The Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous Podcast - Why Marriage Isn’t For Her with Golnesa “GG” Gharachedaghi

Episode Date: January 24, 2026

The Valley: Persian Style star Golnesa “GG” is spilling on lessons learned from divorce, why she’s contemplated polyamory, and her choice to be a single mom.Plus, what male Bravo-lebrity would she hook up with? She’s telling Kelly who she’s got her eye on!Email us at: [e-mail] or call us at 844-4-I Do Pod (844-443-6763)Follow I Do, Part 2 on Instagram and TikTokSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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Raqim had the bucket hat can go join on. Apostle. That's Raqin. That's who you named after. I just was like, damn that. That's swag. Listen to the Questlove show on the Iheart radio app, Apple Podcast, or wherever you get your podcast. This season on Dear Chelsea with me, Chelsea Handler, we've got some incredible guests like Kamail Nanjiani.

Let's start with your cat. How is she? She is not with us. She. Great, great, great way to start. Maybe you will cry. Ross Matthews. You know what kids always say to me?

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And today I'm so excited to chat with a woman who, like all of us, on this podcast has gone through her own broken relationships and is a complete open book, which we love. She's an incredible single mom. She's stunning, and you can see her sharing her life on the new Bravo show, The Valley Persian style. It's Golnessa, aka Gigi.

Because you're so unfiltered, which I love about you on the Valley Persian style, you're doing such a great job, and you are so gorgeous and so real, and I have so much fun watching you. All my friends are obsessed. Let's talk about marriage today. Oh, boy. What are your thoughts?

Lay it on me. Just let's go right into it. What are your thoughts about marriage? Would you get married again? I, okay, so I think the reason it's so easy for me to get married is because I don't believe in marriage. to me it's not like a sanctity. It's not anything special.

It's to me it's ridiculous. It's the worst business contract I've ever read in my life. As someone who loves to be in business, it doesn't make sense the contract of marriage. So I'm against it. So for me, it's fun to play around with it a little bit. I'm sorry, these dogs are just ridiculous. This is what I'm married to.

This is marriage. Yes, you're married to love. I see that. that, but give me a little recap on your relationship history so that the listeners like kind of, you know, get a sense of what we're talking about. Oh my gosh, they're so cute. Well, I just, I think that for me, it's very hard to date. I'm a very independent woman. I use a sperm donor to have a child, you know, so for me, it's a clear indicator that I'm not looking for attachment from a man. I'm looking to fulfill my own needs. And I'm not saying a man doesn't fulfill that need. It's just

I need it in doses, if that makes sense. So I really would appreciate a man who's busy, a businessman, who's constantly on the go and maybe a long distance kind of a relationship, you know, something that's not in your face the way Bob is always in my face like this. You see this? This is this. I just can't. I just can't.

I love it. I take one minute. This is what I deal with. But look how much they love you. Look how much love you bring to these beautiful animals. Look at that. That is amazing. You know, it's interesting because, you know, I mean, you have had a longer time on television, and so have I.

But I also am looking for someone who's independent because I have a very big life. And, you know, I wear a lot of hats and I do a lot of things. I travel a lot. So for me, being someone who's independent is really, really important. But it's also difficult because there's a push and pull that I want them to be independent. but and I also have my independence, but I also need, I'm also a very loving person.

And look, I mean, you are too, obviously. Look at you how you are with these beautiful, beautiful dogs. So I think that's one thing that we have in common is that we do want that kindness and attention and love, but we also need to do. So how long, just for the listeners, how long have you been on television? How many years? Since 2011, so 15 years. Okay, so literally like almost like, you know, half of your life.

I would love for you to say half my life. I'm 44, so I would love for you to say half my life. I mean, you're gorgeous and young. I mean, I just think like. I'll take it, girl. Yes, okay. You don't look 44. You're blessed with beauty.

And good doctors. And good doctors. But let's just, let's just like for the listeners to say, so half of your life, because obviously when you were younger, you were, you know, young. but like from your 20s to your 30s to your 40s, you've been on TV. So how does that, how do you feel, is that been good for you? Has that been hard for you? Like, lay that out for us.

It's all of the above. I think, you know, as you know, it's, it opens the door to a lot of opportunities, both positive opportunities and difficult opportunities. You are supposed to be as vulnerable as you can be and transparent as you can be, knowing that the whole world is going to attack every single one of those vulnerabilities. So it's kind of like a damned if you do, damned if you don't. It's, I like to call it a mind. Because to me, that's the best way I see it.

Yeah. But when you live in your truth, you know that judgment is going to happen regardless of there being a camera and an audience or not. I've always lived my life a little bit differently than most people, which I guess makes me great for TV, you know, but it is. exhausting. It's a lot. Now that I have a five-year-old son, it's a different tier of thought process and anxiety and worry. Do you think it's difficult to date because you have a son? Do you think it's difficult because you're on TV? I think being in L.A. is what makes it difficult. I think statistically, L.A. is probably one of the most difficult places to find any substance in a man here. I think people sort of migrate to L.A. with an ulterior motive, whether it is acting, modeling, TV, whatever it is. People don't just have a lot of culture in L.A. The culture here is opportunity and everything and everyone is a ladder. So for me, my guards are up because I'm on TV, I get nervous about that. Where does someone go? I was asking Jeff Lewis, because he's like, why are you single? I'm like, where does someone go in L.A. to meet someone. I would love to know.

