The Bobby Bones Show - FEELING THINGS: Stop Calling Things Hard & Other Things That Might Be Helpful To Know

Episode Date: April 19, 2026

Amy is out here guessing discount codes while shopping online and it's the most satisfying thing. Kat opens up about navigating pregnancy body image and why so much of what gets posted online doesn't tell the whole story. A listener named Mindy from Kansas leaves a voicemail talking about her own hormone replacement therapy journey and it is so good. Amy references a newsletter from Mike Foster about the Manosphere documentary on Netflix and the 3 questions everyone should be asking about who they allow to influence their life. Plus a perspective shift that might quietly change the way you talk about everything: stop saying something is easy or hard and start saying it's familiar or unfamiliar. Also, gardening is really good for your brain…research says so! Get some Feeling Things merch by clicking HERE! (FeelingThingsPodcast.com) Sign up for the Feeling Things newsletter HERE! Watch us on Youtube HERE! Call and leave a voicemail: 877-207-2077 Email: [e-mail] HOSTS: Amy Brown // RadioAmy.com // @RadioAmy Kat Van Buren // threecordstherapy.com // @KatVanburenSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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Ladies and fellas, we just follow in the spirit. where it's telling us. From the real stuff to the chill stuff and the in between. Sometimes the best thing you can do is just out and feel things. This is Feeling Things with Amy and Kat. Happy Tuesday. Welcome to Feeling Things.

I'm Amy. And I'm Kat. And my feeling of the day is fun, I guess. I don't know if this for sure, for sure falls in the fun category, but it sure feels fun when I get it right. So when you check out when you're online shopping and you don't want to give your email and your phone number to get the 10% discount code, do you play the game of trying to figure out what their code is like typing in welcome, welcome 10, welcome 15, welcome 20, which normally you can guess the percentage off if it would be 10, 15 or 20 based on what they say in the pop-up screen to get you to get the percentage off. It'll be like, want 10% off, want 15% off. And that will help me with the hello 10, hello 15. Hello, 20, save 10, save 15, save 20. Free ship. I've never played that game.

I have other tricks, but this is very smart. Why haven't I played this game? Depending on the season, spring 10, spring 20, summer 10, summer 20, summer 15, fall 10, fall 20, winter. So have you been doing this lately? Yes, and I got for two days in a row getting things, Welcome 10 worked for two different sites. And I was like, this is fun. And they, because if they don't want people to do that, they got to get more creative with their codes. Oh, some people have because you'll go and they'll email you the code.

It's like ADSF, 1, 2, 2, 4, 5 Y dash, 9er copy. You have to like paste it in there. Like those are the ones. They really don't want you figuring out the code. Well, they really want your email and your phone number. Yes. I usually will just Google if I'm like, What's a discount code for this place? And sometimes it'll work. Sometimes there won't be one. But I used to have, have you heard of honey?

Yes, I've used honey. Okay. I did it too. It used to be like, what do you call it? Like it was like a plug in that I had on my safari. Yeah, it lived in there. And so it would. It would automatically generate things for you. Which is really cool. I feel like it saved me a lot of money. But I didn't download it on my new computer because I, it felt. a little bit unsafe. Like, who knows, I could have gotten a couple viruses from that. And this, now my computer we use for work. So we can't be doing that. I don't even know if that's still a thing. Good question, because I haven't used it a little bit. And I don't know how it got off of mine, but I did maybe because I got a new computer too. I can't. Or I like your, yours is more fun. It's like a game. That's why my feeling is fun because it worked twice for me. And just letting people know that if you don't want to give your email and phone number, I mean, you may have to if you can't figure it out, but it's so fun when it works and you're like, oh, like the discount just pops up.

And if you shop revolve, a code that always or tends to always work for them is tulip. What? Yeah, you get 10% offers. So random. Yeah, tulip. Okay, tulip. 10%. That's why I'm feeling fun.

Okay, I like it. I'm feeling a lot of things. Okay. I have a lot to talk about. Where should we start? Oh, this is easy. We'll get this out of the way. I feel very proud of myself.

I feel like you'll be very proud of me for doing this. You know how like I like to do things with myself and I like to just be like, oh, I can do that myself and not hire a professional. Yeah. So I'm learning and I hired somebody to come do landscaping at my house, just the front. But I at first was going to do it myself and then got very overwhelmed and was like I'll probably spend $1,000 on, plants and then kill them all because what do I know about plants? So I felt like that was very adult of me. Good job.

And I called somebody to do it for me. I was feeling proud of myself. Now I have a PSA. I feel like everybody needs to know this who enjoys going to the movies. And this is my feeling attached. This is disturbed. Have you heard of the movie the drama? Yes.

Have you heard about this movie? Yes. Okay. I didn't know much about this movie. And you just went to see it? I escaped this by the skin of, what is it, the skin of my teeth? Yeah, so you didn't see it.

My friend asked me to go yesterday, and I was bored out of my mind because Patrick had on the Masters for six hours. And so I didn't really want to go see this movie, but I wanted to get out of the house, so I was going to go. But then the drive was too far. They were going in Nashville, and I was in Franklin. She texted me after her, and she said, thank God you didn't go see this movie.

