The Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous Podcast - My Unorthodox Divorce with Julia Haart

Episode Date: July 24, 2025

Kelly Bensimon is joined by the star of Netflix's "My Unorthodox Life" Julia Haart, to deep dive into religion and relationships! Spitfire Julia is in the throes of her second divorce, and she's not holding back on what she wants this time around! From why she left her ultra orthodox community, to the new rule her family has when it comes to dating, no topic is off limits.These two powerful women discuss their journeys of perseverance, which will leave you inspired! Email us at: [e-mail] or call us at 844-4-I Do Pod (844-443-6763)Follow I Do, Part 2 on Instagram and TikTokSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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Welcome back to I Do Part 2. I'm one of your celebrity mentors, Kelly Ben-Simon, and today I have an incredible guest. You know her as the star of Netflix, My Unorthodox Life. She's the CEO of Elite World Group, a fashion designer, an entrepreneur, and an all-around badass. And like all of us on this pod, she's been through it in the love department. I can't wait to dive into religion and relationships. please welcome Julia Hart with the big heart

listen I need to talk to you I've watched your show my unorthodox life and first of all I want to tell you I really appreciate you who for you are your opening up about your own journey and your daughters are so beautiful and your son

I was very moved very very moved and I was watching the show with my youngest daughter and so we were just very taken aback by your story and just the way that you raise your children and it was just very, really, really beautiful. So for those who don't know, Julia Hart is iconic, and she came from an ultra-Orthodox Jewish community. So for those who aren't familiar with orthodox lifestyle, can you explain to our audience what that looks like?

Well, just think of it as a mix between Bridgeton and Handmaid's Tale. So minus the fabulous costumes and the gowns and the parties, basically you're defined by your biology. As a woman, you have one purpose in life, and all women are supposed to do the exact same thing, and that is have children, get married, be subservient to your husband, and basically your ability to be good or bad is all dependent on a man. So if you're a good woman, that means you don't attract male attention, you keep in the background, you stay silent, you do whatever your husband tells you, and you just raise as many babies as humanly possible. A bad woman is someone who is outgoing, who is noticeable, who argues with men. So your entire destiny, who you are as a human being, is all in a relation to a man.

That's pretty much it. Wow. Was there anything about the Orthodox life that you liked? Community. I love the people there. You know, I always say even in my book, there are no villains in my story, right? There's only victims.

Because the people in the community are extraordinary. When my brother was killed, my brother died when he was five, he was killed in a car accident. Oh my God, I'm so sorry. And if I tell you that every person in that community found a way to make us feel loved. We had CEOs sweeping our floor.

We had people bringing us food every day. the community, the sense of love that's there is really beautiful. And I think also there's some traits that, you know, are so instilled in you that I think they've really carried me well throughout, you know, the rest of my journey so far. Gratitude's a big one. You are always in a state of gratitude. And I think that that's something that gets lost here in the outside world is it's give me give me give me not thank you thank you thank you and I think if more people were looking at what they owed the world than what the world owed them would be in a much better place

that is so beautifully well said and I mean I just I'm just I'm very like I'm just very moved by you so you know if you just I mean you are absolutely stunning thank you holy can I wow thank you're magnificent you're so beautiful so I started this podcast because I called off my wedding four days before I was supposed to get married. Oh, I'm so jealous. Why didn't you call me? And the reason that I called off, one of the reasons I called off the wedding is because my fiance at the time wouldn't sign my pre-up. And, you know, looking back now and

reflecting back, I'm like, okay, that was the biggest gift that anyone has given me. And so I am so grateful for that moment and for this podcast. And I've learned so much about myself. And I'm really excited to talk to you about dating in your 50s. Sure. I don't have a filter, so watch out what you ask me. Can we just jump into that quickly because it's a hot, it's like a hot button topic dating in your 50s. People are like, what's it like, must be awful, men are your pen pals?

Like, what are your thoughts on dating in your 50s? Okay, so I am going to like, you know, I pretty much disagree with all of that. Only because, first of all, this is the first time I got, I've dated. Right. Think about it. I left when I was 42. The first, I would say nine months was just sex because I hadn't had real sex, so I just wanted

to experience that. I'm not going to call that dating. The first guy I slept was a 21-year-old Cirque d'Isoly acrobat, so you get the general idea. Wow. Very athletic. And then I met a guy that became my boyfriend, and after I broke up with him, I met my husband. So I never actually got to date. So

the first time in my life, because, you know, I didn't go to high school with boys, I didn't go to the prom, I didn't have my first kiss. I didn't have a first boyfriend. I married a guy I met for a bunch of hours and that was it, you know, and I'd never touched him before we married. So I just started dating at 53. So, you know, for me, it's so fun. You know, I'm having a blast. First of all, I tend to date very young. I date guys like late 20s, early 30s. That's amazing. And we're kind of at the same place in our life, right? I've been working for 12 years.

Guys in their 30s have left college. They've been working for 12 years, so we're in the same spot. You know, I've found that most guys my age, they want to play golf, they want to play tennis, they want to vacation. I'm just getting started. I love business. I love creating things. I have so many different companies that are actually going to be coming up in the next few years

of things that I've invented. So my energy is not necessarily. necessarily got for guys my age, you know? And so I've been having just an amazing time. Now, of course, have I met anyone who I would consider a boyfriend? No. Have I been having a lot of fun in the process? Yes. Yes. Oh my God. It's been great. Well, I was just wondering, too, because like we're saying that, you know, and I were in a very similar boat. Like, you know, when I was on Housewives and I got divorced, people were like, oh my God, you're single. like what's wrong with you?

