The Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous Podcast - Have You Got Game?

Episode Date: December 7, 2024

Our hosts grill TJ about the best ways to flirt and the best techniques to grab a man’s attention. With Kelly’s guidance, our guests are getting a crash course in flirting! Will they have a meet-cute moment? Ready to find love again? Want dating advice?Email us at: [e-mail] or call us at 844-4-I Do Pod (844-443-6763)See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This is an I-Heart podcast. My boyfriend's professor is way too friendly, and now I'm seriously suspicious. Wait a minute, Sam. Maybe her boyfriend's just looking for extra credit. Well, Dakota, luckily, it's back to school week on the OK Storytime podcast, so we'll find out soon. This person writes, my boyfriend's been hanging out with his young professor a lot. He doesn't think it's a problem, but I don't trust her. Now he's insisting we get to know each other, but I just want her gone.

Hold up. Isn't that against school policy? That seems inappropriate. Maybe find out how it ends by listening to the OK Storytime podcast and the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Hi, my name is Enya Umanzor. And I'm Drew Phillips. And we run a podcast called Emergency Intercom. If you're a crime junkie and you love crimes, we're not the podcast for you. But if you have unmedicated ADHD... Oh my God, perfect.

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This is not the podcast for you. We are here for the folks who didn't get it right the first time. And maybe you're on your second go around, third or around, fourth, whatever it may be. But this is the place. And we are trying to help you find love again and maybe again. And I'm here. And ladies, I have to say it, Jenna Kramer and Jenny Garth, I have, this has been an absolute pleasure. When we launched this, we were going to all do this together as hosts.

I didn't think I get a chance to be actually in the room as much with you all as I have. So this has been fun. So it was good to be here. LA with you all in this room as we we're about to go party tonight. That's the that's the plan. That is the plan. Very excited. This is so fun. It is fun to be in the room though because a lot of times it's over Zoom all these podcasts that we do. So it's nice to actually give hugs and the whole thing. We are here now. We haven't we're not only one of the four of us here are sitting at mics. And the fourth person is the only one who showed up dressed with the occasion.

Kelly Bidzamon. She's one of our celebrity mentors. She's a model. She's always showing up. She is looking good. Of course. Like I would expect nothing less. Truly, nothing less.

But she's been one of our celebrity mentors. How has this experience been for you? We chatted with you in New York not too long ago for an episode. And that was a blast. But since then, how have things been going? It's been so incredible. Like this podcast, couple with therapy, has been so unbelievably therapeutic. And I've changed so much as a human.

I just, I think that my solo was just so, it was, you know, I was, I dug deep into something that I probably wouldn't have thought about or even had the courage to talk about and manifesting the man of my dreams, which was so great and writing a love letter to him, which was like, oh my God, I'm getting emotional. It's been very, very cathartic for me and just, it's also just nice to be around a community where people like, understand. like what I'm talking about and what I'm going through. That makes it even better for me. So I've just been like, it's like a big hug. Can I just ask a question because I just have to? Has anyone slid into your DMs or have you? Yes.

Yes. I've met a lot of really nice. No, I mean like a man. Several very nice men. Okay. So like good people. Tell. Not like a sliding in.

Anybody good? Like of interest? Yeah. Yes. I've met like two really nice guys who were great. One is younger. One is like around my age. And they're just been really.

that's also been something else that's been different is that the way that I'm approaching dating is so different than before. Before I would just be like, just, you know, oh, okay, he likes me, okay, I'll date him. But also I have two young kids, I'm a single parent. So, like, dating for me was always a little bit, like, how am I going to do this?

I don't want to get involved. I don't want to get, I don't want to be emotionally available to them because I don't know what, you know, what's going to happen tomorrow, what am I going to be doing? And so it's just nice to really be, like, more settled and just like calmer and more relaxed. Do I see more relaxed, you, Jay? Well, how do you, so are you like deciding?

Are you trying to decide between the two now? I'm not really trying to decide. I'm just open to everything. Right. Okay. It's fun. I think you're more intentional. Right.

Much more intentional. That's great. And tonight is going to be very intentional. We are out here together now because of the I-Heart jingle ball taking place. And part of this, we have two folks who we've been helped. helping guide along on this podcast that reached out to us and they're going to be out here. You're going to actually coach, teach, help them tonight as they go out and try. Wait, wait. What is she helping them with? She's going to help them flirt.

