The Bobby Bones Show - FEELING THINGS - Your Worst Day Might Be a Setup for Something Good (Couch Talks)

Episode Date: August 23, 2026

A listener had a mortifying public moment...and somehow ended up on a date because of it. You'll have to hear the full story to believe it. It’s so crazy and we’d feel so embarrassed, but also grateful?? Haha.  We hear from a caller who confesses she pre-cleans her house before the cleaners arrive, and yes, you are not alone if you do this too. A listener encourages Amy to cut her hair, plus we answer a question that was asked by many: what is a drink dropper?!  We also get into a tricky question from a listener who works as an overnight cleaner: she found something disturbing left behind by a group of teens at a school she cleans, and now feels strangely embarrassed to even report it to her male supervisor. We try to unpack where that shame is coming from. Get some Feeling Things merch by clicking HERE! (FeelingThingsPodcast.com) Sign up for the Feeling Things newsletter HERE! Watch us on Youtube HERE! Find us on TikTok: @radioamy Call and leave a voicemail: 877-207-2077 Email: [e-mail] HOSTS: Amy Brown // RadioAmy.com // @RadioAmy Kat Van Buren // threecordstherapy.com // @KatVanburenSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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If you ever have feelings that you just want some, maybe and cat got you covered like a norm, going in the spirit where I tell them to chill stuff and the in between. Sometimes the best thing you can do is just out. Hey, and feel things. This is Feeling Things with Amy and Kat. Happy Thursday. Welcome to Couch Talks, our Q&A episode to the Feeling Things podcast.

I'm Amy. And I'm Kat. And we got multiple emails and DMs from people asking us what a drink dropper is. Like Aaron emailed us. Okay, ladies, am I the only one that does not? know what a drink dropper is well Aaron you're not alone because we also got an email from Heidi hey you all make me one a drink dropper even though I don't know what it is please share and then Shannon and the DMs what is a drink dropper did we how did we not explain it and we

just I well I don't know I thought we did don't even ask me why we were talking about the drink dropper I know it's a cute find I had on Amazon why because we were talking about you rearranging your furniture and how things match and don't match. And you're like, and like my, my drink dropper. Did you notice my living room's back to what the way it was? It is. I put it, I moved everything back because I'm like, I can't take it anymore until I figure out exactly what I'm going to do. I didn't want to just in disarray like it felt. But a drink dropper is a teeny tiny side table that fits a drink that you can just drop on there. Like you drop your drink down. So, Maybe two, possibly three drinks get fit on there, but that's going to be a tight squeeze.

I feel like they have them at like cocktail bars and lounges too. Like little table. By the side table. Yes. Instead of like a full table in between chairs or something, they'll just put a little drink dropper to hold your drink. Yes. So I never knew what it was until, I mean, I got the same one as you after you already had it. And then have we ever linked the drink dropper in the newsletter?

Well, we'll do it again. We'll do it again. Yeah. We'll do it again so that way y'all can see the cute wooden one that Kat and I both got. It is adorable. It might be one of my favorite pieces in my living room. And I have a lot of unique pieces that I found at random cool places. And this is from Amazon.

You have like, I want to say vintagey, antiquey. I'll call it eclectic. Yes. That's it saying a lot. Eclectic is the word. But that's why for me, it feels weird that one of my favorite pieces is for Amazon, which is fine. And then I obviously have some Wayfair stuff mixed in, too, that looks a little more eclectic or vintagey. Yeah.

I don't know how to describe it. But there you go. Anybody else that has been curious about what a drink dropper is, that is it. Yeah. I have a question that doesn't come up. Okay. I don't remember why, but somebody brought up a man named Jeremy Piven this past week to me. And the only reason I know who he is is because I do know, I don't know if we talked about this on here.

I don't know if we talked about it here. We talked about it on the Bobby Pohn show. Just making sure you're okay with me saying this. But I do know he messaged you. Yes. And so when somebody said something, I was like, oh, he messaged Amy. Okay. However, I'm, I'm, I don't know what happened. It was like a story that I was like, I have no story to tell because I don't know what happened. Yeah, it's sort of, I just left it hanging. Like, yeah, I interviewed him on a red carpet and then he sent me a DM and then I got a little freaked out and I didn't know what to do. So I, he said one, two, and I replied three, four. Wait, that's what he messaged you? Yeah, because I guess because I work in radio. Was he was like, is the mic on? Like, check. Check one, two. I had just interviewed him on the red carpet and I had a microphone.