I really like what you just said about the latter because that's not just in LA, by the way. That's everywhere. And when you do put yourself out in a situation like we do and you are authentic, you're much more authentic than I ever was. But I was on TV in like the Ice Age. And I just, you know, I was, you know, we watching some of the things you said yesterday and the things you're saying again today like about your truth and knowing who you are and all those things are really, really important. And I feel like a lot of people, because you are so real that they like, think, don't think, don't. think that you actually are. You are the other people and you are real.

So are you dating? I'm not. I'm not. But again, I hate to keep right. I feel like I've been mentioning Jeff Lewis's name constantly. He really sort of opened my eyes to it a little bit saying, you know, I haven't been dating. You know, my son's almost six years old and I'm ready to sort of meet a partner. He's old enough to where like, it's okay if my parents babysit, you know, if I need to go spend time with someone to get to know them. And so I don't know how.

And I went out and I bought an iPad because I wanted to join Raya because apparently Raya is exclusive to Apple and I have a Samsung phone. So I went and bought an iPad and I'm on the wait list. I can put you on. Because I didn't want them to have my contact list. They're like, we need your contact list to get referrals. I'm like, I don't want to open my contact list. I didn't know what that meant.

Right. Well, just like Raya, in order to be on Rai, you have to give them the contact list. list so they can see like who you're friends with. That's part of their algorithm is connecting you with people that you know, which is good and bad. I don't want to date everyone I know. I've already talked to talk to my list in my phone. They'll say like people that you have in common. So it's not just like random people that you would have no idea who they are. Do you know what I mean? I'm happy to help you with that. So your DMs, people slide into your DMs? I'm private on my DM stuff. I don't.

look at my DMs. I can't. There's so many come through. And like you said, that whole authenticity kind of factor that I have, I get a lot of backlash. So if I were to go through all the DMs, I would be setting myself up for major depression. I know. I mean, I still get a lot of really, really wild stuff on Instagram and on TikTok, but I kept, because I'm single, so I'm like, okay, I have to, you know, my applications are open. I have to see, like who's, who's interesting and, you know, you never know. Like, I was on, I was on, I was on, I was on a pod and I was like, hey, you know, maybe I'll just dust light into Kevin Cozner's.

Oh, okay. Like, he's probably like, who's this person? Like, why is he coming into my dance? But I was like, you know what? Who cares? Like, I don't have anything to lose. Hey, what's up y'all? This is Questlove recently.

I had the opportunity to sit down with Aesap Rocky ahead of his album release. Don't be dumb. He reflects on his journey from his Harlem roots to global icon status, discovering the hip-hop origin of his name. The ledge was on the TV. Raq Kim had the bucket hat can go during the apostles. That's Rakim. That's who you named after.

I just was like, damn that my fucking got swag. Rocky offers a window into not. only a boundary-breaking artist, but as a man committed to fusing creative ideas, community, and remaining unapologetically himself. Have you ever gotten roasted for any of your outfits? For sure. Some people don't be getting to vision. Look, they can roast me, they could cook me, they could deep-fribe me, they can saute,

whatever they want. It's nobody even with my fashion sense and my taste is impeccable. I'm just like, I impress myself a lot. It's an amazing conversation. You definitely don't want to miss, so listen to The Questlove show on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast. Hey there, this is Dr. Jesse Mills, director of the men's clinic at UCLA Health and host of the mailroom podcast. Each January guys everywhere make the same resolutions. Get stronger, work harder, fix, what's broken?

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Room on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your favorite shows. This season on Dear Chelsea with me, Chelsea Handler, we've got some incredible guests like Camel Nangiani. Let's start with your cat. How is she? She is not with a thing. Okay, great, great, great way to start. So this is a great beginning and hopefully you'll be able to, I don't know, maybe you will cry. Amanda Seifred. Life is so short. If you feel something like that, you have that. in you for this experience. It's not for a guy. It's for the experience of being in love.

And, like, it's bigger than a guy. Elizabeth Olson. I love swimming naked so much. And I know you love taking pictures of yourself naked. Yes. I love to be naked. I just want to be in my brown underwear all the time. Ross Matthews.

You know what kids always say to me? Are you a boy or girl? Oh, my God. All the time. I love it. I know. So I'm always like, hi. I try to butcher it up for kids, you know, so they're not confused.

Yeah, but you're butching it up is basically like an angry woman. Doris Day. Right? No, I turn into Be Arthur. Listen to these episodes of Dear Chelsea on the IHeart Radio

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They're cheese. What's a rap? It's time to rebuild. Who's your MVP right now, then? Drake May up there. Josh Allen up there still. Oh, my boy, Matthew Stafford. Where did his own Knicks at?