Okay. Done. Really? Now, you seemed confident. Are you a good flirt? I am excellent. Whoa. No pause. No pause there. Zero pause. Like just, yes. What makes you. Yeah. I was like, what makes you good at it? Come, do tell. Just because I don't really flirt, I'm just kind of. of chatty, lots of smiles, very engaging, asked a lot of questions, how are you? You look great, compliments, yad, yada, yeah.

Okay. See, I feel like I'm good. I'm a bad, I think I'm a bad flurter when I'm actually wanting to flirt with someone. And I think I'm better for other people. So that's why I'm excited to, I like to help other people flirt when it comes to me. Actually, like, I remember seeing this one guy at a bar a couple years ago. And my girlfriend's like, go talk to him. I was like, absolutely not.

I will not. I will, I, and she's like, no, let's go. Come on. I'm like, Sarah, please. I'm like, Sarah, please. I ran down the stairs. I was like, it was so uncomfortable. I'm like, if he wants to talk to me, he can come talk to me.

I just, I was so uncomfortable. Couldn't do it. Oh, how did that story end? She ran down the stairs. And my friend Sarah, my friend Sarah went to go talk to him and she's like, he had a girlfriend. And that was it. That was a story.

End of story. But I just think I'm a better wing woman than ever for myself. So this episode is, I think, that's why I'm going to be good with that too because I'm like that as well. I'm good at, like, helping my friends. Were you a good flirt back in the day? Oh, I had some game. Did you?

Yes. Yes, yes. I'm going to tell you about it. But this episode is going to be all about who has the game. We want to hear about your game. Yes. You said you, both of you all, very confidently said you have game. And this is what this is about, this particular episode.

What is it for you that you just said, yep, I knew how to flirt? I had game. How so? I just, I'm confident in, you know, I know how to work it. If I want, and I'm the kind of person, if I want something, I go get it. Right. And there's a lot out there that I don't want. So when I do find something that I'm interested in, look out.

Yeah. What do you all say to women? Because there's so much advice out there that's telling women you have to do this or try this technique. And it almost seems like you need to be something maybe even you're not or try to manipulate a situation in some way. the way the advice often comes. Do some people need that type of advice and structure and technique and all these things? Do you need that? I think a little advice, but I also think that it's kind of like when people, it's like some people tell you what to do and then you do the opposite. So instead of like, you know, like really like listening to people, like, you know, tonight we're going to talk to

our new friends. And I want to know what they're interested in so that when we go out there, I can be like, okay, go smile at this person. Or I think when you get advice sometimes, you're like, oh, my God, am I doing it right? Am I doing it right? You know, maybe that was wrong. It's so individual. Like, it's no right and wrong, I don't feel like. Yeah. I'm more like the let it happen.

If it's meant to manifest together, then it'll, you will meet the person and just let it happen. I think there's not really gay in that respect. I'm with you 100%, but it seems like there's not really game. I think a woman should just be confident. And smile. And be open. Yeah, just like, just, I feel like that's so much easier said than done, though.

What? Like, just be confident. Like, I, I, maybe that's because, I mean, now I feel like I'm more confident. But back in like 20s and 30s, I was like a mess because I was so not confident. And it's, it's so easy for somebody to be like, oh, be confident. Well, how can I be confident when I don't even know who I am or I'm afraid this person's going to hurt me or you have all the stuff that you're still trying to figure out as a human? So it's like, I just.

feel like saying like be confident is so much easier said than done go back to that bar with your friend sarah yeah what then was the right move how do you let a guy know you're interested well so i was confident i was more confident then even though i was divorced but i also knew what i wanted and i didn't want to meet a i personally did not want to meet a guy in a bar i just didn't i didn't think that was going to be where i was going to meet my person so i didn't want to force a situation so that's where and and i didn't want to force it you know i didn't want if he was not coming over and we didn't have the lock-eye thing. Like, I'm not, I don't know.

I just, I was like, this feels too young for me to be doing this game where my girlfriend's going over there, talk to him. It just feels uncomfortable. If I want to go talk to him, I'll go talk to him. That's where I'm at now in my 40s, right? So now there's that confidence piece. But before, you know, I think it's, and that's a, I earned that through the things that I've gone through.