Being single and having two children was like kind of like you had like some awful infectious disease. I'm like I'm just, you know, a mindful human that wants to make sure that my girls have everything and just making sure. And also you're stunning. Like any guy on earth would be like literally on the floor

kissing your toes, begging to date you. I'm serious. Julie, I'm taking you with me. I'm going to put you in my pocket. I'm going to take you with you with me everywhere. I can't get over. Thank you. Thank you. But, you know, it's interesting that, you know, and a lot of people were like, well, you know, because of what you've done in your past with your work and who, you know, what you look like, you know, people are intimidated by you. And I'm just like, I'm sorry, what? So now people, and now I'm still like be on my back foot feeling like I shouldn't be, you know, showing off my superpar or whatever that is. I should be, it was very strange. And it wasn't by men. It was by women. It was by women. But you know what? What do you think of that? You know what's so interesting. When I. I was Shidduk dating, which is very different.

Like when I was 19, I was going to the process of getting married, and, you know, there's a matchmaker, and you meet the guy, and it's only allowed to be in public, and it's only supposed to be, the whole date can a lot last for more than three hours, including driving. So you basically get like an hour and a half to two hours, and you get, you know, three to five dates, so somewhere between, in 15 hours, you have to decide if this person is the person you're going to spend the rest of your life way. And every time before I would go out, they would say to me, Julia, just don't talk.

Don't let him know that you're smart. It's very, men don't like that. If you want to get married, zip it. And I remember when I left my community and I came to this world, I thought no one is ever going to tell that to me again. And lo and behold, women get told that all the time, all the time. Not back there. Here, here in this world, where there,

isn't supposed to be religious fundamentalism. And yes, it's so ingrained in our society that women are supposed to be quiet, demure. You know, someone asked me the other day, how do you know that it's inherent and intrinsic in our society, this inequity? And I always tell people, look at the words. You learn so much about a culture, a society by the language, right? In Alaska, there are more words for ice than in any other language in the world. which makes sense. They're surrounded by eyes.

Let's look at the words people use when they describe successful women. Bad ass bitch. Why is it that men are not called bad asshole bastards when they're successful? They're captains of industry. Right? Think about it.

They're captains of industry. They're leaders. They're titans. Mavericks. Women are bad ass bitches. Right. Or like boss bitch. I'm like, why don't have to be a boss bitch?

Like, what does that mean? Why? Yeah. Think about the word demure. Does that word ever apply to a man? Never. How about well-behaved? Have you ever heard anyone ever say,

he's a well-behaved man? Of course not. Women are supposed to be demure and well-behaved and wait our turn and be polite. Because guess what? If you're not, they're not going to call you a leader or charismatic. They're going to say you're a seductress. which, by the way, I've gotten accused of.

So I'm not charismatic. I like that. No, I'm like that. Excuse my language. That's shit. Hello. I'm sorry. Why is it that men are charismatic but women are seductive?

And the difference is that has a negative connotation and the other one is a compliment. So everything about you, you know, as I was driving over here, I was thinking about, you know, lasers and injections and things. because I was listening to somebody. On your way to talk about love and your relationships, you're thinking about lasers. Seriously, I was listening to somebody on the radio. Can we be best friends? I mean, and the guy was like, you know,

women spend so much money, lasering themselves, injecting themselves. I don't do any of that stuff. And I think to myself, how incredibly hypocritical. The entire world forces us to look beautiful until the day we die, yells at us if we're not, perfect and then then complains that we have to do things to follow their version of what we should look like. I mean, it's a lose-lose all around. No matter what you do, they're going to yell at you. So my personal advice is just fuck all of it and do what makes it feel good.

So let's talk about some mistakes. Do you have any mistakes that you've made that you would tell your daughter to make the same ones? To make the same mistake? As in meaning that it's not a mistake, right? Right. So, yeah, my mistake. I mean, the world thinks of it as a mistake, but actually it's like... Oh, the world thinks of it as a mistake. You know, I don't even know or care. I don't know. Like, the mistakes that I've made are things that I think are mistakes. Like getting married again. Not listening to the voice inside my head that's a danger, danger, being too trusting. You know, those, the things that I think of a mistakes are real mistakes. What other people think of the mistakes, I stopped listening to that long ago. I don't even know.

You'd have to ask other people. Yeah. I don't actually have an idea. There's one scene where you're sitting in your bedroom with your youngest daughter that really, really struck a chord with me and where you guys are talking about how you're in your room crying and she comes in. And, you know, I had a similar situation like that where I was, like, literally cry in my closet. I'm like, this is not my world.

This is not my life. This is not my life. and um i mean you know my ex-husband's french so as soon as we got married he cut off all my hair i had blonde short hair i had to wear turtlenecks and pants and i was supposed to be like the perfect wife for him for you know whatever he was doing while he was feeling gorgeous um and i'll never forget the day that i was like this is over i went to i was in eastampton and i went to town and I bought this Aveda shampoo and I put the shampoo on my hair

and it was all of a sudden my entire head went dark because it's that chestnut. I mean obviously it looked like squirrel hair but the point, yes, all of a sudden I was like, there I am. And it was like a game changer. And you know, it's not my job to, you know, I can say whatever I want about my ex

because he's my ex. I don't like it when other people say anything about him. But, you know, I'm so grateful for that moment. And when I saw you with your daughter, I was just like, oh, my God, you guys are so, I love that you chose your children because I always choose my kids. Always. And you know what really hurt is that that scene that we were filming was at the end of January. And it wasn't me in my room or in my closet. It was me naked on the bathroom floor because what he used to do was scream at me when I was in the shower, when I was in the bath, when I was on the toilet. toilet. When I was at my most vulnerable, he would come and scream and yell at me. And that one time it was so loud that my daughter heard it from upstairs. And that's why she came downstairs to the bathroom to see what was going on. And then she called Bacheva to say, should I call the police? Like,

what do I do? Because she didn't come in to see me crying. She was standing by the door watching him scream and yell and berate me while I was naked on the floor crying. I am so sorry. That did not come across and I am so sorry. And when we told that story to the judge because I filed two complaints against him and because I didn't mention it in the first complaint

and the reason I didn't is because I had 30 minutes to write it and I was so distraught and I hadn't slept that I just didn't think of it. And then when I mentioned it in the second complaint, the judge didn't believe me he said if it was true it would have been mentioned in the first complaint and I'll tell you something that really hurts and that is

that my telling my daughter that story was almost a week and a half before my first complaint. So if I had made it up to hurt him, I would have been the first thing I put in. If I'd made it up, I would have made it up after, not before. But the reality is, that's what happened. And the fact that women are just, they're not believed. I had so much evidence and so much proof, and it took years, and it took two whistleblowers coming forward before I started being believed. And now, of course, there's warrants out for his arrest. He's fled the country.

