The Bobby Bones Show - FEELING THINGS - Just a Rut or Is It a Midlife Crisis? (Couch Talks)

Episode Date: October 24, 2026

A listener is feeling a little blah, so Amy and Kat are here to help. On paper, life looks great: the house, the kids, the routines. But something feels stuck. Is it an early midlife crisis, or just part of being in your 30s? The girls talk about how even a beautiful life can feel a bit flat sometimes, why that’s completely normal, and how to go out and create a spark instead of waiting for one to find you. Have a question for us? Send it our way and we might answer it on the show!   Get some Feeling Things merch by clicking HERE! (FeelingThingsPodcast.com) Sign up for the Feeling Things newsletter HERE! Watch us on Youtube HERE! Find us on TikTok: @radioamy Call and leave a voicemail: 877-207-2077 Email: [e-mail] HOSTS: Amy Brown // RadioAmy.com // @RadioAmy Kat Van Buren // threecordstherapy.com // @KatVanburen  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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just our regular one. This is still feeling things, obviously. But this is where we answer your questions here on Couch Talks. So you know, Kat is still out on maternity leave. And she's soaking up every second with sweet baby Zoe. We thought we recorded enough content to get us through her maternity leave, but she needs extra time.

And honestly, I love that for her. When it comes to answering your questions, I love having her here with me because she's the expert and a therapist. So today we're bringing back one of your favorite couch talks episode. Quick heads up. This is from earlier this year. So if you hear us talking about cat not being pregnant or me having a boyfriend, just roll with it. Time travel is kind of fun. If you miss this one the first time, then yay, it's a brand new one.

for you. And if you already heard it, well, maybe give it another go because sometimes you hear something totally different depending on what's going on in your life at the time that you listen to it. So just wanted to give you all that update and hope y'all are having the day. You need to have. Here you go. Happy Thursday. Welcome to Couch Talks, the Q&A episode of our Feeling Things podcast. I'm Amy. And I'm Kat. This is from a listener named S. Hmm. Mysterious. Hey, Amy and Kat would love to get y'all's thoughts. on how to get out of my rut. I feel like I've checked the boxes, travel, marriage, kids, house, but now I don't know what's next. I'm okay with this season of life being mundane for me,

groceries, diapers, carpool, playground with the kids. These are not bad things, and I'm not apathetic or ungrateful. I love my family and friends. I have a beautiful home with great neighbors. I enjoy watching my children go into awesome little people. But I feel stuck, uninspired. I guess I'm having an early midlife crisis. I'm in my mid-30s. Is this the feeling that drives people to sign up for a marathon or learn pickleball? Thanks for the thoughts. S. Which before Kat, you give some of your therapy type thoughts. We do have an update from a listener that wrote in with their feelings about their life, like the situation they were in. They had a lot of anxiety about XYZ. And after we talk about S for a little bit. I have a fun voicemail update to play. Like, we love hearing updates from y'all.

So even if it's months later, because this months have gone by and she called with an update. So make sure you call and give us an update, the phone numbers in the show notes. You can send an email with an update. Doesn't have to be a voicemail, but all of that infos in the show notes. So make sure you keep us posted. And so when it comes to S, this reminds me of the question we got recently about the like 27 phase of life she was a 27 year old and this just goes to show that in your mid 30s you're going to feel like right what what is happening now these are different scenarios for sure and I love that she's not feeling empathetic towards her life but she is just feeling a little bit more like what now what now well I think that also along with that other episode we did

part of this is tied to this idea that throughout our lives we always have these like big things in front of us we graduate then maybe we go to college then we meet somebody or then we get our dream job we buy a house we have kids we move like we have these things that we're constantly looking forward to that we think are going to complete the circle and then we get those things and we might enjoy them but then it still feels like there is something that has not yet been reached I think part of that is just from growing up in a culture that's constantly telling us to reach for something more, or constantly telling us that the next thing is going to be the thing that makes you happy. And also, part of that is in different phases of our life,

I think we need to find new things that bring us joy. And it sounds like she's in this phase of her life where she has all these things that she enjoys, but she wants, I don't want to put words in her mouth, but there might be something more that you want for yourself. And I don't know that it's a marathon, just saying, It could be though. It could be. And for some people that's great.

