The Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous Podcast - Losing It with Colton Underwood

Episode Date: January 15, 2019

The Bachelor himself, Colton Underwood is here with Ben and Ashley, and he’s answering ALL your questions.Ashley and Colton compare their experiences of being Bachelor virgins, and we find out if he wished he had lost his virginity BEFORE going the show. Also, we hear how he’s been handling the constant virgin talk. We find out why he sent the Sloth Girl home, and then we talk to the Sloth to get her side! And we find out an exclusive secret from Colton about what happened in the shower! Plus, Ben and Ashley break down all the details from Kaitlyn and Jason’s new relationship, and a happy event in Bachelor nation, Arie and Lauren’s Maui wedding! Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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You've gotten nervous for the past almost two years? Yeah, I get really anxious sometimes for this thing. Wow. Sometimes we just have really big guests on. I don't feel like we have that today, so it's not a huge deal. But, yeah, sometimes you have such big guests on that I get, like, my hands get a little sweaty. We'll introduce our guests a little bit, but before we do that, Ashley and I've got to run down through this episode. The Bachelor season has started.

This is episode two of Colton's season to find love. Ashley. Yeah. Let's start with the first group date. The first group rate from episode two? From episode two. Okay. What do you think?

So, again, I thought that the Megan allow, well, Malawi and Nick Offerman. thing is kind of yucky i didn't i didn't love their part i loved the part when the girls started getting on stage the red head alice hers was bomb i thought colton's was awesome colton's part of that date made all the virginity talk tasteful but megamilowie nick off of made it's so cringy I was, like, frowning through the entire thing. I just didn't like it. It was so not Bachelor. You know, it wasn't wholesome at all.

No, it felt weird. That's their thing. And they're funny, like, they're witty. They're funny. They work off each other well. And I'm sure, like, if you were there, probably, uh, felt like a little more, like, less, like, just intrusive and more, like, flowy and fun. I'm with you.

I love dates on the bachelor that first off put people out of their comfort zones, but second off you actually get to like know them as people and I thought this when I first heard the idea when they when they first announced oh this is a date to talk about your first I was like this is ridiculous same I've been waiting for this time I know but then when the women got on stage it wasn't just about virginity and it wasn't just about sex and it didn't have to be about that it was like here's my first time feeling pain here's my first time feeling love here's my first time we whatever and I was like this is what I love and I bet uh it's If we ever get the chance to talk to Colton, I bet like that was a really good moment for him because I know when I was The Bachelor, those moments broke through like the traditional kind of date and allowed you to get to know the women really well.

You know, Ben, it kind of reminded me of what I've always told you was the moment that I thought you shine for the first time. It was the sex talk date with the kids. And it's like it's like a, it's a sex topic, right? But then you made it so wholesome. And that's what the girls on stage and Colton on the stage did. But I thought Nick and Megan, I thought she looked fantastic. But I don't think their bit went well with the back ABC. She did look good.

I've never thought she looked good. She looked hot. She's like de-aging. Yeah. Nick kind of looked good too. He's a funny guy. I was with him at the Cubs game last year. He's a Cubs fan.

So I like him. He looked good too. You know, the women shine. We're getting a little hit here. Ashley, we're starting to see the suburb. of the crazies come out before we move on to the next date here what's your thoughts is is demi crazy is she just obsessed with colton what is her thing because we haven't quite like it's not very clear yet demi's the classic girl who's like i'm so mature even though i'm young but she's definitely

the most immature of the group yeah it's weird and she keeps wanting to bring it up it makes it It's a little awkward. All right, let's move on. We've got then the first one-on-one date really hard to watch, like really hard to watch. I hate when The Bachelor makes things awkward. Like, I mean, I'm sure it was awkward in real life. I'm sure it felt weird in real life, but when you watch it on TV and it's like played out and there's just moments of silence where you're sitting in a room watching a television screen, you know how I've said it many times and everybody on the podcast listening will know this. You know those moments like watching saved by the bell as a kid. We had to put your hand over your

face and you kind of look through your fingers because you can't watch anymore that's how i felt okay so i try to put myself in hannah's shoes and i remember how awkward those particular dates are because it's dead silent like you're not even like by the ocean where there's sound of waves like there was just it was just desolate silence and then i think it always makes you feel more awkward and more self-conscious about everything that comes out of your mouth so i'm giving her the benefit of your mouth so i'm giving her the benefit of the doubt there i get it i do have to give uh colton credit here and i have to give her credit this is something that i that i really think was good i was waiting to see what colt how colton would respond um to these situations like this do you kiss right away so as soon as it starts

getting quiet do you lean in and just start making out because a lot of times he did it he did it not on this date he did one one other time but on this date he held his own and just sat in it he sat in the awkwardness and I think that was a power I think it's a great move for both of them like let's just sit here and make this thing work and if it's not then we're just done yeah well what got her out of her shell to open up was of course bringing up the virginity topic again really we I thought we already got the explanation as to why he's a virgin in episode one from a girl whose name I don't remember but I thought we got like the explanation and we weren't going to have to explain it anymore and it was going to be done and then I was even thinking I was like I think we've gone 15 10 10 15 minutes without bringing up the word virgin and there she goes that was her in on getting herself to open up and I was like come on be more creative than that you totally took like the easy way out but Ashley yeah listen did she get the explanation so she so she didn't see it I get why she asked it's a thing but coldness so many things going for me ask him about his big muscles ask him about you know

his perfect jawline like ask him something else don't ask him about being a virgin it's that you just be creative like she knows everybody else is asking it and if i was a girl on the bachelor right now i'd just try to get creative me too like how about you come up with something like what's your most embarrassing moment like that that opens up a vulnerable story yeah i i'm not against it um all right next group date moving on here um you like this group date i like the first first group days more, but I liked, I like these physical activity group dates. I like the ones that people can get sweaty, dirty, and that, you know what, it kind of breaks down those walls as well. Yeah. I like the first one better because it's more like an emotional opener, but, and you,

you can tell more about the personality. I'm not, you know that I'm not a lover of physical group dates, but I loved Heather's moment on this group day. It was so cute. I don't know why she was so nervous telling Colton that she's never been kissed before because I'm pretty sure. he was going to feel a big sense of relief that there was somebody there that was more an experience than him. More pure than the guy himself. I mean, I'm telling you, I was kissing girls in the sixth grade. Like how she's made it this long, I don't know, but good on her.

Anytime those stories come up, like, pretty proud of him, but... My first kiss was 19, so I was like, girl, don't worry. And I'm going to definitely ask Colton this if we ever have him on when his first kiss was. Well, lucky enough, ladies and gentlemen, Boys and girls, people of all ages, Ashley and I are lucky enough to welcome on the guest to this podcast, the man himself, the Bachelor of All Time, Colton, Underwood. Hi, Colin. Why did we make that a secret the entire time? It's in the description of the podcast. We're

just so corny. I was just sitting here listening, you compliment me on my big muscles. Yeah. Well, don't listen to all. Yeah, don't listen to all that. Colton, welcome to the podcast. Thanks for coming on. Take a deep breath. I know you got a busy day. You've been doing press and, you know, all this promotion stuff for weeks now. And so just hang out with Ashton. You've been on before. You're pro at this. Colton, let's get started. How are you holding up? You know, I'm actually, I'm good. I got these last two days, I got some sleep. So we're all good. Traveling back and forth obviously is tough. But I actually enjoy it. I really like the hustle and the grind. Do you really? Like, this full, tell the listeners out there. I know Ashley can relate on this, but tell the listeners out there kind of what your schedule has looked like post-Bachelor. Yeah. There's been obviously set press days here in L.A., whether it's conference calls, whether it's remotes where you just have a camera and other people like sort of tap into the feed.

It's long hours, I'm not going to lie. And then it's always, you always have to be on, right? And not that I change who I am, but when you're on and present and, you know, if I do an interview and I, like, look tired and draggy, like, they could take my comments and twist them another way. So that part's, I guess, like, a little exhausting going back and forth between New York. That's the most draining thing. Yes. It's just turning yourself on. It's like, I love this.

