The Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous Podcast - Spill The Wine...And The Tea

Episode Date: November 21, 2024

Amy, T.J., Jennie, and the golden ladies Susan and Kathy, are sipping and spilling as they answer your need-to-know questions to find love again! From advice on dating someone who's lost a spouse to how to get a man to see you as more than just a fling, this motley crew of hopeless romantics is giving you the answers. Ready to find love again?Want dating advice?Email us at: [e-mail] or call us at 844-4-I Do Pod (844-443-6763)Follow I Do, Part 2 on Instagram and TikTok  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This is an I-Heart podcast. My boyfriend's professor is way too friendly, and now I'm seriously suspicious. Wait a minute, Sam. Maybe her boyfriend's just looking for extra credit. Well, Dakota, luckily, it's back to school week on the OK Storytime podcast, so we'll find out soon. This person writes, my boyfriend's been hanging out with his young professor a lot. He doesn't think it's a problem, but I don't trust her. Now he's insisting we get to know each other, but I just want her gone.

Hold up. Isn't that against school policy? That seems inappropriate. Maybe find out how it ends by listening to the OK Storytime podcast and the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Hi, my name is Enya Umanzor. And I'm Drew Phillips. And we run a podcast called Emergency Intercom. If you're a crime junkie and you love crimes, we're not the podcast for you. But if you have unmedicated ADHD... Oh, my God, perfect.

And want to hear people with mental illness, psychobabble. Yes, yes. Then Emergency Intercom is the podcast for you. Open your free IHeartRadio app. Search Emergency Intercom and listen now. I'm Dr. Joy Hardin-Bradford, host of the Therapy for Black Girls podcast. I know how overwhelming it can feel if flying makes you anxious. In session 418 of the Therapy for Black Girls podcast, Dr. Angela Neal-Barnett and I discuss flight anxiety.

What is not a norm is to allow it to prevent you from doing the things that you want to do, the things that she were meant to do. Listen to therapy for black girls on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast. Hey there, folks, and welcome to I do part two. This is a one-of-a-kind experiment in love. and podcasting, and we are not here to help just any old body find love. Oh, no, we are here to help folks who are maybe trying to find love again, maybe on the second, third, fourth, whatever time around.

That's right. And we are some of your hosts, Amy Robach, T.J. Holmes, Jenny Garth, and today we're joined by some of our celebrity mentors. You know them from the Golden Bachelor and their podcast, Bachelor Happy Hour, Golden Hour. We want to welcome Kathy Swartz and Susan Knowles to the podcast. Thank you. Still looking for love, baby. Ladies, look at how beautiful you are.

Well, since we're all here together in San Francisco, why don't we go around and play a little question game? We can answer some questions from our listeners. We have them in a bowl, you guys. Should we go around and just pick one out? Sounds good. Yeah, and ask the question. Kathy and I are all good on questions, aren't we, Kathy?

I love it. It's actually in an ice bucket. You know what I wish there was ice in that bucket? I know, and I wish there was something. in the ice bucket, but no, we just have your questions, listeners. So, hey, TJ, why do you, do I have to answer? This is for everybody. Well, everyone can answer it, but, yeah,

you're reading it and then we'll all chime in. All right, should we all be setting our friends up more instead of letting them search online for love? Wow, she was ready. She's jumping in. Come on, Kathy. Given that looking on our own is not working so well,

I will ask a stranger on the street to fix me up. But she's not kidding, and I've heard her say it. Do you have any cute friends? Right. I ask. She's asked for uncles, dads. I meet somebody, you know, my daughter's friends.

Where's your father? Where's your uncle? Why not? Do you think that's like the way it is like most women would rather just go ahead and be set up? I think in a perfect world, people would like to meet people organically and not just, you know, flipping through pages or flipping through the internet. But it's tough. In this world, it's tough to meet people. And as well as the dating sites, I have no problem with them.

I marry a lot of people that met on a dating site. However, I think I've used them all and to go back on them after being on the show is. It's the same people. They're still there. I was a setup. My husband and I were a setup. See? Does he have a brother?

There you go. What did I tell you? Never miss a beach. Do you feel pressure, though, if you get, as the friend, don't you feel pressure that, wow, if it doesn't work out, then I am the one. that set those two up. Have you ever had that happen? Have you ever accidentally ruin someone's life? Wow!