It was the weirdest movie I've ever seen. And it got like rave reviews from a lot. lot of people. So the whole, I'm not going to give anything away at all, but the whole point of the movie is there's this big secret you find out. And that is like the pipeline to the rest of the movie. Well, I think it falls under dark comedy. It is a dark comedy. Yeah. It's very dark. Yeah, very. If I were you and I was going to go see this movie, I would look up what that secret is before I paid $20, $25 to go see this movie. I think what it's about, it's like, a not some, I get that it's dark comedy, but I don't see how it's ever.

It was in the news. So I feel like even before the movie came out, it was a big news story of what the secret is. So, I mean, I talked to, in case someone's wanting to see it, I guess we shouldn't spoil the big secret. But it's a very sensitive topic. Yeah. And I'm saying if you're going to go see it, spoil the secret because you might not want to watch this. My friend was saying like, it was awkward to laugh at. any of the stuff because it's not something that's, it's not funny. And the thing that it's about

is affecting so many people, even if you're not directly affected by it. Like, it's a big issue in our, specifically our country. Yeah. I think that's why it was such a big news story before the movie came out. I cannot believe they made a movie about it. Like, I'm disturbed of this. Well, they were saying she didn't go through with it. It didn't actually happen. Right. But do you know why? Well, no. I don't know that part, but. Okay. It's not like, It's not like she had a change of heart. Okay. So you were disturbed by that?

Yes. And I just wanted to let anybody know because I would be so, one, I think I don't know that I would be able to sit through all of that. But movies are expensive to go see and I just don't want anybody to waste their money. Okay. So there's that. That felt good to get off my chest. And then I love that you're like recommending for people to not go see a movie that you haven't seen.

But some other people enjoyed it. Some people liked it. I think you have to have a very specific type of humor to be able to enjoy that. Yeah. And you need to not have been affected by this specific thing. Okay. Next feeling. Next feeling.

So this is third feeling. I told you have a lot of feelings. I think this feeling is like I feel seen or I feel relief. I feel validated. And this is a little pregnancy update. I'm out of breath talking and that I'm. blaming on pregnancy. In the first trimester of pregnancy, a lot of times, one, you're hiding, you're not telling

people. And so you're trying to, like, dress like you don't look pregnant. And then through the first trimester, you don't necessarily have a, like, a baby bump. Like, you might look bloated. You might have gained weight. But there's not, like, you know, when there's a baby bump, it's like cute and whatever. I think it's a hard season to be in that whole space. it's just body image-wise difficult.

I have been inundated on social media with all of these, and part of this is my fault, all of these videos of like really adorable people dressing their pregnant body through different stages. And I have internally been struggling of like, how are these people doing this? Like they look so cute or they're 15 weeks pregnant and they literally look smaller than I did

before I got pregnant. Like there's a lot of negative thoughts coming up. And through this process, I try to just, you know, use my tools, like I say, talk my way through it. Remind myself like, you're, everybody's body's different. You're creating a life.

Blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. I'm laughing because I'm thinking of I texted you the other day because you love when you use your tools and you love when I use my tools. And I text you the other day and I was annoyed about my self-tanner or something. I'm like, ugh. And I just feel so white.

And then I used my tools and replied back, I was like, and well, I am white. So this is fine. I am white. And then you were like, good for you. Good for you. Yeah. It's nice when we can use our tools. It is what it is.

Like I love my. And you are white. Translucent pale skin. That's me. But sometimes that's like it, sometimes talk like that, like this overly body positive talk feels almost like gas. It kind of, it sometimes felt like I wasn't allowing myself to really like, this sucks. Like my body is changing at a pace.

I have no control over. I don't like it. But it feels like you can't say that because I'm pregnant and I should be grateful. And we should be grateful for our bodies that allow ourselves to be pregnant and blah, blah, blah, blah. So it feels like there wasn't this like in between. I wasn't around anybody or I didn't see anybody who was talking about that. So it was just kind of a conversation I was having with myself or, Patrick or whatever.

And Patrick's response is he's very kind, but he's just like, you're pregnant. And I'm like, I know, but I don't look pregnant. I look. La, la, la, la. And then I feel like God just sent me a little gift because I don't listen to this podcast, but have you heard of the squeeze? Yeah, the Lottner's. Yeah, they're both named Taylor.

Yeah. Which is kind of cute. And that's kind of weird. I guess that could never happen to you because what man is named Amy. Yeah. I was going to say, what would you do? you because there's no men named Catherine. No,

there or not. But yeah, if you have a unisex name. Like, would that turn you off if you were, like, dating somebody the same name as you?

No. Okay. Anyway, I have never, I can't say I've ever listened to one of their episodes, but, and their stuff doesn't really pop up on my page that often,

but a video of her, of Taylor, the girl Taylor, popped up, I guess she's pregnant. And she was like, nobody talks about this. And I was like,

ooh. And she talked about how during her first trimester, she was like, I, she was really sick and she was like, the only thing I could eat is carbs. So obviously, if that's all I'm eating and I can't exercise, I'm gaining a lot of weight. And all I saw around me were, and I'm paraphrasing, she might have said something a little different. All I saw around me were these, like, tiny people that literally didn't gain any weight in their first trimester, and they looked so cute and they loved dressing their pregnant body. And she was like, and I was having the worst time. And I was just, I mean, I think she was talking about like how she was,

having breakdowns about it and how she said, I hated my body. I hated looking at it. I hated feeling it. I hated whatever. And I was so grateful for that because it almost was like seeing somebody else say that. It was like, well, I can feel that too. Like this is for anybody, whether you're pregnant or not going through that. I feel like with body image stuff, we get in this space where we feel like we have to just