I know. And it's not like you're changing who you are, but it's like happy, having to be bubbly and happy. Your best self all the time. Always. Yeah. Always. But, no, I'm, I got lots of sleep. I'm ready to be happy and bubbly for you guys today.

Oh, geez. Turn it off, man. We want the worst version of you. That would do so well for us. If we could just get you angry and mad and irritated. I don't think I could ever be mad at you, Ben. Well, come on, Colton. Let's not start throwing compliments there, even though, man, you look good right now.

Hey, we're sitting in, this is one thing I do want to take a second. Colton, this is all about you. And this whole season's about you. It should be about you. This podcast is about you. Lash and I literally make our living because of you right now. but thank you colton i do want to take a second and you brought up a really good topic that we sit and we use ryan cress studio for this podcast right and we're sitting in there right now there's a

big sign of his name being you know you aren't an entertainment like you're not an entertainer you are yourself on this show and people love you because you're yourself and you're dating these women because you're yourself but when you do the press and you do talk to people you have to be like you can't have a bad day and like the ryan see crest of the world They do radio and TV every day. They can't have a bad day. I need to ask you, Colton, like, is it at all draining on you? And be honest, like, do you feel like it all?

Because I know for me, when I was in your situation, I felt like at some level, my soul wasn't getting sucked, but I just couldn't be myself. And it hurt, and it started to feel like I was a robot. 100%. And I've had my days. I've had my breakdowns. I'll self-admit that, whether it's, and you know, I try to see. say like and I've even said before like oh I don't pay attention to that yeah I'm lying

um I mean I've read the comments I've read the tweets I've yeah I've read things I probably should have stayed away from so of course it gets to be too much at times um and I think the one thing that I have to keep reminding myself is like this doesn't like this all right now is so much fun and I'm having a blast with it but it doesn't define who I am as a person um and I think one one piece of advice been that you gave me a long time ago that it really sticks with me is letting this enhance my life and letting this provide opportunities and meeting crazy people

and really using it to enhance my life and not define my life. Yeah, I mean, Chris Harrison gave me that advice. Smart man he is, the host of the show. And I've been passing it down to any Bachelor or Bachelor I can. It's the main thing that stuck with me from our conversations before I even started

going on The Bachelor. It's a wild world. Ashley and I obviously sit here and we talk about you every week and people are celebrating you. Ashley, as you sit there and you watch Colton so far this year, I think I want to know from you,

what are some things in the first two episodes that have stood out to you that you really enjoy about Colton? But we just played footsie, so. Yeah, I know. I don't know why. She gave me eye contact. I was like, oops, sorry.

What have I really enjoyed about Colton? Okay, Colton, I hope you take this as a comment. I appreciate your. nerves night one it was so endearing and it made me feel like you're a regular person and not like this like male model robot yeah i was actually a lot i was way more nervous than i thought i was gonna be yeah i thought like and here was like one thing that i realized and i realized it more as like filming went on i came into it having filmed the bachelorette went to paradise and then went straight into the bachelor so i'm back to back to back i came in like okay i got this like this is how

this goes this is this camera operator this is this audio guy like I felt super comfortable but still the sense of the reality of me meeting 30 women like that's obviously nobody can prepare you for that nothing no experience can prepare you for that and I think like I just realized I don't have it all figured out and I think that's a beauty of what you know how this this season is it seems so real it was like a real guy meeting 30 women not some but I know I just like and then my other favorite thing about you is that you just you just are very easy to talk to i feel like looking at every other bachelor even you included ben you're like a little bit more intimidating because like i guess it's on the same wavelength like you're just more boyish and more i i just find you less intimidating

but in a good way thank you is that like is that offensive sounding no no not at all because like i feel like I could actually sit next to you the first night and be like just jivey. But with Ben, I'd probably be like, oh, my goodness, this man, he's so smooth and he knows exactly all the right things to say. Yeah. But like, I don't, I think I realize that too. It's like, I don't want people to say just the right things. And then question, oh, are you just saying that?

Because there's a camera in your face right, you know. Approachable. That's the word. Approachable. He's approachable. Well, and also I think it helps Colton that you've been so. vulnerable like i know we've we've hated you know over and over again hearing about you know what your history um in bed has been but it has made you vulnerable like it's forced you to be

authentic and genuine something that's maybe one of the things that most of us hide the most about ourselves or talk about the least yeah we've known about it for a long time i should probably mention that that's probably why i find colton the most approachable because i went in on the bachelor being a virgin did you did you did you disclose that in casting? Yeah, did you? Uh-uh. No way. No, they didn't know. Oh, man. I had a home run. I could like for sure say like there is no way they knew because I didn't like I hadn't really told that many people and the people I did were like tight-lipped about it. So Beckett Tilley also didn't talk about it in casting. Yeah. I didn't I never thought it was going to be that big of a deal. Yeah.

I just casually talked about it in an interview or I think I was talking in one of my the man chats. and I brought it up and then it became like everybody you know everybody had their opinions on it which is what the show is right I mean people they like when people have opinions about certain things but I never I never thought it was going to be like this I don't even want to say powerful because it's not like that but it just it's like a label and that's the one thing that's driving me nuts the most about it now is just the label yeah and you can't get away with it they're focusing more it seems like on you finding your first unless you're of you finding your what? Or maybe they're one in the same. Or maybe they're one in the same. Hopefully. I mean, yeah,

that's the whole reason is this for me is like now where I'm at in my life. It's like when that moment happens, I want it to be with somebody who I could see myself spending the rest of my life with. Yeah. I think Ashley, you know, from the talks with you, Ash,

I bet you would agree. Hey, we got to take a second. We have a huge fan, a massive fan of Colton on the line right now who is called in. Steph P. Are you out there? I'm here. Hi. Hi, Steph. How are you?

Good. How are you guys? We're great. I'm like, thanks for having me on. I feel like I'm such a random person. Is that what do you guys are doing today? Talk to the random people calling it. We just heard you are a great, enthusiastic bachelor fan. That is in fact true. I love you guys. I love Bachelor. But you're a massive fan of Colton, correct? I'm a massive fan of everyone. But yes.

I love Colton, too. Thank you, Steph. Hi. What is it about Colton that you love so much? I think he seems like a very nice guy. You seem like one of the nicer bachelors, which is nice after, okay, I lied. I don't like everyone. I got to be honest.

I did not like R. I lied. I didn't like R. So it's really nice to have a nice bachelor back on who seems like a good person. Well, thank you. I appreciate that. I'll tell Ari what you said. too.

Go ahead. I'm kidding. I'll tell it, no, that's not sure I totally wouldn't say that too. We can't hate on R. He just got married this weekend. I mean, that's a massive deal. I'm sure he's, honestly, obviously,

he would not give a crap what I think about him. He's like, who's this chick? But I'm happy for him, as long as they're happy. Steph, I know there's something on your heart. I know there's something you're feeling deep inside. You have questions for Colton.

And so take it away. Okay. So, okay, here's my first leader one. And so I know you're probably sick of talking about this, Colton. I know you must be so sick of talking about how you're a virgin, but, or maybe you're not now. I don't even know. I have no clue. But on a scale of one to ten, how sick of you were talking about that?

I would say the hardest part for it right now. I knew it was obviously going to come up with my relationships with the ladies and the women on my show. The hardest part now, I think post show is like watching every single article have the headline of Virgin Bachelor. I think that's what is sort of tough for me because I've gone through it in my life before with football is like I've dealt with my family and my relationships with my friends being dependent on, oh, how's next season going to go? So I've already been in a comparable situation where people want to define me and stick me in the box of, you know, well, now it's Virgin Bachelor before it was Football Colton. And they just act like there's nothing more to. me. Yeah, that sucks. I get that. I guess, well, do you think, does it annoy me that? Do you think that they, like, picked you because of that? And you're kind of like, there's more to me than this.

