The Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous Podcast - Popping the Question

Episode Date: October 19, 2024

Golden Bachelor ladies Susan Noles and Kathy Swarts and celebrity mentors Kelly Bensimon and Cheryl Burke are  asking and answering the tough questions.Ready to find love again? Want dating advice?Email us at: [e-mail] or call us at 844-4-I Do Pod (844-443-6763)See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This is an I-Heart podcast. Let's start with a quick puzzle. The answer is Ken Jennings' appearance on The Puzzler with A.J. Jacobs. The question is, what is the most entertaining listening experience in podcast land? Jeopardy-truthers believe in... I guess they would be conspiracy theorists. That's right. They gave you the answers, and you still blew it.

The Puzzler. Listen on the I-Heart. radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Hi, my name is Enya Humanzor. And I'm Drew Phillips. And we run a podcast called Emergency Intercom. If you're a crime junkie and you love crimes, we're not the podcast for you. But if you have unmedicated ADHD...

Oh my God, perfect. And want to hear people with mental illness, psychobabble. Yes, yes. Then Emergency Intercom is the podcast for you. Open your free IHeartRadio app, search Emergency Intercom, and listen now. I'm Dr. Joy Hardin-Brand-Brandford, host of the Therapy for Black Girls podcast. I know how overwhelming it can feel if flying makes you anxious. In session 418 of the Therapy for Black Girls podcast, Dr. Angela Neal-Barnett and I discuss flight anxiety.

What is not a norm is to allow it to prevent you from doing the things that you want to do, the things that you want to do. the things that she were meant to do. Listen to Therapy for Black Girls on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast. Hi, Susan Knowles here. And Kathy Swartz from The Golden Bachelor. We're so excited to share with you. this is i do part two a podcast all about finding love the second time around and we're going to do a quick game of rapid fire questions are you ready there we go all right susan which do you prefer dating apps or being set up at this stage of the game being set up probably me too you know why

I hate being judged off the picture. Oh, I know. I know, and you swipe this way and that way. Yeah, it just takes a lot. All right. Where are the best places to meet men? Football games, baseball games, golf courses. Stop right there.

Okay. Always a golf course. Men are so involved when they're watching football and baseball and basketball games. Golf courses, lots of single men on the golf course. Okay. What about you? I play golf and, yeah, I don't see a lot of single men. But I see men, but you have to be at the 19th hole, Susan.

All right. Who do you think was the hunkiest bachelor of all time? Jesse, was he a bachelor? Jesse Palmer. I'm with you on that. I think he's gorgeous. But you know what? I think Joe, there's so many.

Do we have to pick one? Adorable. Do you want to get married again? Oh, gosh. I used to think, yes. And I would be open to it, but it's not necessary. I do want to be in love again. How about you?

No, yeah. Marriage is not on my to-do list, but I would never rule it. So, Kathy, what is the best part of marriage? For me, the best part of marriage was just having that time together, the intimacy of even if it wasn't having sex, just being together and talking about our days and traveling together. It was the togetherness. It was through thick and thin being together.

What about you? Having kids. Yeah, sharing children, raising a family. Yeah, it's the best part. Okay. Make it out in a movie theater, yes or no? I mean, I'd probably say no, but I'm sure I'd do it. If the moment happens, why not?

I'm not going to go crazy. Yeah, I like kissing. Yeah, why not? Should you sleep together on the first date? Can we answer this in one word? No. Don't care what, how old you are, never do it. All right. Are one-night stand's acceptable if you're over the age of 55?

Wait, what is this 55? I don't know. You're still alive. Here's the thing. A one-night stand is always acceptable if the two of you are agreement. Yes, I don't judge. Yeah, no, don't judge. You both want to do it, not accept that. All right, Susan, here's a good one for us. And we've actually talked about this. what if you and I both like the same guy, what happens? It depends on how much I like them. I'd probably put my head between my legs and go away because I don't want to fight. That or I'll go knock your ass out. Well, those are the two choices, aren't they?

I don't think you and I actually... We don't have the same taste. All right. Oh, boy. Sex toys. Are you into them? If yes, what are they? Can I answer to that, Cassie?

Because I bought Kathy. her first sex toy for her birthday last year. I mean, we're alone. They're great. Yes. Yes, we love them, yes. All right. The worst thing about menopause is what's you dry up?

I'm like the Saharan Desert. All right. What's the best thing about menopause? You can't get pregnant. Or you don't get a period anymore. All right. What about the best advice for women listening going through menopause? I would get bi-identical hormone.