You all have both married now. Yeah, so talking about flirting is a little weird for me because I've been married forever, like, to someone. Right. I don't think there's a day I wasn't married or pregnant or something. So flirting was a little weird. Just talking about it, I'm like, I don't flirt anymore unless it's with my husband. And I don't really do that.

I mean, I probably should do more than that. Maybe we should do an episode about that. My boyfriend's professor is way too friendly. And now I'm seriously suspicious. Well, wait a minute, Sam. Maybe her boyfriend's just looking for extra credit. Well, Dakota, it's back to school week on the OK Storytime podcast. We'll find out soon.

This person writes, My boyfriend has been hanging out with his young professor a lot. He doesn't think it's a problem, but I don't trust her. Now, he's insisting we get to know each other, but I just want her gone. Now, hold up. Isn't that against school policy? That sounds totally inappropriate.

Well, according to this person, this is her boyfriend's former professor, and they're the same age. And it's even more likely that they're cheating. He insists there's nothing between them. I mean, do you believe him? Well, he's certainly trying to get this person to believe him because he now wants them both to meet. So, do we find out of it?

if this person's boyfriend really cheated with his professor or not. To hear the explosive finale, listen to the OK Storytime podcast on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast. Hi, my name is Enya Umanzor. And I'm Drew Phillips. And we run a podcast called Emergency Intercom. If you're a crime junkie and you love crimes, we're not the podcast for you. But if you have unmedicated ADHD, ADHD...

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and we didn't know what to expect in the morning. Nobody tells you anything. Listen to shock incarceration on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. How do you let a guy know that you're... Oh, if you can go back to those days. How do you let a guy know you're interested? Blu-loop, blue-l-l-l-l-lop.

Like you said, Kelly, a smile, and a friendly demeanor. And then you ignore them. so I ignored my husband for like three weeks and I think that's the only reason why he was the first man that I've like dated that I ignored for because I honestly didn't I forgot to reply back to him because I didn't have WhatsApp so like I didn't know he was texting me but I would be oh yeah sorry I forgot that I had this WhatsApp thing you know and then three weeks later I would text him again oh sorry but I think my lack of yeah communication was actually how he hooked me like how I him or whatever. You were playing the game without... I didn't even know it was doing it there. I had no idea. But I was also like, meh, like he lives there. Like, what's the... Like, he lives in London. How is that even going to work anyways? Like, you know what I mean? Like, whatever. But then, you know, obviously then you go into it. So I think, again, it's like you're, I wasn't that available.

Is everyone here, you all seem to nod, but everybody agree with that, that strategy, if you will, that let them chase a little bit. I mean, you tell us. Yeah, let's ask you. What What flirting techniques do you prefer? Or is that too much of a game? Unavailable women. I did before. Yes. Go back in like your 30s, 40s.

Yeah, I was always, certainly when I get, I was age 30, 35, 40. I mean, we're just adults. Like, I'm a grown-ass man. I don't have time to play games. If I'm interested, I will let you know. If I want to talk to you, I will text you, you don't respond. Okay, and that's fine. Right.

I just don't. And I hate we keep saying game. I know we say. when we mentioned that, but I don't like the idea of grown-ass folks messing around and playing around. We don't have time. I can tell you exactly what I want. You can tell me

and that's it. That's okay. So I don't like I never was a fan of any kind of chase or trying to do. I think when I said ignore them, I was just kind of joking because I'm with you. I've got a lot to do. If this is going to work out, let's make it work.

If it's not, move on. I don't have a lot of times to waste. I think that people don't need a waste their time on the wrong people. I think also today in this era of social media, like everyone's either on their phone or they're connecting with someone, you know, through social media. And, you know, people are like, hi. I'm like, what does that mean? Like, how about do you want to go get a drink?

Hi. Okay, hi. Like, I'm not your pen pal. You know what I mean? Like, so it's like if you're going to, I guess like texting with intention is also a good part of like the game. Like obviously, you know, like we were talking about like smiling, be happy. but also like a little distant, but then texting with intention, like making it happen and making a date.

Because how do you know what these people are like until you meet them? Yeah. And it's just hard, too, for like a lot of, you know, women and men alike, you know, in their 40s and 50s, like if you're on like Raya or any of these things. Like, most of these people are like on Raya, they're like, hi, I'm in Melbourne. It's like, that's nice for you. Like, what do you mean? You're in Melbourne. Like, what does that mean?