He ain't too far behind. He did all this talk about. What Matthew Stafford is doing statistically, bro, is crazy. Bro, you know I ain't no Josh Allen fan. But Matthew Stafford got better weapon. Caleb Williams. Hey, he should be in that conversation. In what conversation?

You should be in it. Listen to Broken Play with Navgreen from the Black Effect Podcast Network on the Iheart Radio app. Apple Podcasts or whatever you get your podcast. Okay, let's talk about the Bravo universe. Are there any guys in the Bravo universe that you would be interested in talking to? Like, Shep or? Been there done now with Shab. Like, Shep is like a great time to me.

I think he's so, so intelligent. and it really turns me on to intellect is a big thing for me. I'm very safe. You're sexual. So like, Shep is a hottie. No, there was only one guy I think is really,

you know, hookup worthy and smart enough to be like turned on by. He's not on Bravo anymore, but it would be Mauricio. Maricio is a very handsome man. And I mean, it's tough because we're from L.A. We all have the same friends.

My best team, MJ is his boss. You know, his boss is, he's MJ's boss. So it's kind of like, uh-huh. He's a hottie. He's a hottie. He is very attractive. He is very attractive.

Okay. Well, so Whitney and I, back in the day, went on a couple of did dates before he even started Southern Charm. And during BravoCon, I met Captain Jason. And he, like, hops into my GM, my DM sometimes. And I'm like, oh. He's the sweetest man in the whole world. He's one of my dear friends. I love him dearly, but he is, I think, very similar to me, very flirting by nature.

So it's really easy to think he's being flirtatious. He's just so open and so loving. But he's the kindest soul. He is such a sweet. And the way he talks about his daughter is just so beautiful. And I just think he's so great. Wait, let's get back to Mauritio, because I'm kind of like feeling the vibe now. Dark hair.

beautiful and I love that you're a satiosexual because I am very much like that too like if I I like fall in love I've only fall in love ones but I fall into heavy attraction

when men are smart it makes me like it just ignites me I'm like agree that's why for me I think that dating apps never appeal to me

this is my first time of trying to join Raias ever because I can't look at a picture and judge for me. As soon as someone's smart, they become the hottest guy in the room. So just judging them by their face and criteria doesn't do it for me, you know? Do you feel like the guys that you have been in a relationship within the past were smart? Oh, gosh, no, no.

I don't think I wanted to date my type. Yeah, no, I didn't want to date my type until recently. It's only been, you know, now that I'm a mom and I have my life together, before I was the type of person. Every four months, I dumped the guy, and I went and found a new one. As soon as they were getting to the point where, I love you, I'm sorry to know, have these strong feelings. It was, you know, I ran. I ran. And I was getting a high off of that mental stimulation, that rush that people get from the beginning of relationships.

And I didn't realize I was chasing that, you know, and I was serving this internal ego of mine to kind of conquer. And that was very different. And I think I looked a little bit more for vulnerable men at that point because I needed to have that feeling of conquering. Now I know exactly what I need. I need to be stimulated mentally. I need to be, have someone so humble and generous to put me in my place in the most beautiful way if that makes sense. And it's hard to find it interesting that you say because most there's like they talk about like chasing and attracting and you're talking about chasing and attracting men. you're talking about chasing and attracting that feeling, which I think is really interesting

and very honest of you. I mean, I can understand that too. I mean, I went through moments when I was just kind of, I wasn't, I was just looking for that feeling. I wanted, because I was like working so much and raising my two kids on my own that when I was, when I was around certain, you know, different kinds of men, I was always gravitating towards, I wouldn't say the bad guy, but the wrong guy. Right, the wrong one.

The temporary ones. Right. Yes, the temporary. And I never really thought about that until just listening to you right now. It's a drug. Yes, it's a total drug. It's a total drug. What about younger men?

Do you have any thoughts on that? No, it doesn't do it for me. I think I need an older gentleman that has already been married, has kids, and is not really longing for those goals. and has different sets of goals in their mind with partnership and growth and their businesses and maybe establishing businesses. For me, that is my goal when I look at a relationship. So I would like for them to have experienced those things,

to know what it feels like to be married, to know what it feels like to have their own children. And then to be able to experience life together in a different perspective. It's interesting because yesterday I was kind of talking about like the things that I was looking for and I used to always say, first, I always wanted to have more kids. That was my whole thing.

That's the reason I got divorced is because I wanted to have more kids for my kids to have a family. And then I would say, I want to have this gorgeous family for my family. Like I have these taglines. I have like, like, relationship taglines. And then yesterday I was like, wait, what am I doing? I'm setting myself up for these huge expectations of like trying to create this big family narrative, this culture, this gorgeousness. Like, it's just so much, it's too much of an expectation for me.