They're the most fabulous things. They help with your sleep. The night sweats, you're definitely moist like you were young again. You don't feel dried up like a prune, and they help your, you think a little bit better. Yeah. I highly recommend them. Okay. Would you rather have your kids overhearing you have sex, or would you rather overhaired one of your kids having sex?

No brain, or I'd much rather hear, not that I want to, my child having it rather than. Oh, my God, you're so right. Okay. This was so fun. I feel like I know way more about you than I could have imagined, Kathy. Uh-huh. My boyfriend's professor is way too friendly, and now I'm seriously suspicious. Oh, wait a minute, Sam.

Maybe her boyfriend's just looking for extra credit. Well, Dakota, it's back to school. on the OK Story Time podcast, so we'll find out soon. This person writes, my boyfriend has been hanging out with his young professor a lot. He doesn't think it's a problem, but I don't trust her. Now, he's insisting we get to know each other, but I just want her gone. Now, hold up. Isn't that against school policy?

That sounds totally inappropriate. Well, according to this person, this is her boyfriend's former professor, and they're the same age. And it's even more likely that they're cheating. He insists there's nothing between them. I mean, do you believe him? Well, he's certainly trying to get this person to believe him because he now wants them both the meets. So do we find out if this person's boyfriend really cheated with his professor or not? To hear the explosive finale, listen to the OK Storytime podcast on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast.

The Super Secret Bestie Club podcast season four is here. And we're locked in. That means more juicy chisement. Terrible love advice. Evil spells to cast on your ex. No, no, no, we're not doing that this season. Oh, well, this season we're leveling up. Each episode will feature a special bestie, and you're not going to want to miss it. Get in here! Today we have a very special guest with us. Our new Super Secret Bestie is The Deva of the People. The Deva of the People.

I'm just like text your ex. My theory is that if you need to figure out that the stove is hot, go and touch it. Go and figure it out for yourself. Okay. That's us. That's us. My name is Curley.

And I'm Maya. In each episode, we'll talk about love, friendship, heartbreak, men, And, of course, our favorite secrets. Listen to the Super Secret Bestie Club as a part of the Mycultura podcast network available on the IHartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast. A foot washed up a shoe with some bones in it. They had no idea who it was. Most everything was burned up pretty good from the fire that not a whole lot was salvageable. These are the coldest of cold cases, but everything is about to change.

Every case that is a cold case that has DNA right now in a backlog will be identified in our lifetime. A small lab in Texas is cracking the code on DNA. Using new scientific tools, they're finding clues in evidence so tiny you might just miss it. He never thought he was going to get caught. And I just looked at my computer screen. I was just like, ah, gotcha. On America's Crime Lab, we'll learn about victims and survivors. And you'll meet the team behind the scenes at Othrum.

the Houston Lab that takes on the most hopeless cases to finally solve the unsolvable. Listen to America's Crime Lab on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. This is Kelly Ben Simone from the Real Housewives of New York City and the Ultimate Girls Trip. And this is Cheryl Burke, former pro dancer for 26 seasons on Dancing with the Stars and host of the podcast, Sex, Lies, and Spray Tans. So let's do a fun game of rapid fire questions. Kelly, are you up for this or what?

Yes. You start. Which do you prefer? Dating apps are being set up. Neither. How about you? She's like, I'm not dating. I prefer being set up. I like to have a connection with someone because then I like to like talk my friends. Yeah.

If I were to choose, that would be it too. Where are the best places to meet men, you think? Football, baseball games, or golf course. Neither. All. Anywhere that there are men, there are men. All you do is look up and there are men. They might not be looking at you.

They may be looking at a beer, but they're still there. Right. Who do you think was the hunkiest Bachelor of all times? I suck at this. I have never seen anything as far as the Bachelor franchise goes, but because Joey is currently on Dancing with Stars and this man can move, and there's been a notorious, like, full-on horrible record of Bachelors joining Dancing with Stars and them not having any rhythm.

I'm going with Joey. I love Joey, too. I thought he was so charming and engaging and just genuine. Like, he just oozes. Have you seen his dancing skills yet? No, as if, oh, my God. I can't wait. It's amazing.

I don't know if I can look at him because he's underage. I mean, he's not my, you know, I'm 50s, so I don't know. He's not under eight. Well, I mean, it's just a lot. Age is just a number. Haven't you heard that thing? My kids would be like, stop talking about Joey. I'm like, oh, God.

