The Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous Podcast - When You Fall In Love...And He's Not Divorced Yet with Dolores Catania and Paul Connell

Episode Date: March 29, 2025

RHONJ star Jennifer Fessler, along with fellow housewife and “Traitors” star Dolores Catania are confronting Dolores’ boyfriend Paul “Paulie” Connell about dating when you aren’t divorced yet. They also fill you in on why “I Do Part 2” is better than round one.This Jersey couple discusses the scrutiny you’re under when you’re dating and not yet divorced. Should they get married? And will they have a prenup? Email us at: [e-mail] or call us at 844-4-I Do Pod (844-443-6763)Follow I Do, Part 2 on Instagram and TikTokSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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Today is going to be so much fun because I'm going to connect with a couple that we have that have both gone through divorce and found love in each other in their chapter two. My guest today, you know, because you've seen their love while watching Jersey Housewives. So here we go. Please welcome my friends, Dolores Catania and Pauly Connell to the podcast. All right, my loves. Hello. Hi. Hi, you guys. Hi, dog.

Dog's here. Hi, dog. Hi, baby. Books are part of part two also. Oh, right. Very true, right? This is dogs part two. What was dogs part one?

A backyard, a junkyard, actually. Oh, better part two. It's a happy ending. And they're in love. They're in love. I'm a third wheel. Listen, I mean, you guys already know this, but this podcast is about, second time, third time.

I'll have you asked my family, fourth time around. There's my parents. Oh, you know, we're going to talk a little bit about your, we're going to call it second time around. Listen, you guys met. How old were you guys when you met? Well.

12? No, what was I? I was 50? And you were. Yeah, 50. So we're four years apart. Four years apart. Younger men.

This is at first for me. I don't like it. But Paul's a man. Yeah. Honey, you can say a lot of things about Paul O'Connell. He is all man. You have no feminine. There's nothing feminine about Paul O'Connell. Paul's a man. Yeah. But he typically dates 28-year-olds. So let's go there. All right. So a little bit, you guys, about relationship history. I talked to something good, right? The second price had to be better. Oh, honey, this is good to our listeners. We want to know. We want to know it all. The good, the bad, the ugly.

Okay. So just tell us a little bit, Polly, about, we're just going to touch on it about your relationship history pre-Dilores. And after, well, okay, so you and your wife separated, broke up. And did you have, what kind of, do you have a lot of relationships between the time that you guys split up and the time you met Dolores? Yeah, yeah, absolutely.

I definitely, you know, met a bunch of different people, you know, sometimes somewhat serious, not so serious. because you're finding yourself, right? Yeah. It can't be serious until you find yourself. So by default, you know, you go through these patterns of being with people and then this relationship's not working out until you find the right person. Do you think there was something that a common thread in terms of like the women that you were dating

that where it just didn't work out because, I don't know, they all dot, dot, dot. Yeah, I think the biggest common thread was I was immature. Really? Yeah. Definitely. So I matured when I met the right person. I love that. Well, it makes also somebody. Sometimes you morph into the person.

You kind of adopt to who you're with. Like if you were with a girl who wanted to go out every night and drinking every night, you're going to stay in that. I love that. But I'm just thinking like also there is, there was something about Dolores from the get-go. When you first saw her, met her, tell us a little bit about that. Tell us about, I think you guys met in the Apple store. Yeah, she, yeah, that's, so I was a friend of ours, neutral friend that introduced me by text to Dolores. And she's like, my friend is, you know, recently single and is, you know, would you want to date with her?

And I'm like, of course. I'm like, you know, didn't know what she looked like. And I honestly, people keep on saying, oh, he's followed her. I never knew Dolores from the show. People say that you follow it, right? No, because he's bitter because she's a housewife, blah, blah, blah, right? So, yeah, you follow me, by the least. Wait a second.

So, Paul, had you ever watched the show? You know, my ex-wife used to watch this show. I think she liked Dolores. Yeah, everyone likes Dolores. Look, Dolores. I think she, you know, I used to look at her and go, what the f-you-watching? Watching.

It was the time, Carol Amanzo, trees of Judeis was turning over tables. so when I was like in and out going to work you know whatever it was kids running around and I couldn't understand that I was like I don't understand what that is so yeah so it was obviously then I got to see a photograph with Dolores and I'm you know of course I'm like yes

I will absolutely go on a date with this person and then we yeah it's just it's a small silly story ball I went to Apple store because my phone was broken we were texting at this time because there was like a message about us all going for like a double date to meet everybody and Dolores, like, I don't fucking do that shit. I'm not going on a double date.