be grateful for our health or our pregnant body or the ability to walk or, you know what I mean? You're growing a human. Yeah, versus like, can we be realistic and we can be grateful. Like, I am grateful. I'm pregnant. Obviously, it was a hard journey. Wouldn't trade it. And this part sucks, especially when I'm surrounded by what it looks like, and I know

it's just social media, people that are not having the same experience as me. And it feels like, well, what am I doing wrong? Because my body looks like this and you look adorable. But also, I will say with that, and this is to myself and other. people. I've never, and I think she said something like this too, I've never looked at a pregnant person and been like, ew. And so I'm sure people that are that would see my pregnant body wouldn't be like, oh, what have you been doing? They're probably just like, she's a pregnant person, but we see ourselves so differently. So I feel like I said validated because I feel like I was gaslighting

myself and it was making it worse. And now I can just be like, this part sucks and I can't wait until I have my belly that pops out and then I'll feel better maybe I hope you will it's hard you will it's just hard when you are like you do not have any control over what happens you can do all that's the other thing people are like on TikTok if you eat this is what I eat in a day as a pregnant person blah blah blah blah blah blah and I'm like I feel like I don't eat that differently than that and I'm moving my bodies much as I can and I've been steady climbing the scale I don't know know that because I refuse to weigh myself, but by the feel of my pants, I'm a clarin scale. Yeah. So this is your first pregnancy. So this is uncharted territory for you too. So you're experiencing

something for the first time. I would imagine when navigating something for the second time, you would know more what to expect from your body. Right. This was like everybody's different, obviously. Yeah. And this is coming from somebody who like, I, I specialize in body image work. Like I've done this work professionally and for myself for years. I feel like I have a pretty good grasp on it, but even I'm struggling with some stuff and need to like, go back into my toolbox and need to hear that validation from other people.

So if you're not in that space, then it definitely would be normal for you to struggle with this. Well, I love that you shared that because you got the validation from Taylor. Yeah. And Taylor, like she's our friend. Taylor. And someone listening to you right now, he'd be like, oh, I'm so glad Kat, who is, and this is her job.

Yeah. This is what she does for a living. Helping others through this is also having her experience with it. And it's difficult. Living in this world is tough, like body image-wise. Like living in our society and our culture and our world, it just is tough. It just is. no matter how much work you put in it,

you're climbing, we're climbing an uphill battle. We will be forever because there's as much work as you put into all of that. You have five times that coming from the other side telling you that that work is wrong. So anybody struggling with that? I am too. This isn't directly related to what you're saying, but it does have to do with things being hard or new.

I saw a perspective shift being talked about and just sort of fitting here to say if you're experiencing anything new for the first time and you're finding it hard or difficult. And maybe you're thinking something's too hard to do or you could never do that. A perspective shift could be instead of easy versus hard, familiar versus unfamiliar. This is very unfamiliar for me. Yeah. Yeah. Well, I don't know that it totally applies to like,

being pregnant, but I'm thinking of maybe people wanting to try something new. Because I mean, I think it's fair to say this is hard. Not only is that unfamiliar, but it's hard. But just us talking about things being easy or hard unfamiliar made me think of this perspective shift that I saw that might be helpful for anybody just going through anything. It's like a little brain hack of how you're looking at something. Because then when you see that something's hard, you might not want to do it. But if it's just unfamiliar, it's like, oh, well, I just need to get familiar with that. Like putting together a piece of furniture. This is unfamiliar. I've never done this before. Versus like, this is too hard and complicated. I can't. Yeah. But I am glad you hired a landscaper.

That does seem hard. Unfamiliar. That was both unfamiliar and art. And also, like I said, I would have wasted a lot of money if I tried to do it myself. Gardening is, though, or getting your hands in the soil and, like, digging in the dirt. is very good for the brain. That I am also just reminded of. I don't have the study in front of me, but I read it last week. No, it was something that I came across last week where I was talking something. It was an article about Alzheimer's, and I'll see if what we're talking about it, Shannon

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Yes, sir. Rape a murder for a child. Just as bad as it gets. I would think so. Evil, wake up. I'm the one that saw the murder take place by Crevent and DePippo. Anthony DePippo showed no signs of remorse, appearing unfazed after being sentenced to the maximum.

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The Jonas Brothers here. Our podcast is called Hey Jonas. We're here since everyone has a podcast, we want it to as well. And we've had some incredible guests so far. And now our good friend Nile Horn is joining the show. How's it going, boys? Hey, Niall. It's the same thing with Slow Hands.

Slow Hands is not about anything else, really, is it? You know, or taste so good can't be about food. You do the same, Nick, with some of the stuff that you've done. You too, Joe. Drop what you're doing and listen to Hey Jonas on the Iheart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen to your podcasts. Using your hands and gardening and getting in the dirt is good for the brain. It's neuroscience.

I can't explain it. It's unfamiliar. I wonder why that would be, like, why would the dirt specifically or is it the activity you're doing in the dirt? Okay, well, okay, this is so far what Shannon has pulled up. Multiple studies indicate that digging and dirt and gardening provide significant psychological and cognitive benefits by interacting with specific soil microbes and increasing critical brain growth proteins.