That's geographically undesirable. Thank you. Bye-bye. Thank you. What? though I didn't meet my husband. He was living in England. So I think, you know, you have to open up the pond a little bit. You know, you got to like you'd open up. Yeah. So, you know, hey, you make a way if it's worth it. That's right. That's right. Well, we talked before on another episode about the first date uniform. If you haven't listened to that episode, by the way, you should. What do you think women should wear when they're going out there and they're trying to flirt with guys? I personally always say less is more. Don't do the full hair and makeup thing. I, every time I've gone on a day, it's, I do the minimal makeup because I'm like, this is, you're going to wake up with even less than this. So putting on the full face,

like, I would never do this or anything like that I have on right now. It's, it's very, because I don't wear makeup. I hate wearing makeup. In real life, no. They need to know what they're getting. Exactly. This is who I am. And I don't, um, even when I met my husband, I didn't wear anything like revealing like I had like on a sweater and jeans and like a little boot. And that was it. It's like this is, what do you think, Kelly? I mean, you're also dropped on gorgeous, too. That doesn't hurt. Exactly.

I totally think that less is more. Every single guy that's ever told me about like men or now that, because I'm talking to so many people about like relationships, they're all, they all see the same thing, jeans and a t-shirt. Oh, I saw her when she was in jeans and a t-shirt. Oh, she looked so cute in a hoodie. You know, they, guys, you tell us. No, what you're saying is a hundred, because that's, I've always said that.

If a woman can't put on jeans and a t-shirt, belly up to a bar, have a draft beer and watch an SEC football game with me. We're probably not going to work out. And it's not just about what she's wearing, but there's a confidence in a woman who can just put that on and it's cool with like, hey, let's do it. It's just, it sends a signal of some kind. And even though you all are saying, like you didn't like makeup, you know, like, do you all think generally that's the case though? I think women go full tilt with makeup and hair. Well, but here's also the problem too.

And this is I talked to my ex-husband about this because in the dating world, like I'm like, how's, you know, how's it going? the women used too many filters and I've actually stopped doing filters because my daughter I'm like I don't want my daughter I'm like why am I doing this filter when this is not what my nose looks like or this is not what I look like

I wouldn't want my daughter to do this so I've completely stopped doing filters on like the story things but he was saying he's like women filter themselves so much with their photos too that when you meet them you're like that is not what they look like so also like present who you are

I think guys do that too do they really do they do filters? I've heard from a lot of women friends that they show up to dates and they don't look anything. Well, I think they laugh. The only time I've ever, it was like they lie about their height. But besides that, like, would I don't know men filter their faces? I didn't know that either.

Wow. Someone told me that you can tell guys height by, they're standing next to a car kind of look and see. Oh, you've got to gauge it? That's amazing. And guys always have like a picture with their car. I was like, that is actually really good advice. Check that out. That's amazing.

Is that the number one thing you all have found that maybe that's the thing guys lie about? you saw about filters with the face or something, but is that the thing guys will lie about their height more than anything on, if you're online or... Well, I think that they just think it's like that whole adjective tall, dark, and handsome is like what women are looking for, and that's not true at all. I mean, my ex-husband was short, great curly hair, like, and French. Like, that's not tall, dark and handsome, but it's just, you know,

you just never know who you're going to like or why, you know? I'm trying to think what, like, the biggest lie. I mean, I can think of a few, but, like... If they're wearing a... ball cap in every picture. Yeah, tell tale. Which is totally fine. I love, we love bald men.

Who doesn't? But I think we have a point. Like natural, comfortable in your own skin is the right message to put out to people. Do not wear a sequenced dress. Stop, you look beautiful. You look stunning. You just said, I like to be understated. And now you look glamorous.

We are going to, right that bit. Yeah, I blend it. It's jingle ball. It's jingle ball. It's jingle ball. Yeah, exactly. My boyfriend's professor is way too friendly, and now I'm seriously suspicious. Wait a minute, Sam.

Maybe her boyfriend's just looking for extra credit. Well, Dakota, it's back to school week on the OK Storytime podcast, so we'll find out soon. This person writes, my boyfriend has been hanging out with his young professor a lot. He doesn't think it's a problem, but I don't trust her. Now he's insisting we get to know each other. But I just want her gone. Now, hold up. Isn't that against school policy?