My girl. Here's my number. I don't do double date. Here's my number. Especially for no, first dates. No. No. Man up, baby.

Man up. She goes, here's my number. This is my pass code. I don't know. She goes, here's my number if you want to, like, reach out. So we start talking. So I just put them to say to her, my fucking phone is broke. I have to go to the Apple store.

Jen, I'm not bullshit. I'm sitting in the Apple store at a mask on. I wish the mask could just cover my whole fucking existence. In walks, this chick with fucking hair hits everywhere. It was like everybody in the store turns around looking at her. And I can hear the bracelet jingling. I'm like, please don't fucking tell me that's Dolores. Get the hell out of here.

She walks literally. She walks right up to me and she goes, hey, such a car outside. Get the hell. Hold on. Hold on. Hold on. back this up hold on you saw her coming and you thought let that not be Dolores oh my pants oh because she was

oh because you were sitting there feel oh because she was so gorgeous you're saying you like we're flustered she was a billboard for lulu lemons there were like I was like with the body right block box the body the legs right like there was a I mean there was just so much going on at one moment

that I'm like sweat was dripping down to something the guy was like Can I help you, sir? And I'm like, yeah, where's the exit? I need to stop. Oh, so this is for a different podcast, but I'm just going to say, and Dolores, you've heard me say this before.

That's the best way for, in my opinion, for couples to start out. I like when the man just loses his shit. I feel that 100%. So, yeah, I do too. It disarmed me completely. And, you know, I think kind of as well for her, because she was like, you know, well, obviously she premeditated because she knew I was there.

But I didn't. But when you came in, it was, from that point forward, it was just... Everybody feels that way. Dolores has walks in a room and, I don't know, the air gets, everybody can stand still. Oh, this house, the air gets... Yeah. I don't know, sucked out of the room. Is that the expression?

Wait, do a little bit, tell me a little bit about why you think the other relationships didn't work out and here you are with Polly. Because, again, not the right person. Just not. not a lot of you know at the end of the day you both have to want the same thing and that's what keeps it going not every it's not always easy but if you're with the person that has the same intentions as you there's something to work through an argument there's something to work through a fight there's you know it's worth staying around what are the

what do you guys think your common intentions are a little bit well we both were dating with a purpose? What's your comment for our relationship? Yeah. I mean, long-duty. Permanent. Yeah, longevity, right? Yeah, it's like it's, you know, I know there's a lot of criticism about put a ring on it and all this kind of stuff of marriage and we're getting a little bit far ahead now, but, you know, that's our goal is that, regardless to the piece of paper and regardless to the piece of jewelry. Our goal is to that. Obviously, them things are all coming. Yeah. In due time, you know? Yeah. You got a lot of crap about being married when you guys

were our first together. I know you're divorced now. And it's funny, I had my own opinions on it like, we're not babies anymore. And for me, watching Dolores, like, who gives a shit? Like, I knew you were going to get divorced. How people, Jen, are buying

and married men that are saying I'm still married? Like, give me a break. Amen. Amen. Amen, brother. Okay, so please, girls, settle down. Yeah, yeah. No, I felt like that too. I mean, Dole, did you have any trepidation just being with a man who was still married? I ask these questions, you guys, I know that a lot of, there are a lot of viewers who are going to listen to the podcast, but a lot who haven't watched.

Anybody should. Yeah, I did, but he had told me that his divorce was going to be sooner than it was. But as time went on, you know, time goes very fast. I wasn't, I wasn't keeping tabs. I was never going to force his hand on it. Eventually, yeah. Smart. I eventually, I would have made a stand on it.

But it wasn't any time soon. I mean, it was like three years, yeah. But, you know, of course, that's not the ideal situation. But at our age, you're going to come across things that are going to be around. Listen, I agree 100%. Like, I was, when Jeff and I were separated, we both had. partners, other partners. We were married and we still had significant others in our life, right? And so we were separated at the time with the intention of getting divorced. And I didn't have any,

I didn't feel any guilt about that. It just, you know, it was in my mind, obviously things did not work out that way, thank God. But in my mind, we were separated. We were two separate single people. So I don't know. And I don't, I never sort of ran into an instance where even when I was first dating, anybody really gave a shit, like as long as you're separated, not living in the same house, blah, blah, blah. Right. I think credit to Dolores is that credit to, credit to Dolores, he took a lot of shit on the chin

because there was no reason for it. And people will always look for a reason to like, you know, put the attention on it. I didn't look at it as that critical because of it, to me, it's ending of, you know, it's dissolving some paperwork and the relationship was already over. We've already moved on. We're all in different parts of our life. So to me, it was like the final frontier. By the end of the gen, it was bothering me so much.