I just my own personal experience with the marathon went pretty terribly. It wasn't a thing. Yeah, it was pretty horrible. But I think that, yeah, for a certain person in a marathon, yes. For a certain person, pickleball, yes. But that's what I try so many hobbies. I'm constantly trying to like start something new or learn something new or go somewhere new. Because I do think that if we want spark and joy and fun in our lives, we do have to constantly create it. It doesn't just knock on our door and we.

open and it comes in, we create those moments for ourselves. Your nails look pretty. Thanks. They're red. I don't do read very often. Yeah. And I say that because one of your hobbies is nails. Yeah. And I went and picked up my niece yesterday and brought her over and did her nails. And like that's something that I, which was really fun. And that's something I wouldn't have done if I didn't have this hobby that I started recently. And order all the nail stuff on Amazon. Yes. And give your own little salon in your kitchen.

Yeah. And yeah, you do do other people's nails. Like you're saying with your niece, but like friends, you've offered to do mine multiple times. Yeah. You've never said. Because I just, I realize I'm not a nails person. Although I did have them done last September and it's October. Well, we got, when did we get pedicures? That was last August. We got pedicures. Yeah. That's the last time I got a pedicure. Same. Which is sad because I do enjoy pedicures. Manicures, not so much. And. At September of last year for IHeart Festival, I got these nails with like tips. And I did like a French with like a chrome taught. Like they were very, very edgy. And I came across a video the other day of me with those nails. And I was like, whoa. I have a different energy. Like those are cool.

And I feel way more cool in that video than I do now. And so I don't want to take the time to get those nails. And I didn't want to upkeep them. but I feel like I do have a different vibe about me when I have them and so maybe I need to pay more attention to my nails because sort of like, you know, we've talked about with, you know, clean hair, there's just something that you can do that's just like an instant game changer of like feeling... Get you out of your rut?

So like what if I'm missing out by being, you know, short nail, no paint girl? Well, so that also could be something that she does. It could just literally be I go and like get fun color. I've talked about this with clients a lot where they are always, whether it's dressing some way or getting their hair done some way or choosing the same nail color over and over again, just because it's like what they do and it's the thing that it's, it's the color they thought their hair was supposed to be. It's the colors they think they're supposed to have at work because they're supposed to be professional. Even like the frame of glasses that you wear and allowing yourself to go pick something different brings some different energy into their life. Like one of my clients getting like purple nails one day was like the coolest thing ever because you always had a neutral. And that felt more like her.

So it could be something before you sign up for a marathon, maybe change up. Wear more color in your wardrobe or something like that. Hello? What's your favorite scary podcast? IHard Radio presents the soundtrack to your October. From spooky podcasts and chilling playlists to nonstop Halloween radio and more. We have all the thrills and chills you're craving this season. Press play.

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in her life, she may not have a lot of time for sit down reading, but. Well, I, you just made me think of two things. One, I want to say this too, like all of this stuff that gets you out of a rut doesn't have to be like as big as a marathon or as big of like you go on a crazy vacation or you dye your hair blonde or something like that. It can be little mundane things like you said the books. Me listening to audiobooks and going on walks listening to audiobooks and me becoming a book girl has brought a whole different like world to me. Different kinds of conversations I can have with friends, just a different way to escape. So that's one thing. Why did you just do that? If you go becoming a book girl,

because I've never been a book girl because I don't read. I don't like curling up with a book and reading. I get bored. I can't do it. But if I'm doing something like going on a walk or cleaning my house and painting doors at my house, I can listen to that and then I can be, there's a way to be a book girl for everybody. Yeah. Because listening to audiobooks still counts. In my book, it counts as a read. Accessibility.

The other thing that you said, you said book club, I don't think I'm going to join a book club, but what I have wanted to do, Bunko Club. Oh, I played Bunko for Gracie's birthday last month and it was so far. My parents were in a bunco club when they're my age. Like they would go to different people's houses. So I've never played the game. You're saying... I had it neither and it was really fun. Like she, I was a little lost at first, but then once you get it down, they're like, oh, okay, this is fun. And I was losing, but I still had fun. Yeah. So having little like nights like that, the cinema Sundays that I started with my friends. How's that going? Well, we're at paused because the second, Sunday we did. Did I tell you what movie it was? I think I did. It was, who, what's the one with the clown? Um, Dark Night. Two of the people backed out last minute. So we were like, put it on a pause because maybe it felt like too much for people. But we're going to start it again. I mean, football started back. Yeah, it's a lot. It was summer. Like, it was hard. Sunday night football. Yeah. So, but that is a really like, we just made that up and it is really fun and a good idea. And so steal. before you again sign up for a marathon. And so that in a nutshell in case someone missed that episode for, and you could just do like one cinema night. It doesn't even have to be every Sunday. Every six weeks, yeah. But you host and there's a whole theme, but the people coming don't know what's

going to be shown. Or do you know? No, they don't know. Right. They don't even know the theme until they get there. And it's what we've done is like whoever's hosting is you cook a meal with a theme of that movie. You don't have like decorate or like dress up or anything. You just cook a meal or maybe a drink or a dessert or something like that that has to do with that movie. And then they guess what the movie is while you're eating the meal and then you watch. Didn't we make some deal that you're supposed to watch Pretty Woman or something? Yeah. Did we shake on it?

