The Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous Podcast - The Trials and Tribulations of Trista

Episode Date: May 23, 2024

Ben and Ashley are breaking down the latest Bachelor headlines! The mystery around Trista Sutter is growing after the cryptic posts from her husband Ryan, and Ben and Ashley are trying to get to the bottom of it! There’s a new Bachelor baby on the way! But Ashley has a big question… who’s the father??  Plus Ben shares some inside info on a major step in Becca Kufrin and Thomas Jacobs’ relationship!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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We are breaking down Bachelor Nation headlines with our expert, Ashley. And Ashley, the first headline today is one that we said we were going to keep being updated on. I don't know if we're getting any more clarity other than we're getting more information. This is the headline. A big one right now. We're getting more cryptic. I feel like it's getting more cryptic. But what are you going to do?

Bachelor Nations Ryan Sutter clarifies he and wife Trista are great after cryptic messages. Okay, so last week we talked about how Ryan has posted a series of pictures on Instagram with the, captions that are like, I miss you. I can't believe I'm doing life without you. I need to hear your voice. And we all just assumed that she's off shooting a show, but he's making it seem like it's like way more than that. And I did read in the comment section. Somebody was like, you can't like say stuff like this. It makes us really worried. And he was like, don't be worried. She's going through something and she got an opportunity that she really thought would help her through this journey that she's on everyone is good it's like okay but then you just

said that she's going through something so now we're like is it just a TV show or what the opportunity has to be a TV show apparently like I said last week there's a number of celebrities along the lines of Trista that did sign off on Instagram as if they were going to be away for a while. Some people are speculating it's traitors, some special forces. Last week, it was as if Bob Guinea confirmed that it was special forces, but then he told us that he actually has no idea. So who knows, but let's get into this a little bit because Ryan did get on Instagram and try

to clarify all the cryptic stuff. He said, I write what's on my mind at the moment. I write my feelings without regard for how they will be interpreted and with absolutely no intent to deceive or mislead anyone. This is the farthest thing for my mind. I choose to share my thoughts on the occasion because it helps me process them. And I hope may help others navigate their own lives. Trista is fine. We are fine. We are great. Trista is in a place in her life where she's searching a bit. An opportunity to present itself that may help her on this quest. Oh, that is the quote that I was referring to earlier. With her family's support, she's taking it. Part of the process means that she's temporarily

inaccessible to us. I miss her. We miss her. I wish that Jared would miss me like this. You're away from Jess all the time. I have a couple days every month where I'm away from Jared and I don't think you'd ever miss me like this. But, yeah, I mean, we hope that everybody's good. I think that I would like to say that we did try to get Ryan on the podcast. We wanted him to just talk about his feelings. But he said that he would rather Trista address everything when she's back as she is our OG Bachelorette. So in doing some investigation, I think we've pretty much came to the consensus.

it's not traitors. She's not on traitors. Okay. And why did you come to that? Because you know somebody who's going on traitors. I believe I know somebody that's going on traitors.

And it has not started filming yet. And it doesn't start filming for a while. So then it leaves us with special forces. Or a show that we don't know of that's on like a lesser node network. Sure. I don't think it's special forces because she has commented on some Orion's posts.

And... it was spoken that Ryan and Trista have spoken on the phone. And Trista did reply to one of our text messages. If it was special forces, she wouldn't be replying to text messages. Also, the first post that Ryan shared was on May 11th, and today's May 22nd. Now, she could have left, got some prep. The timeline would work out for special forces that she would kind of be back about,

you know, within the next few days. Yeah, it's only 10 days of filming. It's only 10 days of filming, two, three days of prep. And, you know, like, if you don't win, you get home. You can get home within a week. So it has to be a show that we don't know about. The confusing part here is the comment that she was going through something, and so she got an opportunity that she thought would help that that.

You know, in our story assumptions, I wonder if, Trist was feeling like, hey, nobody cares anymore. Like, you know, she's fallen so, it's been so long. Nobody's paying attention to her. She's not getting any of the opportunities that other people are getting. Because Ryan's most recent post kind of speaks to that too, is it did feel good for people to know or notice and care about what was going on in their relationship. So I wonder if Trista was just kind of hitting that, hey, you know what?