Okay. So maybe that's why he said, check one, two. And so then I thought, well, I'm going to reply three, four. And then after that, I didn't reply again. He sent another that said, good to see you, good seeing you. Okay. And then he sent a flyer to his comedy show and he put road trip. And I didn't reply to that.

Where was the? In Texas somewhere. I think because I interviewed him in Austin. So I think he thought I was, I lived there. But I flew out that night. So I didn't even, I wasn't even in Texas by the time I got the flyer. And then, anyway, again, I. You didn't respond.

I did not respond because I was, I didn't know what to do. And he put anyway, coffee next week so that I didn't respond to that. And that was back in March. And I also got curious. So I just pulled up that he sent me something in May. And it says, have a brilliant summer. But that's it. I don't know what that is about.

Wait, the last thing he sent was March. And he said, invited you to the, he asked you to coffee. Yeah. You did not answer. No. Did you have any interest in going to coffee? Or? Well, I didn't, coffee where?

I don't know where he thinks I live. Well, you could share that with him. Like, sure. I could reply. But then I thought, well, this is getting awkward. And then we talked about it on the Bobby Bone show. And then he replied, I think Lunchbox brought up that he was coming to Nashville to do a comedy show. And Lunchbox wanted to bring him on the show and make it real awkward between Jeremy and I.

And Jeremy replied to the Bobby Bone Show DMs saying, just say when. Like he would come. So I don't know. So then in May, he said, have a brilliant summer. Out of nowhere. What time? What's a timestamp on that? 8.22 a.m.

What? But what time. That's my timestamp. So what time was he in? Maybe he's in Europe or something. Mm-hmm. And maybe he was just up listening to the Bobby Bone Show. I don't know.

Okay. So I didn't reply to that. But I didn't see that until just recently. So I don't, I didn't even know he sent. I had no reason to go look at his. Because we weren't communicating. And I think I Googled him and I read some articles. And I don't know if they're true or not, allegedly.

And I'm not trying to. to say anything else being that I don't know all the details around it, but I think it spooked me enough to where I was like, I don't know if I should communicate with him. Because like if these are true, like I don't want to be a part of that. I have a personal question. Okay. Another question that doesn't come up. Yeah.

But do you find him attractive? I don't know if he's cute. Okay. He's funny. Okay. So that's what's attractive. And did you watch entourage? So he's 60.

No way. Yeah, he is. He does not look 60. I agree. I watched Entourage not religiously and all the way through, like when it was out. I watched it after the fact and I just dabbled. Okay. So I definitely know.

You're like a huge fan or anything. No. Yeah. He's 60? Yeah. I need to go back and look at him because when I saw him, I would have thought he's your age. No. Wow.

I'm pretty sure when I Googled it, it said he was 60. then I read the articles about him. And then he is, he might be my high or shorter. He's not tall. He's not tall. He's short king. He doesn't he give tall vibes. Yeah, when they're like, they say short king when they're good people.

So if you think he's a good. Well, I don't know. Okay. I don't know him. Okay. So if you were, if you were ever interested, we do know you could go back and message him. I could. I think he would.

respond to you. He wanted you to have a brilliant summer. He probably would be interested in knowing if you did and how your summer went. I mean, I'm also sure he hasn't even thought about me. That's kind of funny though. But also I haven't replied to any of the other messages. So I thought, is there any passive aggressiveness here with this? Or is it just genuine? Like, oh, have a, cheeky. Have a brilliant summer. Two months later out of nowhere. But this is what I say to everybody. They always come back around. Guys always come. come back around. So he probably sends that DM to a lot of girls that he's been DMing. He probably did. But like, I have gone on dates with guys that I think I talked about this on a recent episode.