Like to the point of that, I was very, you know, upset to see that people would say this to Dolores or Comato that way because now I felt responsible, which I think, should be because I should have, you know, I should have cleared that up beforehand, but I wasn't at a position in my life where it was that top priority. And when I, when I, when me and Dolores became that, that item, that became a priority. It just, it took some, these things take time. And I don't care. Someone says it should really take one year or two years. I don't care. It took what it took. And that's what it took. Well, it's not just you, you know, trying to work it through. There's someone else in this scenario. Okay, so factor you guys out of it. But from,

what you've been through, to our listeners who might be dating someone who's separated, do you think there's any absolutes, like, cut it off if this person doesn't seem to want to get divorced? Is there any red flags in terms of dating somebody who's not fully divorced? If someone has no intention of getting divorced, do not stay with that person in a serious relationship, because at the end of the day, this was my problem. I had met his ex. I liked his ex. It's not like this was like a real marriage, but technically, legally, if something happened to Paul, I would be calling his ex to get my stuff out of the house. Like, that was my biggest problem. And, and, or God forbid, something happened to Paul and there needed to be a life or death

decision, I wouldn't be able to have made it because I wasn't his wife yet. I'm giving him my life every day my family my job i'm sharing my time my youth with whatever's left of my my age with him and at the end of the day the important important things you are not a part of because i've been in the hospital with my mom one time and the person in the next room choked on a hamburger and his girlfriend he had never gotten formally divorced legally divorced and his girlfriend was thrown out of the room and his ex that he had been separated with for so long came in until took over. So that always weighed heavy on me. And that's why I say not to let that drag out too long. If you're in a serious relationship with someone, that has to be done. I knew Paul

was legally working on it because I was here for the conversations. I was here for the phone calls with the attorney. At one point, his attorney got sick and had a heart attack. And that pushed it off. So none of this was Paul's fault. This was what was my fault? initially for getting back to your question is if you're out, you should be out. Yeah, he drives his feet long. My advice is, I wish I had it done it sooner, not because of anything to do with my ex, but because of the situation in my life. And really, if you're out, get out, put the paper together.

That's it. And if you're serious, listen, people meet other people and that's the reason they split up and they move on and that's the direction. If you're with somebody, I think the best advice somebody can have. if you're with somebody who is still married, as long as you, the person that you're dating and the person that they are married to are all on the same page

and you understand the process and the goal is, hey, we're getting divorced, this is my new life, blah, blah, blah, blah. It doesn't always work that way. If that's a scenario, then everybody should be comfortable, then the noise on the outside shouldn't really matter.

First of all, that is what you just said is so key because the truth is when I was separated, Jeff did not want to get divorced. And the person I was with at the time, knew that and so we would go around about that but I think that's so interesting that Dolores you know knew that that's where you were both headed because Dolores being Dolores of course became friendly with your ex yeah like only Dolores could in these scenarios yeah but knowing that you were both that everybody was on the same page I think

that's probably huge right that's to me it was a big part even though listen there's some tricky moments of that as well like it's not a walk in the park right how long it's being separate or not, it's still like, it's, it's the pressure, right? Attorneys get involved. There's money involved and that's always, obviously. And then there's also then there's like you as a person for Dolores, I felt guilty. I felt bad. I felt like this is not going fast enough.

But I have to ask you, did you feel less bad because I didn't fight with you? Would it have been? That's a great question. Would you have done it quicker? No. Had I put pressure on you? No. Because I went as quick as I could actually.

go i did not so i didn't go slow because of any reason listen unfortunately the attorney had a heart attack going to court with the documents that's so crazy i was like that's a sign but get better let's go back at it again because we have to we have to finish this you know actually her attorney called the hospital called the ambulance for him was a very yeah on yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah so like what was i going to do but he's getting fuss but he's healthy now he's back yeah he's fine but but i was i i was getting frustrated, but I held my tongue because of a couple things. Number one is pride. And I feel if I have to ask someone to do the right thing, it's already too late.