Why can't I just find. someone or be with someone who is just interested in like being like, you know, a love partner and crime. That's really what I'm looking for. So it's just kind of like, it's just fascinating talking to today because we're really kind of like on the same path. I mean, I'm older than you are. But we are in this same kind of like life path. And I think it's really, really interesting. Love Hotel. What about Love Hotel? Would you ever go on Bravo's Love Hotel? You know, I've never been interested in wanting to do all these other types of shows before, but the Love Hotel definitely sparked my interest because that is up my alley. I'm not into the traders and the competition things.

I don't have it in me to do that stuff. Yeah. But Love Hotel, I have it in me to meet a bunch of gorgeous men in a beautiful place. Of course. Sign me up, Kelly. Wait, I need to manifest. The two of us on Love Hotel, the two of us were like each other's wingwoman, like, don't do this. Oh, my God.

Don't. Yes. Amazing. Then Marizio comes. I'm like, there she is. We'll be fighting over the Einstein in the room. We'll do an IQ test for the final decision.

I feel like, Gigi's not smart enough. He's not smart enough. He's not smart. You're not smart. That for you. Do you feel that, okay, so we were talking before at the top about how your first marriage was seven weeks, then you got divorced,

and your second marriage was 10 days, and then annulled. So sorry. I'm sorry about both of those. I mean, really, like that just like broke yesterday when I was watching you talk about it. I could just see and I could hear the flutter in your voice. I'm like literally, I'm like emotional about it right now.

I like, I'm like so, I'm so happy where you are today, but I'm so sad that you had to go through that. Do you feel like marriage has been too constricting to you for you? To you, maybe. I see both times I got married for different. reasons, never for the fact of getting married to the person, which sucks to say. I don't know if there's a world in which marriage would ever be something that's real for me. I don't know. I'm not going to say no. But with my first ex, I loved him very much. I still love him. We still talk

all the time. You know, he lives in Florida, but we have the best relationship he and I. I really to love him and I was worried that he was, you know, going to get deported and whatnot. And I was like willing to do what I had to do at that time. I thought, you know, I don't want to lose you. And so let's, you know, get married. He really wanted a wife the next day. And it was not in my Pingo card. So it was just very tough. And it turned into a very long and bitter divorce process. but I kept the ring in the end, which he was like, that was his excuse to fight for, but I know it was just, he was hurt.

And I did hurt him. It was a little rough the way I did things. Wait, if you don't want me asking, because I know that you're so honest, how did you do things? You just were like, I can't be your wife, I can't. Yeah, very honest. Every day or what, define wife.

I want to know what your definition is of a wife. In that scenario, Well, I don't want to live with a person. And if we live together, I do need to have like my own separate room, my own separate wing. Like, you don't want to travel with a boyfriend. I always want my own room. Like, I can't. I just can't share my space.

I'm very weird. It sucks because I have four animals. And if they're not all on the bed with me, I can't sleep. But if a man is next to me, I'm like, so I do just want that space. And I think I'm just very brutally honest with my first ex, Shalom. I remember one time because I was traveling a lot at that time and I was filming the show and just doing so many things and I said like if I'm not around you know

and you're out you're with the boys and there's like a hot chick or something I was like I don't mind if you I was like as long as no one sees it you're giving him a hall pass yeah and he got so upset with me he lost his because he assumed that that meant I wanted to go do that. In his mind, I was like, no, I'm just saying, like, guys have needs. I don't get jealous by stuff like that. So it's fine. He's like, what are you talking about? So are you interested in polyamory or? I thought I was. I thought I was interested in a quality relationship for a while. And I started exploring that route. And I think just because I don't get jealous of things, I thought that

that's what it was. But it's, I don't think it's for me. I think I just need a man who understands that I need space sometimes. I need a little bit of understanding that I'm, I've been in my alpha for so long that I do want to bring it down. And I need someone who's so secure in his alpha that he's able to tap into his femininity to bring that out of me.

Yeah. And I think when I'm not fighting anymore, can I be. Right. But it's true, though. Like, it's so hard to find a man who's so in his secure and his alpha that he can tap into his femininity. So are you a dismissive avoidant? Is that your attachment style or?

Patty Stanger hates me because she's like, that cannot be your attachment style. I'm just, I love space. I love, I love, I love language is words of, like affirmation. I need words of praise and gifts. It's a big one for me. and I know all the girls, I love gifts. No, no, no, no, I need it. Yeah.

Are you a chorus? I'm a Sagittarius. Oh, you're a Sagittarius. I'm a tourist. That's interesting. My son's a tourist. Because usually Sagittariuses are more like acts of service and not necessarily gifts, but that's interesting. So do you think this, I'm not a therapist.

I'm not trying to be. I'm just curious because like your relationship with your dad seems just so, seems so loving and kind. And he obviously was very nurturing towards you. Do you think it's because you had such an amazing. father that you want this independence? Oh, that's a great question. I have two cats. I have one African cerebral and one regular

tell. I don't know where they are. I'm getting a pig too. I've tried for a pig, so I'll have a pig soon. I think having a really great dad makes it a little difficult to want to find a man. They always say girls marry their fathers, right? he's definitely set the bar very high for me.