That sounds totally inappropriate. Well, according to this person, this is her boyfriend's former professor and they're the same age. And it's even more likely that they're cheating. He insists there's nothing between them. I mean, do you believe him? Well, he's certainly trying to get this person to believe him because he now wants them both to meet. So, do we find out if this person's boyfriend really cheated with his professor or not? To hear the explosive finale, listen to the OK Storytime podcast on the Iheart Radio app, Apple Podcast, or wherever you get your podcast.

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dealing with identity, struggles, and all the issues affecting our Latin community. You feel like you get a little whitewash because you have to do the code switching? I won't say whitewash because at the end of the day, you know, I'm me. But the whole pretending and code, you know, it takes a toll on you. Listen to the new season of Grasasas Come Again as part of My Cultura Podcast Network on the IHartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast. How do you know when a guy is interested in you? Is it clear? Is it obvious from across the room?

Do we have a difficult time you all have found giving the right signals? I think from, or from like when you first meet. Yeah. Or before you even meet. know that person or you think that person is interested in you. Well, you're flirting. I think it's definitely the eye, the eye contact, you know, how they, if they approach you, I think that's a tell-tale sign. But I think moving forward from that, the biggest thing that I learned from my dating was

there was a guy that I was kind of chasing a little bit and he seemed to like me and all those things and say he liked me and we would hung out. But he, you know, I felt like I was pursuing him more than he was pursuing. me. And when I kind of stopped, I'm like, oh, I didn't really hear from him. So I'm like, I think you will know, like, if the guy wants to do with you, they're going to pursue you. And you shouldn't, I don't think you should always be the pursuer because then you realize that maybe that guy doesn't want to be with you. So. Yeah, listen. It's, it's okay to listen to somebody. We will absolutely give you an answer without giving you an answer. Exactly. But I wish you'd give us the answer.

That's the piece that's always frustrating. It's like, why can you just say you don't, you like my company when you like my company and when you want my company but not like but you like I had that's the part of guys that you know drive me crazy and maybe girls do it too I don't know but Jenny was it always clear with you like you could okay I know that guy's interested or were mixed signals did you find it confusing sometimes with the signals guys are giving oh my god let me think back um did I feel like you know you just know there's that little little spark little tingle inside and you just know instinctively oh that person's giving me some vibes yeah yeah let's see what let's see what that means and explore it if you are into him right so i have two daughters they're 24

and they're 26 and they're always on my phone i'm like what are you guys looking for like there's nothing in there um but they're and they'll see like if i when i'm texting someone that i like and they're like mom oh my god it's just you're so much blue oh my god you're so much all you do is like bubble, blah, blah, blah, bubble. Like, just one text and let them. But I'm the kind of person that's like, hi, how are you? Good question. You know, I'm like, I'm like, do, do, do, no, no.

And she's like, oh, my God, he's like, he's one and you're like 10. Wait, wait. So is there a technique to texting guys? They say that you should be less blue than, like, so, yeah, it should be the. They should be more than, you know. And that's where, like, the game thing comes with it. But yeah, they should, that shows that it's more interest if there's more from them. But that's confusing because my ex post.

husband sends me paragraphs. Well, maybe he still loves me. Don't do that. I don't think that's the case. But also, you know, some people are, some people are good over the phone and some people are good texters. So, like, you know, I would never, like, randomly FaceTime someone, but some people like to do that.

Or they like to, like, be on the phone. I mean, I'm not a phone person just because in my work life, like, I'm always on the phone. So I'm not going to, I'd rather be like, hey, I'm thinking of you, which is my way of being nice, and some guys are like, you don't even call me. I'm like, well, I'm kind of on the phone, but I was trying to be nice. And so it's just like, I feel like there's like, you can't really win. You kind of have to like feel out the person and get a sense of like where they are. But I guess over texting and it's not good. Or oversharing is not good too.

Well, over texting, but how do you, do you, do you monitor? Do you find yourself editing your text? No. You're right then. Okay, wait, say that the right way. Is that the right emoji? you should have. Thank God they made that edit option now. You can, you can, and you can unsend. Right. Right. Wait. So are you like, I love you? I mean, I like you. Exactly. But you don't find yourself doing that. You don't trying to get it just right. If you don't like me the way that I am, then you're never going to like me. I mean, like, I'm not going to like start to like change things up and like, so I'll probably forget. So say you've met someone and you're feeling the vibes, right? What happens at the end of the night? Like,

Do you give him your digits? Is that what they still say? No. Do you give him your number or do you give him your email address or what? How's that work? Because I, you guys, if I told you how I met my husband, it's the exact opposite way of how you told him. Oh, God. I heard this in San Francisco.