Like, I haven't gotten known for anything or done anything exciting or. new for so long and I'm feeling a little sluggish and then she got us to be on a show and she's like maybe this could help that I could see that being the case and it would be completely fair these messages are cryptic and they do I think without context um and without knowing Ryan and knowing that like social media isn't his thing he doesn't love it and I get that uh and he as a result I don't think he knows the world of social media and how people read into stuff. I think that I would assume just based on the last few posts, like, yeah, things, things aren't like, things are going bad somewhere. I don't know how or where, but things are going bad. But I don't think it's the

case at all because of kind of how he's trying to clarify what he's doing and what he's saying. I think he's like, no, no, no, please. I think if he was on our podcast, he'd say, no, no, everything's great. She's just gone and I miss her. I will say it is an amazing amount of missing that he's doing and that is awesome. I think that is so cool that he is willing to wear his heart in a sleeve and share with the world that he is missing his wife that he loves so much that he doesn't like being away from her. I think that is the sweetest thing ever and at some point I hope we look back and be like that was just a really sweet time where he was vulnerable with all of us and he shared with all of us. I am excited to talk to Trista here at the Almost Famous Podcast because I think she's

going to be like, what? And the world was going on when I was gone. I know. I love it. I can't wait to hear her take. Okay. What's our next headline? It's a big one. Yeah, we do got some big ones today. Colton Underwood and his partner and his husband, Jordan C. Brown, are expecting their first baby together. Well, congratulations you, too. They confirmed this news in an interview with men's health. It was published yesterday, May 21st, and the couple explained that they used a concierge service to find an egg donor, but they will not know which of their sperm was used to create

the baby. They said, some people want blue eyes, blonde hair. We want someone deep and cool. I believe in nature versus nurture. So give us the basics and we'll show this kid love. Our little boy, it's a boy. It's coming in the fall. It's an exciting time for the two of them.

Obviously, Colton, Ashley, you probably know more about this and I do. He started a project, like a podcast, right? To kind of talk about this journey and... Yeah, to talk about, like, really getting his sperm right because there was a lot that he was doing for what he thought was his, you know, physical health that wasn't doing the sperm well. So this is a big journey for the two of them. It is exciting. We will be following along with that as well.

When you don't know whose sperm is used and the baby is born, do you feel like they will figure out who sperm was used? And do you be just based on like appearance and maybe personality? And how do you think that will make the other person feel? I don't think it will be a thing at all. Honestly, I know what you're, it's clear to me just based on how we care as humans when you want to be a parent and you have a child through adoption, fostering, through donation, through, you know, all these ways, you know, that we've, the medical community has allowed us to have children.

I think the bond with that baby starts immediately and it is consistent. And I think it will be not even a thing. I think it would take a really uniquely selfish human to feel like, oh, they didn't use mine. I don't care as much, you know? I think that would be a person who is not wanting to be a parent. Like I think that would be a that would come from a person who's like definitely going through the parent journey just for their own gratification and not to love a child well and to raise a child well. So I don't think it'll be a thing. And here's the other part of it.

Jordan and Colton look enough similar, right, that I don't know if they'll ever know or need to know. Yeah. I don't know. Who knows? I was just curious. It's a good question. Yeah. I mean, I think it, here's a deal, though, at the same time, I'm not saying that thinking that every parent, like, immediately falls in love with their new baby.

I know my friends, some of my friends are like, it took me a long time. Like, for months, I was like, I don't know what I'm going to do with this little thing that doesn't talk or, you know, that just needs my care. And then there seems to be with every parent I know, new parent I know, there's that moment or there's moments. And all of a sudden, you're like, I can't think of anything else other than this child. Yeah. Jared and I were honest. It wasn't like he came out of my body and I was like, I see heaven's gates. Because like my, my mother-in-law told me that that's what she saw. But like we definitely, it was a matter of a day before we were like, we must protect this child at all cost. And it grows more or more every day. And now, and we are also honest about like our concerns now with the second kid. We're like, you're telling me that we're going to love this. second kid as much as we love Dawson now. How is that possible? But that's also like what most parents also are concerned about for the second one.

