The Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous Podcast - How to Score with Golden Susan Noles

Episode Date: January 23, 2025

Susan Noles of the “Golden Bachelor” isn't living life on the sidelines, she’s scoring with Mama Kelce.This diva is giving Amy & TJ all the details on hanging out at the NFL playoffs with Travis Kelce's mom Donna! Plus, where Susan is meeting men, what happened with "Golden Bachelorette" contestant Jack...and what Taylor Swift wants from her, allegedly.Email us at: [e-mail] or call us at 844-4-I Do Pod (844-443-6763)Follow I Do, Part 2 on Instagram and TikTokSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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Can't find a date. And you know the last place, the latest place, she decided to look at the VIP suite. Next to Travis Kelsey's mom at the Kansas City Chief's Gate. And with that, welcome to I do part two, folks. This is the podcast for folks who didn't get it right the first time around. It might be even the second, maybe even the third. This is the place to be alongside one of the other hosts. Amy Roboxing, weird to introduce you that way.

Yes, right? I'm one of your co-hosts on a separate podcast. Yes, so many of us feel your pain. We've been divorced. We've had our hearts broken. We've searched for love to no avail. And so we want you to know you're not alone. And we're all here to help in the conversation

and in actually trying to set some people up. Is it going better for you now? You just described a struggle in your love. And it sounds like this is the podcast for you. If you need some help. I think she did pretty good to be doing with that itself. Oh, let me set the record straight in case anyone doesn't know. Yes.

I have happily found my forever person. Good for you. She happens to be sitting right next to me. And a good save, baby. On this show, we have, of course, Jenny Garth, Janet Kramer, the other two hosts we have. Folks like Kelly Bin-Simone, who's been one of the mentors helping some of the people find a date. So hope you've enjoyed this journey. We've enjoyed. I absolutely have. When this first came to us, I didn't know what to think, the idea of doing it. But now that we've been doing it, this has been some of the most fun I've had at our heart.

You know what? It's been a lot of fun because it's so relatable. So many people are in between relationships, looking for love, or are basically licking their wounds. They're frustrated. They're sad. They're heartbroken. And it's just something that I think is universal. Who hasn't experienced that? So it feels good to be able to have honest, real conversations about the challenges, the highs and the lows of, I feel like, figuring out what we're all here to do, which is to love and to find that partner and to have that relationship we're all looking for. And those conversations have been great that we've had on the podcast. The conversations have been even better that we've had in private with some of the folks. And the folks that we've met is the reason really why this has been such a joy. And I said two of our absolute favorite new friends, one of them, Kathy Schwartz, a lot of people are familiar with from the Golden Bachelor was a contestant there. And you can't, it's almost weird.

You can't say her name without saying the name. Susan Knowles. It's like peanut butter and jelly. It's bacon and eggs. You can't have Catherine, not Susan. But Susan Knowles is the other who has been looking for love. She's on the golden bachelor. But I mentioned at the top, we saw her looking for love where just recently in one of the most exclusive rooms in all sports. Yeah. Yeah. So Susan was with basically, I I mean, probably one of the most famous football players to date, probably mostly because of who he's dating. But, of course, we're talking about Travis Kelsey's mother.

And Susan had a front row seat in the VIP box watching it all. And maybe, I don't know, mingling with a few people. But, yeah, Susan is here back with us now. We wish we were in the room with you as much what we prefer. But Susan, it is always, always a pleasure. Always good to see you. We miss you. But for everybody, just give them the quick update.

We're going to get into your dating life here in a second. But give us a word. If I had to ask, if we asked you right now, Susan, how's dating going? Your one word answer would be slow. Okay. Slow, but not that. I did have a date. I did have a date.

Had one. All right. That's, hey, one is better than none, right? We went to play top golf. We had a great time. Okay. Okay, top golf, you said? Yes.

All right, you a golfer? Yes, I am. I am a golfer. I got one hell of a drive. Oh, wow. We could see that smiling face of yours. Always good to see you, of course. Thank you.

