The Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous Podcast - Save A Horse, Ride A Cowboy, Marry A Farmer

Episode Date: March 26, 2025

If you like men that don’t cheat, get yourself a farmer! Jennifer Fessler is saddled up to talk with two hunks, Matt and John, from the latest season of "Farmer Wants A Wife". These guys may be DTF (down to farm) but they are also ready to find love! These farmers have unique perspectives on love and marriage and clear up if women should REALLY be approaching men out in the wild!Email us at: [e-mail] or call us at 844-4-I Do Pod (844-443-6763)Follow I Do, Part 2 on Instagram and TikTokSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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I'm one of your celebrity mentors. It's Jennifer Fessler from the Real Housewives of New Jersey and co-host of the podcast, Two Jersey Jays. Today's going to be fun. On this podcast, we talk a lot about the chapter two of it all, but today I'm going to be joined by two handsome men who are trying to get it right the first time around. Help me welcome John and Matt from the new season

of Farmer Wants a Wife to the podcast. Hi, guys. Howdy. Welcome. Thanks for having us. Well, thank you for coming. I have to say the first thing that occurs to me looking at the both of you is why would one choose to be a farmer when they so obviously should

be a model? What are you thinking? They're very flattering. And probably, I don't know if it would be easier or not. It feels like it would be easier than being a farmer. But you're both gorgeous. And I mean, you're here and you're single looking for love. We're just so excited to find out what is going on. Actually wore my cowboy hat in your honor. I love it. Yeah. I like it looks natural. Right. Thank you. Thank you. So, all right. Let's get into all of the upcoming. coming season of farmer wants a wife. We actually just talked about this on a recent episode of the podcast, but did you guys know that according to a divorce attorney, farmers are one of the professions least likely to cheat in a marriage? Really? Have you heard that? No. Someone else

told me that recently. I don't remember where I heard that, but I definitely believe it. Ladies, if you didn't want them because they're so good looking, here's the thing, they're all so loyal. So top three careers to not cheat, accountants, pharmacists, and farmers. Wow. Right? Accountant surprises me. Me too.

Actually, my husband started out as an accountant, and if we're going to be real here on the pod, didn't really work out quite that way for us. We're still together. Oh, you were the exception, I guess. We were the exception, yes. Yeah, but I think that's interesting. I mean, you guys are still, you're still young, but you really are looking to settle down. the both of you.

I don't know about young. Well, what are you 30? I'm 30. I'm 26. You don't think that that's young? No, I was planning at him. He likes to give me hard time. You guys bring this dynamic to the show?

Yeah, big deal. You became good friends. There are four of you. The first day I walked up on filming, I didn't met the guys yet, and they immediately were like, you're the oldest one. I was like, okay. Listen, I can't have this conversation. I'm 56 years old.

So you guys have this among the young girls. I appreciate that. 26. Wow. You're a baby. I have a 25-year-old son. Oh, really? I'm getting depressed. Let's move on. Tell me a little bit about, we're just going to start, jump right in, what kind of woman that you're looking for.

Who wants to go first? Go ahead, Matt. I'll take this one. All right. You know, I'll say, too, that I was pretty impressed on the show. Like, they really did care about, like, what you're looking for. It's not just based off looks and whatever, you know. Right.

So things that I said. So it's not just looks that you're looking for? No, I like looks. Yes. But the things that I had said is like a really family-oriented Christian and, you know, just someone that likes to have fun is my biggest thing because I love just traveling and doing things and being out with friends and all that kind of stuff. So I've been with gals in the past.

I don't enjoy that as much. And so that creates problems there because... Is it a travel thing or just not so much travel, but just, you know, being with friends, being with my family and just some girls, you know, they just want to be just with. you all the time. Is that a red flag? Like a girl doesn't have girlfriends or a lot of girlfriends it is? Yeah. Yeah. That's in my experience, it's been a pretty good indication of... No, I think that's so interesting. Yeah, which, you know, teach their own. You don't have to do that, but... For you? For me. Because I'm... Not to make it about me, but I like to do that.