He's always been very open and understanding of what I need and what makes me happy. And there was never pressure in my household to get married. When my sister was in our 20s and wanted to get married, my parents were trying to talk her out of it. You know, they're like, oh, wait, you're young. Like, go travel the world. Yeah. It does make it a little hard to amount to that.

But in the same breath, when you have something so great to look up, too, isn't that what we're supposed to strive towards, you know, the next best thing? What did your parents think about when you conceived Elijah from IVF and a sperm donor? How did that, how did that land for your family? I knew that when I got to a certain age and my health was under control because I have a very aggressive autoimmune disease and I've had it since I was 27 years old. So the types of medications and, you know, infusions and injections that I have to be on, it's very scary. You can't be pregnant.

You can't do all that. So once my health was really good and I'm like, you know, I'm getting older. Like, you know, 30-something years old, I need to get this process started. So I did. By the time, you know, I was 39. I had my son, but that didn't go easily. my first round of IVF, I got pregnant. And while I was filming a scene, I just started getting this extreme pain.

And an hour later, I'm in the OR, getting, you know, transferred over, getting both my filopian tubes removed. I had an ectopic rupture, which doesn't happen during IVF because they bypass the fallopian tubes to do IVF. So they think because of my autoimmune, my Philippian tubes were working as suction. and probably just sucked the embryo in. And so I lost both my Philippine twos. The last thing I remember was a nurse about my head having me sign a form.

And I was like a little sedate. I'm like, what are you talking about? She's like the state requires you to sign that you are sterilizing yourself. And I just remember signing and then just going out. So three months later, I got pregnant with my son, Elijah. I knew the goal was to have a child. I didn't care what was going to happen. knew I had to, but when I was about five months pregnant, my health got really bad. And I had to begin

medications that were safe during pregnancy, but we got to a point where I had to just induce early. And he was born the first month of the COVID quarantine, so it was very weird time at then. You know, they saw my baby's healthy. They kicked us out of the hospital. They're like, get out of here, get out of here. It's been great. I mean, I think COVID was a blessing to be at home and raise a and just focus only on the kid. And I did that. So now here we are. He'll be six in April.

And it's a whole different world. I mean, I cannot believe that you've been through. I just have to go back for one second. I mean, just being out of it and signing a document that says for a female to say that you're not able to have a child is or that you're not. It's a lot anymore. I can't even, I can't even, outside of filming and I can't even, I don't even, I don't even know what to say. I mean, I think every single woman who has experienced trying to have children or having children has experienced something traumatic or difficult, whether it's with the pregnancy, after the pregnancy or raising your child. I'm not, you know, unique to anything. I, that's why I humble myself very quickly. And I say, I'm okay.

I'm able to still get pregnant just through IVF. Why not? I was already doing IVF to begin with. If I can do that, okay, now I'm pretty much, I hate to say this, but I'm a dumpster. You could just say to me and I can't get pregnant anymore. Stop. Don't say things like that.

You're not that. You're not that little. But, you know, way before I was in housewives, I, because I had my children in my early 30s like you, you were in your late 30s, but I was in my early 30s. and my youngest daughter, I thought that she was going to have some serious issues. And I was very, very, very concerned. And I always treated my body like a vessel for the girls.

And I just was so concerned that my youngest daughter that was going to be, that there was going to be an issue. And, you know, like you just said, like, you know, there are so many women that have been through these different experiences by raising, having children, trying to have children, trying to get, you know, get pregnant, raise children, raising children on their own. So there's, you know, just it's just there's a lot. It's hard.

Hey, what's up, y'all? This is Questlove recently. I had the opportunity to sit down with ASEAP Rocky ahead of his album release. Don't be dumb. He reflects on his journey from his Harlem roots to global icon status, discovering the hip-hop origin of his name. The Ledge was on. on the TV. Raq Kim had the bucket hat

can go join the apostles. That's Raq Kim. That's who you named after. I just was like, damn, that fucking I swear. Rocky offers a window into not only a boundary breaking artist, but as a man committed

to fusing creative ideas, community, and remaining unapologetically himself. Have you ever gotten roasted for any of your outfits? For sure. Some people don't be getting to vision. Look, they can roast me, they could cook meat, they could deep fried meat, they can saute, whatever they want.

It's nobody with my fashion sense and my taste is impeccable. I'm just like, I impress myself a lot. It's an amazing conversation. One, you definitely don't want to miss, so listen to the Questlove show on the Iheart

radio app, Apple Podcast, or wherever you get your podcast. Hey there, this is Dr. Jesse Mills, director of the men's clinic at UCLA Health and host of the mailroom podcast. Each January guys everywhere make the same resolution get stronger, work harder, fix, what's broken?