His passport has been revoked. His license has been revoked. If he tries to come in, he'll be arrested at customs. But it took three and a half years of fighting before someone believed me. That is awful. My boyfriend's professor is way too friendly. And now I'm seriously suspicious. Oh, wait a minute, Sam.

Maybe her boyfriend's just looking for extra credit. Well, Dakota, it's back to school week on the OK Storytime podcast, so we'll find out soon. This person writes, my boyfriend has been hanging out with his young professor a lot. He doesn't think it's a problem, but I don't trust her. Now, he's insisting we get to know each other, but I just want her gone. Now, hold up. Isn't that against school policy? That sounds totally inappropriate.

Well, according to this person, this is her boyfriend's former professor, and they're the same age. And it's even more likely that they're cheating. He insists there's nothing between them. I mean, do you believe him? Well, he's certainly trying to get this person to believe him, because he now wants them both to meet. So, do we find out if this person's boyfriend really cheated with his professor or not? To hear the explosive finale, listen to the OK Storytime podcast on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast.

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you understand how you're going to fall out of love with them or how they're going to treat you Right. You know, to me in the beginning, it was a, I just want to be left alone. I want to go my own way. I built a billion-dollar business. You take half. I take half. And we walk away into the sunset.

I had no desire to tell anyone what was going on in my marriage. I was extremely embarrassed at how I let him, you know, take advantage of me and the way that he treated me. And I just wanted it to be over. But then, you know, that song, don't lie about me and I won't tell the truth about you. That's what happens. He lied. I had to tell the truth. Oh, my God. You were dropping some major stuff here. Okay, so that is unbelievable.

So, religion and relationships, because I have dated men that are Jewish. I am Catholic. My children are half Jewish. What are your thoughts on religion and dating and relationships? I think it shouldn't matter. I think if a belief system supersedes love, then you're an extremist. Right. love is greater than what you call God

or what food you eat or what place you worship if you have love does the rest really really matter I don't think so I don't believe it you know it's interesting sitting here talking to you because you are so well put together I mean you're physically so well put together and you're mentally so well put together and you're wildly articulate like what like there's I mean, there's obviously so many things that have happened to you

outside of just the religious factor and these two divorces. But like, what is it that was like your moment where you're just like, I just can't do this anymore? With my marriage, I mean? In life, your marriage? I mean, so many. There was so many moments where, you know,

I think change is sometimes forced upon us because we get to a level of such extreme misery that we don't have a choice, that it really comes down to, I'm either going to end up killing myself or I got to get out of here. And that's happened to me now twice in my life, first to get out of my community and then to get out of my marriage, where it was really, I watched myself being shrunk. I watched myself being pressed down into this invisible being, and I knew that I couldn't survive. So it was either fight for my freedom or just give up.

and I don't have give up in my psyche. I also like the fact that you're like the ultimate matriarch where you organize this dinner for your ex-husband. That was iconic. And you're like, okay, it's fine. Like everyone's this going to come to dinner. We're all just going to hang out. And if I tell the girls beforehand, they're not going to show up.

And everyone's like, what is going on here? You're like, it's fine. Welcome to dinner. It's all about the children. In the end, is it better for my children, for the ex-husband that I had kids with, not Sylvia, but my first ex-husband, is it better for my children for us to be friends or not? that was the question will it harm them or her or you know in other words

if he was a bad father that would have been one thing but he's not he's a great dad and because he's a great dad that meant to me that no matter what the relationship between the two of us was that should impact my kids and I really wanted to make sure that even after he got

married what she has every right to do why not right should live alone for the rest of his life no and I think his wife is a lovely lovely person she is She's a wonderful human being. She treats my youngest so beautifully. I'm so grateful for that. And so I don't mess with people unless they torture me first.

That's basically the rule. But then if you come for me, I will fight for truth and justice. I love that. I wish that you had been with me on Housewives. I would have brought you to Scary Island. I'd be like, here's my secret power. Her name is Julia Hart. You and I would have a lot of one together.

I'm like, get away from me. I've got Julia here. everyone would be like ah um so there's this whole new movement called you know to the traditional wives and i was watching it on tic-tac last night and i'm thinking to myself like i'm on the fence about how i feel about this first of all i want to hear your thoughts and then tell me more about this i don't know this so traditional wives it's basically this kind of new mindset where women are you know at home and that they're like the best wife like you were talking about before the quintessential wife where they're cooking and they're baking and they're, you know,

serving their husbands and they're making sure that their children are, you know, educated and their home is, you know, is well kept. Like, what do you think about this new movement? I mean, the girls on the, on TikTok, like, listen, I support anyone who's making money, however they're making money. I am like an avid supporter of women making money, hands down. But I just like think this is a very funny trend. I'm like, what is going on? Do you have to wear ruffles to be a traditional Like, what is happening here? I would say that it's not new. I would say it's someone going backwards in time.

Right. And, you know, human nature is such that we crave the opposite of what we have, right? So, you know, kids who grew up in the 60s where it was wild, free love, they created a lot more structure. Women who grew up in a very structured society become more free. It's human nature to think that what your parents did was idiotic and to try something new. Right. So because I think there was the Me Too movement, there's this whole push for women to become financially independent. If I tell you how many times when I was creative director of La Perla, and I spent a lot of times in my store because to me, fashion when I came into fashion was for women, but it wasn't for women.