But, like, I have a very social person and my husband really never was. But for some reason it worked. Like, I kind of brought him over to the dark side. Yeah. But, yeah, I guess maybe easier to start out with someone that's like you, likes to go out, likes to mix it up a little bit, travel. What about you? What are we looking for? I mean, going into the show, I was really looking for somebody who would just be a great mother, you know, somebody who's nurturing, caring, also support me through and through, so that I could do the same for her. But going through the show and, you know, coming out of it after like kind of being reflective in the OTFs, which is what we called the interviews,

the side interviews, I kind of just decide on somebody, you know, I want to. somebody who I can just really get along with in the end, because that's all that really matters. That's who you're going to be spending the rest of your life with. So if you really can't get along with that person, then... Yeah, no, I think that's absolutely true. But I'm going to say to you both that all of what you're saying, I mean, I think that a lot of girls can fit the bill, right? What you're describing. Yeah. Likes to have fun and someone you can get along with. So I got to get, we're going to have to get a little deeper than that, right? Christian. Very true. Yeah. So that's important to you both of you?

Or someone open to it. Are you religious? I'm Catholic. Yeah, we're both Catholic. Okay. So, I mean, that's helpful, right? So that at least we can narrow it down a little bit. Yeah.

Anything else you can give me, though? And maybe even after filming, like, specifics, I really, I realize that I like girls with whatever long, dark hair. Or I like girls that love. Do you bond with any of these girls specifically over something? I really like girls that don't like me as much. Okay. Oh, boy. It's a horrible.

Well, no, no, no, it is not. Let me tell you something. You came to the right place because I don't like you at all. I knew you were going to like that one. No, I don't know. No, because I used to work for this, I used to work for these women that wrote a book called The Rules. And the Rules is all about how to play hard to get. This is going back when I was your age.

I worked for these people. And there's this whole philosophy on it that I actually subscribe to. And I try to get my daughter to subscribe to it as well is men just love the chase. It is, I don't know if that's a good thing, a bad thing. If it's feminist, if it's not, but I just think that most men want what they don't think they can have. I think that's just human nature in general. Yeah. Right?

But, yeah, I could definitely see that with men, especially when, I mean, personally, when I was younger, I definitely had that. Yeah, that's changed for me, definitely. Definitely changed as I've gotten older. Really? Yeah. Yeah, when I was like early, you know, early 20s, whatever you want to say, that really was like that. But then as time has gone on, it's like, okay, kind of like a sum of that, but not. not too much because...

You don't want a bitch, but like you want someone who's... Not how I was going to say it, but... Yes. Yeah, but just, you know, it's just as soon as you are with someone and it's like right off the bat, they're just infatuated with you and all that kind of stuff.

Dave turn off. It is for me, unfortunately, and I hate to say that because it's flattering and like... You guys watch Summerhouse? I know what it is. No, a few people are wrong. I don't really watch TV. I can't with these two.

I can't. Isn't that Bravo? How did you guys end? Yes, it's Bravo. Well, there's a couple on it right now, and she is just way too upfront with, in terms of how she feels and wanting to get serious too soon. But anyway, no, I think that's really interesting. So girls that play a little hard to get. Yeah.

Well, I think the unfortunate thing about, well, I wouldn't say unfortunate, but the interesting thing about this show is we filmed it all in one month. So, you know, by the end of it, people either had to come out of their shell like that or stay reserved. It'll be interesting to see how everybody kind of plays out after having. that discussion. Yeah, it's really like three to six months compressed into one of dating, you know, because you've got to get right into it. Right off the back. Talking about like really serious stuff, never do that, like in a normal dating situation, you know.

Right. No, that's very true. So interesting. I'm just picturing what I would tell my daughter if she was going on. Like, I would definitely tell her to play hard to get, but how do you do that in a month when you're supposed to get to know everyone and put your cards out on the table? All right. So what kind of marriages do you guys come from?

Tell me a little bit about your parents. Have they ever been? been, parents still together? My parents would. They've been together 406 years, I think. Wow. They never even considered a force or anything. 46 years, they started young.

Yeah, my dad's early 70s and my mom's getting close to 70. You have brothers and sisters? There's four of us. I'm the youngest. And you're the youngest, right. Okay. It's coming together now. Got it.

Very strong marriage. And they've very strong, happy. Yes. I've never seen them fight. Come on. I swear. Really? Oh my God.

I feel bad for the girl you end up with. Yeah, it's tough to compare, but my dad's still like it's upset if she's gone for more than a day or two. Really? Uh-huh. That's very cool. Yeah. I love that. I know it's getting rare these days, so it's really cool to come from that.