But what if the real work isn't physical at all? To kick off the new year, I sat down with Dr. Steve Polter, a psychologist with over 30 years' experience, helping men unpack shame, anxiety, and emotional pain they were never taught to name. In a powerful two-part conversation, we discuss why men aren't emotionally bulletproof, why shame hides in plain sight, and how real strength comes from listening, to yourself and to others. Guys who are toxic, they're immature, or they've got some.

something they just haven't resolved. Once that gets resolved, then there comes empathy as in compassion. If you want this to be the year, you stop powering through pain and start understanding what's underneath, listen to the mailroom on the iHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your favorite shows. This season on Dear Chelsea with me, Chelsea Handler, we've got some incredible guests like Kumail Nanjiani. Let's start with your cat.

How is she? She is not with a thing. Great, great way to start. So this is a great beginning and hopefully you'll be able to, I don't know, maybe you will cry. Amanda Seifred. Life is so short. If you feel something like that, you have that fire in you for this experience. It's not for a guy.

It's for the experience of being in love and like it's bigger than a guy. Elizabeth Olson. I love swimming naked so much. And I know you love taking pictures of yourself naked. I love to be naked. I just want to be in my Ronald world. time. Ross Matthews. You know what kids always say to me? Are you a boy or girl? Oh my God. All the time. That's so funny. I love it. So I'm always like, hi. I try to butcher it up for kids, you know, so they're not confused. Yeah, but you're butching it up is basically like Doris Day. Right. No, I turn into Be Arthur. Listen to these episodes of Dear Chelsea on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. This show contains information subject to but not limited to personal takes, rumors, not to. so accurate stats and plenty more.

What's up, man? This your boy Nav Green from the Broken Play Podcast. Look, it's the end of the season, the playoffs are here. But guess what? It ain't the end of your season. You can always tune in with Broken Play Podcasts with Nav Green on the Black Effect Podcast Network. Not a team who ain't going to the playoffs.

They're cheese. What's a rap? It's time to rebuild. Who's your MVP right now then? Drake May up there, Josh Allen up there still. Oh, my boy, Matthew Stafford. Where did he have both Knicks at? He ain't too far behind.

He did all this talk. What Matthew Stafford is doing statistically, bro, it's crazy. Bro, you know I ain't no Josh Allen fan. But Matthew Stafford got better weapon. Caleb Williams. Hey, he should be in that conversation. In what conversation? He should be in it.

Listen to Broken Play with Nav Green from the Black Effect Podcast Network on the Iheart Radio app. Apple Podcasts or whatever you get your podcast. What about? I know that the IBF was obviously so different. Would you ever have any more children or, I mean, obviously your health is it's, you know, is an issue, but would you ever have any more children? I don't think I do want to have another child. I think I'm good where I'm out right now.

My health is my main concern. I know having an autoimmune disease is going to be a lifelong battle. It doesn't get cured. It doesn't go away. I actually just got back from Columbia a couple days ago doing stem cell treatment over there and some pealing, you know, ceremonies and whatnot to. anything I can to make my body better and stronger for my son. I think I chose a very unconventional route to have a child to begin with.

So I want to focus as much as I can on making sure I create a really good, you know, hospital environment for him emotionally. He, for the first time, you know, said to me, I wish I had a daddy. And it, I mean, it was a gut punch. and I wanted to immediately walk out of his room and just walk away and pretend like I didn't hear it. But I took a deep breath and I just sat down. And I said, you wished you had a daddy? And he goes, yeah.

And I said, well, what would you do if you had a daddy? What would you guys do together? And he started thinking about it. And he was, I don't know. And I said, do you think any of those things that you might want to do with a daddy that I can do with you or that Papa, my dad can do with you? And he started thinking about it and then he just started watching TV and he changed the subject.

But it was like, it was one of those things. And I know that throughout his life with different stages and ages, it's going to come in a different direction in a different way. So I'm just trying to do everything I can to make sure he knows he's so loved

by whoever he does have in his life. You know, but I always say, listen, some kids have two dads. Some kids have two moms. moms. And, you know, one of his friends back in preschool a couple of years ago, the mother had died, unfortunately, of cancer very young. And, you know, so he was friends with the son. I said, you know, he doesn't have a mom right now. And so I try. But, you know, what are you going to say to a five and a half year old, which every movie you watch, every cartoon is mommy and daddy. You know, how do I

explain that? I don't know how, you know, so every age and stage is different. But I'm really proud of so many women out there and I see more and more women out there every day taking this upon themselves, the wanting a child so badly and knowing that they're going to give it their all. And it's the best we can do is give it our all. That's all we can do. I mean, yes. Yes. I'm just like so moved by you. I mean, you're just an incredible human. Oh, my, I love you. I'm like, so what advice would you give to other single moms that are listening right now? I don't know. Oh, I don't have any advice from, I would take all the advice in the world. I'm humble enough to know that I know nothing and I'm learning every day.

And I'm one of those moms that loves the criticism. If you think I'm doing something wrong or if you like what I'm doing, I want to know about it. That's how I grow. So I think to moms, just be open all to hearing and accepting, you know, other people's opinions, especially your children. I think it's really important that we listen to them. and not want to assume we know what they're thinking and feeling and saying, because I remember being a child and knowing that my parents were my heroes.