Thank you for having me. But don't say thank you. Really, it's been a treat getting to know you over the past year or so. But you, of course, were, you do your own podcast as well, so you're familiar with this, Bachelor Happy Hour, the Golden Hour, with you and Kathy. I love that name. The Golden Hour. Because we are golden, I mean.

Yes. You know, you had your golden butt in a golden seat because you got a golden ticket. I sure did. Just initially, you just have to explain this to us. How is it you ended up in there sitting next to Travis Kelsey's mom for the playoff game? So Donna and I met last year. We did a job for a company. and we were hired again this year, and that was part of it.

So we did filming all day, and Donna and I go way back. So, of course, I had to wear my other Kelsey, her other Kelsey's son, Eagles, Jersey, because I was a team game, right? Yes, yes. And everybody, my phone was blowing up, my friends, wait, are you going to meet Taylor Swift? That's all they cared about. Seriously. And from what I understood, because Donna stayed for most of the game,

and then she went over to their box, and Taylor's families there and everything. And I said to one of the producers, so everybody wants to know if I'm going to meet Taylor Swift, obviously not. And she goes, you know, she said she wanted her picture with you. Oh, geez, nice. So Taylor, if you're out there listening, I would love to do that. But I know the game was not the place to do it. As you all know, it's difficult for her to do it.

to get in, you know what I mean, with all the security and such. But yeah, that was like a little thrill, yeah. You were close. You were very close. How many boxes or sweets down was she from you? Three, I think that's right. Maybe next time. Maybe next time.

We'll see. Donna is also divorced. She is single. Is she ready to mingle? Did you all talk about dating? Yes, you know me, Amy. Come on. Of course I talked to her.

And honestly, no, she's like, really? I am good. She's doing just fine. She's enjoying her life as she should. And yeah, no, I don't think she's where I am. Really, in there, during the game, sitting next to Travis Kelsey's mom, you all still just become women talking about, I guess,

girl things. Well, women, baby. We are women. And it wasn't our first meet. You know, we know each other. We spent time before. So, yeah, I quiz her. What's going on in your life?

You know. So she's uninterested in finding someone at this point in her life. She is happy with her single status, and that's how she wants to keep it. Yes, yes. That's what I gather. But that doesn't register for you. Do you listen to someone? No, I want to find my person.

I want somebody to miss me and get like butterflies when I see them come in the room. You know what I mean? Good sex, good loving, good caring, have fun, play golf. Yeah. I do get that. And I love hearing you say that because I think. I think I could be wrong, but a lot of women, and I'm not saying that Donna Kelsey, she's, I'm sure there are plenty of women who have zero desire to start again and to deal with

relationships because as great as they all are sometimes or even initially, they're messy and they're hard and they're difficult and they require work. So I get it at a certain point, you might just be like, I'm done. I got my girlfriends. I got my kids. I might have said this before. Isn't it, don't they say when you stop looking, that's when you find somebody. Well, I've tried that too. Didn't work. Maybe not long enough. I don't know. My eyes are always open.

I think a lot of women might be afraid to say they want it. I think a lot of women might be unwilling to be vulnerable to say they desire what you're saying. I desire because they're afraid it's not out there. They're afraid of rejection. They're afraid they're age. That, yes, that the older guys or the guys who they'd be interested want people, women, 20, 30 years younger than them.

So they're afraid to admit. Yeah, that's Kathy's whole thing. They don't want me. And she's healthier and better shape than most people, 10 years, 20 years younger. But it's true. And I ask you, D.J., men prefer younger because of the number. I think, I don't know.

I mean, we could look good. I think I look good for 67 years old. You look amazing. I can stand next to any 57-year-old. Oh, my own. We get so caught up. in that because i know plenty of men that don't under any circumstance want to date someone in their 20s or maybe they're early 30s not that young i mean but no i think okay yeah but yeah i get to your point

i get what you're saying but it it is a matter of you have to get to know people and attraction is not just by what i see across the room it's what i actually inside about the person whilst i get close to that person who might be more beautiful up close um than from across the room once you actually get to talk to someone. Yes, insight. And that's the problem, I think, with all the dating site. It's not that I'm against them, but I went off prior to going on the show even. I just gave up for a while. But you're looking at a picture and you're reading a very short bio. That's a tough game. You know what I mean? If you're introduced in somebody that you might not even be attracted to, but you're getting to know, all of a sudden you find that they're so attractive, not physically,