Like, stop. I mean, I'm not in a position to say why exactly they picked me. Is this part of, is this part of the storyline? Is people going, are people going to be invested in it? Absolutely. I hope that that's not the only reason that they picked me. And I mean, I just, I think there, There is a lot more to me. There is a lot more information to be said about the virginity, and you will find it out on this season. Oh, good. Ooh, I can't wait.

Because I was so, I don't know how much you guys, I don't know how much you guys know about me or not, but I'm a fitness instructor. So today in class, I was telling everyone that was going to be on the show, and that was like, I was like, what do you guys want to know the most? Like, what? Because most of my writers are big fans, too. And we're all in like a fantasy league together that I'm losing already, which I'm very embarrassed about.

But one thing we were all wondering, we're like, do you? wish after all this do you wish you lost your virginity earlier during someone who you were maybe in love with in your past that it was just not this whole thing or are you like a no regret whatever you know type of person just move on i think in regards to my virginity i stand by the man who i was i stand by the man who i am today um and i feel like you know it's made me not only like while i say it's such a small part of who i am i just think it's a set of morals a set of values that I've carried in my personal life for so long now that I don't regret the decision that I made.

I don't regret talking about it on national TV. I just never thought I would get to this point. Wait, I have something to say about this because after I got off The Bachelor, I was like, oh, I just wish I hadn't gone in like that. I wish that I really, I had a moment where I wish that I had lost it to somebody that I was seeing before the show. And I was like, that was a huge mistake. like he was the one I wanted to really do that with and now this is all out there and now there's

so much pressure on me from other guys like every guy I'm going to date going forward is going going to know this and it's going to turn a lot of guys off yeah but it's going to turn it's going to turn the wrong I know I mean just so for years I was like people would tell me that yeah and I'd be like oh I know I know but then you know when you get old and you do find the right relationship, then you like, no, that that's really what you should stick to. You need to keep reminding yourself that as annoying as it is. No, and the whole topic of it, as a whole, I'm not annoyed.

I'm annoyed by the cheapening of it. I'm annoyed when it's just used as clickbait or when people want to bring it up sort of in a cheap way or take shots at it or discredit it. Like, I'm not, like, I didn't open up about it to say, say like hey I'm better than this person it's just part it's just like if I'm if you're going to get to know who I am like that's just part of me do people ever think that you're that you are like this I don't know how I'm going to say this it like the opposite of virgin shaming people say that if like

throw it in their face yeah they're like you think you're better me might you are pure no like that's a thing like I don't really talk about it that much I talk about when it's appropriate in the relationship. Obviously, I talk about it on the show, but I don't have final say, like, what sound bites get used and stuff. So, I mean, that's a whole other conversation. But, I mean, I don't walk around and wear it, like, on my chest like that. I'll admit to it. I'll own who I am as a person, but I'm not leading any type of conversation.

That's why, like, you didn't hear me talk to Becca about it until it was appropriate, until it was a week before hometown. So she had to make a decision whether she wanted to move our relationship forward or not. Yeah, it was totally the appropriate time. Yeah, I'm not going to just hit him with it night one, you know. Yeah. Hey, Steph, I know you're still out there. Anything else you want to ask Colton before you go? Sure.

What about, okay, here's one thing that did upset me about your first night or the first episode. Why do you get rid of the sloth? She was my favorite. I'm a big chemistry and connection guy, and it just wasn't there. It's one of those things that's hard to really explain, but when you have a feeling. And also keep in mind, there's 29 other. They're incredible women as well. So it just all for me came down to chemistry and connection.

I respect the move. I respect how in character she was the whole entire night. And I know it's not easy staying in that outfit because she had to stay in that the whole night. She was warm. It's cold. I know. Yeah, she seemed as it was warm in the tree crawling around, whatever she was doing. Yeah, but you know what?

I'll say that. I personally, I mad respect. She stayed in character the whole time. Well, you do have a lot of good girls to choose from the season. Yeah, he does. Absolutely. Well, I have a special announcement to make. The Sloth will be on during the last segment of the show today.

Oh, my gosh. Yes. Like that, I really, I love the entrance so much. I always think if I ever went on the show, which I wouldn't because I'm married. But I would do something crazy and weird like that. It was like, that girl's my girl. Hey, Steph, thank you so much for on the podcast. Thanks for having me, you guys.

Can't wait to watch tonight, Colton. Thank you. I can't wait to watch, too. Bye. Okay, Colton, I want to just revisit the fact that you didn't bring it up in casting and that you brought it up when you were just having a casual conversation in the house. Yeah. Did you get used to having these casual conversations?

Because like last night, you talked about how you told one of your teammates when he just asked you the question point blank. And you're like, I was searching for a lie, honestly. And then you just came out with the truth, which is a scenario that. that I was in a zillion times. Whenever the topic of sex would come up anywhere in school with my friends. Straight to lying? Or did you pivot? I would pivot.

I'd be like, if it was a girl talk, I'd be like, does anybody need any water? And like, I'd get up to go to the fridge. Or like, I got to go to the bathroom and, you know, I'd just walk away from the conversation. I was the same. Or I got super quiet and it was just so awkward. People must have been like, why doesn't she ever participate in these conversations? So did you get used to it before going to the bachelor house? about talking and talking about it yeah no but this is the like the reason the whole reason why

i wanted to do the bachelor and i went on was it was a point in my life where i just wanted to start coming into my own i want to start owning who i was as a person and i wanted to start like really focusing on my personal life so that was just one of those moments where i'm like all right i'm in like i'm in this let's do this i got to work and i got to like i have to continue to push myself and i think you and i have talked about it before i don't even know where I would be personally like oh the growth that you have on these shows is unbelievable it's so insane i'm sure ben you you've been through it too i don't even know if i would have been able to start dating it just changes the way it changes the way that you go about every other conversation

in your personal life whether you're dating them or not it's just it's so refreshing to be direct say what's on your mind and then also just not be afraid to be vulnerable like if like i i don't know now now it's just like my friendships have even gotten stronger we went from one extreme being totally secret of it to be like, okay, you can ask me, I'm an open book. I'll tell you everything. Yeah. And I think it's, I think it's a better, healthier way to live. Yes. Every date I start out with now, I start out with, hi, I'm Ben. Did you know at one point I was the bachelor? Hey, before we continue, Ashley, something that's on your mind and something you're really proud of, something you love very much, you have to tell our fans about.

Jared and I went to Janer Manor, Part 2 this weekend down in Orange County, California. And everything in their house is from crate and barrel. Because we found out that they had a crate and barrel registry for their wedding. And we're like, where'd you get that? Crate and Barrel. And we're like, where'd you get that? Crater Barrel. I'm like, wow, we got to put all this stuff on our registry because it's so nice.

What I love about crate and barrel and having a crate and barrel registry is that all the pieces are timeless and they evolve with your style. Just like Jay and Tanner were able to go from one house with the same decor and plates and glasses. as they were in their new house, which is a little bit of a different style. And crate and barrel also makes entertaining effortless. You should have seen how Jade was just able to, like, make breakfast and put everything out in, like, the most beautiful layout with all her crate and barrel products that they got from their registry.

Also, they have amazing beds, and Jared and I were like, that's something we forgot to put on our registry. We need new duvets. pillows, bath towels, all that stuff is so nice from crate and barrel. Jared and I love to come home and unwind after we're busy day. We look forward to just coming home sitting on the couch or lying in bed and we wanted to look as good as it feels and that is the perfect combination that we get with crate and barrel stuff. So whether we are lounging at home, just the two of us or whether we're entertaining, crate and barrels got everything we need. You can start your

crate and barrel registry today at crate and barrel.com. Again, if you are preparing for a wedding, you can get your crate and barrel registry started today at crate and barrel.com. So when you did have that conversation and you were like, oh, actually, I've never slept beside somebody on Becca's season. Did they, like, pull you into an interview right away? Um, as far as what? They were like, oh my God, we just got amazing dirt on this guy.