That far? So far, I've only had, I've just had a recent successful setup and so far so good. Thanks, Amy. If they, it was my best friend and a former producer of mine and they're still going strong. But if they broke up, I would feel personally responsible. I would feel bad about it. I have a question. Did they ask for a photo first?

Or did they know who the person was? See, I would want to see what... It's funny. We met, actually, we were doing a group thing, and he came, and she was there. And so it was no pressure, and he saw her, and she saw him. But did they know each other was going to be there? Yes. And so it was a little bit, but there was not a lot of pressure.

And then it took a while. I think it took like six months before they actually went on a date. I don't have time. Yeah, that's too much. Time is all the essence. Okay, so like six minutes later, you want to be on a date. Not six months later. Okay, okay. Next question.

All right, here we go. I'm going to dig in here. I feel like I'm, oh, I might have to put my glasses on. Let's see. Okay, let me try not to. If someone has a bad relationship with their mom, is that a red flag? Oh, that's a good question. Oh, boy. And is it different from men and women?

You know what? I think it depends on the mom. I would have to meet the mom to know because, look, I would like to believe all moms have the best intentions and you want to place the blame, we all blame our moms for everything, right? But the reality is I would want to meet the mom before I made that decision. Yeah, you'd have to assess the situation. Yes. But do you know that old saying if he's good to his

mother, how he treats his mother is hell? Okay, but is that always true? Yeah. Because that's my, I mean, I'm wondering, I need to know, make for a friend. And could he have too good of a relationship with his mom? That would also be, to me, that would

be the biggest red flag of the mall. Huge red flag, huge. But plus is horror. Mama's boy. It depends if it's the woman or the man. Like, I think it depends. Like, my husband was treated as mother like gold, and he treated me like gold. I did not get along with my natural mother at all, but very close with my stepmother.

And so I think it really just depends on the situation. Yeah, generally speaking, though, would it be a red flag? I don't know. You would like to think, but you always say, Robs, you talk about, like, if you're too dependent on your mom, how close is that relationship? Is that also a warning sign in a red flag? For me as a woman with the man, if he was too close with his mom, I would be concerned also just about where I stood, how the mom would view me.

That all matters as a woman. Where do you fit in? Mommy comes first and we come second? Yeah, that's not going to work. It's not going to work. But if he doesn't get along with his mom. I want to know the reason. Yeah, I want to know the reason too.

Why doesn't he like his mom? Yeah. Maybe he loves her, but maybe they just don't have, I think he didn't go both places. Like Amy said, we need to meet her. We need to meet her. We need to meet the mom. We need more information.

Okay. I'm going to be struggling to read this as well. You need some help, honey. When do you have the conversation about how someone's relationship is with their ex? I don't care about that. I don't either. Because there's a reason why they're their ex. and it might not have ended well, and that's okay.

And I think if you have confidence in who you are, start right there and move forward. Yeah. I usually have that conversation that comes out one way or the other on the first date. Like, we're friends. He's there. We're parents together, grandparents together. He's around.

Well, you mean ex-husband? I was thinking about an ex-just in dating. But I guess we could go either way. Who cares? That's what I just said. Who cares? Yeah, I'm with you. Yeah.

I want him to know up front. I want to know everything up front Yeah, I only think you have to have the conversation When the ex shows up in our relationship, then we need to talk about it. You don't want to know, you want to be surprised. Well, I don't. I like a little heads up.

Right, I don't care about it until it in some way starts to impact the relationship I have with you. Okay, so wait, can I ask a question? This is Roman numeral one, you know, part B. You guys have exes. Lots of them. Multiple.

Just a few. There's a question. Is it important that you get along with each other's exes so it's not too stressful? My answer is two words. The first one is hell. The second one is no. I don't care. I should have no relationship. I don't need any relationship with anybody. No, I'm not like with kids and stuff. Her kids are older. My kids are older. So we just don't, it's not necessary. If it were necessary, if you knew that that person was going to be in your life, of course, yes. But in a perfect world and certainly. when your kids are older, it's not as important. It's just, I mean, I don't need to know. Because if I know you and I love you, I don't need to base it off of another relationship

because dynamics are so interesting and I think you can actually not be the best version of yourself in the wrong dynamic. And I wouldn't want to be judged by that. It's like judging somebody because of their past. Correct. My boyfriend's professor is way too friendly, and now I'm seriously suspicious. Well, wait a minute, Sam, maybe her boyfriend's just looking for extra credit.