Nobody cared how they felt. No one cared if they were comfortable. I got yelled at by magazine editors and told, Julia, comfort is a dirty word. Women are supposed to suffer for fashion. And I'm looking at them saying, what? Why? Who said? I mean, this is ridiculous. But that was the kind of concept, right? Until literally 2016, they were still suffering for a beauty. So I think it's just human nature is whatever your family or the generation before you did, you're going to try the opposite way. So this is just a flashback. I would love to see these young ladies 10 years into this, you know, being a perfect housewife where they don't have autonomy and they have to ask permission before they purchase something. And that's what I was saying about La Perla. I would spend a lot of times in the store. And if I tell me how many times a woman would come in and want to buy something and she'd say,

I have to call my husband and see if I can buy it. I remember thinking to myself, my goal in this world is to make an army of financially independent women who never have to ask permission. and let's give them 10 years in their perfect life where they don't make their own money and they have to ask their husband for everything let's get them on the show after that because I promise you they'll be just as miserable as I was Well it's interesting because like the reason that the 60s

were like you were talking about this free love the reason that the 60s was this movement is because of the advent of the pill so before that it was like you only fornicated to procreate like you're only having sex to have kids then all of a sudden the advent of the pill and people are like feeling gorgeous which is great but you know I think that I mean there's there's there's there's there is fine medium right and there's society and we're always going to have these different levels and layers and I and I I you know whoever wants to live the life that they want to live that's great I mean listen would I like to like you know be at home and taking care of my kids as opposed to like working like a workhorse yeah I would have loved that I would have loved to have been like the gorgeous thoroughbred and not be the draft horse like I would have loved that I think there's a difference here between wanting to be a traditional life and wanting to be a stay-at-home mom because to me being a

stay-at-home mom if you want to be a stay-at-home mom I think it's one of the most beautiful jobs on earth but you're also a CEO of the house it's very stressful household that's what I'm saying like I don't think of a stay-at-home mom as someone who is going back to to to me when you say I don't know the movement so I'm just to me when I hear traditional life I hear someone who's not working who's not making her own money who's asking her husband for permission who has an inferior role in the marriage that's exactly what that is as opposed to a stay-at-home mom which i think is an extraordinarily beautiful thing to do i was a stay-at-home mom and i loved every second of it i worked as well but if someone wants to not work and raise her children i don't think that makes her traditional

as long as, you know, either she has a profession to fall back on if the shit hits the fan or there's a way for her to take care of herself and her children, I just think every woman should be financially independent. I was with a friend of mine and she told me this story and I think it's really applies to this. She's a, someone asked her, she was speaking, and someone asked her what she does for a living. And she says, I run a home for unwanted children. And the whole audience was like, whoa, that's amazing.

Where do you find them? How does that work? And she's like, no, no, they're mine. But no one else wants them. I love my mom. And that's the truth. That is the truth. When you're a stay-at-home mom,

you are raising human beings. I respect that. I admire that. And I think every woman should have the choice, whether she just wants to do that or wants to do that and work or wants to just work. we shouldn't be punished for what we feel inside of our hearts.

But that to me is not a traditional housewife. A traditional housewife is a mindset of the man is the boss. That I'm not okay with. You know, it's interesting because I'm from Rockford, Illinois. So I was raised in this very traditional environment, suburban environment. My dad was a lawyer. My mother was a stay-at-home mom. She was a philanthropist.

She, you know, raised us. And, you know, that's beautiful. That's how we were raised. And then my mother felt she was, I've had really, really severe migraines growing up, like very, very severe from like my early childhood. And so she was very, very sick all the time. And being raised in an environment where she was so out of commission. Out of commission and debilitated like irregularly. So it was a very difficult way to be raised because when she was on, she was on.

And when she was off, she was off. And there was no kind of like Tuesday she's going to be here. She's at work. she wasn't at work she was just enough she couldn't um you know she had a lot of that felt to you so it was very difficult being raised um in that environment but what i think is fascinating is that later on she became she started working so she was in this very traditional environment and then she had these you know these medical issues and then she got you know she she started to work and you know she always used to push us be very very very aggressive about us working and providing and my

older sister and I always and I have a twin brother but like always with us like you have to make your own money you have to have your own money that's my only rule and it was just a strange it was also like this odd messaging because on the one hand it's like that's not what she was right she was trying to tell you that the way

that she lived was not the way that she wanted you to live and I think that's what I'm saying like I think if you want to be a stay at home mom it's beautiful just make sure you can support yourself right you always have to have that in your back pocket whether it's a degree or a side job or something that you do,

it may not take a lot of hours of your time. But you have to always know that if life takes a turn that you are not prepared for, you have a way to support yourself and your children. And that's what's interesting too is when I was on housewives and I was obviously divorced. They would say like, well, you're fine because you have so much money from your ex-husband. I'm like, first of all, don't number one rule. Do not count other people's money. You do not know how much they have.

You don't know where that money comes from. You don't know how they make that money. You don't know. So what you don't know is none of your business, first of all. That is like number one rule. But what's interesting is that a lot of the housewives would say to me, well, I don't have money to leave. So then I'm like, oh my God, like, wait a minute, what?

Like these women, this outpour of women that are saying, like, I don't have the money to leave. I don't want to be in this situation. And if I did leave, what does my eventuality look like? Yeah. So I'm like, I'm not your, you know, this mentor of this. I don't know how I became this person and this voice, but it was really, you know, unsettling.

And it made me feel very uncomfortable. Like, I'm like, how do I give these women tools in their tool belt to like understand? I mean, you have, you have a lot of confidence. You know, you have gotten divorced and you've been in these very, very, very difficult situations. I'm not still divorced yet. Can you believe it? I'm still not divorced. I literally asked him for divorce nine months after my marriage.

and it's three and a half years. I mean, my point is, you're a unicorn in terms of how you're navigating all these different worlds, whether it's, you know, you're a divorce, whether the religion, the relationships, all of these things, you are a complete unicorn. And it's really, really difficult

for a lot of women. And so, I mean, that's been great for me, too, to be on this podcast. I'm like, listen, you know, life sucks and some people really suck, but some people don't. Like, and I'm here too. Like, I'm learning from all of you guys about

how to be better and how to navigate things differently. One thing I wanted to ask you is your daughter. So she also is she's divorced. Yeah. But Chaba. You're talking about my oldest. Yes, the oldest. By the way, she's gorgeous. I know. Isn't she insanely? Sometimes I look at my

kids and I'm like, these human beings came out of my body. They're like insanely extraordinary. They're brilliant and gorgeous and savvy and sophisticated. They're amazing humans. And they have incredible style. And they're like, I'm like, what is going on here? I'm like, I really like her dress.