but because of exactly what you said. Yeah, isn't it about the conversation and how much you can laugh with one another, how much you can relate to one another, because looks fade. And once you get a little bit older, you realize that in a very dramatic way. Like, hey, oh gosh, I know. You know, so this ain't hanging around. And if you don't have something deeper or better, it's not going to last. So do you find, I don't know how many sporting events you go to, but is that a good place to

to date or at least to look around for potential dates? Maybe not during the playoffs. I mean. They're kind of focused on the fields. Yeah, a lot, a lot. And the freezing cold weather, too, that didn't help. But there was, there's quite a lot of men, but most of them married. You know, I don't walk around with like a sign on my head saying, I am available.

As a matter of fact, I've been told more than a few times. I'm clueless. Like, people say, didn't you see that guy looking at you? I go, who? No. Like, I'm on a mission. I'm going to where I'm going. You know, I don't slow it down a bit.

Maybe that's what I need to do. And I have, as you know, a large personality. So someone would have to enjoy that part of me. You know, Susan, I'm curious about that. You said you don't notice the sign sometimes. Are you doing something different or doing something to address that? Because that's a big deal. Well, could you tell me what to do to address?

that, slow down and look every person in the eye, because I could look at it in the eye. The awareness and an engagement, I guess it's a matter of just making sure you stay in the moment and where you are versus maybe, like you say, your head is down and you're focusing on. No, my head is never down, TJ. Well, yeah. My head is never. But maybe it could be swiveling. I mean, the thing is, when you're in your 20s and 30s, think about it.

And you know you've got a little bit of, I don't want to say power. but you know you can maybe turn heads, right? Or you can get some eye contact. You can have that knowing glance with someone that is the first step in flirting or at least saying I'm available without saying I'm available. Yes, yeah.

Maybe when you get older, you don't feel like people are looking at you as much. You do, in a sense, just kind of rush across the room. You don't take your time and say, hey, not only notice me, but I'm noticing you. Maybe we don't think we could or should. And we did when we were younger, didn't we? I think, well, I got a lot of attention most of my life.

And then I had children and then my daughter grew up and she got attention what she was with me. But I get the nice old people and Wawa, I'll turn around and say, ma'am, do you know you're beautiful? I said, oh, thank you. I'll take what I can get. Hey, Wawa, wow. We're talking to a Philadelphia gal here, Wawa. Some people didn't catch that.

Oh, the Wawa. You know, we were taught, you started off the top here. didn't expect that news or you were talking about this date you went on recently. Do tell as much as you can. Who is this guy? How'd you meet? And will there be another date? Yes, they'll probably be another date. He was quiet, quite the polar opposite of me. And he didn't know who I was. And I asked him not to Google. He did. He Googled immediately when he got. Probably. I don't. I really don't think he did. And he was surprised when we sat and we talked for a couple hours before we played top golf. And he was really easy to talk to.

And I shared some things about me and my life and said at the end how grateful I was for my life. I've had a great life, long before a golden bachelor. Like, I'm in a good place. And I asked him the same. And his wasn't as happy as mine. you know and it felt bad but now everybody has their stuff so right away is that a red flag he's never been married and never had children how old is he 56 oh he's a younger guy of course he is i don't care about the number i don't i don't care if he was 76 but he had he's nice looking

he was tall enough he was pleasant and quiet and we talked about my personality i said i'm lot because you are he said but I like it it was nice well maybe he's a really good listener and he appreciates someone like you who can spice up his life you know I mean I think that look if you have shared interest if you have shared goals and all of that that's important but it's kind of nice to have different personalities I'm an extrovert you're an introvert right that's true and you don't realize that but yeah listen a lot you're an introvert see look everybody's he is he is really it is In social settings, he actually, you know, you would know because he loves talking to you and Kathy, but he's not, he's discerning in who he speaks to and he listens a lot.