Well, that seems like quite a fairy tale marriage. Yeah, it really is. Well, my parents are, is probably more, I wouldn't, no offense to you, but like more realistic in the sense. They do fight, obviously, but they always make up before bed. That's one of the big things. Really? Yeah. And they've been together for multiple years as well.

I come from six siblings. So I think that was one of the biggest pieces of glue that held our whole family together. It's just having a lot of siblings. You guys grew up. One of you in California. Yeah. I can't ever say it. How do you say it?

San Luis Obispo. But you can say slow for sure. San Luis Obispo. Slow is a good abbreviation. Most people call it. Oh, slow. Okay. And then St. Louis.

St. Louis. Right? Yeah. So I'm just picking. picturing these marriages and these lives and these kids and it all seems very wholesome and very small towns. I don't know that much about San Luis. It is like 50,000 people, so it's smaller, but it's a college town. There's a lot of stuff going on there still, so kind of a good mix of both.

Okay, I'm just trying to, if I say the Walton's, you won't even know what I'm talking about, right? Oh my God, so sad. I didn't hear what you said. Okay, the Walton's. It was a show that I watched. It was younger about this family, and they live on the farm, and they were just so wholesome and. whatever. So you lived, it sounds to me like, even though different states, sort of similar worlds, maybe very country? Yeah. Yeah, seems like it, you know, family-oriented.

Not very country for me, actually. Not very country? My parents are really not that way. Oh, they're not? Okay. Okay. Yeah. And in these towns, though, you guys, I'm picturing you dating a lot. I'm picturing you guys, neither one of you having a problem meeting girls. Well, it's, you know, I wouldn't consider St. Louis a small town, but people like to consider it. a big small town. Everybody knows everybody. The one question you asked when find out somebody's from St. Louis is what high school did you go to? Oh, really? And then you can immediately gauge who they knew, where they came from. What kind of person they usually are. Yeah. So that's where

I grew up. See, I didn't picture. I know, I wasn't really talking about St. Louis. I figured you guys lived in very small, like I'm, I say I'm from Houston. I'm really from Sugarland. Like there's, which is sort of small, like, but California and St. Louis. So not small, small. No, yeah. Okay. Well, the thing with, the reason I'm on farmer wants a wife is because my mom grew up on a farm that's been our family for five generations, about an hour and a half south of St. Louis. Okay. And my grandfather still lives there, and I go down there and help him out where I can and, you know, ultimately want to live that lifestyle. Cool. So she was in the city and met my dad on a Fourth of July party. And then that was that. She stuck around, yeah. So dating apps. Tell me about your experience. Have you used them? Yes. What's your experience been? I don't know how to put it down into one word. Interesting. Okay.

Yeah. Tinder and Bumble were definitely younger apps that I use, like high school and college and stuff like that. And then I kind of moved just towards narrowing it down on the hinge. Yeah. That's my kids used. But I haven't had Hinge for like, you know, over and a half, two years now. So.

Why? It just started to get ridiculous. You know, nobody was actually really on there to date. You know, it was just more of a, let's go get a drink and hook up. Yeah. So. Okay, interesting. But it was fun.

Yeah, yeah, sounds fun. And? I've virtually never had any dating apps. I think, like, when Tender first came out, like, I don't know, 10 years ago, I had it for, like, a week or two. Okay. But just not my style whatsoever. I think I'm really social. I love being out and, like, eating girls.

And, like, that's fun, like, the experience of it or the thrill, you know, like, walking up to a random girl at a bar or, like, that kind of stuff. I mean, I have to tell you, I'm looking at you guys, and I'm picturing that. I don't know who convinced you to go on Farmer wants a white. Like I would think that you're both overwhelmed with dates. Like I can't imagine like girls are just, they must have gone crazy. Whoa. I don't know.

This is also on video, so you guys are going to see what I'm talking about. But I've never seen two more adorable boys. That's great. So cute and sweet. With good families. Yeah. Yeah, we were very blessed, I think, of both of us, you know.

Yeah. Yeah, I have a daughter. Her name is Rachel. Okay. We'll talk after the show. Tell her to go on the show. Oh, yeah. Yeah, she's not leaving me.

She's not leaving New Jersey. My boyfriend's professor is way too friendly, and now I'm seriously suspicious. Oh, wait a minute, Sam. Maybe her boyfriend's just looking for extra credit. Well, Dakota, it's back to school week on the OK Storytime podcast, so we'll find out soon. This person writes, my boyfriend has been hanging out with his young professor a lot. He doesn't think it's a problem, but I don't trust her. Now he's insisting we get to know each other, but I just want her gone.

