The Big Flop - Listen Now: Reclaiming with Monica Lewinsky

Episode Date: February 20, 2025

Monica Lewinsky has been a major reference in pop culture since she was 24 years old when a scandal made her a household name overnight. Since then, she’s fought to redefine her reputation - and now, she's ready to encourage others to take back their power, too.On her new podcast "Reclaiming with Monica Lewinsky," Monica leads honest and wide-ranging conversations about what it means to write your own narrative. Each week, guests share how they've rediscovered purpose, rebuilt relationships, and redefined success after their most vulnerable moments.This is just a preview of Reclaiming with Monica Lewinsky. You can listen to the full episode wherever you get your podcasts, or here: Wondery.fm/ReclaimingWithMonicaLewinsky See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

You've heard her name in headlines, during trivia nights, as a punchline, Monica Lewinsky. She's been a major reference in pop culture since she was 24 years old when a scandal made her a household name overnight. Since then, she's fought to redefine her reputation, and now she's ready to use her experience to encourage others to take back their power too. On her new podcast, Reclaiming with Monica Lewinsky, Monica leads honest and wide ranging conversations about what it means to write your own narrative. Each week, guests share how they've rediscovered purpose, rebuilt relationships, and redefined success after their most vulnerable moments.

A single incident can shape how the world views someone's life. It might be a public scandal, a viral moment, a career setback, or a personal struggle thrust into the spotlight. Through raw conversations with actors, athletes, activists, and everyday people, Reclaiming explores what happens after the headlines fade, and how to find your voice when the world thinks it already knows your story. You're about to hear a preview of Reclaiming with Monica Lewinsky.

While you're listening, follow Reclaiming with Monica Lewinsky wherever you get your podcasts. Hi everyone. For today's episode, I spoke with my brave and brilliant friend Olivia Munn. We met over a decade ago and bonded over all things woo woo. So crystals, astrology, we just got into deep real conversation really quickly, which is kind of the way I like to do it. You probably know her as an actor and an activist and if you're on social media, you'd also know her as the mom to adorable Malcolm in May.

Because Olivia and I are close, I knew about her struggle with breast cancer in real time, but to hear her heartbreaking and inspiring story in the details that she shared in our conversation, it meant so much to me and made me admire her even more. And for any fans of the newsroom, we went there too. So anyway, I hope you find something to connect to in our chat and thanks for joining us on reclaiming. So let's get into it. I knew that my friends and people in my life saw me as somebody that would fight back. And I had no idea, I truly had no idea that I could be manipulated and hurt that way, that I wouldn't just get out of something that was dangerous to my psyche.

So many women, I think, find themselves in different levels of relationships that are everything from psychologically and emotionally abusive to physically abusive and I think find it hard to leave. I think people talk more now about attachment styles and stuff. And so I look back on some of my relationships during what I call my dark decade. So kind of in between 98 graduate school, whatever, and my first person essay, In Vanity Fair in 2014. And I think I look at it, and maybe it's a story I tell myself, but I think about that the pain I was in

staying in relationships with people who didn't value me, who talked to me a certain way that I allowed and accepted and kept going back for more. And I look at it and I think I was. deeper pain and experiencing the pain in the relationship was actually easier. Like I knew I had to go through pain and that was easier than the pain of really what I was sitting on of both not only my experiences in 98 but whatever all those experiences before it that led to all of that. And so did you feel like, does that resonate at all or something different? No, I only had healthy relationships. Okay. And then-

Lucky bitch. Well, that one made up for all of it. It was a bad, bad period of my life. And what I actually realized that I really wanna teach my children and any friends of mine is that, you know, when they say, like, oh, just go on the date.

Like, you never know. Like, you might like them, you know, you'll at least learn what you don't like. I think for some people who are, like, subconsciously vulnerable, which is what I think I was, because I had no idea I was, like, this vulnerable to anything that had happened to me post that first date,

is that if you feel in your gut something's not right, then don't do that first date or get out right away because one day could take years off of your life. Not just the period that you're with the person, but if you're lucky enough to get out, the year is healing yourself afterwards. In that particular situation, I had a therapist who I really loved and I know that she cared about me, or at least I thought she did. And I would constantly from the very beginning say, I don't know about this. I don't think this is the right... I want to get... And then it got worse and worse. I'd be calling her crying and be like, I gotta get out.

Like... And I was like, help me get out. Like, help me... Like... Wow. And this is... This is shocking to people, but she encouraged me to stay. She thought that, you know, my that my quote unquote picker was off and she would look at it as like,

but this person on paper looked great. And when there was couples therapy, they knew how to present the right way. So then the stories I would tell seemed unbelievable. I think what's interesting to me is to just think about So then the stories I would tell seemed unbelievable. I think what's interesting to me is to just think about how you have this strong sense of self, you lost yourself in this relationship. What's so interesting to me is because I think this is

in a short period of time, you were able to, it may have felt like forever to you and may have seemed near impossible, but you actually stepped into a healing mode and found yourself again in what I think is like a very powerful and quick way, you know, in a really, and that's one of the things that I admire about you is that you have a focus. And I think that's part of, I think that's the good side of the black and white, the good side of the kind of the fierceness, the going in and it's a decisiveness. That was just a preview of Reclaiming with Monica Lewinsky. Watch new episodes on YouTube or listen wherever you get your podcasts.