And the other reason is because there's a lot of things to fight over. And I did see that he was moving along with that. My boyfriend's professor is way too friendly. And now I'm seriously suspicious. Oh, wait a minute, Sam. Maybe her boyfriend's just looking for extra. credit. Well, Dakota, it's back to school week on the OK story time podcast, so we'll find out soon. This person writes, my boyfriend has been hanging out with his young professor a lot.

He doesn't think it's a problem, but I don't trust her. Now, he's insisting we get to know each other, but I just want her gone. Now, hold up. Isn't that against school policy? That sounds totally inappropriate. Well, according to this person, this is her boyfriend's former professor and they're the same age. And it's even more likely that they're cheating. He insists there's nothing between them. I mean, do you believe him? Well, he's certainly trying to get this person to leave him because he now wants them both to meet. So, do we find out if this person's boyfriend really cheated with his professor

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Honestly, these are going to come out so freaking amazing. Be a part of my new. chapter and listen to the new season of the Overcomfit Podcast as part of the MyCultura Podcast Network on the IHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast. I love all of this, especially for our listeners. I don't pretend to know what to tell. People, when I got separated and then back together, I told the story that like the entire neighborhood, all the women, people strangers started calling me to ask how that happened and how I did it. I was like, I don't know how the guy did it. I got lucky. I don't know what to say.

But I think that's so what you just said like Dolo about, if you have to make it happen, you know, if you're pushing, maybe that's key, right? Like for those of us, for listeners who are maybe in relationships after having been divorced or one is still married, to not, if you're pushing, pushing, get divorce, get divorce, get divorce. Maybe that is a red flag. I think if you're with somebody. But also, Paul, some people do. need a fire lid under their ass. Like, I don't blame anyone for pushing that issue. Depends on the relationship that you're coming from,

the marriage you're coming from. It's so... There can be manipulation on different sides. It is really, honestly, so different for each couple and each person. You just have to read the room. You have to read... Paul wasn't shady about anything. You know if a guy's shady at our age, part two.

Right, right. You know who's being shady. Right. If you don't, then you're in trouble being out in this world. Is your head out of your ass and focus? And listen to your friends, listen to your mom. My mom wasn't happy. So you getting divorced?

I had friends saying he'll never get divorced. We had... Very close friends, actually. Oh, he'll never get divorced. He'll never marry her. Now, I could have taken that and fought with him about it, but there's no way I let other people's opinions define my decisions in life, ever. Can I say something, right?

People say he will never marry her. I don't think that's a reflect. That's a bad reflection on Dolores, not me. I know, I don't think they're, you know, if somebody says that, why would you, what makes you believe that? This is probably the best woman in the world to be with. She's supportive. She'll do anything for you.

She does everything for everybody. She doesn't want anything back, right? So as, as perspective, that person who's writing that or who's saying that about her. It's insulting. Yeah, it's insulting to Loris. Right. You were stuck and you called, she would. right so i just kind of thought of it sometimes i'm like uh there there is that's why you don't

listen to people paul i don't listen to some of them are close someone of are closer were you affected sometimes by opinions that you read and think people that called you and got you worked up about things were you affected i i i can't say to you to be the way i am i don't expect that for me the truth is the effect being effective is how it affects you not me to me to me i I don't care about reality lifestyle. It doesn't bother me in this light. I came into this, and a person that's already accomplished, I've done my thing, and I'm going to keep on doing it.

Yeah. This is her position in life, and I'm going to support that. Yeah. Or not care less. I don't really care. No, I get that. I love that. I get that it is, like, insulting.

Like, who wouldn't feel like they stepped in a golden pile of shit if they get Dolores, right? Thank you. So, like, of course, you want to end. Who would it? I love that you said that. What I want to say to couples. listening part two second time around there is by now a lot of people in your life that have a lot of opinions about how you live your life because there's times you've reached out when you're

single and you don't have that person so you reach out to your friends you reach out to your family and then that gives them the right to weigh in on the decisions you make in your life because you've gone to them so I want people to also understand although people, you can allow them because they've been there for you to have their opinion, you don't have to listen to them, because the real people will be there in the end. You should

hear them. This is the opinion. You should hear them, but they're not always right. Listen, and especially if you're on your second time around or your third, you know stuff now that you didn't know when you were young and dumb. And you do things

right at our age, after you've had this life experience and you've been through the pain of going through breakup or breakups, right? You are wiser than ever and know it's better for you than anyone else does, at least, right? Because I had people say to me, don't get back together. You haven't really tried yet. Yeah. You haven't put yourself out there.