Now hold up, isn't that against school policy? That sounds totally inappropriate. Well, according to this person, this is her boyfriend's former professor and they're the same age. It's even more likely that they're cheating. He insists there's nothing between them. I mean, do you believe him? Well, he's certainly trying to get this person to believe him because he now wants them both to meet. So, do we find out if this person's boyfriend really cheated with his professor or not?

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Yeah, extremely. We walked into this big, great room where we would just see the ladies for the first time. Were they, was everybody, is everybody mid-20s, early 30s? Yeah, you got to, mine were, yeah, yeah. Kind of got to ask that. You did? Well, because it's funny because I got, I have a question for you guys just a little bit. I was going to ask a little bit later, but why not just jump right in?

Have you ever dated older women? Yeah, a couple. Within the same, like, year. That's not older. Within the same year, you just said? Yeah, like, born. Like, I was 99, so like usually within 99, 98, 97. Got it.

I meant older, like older, older, no. I think maybe they put that. You know what? I think maybe our producers wanted me to ask that. Nothing against it. Just to like humiliate myself. Like I'm not looking for a date.

I'm married a long time. You both very cute. But she's all specifically. Yeah, specifically. 56 year old? No. That's not where we're going. Like four years, I think.

That does not count. Okay. So, all right. Let's just talk also a little bit about the fact that you are farmers. And I'm thinking that it's that part of why it's. you know, been hard to, you know, maybe nail something down because you're so busy with your farming? No, I would not say that.

For me, I can't speak for John, but I do live in somewhat of a smaller area, and I did grow up, and there's one high school there. And so when I was like early 20s, a college town too, so there's like new girls moving into the area all the time. So, like, there's way more opportunities. But then now that I'm like 30 or almost 31, it's like, okay, well, college girls are a little too young. Yeah.

And so, then it's like, all right, who actually lives here and is like, you know, so that starts to really narrow down. And then, you know, I either grew up with them already or dated him before my friend did. Right. That's interesting, huh? Yeah. And so this opportunity came up and it's like, well, you could meet someone from like, my gals were from all over the country.

So, um. So do you, are you looking also for someone who will be into the farming lifestyle, whatever that is? So I know Matt and I talked about this a lot. We're not, like, the lifestyle, yes. But what's the lifestyle in terms of like, are you milking cows in the morning? Yeah, quiet. It's not traditional. So much aimed at the work.

Yeah, exactly. A lot of people in the show where we're focusing on like the farm work. Yeah, I'm interested in that. It's more of like the living, like living in the country, you know, raising my children in those types of areas. And like the big thing for us is like I really love all of our neighbors, like all the other neighbors are families who, farm and ranch and they're really good people and so like you know the kids my nephews go to school with like they're these neighbor kids that they all play with and it's like just such a good life you know now you have like nine nieces and nephews and a goddaughter and like 20 other

kids that think i'm with their uncle do you like are you maybe you've got like some biological clock thing going on here you guys both i've had that i've had that for a long time the kids thing is yeah i want kids pretty quick once i get married it's going to be we're going to start rifle a lot. Yeah. But I've only, you know, kids since I was forever. Really? Always wanted to be a dad. Really? That's very cool. So you guys are just ripe for the pick-in. I'm this, okay, so anyway. Nice. I see what you do there.

No, because, I mean, you both could be, I don't know, I know, again, I've got a son your age, around your age, and he has zero interest. He's just having himself a good old time. He's not, like, thinking, I mean, eventually, I know he wants that. I'll enjoy why you got it. Yeah. Well, I will say, like, one thing, so I moved to Austin, Texas for a bit. I graduated from UT. Did you? Okay.

So you know what it's like there then? Yeah. But I moved there and I felt way younger all of a sudden because there's a lot of people like, you know, older than I am that are still single and like going out and doing all the stuff. So like all of a sudden 30 is like pretty young in that scene. Like 30 is really young. Yeah. But like comparatively. Yeah.

And then but when I'm back home, it's like it's totally different. So really depending on where you live too, like you feel it more, I think. Yeah. No, my husband was 36 when we met. and I was, I guess, I was, like, 29. And, but we were living in New York City, so that felt, you know, very natural. And, you know, it's not. So what is your favorite part about being an uncle, Matt?