The guy that I paid for, when he went to the bathroom, I paid for his our meal so I could get out of there as fast as possible. Your 35 minute date, yeah. No, that was not that one. The one before that. I told those stories at the same time, though. It was not a great date. This guy enjoyed himself though he messaged me every three months then every six months then like once a year for probably three years i never responded to any of them he just kept checking in how are you doing shooting a shot shooting his shot so they always come back around i wouldn't be surprised if he messaged you again okay well we'll see if maybe i message him out of nowhere one day i'd be like so i just evaluated my summer it's so and it was pretty pretty much

be brilliant um turns out some school starts next week for my oh my gosh this week school starts this week oh my gosh yeah that's crazy and i just i didn't realize that because my son's with his dad so it's like oh i didn't oh okay first week of school i didn't miss anything his dad's got it covered uh i know we got an email about my hair or maybe this was a DM or just hair in general because I was talking about wanting to chop it off and I did get a haircut and I went darker but I was before my haircut I was talking about it and someone sent us the most interesting haircut suggestion so here it is and maybe somebody can interpret this for us I think there's going to be a lot of interpreting this episode

with some notes that we got before we get into some emails and a voicemail Hi, I'm a little behind, but listening to the podcast about millennials. I'm on the one where Amy wants to cut her hair off. I'm a big fan of short hair. I live in Florida. It's hot 95% of the year. And my autistic son uses me as a jungle gym. And then she put a bunch of laughing emojis and said, emojis are totally millennial.

Are they? I think the crying, laughing one is Gen Z does the dead, the skull. Skull face? Okay. Yeah. Amy, you could totally do short. hair on the bottom half of your hair and then keep the top half long. Then you could pull half up on a cute updo and have the short hair and then wear your hair down when you want it

long, just a thought. I can't. All that I think about is when I played softball in junior high and some girls would shave the underneath of their head. So if they put it up in a ponytail, it looked like they had a shaved head. But when they let their hair down, you couldn't tell that it was shaved at all. They had long hair. Is that what's happening here? But I think she's asking you to have a bob underneath and then long, like that but not shaved, just a bob underneath and then longer hair on top. I also don't know if she's kidding. I don't, I don't, I don't think she's kidding. She would have done the laughy face emoji again. Like he he ha ha. I guess I'm just, I don't, is this a look where you keep underneath short and then I don't mean shaved but I don't think it's I don't know that it's a look

but I think she's trying to find creative solutions for you because we know that you like creative solutions okay and that would be a creative solution because I was worried when you said you were going to go get your hair down I was like she's going to do it which again I love you with short hair I think you look so cute the problem is you always regret it I don't regret it I just I liked it at first I don't I wouldn't use the word regret just to clarify regret would mean oh why did i do that so bad i think i get months go by and i'm like okay i'm ready for long hair again and then i'm like oh the process of going from short to long is just that it's a process but i would when i cut chopped my hair off i didn't regret it it's just i missed your it's eat

like to go from long to short ain't nothing just chop chop going from short to long patience so The thing is I like change, just like changing up my living room. It's move some things around. I'm ready to move some stuff around. Like I got a little trim and now I already want to cut more. And I think I'm going to because the trim that I got, it's doing nothing for me. I either want it long. And now it's sort of medium.

Yeah. It's mid and mid is mid. It's like, you did. When you got your haircut, you were like, you're not even going to recognize me. I was like, I'm a whole new woman. And then when I saw you, I was like, you're saying nothing about my hair. You were like, what's different? I go, are you kidding me?

It's darker and shorter? I was like, oh, yeah, it's totally different. It is, once you said something, I was like, okay, I do realize that it's darker and it is a little shorter. But you made it sound like you went my color. I mean, my roots are. I got my roots done. Can you see? Whatever.

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book your first trip. I hope you listen to Solita on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. We do have a voicemail that we got about cleaning, and we got this voicemail a while ago, but I forgot to ever play it. But we got an email from a person that signed the email. They're a cleaning person, and they signed it. Confused cleaner. I guess she didn't say her name, probably because she's embarrassed. But she did give her age. She's 56. She lives in Las Vegas.

She's a woman. She put female listener age 56, Las Vegas. And maybe she didn't want to say her name because of her embarrassment. But she signed it confused cleaner. And I was like, oh my gosh, we have a voicemail about cleaning. And this, I love this voicemail because it affirmed my behavior, which is that I clean before my cleaners come. Like I like to pre-clean, a pre-game.

