain things that are better. And I think you've got to focus on the things that are better. I like it. Very well said. Kind, every night spent making the kids lunches, there's a lot of suspense.

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Bell, connection is everything. Hey, this is Hayes Davenport. And Sean Clements. We host the podcast Hollywood Handbook on the Big Money Players Network. Our show is extremely accessible to first-time listeners. Each week, we talk to someone in show business, aka the biz, and try to help them with their careers and see what they have to offer us. Everyone has a good time and no one gets mad at their publicists for letting them do our show.

We've had a lot of great guests like Sarah Sherman, not that great. Actually, can you help me shape this? How about we flip it on his head, right? How about we flip this script? What is the surprise woman? Actually, you think is the straight man is actually the one who's acting weird. Adam Scott. This entire time, you.

You've been expecting Adam Sandler to come to visit the show. I would never expect. I have. I would never set expectations for something like that to happen. If the universe allows for something like that to happen, I'm open to it. I'm always going to accept. You know, Danny McBride, fine. Yeah.

It's all this fragile masculinity exuding. I could smell it walking down the hallway, to be honest with you. I was like, I was like, is that weed? Nope. It's fragile. masculinity. Ben Stiller no. Because a lot of times, out of context, people don't get it, or even

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personally he loves the show and he wants to be a guest on every episode, but he's just so busy. Listen to Hollywood Handbook on the I Heart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. When I was 14 years old, I was kidnapped and held captive for nine months. I survived, and I've spent my life exploring how other people survive what should have destroyed them. I'm Elizabeth Smart, and these are the Survivor Files. I just remember this low, taunting voice next to my ear saying, shut up, don't say anything. Every week I'm with survivors who live through the unthinkable.

I knew if he woke up, without a doubt, he was going to hurt me. I started feeling that there was someone at the end of my bed, and I just started screaming. They are abducted, stalked, controlled, and nearly silenced. But these aren't stories about what's taken from them. There's stories about what it takes to make it out alive. Listen to The Survivor Files with Elizabeth Smart on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. If your bookshelf and your for you page are equally important to your personality, welcome home. This is Prose Society, the weekly podcast that's part book club, part group chat for thought daughters, pop culture obsessives, and anyone who thinks Pride and Prejudice and Love Island deserve the same level of discourse.

I'm Eli Rallo, and every week we're connecting the dots. between books, the internet, and the conversations everyone can't stop having. I'm going to have to look up this story. I'm obsessed. I'm obsessed. From best-selling authors and your favorite book talk creators to the latest pop culture moments, nothing is off the table. It's like if you can hide some real messages inside compelling characters, then that is a Trojan horse. Whether you're looking for literary deep dives, smart pop culture conversations,

or a community of readers who love to think a little too much, you're in the right, place. Listen to Pro Society on the IHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. See you between the pages. All right. This is our last question. This is an email again. We only had one voicemail. So let's step up the voicemails, people. Come on. You know, let's call in and ask some questions. I think this is Louise. I fell in love with a guy right as he was coming out of a two-year-long divorce. We for sure trauma bonded. Because my divorce was ugly, but with my situation, I got a good settlement. And I've always been good with saving money.

The guy that I'm dating lost a lot of money. He put a ton on credit cards. Am I just supposed to hope he figures this out himself? Or do I have to help him fix this? How real is the relationship that you're in? Like, if you're in a real relationship, yeah, you might want to, if you are more educated in the way of being financially smart and, stable, educate, educate, educate, educate. If you're not, if it's just for fun, who gives

a shit? Like, you know, driving is really cool Bentley, you know, and then go back to his apartment at the end of the day. Like, it doesn't, that's fine. That's funny. No, you're nailing, all the blinged out stuff. And then, you know, and then you guys, you split the bill for dinner. It's all based on where you're at, right? So if you're at a serious point in the relationship, and if you think you're going to be together, then those problems, will likely become your problems. And it's going to be something that you're going to have to figure out

how to do together. It doesn't necessarily mean that she dips into her savings and pays off his debt, but it definitely means that they're going to have to talk about. Don't do that. Don't all of a sudden, like, you know, humor him when he's like, hey, I've got this really cool idea.

You know, it's sort of, it looks like a pyramid, but it's not a pyramid. That should be your first clue to. Cut, Knives. You're running. As seen on TV. One of the things that I think,

is such a important linchpin in a relationship in chapter two is finances, is the understanding explanation, clarity around finances, especially if there's kids involved. And I think that having being able, and it's a hard thing to do is to have an open conversation about it, about what your debt is, about what your obligations are to your ex, what your obligations are to kids, are your kids going to college, do you have a 529, do you have retirement, you know, do you owe debt on your business? Like all these things and it's, I'm not sure what the right time is to introduce that, but out of the gate, of course, you're

going to fancy dinners and you're buying flowers and you're going on trips and all these things. Now, is that an expectation or a reality? Like, is that an expectation that your partner has? Is this sustainable or is this just like for now? Yeah, this is what it's always going to be. Or are you going to slip down into what your normal is? And what is that normal? And so, you know, I think that chapter two, you know, prenuptial agreements are fairly common because, of course, you have kids to protect, you have assets to protect. You know, in my situation, I have to make sure that, you know, that I protect that I have enough, you know, alimony to pay and, you know, child support to pay and all these sorts of things.