There's a lot, lots of it, but I'm just happy to be so close with them. I feel like I've had a hand in raising all of them in a way, you know? And I know how much I mean to them. And so, you know, like, I did move away for a couple of years. and just like, I think the thing that really broke the straw for me moving home was my nephew Jack was like, I was like, hey, I was there everything going back at home? He's like, it's really good, but there's just always a little something missing. And I was like, oh, like, I think I want to move home.

John, you have five siblings. You got this kind of the same big family thing going on? Yeah, yeah, basically. My oldest sibling and then my two closest younger ones are all out of the house, New York, L.A., and in college. Oh, wow. And then so the two younger ones are still in St. Louis with me and the rest of the family. And they call me brother, dad. Oh, God.

My parents, you know, as time's gone on, have taken a more lenient approach with the younger ones. And you don't. It's kind of nonsense. Oh, okay. And you're not having it. No, I'm not having it. Is that important to you that whoever you meet and eventually marry also have, like, really want to be part of a big family, not like an extended family?

Yeah, 100%. Did that come up on the show? Did you ask that question? Yeah. Family was definitely a big conversation. conversation. Yeah, and you can pretty quickly tell with people, I think, and talking to girls, like, how much they care about that or not.

Does it matter if they came from a close family or? No. No. Okay. Just as long as they're open to it. Yeah. As long as they like, because I feel like I've met girls who didn't have a big family and then they, like, love that I do.

So it's not that they came from that. Yeah. But. Yeah. What are some of your deal breakers? What were some of your deal breakers? Like, I mean, when you were making your list, was there anything that you're like, and not this, not in.

interested in a woman who's high maintenance or I don't know. Insecurity was a big thing for me because that translates to a lot of different stuff. So if they're insecure about themselves, it's usually just going to reflect very poorly in a relationship. Yeah. Mine, I think, is not something I could really, like, you could type down necessarily, but respect is like a biggest thing for me because so many, I don't want to just say girls, that sounds nice, but like so many people these days just don't. have respect for each other in relationships and whether that's like posting like an inappropriate

photo of yourself online while you're with someone or um just the way you speak to somebody in conversation or just how you you know conduct yourself out in the world um i've dated girls in the past that are just like doing their own thing and it's like society has changed a little bit i think so it feels normal but it's just i think disrespectful honestly um if you're with someone like you should care about what how they feel and like what they want and um yeah that's just a big thing lacking these days i think i think a big indicator of that if you take them to dinner and have them order their own food and drinks and stuff and see how they treat the waiters and waitresses it's usually a good indicator of how they respect others because people that treat waiters and waitresses poorly yeah media

turn off yeah or anything like that yeah anybody you're both perfect i don't even know what to say i feel so bad i'll tell you i'm not i can not Imagine being part of this group of girls. Was there fighting? Were these girls... You had a decent amount. I don't know how much of it was. Yeah, there was some, of course.

So you put a bunch of women in the same house trying to date the same guy. Of course, there's going to be issues. I mean, listen, there are other dating shows so that obviously, and you see that happen, there's a lot of competition. But this one, I always say I was super impressed with all the women the whole time

for how they handled situations within each other and, like, how well they got along. Like, they all were friends to, and like some of them still are. To this day, yeah. That was pretty cool. because just like I said, like how they're, if I'm, you know, one of these girls is treating the other ones poorly in the house, it's like not a good sign. I love the, I love that whole, like, waiter thing. That is the biggest turnoff. Yeah, it's awful.

Anybody in the service industry. I mean, I was a waitress for years, but even, like, like, yeah, it's awful. Well, it translates to the rest of your life. It's not just treating, you know, people in the service industry. And we have, like, you know, employees on the ranch and all kinds of different people come through there. So it's like, some of the girls, like, funny story, like. Mario is this guy we've had work on the ranch for 20 years and he just read

this quadrinal day whatever but like some of the girls treated him so well like it was cool to see that I'm like I really like that you know like he's works his butt off here

and he means a lot to our family and so they could have totally just you know disregarded him which some of them may have but like you know a few of them were like went out of their way

to like you know you guys are both like you giggle at each other's stuff and I have a feeling like there's so much behind the scenes like I would love to Do you guys stay at a house together? No.