And I'm talking about people that were my closer who loved me, said it to me out of love. But Jen, why would you do this yet? Even if it didn't work out with this first guy, you haven't given yourself a chance. And saying it to me out of, again, out of love and care, but I had to trust myself. And I had it as well, I knew what was right for me. I might not have if I was 25 going into my first marriage. And you may have been wrong too. And that would have been okay.

But somebody who's been married for 25, 30 years is telling you, oh, maybe you should do some more. Maybe you weren't really out there. It's damn that wants to go out there. Yeah, right? Yeah. They want to live through your eyes because they know that they're miserable. At the end, yeah, why aren't you having a good old time, right?

But it's hard being single. It's really fucking hard being single. It is agreed. It's hard being single as a woman. It's hard being single as a man. It's hard starting over. All of it is a bitch. It's true.

Honestly, I can say this. Being single or being with the right person, there's no comparison. Yeah, being single. having fun, I get it. It's great. You go around. I bet you did. Amen. You go your own, you do what's well. Yeah. You have a companion, having that person, that's your, yeah, everything, right? There's nothing better than that. I agree with you. On the worst day, yeah. Well, so let's just get into for a minute to the kids of it all.

So, uh, different second time around for you both, obviously, because you have these, these children, these adult children in Dolores's world and a little different for you, Paul. So how, was that, right? So was that difficult to navigate? Because I know I know now that the children, no big shock here, love that Dolores' kids love you, Paul, and Paul's kids love you Dolo. But was that ever hard? Was that ever tricky? Was it hard because Dolores' kids were older or because yours were younger? No. It was meant to be. It's organic. Kids never had an issue,

huh? My kids love, my Brooklyn and Cameron love Frankie and Gabby and vice versa. hang out. It's so it's so rewarding to see how well they get on and the way they like they talk to each other and they push each other up and it's so organic. But the thing about it is it you square to have a really long-term relationship. You wouldn't think it's just like new like our relationship. And they're in the same circle of like understanding what they want in life. So it's so cool. How long did you guys wait to introduce each other to your kids? Very quick actually. Really. Yeah. Yeah. So, you know, I mean, that's, I guess, what do you suggest? Wait to me introduce somebody or?

So I lived in the premise that keep everything away from your kids. Don't let them know. And plus you were still married. I was still married. The kid, my kids never knew me to date anybody. I never. You never introduced any other, any of the other women you were dating to your kids? Yeah, someone at a diner, like casually. There was no like, hey, dad's friends coming over. none of that that was a mistake interesting I do believe I try to protect my children

but they know they're not stupid you know what I mean like some of the comments they made to me like that really seriously like come on that but I think if you try to protect your children actually I understand it

but I don't think it really works like would you suggest to listeners that they should wait until they like obviously you guys knew pretty quickly that it was going to get serious and that you guys had something. But other people that you date, would you suggest to our listeners to wait if they,

I mean, is it just so individual? Is it depending upon? Don't forget. We'd probably be with different people, right? So Dolores had been with other people for long relationships. I had been with other people just not met my kids. I chose not to do that for the reason was because I thought the benefit was that my children would be less damaged.

Yeah. right i guess there's so much guilt yeah there is so much guilt you want to know something actually i think by doing that penalized me to not force the divorce interesting because you know you're living this everything's cool this family's nice you know living two lives i don't want to say i was living two lives because i think that's a lot of attacks in your brain but i think i was living I'm not two lives, but living alive. Interesting. Wow. You know, there's a lot of people culturally that say Irish people don't get divorced.

A lot of Irish people don't even get married. They just live together forever, right? Well, listen, you know, we're brought up in a way to believe that no matter what, you make it work. Well, you feel like it's like you just kind of compartmentalize. This is, right. This is going on here. This is going on here. They're separate.

And Ireland's like this size and you break up. They all talk about it. It's like, it's like, yeah. Do you think Irish people like are very, like, concerned about what other people say? It's like a small European. I think everybody's concerned about what everybody says. Well, what about, so speaking of other people as well.