Yeah, I don't know if that's exactly what I saw research from University of Colorado Boulder. Shout out. That's where my niece goes. It shows that this microbe activates serotonin-producing neurons in the brain, functioning as a natural mood stabilizer similar to some antidepressant medications. So dirt has similar qualities as antidepressant. Well, that's sort of what University of Colorado Boulder is saying. But I know that mine was an Alzheimer's-related article.

Well, shoot, maybe I should have done it myself. Okay. I think we maybe now have it. We now have it. A 16-year-long longitudinal. I did not know that word. That word scared me. Do you know that because of your therapy background?

No, but I do know that you like, we've talked about how like we'll skip words if we don't know them and I knew you wanted to skip the word. I don't know that I've ever seen that word in my life. So thank you for help. No. Longitudinal. Longitudinal. It's fun to say. I feel like I would remember saying it.

You learn something new every day. So this is a 16-year longitudinal study of older adults found that daily gardening was associated with a 36% lower risk of dementia. This is it. This is it. Researchers. Researchers, that words are too. Researchers attribute this to the bundle of physical activity, sensory stimulation and mental problem solving required by the activity.

So that's what it was. it had nothing new with a microbe. So I don't know about that study from Colorado, but take from it what you will. This one is what I was talking about. So you get a bundle. It's like a three for, three for one.

What I would like to do actually because I really want to be one of those houses that has a bunch of like pretty like not wildflowers, but wildflower-esque flowers in the front of it, you know, in the springtime. And I think all you do, you just sprinkle. Scatter them about. Yeah, but I want to take like a gardening class because that is such a unfamiliar thing. I don't know anything.

There's so many different types of soil or mulch. Like how do I even know what kind of mulch I want or what soil I'm supposed to put in there or the seasons? And when you put tulips, I know you have to put them in in the fall because I really wanted to plant tulips and they said you can't do that. And what flowers like come back on their own and what do you have to do every year? I would, you know what I want to be like? you know Martha Stewart's documentary? Yeah. And she was just in her garden pruning her flowers.

I want to get to the point where it's calming to me. Same. To go out and just like cut some leaves off the stems of my flowers and prune my garden because I just understand how everything works. Shannon said her best friend could give us a gardening class. She has a business in Nashville teaching people about wildflowers. Shut up. There's a certain flower.

They're like all different colors. What's a flower that you would? plant. A hydrangea? No, that's like a bush, right? But you cut them and they put flowers. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. But a rose bush is a bush. I want the flowers. Like the azaleas. Azaleas? Yeah. Those, I think those are the pretty different colored ones. I want those, like around my mailbox or something. You could do that. Do that. I got to call Shannon's friend. Yeah, she's the prairie stylist on Instagram. Her name is Emily. And like, did I ever think I would get the point in life where like I want to learn how to garden. No, but I want to too. I've

gardened. I've told you I've had a garden before where I had vegetables and I would go out and it was so awesome like cutting. Cut a cucumber off. Cilantro. Romaine. You want romaine? Okay, no problem. I'm going to go out to the garden and that's so cute. It's just, but it sounds hard. Like how do you? It's just unfamiliar. Thank you. Refram. Thank you. Reframe. But it is weird because like I think this is an adult moment where what I meant by like I never thought I would get to this point is like, if you asked me in my 20s if I wanted a garden, I'd be like, I have better things to do. But you also had an adult moment of hiring someone to do the garden. Yeah.

It's not the wires or not. I do think that there's, you could use, yes, there are certain plants and things where I think hiring someone is the strategic, the right move if you can do that. But then like the stuff around your mailboxes, get in, dig in there. Plant the flowers. Plant the seeds. Let them go up. But you don't need.

You can handle that. I'll hire somebody to landscape. I want to have a garden. Yeah. Perfect. So we'll get there. Longitudinal. Longitudinal.

Now it's feeling weird. Longitudinal. That's right, I think. That's how I would say it. Yeah. I mean, you saw that word right away and you just knew. See, this is where my dyslexia. I also have taken research classes before.

So it's, you know what I mean? Yeah. So you have seen that word before. It makes you feel better. I knew that word. But in my research class, I do believe I got the worst grade out of the class. That's so weird because you always want to be the best grade. Not in grad school. In grad school, I realized I'm out of my league and I can only do the best I can. And I'm never going to, I had no plans of ever getting a PhD. So that research class was of no use to me. So I don't think I. And it was, that's one of those things. And this is just how different brains work. I could sit in a developmental psychology class and be so tuned in and understand what people are talking about. The research class, I even went to office hours multiple times. It could not make any less sense in my brain when I was doing.

So when I was turning in an assignment, I was like, I could get a zero or a 100. I have no idea. Like my brain just did not work there. But doesn't mean I'm stupid. No. I'm not gifted in that area. Yeah. See?

Tools. Here we are. I got a newsletter from Mike Foster. I guess at one point I signed up for his nobs letter, which is primal questions. What? I feel like you get a lot of newsletters. And you read them. Do I?

I feel like you have Lisa's newsletter. Mm-hmm. I feel like there's another newsletter you've talked about before. I don't know who it is. Well, ours. I get the feeling thing. Oh, yeah. Moshe's is a news letter.

It's a, it's the literal news. It's different. It's like newspaper, but to your email. So that's receiving his newsletter, but with the top news stories of the day. You've talked about another person's and maybe it wasn't, maybe you don't get it ever, maybe somebody sent it to you. Oh, I know. Our friend.