No. So we were separated. He was in California, I was in Missouri. Oh, so you didn't, you guys weren't interacting the whole time? We had all production teams. Yeah. But three different times throughout the filming, we'd fly and meet each other with all the girls and us at a mutual place for a couple of days. Got it.

Then we'd talk shopping. Got it. My boyfriend's professor is way too friendly and now I'm seriously suspicious. Oh, wait a minute. Maybe her boyfriend's just looking for extra credit. Well, Dakota, it's back to school week on the OK Storytime podcast, so we'll find out soon. This person writes, my boyfriend has been hanging out with his young professor a lot. He doesn't think it's a problem, but I don't trust her.

Now, he's insisting we get to know each other, but I just want her gone. Now, hold up. Isn't that against school policy? That sounds totally inappropriate. Well, according to this person, this is her boyfriend's former professor and they're the same age. And it's even more likely that they're cheating. He insists there's nothing between them. I mean, do you believe him?

he's certainly trying to get this person to believe him because he now wants them both to meet. So, do we find out if this person's boyfriend really cheated with his professor or not? To hear the explosive finale, listen to the OK Storytime podcast on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast.

Hello, it's Daniel Official. Writer Strong. And Wilfredel from PodMeets World. And we're bringing you Viva Las Content. That's right. We are back in Las Vegas, the city of sin, and giving the people what they want.

A full week of Y2K content. Wait, we're back in Vegas? Tell me why. Well, for the Backstreet Boys residency at Sphere, of course. We sat down with Kevin Richardson and A.J. McLean just minutes before they took the stage, and our very own Wilfredel basically became the newest member of the band. Boy band, please. Plus, the man who has the longest running comedy show on the strip joins us and gets his props.

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Terrible love advice. Evil spells to cast on your ex. No, no, no, no. We're not doing that this season. Oh. Well, this season, we're leveling up. Each episode will feature a special bestie, and you're not going to want to miss it. Get in here! Today, we have a very special guest with us.

Our new super secret bestie is The Diva of the People. The Diva of the People. I'm just like text your ex. My theory is that if you need to figure out that the stove is hot, go and touch it. Go and figure it out for yourself. Okay. That's us. That's us.

My name is Curley. And I'm Maya. In each episode, we'll talk about love, friendship, heart breaks, men, and, of course, our favorite secrets. Listen to the Super Secret Bestie Club as a part of the Michael Tura podcast network available on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast. What would you do if one bad decision forced you to choose between a maximum security prison or the most brutal boot camp designed to be hell on earth? Unfortunately for Mark Lombardo, this was the choice he faced. He said, you are a number, a New York State number, and we own you. Shock incarceration, also known as boot camps, are short-term, highly regimented correctional

programs that mimic military basic training. These programs aim to provide a shock of prison life, emphasizing strict discipline, physical training, hard labor, and rehabilitation programs. Mark had one chance to complete this program and had no idea of the hell away waiting him the next six months. The first night was so overwhelming, and you don't know who's next to you. And we didn't know what to expect in the morning. Nobody tells you anything.

Listen to shock incarceration on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Hola, it's HoneyGerman, and my podcast, Grasasas Come Again, is back. This season, we're going even deeper into the world of music and entertainment, with raw and honest conversations with some of your favorite Latin artists and celebrities. You didn't have to audition? No, I didn't audition. I haven't audition in, like, over 25 years. Oh, wow.

That's a real G-talk right there. Oh, yeah. We've got some of the biggest actors, musicians, content creators, and culture shifters, sharing their real stories of failure and success. You were destined to be a start. We talk all about what's viral and trending with a little bit of chisement,

a lot of laughs, and those amazing vivras you've come to expect. And, of course, we'll explore deeper topics. dealing with identity, struggles, and all the issues affecting our Latin community. You feel like you get a little whitewash because you have to do the code switching? I won't say whitewash because at the end of the day, you know, I'm me.