Okay. I love how honest your kids are. Do you, do you, would you get married again? Yes. Okay, me too. What about you? Would you get married again? Yeah.

Yeah, but I think the first I'd have to date, you know, sometimes I jump zero to 100. That's my addiction in me, but I'm definitely. I'm definitely an addict. I go straight. Let's get married. I meet you today. Let's get married tomorrow. That's just obviously we have to change that pattern. Well, that's what they say you have to date until you get married. It's like with everything. Yeah. Or just not, just not date. Just get married. Hi, how are you? That would be called it an arranged marriage. Yeah. I think you'd be okay with that, to be honest. I think you'd be like, fine. I'll just be married. Whatever. What's the best part of marriage? Well, if you're in a healthy,

one, I'm assuming, I think in general, just having a partner, a companion, someone, a best friend. You know, the one thing that I love about, you know, the relationships that I just was like so crazy about was just like spending time with that person doing like really mundane things. Like, you know, I mean, I don't know if it was like, oh, we have to walk down the street and we have to walk the dog and then we have to go get paper towels like and that person is chatting about nonsense or whatever. Like those moments are so special because they're just not, they're not attached to anything. And that's what I loved about, I love that with my ex-husband, even though he was so much older than me when he would, like, that was his, that was a time that he would like actually spend with me. And I love that. I love that. Making out in a movie theater.

How old are we? Yes or no? 100%. I don't think it matters where the hell you are. If you want to make out, make out. Thank you. I mean, I'm not going to like, like, lay on top of you. But I mean, if I want to give you a little, a little smooch, I'm definitely going to do that.

Yeah, we're not going to like make noises or be inappropriate. I mean. Yeah, exactly. Gross. Okay. Cheryl's going to be like, Kelly, I'm in the movie with you. You're making too much noise. First of all, I don't remember the last time I was in a movie theater since COVID.

Okay? So like, I don't go into those dirty places. If I were in a movie theater with a guy making out, you would probably be there just because. I throw popcorn in your, at your head. Yeah. Kelly, you're embarrassing me. I'm embarrassing me. Hopefully I wouldn't be the third wheel.

Hopefully I would also have a date, though. No, you can have a date. You can have a date. Thank you. Should you sleep together on the first date? No. You see, I've actually slept with someone on the first date and I spent a long time with them. That night or again afterwards?

What do you mean? Like, you spend a long time with them like in the future? Like after that one night? Okay, got it. I spent a long time with them that night. No, I've got it. I've had like men that I've like waited and kind of just like checked it out and kind of pushed and pulled and just kind of seen like where they are.

Like played the game. Not the game. Just was like just to see like what's really going to happen. I mean, I was married just so much older than I was. So now it's like when guys are giving me attention, I'm like, is it like well intended attention or is it just like they're just trying to like play a game with me? So I have slept with the guy and we had an. I was crazy about him, and then I've waited, so I don't have it.

When I did that, I didn't, I never heard from that again, most likely. It was just this, it was more about my emotional well-being. It's not good. Like, I feel like I was vulnerable enough to sleep with you, and then you now have the power. But again, it's my controlling side of myself. Cheryl, hop on top. Don't tell me twice. Okay, are one-night stands acceptable if you're over the age of 55?

I think we kind of talked about. I don't think the age matters, does it? I mean, I think that if you have a, you know, like a strong emotional intelligence and you're, you know, feeling good about yourself. But, I mean, I think to have sex with somebody and then feel so bad about yourself the next day, I mean, like, what's the point? Like, why would you do that? I will fall in love with you if I have sex with you so that now you're warned, right?

So now you've been warned. Like, it's at your move forward at your own risk, really with me. See, it's interesting because I'm like that too. That's why I try to like hold. off. Because if I have sex with someone, I'm just, I am like, all in. But isn't that what's so fun? It's like, are we? Are we not? Are we? Like, and then just, I mean, it is a game. For me, that is a game. But at the end of the day, too, you have to protect your vagina and your heart. Yes, protect the vagina. Yeah. We need T-shirts. Protect the vagina. Yeah, we do. What if you and I were both out and we were liking the same kind of guy, what happens?