Here's the note. Hi, Amy. My name is Ashley from Boston, Massachusetts. I was recently listening to an episode, but you were talking about pre-cleaning for the cleaners. And I just wanted to call and let you know that you are not alone. I too just got finished pre-cleaning for my cleaners. It's something I've always done. haven't had cleaners for that long, but I always feel strange about them coming into a very messy

house. I have two young kids, so it's always very messy. So I always clean before they come. And basically, my house looks spotless when I get here, and then I don't know why I even have them. So anyway, just thought I'd let you know that you are not alone. Again, I am Ashley and I am 41 years old. Thanks. Bye. So there you have it. Whatever weird disorder I have, Ashley has it too. Normal to pick up your stuff so the cleaners can clean and they can vacuum around your stuff. But are you, like, vacuuming before they come? Yeah, I will. Yeah.

I tried the other day not to. And it was just bugging me because it was cat hair. And I thought, oh, my gosh, the cleaners are coming tomorrow. Just let the cat hair be. No, I had to go suck it right up. Suck it right up. Suck it right up. And I could have, I'll try to practice letting it be.

more because I'm sure the more I do that, the easier it would get. But am I scrubbing down my shower? No. Okay. But my bathroom's picked out. Like I'm not, I get, they're not here to pick up after me. So absolutely picking up before cleaners come. That makes sense. That's just being thoughtful. But also, do I want to rob her at the opportunity to do her job? Yeah. No. Think about how satisfying it is to come into a house that's like not clean and to like clean it. and like they don't get that satisfaction at your house. We do have the same person and she gets that satisfaction in my house. She's probably like, okay, I see how different.

And I have no kids and you have two kids, so I have no excuse. All right. Now we have the very bizarre email from Confused Cleaner. Okay. And Kat, I know we both have read this multiple times because we're like, are we reading this right? And you've got questions. So Confused Cleaner.

or if you're listening, Kat will ask some questions that maybe you can fill us in on and then maybe we can further guide you. But I don't really know that there needs to be a follow-up on this, but we'll see. I don't know if the questions you ask may help her sort it out. Oh. Not like, you know, and then she can update us. But, okay. And the content of this, I'm sorry, it does involve bodily fluids.

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you get your podcasts. The content of this, I'm sorry, it does involve bodily fluids. Hi, Amy and Kat. I need help understanding why I'm too embarrassed to report an incident at work when I didn't do the bad thing. I work as an overnight cleaner, a clean offices, and a small school. At the school, we had a large group of high school kids using the building for a week. It was a lot of work, but worth the effort to support the specific group learning program.

At the end of the week, I was doing my last clean, and I found bodily fluids. In parentheses, she put semen, which she's guessing. She doesn't know. Well, she didn't put a question mark. But how does she know? Right? Right. I found bodily fluids on the walls in the men's bathroom.

I was mad at the time. It felt so disrespectful. Possibly, am I taking it a little too? personal because they all knew I am the one that was cleaning up after them. But now I am embarrassed. I don't want to talk to anyone about it. I certainly don't want to report it and have it on record that I cleaned it up. I do not understand these feelings at all. I hope you can explain it. I'm hoping that if I can understand my feelings, I can move forward and report it to my supervisor who happens to be a male. maybe that is part of the problem because why should I be embarrassed at all?

Confused cleaner. So that was my question is how do we know what it is? You know, that's my main question. Just, I mean, that's part of helping her figure this out. But also, I'm just curious. Like, did, there's no, I mean. I know. Okay.

So we know, that's a question. So outside of that, I, One, I'm wondering, do all of these people that are using this bathroom, she made it sound like this. Do they, have they interacted with you? Do they know that you're the cleaner? Do they know that you're the one that's going in there? Well, she's saying they do, but she did give a number of students. I left it out, but it's a lot. I was trying not to give too many specific details, but it was, it's hundreds and hundreds of kids. Because if it was a small group and they also, like, they knew who I was and we had interacted that week and whatever.

I could totally understand taking that personally because they know I'm the one that's going to find this. And it almost seems like a mean prank that they're playing on me, you know? But if they don't know who you are and they're just doing this, which they could be doing that anyway, then this has nothing to do with you. They're just, I mean, I don't know how old these kids are. They're just acting out some of their own. I don't know if they think it's funny. If that's like their humor.

I don't know, again, how old they are. I can see like middle schoolers being like, this is so silly. Well, she said high schoolers were in for something. But yeah, I think the part where she's struggling is why is she embarrassed to report this? And is it something that she should report? And is it because her boss is a male? I do think if her boss was a female, she'd feel a little more comfortable. Yeah.