Very happy, sitting in the corner of the room, just watching it all happen. Watching Amy walk across the room and skidding the butterflies. I guess. And you know me, I'm like, talk, talk, talk, talk, talk. So I do think that that works to have, to have, you can't have. Talk talk talk talkers My boyfriend's professor is way too friendly And now I'm seriously suspicious Oh wait a minute Sam Maybe her boyfriend's just looking for extra credit

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Oh my God, perfect. And want to hear people with mental illness, psycho babble. Yes, yes. Then Emergency Intercom is the podcast for you. Open your free IHeartRadio app. Search Emergency Intercom and listen now. besides the golf was there a meal involved drinks involved we sat and had a couple drinks and a meal a little bite and then we were at top golf so we ate there and then of course i

forgot my glove i ran downstairs to get the glove yeah and we played for a while it was good i was i was doing pretty well like i promised him it's not that good when i get out on the course but He was a little intimidated, but I think he can play real well. And that's a plan for the spring that maybe we'll play some golf. So how did you all meet? How did you end up on this date? Were you set up? Were you?

Actually on Facebook. Oh, okay. How did that go through? Kathy said there was Facebook dating, I think it is. I went on for about 10 minutes. He messaged me and we chatted for, I don't know, two or three messages. And that girl, and I said, would you like to exchange? change digits, it might be a lot easier because I don't get on that.

So that's what we did. Is he local? In Philadelphia. Oh, that's great. That's great. Oh, we're liking this guy. Do you, do you, this is so interesting because I don't know if it depends on what age range you're in, but do you still play games and don't, and wait to text back?

Oh, no, I was never good at that. No, you're kidding. I suck at that. Actually, everything I read that what we shouldn't do, I do all the shouldn'ts. You know, I'll text first. I'll ask them out. I don't care. Let's just do this.

You know what? That's what's so nice about getting older is that you have the confidence to just be yourself. And if they don't like you or they want you to be playing games, they're not for you anyway, and you just learn sooner, which is better. So how often do you guys chat or talk? A couple times a week. It's new, really new. Like, it's been two weeks.

And then I was traveling, so, yeah. You know what? How do, when we're younger and we are our 20s or whatever, we start dating people, you have a thought of, as this person, you think about marriage or kids, right? You're seeing your relationship kind of play out a certain way. When that is not on the table, when you're not trying to build a family, I guess, how do you lead? I guess that is it easier to look at somebody like am i going to enjoy your company damn that's a good point you know i gotta be able to have fun with you or be bored with you

be silent with you do you like to travel where have you been do you want to go back like things like that and that's where sometimes the intimidation thing happens because i've been everywhere i made it a point to go everywhere i love it i love to travel i've been italy six times And when I ask, you're half Italian, have you been to Italy? No. I don't come. You need to go. You could get him to go.

You can encourage each other to do things. But it is interesting. The intimidation thing I didn't think about. Yeah. Right. Yeah. What does that say? I mean, you're meeting grown men who've had sometimes relationships and families and careers,

but they are intimidated by just your life experience. Just by my present, like a lot of men through my life, because I would ask my girlfriend's husbands and all that I'm good friends with, what is wrong with me? Why? Susan, you're very intimidating. Why? As soon as you speak to me, I know, you guys know, I'm warm. I'm easy to talk to. I'm fun. Isn't it about control, doesn't, in a certain of some men, and, you know, they like to be in charge. And I think they know if they dated you, they wouldn't be. maybe i mean i'd like to be in charge a little bit certain way i'm running through my mind here how we talk about her warmth there's nothing but warmth that came but we're also not looking at her in that way i don't know it probably is intimidating i mean you i'm to say i mean you robs we talk about this you can be intimidating women who are who are just frankly independent who are that confident

who are that strong, who are that, who frankly sometimes isn't a damsel in distress. You're exactly right. Neither one of you two. If I, if this place is on fire, I would just say, all right, Sue, I'll see you outside. You don't need saving. Oh, no, no, no. See, that you just blew it. You just, that's a big no.

Right. You run and say, honey, let me get you out first. And then you'll say, I got it. He actually, actually to defend what he just said about himself, he would. And when we have had moments where there have been, we had one in particular where there was a dangerous thing. He immediately thought of me first versus himself. He protested you. As a man should.