So whatever they felt and said was godly to me. You know, so listen, listen to your kids. That's all I know. I mean, I love that because I feel the same way about my parents. They were my heroes. They still are my heroes. I think one thing that's interesting is that going through this work, being on television, like the microscope that you were talking about before,

is that there are so many women, because we reach so many different women, who have gone through a lot of different situations. And one thing that I've learned from just being on TV is that I, and I continue to say this, like I love their criticism because I am like you. I want to be better. I don't want to just be like, look at me. I'm going to rain. Right.

Who wants to do that? That's awful. I do want to grow when I do want to be better. And I think, you know, one thing I wanted to ask you about is that, you know, because you do it down on this on your own, like, who are your village? Because like for me, my village, my parents, my twin brother, my sister, my close friends, my Bravo community. That was my village. So who's your village? My parents are my village, my dad especially. My mom is in the, you know, beginning, middle phases of, uh, have dementia, Alzheimer's. So it's a little trickier now, but I love that my son gets to spend time with her. But he and my dad, I think my dad internally feels this extra obligation to be that male role

model in his life. My dad said one time he took my son to the park and the kid asked, my son, where's your dad? And he said, I don't have a dad, but I have a grandpa. And he pointed over and said, my dad said his heart just melted. And so I love hearing that because my dad's such a great male role model to look up to. So I'm just so blessed to have those two. And I have a really good group of friends now.

They have their kids. MJ, you know, her son is one year older than my son. And on the show, you see my friend Natasha. She has three kids. So we're very close. I really like establishing his friendship bonds, you know, with people. And that's my village. That's my, our animals, our animals are very much a big part of our family.

We treat them better than family sometimes. So, you know, for Eli, he really, when he, he will say he misses his animals before he says he misses me. That's for sure. Anytime he goes to my parents' house, he goes, I want to go hug my animals. I'm like, what about me? He's like, okay. One thing that's interesting is that like you love your son so much and you love your

family and you love your animals so much, but the men just don't, they don't have a space. Maybe you need to make a little space. That's like my whole storyline so far had been the fact that I had to downsize my house and I had a six bedroom house when we were filming and it was very big. I get it. It's just my son and I. But now I've downsized to a five bedroom. It's still rather big.

We have a, our backyard is much, much bigger now, which is great. And it's, you know, perfect space for a piggy. and I've been wanting a pig for a couple of years. So I applied and I got approved. So the next step is figuring that out. You know, so I want to get into the show because this is the Valley Persian style is such a great show. And I want to hear everything that's coming up. But I did love when you said, you know, you have to buy a first class ticket to know what that feels.

I'm getting chills because I love that when you said that. And the reason that I love that is because it's so important to believe that you belong in these places. I mean, there's, I just feel that there's a lot of people that saying, I'm not worthy. I'm not this. I'm this. I'm not giving like they're defining themselves like crazy. But you're saying if you've been there once, you want it again. Once you get a taste.

And that, and I love that. I was just like, that is so great. That is so great. I love what I heard Steve Harvey say. It makes so much sense. I was like, well, that's a smart man. I mean, it makes sense. There's a lot of people who can't afford it.

But everyone can save enough money one year to afford it. It's a metaphor. It's not about the first class ticket. It's about a moment or something that's something to you that you would like to do that you've always thought about doing and whatever that. Right. That's what? So can you give us some tea?

What is going to happen on the show? You guys are like, Oh, my gosh. opposite bedrooms, like what's going on in the marriages, like the friends who are more bonded than the husband's and the wife. I'm like, what is going on? It's wild. We are in Palm Springs right now in the episodes.

And oh my gosh, complete havoc broke loose in Palm Springs. And I'll just tell you this, somebody ended up jumping into an Uber from Palm Springs at midnight and going back home to L.A. by their selves. So it was, a lot went down. It's, it's one of those,

like grab the popcorn, grab your seatbelt, buckle up because it's gonna, it's one of those moments between, remember you and Bethany, that whole showdown and oh my God,

this is that. This is that. You guys painted the road. We're following in your footsteps. This is that moment. I'm like, you're mean to me. I'm up here.

You're me. I'm like, what is happening? Who is this person? How about, I mean, I'm jumping all over the place, but just from just going and talking about the show, Reza and his husband, their relationship. I mean, talk about an iconic relationship. What can I do for you?

If a man said, what can I do for you? I'd be like, what? No man has ever said what they can do for me? They're always like, what can you do for me? Right, 100%. No, I think they've really, set the tone for a lot of couples. And this doesn't come easily.

Those two have put a lot of work into their marriage. They have been to, you know, therapy together separately. They have really, really put in the work. So it's really beautiful when you get to see those moments of the results of putting in the work and what it looks like, you know, being receptive to your significant other. It's really nice. Listen, I'm not saying they don't still get into it like regular couples. They're 100% to you.