No, I need to hear this. Well, who told you? He told you? You did. Oh, geez. Was it on air? The room and you're like, who I don't want anything to do with that guy. When we met, I was, yeah, I didn't like him.

But at the end of the night, I said, he. He didn't like it when you first met him? No, no. No, he was tall and actory-looking. And I was like, ugh. He was handsome. He was tall and he was a problem. Actory.

And young. So he said at the valet, we were waiting for our cars at the end of the awkward dinner. And he said, so should I call you? And I said, but you can follow me. And he goes, you mean like on Instagram? I said, no, idiot, follow me. Get in your car and follow me. Like home?

No, not home. Oh, where the car you're real? Like, sexy and bold. I know. That was later. I was like, wow. Okay. I know.

I was like, kind of odd. I was like, I'm here. I told you when I want something, I get it. But no. Follow you where. I went to another bar. I didn't tell him where I just said follow me and I zoomed off. So I had to see if he could keep up with me.

I wanted to see like, gauge his like, you know, adventure. Because I like adventure. And he kept. with me. And we went to another bar, and that's where we got to know each other without the people who had set us up. So we were at a double date before. We needed to have some time. I needed to have some time just one-on-one with them to know what I was interested, you know? Right. So are you supposed to, you know, people are like, this isn't, this dating is like an interview. So you have to have your interview questions. I'm like, what are my interview questions? Like, I just kind of like let men,

like, tell me their story. I just kind of listen. I ask them like, I ask them like leading questions, don't say like, why were you married, who are you married, how long was it divorced? What's your, you know, five-year plan? How much money do you have any of your rent? And that's me. I don't care about that. But the other stuff, that's, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, what, like, I do those questions.

Yeah. Right out of the gates. I'm telling me I should do that. I can't do that. Like, what are you looking for? Yeah. Because I'm just, I'm like, I'm not wasting any of time. I feel so awkward.

I'd be like, oh my God. And that would make me feel uncomfortable. They were like, I was like leading the dance. T.J, your best advice for the. winners Elizabeth and Rebecca tonight. Because they are at the concert in the BIP section. So, I mean, what is your best advice from a man for them? When you take advantage of the opportunity, you don't get this enough to be in, it's one thing to be in a social setting, but this is a closed social setting, meaning most of the people in the room are there for one reason. They've kind of

been vetted already. They know somebody who knows somebody. You know, everybody's here for the same reason. Walk up, meet, talk to everybody. That guy might not be single, but he might have a friend to is. That woman might not be, I mean, she might not have a friend available. She has her sister or so. You've got to take advantage of the opportunity and do not pass it up tonight. You got to be out there. You got to be open. And who knows? You might meet a guy that has a really wonderful wife and you could have a new friend. 100%. Yeah. I mean, look at it that way. That's why I say to my friends too, I'm like to go on a lot of different dates because they also might know people that you might be like, oh, you know, I really like you, but your friend is hot. Right. Yeah.

There's a connection to everyone. I was supposed to ask them about their 401k. like right out of the game. No, no, no, no. I'm joking. You know, don't follow Janice. No, I don't do that. I just am like, what do you want? No, Jan doesn't care about the money.

She said. I don't care about the money. No, she cares. No, but I mean, I could never say like, oh, you were divorced. How long were you, I mean, I would feel like I was literally like bulleting questions. I think it's important that you just make them feel like you're talking and you're not grilling them. Right. You know, like just be easy on the questions.

And listen. Yeah. But I have gone on a couple days. Sorry, quickly, where the guys talk so much and they tell me so many stories and they're trying to, like, get like the sympathy from me. And I'm just like, wow, that's really great. I'm saying them like, oh, my God. Like, what? Like, wait, wait, another story?

Wait, how many stories do I have to listen to in like a two-hour dinner? So you will be there with Elizabeth and Rebecca tonight. So we will continue to check in. But they are, we're going to be a fun night. So, folks, we want all of you to keep checking in here with us. Do not give up on finding your personal. person. And maybe you'll find them by using this podcast. If you need dating advice, you want help finding love, we're here. The number is 18444-4-4-4-4-4-6-7-63. The email is I-Dupod at

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