Yeah. My boyfriend's professor is way too friendly and now I'm seriously suspicious. Oh, wait a minute, Sam. Maybe her boyfriend's just looking for extra credit. Well, Dakota, it's back to school week on the OK Storytime podcast. So we'll find out soon. This person writes, my boyfriend has been hanging out with his young professor a He doesn't think it's a problem, but I don't trust her.

Now, he's insisting we get to know each other, but I just want her gone. Now, hold up. Isn't that against school policy? That sounds totally inappropriate. Well, according to this person, this is her boyfriend's former professor, and they're the same age. And it's even more likely that they're cheating. He insists there's nothing between them. I mean, do you believe him?

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Each week we talk to fellow survivors, former believers, and experts to understand why people get pulled in and how they get out. Trust me, new episodes every Wednesday on exactly right. Listen wherever you get your podcast. Bachelor alum, Sean Lowe reveals secret to 10-year marriage to wife Catherine. His quote is, it's just about committing.

He said, anyone who's been married knows that it takes work. The Bachelor is great at making you feel all these emotions that you're riding high on love, that you have these feelings, that you're going to have these. feelings for the rest of your life. But once you get into the real world, some days you don't feel all the love that you had when you got down on one knee. So for us, it's just about committing and part of that is trying to be the best partner you can be for your spouse. We went through a lot of stuff. She had to pick up her life in Seattle and moved to Texas. We spent eight weeks with me competing on dancing with the stars shortly after the engagement. And there were some

growing pains and just learning how to communicate with one another, what our love languages are, and learning how to get in disagreements and healthy ways. It's a lot for any relationship, but especially in those circumstances. He said when we got married, I was 30 and when you're 30, you develop certain patterns in your life that you're comfortable with. And then you think, well, I'm going to get married and I'm going to continue with these patterns because it's the way that my life has always been. but then you then you recognize wait a minute i need to break some of these patterns i need to take my wife's interests in mind and i think over time i mean even after you know almost three years like it you have to continue to revisit what kind of partner you're being and i do think the committing

piece is true on all levels right committing to your partner committing to trying to get better committing to still communicating, being honest and being vulnerable, committing to still date your partner and all the things. I think committing is a good word to use here. And I read this and I'm taking some advice because I'm not to 10 years and I will listen to somebody. I thought the same thing when I was reading this. I was like, oh, okay, yeah, because I think my word would be effort. I think you have to put constant effort into it.

Intentionality. intentionality that's good yeah effort committing all those things are true um because you can get lackadaisical and i actually think sometimes when jessica and i are at our best as a couple it actually we have to revisit hey are we at our best and we're just going to kind of get like what lacks and how we love each other and what we do for each other and then we're always going to on the end of a good season come into a pretty tough season because of that. So even when we're at our best, we still got to stay intentional and celebrate those moments. And I will listen to Sean Lowe and his advice. Bachelor in Paradise is Becca Kufram and Thomas Jacobs. Ashley, I've been following this story pretty closely

because I am super interested in this. I've been watching Thomas's updates today, actually. They celebrate buying a new house. They call it a home sweet home. It looks awesome. Yeah, it's very cute in there. She's always wanted to raise a family in an original craftsman home, and she's pinching herself that that's exactly what they're doing. They just bought a new house in San Diego. Becca's done a lot of moving in the past couple years since getting with Jacob, since getting with Thomas. Because she bought her house in L.A. A couple months before meeting Thomas and then decided to sell that move in with Thomas down in the San Diego area.

and now they're moving into this new house. What is it about it that is so interesting to you? I mean, besides the fact that it is a very, it's a very cool original craftsman and told me. Well, I mean, I love Becca. I got, you know, obviously I got to spend a lot of time with her on Bachelor Live on stage. And I've met Thomas a few times. He seems terrific.

And I really appreciate his story kind of through the franchise and just how he, you know, handled himself even when he kind of got. a raw into the deal for a bit, it seemed. And then, you know, they start this family. They do all the things. And then this house has such a history to it. I think he said today, they are, they purchased it for the first time since it was built. Like the families owned it since the 1800s.