Well, Dakota, it's back to school week on the OK Storytime podcast, so we'll find out soon. This person writes, my boyfriend has been hanging out with his young professor a lot. He doesn't think it's a problem, but I don't trust her. Now, he's insisting we get to know each other, but I just want her gone. Now, hold up. Isn't that against school policy? That sounds totally inappropriate. Well, according to this person, this is her boyfriend's former professor, they're the same age. And it's even more likely that they're cheating.

He insists there's nothing between them. I mean, do you believe him? Well, he's certainly trying to get this person to believe him because he now wants them both to meet. So, do we find out if this person's boyfriend really cheated with his professor or not? To hear the explosive finale, listen to the OK Storytime podcast on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast. What would you do if one bad decision forced you to choose between a maximum security prison

or the most brutal boot camp designed to be hell on earth? Unfortunately for Mark Lombardo, this was the choice he faced. He said, you are a number, a New York State number, and we own you. Shock incarceration, also known as boot camps, are short-term, highly regimented correctional programs that mimic military basic training. These programs aim to provide a shock of prison life, emphasizing strict discipline, physical training, hard labor, and rehabilitation programs. Mark had one chance to complete this program

and had no idea of the hell awaiting him the next six months. The first night was so overwhelming and you don't know who's next to you. And we didn't know what to expect in the morning. Nobody tells you anything. Listen to shock incarceration on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. My name is Ed.

Everyone say hello, Ed. I'm from a very rural background myself. My dad is a farmer and my mom is a cousin. What do you get when a true crime producer walks into a comedy club? I know it sounds like the start of a bad joke, but that really was my reality nine years ago. I just normally do straight stand-up, but this is a bit different. On stage stood a comedian with a story that no one expected to hear. The 22nd of July 2015, a 23-year-old man had killed his family.

And then he came to my house. So what do you get when a true crime producer walks into a comedy club? A new podcast called Wisecrack, where stand-up comedy and murder takes center stage. Available now. Listen to Wisecrack on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. I know none of you regret the marriages because either children or lessons or both came out of them.

But do you regret the time wasted between knowing it's what needed to be done and actually doing it? Whether that was months or years. Regret's a big word. That's a tough word. You learn. You learn. But my mom would always tell. me when I was going through a difficult time in a relationship.

He said, it's better than no in five months than in five years. If it's not good, I know it hurts right now, son, I know you're heartbroken, but you just found out this isn't where you should be. And you found out in five months instead of five years, congratulations. That's the lesson I always was. I like your mom. Yeah, she always taught me that. And then you get stuck on stupid and you know, but you don't do anything about it.

Well, look at this. And you try to raise your kids and do the right thing for the family. and you wait till way, way later. Can I just ask a question? Does anybody in this room, I'm not divorced, wasn't divorced, my husband passed away, but does anybody think that having, staying together in a marriage for kids

is a good way to go? Absolutely not. I don't think it is either. When it comes to regret, yes, I think it's a tough word because you do, I do believe that we all make the best decision with the information we have at the time. And we're weighing things that we can't possibly know we'll change or evolve. And in that moment, a lot of us do what we think is best for

our kids in that moment. So it's hard to look back and say, I should have. I think should have and could have are like one of the most dangerous phrases you can use because you can't do anything about it. I think you just have to understand where you were and give yourself a little bit of credit that you were doing the best you could. Like you said, Jenny, giving yourself at that time yeah yeah i think on the opposite side i think i would say i regret wasting time holding on to it you know because i wasn't in either in any of my situations i've never been the one to leave like i stay like i i work i keep working and so um i think from the other side i think i regret the time wasted on my side that i wasted weren't true to yourself yeah like yeah

wanting it just because that's the way it was supposed to be. Yeah, supposed to. That's a tough one too, right? That's how we were taught and raised, right? We've got to keep trying. Never give up. But the best is when your children, you wait until they're out of school and then you make this move, and they come to you and go, Mom, why did you wait so long?

Yeah, they see things so differently, though, when they're older. Yeah. So, little regrets, not coming. Let's some. Here there, here and there. Okay, my turn. Your turn, your turn. Where's the bucket?

Hope you don't get a paragraph. I'm going to pick a specific, a little word of one. Hold on. Okay. Do you know in the first five minutes if you want to go out with someone again or does it grow? Oh, I know. I know it's in the first two minutes. I know, I know it say walk across the room.

Really? Yeah. I don't know about that because when I met my husband, like, he was across the room. I saw him for the first time. This was on a setup. I just saw him outside. I mean, I get it. No.