And again, I know a lot of listeners watch the show, but in terms of meeting the X and Paul, for you with Frank the first time, was that difficult? I mean, I know a little bit myself, but tell us the listeners that don't know. The first time I met, Frank, you know what the first time I went to have, family meeting? I was summons to a family meeting. No way.

At the house where they look, Casson, and it was about bills. The kids were leaving the lights on. It was garbage or whatever. So I walked into a family feud. Get out. That about you, but I was invited to. Get out. You know, we still like, even the.

we're divorced, we still parent together and we are on the same page. He'll call me, like, to back me up on this. I'm like, it's like a, you know, yeah. It's a lot to understand. Listen, I mean, you have such a unique situation with Frank Delores and it's been obviously the topic of

many discussions and on the show and off the show. So, but do you think that that was easier for you, Polly, than because they got along so well? At the beginning was that more difficult? I guess so again I didn't watch the show I didn't know anything about I didn't know who Frank was to me

it was just another guy in the gym pumping iron right to me so when I met him I had to understand that he was for ex right and I made people like troll comments on me and you know this this this world is great instigate people like to tell you close friends in a lot of by the way close friends did not want to see us all get along close friends waiting on both sides behind I'm, you know, I, I would never have allowed that. Like, I didn't hear it. They didn't win. So, they didn't win.

I know that, Paul. But, like, people are like, bro, you're putting up with, bro. So anyway, so it wasn't that it was hard. It was just very unusual. And I really, and I, and I know I came off, I think it was like the first time I filmed. And I was like, Frank needs to, you know, maybe Frank needs to rethink the situation, right? Because I really didn't understand it. But I'm not the only person that didn't understand it.

There's a whole fucking audience. didn't understand this. But you're also, you also get to be the person that's in love with Dolores and trying. So even more so than the audience, you're trying to reconcile the fact that, that it's a different thing than usual. But the weird thing is Paul works with his, his ex. They get along. Yeah.

They've gone to family weddings together over all these years. I don't see a big difference. Yeah. Interesting. So the big thing was, and the big thing was, I think Frank seen Dolores in a different line from her past for maybe relationships, right? And he may be seen a different trend in Dolores, right? And I think maybe Frank's an alpha male, right? And I'm kind of one of the guys as well to be like, hey, listen, this is, you know,

I'm here now. See you later, bro. We're good, right? Right. You don't need to go and stick a dick on my head and drink and cocktails, right? We're good, right? But we can hang out. So I think Frank was having a hard time knowing that the dynamic of his relationship with

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My dad is a farmer. And my mom is a cousin. So, like, it's not like... What do you get when a true crime producer walks into a comedy club? I know it sounds like the start of a bad joke, but that really was my reality nine years ago. I just normally do straight stand-up, but this is a bit different. On stage stood a comedian with a story that no one expected to hear. The 22nd of July 2015, a 23-year-old man had killed his family.

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So I want to know your thoughts on pre-ups. I can just, let me just start out. I'll share my own thoughts. If Jeff and I were divorced and I was getting married again, I would absolutely have a pre-nup, but also I don't even know if I'd want to get married again. So that's whatever. Who cares?

That's me. But how do you guys feel? Honestly, we haven't even spoke about a pre-nup, only because, I mean, it's not even a... People say it's a real conversation, but it's really not. I mean, you go into something with that mindset, you're already, you're in a different place already.

I'm not thinking like that. Are you? Like, and I'm not saying, and I'm watching what's going on in the world and all these things that are happening. I'm not saying they're not good for you and they don't protect you, but I'm not, we're not there. Yeah, I mean, the biggest thing that we have to figure out is, you know, where we go to vacation. That's, you know, we're not.

We like that right now. I'm good. I do you think that's partially because, I mean, you both are coming to the table very independently, you know? Nobody, you don't, neither one of you needs the other financially. At least that's what I know.

So maybe that's also, do you think that makes a difference? When I met Dolores, I'm going to say this because I wanted to be on record because this is what happened. When I met Dolores, another thing, Frank did a lot of stuff for her, and I wanted her to be independent of that. not because I didn't want Frank doing it, because she's able to own that herself.

And I feel that a woman that's independent gets more confident within herself to be able to like, you know, just be in a moment, capitalize them. Every woman should handle their own finances. Every woman should handle their own things that they own. They need to understand it. They really do because God knows what happens. I've seen it on.