So these are all realities of my life. So what I was making previous to my divorce and what I'm taking home after my divorce is drastically different. Yeah. And again, like, but, you know, am I going to bring that up the first date? I'm going to bring up the 10th date. I don't know when it's supposed to come up, but it's supposed to come up,

and it has to be honest. Because the dating world, I mean, everything seems like it's champagne and, you know, and hot tubs. I was just going to say that. Bob knows better than either of us.

You see these like extravagant dates and the private jets and the big suites and the things and all that. And then the show's done. And then it's like, okay, yeah, oh, I'm, you know,

my apartment is off of fifth. You know, and it's like this, it's things, completely change, you know. I used to say this. I swear to God, I would say this at the row of ceremonies. And I would say, ladies, listen, I'm from Detroit. And we're not taking a helicopter into a volcano in my hometown. Okay? So just putting it out there. Right. Yeah. Yeah. Make sure this is real for you. This is not what it appears. But, you know, I think you're right. I mean,

there's so much to this. And I think at the end of day, it's like, you know, I agree with you, Mr. Wright. That second phase of life is tough because you do have to look at things from a different perspective. And you do have to kind of have a different lens on it when you're thinking about your future with this person. And, you know, where does this go? How does it look? How does appearances seem versus reality? Right. It's like Instagram versus reality type of thing. Yeah, but how about this idea now that like the next person that you're dating? Now let's say they've never been married before. They're, you know, there's single their whole lives. And now they're dating, you know, one of us. And we have kids with our previous relationship.

we have a previous relationship. Now, I want to keep that relationship as healthy and as, you know, as rosy and perfect as possible. Part of that is financial. Part of that is me investing time with my kids and with my ex as well. That can be a tough thing for somebody else coming new into your life and going like, no, no, no, I'm the most important thing. Who are these other people? And I think over time, there is, I don't know if it's jealousy or if it's envy, but sometimes

that can creep in, especially. especially when it comes to finances. Oh, wait a second, you're sending your kids on this vacation. You're sending your kids, you know, spending money on this or that. Why can't you spend that on me? Why can't spend that time and energy on me? Why do I have to share that with these other people? It's an interesting question.

Maybe that's a different episode. That's an honesty, though, that I think you sort of lead with in a relationship. If it feels like something that is really worth it. Like my fiance now is we start. very early with that understanding of we'll talk about everything. So there is no unknown. If she's feeling a certain way or I'm feeling a certain way, we'll know about it right away. And then we'll kind of get to the bottom of it and we'll come up with some sort of, you know, working way of dealing with the situation. Finances, it's the same thing. I think a lot of people

don't discuss finances right off the bat because they don't know enough about them and they feel they feel stupid. They feel like, God, I've never really paid attention to this. So, you know, I don't want to get into this conversation now because I'm just going to nod my head and act like I know what somebody's saying, but I don't really know what they're saying. And it's embarrassing. So I think you kind of like, you both have to sort of jump in early and go, okay, cool. Let's talk about all finances on both sides.

Let's talk about everything. So then there's no unknowns because it's the unknowns that start creating problems. Yeah. It's when you're something unknown. It's the things you don't talk about where you're like, hey, why has it always been like this? And it's like, it's been like this for five years. Why the fuck didn't you say something five years ago? Like, why did it take five years for us to talk about this? Or something pops up out of nowhere and you're like, yeah, those are the things that become, oh, this is the straw that broke the camel's back. It's like, what camel's back? What the fuck you talk?

But there's also a flipside of that. It was a camel's back involved in this. But you could have a very real conversation out of the gate. These are my responsibilities. This is my ex-wife. These are my kids. This is how I spend my money and my time. This is my situation. Oh, yeah, it's fine. It's fine. And then five years later, that person's like, well, why?

I thought we dealt with that. But it's a little bit like an annoying habit where like it doesn't necessarily manifest right away, but down the road, it can, it can pop its, you know, it's in rear its ugly head and become an issue. You just have to have these conversations as often as possible. And ongoing. And ongoing. Yeah.

Be the aggressor in that. If the person that you're with isn't, doesn't normally act. that way, that's fine. You be the one then that instigates that conversation all the time that does that weekly check-in of like, hey, I've noticed you seem a little bit sort of thrown this last week or you seem a little bit overwhelmed with this or something seemed to bother you. Let's talk about that. Don't be afraid to be that person because it's only going to hurt you if you have these things continue to pile up and then they explode and they become something bigger. So I can air that out.

right away to me, my opinion. You guys, we killed it, man. We crushed it. I feel like this episode of I-Doo Part 2 is probably one of the best that I-Hart has ever done. Ever. I mean, ever. Maybe the most important recorded voices in the history of media. Generational.

You have the I have a dream speech and then you have our episode of I-D-D-D-Part-2. Winston Churchill, us. Right. We're in good company, guys. We're in good company. I like it. Yeah. Dude, good times.

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