No, no, because they knew about it because I brought it up in the house. Yeah, I know, no, I know. leading into it. Oh, you did? Yeah. So I didn't just drop. You were interviewing about it. I was interviewing and I think I was having a conversation with Jason. I don't know which one came first in the house and then they started yeah and then we just started having a conversation and like I said before like that's where the growth comes in is because the more that I realized like as you talk through things and they they kept asking me why like or what was it like how what did you do in your other relationship like how how is this dynamic and like for the first time I'm actually putting it

into words for myself to hear too. And I think that was, that's what was so cool about it. That was the question that I hit. Not only did I hate the question, when you'd have sex talks around you and you tried to avoid them, I not only dreaded just saying, I'm a virgin, I dreaded being, be having my friend be like, why? Yeah. How? Because I didn't really even know how to describe it.

Well, it's not, like for me, too, and I don't know about like you, but it's not a simple answer. No, it's not. I had like a whole bunch of different reasonings. exactly all pile of so like in and I think as our society is especially today and how um I don't I want to say this in a tasteful way not lazy but we just look for that simple we just look for the simple answer and move on yeah so if you have to think about it at all it just like okay well he must be lying or he must be doing this it's because you just don't want to put the effort in right to like actually understand or get to know the reason why and you just didn't want to be thought that you were weird I'm like don't I mean if I really were to explain this to you you wouldn't think I was weird but immediately you're going to think like what in the world is wrong with it right so well Colton I could talk about this forever

because Ben do you have any non-vergent questions that really that really we understand each other a lot on I get it I get it I'm glad you guys got to talk I know actually you've had a lot of thoughts I've known Colton you know you're a lot more than this conversation so I promise you one thing from here and out nothing we're going to talk about is going to be about you being a virgin I don't really want to hear about it I don't like

thinking about it I would never have brought it up if you didn't, you and I didn't have similar situations. Never. We would have never brought it up. It would have never been a conversation we would have. It's just more interesting because we both been identical situations except for you're the bachelor and I was never like the lead and I can't even imagine how annoyed. All right.

Okay. Okay. Okay. There we go. Colton. Yes. You're two weeks in. It's no secret to most that you've been through this now.

You're sitting here and you're talking about it. Do you still believe the Bachelor, Bachelor in Paradise? bachelor can find you or anybody else love a hundred percent I I will go to bat and I will back the franchise up until my last breath I prompt like I always said to and I don't do the apps I've watched and I have friends who have dating apps but I actually think what I've experienced on the bachelor and in paradise and on the bachelor has been some of the most real connections that I've I've ever had and where I think people can't because when the phones go away and you actually have a genuine conversation you talk about meaningful things

like it's so powerful how it can advance a relationship it really is it's it's just like microcosmous like space i was just telling somebody the other day um i've started dating again this is big news right i uh i am dating are you on an app no no no i'm actually dating one person that we'll talk about in a couple weeks on the podcast oh my god big reveal teaser teaser alert yeah so so just keep listening to that with me um what you know what why not and and so i'm about so here's the thing we were talking there and I was saying the bachelor is a really great thing because it is it forces you to have conversations and right now the girl that I'm talking to is long distance and so we face time a lot and it feels very similar because we don't get time together it's very intentional it's very focused and if we're gonna spend any time with each other it's going to be in conversation and she's like the best purest person I know and so like a lot of those conversations are about our lives so anyways Colton I think you're spot on I do believe also the show can find you love second question this is a two-part question uh so let me finish here i'm to say first the first part of this question is what's one thing that bothers you most about

watching yourself on tv you've had enough time now on teap television you've seen this and the second part of that is what makes you and i promise this is going to get better unlikable um i would say what bothers me the most on tv i just i think right now like just the constant conversations that even I'm articulating like with the virginity thing and how the sexual undertone of is of the whole show is like I had an idea of that before I went on but knowing like my grandma's watching and my aunts and my families and my little brothers like and that almost answers your other question too where it's unwatch like that's the part I'm just like sort of cringing when I hear myself even talk back like when I hear myself talking about it

that that hurts right like those intimate moments even the kissing I'm I remember I was watching episode four at my house in Warsaw with my parents and their friends, right? And so they had a watch party. I was able to get home for that. And so I was sitting watching my episode and there's just like really heated makeout scene, right? And so you can hear it. Like the show loves to like do the noise effects where it's like, mm-hmm. And I'm sitting there in this room full of like my family and my friends and my pastor, which is great.

I'm sure he's all for it. I have nothing against making out. But it feels weird. Oh, Ben, I did a watch party on The Bachelor at the Children's Hospital for my hometowns to celebrate. Like, I went back with the kids at Beck and I visited. And I completely like, I was like, oh, this is a great idea. Like, we'll tie it into like the same day. Like Beck and I was like, oh my gosh, I forgot to tell her.

I love her at the end of this. And like we have a full on makeout session. And I'm sitting there with like the kids and their parents. We're all watching them. So I was like, all right, we could go do something else now. Like we don't have to watch this part. Oh, you should definitely go watch it at the Children's Hospital for the shower scene that I've been seeing in all the previews that you have coming up.

You know how many showers I took? The one where the showers coming down and some girl jumps on you and you're holding her up. Ben, you ready for this? This is like a spoiler alert. We had a shower B-roll day. No. Pickups.

What? Yes, it was awesome. That's a lot. I don't mind watching the shower cool. And you're a good guy. You're real strong. Chiseled. Hey, okay, what makes you most likable?

What are you watching yourself? I remember when I was doing it, there was a couple things. I was like, you know what? You're carrying yourself well. You're doing all right. you're looking at them in the eye, you're intentional about your conversations. Ben, nice work. What is that about you?

I think like the one thing that I tried to do well on my season was sort of what you were talking about earlier. I had been through this before and I had been on the other side and I know at times it could be hard. I know at times it could be challenging to open up and you actually see that in the episode. I tried to make everybody feel as comfortable as they could so that I can get the best out of them and I can also get the best out of myself. So I really prided myself on trying to really relate to them without speaking for them. And I think there's a fine balance of that. But then, I mean, I also wanted to challenge them and push them too, where it's like, I don't want to have to carry the conversation. But I just feel like making sure that they were comfortable in our moments together was very important.

That's so poor. Yeah, that is. There's a couple of secrets. Ash, I don't know. What was it for you while you were doing the show, Ashley, or even now when you go on, you know, all these access Hollywood, all these things you do? what is it that makes you feel comfortable in front of the cameras? Experience. Yeah, I was going to say, just being used to it at this point.

Yeah. Yeah, I don't really think there's a trick. It all depends on whether it's live or not, too. I thought what we did last week with the live premiere was nerve-wracking. But taped things, you're like, oh, you know, I could cut that out. I thought you killed it, too, by the way. You and Jared are a good hosting team. Thank you.

Because I sat in the green room the whole time. Oh, thank you. I watched the show. I know, I saw that you liked my Instagram and commented under it. I was like, what is this man doing during his live premiere that he's still on Instagram? I was in a greener and being hit from the Hollywood party until like my big reveal at the end. So I actually got to sit and watch the show and it was really cool. Ben, you did really well too.

Your super fan was cute. Oh, she was adorable. Yeah. Not about two minutes, two minutes out there and I made the most of it. I screamed and I yelled and I picked her out. You did a great job. Oh, yes. This is a question for both of you.

Ashley, I'd love for you to answer this first. Colton, the answer is like, what makes a good bachelor? Colton goes first or I go first? No, I want you to go first. Oh, I think approachability makes a really good bachelor. I think somebody who brings out somebody who just makes all the girls as comfortable as possible. And does Colton do that? Yeah, that's what I was saying.