Where's my brain right now? Our friend. Yes. We're going to go on a walk with her. Katie Gustavis. Yes. I saw her this weekend. You did?

Yeah. I love her. I love her newsletters. You're right. I do read her newsletters too. You give them all the newsletters. Yeah. Okay.

So what's the name of our newsletter again? I mean, I know it's feeling things, but we gave it a name. I think it's just the Feeling Things newsletter. Oh, no, we gave it a name or a tagline or something. No? No, nothing. Have the day you need to have. Okay.

Well, just kidding. So Mike's is called the primal question newsletter and he caught my attention. I don't know that I always, always read his, but he caught my attention because he was talking about the Manosphere. And I have yet to watch that Netflix documentary inside the Manosphere. And I want to, but he wrote all about it. And then I was like, okay, I definitely need to carve out time to watch this. So if you haven't seen it, the Manosphere is basically a corner of the internet where male

influencers create content about what it means to be, quote, a real man. On the surface, it looks like guys talking about fitness, making money. But the further you go in, the darker it gets, which I think you've started the documentary, but you haven't finished it. Well, you know my thing is to watch 30 minutes of everything. I think I didn't finish it because I was like, this is making me angry. But it is fascinating. I mean, it's gross and it's really sad because they prey upon like Gen Z, Gen Alpha, like, young boys to try to like brainwash them.

And it's, they're bad people. Like, they're not like living good high lives. And a lot of it is a facade. Like they'll act one way to on the internet. And then different things are happening behind the scenes. Well, Mike's big takeaway wasn't just about how toxic the content is. It was about why young men are drawn to it in the first place. And his point was that these are valuable young men without solid male role models

who are just looking for a yes to the question, am I wanted? Am I good enough? Which those are a couple of the primal questions. And these influencers are answering that question in the most unhealthy. ways possible. He also made a really important point about being discerning about who you allow to influence your life. And he gave us three questions that we can ask ourselves when you are trying to figure out who's getting your time. Like what are you watching? What are you following? First question, ask yourself, is this person self-aware? Second, who are they actually serving? And third,

how is their message hitting your own insecurities? Now, I feel like as an adult, I can maybe answer those, but I think about young kids. I don't know that they're going to be able to answer that. But he did end with this. True masculinity is measuring strength by who you lift up,

not by who you can push around. Yeah. And I thought that that was really powerful because the manosphere, they seem to be wanting to push around. And it's a lot about like them gaining notoriety and followers not actually like living what they're preaching. I will say I love these three questions.

Is this person self-aware is such a hard question to answer sometimes? Specifically even for yourself and myself where most of the, if you hear somebody who is like 100% confident that they're self-aware all the time, they're not. Like if you're self-aware, it means that there are things that you cannot know about yourself and that you just cannot know and that you will have you have blind spots so if anybody's trying to figure that out with other people or if you hear somebody that constantly is talking about how self-aware they are they're probably not i am self-aware i think to your point now i'm like but i really feel like i'm self-aware with my hormones i really do what do mean like like now

When I'm not acting, like when I'm acting a little S-I-B, I think I have that self-awareness. And I'm not saying it's 100% of the time, but I will have an internal dialogue happening of like, why am I, am I sounding? Am I, my SIB right now? Like, ooh, that was a little harsh. Or like, am I about to start my period? Or I think, and then sometimes I'll take it outside my brain and say, I think I'm about to start my period.

And I'll disclose. So it sort of hopefully lightens however I'm acting because I know I'm not coming across exactly how I want to. But I have that awareness. Do you think I do? I think even asking that question brings about self-awareness. Like the fact that you can say like I think this, I want to check in. Like do you see that means that there's some self-awareness there? Like it is the guys in this show from what the last.

little that I saw, they're not looking for feedback from anybody. And if you give them feedback that does not align with what they want to hear, you're going to get kicked out of their life. And there's no self-awareness in that. If we're self-aware, we need to be open to feedback and open to like the things that we do wrong, which I feel like you try to do and I try to do. It's still hard. Nobody likes to hear. I think it depends. Feedback can be difficult. And I also like feedback. You do. I think you like feedback more than most people. I was working a red carpet thing with a team that I had never worked with before. And I didn't know if I would ever get to work with them before I was filling in for somebody.

And of course, I wanted to do a good job. And the producers are there with me and we have different, you know, celebrities coming up and we're doing interviews in the middle of it. I was like, the head producer came up and gave me, I wish I could remember exactly. exactly what it was, but she sort of gave me an out with each person that would be really helpful for how they were editing the videos. And I was like, oh, that's genius. I love that. And I said, that's so great. Like, please tell me more. Like, I want to know more because that's going to be a game changer for how I closed out each little interview. And I want feedback. And a couple hours go by and we're walking out. And the other producers, as we were leaving for the evening,

they were just walking me out. They weren't done for the night, but I was. So they were nice enough to walk me out and they were like, hey, thanks for being open to feedback. We're not used to hearing, like, hearing that from talent. I know what I'm doing. Yeah. And that's what we're called as like the interviewer or in my job. What I do. I don't call myself talent. That's what they call us. They're the producers. We're the talent. And they're like, we're not used to hearing that from talent a lot. And I was like, oh, that didn't occur to me. I want to know if I can do something better. Because why wouldn't I want to know? They gave me a better way to do something. And then it makes their job easier and then everybody's better all around. But you also have to be open to feedback, you have to

have a certain amount of like ego strength. A lot of people don't have that. And if they get feedback, it kind of like hits on that I'm not good enough versus you're like, I am good at my job. I also know that this is a new thing for me and feedback is great. So I think you have that confidence that allows you to take feedback. Yeah. But confidence. it doesn't mean I know exactly what I'm doing. Okay. Okay. Because my self-awareness right now telling me that I don't know that I'm necessarily the most

confident person at all. However, I do think, I do think, okay, okay, maybe I feel a little great on stage with the microphone. But I do, that's when my cup feels full. Yeah. I think I get excited by that. I'm not like, oh, I'm the best at this at all whatsoever, but I enjoy it. And so therefore it makes it.