No, no, no. I saw him and I said, ugh. You did? Your husband? Yes. Wait, can I tell you I met my husband at a fraternity party when I was 18 years old. I walked in, everybody this back of the age when everyone was 18 drinking alcohol, I looked at him. It was huge fraternity party.

I was with my roommate. I looked at this guy across the room and I looked at her and I said, see that guy right there? I said, yeah, I said, I'm going to marry him. And I had 18 months later, and we were married almost 46 years. Oh, my God, I love that. That's a true story. However, now I do the same thing. So you said, ooh?

Aren't we visual people? We are. But, yeah, no, I had the opposite. You're not a visual person? I said, ew, and he, yeah. He pursued you then? Well, no, because you, I'm just saying you don't know what you don't know. Well, again, Susan, this is why we're single.

We're so busy looking at. So wait a minute, you saw him and you were, you said, ooh, when you first met. Yeah. What changed your mind? Well, I didn't want to date a, you know, a tall, handsome actor guy. Like, I was over, I wanted just like normal, nice, just, you know, not affected. I wanted that. Okay.

And look at you now. I assumed wrong. I assumed that he would. Ah, one of the four agreements you do not assume. Okay, that sounded wild. You said, I don't want to date a tall, handsome actor. Who says that? Good call.

Who really says that, you know? Susan, she can handle. You got to walk a mile sometimes. You got to. He knows this story. The is a story? Oh, yeah, yeah. Oh, how about you, T.J?

I think I said out of Loxin. Do you know immediately? Like, yeah, I'm never going to see her again. Well, the questions about the five minutes. You do know minute one if you want to keep talking for minute two. And two to three and three to three to five. It's called chemistry. And then at some point, it might be 15 minutes.

It might sometimes even be 15 years. I was going to say it or eight years. There you go. That you figure out this is not where I want to be or exactly where I want to be. So yeah, that chemistry, you know immediately when it doesn't work. And sometimes it happens in 60 seconds. Yeah. In 60 seconds.

Yeah. With you, again, we had chemistry, but we had no idea about romantic chemistry that we were going that direction. But we hit it off. Oh, yeah. We liked each other. Obviously, it's working. Yeah. Yeah, we liked each other from the moment we met each other 10 years ago.

But like, but that's a different thing when you. Yeah. Well, we were in, we were also not available. So it wasn't even a consideration. So that was a different perspective from when we met. We weren't even considering it. Neither one of us were options for the other. Like, hey, you're cool.

So we were like, I like you. I like hanging out with you. And so that was just where it was. And that's where it stayed for eight years. Yeah. And then you got hot all of a sudden. It happens to me all the time and I find out their guy. Yeah.

It's like, oh, man. If they're too fun, they're too well-dressed, if they're too beautiful. They're perfect. Here's a question here. Okay. Best advice for someone dating someone who's lost a spouse. Best advice for dating someone who's lost a spouse. So I win that question.

You win that question. Yeah. Although you're not dating someone. Well, yeah. The best advice for dating someone who's lost a spouse, I think the advice I would give them is don't try to recreate the relationship you had with your spouse look for someone who genuinely just makes you feel happy in the space that you're in now

and try not to look backward and look forward. That's what I try to do every day. I try to just look forward and give people a chance when I meet them and not compare them. Don't compare people to your spouse. I would think try not to replace their spouse. My second bit was exactly that, that don't think that your heart is closed off. It's like having a child.

You have a child and you think, I could never love another child. And then when I had my second child, it's just your heart expands. So my husband will always be in my heart. That's such a good way of looking at it. I never heard that analogy. But I have room for another person. I have room for love in my heart. So I would tell people to be open.

That's such good advice. Now I'm going to cry. It reminds us. I know you remember this. Patrick Swayze's widow spoke to us about the love she has now and the husband she has now and the man she said there was a room in my heart for both and he was the one who always supported her and that and made sure she went I know there was the love of your life and I'm here now but but she spoke of it in such in a way that you're speaking of it now that I'd really never heard

somebody talk about that's beautiful it were watching jones seasons did you hear or keep saying with the bachelorette yeah reminded me of jones the guilt at all and it was like okay move on what how long how long since your husband passed he he died um it'll be six years in february that's not that long that's not that long it feels like so many things have changed in my life you know team sports my husband was a huge sport so he's missed so many things in college football and basketball and grand babies he's missed grandchildren being born and he's missed marriages and he's missed divorces and he's missed weddings and it just seems so long it seems so long but you know what i i as i say i carry him every day in my heart but i have room for that person

that could come and join me where i am oh that's beautiful yes my boyfriends professor is way too friendly and now i'm seriously suspicious oh wait a minute sam maybe her boyfriend's just looking for extra credit. Well, Dakota, it's back to school week on the OK Storytime podcast, so we'll find out soon. This person writes, my boyfriend has been hanging out with his young professor a lot. He doesn't think it's a problem, but I don't trust her. Now, he's insisting we get to know each other, but I just want her gone. Now, hold up.