Yeah? But the whole pretending and code, you know, it takes a toll on you. Listen to the new season of Grasasas Come Again as part of My Cultura Podcast Network on the IHartRadio app, Apple Podcast, or wherever you get your podcast. This particular podcast that you have, come on today is we usually are talking to people who are divorced or who've been widowed,

but love the second time around. You know, what do you think are sort of key elements in terms of making a marriage work? And hopefully you all will never be on this podcast for that reason. It won't be your second time around. But do you have any inkling in terms of like what happens in marriages and why they sometimes go awry? or what's necessary to have. I don't want to speak for anyone else. Obviously, I have not been married

and not been through divorce. So, you know, there's all kinds of different scenarios and reasons, and I'm no person to judge whatsoever based on that. I've dated a girl in the past that was divorced, and she was amazing, so no fault to that. But I think goes back to what I said about, just respect and people, to me, these days, are so self-centered and, like, what they want

and what they're looking for. that you know really you should be thinking like how can I be a better partner to the person that I'm with you're killing me and that all goes back you're killing me job both of you that all goes back to God I think if you have love and respect for God then you two will put each other better amazing you can't top that but go ahead and try well I mean I'll try but I agree with him in the beginning where he said everybody's situations are different so no judgment whatsoever and I have no personal experience with a marriage I've never been married but the way I see my parents do it is obviously they always make up before bed and then they

both going into the marriage realized and still realize that it's a partnership you know it's not one person um being there I don't know where I'm going with that no I know what you're saying it goes back to respect and to right you're one person yeah you're just not two separate people together it's like it's one person so everybody has a sacrifice if I swear the other fall short and stuff like that. Right, right. So I'm sorry, but we're going to have to be a little more salacious now. You guys, what can you tell me?

What can't you tell me? Are you allowed to tell me? Are you allowed to tell me? Why don't you just ask the question? Okay, we'll tell you if we can. We can't say that. Right, exactly. So we're not going to ask the question.

Why even ask? Okay. Were there, were you guys hard? Was it, did it come down to like there are two girls that it came down to or three girls and it was tough for sure yeah um at the beginning when we met all eight um it was a little easier especially because you only got to spend 10 minutes with the person right um but then as time went on you started to build these you know stronger relationships with each and every girl sure it started get really tough especially at the end when it was down to like three and two and stuff like you know is there

are you happy with how it all wrapped up you are oh you both met someone oh well i'm guessing you didn't say it I said it, well, you're so happy. Yeah, we're having friends now. Uh-huh, that's it. Uh-huh. Because we never had friends before. Did you know anything about yourselves guys going through the experience? Let me think about that one.

The hardest thing, I already knew this about myself was, but I don't really like getting into like nitty-gritty of talking about my feelings, you know? Especially on TV. That was really hard because you're like daily. They're like prying like, what do you really feel about this girl? That was difficult for me to do. Do you come from a family where people, where you guys talk about feelings a lot? Or is it just sort of. Not so much.

Right. No. Not really. Like ever. My family is pretty. You talked about a feeling. Yeah. My family is like loving, but we don't like get too much or anything like that.

So yeah, that was difficult for me. You guys affectionate? Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. But I don't know what that means. With our family. Yes.

Yeah. Like fighting all the time. Okay. Yeah. That's how we are too. Making fun of each other. Okay. Yeah.

I love you, but I want, my dad's told me, you know, he's been looking at all his pictures. His way of complimenting me is he says he wants to slap the shit out of you. Yeah. Yeah, that's how my family rolls. I think that's why we get along because our families, I think are both like that. Yeah. We would never say anything nice too. Like that was just like gross like you're just, I can just imagine like my family if someone did this. Yeah. We would just tear that shreds. Oh, it would be nonstop. It has been nonstop. I love that though. But you know what? Keep it coming. Yeah. This is where I'm going to. So wait. So did you learn anything about I guess I learned more what I really wanted, you know, going into the show, like I said,

we have those preferences and everything, but going through it and having to talk about it every single day from dawn till dusk, you kind of have a more narrow sense of what you actually are looking for. What stood out the most? So by the end of it, like what made sense that maybe didn't before? Like, I really want to, like, in terms of when you got close to finding that one woman, this is what I like. I didn't even realize I liked it, but this is so important to me.

or anything. I think it just goes back to what I said earlier about just being able to get along with somebody. You know, you come in with all these high expectations, but in the end, you know, if you guys can't really get along, it's not really going to work out. So, you know, especially if you're going to get married, you're going to be spending a lot of time with each other.