See, I always find that. First of all, it depends, like, if we have a strong friendship. You know, it's just like, and this is the thing. Like, this goes back to a question I actually asked my friend. When you're, if you're good friends or if you're friends and you have the same taste in men, what I don't know what happens actually. What happens? You know, I'm just, like, I'm not very competitive with women. That's good. I mean, you can kind of, you can see how I am. I'm like, you know, I'm, I'm, I'm, I'm not normal, by the way. I'm just not, I don't know why. I'm just not competitive with women. And I'm not competitive with men. I'm competitive with myself. Like I'm so laser focused on myself.

Yeah. So I would probably help you. If you wanted to be with somebody, I'd be like, oh my God, let me help you. I'd like, let's say help Cheryl and I'll find somebody. Or like, what if you have called dibs though? Like, what if? Then I'd be like Cheryl hands off. Yeah, exactly. Pause off. Bitch. Right. I mean, in the in the words of Luanne Deliseps, there is girl call. There is girl code actually. And a lot of people follow that for sure. And there's also a song associated to the, to the, to the girl. code. What is, what song?

She has a song called Girl Code. Oh, I didn't know that. Okay, got it. Now I do. My boyfriend's professor is way too friendly and now I'm seriously suspicious. Oh, wait a minute, Sam. Maybe her boyfriend's just looking for extra credit. Well, Dakota, it's back to school week on the OK Storytime podcast, so we'll find out soon.

This person writes, my boyfriend has been hanging out with his young professor a lot. He doesn't think it's a problem, but I don't trust her. Now he's insisting we get to know each other. but I just want her gone. Now hold up, isn't that against school policy? That sounds totally inappropriate. Well, according to this person, this is her boyfriend's former professor and they're the same age.

And it's even more likely that they're cheating. He insists there's nothing between them. I mean, do you believe him? Well, he's certainly trying to get this person to believe him because he now wants them both to meet. So, do we find out if this person's boyfriend really cheated with his professor or not? To hear the explosive finale, listen to the OK Storytime podcast on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast.

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They had no idea who it was. Most everything was burned up pretty good from the fire that not a whole lot was salvageable. These are the coldest of cold cases, but everything is about to change. Every case that is a cold case that has DNA. Right now in a backlog will be identified in our lifetime. A small lab in Texas is cracking the code on DNA.

Using new scientific tools, they're finding clues in evidence so tiny, you might just miss it. He never thought he was going to get caught. And I just looked at my computer screen. I was just like, ah, gotcha. On America's Crime Lab, we'll learn about victims and survivors. And you'll meet the team behind the scenes at Othrum, the Houston Lab that takes on the most hopeless cases, to finally solve the unsolvable. Listen to America's Crime Lab on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcast. or wherever you get your podcasts.

Sex toys. Are you into them? If yes, what are they? I mean, me and my pocket rocket are besties. So I don't know. I don't think I would be into it in the, like, no, not at first. I mean, I don't know. I'm not into, like, pocket rocket is the maximum. I'm not going to stick anything up there. Like, I've never done that, nor do I put it on it. Like, that's weird to be. okay so um this was a long time ago juliana rancic was hosting this party in new york she's like you have to come it's gonna be so much fun i can't wait to see you so i like i go and i see her and she gives me a goody bag and i'm with this friend of mine and i was like oh no thank you so much i had no idea i was not paying attention to anything we leave and he goes she just gave you a vibrator i'm like she did not give me a vibrator hold on so cut to i bring it home and i put it in my um I put it in my bedside table. My girls, because they're looking through everything, they're looking through everything all the time. I mean,

you name it. And they're like, what is this? I'm like, I have no idea. We're all like screaming. I'm sure they know what it was. Then on Ultimate Girls trip,

I brought the ladies, some friends with benefits from Kiki de Montparnasse, and they had a meltdown that I brought them toys. So like, I am not, I would love to entertain the toy process as long as my kids are not like looking in my looking or around. I mean,

they're also, I mean, it's not, I mean, I don't know when I, I grew up fast. So I don't know. I mean,

in my late 20s, I was still me and my battery operated only pocket rocket because I'm so sorry. Nowadays, I think a man created this when you have to charge your vibrator. Like when I want to use it, I want to use it now, not after it's charged. Like, I don't know.

That's fucking weird to me. Like, it should only be double a battery operated only. Yes. People plug in their vibrators. Like, are you, do you leave it out in the open next to your toothbrush? Like, that's odd. That's weird. That's hideous.

No. Yeah. I don't understand who invented that. That is not a good invention. No one wants to charge anything. I think that anything that makes you feel good is amazing. Exactly. Okay.