I forgot. I'm happy to honor it. I just don't remember. It was, we had two weeks. I think I've still one more week. Milan? Oh, I so don't want to watch Mulan. Okay.

We're going to cancel the deal. No. Have you watched her? Why wouldn't you want to watch Pretty Woman? It's one of the best movies ever. You know, I don't like old movies. I was thinking of I, it's not old. It's from 1990. Oh my gosh. Somebody sent me this TikTok or a reel or something the other day. Those people were asking like, what, what year, if you're born in what year does it consider you old? How do I say that? Does that make sense? And people were saying like 1997. Yeah. They're like, if you don't have a two and

of your birth year, then you're old. Yeah, we were born in the 19-20s. That's 25 years old is not old, though. If you're born in 1999, if you're like 26, that's not old? I know, I just think to them it sounds old because it's not 2000s. So it's like, even though it's not that far apart for some, it just sounds more. Like, imagine if we were born in the 1900s and we were like, whoa, you were born in 1890. Yikes. Like it just sounds. That is true. Like let's say it was 19. We were born in the 1900. Let's say it was 1925. And we were asked that and we'd be like, oh my gosh, you were born in the 1800s. That is crazy that like we were born in the 1900s. Yeah. We were. It sounds all the gilded age at this. Yeah. Oh, look at you. You're the one bringing it up this time. Well, we do have an update from McKinsey that I teased about a minute ago. And we love this kind of. We love this kind of. We're the one. We're the one. We're the one.

of update because she wrote in for couch talks. We gave some advice. Something that I shared was actually from my boyfriend's dad, something he had shared with my boyfriend when his wife at the time was going through cancer, colon cancer at a very young age. Like she was diagnosed at 42, passed away at 44, very unexpected. They had three kids. Like it just was during the two years that she had the cancer, there was a lot that he was anxious about and worried about. And they didn't know what they were facing. And who knows, maybe she was going to have a chance to make a recovery. But his dad would just encourage him.

Like, you have a lot that you're juggling right now. So you just need to be in the present moment and wait to worry. WTW. And so that is where we landed with McKenzie and sharing some of our advice with her. And this is her beautiful update. Hey, Kat and Amy. This is McKenzie. I had called back like almost seven months.

ago when I first found out that I was pregnant and I wanted to just give an update that I am now in my third trimester. I don't know if you all remember, but my husband's currently deployed and I am well into my first couple of months of school and everything is going great. Baby Cody is due December 21st and I just want to thank you guys for your advice on wait to worry. I found a very helpful. And I also wanted to say that my new feeling and what's kind of getting me through this last little part of knowing that I'm going to be doing labor

and my husband needs to come back and everything. But my current mantra is, what if it all works out? And so I just want to thank you guys for playing a part in my story, being so supportive and listen with Cody around come December. So thank you guys so much. Chat too. Love it.

Love getting updates. And her sharing that is reminding other people that you're going to go through different seasons. And yeah, she was nervous and anxious about starting PA school and being pregnant and her husband being deployed. And now she's living it out. And she's like, oh, it's all I'm waiting to worry. What if it all works out? What if it all works out? And now she's passing that wisdom along to other people.

Did you have something framed with that? No, that's not you. What if it all works out? Maybe I did. At your office? Or what if it goes well or something like that? You're not saying like, you know, there's some signs that say it always works out for me or whatever. And it's like yours was more of a question of like, what do things go well?

I feel like it was a really like a flower. picture and then there was letters over it? That was, it said it's going to be okay. Oh, well, what if it's going to be okay? But we have a lot of like, so we might have something similar somewhere else. I just can't think of it right now. Well, that works too. Yeah.

It's going to be okay. Maybe. Question mark. What if it's going to be okay? Might not. Wait, to worry about that. Yeah, cross that bridge when you get there, you know. Start building the bridge now.

A little bit. Work by, break. Step by step. Step by step. Day by one day at a time. There's probably something that says that in my office somewhere. One day at a time.

Yeah. I have to remind myself that often. One day. At a time. Okay. Thank you, S, for the email. Thank you, McKenzie, for the update.

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