Isn't that against school policy? That sounds totally inappropriate. Well, according to this person, this is her boyfriend's former professor and they're the same age. And it's even more likely that they're cheating. He insists there's nothing between them. I mean, do you believe him? Well, he's certainly trying to get this person to believe him because he now wants them both to meet. So, do we find out if this person's boyfriend really cheated with his professor or not?

To hear the explosive finale, listen to the OK Storytime podcast on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast. My name is Ed. Everyone say, hello, Ed. Hello, Ed. I'm from a very rural background myself. My dad is a farmer, and my mom is a cousin. So, like, it's not like... What do you get when a true crime producer walks into a comedy club? I know it sounds like the story.

start of a bad joke, but that really was my reality nine years ago. I just normally do straight stand-up, but this is a bit different. On stage stood a comedian with a story that no one expected to hear. The 22nd of July 2015, a 23-year-old man had killed his family. And then he came to my house. So what do you get when a true crime producer walks into a comedy club? A new podcast called Wisecrack, where stand-up comedy and murder takes center stage. Available now.

Listen to Wisecrack on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. What would you do if one bad decision forced you to choose between a maximum security prison or the most brutal boot camp designed to be hell on earth? Unfortunately for Mark Lombardo, this was the choice he faced. He said, you are a number, a New York State number, and we own you. Shock incarceration, also known as boot camps, are short-term, highly regimented correctional programs that mimic military basic training. These programs aim to provide a shock of prison life, emphasizing strict discipline, physical training, hard labor, and rehabilitation programs. Mark had one chance to complete this program and had no idea of the hell awaiting him.

him the next six months. The first night was so overwhelming and you don't know who's next to you. And we didn't know what to expect in the morning. Nobody tells you anything. Listen to shock incarceration on the IHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. This is coming to us from Chrissy Burns. She's 43 years old.

She's a single mom. She asks, how do I attract the right guy that. actually wants a commitment. Why am I only attracting men who want something casual? We're twins. Yeah, I mean. I get it. Wait, you have a commitment thing?

No, the men that I meet. I attract the wrong kind of men. You attract the wrong kind. You guys you don't want a commitment. We're yelling at me the other day. I think, I think, I think, I think, wait, wait, what's the kind? The wrong kind. I think Susan doesn't, I'm not sure you're clear on who it is you want.

And so I think she gets into it and then goes, that was fun for 10 minutes. I don't think you've found the guy you want. I don't think you haven't found the guy worth committing for. That's just my opinion. This is true. This is what happens when you're together a lot. Can I ask?

Where are you? Like where are you meeting men? How are you? Like what is it, what energy or what are you putting out that is attracting this thing? I am open and I feel as if and I've been told I intimidate men. I'm very outspoken. I am not shy. But to sit and have a conversation with me is easy.

You're funny as shit. Like you make me laugh all day. And maybe when you are like good time, girl and fun, it gives all the wrong impression. That's what people say to us all the time that we're funny and we're huge personalities. But we, I mean, I just say, I almost change that. We have our really sensitive side. But men are like, whoa, you're a lot. And it's tough, too, I think, to go and put your intentions out initially, like on a first date, hey, I want something serious.

Whoa. You know, that's like guys run from that. When I meet them and I say, I'd like a house on Martha's Vineyard. Do you have one? That might be off pudding. That might be off footing. Should I stop leading with that question? Possibly.

I'll keep my house. You keep yours and we'll buy another. I root for straight to the point. I don't fudge it very well. When you get to a point, you don't have a lot of time. It's like, okay, let's figure out where you stand, where we stand, what are you looking for? At a bad opening, what are you looking for? Really, at our age, we've talked about this, isn't it?