I think that is so key. I love that you're saying that out loud. I think that is so important. And I can tell you, yes, I could tell you before Jeff and I got separated, he put a paper in front of me and said sign, I signed. Not that I don't, and I trust Jeff implicitly, but I'm an adult. And I need to know, factor out everything else. It's my responsibility to know what I'm doing, what I'm signing, what my finances are.

100%. And you have the right to know and it's not wrong to ask. Right. I think, you know what? And I'll just, I'll just say, Dolores, you said to me many times how much you, like Paul really supported you being independent and financially responsible and which I think is so great, you know, like that he wants that for you. And I think it's easy for women to give up that power and it's dangerous, regardless of prenups or anything else. You know, it's very dangerous because it also puts. them on the on the back door right so spurred a moment deal or anything a scenario comes up she's well capable of handling that situation more than not that she couldn't but now she's more reassured that now and also god forbid something happens you know if a million years from now somebody's partner passes away or my like i need to know what happens next i'm gonna survive you can only depend on yourself amen that is yeah it's not that you're not there for me

but no listen i'm all for you yeah listen you guys are so on the same page with so much what do you think it is if you were just to name a couple things the reason that your relationship works so well like you're going to pinpoint it's this really stands out there's a there's a lot of compromise i feel like in every relationship compromise is so important because if it's just one person always bending over backwards bending over it there's always one person that does it more than the other, but it has to be both, give and take on both. It really does. Like, what do you think, like give us an example, like, Dolo, tell us something that you feel like you guys have compromised on. The thermosicle, no, but there's, yeah, that's true. Is it true,

is Loris? Because you are always complaining, you're too hot. You pour, and I'm like, it's Jeff and I fight. That's like one of the main, we can go to war over that. I can't take it. It's war. It's war. I don't compromise. well on that it's day to day you know even on on the things that we like to eat there was compromise on sometimes how we spent the holidays or you know just listen everything is a compromise because it's new right like he hates Italian food but I want to eat it sometimes so I'll eat eight five nights a week and then when I finally say I want Italian food he has to go and eat with me I don't want to eat it alone who hates Italian food what does that even mean it makes me so

There's no, what, pasta? Violetly sick. Really? Sproop it out. I eat it. I look at her and I'm going to go, we need to go out. Are you serious?

But no, but even if there were different things in our relationships or our lives when we came into it, that wasn't ideal for us or that we didn't love. There's certain things I had to put up with and then he would, you know, he would say, okay, well, you did that. So let me come and do this. Then I don't want to do it. You have to do it. I believe.

the biggest thing is letting it go straight away. Oh, that's the, yeah. So we, so if something comes up and it could be anything, and it could be absolutely fucking anything, you have that moment. I love that because I'm stubborn. I, and I have learned to be less stubborn. It's just so much easier if you can let it go.

But do you think in terms of the hurdles that you've had, well, I have two questions. First, was the show a big hurdle for you, Paul? And, and also just outside of the show, what would you say is, was one of the major hurdles for both of you? I think for me, the show was because I didn't know what I was getting involved in because I never taught it true because I was just for horror. So I was just like, oh, I'm just with Dolores having fun.

And then it becomes reality. You're on a TV, right? And you see all these things that come out and you listen to all the knives. So did it. That was a problem for us. It did play an effect because I think that emphasized with the whole Frank situation. so now does it you know then I've got these guys friends of mine

people I don't even know oh my God how could you let this guy be in her life so disrespectful because they don't know this scenario right so it's like anything man you can you imagine talking to somebody like that who's happy going about their business and then you got to call

well it's it's about learning right so you have to learn the process so the show was a big learning curve to me now water off my back now it's water or if it's back, but when it wasn't, it wasn't easy. Well, it wasn't easy. We piled through that.

Listen, the show is, and I've only been a friend of for two years, it's all encompassing. It changes, it definitely changes everything. The biggest part of that is well is letting go. At the start, I couldn't figure out how to let it go. And then as you realize, wait, this is, this is just the show, this is, then you start, then you go, okay, actually, you know what I think the show helped us become much better couple. Really? yeah in the wow what do you think and then on the outside i mean sorry again on the outside i mean

everywhere i go people come out to me like you know we love dolores we love dolores oh my god like like i facetime all the time of people coming up to me everywhere i mean i'm not going to say yeah no it's pretty cool and i do like it you know i mean you get some other i like i like it too i like to know that i want people to know that dolores and i are are not only friends, but such close friends. I'm very proud of that. We're very close friends, yes. Tell me about you, Dolores.