Is that weird? Yeah. I'm like, I'm supposed to be watching the show. Okay, I digress. But so what were your thoughts when she was getting divorced? You know, I was just so happy for her. I was so proud of her. Of course, I would never, ever say anything, you know.

To me, your job as a parent is to give your children the tools to live the life they want, right? That's my only job, was to provide all the tools. and then let them do whatever they wanted with them. And the fact that she stood up for herself and said, this is not what I want, and that she did it with such gentleness and such grace and such maturity. And, you know, look at her life now. She's living her best life.

And I'm just so proud of her. So incredibly proud of her. I mean, that shows. And she is so well adjusted. It's unbelievable. Unbelievable. I was like, wait a minute, I was a train wreck. And she's like amazing. So calm. She meditated. She centered herself. She found a way forward. She worked through it. She never like tried to push all the problems behind. She really, really put in the work. And now she's, she's glowing.

Like you see her, you can't miss the radiance, you know? It's amazing. It's amazing. I mean, it's like mother-like daughter. You guys are like, you are just, I mean, you definitely raise your girls' well. all. Thank you. All your children. My boyfriend's professor is way too friendly, and now I'm seriously suspicious. Well, wait a minute, Sam. Maybe her boyfriend's just looking for extra credit. Well, Dakota, it's back to school week on the OK Storytime podcast, so we'll find out soon. This person writes, my boyfriend has been hanging out with his young professor a lot. He doesn't think it's a problem, but I don't trust her. Now, he's insisting we get to know each other,

but I just want her gone. Now, hold up. Isn't that a against school policy? That sounds totally inappropriate. Well, according to this person, this is her boyfriend's former professor and they're the same age. It's even more likely that they're cheating. He insists there's nothing between them. I mean, do you believe him? Well, he's certainly trying to get this person to believe him because he now wants them both to meet. So, do we find out if this person's boyfriend really cheated with his professor or not? To hear the explosive finale, listen to the OK Storytime podcast on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast. Hello, it's Daniel Fischel

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So, you know, I have become a massive meditator. Like this morning, I meditated for two hours and 40 minutes. Oh, my gosh. I know. But I get up at five, so. So it's, yeah. It's 7.40, you know, I'm already done. But meditate, like, let's go, walk us through that.

What do you, what do you do? I do Dr. Joe dispens a meditation because it's very scientific. I'm a math girl, right? I like numbers. I like data. Right. Like, if you tell me, just believe, you've lost me. Right.

I already was in a religion where I was, oh, just believe this. And if that doesn't make sense, just believe that, right? Right. I don't want to hear that. I don't, I agree with that. This is science, right? It's about your penial gland and your cerebrospinal fluid and secreting, um, you know, different things between serotonin and melatonin derivatives of that.

All the things, it's basically what I would, I call it quantum living in the sense that it's teaching you self-mastery. Wait, that's very good. Right? Quantum living. That's literally what it is. It's existing in a space in your mind that kind of supersedes what you're living through in the moment.

Because if I would have allowed everything that was going on outside, side to impact me completely, I wouldn't have survived. I wouldn't have survived. Three and a half years ago, I would walk out my door and people would look at me and say thief, right? Because you may not remember this. It's a long time ago now for everyone but me, because of course it happened to me. When I first filed for divorce, Sylvia accused me of theft, mismanaging company money.

I think pretty much, oh, con artist, seductress. I think I got accused of everything women have ever been accused of. than witchcraft. I think that is literally the only accusation he did not throw on my head. And it wasn't until like nine months later when the first whistleblower came forward and said, here's 30,000 documents.

She didn't take a penny. He's the one that's been stealing from the company. And then all of a sudden everything changed. And then we got bank statements and then all the proof came out and then discovery and then all of a sudden he's on the run from the law. But I had to live through those

first months. There was over two hundred articles calling me a thief and a liar. I would walk into a room where people literally thought I stole from my own company which was insane. Insane. Why? Because four guys said so. Without any proof, it made no difference.

Everything I'd built and everything I'd worked for, all it took was a couple of guys lying for it all to be taken away from me. It's so fascinating because people think that if they, because someone says it, that it must be true. I'm like, no, no, no, no.

Just because, I mean, on Housewide, people are like, you're crazy. I'm like, okay, if I'm so crazy, then I wouldn't be able to raise two children on my own. I have my MBA. I'm licensed in four states. I've done X amount of X. Like, you can't be crazy and do the things, the volume of work that I've done. But just because one person says that, everyone's like, oh, it must be true. I'm like, no, no, no, you don't have to be, you don't have to, like, follow everyone.

You can, like, beat your own drummer and do your own thing, with your own way. The lesson to me was, that is awful. The lesson to me was one woman with thousands of documents of proof against three men with no proof, and I didn't stand a chance. Literally, that's what happened. And if I hadn't kept fighting until it came time to discovery, until it came time for the documents, they probably would have gotten away with it. And the only way to survive that was to find a way to be whole on my inside while the world around me was going crazy. And that's what quantum living to me is. It's that you're, the external, what's going on in the external can't mess with your insides

because your insides are so strong. Your heart is so strong. Your faith is so strong that nothing can mess with you. And that's how I survived it. And that's Dr. Joe Dispenza. I mean, I actually learned about it when I was in the front, in January 2023. I'm in the front lines of Bachmute in Ukraine, sleeping in an officer's barracks, because I had brought, I had driven an ambulance through Ukraine during the war. And Bachmute was where, like, all the fighting was in January, 23. And I'm literally there getting missiles blown at my head and, like, hiding under mud when there's literally guns, like, bullets flying. And one of the people I was with was so calm. And I was like, dude, what the F? How are you so calm? And he told me Dr. Joe Dispenza and tells me about