At our age, you know, we've raised children, we have grandchildren. I know what I'm after. You sort of know what you're after. Really? Kind of. And I just think, you know, why waste time? I mean, yeah, TG and I talked about this, I think, just in our last podcast, almost immediately when we just got to the point where we were, I was like, and here's the deal.

Like, this is what I would only be okay with. And he's like, this is what I would only be okay with. And just as adults, setting the boundaries immediately when you recognize you have feelings for each other is important. But also you guys have lived. And so have you. We all have. You've lived life. You've had other spouses.

You know you've learned those lessons that make you strong in your, if you will, boundary setting. Right. Yeah. And it's just, it's like, again, I don't want to waste time. I'm just a hopeless romantic, though, too. Oh, it's sickening. I know. Sickening.

All right. The six months later, you realize, yeah, it's not it. Oh. I fall hard fast and I go, oh. And then she's like, I think I have a bus to catch him out. Oh, wait. Okay, so there's something there. Is there what?

Let's stick deeper. Oh, boy, here we go. She's a love at it. Again, I got Kathy, now I've got Jenny over here. All right, here we go. This one's from Brittany. It looks like Brittany Dionne Cabacas. I'm sure I'm bittering that now.

Say it with authority. and it's good. Brittany, Dionne Cavacas, that's your name. Do Amy and T.J. Find it hard, working together and being together and yet still finding time for the date nights. Trying to balance life and love can be so hard as it is. Do you tell.

L.O.L. on the date nights. We are together 24-7. I think we have, I, I can only speak for me. I am blown away at how I can be with one person for so much and still feel like I miss him. Yeah, and I actually feel like I miss him. Like, if we're working, I'm like, wait, I miss us. Can we, can we, actually, you hate us.

I hate them right now. I hate them. You said you hate them. I hate them. Everything you want. That's what she said. It's called me. It's cold.

We understand that we're really annoying. And we do have our moment. where things aren't hunky dory, but we, for the most part, I would say more so than not. And again, I am shocked. I know me. I've lived with myself for 50 plus years,

and I have never been this person where I'm like, how am I still happy to be with you and wanting more, if that's even entirely possible? But yeah, I mean, we have had to, more so from me,

he's had to say, let's go on a date, but let's go out and we can't talk about work. We can't talk about the podcast. That's hard, isn't it? And I have messed. I'm like, oh, sorry.

Whoops. No, and that actually was nice. I'm doing, TJ. Come on. I'm dying. Don't you want what they? I hate that. I hate what you have.

And what you all are talking about, it is all comes down to a foundation of friendship. We were built. We were built for eight years on friendship. Very important. We are good to go. I know her as well as anybody else on the planet. So that's where we started. Hopefully you know me more than anyone else on the planet.

No, I want to give an exception for your, for your daughters and your parents. I wanted to leave it exactly. Okay, okay, okay. But it works because we don't necessarily do date. We don't, I hate the idea of date nights. I just hate having to plan being a cult. It's like work. It's like a Valentine's card.

It's right. In my head, it's okay other people want to do that. But our date nights are date days and date mornings. We take a walk and go get a bagel. We'll take a walk. Just quiet time together sometimes. And go get lunch at Mexcalli and look out in the window and have our margaritas. All right, enough.

We're used to work. working together. So that was always like the fun. So work stays kind of fun for the most part. And then we actually get to like be together. Do you have time for other, do you have time for other friends to go out with your other friends? Not really. Oh, not a lot. They dropped all those people. That is what you get busy. You're busy. And you're okay to disagree. You're, you agree to disagree. Are you each other's best friends? Absolutely. That's so important. I want my best friend. That's what I lead with my best friend. Absolutely. And we were. We were before. Like, like, like, that's what was happening like I was like this is the guy I just who I tell everything to like what

it was crazy yeah yeah but I want to upset you further by continuing to talk about I love your relationship no I think it's great to you guys that's what I say when do you need to kiss by to see if there is physical chemistry oh when you know it's how long you have to wait when you kiss them but wait to see if that's the problem right there well you know there's chemistry before you kiss you. Correct. Either I want to kiss you or I don't. And if you're going to stay more than five minutes,

it's because I want to kiss you. And you know that if you turn the cheek, it's over. Oh, absolutely. Oh, God. If you're wondering whether or not you want to, that's a red flag. You don't want to. Then you don't want to.

Exactly. You can't force that. All right. I'm not going to chime in on the kissing one, but I will chime in. We will all continue to chime in more. We're going to continue with this fun round of questions from our listeners in the in part two of I do part two part two

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