Honesty, that works. That's important. Attractiveness works. You need that. Ben, whatever you guys are, you two. Well, that's interesting you bring that up because before I left her filming,

I didn't, like, anything that I do, I try to do the best of my abilities and I try to do my homework. So I obviously watched Ben back. And because... Oh, was there any other season that you watched back?

I've watched, obviously, I watched Ari's, I watched Ben's, and I watched Nix. And one thing that I realized from talking to all three is like you're going to have your own experience with this and you're not going to do things perfectly all the time and everybody has their unique things so like as much as I wanted to be like oh I want to be like Ben in this moment it's like no I want to be Colton like I want to be true to who I am and if I make a mistake and if I say something wrong then I say

something wrong I'm going to own it and move on like what could you really say wrong I don't know I mean, if that's the thing is it's like, you, I could have done things better, though. Like, you could always do things better. Like, I'll, I'm looking back at this like, oh, man, I could have handled that conversation better. Really? Even these two episodes? Yeah, I mean, I think there's always obviously room for improvement, but like, I don't know. I will say, like, I just feel this season I stayed true to who I was through and through.

That's awesome. Well, that's the only thing. I mean, as you sit there and you talk to these women and you can walk away going, hey, I'm not done that perfectly. You know, you're not going into these. going, I'm going to be perfect. You're going in saying, I'm going to be Colton, or I'm going to be Ashley, and you hope to walk away feeling that same way. I think the one thing that you could do wrong, to answer that for both of you, I think arrogance and a lack of humility and this entitlement comes off terribly on the show. And I think you can see that. And I think the Bachelor and Bachelorette

oftentimes struggle with that because they get this big head. They go into it feeling like they're Prince Charming or, you know, that they're queen of the world. And it comes off on the show. Colton, you haven't shown that yet. I'm still waiting. Here's something I always bring up on this podcast. I think the best bachelors and bacheloretts. It's how they react to really hard situations. I was humbled on the show.

I got humbled. Did you? Yeah. There was a moment where, like I said, coming into it, I have this all figured out. I've been on two of these things before. Like, watch me do what I need to do. And I got, yeah, I was humbled.

Huh. I mean, I think that's exciting. I think for me, and Ashley, tell me if you disagree, I think for me that's not exciting to watch that's good for me to watch because it means it's real. That's a real moment. Humility and being humbled is an authentic genuine moment that you can't force or fake.

Yeah, I mean, it's just and that's when like it really got, I was obviously pushed the most to is when things didn't go my way. It's like adversity, right? And that's when you grow the most is when things don't go your way. Things are supposed to go your way as the bachelor though. But see, that's what everybody

thinks yeah but that's not always the case interesting interesting yeah all right my final question for you colton until i send it over to ash to plug away for a couple minutes here is what is the one thing colton now that you're sitting here in week two and the rest of the season is in front of you that you've learned from doing this whole experience it's hard to pick one i've learned i've learned so much obviously about myself that it's been so good of my needs and my wants in my life but i think just coming into my own as a person and as a human being and i'm still working on how i could be better um i think we always are but i just what this opportunity has done for me in my personal life and how comfortable i am owning who i am now has been like the the best thing about it hands down

I agree. I agree for you. That's awesome. That's really great. Hey, Ashley, before I send it over to you, I do have a question for anybody in the room. This can be anybody, one that we've wanted to ask and nobody knows anything about. Is the Bachelor Mansion going to be used ever again? Yeah, it's fine. It's fine. We have people in here that are confirming this for sure. I am my producers in here. Shout out to Lady Kay. She always kills it.

Lady Kay. Yeah. Yeah. Oh, I was, wait, Megan, you have a new haircut right now? Looks bomb. I read this, I don't know, it was like a meme or something, that the word virgin was mentioned so much this season that the devil who created the fires, this is like, we can't even go there. We can't even go hit that house. Oh, boy. It's sacred ground. Okay. Anyway, I have fun questions for you.

Are you ready? Yes. Is this Juergens tan that you have on right now? 100%. I use my Juergens face moisturizer this morning. He's a big fan of Jorgans. I think he's trying to get a sponsorship. This is unbelievable.

Oh, they've messaged me. Oh, they did? Yeah. We'd like to send you all the Juergen products you'd like. What's your favorite? Yeah, 100%. Awesome. I'm an Instagram influencer now, guys.

Come on. I got to step Megan up. It looks awesome. As my producer is, like, cringing over there. She's like, no. I like to break the fourth wall, you know? Yeah, me too. I wish they did that more every season.

Come on, Megan. I did too. I see Lady Kay, you do want to break that fourth wall more. It's so good. All right, let's go. All right, fun questions. Here we go. Ben's like stop.

Okay, yeah, I know. True or false, your monthly skincare routine cost $500. True, I just found that out. I actually just started using, like, what I was using, I didn't know how much it cost. So you were, wait, oh, okay, so another sponsored thing. No, no, well, the Bachelor blessed me with, you know, obviously hair and makeup. Yeah, oh, so then you got addicted to what they were giving you. Yeah, Gina.

Yeah. She's awesome. Yeah. Gina is the show's hair and makeup. Yeah. And she did an amazing job with all, like, the products and sitting down with me and, like, really finding out, like, what I like, what I feel comfortable using. She's the best. But then what she was using on me, like, I was like, I need this in, like, my daily life. So you saw a difference. 100%. That's awesome. Well, do you want to give a shout out to what you've been using? Juergens. Shout out to Juergens. Just Juergens. We're just getting sponsored by Jorgans right now. Well, I give you props for having an expensive skincare routine. I do too.

um let's talk about jason and katelyn your buddy jason yeah what what are those two together this week they've been very obvious that they're together he was on the show about a month ago now and he got a lot of giggles out of his system but never said why he was giggly and uh i think they've been together for a bit do you know exactly how long i think they've been together for a bit too but i don't honestly i don't know and as somebody who's speculating on my relationship right now, I feel like when they are comfortable to make their official announcement,

although I feel like it's happened because they've been all over each other on social media. You know, I mean, good for them. He seems very happy. From what I've seen on her, she seems very happy. They are both good people.

So I hope they have. Have you hung out with them yet together? No, I have not. Okay. What is the tattoo on your arm? I have a tattoo 29-11 and then I have a cross on my wrist. What's 29-11 mean?

Jeremiah 29-11. What does it mean? And it's like hope for a future. And it's been something that I've always stuck with since football is God has a plan for you and just trust in his plans. And everything, it's almost like everything will happen for a reason, but just trust in him and you'll be good. Well, God's on your side right now. Thank you. Yeah.

What was your first kiss? my first kiss was my freshman year of high school how old are you in your freshman i don't know you're 14 14 so 14 okay tell us about it um i was watching a movie laying down you had a girl over to watch a movie when you're 14 uh huh um i don't remember what movie was playing because i obviously had my first kiss so that's all i remember from the day um

and it was really awkward really bad but yeah it just wasn't it wasn't like the best Okay. Was it sloppy? Did she use tongue or something? Like too much tongue? No, it was just like a quick peck and then like an awkward like staring at each other. So that just happened. Are you going to give Heather her first kiss this season? You never know. I mean, there's obviously more conversations that need to be had. And if anybody understands where she's coming from and how hard it was for her to open up, it's me. Trust me. Yeah, I know, right? You get it. You guys are on the same team. Yes. my last question is the future of the Hannah and Kalyn Duel these two are obviously going to go at it fantastic decisions on casting's parts for this drama I do not read spoilers I do not know if they go on a two-on-one but I'm assuming they do because there couldn't be a better two-on-one

they're going to be my two-on-one for sure yeah um who's team are you on it's going to be interesting for you guys to like really watch the dynamic of that all happen because it was very intriguing for me as well. And just keep in mind, like, and you know this, producers don't tell you what's going on in the house. So you get to hear and experience things from what they tell you. And there's obviously a lot of conversations that happen. So my point of view on this right now is that Hannah is made out to look like the more dramatic girl, the one that's a little bit more high strong, a little bit more

emotional and Kailen's really chill. I always find that on the show the girls who are chill end up winning out but I'm not really sure. You ever heard it like less is more? Yeah. I'm a believer in less is more but I don't I can't speak to who is I think tuning in because I don't want to say anything that you take out of that people take out of context because it hasn't played back yet but you will get answers and clarity to that. Yeah. And I think you'll it's just

it was also an interesting dynamic for me to have to deal with too and really like figure out and ask the right. questions okay okay so and i have a more last question now that you brought this up how close was hannah to really getting the axe on that one-on-one uh very yeah 100% if it was later in the season would you just let her go no and i think i think what i realized too after after our date was i feel like you know sort of what you were saying earlier is like you know how awkward and silent times and making toast and how intimidating that can be. I didn't because I'm coming from the two previous.