Well, we can't, we can't know why you're embarrassed. But I think that if it is these people know who you are, then I can understand her being like, I feel embarrassed because they did this to me. And it's like a mean, almost like I'm getting bullied about, and like these young kids are bullying me as an adult. And being disrespectful. Yes.

It can feel like that. I can feel some shame around that. So I can understand wanting to avoid that. And this really has nothing to do with you, regardless of if they know who you are. not because these kids just possibly have chosen to do something that is completely inappropriate. I would say it needs to be reported, but I also understand it, I mean, it might be too far gone at this point, but I'll throw in that I don't think you're, you would be in trouble for cleaning it up.

No, no, no, that's part of your job. But she, she expressed that. She was like, I can't, where she's like, because I'm the one, she goes, she did express concern. She didn't. She didn't express concerned. She didn't want to have it on record that she's the one that cleaned it up. Yes. Which what I think she's just embarrassed about that. Yeah. Okay. But do they record everything you? Because then it's an incident report probably and there might be an investigation of sorts and all that stuff. So I understand being like this is so like also I don't know your history. I don't know how you grew up. I don't know how open you are talking about certain certain things and all of that. And so if this is something that you like don't.

this is a very taboo subject in general, then I also understand you being like, I don't want to be in these conversations. But I do not think you would be in trouble for anything. If anything, it's like, thank you for cleaning that up. Somebody had to do it. And I'm sorry that you had to do it. Because you shouldn't have to do.

Nobody should have to clean up that of somebody else's. I know. But interesting predicament. Yeah, we're sorry that you're in it. and hopefully you can just report it and then move on. But it may not even be also too if you want to just let it go and not report it. If it were to happen again, then you could go and say, oh, you know what? I saw something similar like this before.

I wasn't 100% sure what it was and I cleaned it out. But now I'm seeing it a second time and like this is, we need to put a stop to this. So maybe that could be you just let this one go. And if it happens again, then you say something. And you have more. I think that's a great reason to now say something. Yeah. And also to bring up that you cleaned it up before,

not really 100% sure. Yeah. But now you know. And this is feeling weird. I think this could have a lot to do. And this is just food for thought for the listener. With the stories and the rules and the implicit rules that you had growing up around bodies in general, because this is making me think of,

I don't know if I've told you this story. about when I was in kindergarten, I was at math station and a boy in my class told me to look under the table. Have I told you this? No. Okay. He told me to look under the table. I looked under the table and he had pulled his, he what? His wee-wee-out. Yeah. He did not. Yes. And I'm calling it that because we were five. And I was, oh yeah, five or six year in kindergarten, I think. Yeah. And so I, I didn't know. He was like, look under the table. to see something cool or something like that. So I looked under the table and I saw that and I was mortified, mortified because I knew

I wasn't supposed to see that. However, I did tell my teacher, but then I don't remember all my feelings from back there then, but I do remember feeling bad for getting somebody in trouble. But also I knew I was not supposed to see that thing. So if I can see somebody not sharing that because they don't want to. want to get in trouble for seeing that. Does that make sense? Yes. Like almost as if I did something wrong. So if there might be some feelings of like did I do something wrong here and I would unpack that with somebody because you didn't do anything wrong. In fact, you were just going to do your job.

So. Yeah. I'm sorry that happened to the confused cleaner and I'm sorry that happened to you. Yeah. He was like, look under the table for something cool. Something cool. Him and his friend were like giggling and I was like over there it was just us three he got sent to the brunters office for sure wow but also I don't he was five or six so like I'm like I'm like I'm like I mean if you were a junior high yeah then that would be different he's like hey cat look under the table I'll see something that is a salt that would be different but if you're yeah he was just you know probably discovering what that even was himself you've heard the chaos now you can see it do we want to jump right in watch all your

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On the new podcast Solita, we share the messy reality of traveling alone as a woman. I can wait four hours for the next bus or this random dude is offering me a ride on his motorcycle. I chose option B. I'm Julie Pinero and I travel by myself because it's a rare space where I can say yes without asking anyone else first. I'm on a mission to reclaim the word solita, trading the pity for possibility. Every time I tried to be alone, I kept meeting people and they were like, you smiled at us. Not a lot of people smile around here. It's when you're a alone that you're most receptive to the world as it is and not the lies you're sold about it.