He did. And he passed a test without anything to realize. So you did. Of being self-deprecating. And the point, even something as simple as you putting your luggage in the bin, in the airplane. She, I used to try to run and go help her do it. And she always, I got it, I got it. And that's fine.

I let you do it now, though. Yeah, I would too. Mine's always heavy. Right. But if it's intimidating to a guy, you all are those two people who, yes, you want, send the flowers, save me from the building, help me with my bag. But trust me, I can buy my own flowers. I can carry my own bag. Yes, we can, but we love it when you do it. Exactly. But you all are so outward. You two at least are in your strength. So are you suggesting that I lower it a little bit, be a little bit more soft-spoken and let someone. Nobody else take the lead? You don't want a guy if he can't deal. If he can't handle you, this real you, you don't want him anyway.

It might last for a little while, but at some point he'll not. Yeah. You have to, and there are plenty of men out there who appreciate strong women and who. Need one. Yeah, who need strong women, who had moms who were strong women, you know. And so they are actually seeking that out whether they realize it or not. But they're not everywhere. And I remember there were always.

a lot of men out there who I just knew immediately, like, there's no way they would be. It's not going to work. I ask myself that everyday, Susan, if I can't be doing for a day. Are you considering Susan doing anything different, switching anything up? Stop looking again. I mean, I wanted to try to go back on it. I joined, like, that Match.com for not even a month. It was a week, and I already deleted everything.

The profile was like, oh, I can't. I just can't do this. I am happy. I do want to find my person to get old with. I do. But I can't, I don't know, I don't want to say lower myself. That's the terrible freeze, but sit online and search through these pictures and these profiles and be judgmental. It's like, this is not healthy.

I'm all over the place. Why can't I meet somebody walking to the airport or in the grocery store? squeezing the fresh fruit to that point do you I'm curious because I struggle I would struggle with this if I weren't in a relationship but might push myself in this direction

do you go to restaurants by yourself do you have yeah to establishments alone and I won't pick up my phone it's like a job do not get on the phone do you know how weird it is sitting there

by yourself and there's all these 40-somethings and they're coupled and some people will chat once and a while a few words or I'll try to make fun with the bartender just to have a conversation and then I start feeling weird yeah and as long as there's food and a glass of wine I'm good when you're sitting there waiting it's like okay what do I do now I do this I like I enjoy what you just describe leave the phone down and just take it all in around you and enjoy a meal with peace i i don't mind it at all obviously i'm not there trying to date but it's i know what you mean i don't mind it either i'm not i'm perfectly comfortable but you're hoping that somebody looks at you right well you don't because you have your person but when you're alone you're like and i'm looking

around thinking they're way too young they're all with people just enjoy your meal susan Susan, would you vacation alone or have you vacationed alone? I have. When I was living in Philadelphia in the city, it was New Year's Day, and I was with my most favorite gays, and I was always with them every holiday. And I was the other one, the third one, you know, and I woke up New Year's Day and said, you know what, guys, I'm going to take myself to Italy for 15 days. I'm going to give six months to plan it, and I'm going. And it was like huge for me. And I did.

When I landed, oh, my gosh. This most handsome man with my name on him, I'm going to, oh, my God. I mean, he could have been my son, of course. And he takes me in the little water taxi. I was in Venice and drops me off. And I get up to this little tiny room and I thought, oh, what did I do? What do I do now? Yeah.

And that's when it began. My journey, it was fabulous. But there was so many times, so many moments that I wished I was sharing it with somebody. I'm like a hopeless romantic. I love romance. You know, I just, I got even emotional thinking about it because I feel the same way. Like, I can be alone. But when you experience something beautiful or watchful or fun or funny, you want to share it with someone.