this book. So I start reading and I start meditating there in Ukraine, in the front lines, January 2020. And here it is two and a half later, two and a half years later, and I've already won my 50% of the company plus control over his 50% of the company, plus, you know, a decent sum. And now we're getting close to the end of the divorce where hopefully a lot more will be coming. So now you can be more mindful and more strategic and be more data driven as opposed to like as so emotional. Well, it's more that my emotions aren't impacted by what happens on the outside. You know, when terrible things happen, it doesn't mean I have to feel terrible. Right. The one thing we can control is how we feel. You do not have to feel. And that's quantum living. That to me is what has

kept me a lie just because the world tells you and difficult things are happening in your life inside here you can still feel joy and then I learned something really silly which is going to sound silly but it's I promise you that if you actually incorporate this into your life like everything changes it feels good to feel good I say that it just feels good wait a minute that's what I say even if you have no reason to feel good even if you have all the reasons to feel terrible terrible. It just feels good to feel good. That's what I say. I talk about that and I also talk about kinetic energy. I was like you can have frenetic, which is up and down. You can be, you can be like having these like peaks and valleys all day long and you can like love your life or you could just

have a great, great day with like all this good news happening and fielding the fire and like take you're like, okay, I can handle this. I can handle that. Or you can be like, woo, woo. It does. It feels good. To feel good. Even when there's nothing outside to make you feel good, even if there's so much difficult in your life, how is it going to make it better to feel miserable? It just doesn't. It doesn't. Okay, let's shift gears for one second because you spend your days with the hottest woman on the planet with elite world group. So you are around the most beautiful women in the world. Have you ever had a moment where you're just, where one of your girls came in and was like, Julia, I'm having a really difficult time. I need your advice with personal issues.

like this as well and what and and if that has happened what was your advice well i have you know i don't deal on the day-to-day with models right because i have agents who do so um but the times where i do speak to people and i do get feedback i tell this to people all the time it doesn't matter if you're beautiful or not the world will try and push you down the world will try and make you feel and secure and think about what a model has to go through every day. Constant rejection. Constant rejection. Oh my God.

Think about that. Constant rejection. Again, you have to have that. I started at 15 with John Casablanca. So I'm sure you know. Oh, my God. You're too tall. You're too skinny. You're too fat. You're too this. You're always. There's not your nose. I mean, think about the

amount of rejection women have to face. So it isn't about being the most beautiful woman on the planet. Unfortunately, Life is cruel to women, whether they're beautiful or not. And that's why we have to have this deep inner core, because if we're going to look for our self-worths outside of ourselves, we're going to spend our whole life looking, and we're never going to find it.

We have to find it on the inside. I had to, you know how you can kill words that if someone says a word, it doesn't show up on your Instagram? Yeah. I had to kill the words, boobs, breasts, decolte, because I would get at least 20 comments a day we find your breasts

objectionable. You're so old. Why are you wearing low cut tops? And I was like, oh my good. You know what? Why not? I would say why not? You know what? I just don't care. I don't care. I don't have to explain myself. I mean, you're smoking hot, though. But this makes me feel good. And that's all that matters.

And if you don't like it, I'm so sorry. It's fine. But I just, I don't need to hear it. Right. I just don't care. Right. My boyfriend's professor is way too friendly and now I'm seriously suspicious. Oh, wait a minute, Sam.

Maybe her boyfriend's just looking for extra credit. Well, Dakota, it's back to school week on the OK Storytime podcast, so we'll find out soon. This person writes, my boyfriend has been hanging out with his young professor a lot. He doesn't think it's a problem, but I don't trust her. now he's insisting we get to know each other but I just want her gone. Now hold up, isn't that against school policy? That sounds totally inappropriate.

Well, according to this person, this is her boyfriend's former professor and they're the same age. And it's even more likely that they're cheating. He insists there's nothing between them. I mean, do you believe him? Well, he's certainly trying to get this person to believe him because he now wants them both to meet.

So, do we find out if this person's boyfriend really cheated with his professor or not? To hear the explosive finale, listen to the OK Storytime podcast on the IHeart Radio app, podcast or wherever you get your podcast. Hello, it's Danielle Fischel. Writer Strong. And Will Ferdell

from PodMeets World. And we're bringing you Viva Las Content. That's right. We are back in Las Vegas, the city of sin, and giving the people what they want. A full week of Y2K content. Wait, we're back in Vegas? Tell me why.

Well, for the Backstreet Boys residency at Sphere, of course. We sat down with Kevin Richardson and A.J. McLean just minutes before they took the stage and our very own Wilfredel basically became the newest member of the band. Boy band, please. Plus, the man who has

the longest running comedy show on the strip joins us and gets his props. It's carrot top, baby. And finally, we all L-O-V-E-Her Ashley Simpson-Ross joins us to talk about her upcoming sold-out Vegas residency. It's a full week of

nostalgic interviews you don't want to miss. Listen to PodMeets World on the I-Hart radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you at your podcasts. December 29th, 1975, LaGuardia Airport. The holiday rush.

Parents hauling luggage, kids gripping their new Christmas toys. Then, at 6.33 p.m., everything changed. There's been a bombing at the TWA terminal. Apparently, the explosion actually impelled metal. The injured were being loaded into ambulances, just a chaotic, chaotic scene. In its wake, a new kind of enemy emerged, and it was here to stay. Terrorism.

Law and Order Criminal Justice System is back. In Season 2, we're turning our focus to a threat that hides in plain sight. That's harder to predict and even harder to stop. Listen to the new season of Law and Order Criminal Justice System on the IHeart Reuters. radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Hola, it's HoneyGerman, and my podcast, Grasias Come Again, is back. This season, we're going even deeper into the world of music and entertainment, with raw and honest conversations with some of your favorite Latin artists and celebrities.