It can be a time where you push your limits, change your mind, or wake up to a new version of yourself. So whether you're a solo travel veteran or you're too nervous to book your first trip, I hope you listen to Solita on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. All right, we have, well, another really interesting email. This one is. wild this was dare I say more wild than the last well the last I don't really feel is that I think she just went through an incident of like confusion and she didn't know what to do

have we ever gotten an email like that before no this one we definitely have not and this isn't even so much a question she just asked us what we thought like wasn't that the subject line like what do you think of this her question is what do you think about the situation And this is an episode for asking questions, and that's your question. Hey, ladies, this is a crazy story, but it actually happened to me and could only happen to me. I have struggled with IBS since I was 18. Last week, I had my most humiliating moment ever.

I pooped my pants in the middle of a packed subway car, my worst nightmare. A boy announced to the crowd, oh no, she had a bowel movement. It wasn't a choice, pal. His mom smiled at me. At a time like this, you need to stay calm. It's easy for her to say, I'm the person sitting on a load of you know what. Then I noticed a cop staring at me. Oh, Lord, is he going to arrest me for this?

Is it disorderly conduct? Will I be on the news? Or a Law and Order episode? The woman testified that she did not have the intent to poop. Oh, God help. I think she was doing a little scene from Law & Order, maybe, if that were to play out. I started to have a panic attack. A guy took pity on me. Hey, my name is Mark. My stop is next. I live right around the corner. You can get cleaned up if you want. Compassion. I will spare you the gross details, but soon I was all clear in my rear.

Wearing a pair of his sweatpants. I was worried about going with this shirt. I was worried about going with this stranger, but he was a true gentleman, and he respected my privacy. Plus, what choice did I have? He texted me the next day and asked me out. We went on the most romantic date ever. I guess we had nowhere to go but up. What do you think about the situation? P.S. He told me to keep the pants. What I think about this situation is, wow, this is what does this make possible? in a nutshell. Like she had a very horrible situation and she maybe met a really nice guy out of it.

Yeah. And golly, y'all got all the awkwardness out of the way. Like you can do any bathroom stuff in front of him and it's fine. He's not going to not be attracted to you. So I honestly love this because if they get married, This is the best How did you meet story?

I have ever heard in my life. I pooped my pans on the subway and he brought me to his house. And I got to clean up there. Like what? She's got to be on his hot scale ratio. She's got to be like. Like he's got to think she's so hot. Yes.

Or maybe it was like in. I was going to say maybe it was an endearing to him that she was so. like in a vulnerable situation. He was like, I can save her. I don't know. But I want to know how long she was supposed to be on the subway. Because. But she has IBS.

No, no, I know. I was asking more so like he was like my stops next. I'm right around the corner. Like was she going to be like 20 more stops? Like I think I would have just been like, oh, wait until I get to my stop. I would just want to get off ASAP. Do I want to go to a stranger's house? No.

Stranger danger. Also, was she wearing a dress, a skirt? pants like how did everybody know i feel like she had to be wearing something to where it was like known oh my i don't know i came across this girl on instagram she's married to an NFL player i don't know what NFL team she just popped up in my FYP on instagram and so i started looking at all of her videos and she's very pregnant and i think she said at 36 weeks pregnant which that's pretty much do yeah well you do it 40 Okay. But you're full time at Costco and she pooped her pants at Costco. And then she just was like, screw it. She kind of puts it all out there. So she like, FaceTime her mom from the bathroom. And then she was recording stuff. And then she made this whole video when she got in the car and she was crying. But she was so thankful for the Costco employee that was in the bathroom. And she's in a stall. And she's like, help. Hello. Hello. You work here. And they're like, yes. And she's like, can you go get me a pay.

of pants from the women's section and just bring them and then all rip the tag off and pay for them when I'm checking out. But like I need to put on a fresh pair of pants because her pants were soiled. Soiled. But I don't know. I mean, I don't know what caused her to just. Yeah. Have you had any bathroom moments? How many weeks are you? I'm 32. I haven't had any. but what's interesting is usually people get constipated when they're pregnant. I guess everything's happened differently for other people. Well, she may have constipation at times, but this was like a something she ate, maybe you just made it come right out.