Yes, yes, that's my issue. That's what was missing. I mean, I had the time of my life, and it empowered me in so many ways. It wasn't too long after that eat, pray, love, and I thought, where should I get next? Oh, my goodness. I know, I think it's one of those dreams that sounds amazing and is, but so scary to actually put into practice. I traveled a lot alone for work, and I did have moments where I was like, okay, I was alone in this mansion that I had and put up in and no one else ended up staying there on like in the seychelles with the indian ocean

pounding blocks below me and i just thought you're like why am i by myself your place alone for three weeks nobody's going to believe this right i would have gone wow this is awesome i have you should have called me aim i would join you but actually the truth is i was married at the time and those that those three weeks gave me clarity like of what i knew i wanted to do which was of and my merit. Well, you're in touch with yourself and you have time. What am I doing? Am I happy?

Where do I want to be? Yeah. No, there's a lot of aha moments that can come in those moments of solitude. But I know you're looking for that person. So you said, I mean, obviously you went on to Facebook and that has borne some fruit. We'll see what happens. Do you have a strategy, a plan of attack for this new? year for 2025 to find love? No. No, it's more about, I have some good news I'm going to share.

So I was opening an email and I never even heard of I-O-A-T-P, the international organization of top professionals, and I will be announced shortly that I've been nominated for the officiant of the year of 2025. Wow. I'm so excited. So there's a big photo shoot in New York under the NASDAQ building. My picture will be up there and they'll do a photo shoot. And it's a huge, it's all over the world. Like watching the videos from last year, this year it'll be in December in Las Vegas. And the people, like every walk of life and it's dripping and gowns and gorgeous.

And I'm like, oh, my God, this is me. I'm going to. So I'm tickled. Yeah. Tell us how you earned the honor, how you earned the award. I don't know who nominated me, but they said that they have watched and what I've shared with the public and what I do and my talk. You know, I'm all about empowering women that are over the age of 50 or 60 that we still have a light. There's so many possibilities. I mean, look at me. Who'd have thought? My boyfriend's professor is way too friendly, and now I'm seriously suspicious.

Well, wait a minute, Sam, maybe her boyfriend's just looking for extra credit. Well, Dakota, it's back to school week on the OK Storytime podcast, so we'll find out soon. This person writes, my boyfriend has been hanging out with his young professor a lot. He doesn't think it's a problem, but I don't trust her. Now, he's insisting we get to know each other, but I just want her gone. Now, hold up. Isn't that against school policy? That sounds totally inappropriate.

Well, according to this person, this is her boyfriend's former professor, and they're the same age. It's even more likely that they're cheating. He insists there's nothing between them. I mean, do you believe him? Well, he's certainly trying to get this person to believe him because he now wants them both to meet. So, do we find out if this person's boyfriend really cheated with his professor or not? To hear the explosive finale, listen to the OK Storytime podcast on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast. I'm Dr. Joy Harden Bradford.

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on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Presented by Capital One, founding partner of IHeart Women's Sports. Hi, my name is Enya Eumanzor. And I'm Drew Phillips. And we run a podcast called Emergency Intercom. If you're a crime junkie and you love crimes, we're not the podcast for you. But if you have unmedicated ADHD... Oh my God, perfect.

And want to hear people with mental illness, psychobabble. Yes, yes. Then Emergency Intercom is the podcast for you. Open your free IHeartRadio app. Search Emergency Intercom and listen now. you are forever optimistic even if something didn't go your way or this isn't happening the way you want and we've talked about that from personal and professional aspects of your life you are eternally optimistic and upbeat and just everything you say and your energy folks can't

see you right now but from the moment you just you're bursting right you're just that smile yeah Yeah, you're always there. So we have. I'm not kidding. We don't make a lot of new friends on purpose these days. Yeah, right, right. You know a lot of people, but friends are, yes. You're one of our favorite, favorite new people.

Thank you. It really is a treat to have gotten to know you as much as we have over the past year plus. Yeah. And people that are gloomy and do me, like I've separated myself from people that I've known since grade school that we're still friends, but I choose not to, because I tried. try to convince them, look at the brighter side. I'm so, such a believer in positive attracts positive and what you put out there, you're going to get right back at you. So if you feel a little negativity, be aware of it. Stop and rephrase it and change the thought. I mean, it really works. It totally does. I am such a believer in positive energy and it's so easy to start

complaining and we all do it. But I try to like say, oh, do you hear what you just did or said? It's in your head, right? And just say, how can I find a positive in what I just said? Like, stop, erase. You can always find the positive. And yes, if you can find someone else who has that same goal, because we're not all always going to be positive.