like a good experience for me. I do think the delivery of feedback is important because the way the head producer came over and told me she was so supportive and like encouraged me and then gave it to me and it overall was working with a good team. I do think that sometimes people are delivering criticism in a way that's that can jolt me because I'm sensitive to oh shoot and now I'm not doing a good job. So then it could go the opposite and then my performance goes downhill. But she did it in a way that still was constructive and lifted me up to where it only elevated me more to where I went upwards. But I am the type of performer where if I suddenly feel like I'm in trouble

with something or I've done something terribly wrong. Like, it could go downhill fast because my confidence goes like second guess yourself on everything versus that person said it in a helpful kind way. So this person is helping me trying to be better versus putting me down. So I think it's just a good reminder in our delivery of feedback, whether it's at work or wherever we are, just in how we approach it, making sure we're doing it in, which we've gotten constructive feedback from our listeners. And then we've gotten some non-constructive feedback. Someone just criticizing us. And it hits different.

I think we're like, oh, cool, that's a thoughtful take. I hadn't thought of it that way versus hey, hater. Yeah, when it's really bad, it's like, well, we're not. I'm not taking that personally, but it's like when it's in the middle where it's like, maybe if it's from somebody we respect or is where we know, it's different than from a stranger. I don't know. I was having this thought as you were talking, though. You know, there's always, we think about like, oh, they should teach us how to do taxes in high school and all this stuff.

Like there should be like, and maybe they do this in some classes. I know I took like a communication class, but I don't feel like we did this. where you practice giving and receiving feedback and like process what it's like because i feel like a lot of people don't mean to be bad at giving feedback or hurtful but they don't know how to do it like that's a skill in itself i'm sure i've delivered it not well again depending on my mood or my hormones and what i have going on you know like you may not it may not come out the way that you wanted and they're like oh and sometimes I feel I never want to hurt like not not it within like clients well I don't want to hurt their feelings either but like within friendships or

work relationships I never want to hurt somebody's feelings so I think sometimes I can be too soft with feedback and then I don't do my due diligence versus like I wish I was taught how to give constructive good. I feel like I'm getting better at it, but I wouldn't say I'm good at it. I want to be able to give feedback to people and also do it in that kind of way where I'm not like tiptoeing around them. You know what I mean? Yeah. I didn't know this existed and so that's also why I was like jarred to start watching it. It's millions of followers. And I, it's not my corner of the internet. So I was like, what in the world? And it made me also think what else is out there that I have no idea about that is this messed up? A lot. I think.

there's a lot it's so fractured now so thankfully instead of like I feel like back in the day if there wasn't well first of all these people may not even have a corner of the internet so then there's that part they may not exist or the manosphere obviously wouldn't but because it's so fractured and there's so many other things luckily if it ever gained traction it doesn't have as many followers as it might because people have so many different things to focus on yeah but they are honing in on the young men So if you're a mom of a young boy, like, just make sure he's not consuming the manosphere content, I guess, unless you're into that. No, if you have a mom of a young boy, watch it first. I haven't finished it, so I can't, shouldn't really say this.

It might be something good for a teenage boy to watch and be like, this isn't what we want to do because look at who these guys really are. Oh, yeah, like they can watch the Netflix stuff. I'm saying like make sure on their YouTube are they consuming because the more they watch the videos, the more normal it's going to feel and seem. and then their minds are so moldable, like they start to develop those thoughts early and then it can be very difficult to break and how they view women and I don't know. I still need to watch the Netflix.

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Listen to Joy 101 with Hoda Kotby on the IHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. All right, listen up. The Jonas Brothers here. Our podcast is called Hey Jonas. We've here since everyone has a podcast, we want it to as well. And we've had some incredible guests. so far. And now our good friend Nile Horn is joining the show. How's it going boys? Hey, Niall. It's the same thing with Slow Hands. Slow Hands is not about anything else, really, is it?

You know, or taste so good can be about food. You do the same, Nick, with some of the stuff that you've done. You too, Joe. Drop what you're doing and listen to Hey Jonas on the Iheart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen to your podcasts. Would you go back and live 2000s with that era of technology? Or would you be like, well, I'll take something in the middle, 2010. Oh, 2010 was pretty nice. Because like we had Twitter. It'd be 150 characters or less.

And was Instagram around it? Not yet. I don't think. Maybe it was 10. It was early stages. 2011, 2012 was when I first formed an account and I wasn't right away. But we were pretty on top of it. I did enjoy Twitter a lot.

I don't ever get on there anymore now that it's X. Like I don't. It seems dark over there. But it was good time. And you would just tweet like going to the grocery store, make it some eggs. Right. Or something funny. But you had to make it to the point.