Communication when you learn how to hear your partner, it's a life changer. That seems to be a big theme this summer, the summer, the season two is about communication, just with relationships. One thing that I really liked was like the handholding of like, what can I do and what you, the reciprocity we were talking before about love language. I think that people say what their love languages, but then they don't, this was a moment where it was like, I need physical touch. I need more physical touch.

I mean, it's just so funny. He's like, touch my body. Yeah. But I just think that that's like the communication is something that I saw was like really, really, really like this common theme with everyone. And the good thing that I love about you is that you are such a great communicator. When people are talking about your home and all the situations that are going on with your life, you are like, what are you saying?

Why are you saying it? not because you're like confronting them, but you're like, tell me what's going on because you're like, I want to be better. Like, what can I do to be better? Yeah, just let me know how I can fix things. Like, let me know the better part. Yeah, I'm okay. Exactly.

I just want to fix things. I feel like with most of America having experienced bad credit at some point in their lives, it just felt like I was being penalized for having bad credit. And I thought it was just a very human thing. I've messed up here and there. I've got bad credit. But the interesting thing when people don't understand a bad credit is that you're still working and you're still making money. It's not like you're not working.

It's not like you're not writing. You're not making money. But just bad credit. I mean, yes, it happens all the time. It does. And that's the interesting thing, like you just said, having money and having bad credit are two separate, completely separate things. I missed some payments. I, you know, messed up on a couple of things.

And that's okay. I'm not ashamed of that. I don't think anyone should be shamed for that. So, yeah, I wasn't affected by the background. I was just affected on why is everyone talking about this at the group dinner without, you know, like, what's the conversation? I love that you're talking about it. And I love that you're opening up about things that people don't want to talk about. That's like super taboo.

People don't want to talk about finances. They'll talk about their relationships. But they do not want to talk about finances. And I love it. It's such a human thing. Yeah. I mean, it is. a human thing. It's such a human shit. Well, you're so beautiful. I'm like, love hotel. Yes.

Marie. Yes. Maria. Yeah. Opening up your bed to men. Yes. Sharing a bedroom or a space with a man. Yes. I see a lot of you. I'm going to like, yes, yes. Oh, my gosh. Having more fun and being you. Yes. Yeah, we have a lot of work to do you and I after this call. I know I've got deliverables now. It's like, okay, Kelly, do you work. Oh my God. It was so, so great, great, great to have you. Thank you, Kelly.

So the Valley Persian style, new episodes Thursday, 9 p.m. on Bravo and Fridays on Peacock. Gigi, thank you so much for the honest and truthful conversation. I love how unfiltered you are. Are you single and in your chapter two or do you have an I do Part 2 story? that you want to share, call us or email us. All the info are in the show notes. And make sure you rate and review the podcast. I do part two.

An I Heart Radio podcast where falling in love is the main objective. Hello, hello, all my people, what's up? It's Questlove. Recently, I had the opportunity to sit down with the one and only ASAP Rocky. He reflects on his journey from Harlem Roots to global icon status and discovering the hip-hop origin of, his name. The ledge was on the TV.

Raq Kim had the bucket hat can go join on. Like, that's Raq Kim. That's who you named after. I just was like, damn, that fucking I sweat. Listen to the Questlove show on the Iheart radio app,

Apple Podcast, or wherever you get your podcast. This season on Dear Chelsea with me, Chelsea Handler, we've got some incredible guests like Kumail Nanjiani. Let's start with your cat. How is she? She is not.

with us. Okay, great, great, great way to start. Maybe you will cry. Ross Matthews. You know what kids always say to me? Are you a boy or girl? Oh my God. All the time.

That's so funny. I know. So I try to butcher it up for kids so they're not confused. Yeah, but you're butching it up is basically like Doris Day. Right? No, I turn into Be Arthur. Listen to these episodes of Dear Chelsea on the IHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts.

This is Dr. Jesse Mills, host of the Mailroom podcast. Each January, men promise to get stronger, work harder, and fix what's broken. But what if the real work isn't physical at all? I sat down with psychologist Dr. Steve Poulter to unpack shame, anxiety, and the emotional pain men were never taught how to name. Part of the way through the Valley of Despair is realizing this has happened, and you have to make a choice whether you're going to stay in it or move forward. Our two-part conversation is available now. Listen to the mailroom on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, for wherever you get your favorite shows. This show contains information subject to, but not limited to personal takes, rumors, not so accurate stats, and plenty more.

What's up, man? This is your boy, Nav Green, from the Broken Play Podcast. Look, it's the end of the season, the playoffs are here. But guess what? It ain't the end of your season. You can always tune in with Broken Play Podcasts with Nav Green on the Black Effect Podcast Network. Not a team who ain't going to the playoffs. They're cheap.

It's time to rebuild. Listen to Broken Play with Nav Green from the Black Effect Podcast Network on the Iheart Radio Out. Apple Podcast or whatever you get your podcast. This is an IHeart podcast. Guaranteed human.