No, I have moments. Trust me. Yeah. Clearly, we all do. But if you know that that is important and you recognize how important that is to your overall happiness and your mental well-being, that's key to finding a person. And it gets you through the down parts, the sad parts. You know, it's got to get better. I was once asked this question, and some people look at me like, well, you love yourself.

I said, no, it's true. How does this feel this new celebrity because you were on TV and now you're a star? I said, you know, I was a star the day I was born. It's just time the rest of the world knows it. I mean, doing hair behind the chair for 40 years, you're a star. I perform every day in the salon when I worked in the salon. And I listen to people and help make people feel good about themselves. So it's a natural thing for me. I love that. You know, T.J., I don't know where you got it from, but you said to me, and you actually just said this, Susan, that you're looking for someone to grow old with. And T.J.'s like, you read somewhere that someone said, you should be looking for someone to stay young with.

And I feel like that's what you're looking for. Oh, I like that. Thank you. Ooh, that was like a goose bump movement. But it makes sense for it's hard to find folks like you anywhere who look at life that way, that I am just trying to be a kid for as long as I can. And that's what we all should be trying to do. So that is going to be a challenge for you.

Because most people just aren't built like that. I'll never grow up, though. I mean, I know, right? Proudly displaying or showing or talking about your Peter Pan syndrome. We're all responsible adults, but I have always tried to be in touch with my inner child. I try to slide across the floor. That's fun, yes. Check up the music and dance, right?

You know, oh my God, wait a minute, wait a minute, we forgot to ask, Jesus, cramming, who the hell is this Jack guy? Oh, yeah. Oh, Jack, God bless Jack. What's with you and Jack? The world thought, Susan and Jack, Susan and Jack, Jack. Jack likes to cook like I do. Jack was on a bachelor's. Jones Bachelorette.

Yes. Yes. And we did meet, and he'd be a great friend. Then why does everybody else think, you'll be great? Because we're both loud and we're both Italian and we both like to cook and we're both funny at times. So, yeah. That all sounds good to me. Two of the same as maybe not so good.

Okay. I hear you. That makes sense. That makes sense. But actually, too, like, thinking about that pool of men who all put themselves out there in these seasons. I mean, have you had the opportunity to, like, you know, in the other, I don't know, the other reality seasons, they have, like, the people who didn't get picked all go to an island together and, like, you know, whatever, in paradise, whatever, they have different. It's coming. It's coming.

So they said, rumor has it. So you can't, this is not. Rumer has it. But rumor has it. They're thinking about some golden paradise. And the first thing I said, of course, was we're not going to Mexico with bugs in no air condition. It's not going to work at our age.

It's so funny. I thought you were to say the first thing I said was count me in or sign me up. Well, they know I'll be in. Absolutely. I'm hoping it's like on a cruise ship or something. Wait, you want it to be on a cruise ship? I mean, better than bugs in no air. Yeah.

That's actually not a bad idea. That's like mixing one of our favorite. shows below deck with love island and then you're the bachelor and they just put them together and it's all the people who still are looking for love who didn't get chosen and put them all together and stir in a little bit of alcohol which always makes it extra fun and maybe some new meat too here's the issue women are not shy so those men that did not get chosen and they're all lovely men i've interviewed quite a few of them had them on our podcast and got to know them, and they're great guys. Most of them are taken. Their DMs blew up,

and I remember them saying it to us. Don't worry, ladies, when you get off here, you're going to get so many people asking you out, and we didn't. But the men did. Men, my age, aren't really on Instagram and social media. You're lucky if you get a Facebook, you know what I mean? And they're not doing that, but women do. We're all on social. media. So they've reached out. I know some one of them told me he had like 500 messages like people asking them out. And quite a few of them are in relationships. You know, Mark is with somebody and Jonathan is with somebody. Jordan's with somebody. Who's left? Maybe we need some new meat on this golden thing if there is one. I'm sound bad. Have you gone through that list of guys