So I'm used to it. I'm ready to go. I'm like, okay, this is easy. You should be able, like, this is her first time being filmed doing something. And I forgot about that. Oh, when the toast, like, I would just like hide. I'd be like, do not look at me. Do not ask me to do the toast.

I don't know. When I blink. Yeah. So what, I mean, I don't know. Ben, what was your? Ben obviously was a master toaster. Yeah. And what do you mean?

Well, when in doubt, You can come up with, like, when in doubt, just compliment. Like, that's my whole thing. It's like, when in doubt, to make a taste. Come on, guys. Hey, speaking of fluff, speaking of high quality skin care routines, Ashley, tell our listeners out there all about bio clarity. Ben, this is your favorite thing, though.

So I want you to tell everybody about why you're so obsessed with it. I can do that. You know, we're just talking about Colton's, Colton's skincare routine. And I've got to tell you about mine. I use bio clarity. Always have. Always will. Bioclarity is a garden-given, skin-loven, beauty brand that wants to help you achieve beautiful, naturally glowing skin.

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That's free. But you need to enter our code famous at checkout. So go to bioclary.com and then use our code famous at checkout to get your free clarifying mask when you purchase a routine online. I don't know what you guys were talking about before the break. I don't think I fluff words. It's really easy to give the toast. You look at the women in the eyes.

You call them beautiful because they are. You say there's compliment. And you look at them and you say, I know this is hard. I know this is difficult. None of this is easy. This is all weird for each one of us in this room. I forgot that. Like, I really didn't have that perspective.

I don't know. I felt like I was like, okay, I want this one to go really well. Like it's the first one. And I think that was the first time where I was like, oh, I don't have this. all figured out because that was like the moment where I'm like isn't one-on-ones are supposed to go great like one-on-ones are supposed to be like shoe in for sure here's your rose like we have a great connection and that wasn't the case and that was like the first time where I'm like oh boy like right off the bat here we go like I don't have this thing figured out did you try to lead the conversation

more than we saw it was almost like you're waiting for her to talk to you because I was I want to like just as much as I want to be challenged in a relationship I wanted to challenge her too and really see what you know what she brought to the relationship all right well if i had to say who i think your favorite is at this point and ben i'm going to ask you who you think his favorite is at this point i would say it was hana g you're like all up in hana g's grill yeah i mean you're basing that off of the the first two episodes yeah yeah i mean like she's got my size yeah like i said it was all It was all chemistry and connection from very early on. All right, Ben, who do you think he's into right now?

I mean, Hannah G's got to be it from episode two. I mean, episode two, there's no question in my mind. When Colton looks in those big old eyes of Hannah G's, he sees a future. Will that change? We don't know. But what we do know is Colton survived his season of The Bachelor because he's in studio with us today. Colton, so far, here's my critique of you. You're doing great.

Don't change your good man with a good heart who's going to make an amazing difference in this world way past this show that's going to be way bigger than this show ever was. So far on The Bachelor, you've been sensitive, you've been kind, you've been supportive, you've been honest, and I know that you cry, which is important to me. I think there's a Bachelor a few years ago that said they'd never cried during the show. I said, well, that's just ridiculous. Who in the world? I forget. But if you don't cry during this show, I don't know if you have a. heart. I don't know if you did. I agree. It might have been. Colton, with that,

Ashley and I really support you coming in. Thank you for taking time. I know you're a busy guy. I know you've got a lot going on. But thank you for coming in and talking with us. If you ever want to stop by again, I bet we could find some time for you. Until then, we'll just be talking about you behind your back. Perfect. I tuned in. I know. What word did you say that I used too much? Awesome. Yeah, I know. I need to extend my vocabulary. Actually, Funny, like a little behind the scenes thing. Caitlin, my producer on the show, bought me a vocabulary book, like a word book. So that's not a good sign, buddy.

That's not a, that. No, but it is. Like, I continue to grow my vocabulary. Like, I was becoming a better person. Every day I do this podcast, I think I need that book. Do you want to borrow it? Maybe. It actually gives you, like, it shows you how to use it in a sentence, too.

So it's like. Have you really incorporated a lot of those words? I tried to. We had daily words where it's like, I want to squeeze this word in to this. or this toast. A synonym book. Yeah. Yeah.

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I'm really happy that two years into this this is where we're at But we've gotten our questions out of the way. You're probably sick of, you know, where Ashtonized minds are. But our fans out there, there's a Facebook group for the almost famous podcast that's active and ready to ask Colton all the questions they've been wondering. Ashley has the questions in front of her. Ashley, get after it. These are so fun. Colton from Katie, what is your biggest turnoff when you're getting to know a girl?

I'm a hygiene guy. Okay. Like, brush your teeth, put some deodorant on, shower every once in a while. Does she have to shower every day? No, it just, I mean, just smell decent. Oh, okay. Because I shower every day. So hygiene.

From Sam, how long, I mean, how does it differ from being one of the 25 guys on Beck's season to being the leading man? Are the emotions similar? Well, it changes because I hand the roses out instead of being handed a rose. So you're more. So that's nice. Are the emotions similar? No, but they're different in a, they're just in a different way. But yes, it's as emotional, just in a different way.

Okay. Hold up. Time out. That did not do it for me. No. Are they similar? No, they're just different in a different way. What do you mean?

I answer the question. You just said, no, they're different in a different way. He's a well trained medium. Are the emotions? similar like what what are the motions like what let's go into a little bit no the emotions not motions the emotions yeah yeah what are the two different emotions you felt during the emotions are different because you're on the other side like you're you're sitting there and you have to break up with women a lot of guilt yeah there's well not only guilt but it's just like the

trust factor are you trusting your gut are you really like you have to be confident and you said that to me too ben and one of our chats it's like you just have to be confident in the decisions that you make because it's going to eat you up so like then there's always that emotion that's in it but then it just was an emotional roller coaster because you leave these dates where it's like oh this is amazing i'm on a high and then you find something out about another relationship or you're like oh this could be pivotal so it's like the ups and the downs are higher when you're the lead did you at all feel weird colton when because there's two two elements here there's a deleted scene that you and i met and i get why it's deleted you had a lot going on there's a big show in front of us but I did we sat down I was like hey man you're I know you've got a heart on you like it's gonna hurt to break up with these girls yeah and you're like well then how do I do it it's like you just do it like and it sounds like shallow

and it just sounds simple but once you feel it you almost you think it through and make sure it's the right thing but you just got to do it and be confident in it especially early on was there ever a moment this season that you you let somebody go and you go oh no I'm in a mistake wait that's so weird. That was our next question from Lori. Weird. I like Lori. Well, she asked if that happened on night one, but in general or night one.

I tried, I actually tried my hardest. I remained confident in all the decisions that I made in going into every row ceremony or any time that I was about to let somebody go. I really sat with it and I really let it process through like how does this change you know, how does this

change moving forward how I feel? And I really owned it. Like, I made sure that I sat with it long enough before I made any decisions. So did you know a couple hours going into the row ceremony? For the most part. Yes. Yep. This is from Matt.