You didn't have to audition? No, I didn't audition. I haven't auditioned in, like, over 25 years. Oh, wow. That's a real G-talk right there. Oh, yeah. We've got some of the biggest actors. musicians, content creators, and culture shifters

sharing their real stories of failure and success. You were destined to be a start. We talk all about what's viral and trending with a little bit of chisement, a lot of laughs, and those amazing vibras you've come to expect. And of course, we'll explore deeper topics dealing with identity, struggles, and all the issues affecting our Latin community.

You feel like you get a little whitewash because you have to do the code switching? I won't say whitewash, because at the end of the day, you know, I'm me. Yeah. But the whole pretending and cold, you know, it takes a toll on you. Listen to the new season of Grasas Has Come Again as part of my Cultura podcast network on the IHartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast.

The Super Secret Festi Club podcast season four is here. And we're locked in. That means more juicy chisement. Terrible love advice. Evil spells to cast on your ex. No, no, no, no. We're not doing that this season. Oh.

Well, this season, we're leveling up. Each episode will feature a special bestie, and you're not going to want to miss it. Get in here! Today we have a very special guest with us. Our new super secret bestie is The Deva of the People. The Deep of the People. I'm just like text your ex. My theory is that if you need to figure out that the stove is hot, go and touch it.

Go and figure it out for yourself. That's us. That's us. My name is Curley. And I'm Maya. In each episode, we'll talk about love. friendship, heart breaks, men, and, of course, our favorite secrets. Listen to the Super Secret Bestie Club as a part of the My Cultura podcast network available

on the IHartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast. It's a brave new world where now, like, now, like, it's not just like you're making these decisions at home where you're, you know, over the, you know, over a, you know, a cup of coffee and you're saying, we're not, we're going to, you know, not be together. Now it's like everyone has their two cents. And, you know, you've just been through so, so, so. I don't even know. Okay, I'm for sure going to be the first.

I literally don't even know, like, how to, like, deal with this conversation. I just am, like, very in awe of how you really managed everything. Because, and just, like, you're cool. You're just like you are. Thank you. You're just easygoing and you're cool. And, I mean, even the way that you're with your children and I just, I really. I mean, you got me at, I chose my children first.

That was like, so what happens if you meet this like really hot new guy who's going to enter the villa and he's going to see a beautiful girl, Julia Hart, what are you going to do if he's like, okay, I love your kids, but they're older, like, let's just be together. I mean, how are you going to handle that? We now have a rule. It's going to happen. We now have a rule in my family. and that is if any of us, myself included, meet someone that we think is boyfriend material, not like what I'm doing now, which is just like fun and fun, but like full-on boyfriend material, they have to come to family dinner and then the whole family votes.

Oh, wow. And if the family votes know, that person is out, out. And there was only one guy in the last, you know, since I filed for divorce the last three years, that I thought like maybe maybe I brought him to dinner my kids were like absolutely out of the question and I broke up with him that night I love that we are a package deal is there like a word there is no like a word that's like no or you guys just like saying no just like itch factor if the ick factor if one of my kids gets the ick that person is out right we are a package deal either you love all of us or you don't get to love any of us right that's the rule and I also tell my kids

if I ever think I ever going to get married again or if I even say the word, I told them, throw me off the nearest cliff, faster death. It means I've clearly lost my mind, never getting married. So marriage is off the table?

For me, yes. I understand that my kids want to get married and I think marriage is beautiful. I think if you're going to have children, I think it's really nice for kids to know that mommy and daddy or mommy and mommy or daddy and daddy, however your family is structured, that they're both legally required

to be there. I think that's beautiful. At my age, my children are grown. Why do I want to put a legal contract on love? I want someone to wake up every morning, look at me, and choose me. Have you been to me speaking to my youngest daughter because she basically said that on my last podcast. She was like, Mommy, you do not have to get married again. And I say, it's not that half. See, I'm the opposite. I want to get married for the first time. I spoke with this therapist when I started this podcast and she said you're going to have your first wedding and that and she what she meant by that is that you're going to have a wedding a family a marriage you're going to go on a honeymoon you're going to have a real love life partner and that's what I'm looking for but that's great

I want to love life partner I just don't want to put a contract on it why do you need that's my point like why do you need a contract because you can have a you can have a ceremony you can have a ceremony celebrating yourselves and your love. The second you put a legal contract on it, the second you're, and think about it, it's the only contract that has no expiration date. Your license has an expiration date. Every business contract has an expiration date.

And when you add to that the fact that when this whole idea of marriage was created, people's life expectancy was into their mid-30s. The average person died. within a 30-year period. They got married at 14. They were dead by 36. So they only had to live with each other for 20 years.

Now you get married at, I don't know, 25, 28, 30. And you're around until you're 95, 100. That means you're living with the same. For 70 years. Okay, this dad is making me sick to my stomach. I don't know if I could handle it on. So as I'm saying, do I want real love?

Of course I do. Do I want someone to be my life partner? Yes, I'm good at loving. I'm a gardener. I have seven younger siblings. I've been taking care of people since I'm old enough to speak. But what about someone taking care of you?

And I want someone to garden me back. No question about it. However, what does he look like? Honestly, I do not have a type. I don't care tall short. I don't care hair, no hair. I do care about fitness because I'm very fit. And someone needs to keep up.

Does he have to be the acrobat or like? No. I mean, he does have to be really adept in that area. Let's be honest. You know, there's women who like it. women who like it more. I am a woman who's, I'm a very physical person. So I definitely need someone who, you know, knows their way around the bed. And I don't mean how to make it. And I don't mean how to make it. You're like, not the first thing in the morning to make your bed. No, this is not about that.

But, you know, to me, the things that I'm really looking for, and they're going to sound so like goofy, but these are things that based on my experience, I now understand. that I can't take them for granted, they're not always there. And that is number one, top, top, top is kindness. That's the first, someone who is kind. I am so tired of cruelty. I am so tired of it. I want kindness.