And so. Whoa, it's been passed down that many times. Yeah. It's, yeah, it's been passed down. So if you go to his Instagram on some of the trim on the door, they have the markings of like all the kids' heights at different ages. It's like hundreds of years of, you know, family members. And so he's taking that trim down and shipping it to the family that they bought the home from.

I think it's awesome. And then the other side of this that I'm super intrigued by is the fact that there was an offer for a lot more money for this house, he said. Really? Yeah, from an investor. And the family sold it to Thomas and Becca because they knew that Thomas and Becker. would treat it like a home to raise a family in and not to tear down or, you know, completely remodel or whatever. Or to Airbnb. I don't know what the family was worried about. And so I am just super excited for the two of them because I think this seems like a home they're going to be in maybe

forever. And anytime that happens, that's just such a sweet idea. You're going to be calling this place your home for the rest of your life. And I think that's what Thomas and Becca are doing. So it's like very i'm just very intrigued excited to see the updates and then see how it looks once they move in oh that's so cute that's such a good story thank you for sharing that final headline today a golden bachelor in paradise spinoff could transform the franchise these are rumors that something might be happening uh and ashley i want to hear your thoughts based on the fact that we obviously know paradise isn't happening this year uh would it Would it heal any piece of your heart if the Golden Bachelor started doing Paradise?

Well, this article that we have here is really just a thought piece. They're obviously saying that the franchise is prioritizing the golden side of it, as they have chosen to do the Golden Bachelorette over Paradise with this time that they have over the summer. I, would it heal my heart? I don't think so. I still would miss original paradise. I don't know. I don't know.

I'm not against it. I'm not against. I don't really have like a reason as to why I would just prefer to see the younger people get together. I think that it would be, I think it's almost like we take it more seriously if we're the younger people. I think that it would be almost too much of a parody, like almost too much of an S&L skit to do Golden Bachelor in Paradise. If they did some sort of version of like winter games,

that would, with the older people, like where it's in a lodge and it takes place during the winter and something like that, that would be cute. That would be a little bit more just like planted in the ground, do you know what I mean? A little bit more on earth. Whereas, like, watching them drink margaritas by the pool is just like, yeah, maybe just

too much of a joke. I don't want to say that it's a joke, but you know what I mean. I know what you mean. It would be a very different feel and vibe. You know, I think Paradise today, though, actually could work because what we used to know in Paradise is people like party and drinking showing up. you know, mostly there for a good time. Paradise has kind of changed over the years.

A lot of relationships have came from Paradise. I do think a lot of it would work. I just would rather see a spinoff be more of a competition show like a Winter Games than I would have Paradise because I do wonder what in the world, you know, the golden contestants would do on a beach for a month. Yeah. I'm not saying like make it,

I don't have a spinoff with the golden people. Totally. Just like make it new. Make it new. It's going to be interesting what they do here. There is a lot in flux with Bachelor Nation. And there's a lot of weight being put on the Golden Bachelor at now. And I think it will be successful.

I think the show, my excitement for it has not changed. My frustrations with it. have increased because I think they tried to formulate the Golden Bachelor show too much like the other Bachelor show losing some of the zeal. And then also I think that's one of the reasons why, you know, now we're sitting here without a success story. And I want to see the Golden Bachelor at the Golden Bachelor be a little bit different, a little more relatable and not so much just another

bachelor show. So we'll see what the gold bachelor at. To me I just want it to be slower. I want it to be slower. Yeah. We don't have to do the same stuff. You know, it's retired life. Let's make it slow. Yeah. Hang out. All right. That's all the headlines we have for today. There's some big ones in there. We'll be back this week

with an almost good advice. We'll have some interviews coming out. Obviously, we have headlines. So stay tuned. We're going to continue to follow this Trista Sutter journey of where in the world is Tristice Sutter. That's probably what we should need this podcast. Where in the world is Tristice Sutter? Hey, until next time I've been Ben. I've been Ashley. Bye. Follow the Ben and Ashley I, almost famous podcast on IHartRadio or subscribe wherever

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