What is you, you think one of your biggest hurdles was? What in the relationship? Paul was very temperamental in the beginning of filming regarding, like, what would people think? What, what they said? I felt like he was definitely influenced by something he read, saying one comment. There'll be 25 good comments. comments than one bad comment. He would harp on. So my biggest hurdle was patience for that. Yeah. It really was. That was my biggest hurdle. You were teaching me. You were also advising me not to fall into the trap.

But the fact they saw on the other side of it, sometimes I didn't think that you would. I will tell you, Jan, people very close were the worst of the comments than people far away. I am very sad. I know that to be true. And it makes me sad. and confused, really? It's depressing a little bit. It just goes to show you how money people are really unhappy for someone else's happiness. So when you see people happy, they try to make an unhappy situation. And that's the part about the second part of being I do.

When you've been true, that kind of stuff doesn't really affect you. Yeah. Because during the second part. And the second part of I do is the insecurity of the exes, right? They're the least threat in the room. They're talked about It's old news Keep your eye on the new people around

Not the X's I hate to say it But I actually think that's good advice That's so fucking good The X's know them better than you Get them know the X No one knows the ex The new Snoopies

The new what does that mean Snoopy Snoopies Do you know what that means? What does that mean? Noopin, Snoopin' Snoop Oh, I'm picturing Charlie Brown Me too, no

The new people snoop around Tell me something, guys, and then I'm going to let you go, but, and I'm sorry to ask the question because you just get asked all the time, but I know that listeners want to know. So you think you're going to get probably hitched sometime soon? Do you have a time frame? I mean, I'd say we're having to get engaged first, right? Yep. I have to ask because I know what people want to know.

And I've heard you asked so many times. It's not like, you know. Oh, my God. It's not mad at me and watch what happens in diabetes. like, so what's that? I said, he goes, what's your goal? I said, getting married isn't the goal. Peace and harmony is the goal. And I could tell you, we've never been so good. No. We've really, I'm ready to go, would it? I need time. Listen, there's no backing out now. I look at you guys and I can't imagine one without the other.

But there's always like the Goldie Hawn and Kurt Russell of it. You know, I mean, look how long they've lasted. People do believe in that. Yeah. You know, not needing to actually sign a paper we're good and we're going to get better that's all yeah I mean what I love to say Paul's my husband I slipped yesterday and I said that who was I talking to I said my husband I'm like oh oh I mean my boyfriend you know I say that I say that sometimes to Paul I'll be like yeah I spoke to your wife and maybe even to you Dolores it's just like for me it just makes sense yeah um I just couldn't love either one of you any more than I do it's a nice title to have but I wish anybody the second time around

all the best it's so hard be careful who you wind up with don't make decisions at a vulnerable time going through divorce is very vulnerable very scary being single is very scary very vulnerable take off

you know look at the red flags take off the rose colored glasses learn from your mistakes learn from your age and your experiences don't be afraid of being some of private with some of your stuff. I love that too.

Boundaries. That's interesting. Don't rush for anything. You know, I want to impart, I'm sure you feel like this too. Frankie just got engaged and I know how much you love your soon-to-be new daughter-in-law. And I find myself with my kids wanting to control

who they're dating, seeing things that I know that they don't see because they're too young to see it. I have to give that up. That's what therapy is for. I give up that control. Who knows? I don't know everything. You know, I have to trust that they're going to pick partners because it's so important that will, you know, enrich their lives and make them happy and peaceful and feel good about themselves.

It doesn't always work, though, as we all know, the first time around, but I want them to know what I know and they just won't and they don't. I wish they did. I wish that I could go back and, you know, they can know what I know now, right? They need to hear it. Don't stop saying it. Yeah. No, it once. You say it's one.

and it's in their head. And when those times happen where they're like, does this seem right? And then they hear your little voice in their head. That's great. I love that because they both get really, really pissed at me. They want me out of their business

when it comes to their love life. Say it and drop it. Stop it and drop it. Yep. Thank you. Both of you. I love you so much. Thank you.

I love you. All right. Bye you guys. Bye, bye. So are you in the midst of a divorce or feeling stuff? on what to do when it comes to your love life, call us or email us or follow us on social. All of the information will be in the show notes.

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