But is it really cruelty or do they just like, are they just cruel? Right, he was cool. No, no, no, he was. But I'm just saying that a lot of guys, they get, they are getting like, there's a lot of backlash because these guys, are like learning like how to gaslight and I'm like when they try to gaslight me I'm just like I'm like you are trying to feel gorgeous and by the way like most of the time I'm wearing ear pods and so I'm not really listening to that that's abuse you know I know that is yeah so that is cruelty

right and to me that's number one kindness after that comes loyalty loyalty it's a big one for me and then unfortunately because it would be so my easier to find kindness and life. Let's see if I didn't need the third one, which is intellect. I do need someone who can keep up because my mind is its own being and, you know, I need someone who can keep up. So I agree with all four. I'm going to go, I'm going to go with the kindness. Loyalty is hands down because every single man I've ever dated has been a cheater except for one. Cheaters just like love me. And I like attract cheaters. I need bugs for like no cheating um so i like the kindness i like the loyalty and i like the um athleticism

and the intellect is mandatory i cannot i mean i want to learn from my partner i want to be sitting there and be like what are your thoughts i mean i work with the most amazing women all day long who are so smart i don't want to go home and work and be with someone who isn't challenging me well honestly i'm at the point where i don't want them to be like what are your thoughts on Quantum living, but I mean... No, they don't have to challenge me, and they don't have to be honestly smarter than me or even as smart as me.

They've got to at least keep up. Right, exactly. They've got to keep up. Before we leave, I want you to tell our audience about Body by Julia. This is your shapewear brand. I'm wearing my bra right now. And I was looking at it, and it's amazing,

and your daughter looks gorgeous on Instagram. And because women, you know, want to get themselves and get themselves back together and feel good, what are your thoughts about the shapeware and why did you create shapeware? So, okay, I'm so excited that you brought this up and also next, it's literally in 30 days from now. So like mid-August, we are coming out with a hybrid.

You ready for this? It's clothing that has the bra built inside and the shapeware inside. Love that. So, and I'm going to send you one. It hasn't come out yet. It'll be online and hopefully in stores shortly. But basically it's clothes that are not just sold by your dress size, but by your cup size.

So you can buy a tank top that's an extra small double D or tank tops that it's an extra small A. You can buy a body suit that's an extra large F cup or an extra large B cup. So the bra is built inside and because it's built inside we use the structure of the clothing so there's no strap. because we all know that every woman on earth I've never met any woman who disagrees with me the first thing you do when you get home is you unhook that strap in the back because it's so freaking uncomfortable

well you don't have a strap I have a scar from my... Yeah, serious, everyone does I don't know a single woman that that's not the first thing she does well this bra has no straps we use the structure of the clothing to keep the bra in place

and I'm gonna be honest I'm 54 years old I'm a double D oh no not anymore I'm a D cup now and they wander. They don't stay put on 54. And to be able to wear a shirt where I don't have to wear a bra because the bra is built inside and it holds me in place

and I'm never concerned about anything moving. It feels amazing and the shape wears in there too. So it's very comfortably shaping. It just holds things in place. I love that. But it makes you not have to wear layers. and then for a resort. It's like a body suit?

I can't wait. It's a body suit. It's tank tops, it's T-shirts, it's clothes. I'll be wearing that off all. It's full-on clothes. That's like my uniform. I love body suits. But the bra is inside and the shape is inside.

All together. I have to wear the bodysuit and then the bra. Sometimes I have to wear the spanks because whatever, but now I have a whole lot. So imagine if you have it all one together. And then in November, we are going to launch shapewear swimwear. It looks like regular swimwear.

you'd never know the difference, but because of our technology where we can make things colored and patterned, it's got the brawl, so it's going to pop you up and because it's a stretching material, you've got everything.

It's literally, one of my models said to me, Julia, you should really tell people all the time that it's a tummy tuck, a boob job, and what was the other thing? A tummy tuck, a boob job, and LIPO in one outfit. You have like solutions for everything. I love that.

No, that is serious because, you know what? Women, after their 40s, they you can't you can't help it i mean it just your body is starting to shift gears i mean it just your your boobs start to sag and your stomach starts to make friends with leaves and go places and it's like no no get over here yeah they it has its own like what is going on i'm like why is my stomach not flat like it used to be flat and now i'm like so that you'd never know so think like hally berry um on from um you know james bomb movie like little shorts tanky like shorts boy shorts so it pops up your butt, hold your thighs in place so you don't have those cottage cheesy legs, and then you

have a tinkini, super sexy, no one would ever know, except it's shapewear, and it's also a brawl. I love that. I love that. I'm really excited about that. And also for even like for, for, you know, like red carpets and everything, people are like, what do you wear underneath? Like you're like, oh my God, I can't believe you said that. I'm like, that is so not fair. First of all, like, I'm a human. I have, I'm flawed. I'm not perfect every single, I'm not the same weight and shape every single day. I can't believe you said that. People's weight fluctuates and it's like some days you might be a little thinner or some days you might be a little more bloated. Like your weight fluctuates as a woman. I don't think it's so unfair. I can't believe that you said that. And some days I'm like,

I need a little love over there. So I'm literally like I'm sitting here and I'm like holy shit because I was about to say something and you just literally told me the reason why I'm doing this. The next part next year is we are making gowns ready red carpet wear with your board. and your shapewear built in for that exact reason because exactly as you said, we're women, we're human. So why should

we have to wear 900 layers and then get embarrassed on the red carpet and be like what are you wearing under? That's ridiculous. So I'm going to be designing and we're going to launch it next year. Full on Julia Hart design because you know I've made

Kendall Jenner's dress for the Matt Gala. I've made some pretty fabulous red carpet wear when I was at La Perla. I'm going to be designing red carpet wear, wedding gowns, that whole volume with your bra and the shapeware built inside. So when someone asks you, when are you wearing under, it's all snarky and mean, you can say nothing but my fabulous body, bitch. I love that.

I love that. Julia, thank you so much. I'll be coming to dinner with my man friends. And I'll be like, okay, Julia and a family and my kids, tell me, is this a year or But seriously, they, you know, they love me, so they're going to want the best for me, you know. I love it. Congratulations, my unicorn. Thank you. Nice to see you.

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