You're like, I wouldn't say that. I don't know. I didn't really tweet much. If you didn't have Twitter, it wasn't like, you might say something like that, but it was more so, gosh, I wonder if we should pull up some of my old tweets. What if I was like, hey guys, going to the grocery store, getting some bread? I feel like people tweeted what they were doing, but you only had like, what, 140 characters? 150. 150, which is like not a lot.

Okay, so I joined Twitter in February of 2009. Oh, one of my big posts was from 2017, and I said, let's do this. And I put an American flag, and it's Ben and I bringing in the kids home from Haiti. Aw, well, that's wholesome. So that seems like an Instagram-ish type post. You could put pictures on Twitter back then. That's interesting. Oh, that was 2016, you said?

When was that? Okay. So that was 2017. But in 2016, I did say, we're parents, all caps. We got the call. Haiti, here we come, leaving tomorrow for our two-week bonding trip. So that's right after we got matched with the kids. So clearly I tweeted about the kids a lot.

More kids? Let me try to find you something from the early days. It gave me something funny. You said you tweeted funny things. I know, I did. More kids. Oh, my gosh. Oh my gosh, more kids.

And then when you had Instagram and Twitter, how did you decide what to put on what? I mean, you just did both. I think we even had them connected to where it would like post both. Oh, here we are on Family Feud. How do I go? I need to go back to like the very beginning. Like Radio Amy, Twitter. Nobody cares about this.

Why am I even looking at up? 2009. I joined February 2009. So why is it not? You might have to just go back. back really far. Yeah. This would be a good segment.

This would be a good segment for us to do next week. We'll find some of your most embarrassing tweets. No, my funny ones. Your funniest tweets. There is a thing that people do now on like bachelette trips and stuff where they go. My friend just texted me about this. She was like, dang, I wish you were coming on my bachelette trip because I just went back to like 2008 at our Facebook posts.

And the game is you put like, somebody goes and looks up Facebook posts from all these people from whatever. and then you put them up on like a screen and you have to guess like who it was that said it. Like that's funny. And also that would be mortifying because what was I saying? Yeah, who knows? Because I have 18,000 posts on Twitter. I was going.

I was tweeting all the time. I did post this. What do the Greek use to cut their pizzas? What do the Greek? Uh-huh. What do the Greek use to cut their pizzas? Little Caesars. nothing's changed

I feel like that's something you would say now yeah so no grocery store tweets so far I have I mean I but also when you're a public figure so you're not telling people where you're going well I wouldn't say which grocery store

you think if I say I'm going the store to get some eggs that's giving away where people might be running to every grocery store around town anyway Sorry, lameo. How did we get there? Don't know. Oh, what part of technology would you want to be in?

Oh, okay. Yeah, that's an interesting question. I should have stuck with that. You said 2010. I think I would want to be, I want the internet because I like Google. Yeah, I like having a cell phone because when I had a pager and I had to go to the payphone, that was rough. But you didn't know what was rough because that probably was like at least I have a pager back then. Once I got a cell phone, I know it's rough.

Like when I was little and my mom dropped me off of the movie She gave me a quarter and after the movie I called her from the pay phone And I had to wait and have her come pick me up Right That seems archaic now But back then it was just very normal So I wish I could go back

And never know about what we've had Because then that would be I'm like oh we're so with it We have pay phones that's cool You know what I mean? Yeah I think I would want to be like two Like I remember when I was learning about the internet

In like fifth grade Like I want to go back to that And like with you did a research paper in school, you went to the library and you checked books out. You didn't use chat GPT. We definitely didn't use that, but we didn't like have like a database on a computer. Like now the library is on the computer. You can search those things anywhere. And like, I don't know.

I think I would, I miss more technology, more problems is what they say. That's what your motto. It's what you live by. Anyway. More tech, more probs. Yeah. Well, we were talking about hormones and my self-awareness with that. So I do want to bring up a voicemail that we got about hormone replacement therapy.

This is from Mindy in Kansas. And she's sharing her own personal positive experience with it because I've just started my hormone journey or my latest hormone journey where I'm really dialing in. and I get my second iron infusion this week. And I will say I had no idea how the iron infusion last week was going to knock me down. I was so fatigued. So heads up, I mean, they do kind of warn you of that. But then you're like, yeah, yeah, yeah. They even say potential flu-like symptoms.

I did not have those, but I did have fatigue. I was very, very, very tired. And so I have my appointment in a couple of days. So I'm gearing up for the tiredness. But now it's not as unfamiliar. I know what to expect and I just have to deal with it. Like it's not going to be fun, but I'm going to deal with it and I'm going to know that hopefully two weeks on the other side of that. Because that's when I told you to really start judging me is two weeks after my last iron infusion.

So two weeks from this week, you can see if I'm different. And you can be honest. I want the feedback. Okay. I do. And I think you can take it. But really, if I don't change. I'm going to be heartbroken.

Because I felt like I'm changing, but the iron has set me back. Well, again, I think that you're getting the symptoms that are supposed to come with that. So that is that. I love my yam pellet. Because after the yam pellet, you were on cloud nine. I was. I'm feeling good, which that's Mindy speaks to her testosterone experience and how it was a game changer for her. So we'll go ahead and play Mindy's voicemail.