because they've been vetted? I mean, have you I mean, you almost just put their names on a list and start checking them off. Okay, he's taking, he's taking, he's ugly, he's ugly, or whatever. But have you done that? Yeah. Yes. Absolutely. Those are obvious, obvious possibilities because they've said, hey, I'm looking for love as well. I'm older. I want, I want this. But they were looking for Joan with the long, blonde hair and the nice, thin, perfect body, and I'm not Joan. Joan is quiet. Joan is soft-spoken. And if I were the Golden Bachelorette,

it would be one hell of a show. We have a ball. I would love to see the guys they bring your way, right? But I think they did a great job choosing men. She had some very, very nice men. What would they get for Susan? Oh, her rose ceremony. Some of the guys would probably give the rose back.

Like, uh-uh, I can't take no bonds. Oh, God. But do you know, there's that other show? side of me, that romantic, soft, loving side of me. But for the most part, I like to have fun. I like to smile. And you need people to know that because you want to have somebody who's willing to have fun, too, or it's no fun, no fun. Have you told us what your, do you have an ideal man in your mind or like a way to describe who would be your perfect guy? somebody that's kind to everyone especially the person waiting on you at a table that i judge people

when they don't treat people with respect that's the biggest thing um physically i'd like them to be taller than i mean that's for sure even though i'm starting to shrink now so it's not such a bad thing but i like a tall man i like a man that's confident and can laugh. Yeah, I'm not asking for all that much. Confidence, tall as and she is. Yeah. That's tough.

I'm sure you know 100 of them, right? I mean, but folks, if you're listening, this is serious. If there's someone you know that you think is perfect for Susan, we absolutely want you to reach out to us. We are not kidding here. You can call us and email us. Follow us on the social media. All the sites we have.

All the information is going to be in the show, notes as well, rate and review the podcast, but if you think you know someone who is kind, who is, what was it? Confidence. And how tall are you, Susan? I'm 5'6. 6 foot. Perfect.

I was it at least 5'8. Oh, no. Oh, we want a 6 footer. Because you have heels on. What happens? Okay, six feet. I get it. Okay, so he's, you're 6 feet. I mean, what the heels? How tall are you with the hills? I guess 5.9. Okay. So, if you know, Most of my who's five, nine and a half and a buck.

Please reach out. You know what? If he's the right person, I don't care how tall he is, I'm way past that. Well, Susan, we are hoping that 2025 is your year and so many others who are listening to us. But it's always a pleasure to see you. And hey, when you do come to New York, please, please, please, please. I'm coming tomorrow, actually. Sarah B. living abundantly.

Do you know that? that show? No. I'm doing, I'm going to co-host. I'm going to co-host and we're doing four shows. Yeah. Okay. So you're spending the night? No, unfortunately, I have to fly to Florida and do a wedding the very next day. No, that mercy. It's not on course. And then we're going to Carmel. Are you coming to Carmel? Carmel? Did we get invited to Carmel? Yeah. We did. Yeah, I believe you did. I didn't get the invite soon. Amy, because you weren't there when I met his daughter, which, oh my God, I fell in love with her. I had her cracking up. She probably thinks I'm not. I love that. I sat right next to her, Amy, and I'm like, okay, I know I don't

dance like you, but I like this song. What do you think? We have fun. But that's the night. I think you guys were invited. I'm sorry. It was me. That's my bad. That's all me. Okay, introvert. Always ask me because as the extrovert, I will. I should have text you. I will. Yes. That's on me. Yeah, so we're going to get to play right near Pebble Beach there. Wait, you have to see Guy, the one that was the last one to go on Jones season. He has gone crazy. He went out and bought new clubs. He's taking golf lessons.

He had a whole new outfit, new shoes. I said, where do you think you're going? It's colds. He wants to look good. He wants to play well. He's waiting for all those DMs to come into his Instagram feed. He had a photo shoot for going to sake. I go, you are so handsome.

I mean, he's so funny and sweet. He's a nice guy. I don't know. I think maybe he's wanting to be the next bachelor or something. Yeah. Well, we shall see. Susan, Susan, thank you so much for spending some time with us. We want to let everyone know that I do part two is an I-heart radio podcast.

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