I will say your organs are all over the place so I can understand if something's going haywire. But that's one of those moments where like if that would have happened and if her mom was with her, it would have been so different. but like you have to hope that somebody's in the bathroom then you have to tell a stranger what happened then you have to hope that they're not like unkind about it you know who would be i don't know how you could not be kind and generous in a situation like that because nobody wants to be in that situation but yeah to be alone oh man i know but both of these situations like yeah if she was on the at the subway with a friend if you're at costco you can

walk to the bathroom. But you're on a subway. You're stuck. You have nowhere else to go. I still don't think I'm going to some strange man's house. I may get off and then just like, no, call somebody or try to figure something out. My friend got the parasite thing that was going.

I think that sort of died down a little bit, I hope. But she had it. And when it hit her, she was on a walk run. she was like out in her neighborhood and there was nothing she could do to stop it and it just started running down her body and she had a call she started texting her husband and then called him and he's like what do you want me to do he's like do me to come pick you up she was like I can't get in the car like if you come pick me up like I she's like I'm not getting in the car she she eventually made it home and she told him to turn off all the lights she said it turned dark and she was like turn off all the exterior lights and she goes and please put a bar of Soap by the hose. And she got home. But she had shorts or pants? I don't know.

I don't know. I didn't. I mean, either way, it's like disgusting. Well, yeah, but if she's in shorts,

then the whole way home, people that are driving by her can see it. But she's in pants, hopefully, it's just her that is experiencing it. I know.

It's so terrible. I'm going to see if she put what she had. She sent me the screenshot of the, messages with her husband and she goes I mean, we might as well, we've been talking about all this crazy stuff this episode. She goes, I'm not sure if it was a toot. She goes, I'm not sure if it was a toot or a shart. But my stomach is so messed up. You know what a shart. It's okay.

Her husband goes, uh-oh. And then she goes, well, no more wondering. I'd say come pick me up, but there's no point now. And then he goes, you barely touched my smoothie. Do I need to come get you? And then she told him, no. And then she goes, I'm coming in hot, but I'm still half a mile away. He goes, okay, I'll unlock the door. And she goes, nope, I can't. She's sort of replying to him late. She's like, no, I can't sit on a seat. Like, don't come get me. And then he goes, oh, no. And then she said, this slowed me down. And then she goes, oh, shoot, more. coming and he goes dang what do you want me to do do you want me to come through the garage or the side entry i put a couple of plastic bags on my boots and then she goes can you turn the lights off

and he goes yes and she goes towel and soap please oh my gosh and then turns out michigan was where it was and she was in michigan and it takes for some people a couple weeks for the symptoms and when she started doing the math of when she was in Michigan and what she potentially ate there, then by the time she traveled back here to Nashville, because I didn't really know of any cases in Nashville of people that it happened to. But she's like, she told me I could talk about it on the Bobby Bone Show. So I did. And she was like, I feel free to share her. She was, Chris is mortified. That's her husband. She's like, but I'm an open book about it. The people need to know. also like you can't help

like there's nothing same with the person on the subway it's not like they did anything right can't help it if you could help but you wouldn't do it like clearly but I this is what I would like to ask of this listener can you update us if you guys end up getting dating and boyfriend girlfriend like how many dates does this last and have you guys laughed about this yet I can want to know how do you go from I tell people Like as some of the people, if you come up with a different story of like, oh, we met on the subway because that's true. Yeah.

Do you give people the full shebang? Do you say, well, I poop my pants on the subway and then he invited me back to his house. And then I borrowed pants. And then he hit me up. And da-da-da-da-da. Yeah. I want some more. I want some more details on this.

We need an update. Yeah. Okay. Well, there you go. This is one of our more interesting episode. ever, but not all of them are going to be totally mental health minded. Yeah. But sometimes we lean more therapy.

Sometimes we just lean more real life. Like this is what happens. We're normal. This could be a mental health moment. We are normalizing that this kind of stuff happens. And you can feel less shame when you talk about this kind of stuff. So maybe somebody else has had a moment. Tons of people have IBS.

They might have had a moment that felt just as embarrassing. but they never would share it because there's so much shame around it. But listen, this girl's just... You have to clean up something disgusting at work and you don't know how to handle it. Yeah. Or something awkward and weird and it's put you in a predicament. Everybody has those moments too. Shame lives in silence.

So if you talk about it, it kills it. And so that's what we're offering with this episode. Love it. All right. You can email us, hey there at feeling things podcast.com. And you can also call us 877-207-207. 7. And we hope wherever you are, you keep your house clean, even if you've got cleaning people coming. And you have the day. You need to have. Bye. Bye. I survived nine months in captivity.

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