I just have to keep my children out of my drawers and. Well, boundaries. Even though children, they're young adults, but they need to stay out. They can borrow any clothes they want, girls. you that. Here. You see that thing right there? That's a safe. You should get one. You can say it vibrator in there. I'll like, here are the three things you need. Here are the three takeaways. You're safe. Yes. You're safe and you're safe. Worst thing about metapause. The worst thing about menopause is the worst thing about menopause was getting warm. The great thing about menopause is that your boobs

get a little fuller, which is amazing. I mean, I already have some, I already have some very nice friends, but like now they're like actually more friendly. They're like perky? Just rounder. Nice. Fuller. Yeah. Yeah. Okay. And then I think I believe I'm going through paramedipause. I don't know. Maybe you know. I mean, I got my, I developed at a young age at nine years old. I got my menstrual cycle. So best advice for women, I guess, listening going through metapause or paramedipause. What does that feel like? Like how do I know if I'm going through paramedipause? I mean, obviously see a doctor, but. You can, you know, you. You can, you You know, from my experience, I'm not a doctor, but I could play one on TV, but what you see

is, you see different differences in the textures in your skin, your taste and smell start changing, you see different quality in your, that your texture of your hair, you definitely, there can be weight loss and gain, and then you can obviously have some hot flashes. I mean, all of these two. I feel like I have all of that regardless. When I was in perimenopause, is when I wrote, I can make you hot. And I cleaned up everything. I also have psoriasis.

So I was like, we are on the clean diet. Cheese and I are a toxic relationship. I just cleaned everything up. And it helped a lot. I mean, there's also other things to do. But I feel like if you just really take care of yourself. and give yourself a hug during that time, you can actually get through it.

And how about your mood? It goes up and it goes down. Well, yeah. It's so hard because nowadays, like I said, I'm not even kidding. Like, I feel like I've got all the symptoms, even 15 years ago. You know, I sweat in general a lot.

But, you know, your dancer and I started taking dance body, and that actually helped me as well. Just the difference in movement and using my body in different ways. It's great. It's great. Would you rather have your kids overhearing you have sex? This is a horrible question. Or would you rather overhear one of your kids having sex?

What type of nasty question is this? I didn't make that up. Neither. Thank you. Yeah. God, that's so disturbing. Yeah. And you should, by the way, if you have solid doors, you should not be hearing either.

So there you go. Yeah. And just wait. Like, stop. Invest in good doors. Yeah. Or put something in your mouth so you don't make sounds. I don't know what to say.

Put a few cotton balls. in it and shut up. Okay, cool. Sufficate yourself with a pillow. I don't know what to say. Wait, I love you. I love you. That was so fun. I feel like your answers are not what I expected. I did not expecting the cotton balls. Yeah, I wasn't expecting this either for me. But I appreciate your honesty, Kelly. I really do. And your transparency. So fun. If you're listening and you're ready to get back out there, but want some dating advice. So you're ready to find love. We want to hear from you. Call us and leave a voicemail with your questions.

Call us at 1-844-4-4-4-4-4-4-4-4-6-3. Or email us, I-do pod at iHeartRadio.com. Follow us on Instagram at I-do Part 2 pod. I-do part 2, an I-heart Radio podcast. We're falling in love as the main of Jack. Let's start with a quick puzzle. The answer is Ken Jennings' appearance on The Puzzler with A.J. Jacobs. The question is, what is the most entertaining listening experience in podcast land?

Jeopardy-truthers believe in... I guess they would be Kenspiracy theory. That's right. They give you the answers, and you still blew it. The Puzzler. Listen on the Iheart radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Hi, my name is Enya Yumanzoor. And I'm Drew Phillips.

And we run a podcast called Emergency Intercom. If you're a crime junkie and you love crimes, we're not the podcast for you. But if you have unmedicated ADHD... Oh, my God, perfect. And want to hear people with mental illness, psychobabble. Yes, yes. Then Emergency Intercom is the podcast for you. Open your free IHeartRadio app.

Search Emergency Intercom and listen now. I'm Dr. Joy Hardin-Brand-Bradford, host of the Therapy for Black Girls podcast. I know how overwhelming it can feel if flying makes you anxious. In session 418 of the Therapy for Black Girls podcast, Dr. Angela Nielbornet and I discuss flight anxiety. What is not a norm is to allow it to prevent you from doing the things that you want to do, the things that you were meant to do. Listen to therapy for black girls on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast. This is an IHeart podcast.