Here it is. Hey, girls. It's Mindy from Kansas. I just thought I would holler. I love your podcast. armpit, so funny. I work in an office, and towards the end of the day, I will squat down at my desk where nobody can see me and put on deodorant. I have a dance studio, and you never know what you're going to see there. So my girls are always showing everything and putting on deodorant, and I would rather that than smell them or lose them going to the bathroom.

Also, I had a boyfriend once, and he was the kindest about the breakup situation. I think he was missing an ex. this is not the case for you, Amy, but he was so kind. He was like, I just want you to know this is nothing to do with you. This is everything to do with me. I don't know why I feel this way. Like, you're wonderful. I mean, gave me all the reasons. Like, still at the end of the day, right, it sucks. And I still respect him for it. I see him a couple times a year. We live decently close, have kids kind of the same age, and both are very happily married with a family. And anyways, It's just, yes, so nice to know that people can be grownups and not complete assholes. And then the other thing, I had just maybe turned 40 and I was like, why do I feel 85?

Like, nobody can tell me I don't have energy. I feel like this because I'm 40. Like, I'm not listening. I'm sorry. And so anyways, I ended up having to go several different places and hormone replacement therapy is where I went. And I'm also on testosterone, and it has been so live-changing. She gave me the option of injection once a week by myself, like a bucle in my cheek. It absorbs.

And I went with the injection. I thought if I don't like it, it's a waste of $150 and I'll choose something else, whatever. But really, it is not a big deal at all. And I inject myself once a week. It is pretty fabulous. swear I was sitting there and I have never in my life than the girl that's like, oh, we should go to bed now. I am really in the mood.

And I swear to you, I was sitting there and I was like, oh, my gosh, I could take my husband to bed right now. And it's not that I'm crazy, feisty for any stretch of imagination. but it is so nice to have the energy to, you know, be in the mood, to just feel like, I feel like I should have felt probably for the last 20. And so anyways, I'm guessing, yeah, I was also at like a 10 with hormone replacement therapy. You do get a little bit, it is a little bit higher of a range. And she is totally fine with the way that is because I am happy with the way I am functioning.

I'm able to work out, able to put in 14-hour days, and just, I mean, still at the end of the day, I'm tired, but not like I was. I don't even know how it was functioning. So anyways, hope you girls. Oh, and Kat, first of all, I'm so sorry. Congratulations. I'm so happy for you. I just love listening to all of the updates for sure.

Don't feel like you're bogging anybody down by them. Have the day you need to have. Bye. You gave a pregnancy update, so yay, earlier. So I'm sure Mindy's happy for that. And that was a very cute way to end it. And, you know, she talked about her testosterone being a little bit higher than where she would want it, but that's fine because she's feeling good. Yeah, you have to just pay attention to your own body and how you're feeling.

I will say a side effect I think I'm having from my testosterone right now is my chest is sort of breaking out. I have to go back for blood work in a couple of weeks. So I'll know more of where my levels are. But apparently online, it said this will subside. It's something that just started to pop up. And, you know, I took care of my chest rash when I got really. rid of fabric softeners and, uh, so it's a rash. Dryer sheets. It's, well, I'm calling it a rash. No, they're bumps. Like you pop them? Like a pimple? No, but like cyst like you can't pop them,

but they're big bumps and they, and that's what I was getting from my scented soaps and my dryer sheets. So my chest is sensitive, but I think what's happening to it now, because I had cleared it up, it's got to be the testosterone. And I just have to power through. My body, is unfamiliar. And so it's going to normalize. That's the word. Do you learn that in your research class? Research class. Normalize. I think that's a very normal word. Longitudinal. I liked this voice mom because I feel like she covered so much ground. She did, which I mainly wanted to share it because of the hormone stuff, but I didn't, I forgot how long it took her to get there. So I should have set it up differently of like, oh yeah, she's going to touch on how I don't like

when I see people, or I'm perplexed by people putting on their deodorant on video. Yeah. Because that just freaks me out. I would never. And then the breakup, I guess she's referring to my breakup was really healthy. Well, we talked about how, too, I had that one boyfriend that was very nice. Oh, yeah. You know, that I also have to say I love how she said.

I wanted to take my husband to bed. It felt like such like, I don't know, like an old, olden day. I don't, like, um, not old fashioned. Is that what they used to say? Like, I want to take you to bed. And, like, why don't we say that more now? She just said it. Because we got to be on more testosterone, I guess.

Now I think it's more, like, raunchy. And, like, that's just like, oh, okay. Sweet. Yeah, it's sweet. So sweet. Yes. Mindy from Kansas, who is not 85, but 40-ish. When you're around those.

Around it there. Because you know, age, location, name. Got it. with us. We're building data on you. Just kidding. We just want to know. It's just fun. Wait, did you know you're not going to care about this, but now I'm going to share it? Do you remember when Pokemon Go was a thing? Yeah. Did you ever do it? No. Did your kids? No. Okay. I didn't either. But turns out they actually are using all of that data for AI. The Pokemon Go data? Like all of like the geographical stuff. I don't really understand it.

But there's like a debate of like, was it ever really for Pokemon Go or is it a ploy to get people to then get all this data for AI? Maybe. Crazy. Maybe. So you got to be careful what games you're playing. What you play online. What you watch. Well, that's not even online.

That's like in the world. Pokemon Go. I'm pretty sure people would like, you have to travel around to play. Yeah. I never was into it. So I vaguely remember, yeah, people going places. It really surprises me. You never played that.

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