He says, I feel like all the Virginia talk makes me wonder if these girls are there for the right reasons. Do you feel the same? I think I'm going to interpret that by saying, do you think that some of them are objectifying you and making it seem like they just want to take it? I will say this. um if this was the and i don't talk about this last i don't want i don't want to come off like weird when i says but if this was a bachelorette and could you imagine if a guy like a guy walked up and i had fun with it but could you imagine if a guy walked up with like a cherry and popped it like no i thought that was just if the roles were reversed it's just a much different conversation

that we'd be having right now we talked about that last week do can i have fun with it and play along with it absolutely because that's just like that's just who i am um I think we get into more of the serious side of it for me later on and in the later episodes when it's appropriate for me to share that. But I don't think the virginity talk correlates with the right reasons per se. I think it just correlates with like when it is appropriate in our relationship to discuss it. How creepy would it be if I was on a season with Ashley and I actually was the bachelor's. And I walked up and I said, I don't know what's going to happen, but I wouldn't mind taking

in that virginity. That is so creepy for a guy to say to a girl. Isn't that weird? That's weird. I agree. I agree. And it's just like the double standard that we're in with society and people can make their jokes and make their pun.

And I think like that's, I guess the hardest part too is just a punchline and stuff. So, um, yeah. All right. This question is for Molly. What advice would you give to other young men who are choosing to remain a virgin in adulthood? Um, I think I really struggled with owning who I was as a person. And I think right now with being the bachelor and having, if there's any silver lining in all of this, it's just that I hope that the young men out there see it as an example of like,

there's nothing wrong with waiting. And there's nothing wrong with like losing it whenever you, it's your personal choice. It's your body, your choice. but I just hope that people see that there's nothing wrong with waiting and it's okay to be different and in fact I encourage people to be different I encourage people to stand up for what they believe in and own who they are exactly and my last question from Facebook is from Danny and it says is there any specific part of the show that you're super nervous will or will not air or like you're

I mean, here's what here, yeah, here's something that's always been on my mind. And I think people forget this too is like, I'm going through this and my family's super excited that I had this opportunity to find love and like be the bachelor. But like my grandma watches this. My little cousins watch this. These women and these ladies fathers and mothers watch this. So I just, it's in my hopes that it stays respectful through and through. and it is remained of a show finding love instead of chasing a virginity. Yeah, I hope that turns out.

That would be my only thing that I would be nervous upon is like the tastefulness towards the end and dealing. Like the fantasy sweet week? Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Could you give us a little taste though, Colton? You probably get a pretty good sense of where this goes and what the dates were structured around, what the conversations were like. Yeah.

Do you think it changes at some point? I mean, we're two weeks in. Obviously, we love The Bachelor. We love The Bachelor. This is a show that we have a podcast on. I would like to see it. We've talked about last week. We'll talk about it this week.

I would like to see it change gears and go away from just talks about you being a virgin and whoever else is a virgin. Do you feel like it does? Would you get a sense that it does? I will say, yes, it does. Okay. Week four probably is going to be the most pivotal, I think, in terms. of that gives people a better understanding and it sort of goes away after that like it's just it's one of the things you were talking about earlier it's like how many times does you have to address this how many times do I have to talk about it and I think it finally gets to a point where it's like everybody has their answers everybody has their clarity that it's just like not a topic anymore oh nice all right people are excited about that I'm sure yeah because I mean you brought up a good point it's like well why do you keep asking it's like well just because one person asked doesn't mean they get to see that or hear it out of my mouth so yes I was on repeat a lot of the times throughout this season I I prepared myself for that. I knew that I was going to have to talk about it. I know. I just wonder if it's like

why it's making the cut so many times. I don't know. I mean, it's not up to me. Yeah, I know. Hey, that's our Facebook questions. We appreciate our Facebook group. The supporters and fans out there are always encouraging, loving, talking, laughing, and making fun of Ashley and I. And we couldn't be happy about it. Thank you to everybody out there on the almost famous Facebook group. We'll be continuing to pull your questions. Talk about your conversations. on there. Let's build this group to be a behemoth. Let's make it something great. Hey, Colton, for anybody out there listening, they love you, they support you. I have a feeling you're going to walk away being one of America's favorite bachelors of all time. But to say goodbye, I think we got

to give you the platform to speak to all of your fans out there. And then Mike drop this thing and get out of here. You've got a lot of things to do today. We appreciate you, Colton. Thanks for coming on. Thank you guys so much for having me on. Thank you. You guys, I have a feeling thank you. That means a lot coming from you, Ben, specifically. It's true. I think it's a good.

Anybody out there listening, give a little message. I just want, I mean, I would say this. Own who you are. I went through a lot of years of my life, like, just really trying to come into my own, and there's nothing wrong with that. You can always get better. You can always do things better in your life, I think, just having that understanding, too. but um no i mean i just want to thank you for the support he wants to thank you for the support

and just let you know that in week four it's all going to go away yeah if i had any message stick with us there's more than just the virginity topic this season yeah i'm sick of picturing you my head losing your virginity every time i hear it all i think about is just colton and whatever is going to happen in the end of this thing and it gets weird for me is that the weirdest thing you've ever heard from ben no Hey, Colton, thanks, buddy. Thank you, Ben. I appreciate you.

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colton is a great guess i want to thank everybody out there who allowed colton to come on i know he's protected right now right he rocks in with an entourage of people and they uh pointed to the almost famous podcast they thought this would be a good platform for him to get to uh for all the listeners out there to get to know him better. And we just want to thank you to anybody that made that happen. Colton was genuine as usual, authentic as usual, and he was also honest, as usual. Our next guest has seen Colton's honesty up close and personal after being eliminated on night one.

She's now on the podcast. We know her as Sloth Girl. Are you out there? Hi, guys. How you doing? Yeah, this Sloth Girl. Good. Hi.

What's your name? I know it. but tell everybody. My name's Alex Steak. Alex Dunn. Alex, how does it feel being known as the sloth girl this week? It's fine. I'll take it.

It's definitely a new territory for me, but I guess it's kind of cute, so I'm kind of sexy, so I'll make it work. Sloth girl. Is it weird that you got a Lemonade Night 1 and yet you are still one of the most talked about girls? I mean, it kind of makes sense

just because it's such a strong gimmick. So, no, it's not weird. It is just a little funny, though, because so many people, including Coles, and I'm sure I do not know my actual name, which is just so funny to me. But, yeah, no, it's been nice so far. It's been kind of cute. There's been some love, and then there's been some negative comments as well. So it's been all across the board with the whole sloth gimmick.

You know, we've recently, from the Bachelorette season, we've had Joe, grocery store Joe, go from being eliminated on night one to dancing with the stars. Do you see yourself from dancing with the stars? So I'm not really the best dancer. Not sure if that's really a factor here. So when I'm getting the comparison with Joe, I mean, obviously I love that comparison. It's so flattering.

At the same time, I think it's just so vastly different. From my understanding, what Joe did was he was one on the show and was like, hi, like, you look so beautiful. And that was it. And then America just fell in love with him, which is so fascinating to me, whereas with me, it's a totally different story. I went up there and I was a slot

that I was hanging from trees. It's totally different ends of the spectrum. I do apologize for going off that tangent there, but, of course, I'm definitely open to dance with a star. It's not the best dancer, but, you know, we'll see. Well, do you think that your gimmick failed you in the end, or do you think you would have been eliminated either way?

Oh, that's a fair question. Well, it definitely did fail me because I did not get a rose, but at the same time, I did talk to Colton, and it was just me without the costume. It was As-on-Colson, and I just word bonded all over him. So knowing me and how excited I guess, that would have happened regardless. And I probably would have done something just as weird, but a little more subtle if I did not have a costume on. So props to Colton, he's an awesome dude. but I think if I somehow was able to continue on in the show, I don't think it would have worked out in that kind of way.