So there's plenty of things to learn. That's true. You know, get used to. So as long as you guys get along right off the bat, it's usually okay. Yeah, mine, I've been thinking about how to describe this for years, but mine is just such, like this mental thing like I feel like I can almost just like look at someone and know like are we

thinking the same thing right now you know and it's like this like I don't know how you put that into words or describe that but like this connection and I've really hardly ever felt that with girls you know yeah throughout my life maybe a couple times you know and so like did you get to feel that on the show uh well you know it's certainly possible okay but um but yeah I've like I've dated girls that I thought I really liked before and then like and it's as time has gone on, I'm like, wait, maybe, like, that's not really there as much as I thought, you know? Yep. Did you have a specific physical type, like, in your past, did you always gravitate towards a specific physical type or?

No, yes. No, generally, yes. But I'm not like, oh, I only like blondes or only like, no, it's like that's not so much that. It's more of like, um, careful. What is it? Yeah, it's like, what is it? Be careful. Be careful, right.

We're trying to thin line here. Yeah. No, I'm really into my health and, like, fitness. And I obviously want someone like that. In other words, you like thin girls. Yes, I mean, let's just get, yeah. No, not say that. I didn't say that's, no, you didn't.

Okay, that's, no, you didn't. No, just someone that's, like, that's important to me is, like, my health and wellness, and I want someone that aligns with that. Got it. Yeah, somebody who's confident in themselves, too. Yeah. It's massive. I'm a sucker for a girl that's, like, really stylish and trendy.

Yeah. Yeah, I don't know why. I love that. You are? Yeah. Are you? Yeah, of course. Yeah, too.

So the stylish thing, the fit thing, you got to give me something over here. What else? Physically. Really get ourselves in some trouble here. I'm not going to get myself no trouble here. You want to talk about hair color? I'll say hair color. Okay.

Okay. I'll give you that. I think I gravitate more towards blondes. Towards blondes, okay. I'm pretty 50-50 on that one. Okay. I'm not going to say. But that's just based on my pants.

Short, tall. All right, whatever. You guys, you're impossible. We're smart. You guys, you're going to get all these news. You're going to have to watch to find out what it is that turns you on. So before I let you guys go, I have a question. It sort of goes back to what we were talking about in at the beginning here.

But so on the show, I would think that the women have to be a little more forward. Don't they have sort of come to you, right? Do you think that that's something that you like when a woman makes the first move? I guess it depends on where and how they do it. Yeah, there's different. Doesn't really bother me. No? No.

But that's sort of how it worked, right? Yeah. Definitely. Would I rather have it that way? No. But it's not like it's a turnoff or anything. I think it's really hard. That's hard to answer because it depends on how.

It's a situational. Yeah, situation is different. A lot of the past had a girl, like, approach me, but then just did it so well, like that I was still into it, you know? Yeah. Versus that you could do it and be like way over the top and like, hi, and like hanging around and all that stuff. And they're like, oh, okay, this is a lot. But I've had it too where a girl just like says some smart remark to me that walks away. And I'm like, oh, okay.

I don't recommend it for a girl, though, because a guy doesn't put in as much effort to impress them. You guys, I appreciate this. I agree. I couldn't agree more. Guys don't do that much anymore, though. You know what? I think that that just is true, and it's not true for everybody, and it's not an absolute, but I think that in terms of my experience, I think that men do tend to want to take the lead.

They should. Right? And sort of, again, want what they. think that they can't have. And there's all this hunter-gatherer philosophy behind it all, right? Men are hunters, women are gatherers. Unfortunately, a lot of guys, I don't think are doing that as much these days. They're not making the first move.

Well, they are, but they'll like an Instagram story and think that they really went out of the way. I remember my brothers, he's 12 years older than me, but all his buddies, when they'd go out and they'd be talking like, oh, I went up to this girl the night or I said this. And then now I compare that to like my friends or even younger guys. And I'm like, they're not really doing that at all, hardly. So this is such a big conversation. And I have so much, and you guys are going to have to come back. Because I think that what you're saying right now is fascinating.

And I feel like young men today, it's a really big problem that they are swiping, swiping, swiping. I think there's a lot of problems with self-esteem in that. I think that it has created a scenario where, you know, you have to go out. You have to, it has to be face to face. You got to get rejected. You got to make good decisions. You got to make bad decisions. decisions, all of that I think is so important.

And when you're in the basement, swiping, swiping, it's just, yeah, I think it is a huge problem. But not our problem today. We will be watching. Cool. Thank you, Matt. Thanks for having us. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you guys so much. Are you ready to get back out there in date again? Having a hard time getting started and need some guidance. Our team is here to help. Call us or email us. Follow us on socials.

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