That's maybe being kind of harsh towards myself, maybe not, but there's no way to tell, but knowing me, I'd be kind of freaking matter what, so not sure. How does it feel, like, the feeling of going home at night one, it's obviously light out, we saw it on TV, you walk in, it's dark, and then you walk out its light. What was your, what was the emotions? I was tired.

Oh, my God. I was tired. And it was actually my birthday that day, which just made everything so much better. And I remember as I was leaving one of the girls, she was not being Patty whatsoever. She's being sweet. She's like, well, happy birthday. Like, have a nice ride home. I was like, oh, my God, thank you. That's great. It was so stalking that I think it was okay. Like, you know, in movies, when you're outside and everything, it's such disaster and then it starts raining and then it's like, things can't possibly get any worse. It was that. kind of feeling, which is why I was like, all right, well, I'm going to go home now and take it like that. Yeah, does that answer your question? Am I word vomiting again? Because I feel like I am. No, Alex, you're doing great. Don't be, don't be nervous. This is just a podcast. It's Ashley and I. We just hang out and talk to each other. We were word vomit on each other all day and people still listen. Alex, we really appreciate coming on the podcast. We hope to see the sloth around more. Ashley, I know you're wondering this. Final question.

I got one. Could we and would we see you in paradise? That's the question. That's a fair question. I'm definitely open to anything. I'm kind of just winging it. I don't really know what I'm doing with that kind of stuff, but I'm so open to anything.

I'm definitely single, so I don't see why not, but I can't confirm anything, of course. Oh, so that sounds like maybe you're not open to it because maybe you have a boyfriend. No, no, no. I'm open to it. Of course I am. It sounds very fun. I heard... I don't like him that much. He can leave very quickly. He's not that important. Hey, Alex, thank you so much for coming on. Welcome to the Almost Famous Podcast, and we will talk to you soon.

Perfect. Thanks. Good to meet you. Good to talk to you. Bye. Good to talk to you. Ashley, to close up the podcast today, we have a couple listener emails. What an episode. I mean, again, we bring Colton the Bachelor on the episode, and we still have reader emails or listener emails. Ashley, I'm going to read the first one to you. It's from Anonymous. We love Anonymous.

It's our favorite. They say too much virginity talk. Well, we couldn't agree more. I like how you all discussed how over we are about talking about Colton's. You know what. I don't even like saying it, they said. Also, I liked how Ben, I appreciate that, pointed out how. disgustity it was with the girls saying that they wanted to take it. However, I just want to

point out one thing. Ben brought it up again in the same joking tone that the show does. Colton's not in bed with anybody and it's really aggravated me. I just want to point out the stark hypocrisy there so that hopefully I don't have to hear it again. Hey, I don't remember exactly what you're talking about. I'm sure I met it in the best of ways. We feel two hours or an hour and a half of talking, and sometimes things just don't come out the way you desire. And so with that, I hope you keep listening. I'll probably make him out again. And for that, I apologize.

Then we have another one from Megan. She says, I wanted to say thank you for bringing attention to the fact that it seems like the show is on the borderline of shaming him for his virginity. I'm still a virgin myself, and it brings out so many insecurities to see someone constantly talked about like he's a freak. I think a freak is a strong term I mean I think talking about even being a virgin isn't necessarily calling him a freak but hey whatever you want hey this one's from Cindy Colton premiere says I hated the premiere of Colton season I felt the live watch parties were too much to keep popping over to it really took me out of what was happening with Colton and the women by the time we got to the road of ceremony I could not even remember any of the women and was not invested at all in who he picked hey we've

talked about it, Cindy. Episode one is always bad. I don't think there's ever been an episode one I've watched and I've been like, that is incredible. It's nice to meet the people, but you really start meeting them, I feel like this week. On week two, we really got to know the women a little better. So I'd say, week one, you just kind of do it. You get it over with.

It's the entry. And then you're really getting into the season. I get what you're saying, Cindy. It's tough. You know, the show might have done itself a little bit of an injustice, but we enjoyed doing it. Ashley and Jerry did a great job. The rest of the team did a good job. And from here on now, I think we can all promise no more live watch parties.

Ashley, what an episode. We got it. I know, and we're still not done yet. We have to touch on Ari and Lauren's wedding. I think we would have brought that up earlier in the show if we really had some scoop, but we don't. I just saw on Instagram a lot of our producer friends attending the wedding. Everybody seemed so ecstatic about it. Chris Harrison posted some nice posts.

Lauren's dress was beautiful. There is no baby bump in sight with a dress. And their venue was just as magical and twilight-esque as Lauren and Ari painted on the in-depth episode with them. They are a really wonderful couple. Lauren is absolutely gorgeous. Ari hit a home run. Ari cares about her so much. So she hit a home run in return.

Their lives are just getting started. Think about this. They just got married. And before we know, we're going to be talking about them having their baby. and starting this life together. We don't have a lot of scoop. I'm sure there's a couple of kisses here and there from somebody in the crowd and whatever,

but we just don't know it. We're going to keep digging. But either way, let's just celebrate them. All the listeners out there, make sure you tweet them, but tag the Almost Famous podcast in your tweets and let them know that this podcast loves and adores them. Next, we brought it up with Colton,

and we got to bring it up here. We're still digging into the details here. But the Caitlin Jason scenario, it would be crazy if we didn't talk about it they're a thing right i mean that's what i'm seeing like this is not just like a they went on their date uh that was highlighted and talked about on katelyn's podcast but this is like now a thing yeah so they had a scheduled first date and that was supposedly in denver on saturday but i think we all feel like their first date may have been months ago i i'm not a i'm trying to i'm trying to

trying to figure this out from what Colton said, what we hear, they probably have talked for a while, but now for whatever reason, it's time to publicize it. So let's call this their first official publicized date. And it was publicized. Yeah, we'll say that this is the beginning of a maybe a relationship. This was their weekend. This is the start. You know, the crazy part, Ash, and I want to hear what you think about this, is once you publicly talk about a relationship or show it off on social media, unless you're not monogamous, which I know that's a thing that people choose not to be as well. But if you're in a monogamous relationship, once you promote it on social media, you're

probably, you're pretty much saying like, hey, this is the person I'm dating. Like if Jason and Caitlin were trying to just get to know each other, it feels like they took the step down to say, and we ain't dating anybody else. Oh, absolutely. Oh, yeah. And I'm really happy for both of them. They seem so happy. they're like giddy.

Don't you find them giddy over each other? I mean, from watching the Instagrams, I was watching Instagrams a little bit ago. Yeah, they seem very giddy. It's, you know, it does feel like these bachelor relationships happen a lot post-show. It feels like, you know, you do the show, you get off the show, and you end up kind of relating with somebody or meeting somebody. This feels like one that has some legs, at least from what we've seen.

You got to be happy for. You know, we got to bring up, though. How do you think Sean's feeling? I don't know. I guess we'll ask him next week when he's in studio. Exactly. Great tease there. We're going to have Sean Booth next week in studio talking about everything.

I mean, this is an in-depth episode. We did it with Ari and Lorim. It's a spinoff off this podcast. It's one that we just want to dive into Sean and Sean alone and hear from his perspective. You know, we're fans in them all. We like them all. This is obviously not an easy situation. because of the public lives that they live.

But here's my last question. For anybody out there listening, please write us at Ben and Ashley at iHeartMedia.com. Ashley, I want to hear your opinion. This is going to be brutal. Does it matter how Sean feels right now? I mean, it matters as a person, and it matters to us as friends,

and it matters to the people around him, and it matters that we support him. But is there any problem publicizing this relationship? You know what, Ben? That's a fantastic question. one that I don't even have my own opinion formed on right now. Well, we'll look to you then. Anybody out there listening, please write us, please tell us.

I'm just saying, I don't know where that boundary is. How long do you wait? What is the respect level? When do you enter back into relationship? It's something we've talked about in my own personal life. I've been affected by this. We've all kind of been affected by this, especially in the day and age we live in. It's a topic we want to talk about and we want to hear from you.

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