The Bobby Bones Show - TELL ME SOMETHING GOOD (MON) What Bobby Understands Differently Since Becoming A Dad

Episode Date: October 5, 2026

In Bobby's 'Sunday Night Conversation' he talks about people he understands better since becoming a parent. He also opens up about something he wishes he paid attention to more being having a baby of his own.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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It's time for the good news. Amy? So I went to high school with Jenna Bush, and now she's on the Today Show, and she has her own publishing company. And now, not only to do books, she's doing a TV show. So anyway, she's just been crushing it. And she sent me a box full of books. And one of them was called Beneath, which is the second book to a series. And I was like, well, shoot, I can't read this one yet.

So I've got to get conform, which is the first one. And anyway, I just was, I'm just so excited about the box full of books. So I'm starting in that order. And so I had to order the other one, which is fine. But it kind of got me on a role, I think, of like a new series. And then she has invited me to moderate her book tour stop in Nashville with one of her authors. And so I'm really excited about that. And I'm like, November 12th, which is, you know,

feels a little bit far away, but also time's flying. It's crazy. I know. It is kind of crazy that November 12th will like come quickly. But also too, that it's like reconnected us. I hadn't talked to her much really at all since we were probably in our early, early 20s, maybe my sophomore year of college pretty much. Because we used to, she was younger than me in school, but we would run together and did cross-country

and we'd wake up in the morning and run before school. Oh, that's what you mean by run? Yeah. Yeah. Like we would meet, like wake up in the morning and meet and run really early. And so we had that relationship, even though she was younger. And then I went off to college, but we had mutual friends. So sometimes we'd stay in touch.

But then other than that, I probably didn't talk to her in over 20 years. And then now Books is bringing us back together. Just fun. Think they're running guns or drugs? People say like running around. Yeah, like run out. Oh, we did have a similar friend group running around. But no, we were like literally, we would meet at town like before school and run.

Well, that's fun. Yeah. I'm excited about new, like, the opportunity for new books, too, that I hadn't heard of. And I guess this first one that I've got, I guess it was the inaugural one maybe of her publishing company. And, Eddie, you see, you never know where reading's going to take you. But I got a question. So when you guys would run, would she have bodyguards? Her dad was governor at the time, so no.

But once he became president, that changed. So, like, when she comes, will she have body? Like, you know what I mean? Like, do they, the kids still? do that anymore. I don't know. I don't think what you're not president. I don't think they protect the kids anymore. Yeah. Like it was an even governor. And like George Bush would show up at our high school and he would have social security with him.

Social security? The cards? A bunch of cards. Or the check. The check you get after you retire. I get that, Amy. That happens to me all the time. What do they call? Security, secret service? Secret service. I couldn't think it either, Amy. Once she said social security, I was like, what is it? I glitched. They did have their little earpieces or whatever. But they were very normal.

family and it was it was weird how normal that Jenna and Barbara wanted to be like when they turned 16 they got a car they shared a like a Jeep Cherokee together which some people would think oh their grandpa was president their dad's governor they probably get whatever they're not just that they were really rich even that's what I mean but they couldn't have been more normal and I think it's a testament to their parents like even her also her work ethic and you know Barbara's not as much in the spotlight but she is very successful as well. So I don't know. It's just exciting to see people do well. And I was thankful for the book package. That was really my telling me something good. All good. Eddie?

Man, this weekend was the weekend of winning. Like we had one baseball game, two, six basketball games and the Cowboys won. And everybody won. Like, I love a weekend of winning. Dude, and I won money on, like, it was just a winning weekend. It's one of those where you wake up on Monday. You're just like, I feel good. Why? because I won all weekend. There's a 90s radio station promotion. It's a winning weekend. All weekend long, call out 10.

Some Mondays I get out and just like, yeah, why don't I feel bad? Oh, because I lost all these bets and my team lost and my kids lost their games. But not this weekend. Winning weekend, baby. Winning weekend. Lunchbox? Yeah, I mean, I would say mine was Morgan's wedding reception party just because I got to go with my wife and no kids. And so it was nice to have a nice night out with good food.

food and free drinks and no kids just tugging at you. Dad, dad, dad, do this, do this, do that. And it was just that. So I'd say that was the highlight. I'd say that's telling me something good. Who watched the kids? Some neighbor girl that's like 15. How'd that go?

I guess it went good. She said they were great. She just watched them play soccer in the front yard or backyard and then put them to bed. And I guess she watched TV until we got home. Easy gig. That sounds easy. Yeah. Yeah.

Wow. Because they're kind of older now so they don't. The babies are done to do. much because they know how to brush their teeth. I guess unless they want to be defiant and then it's hard to stop them because they're older. True. But I think they, with a babysitter, they act better for a babysitter than they do their parents because they think it's so fun and like it's neat.

Not me. I was pretty difficult. With babysitters? So I hear. Yeah. Yeah. Like I didn't want to, I was defiant. Like I didn't want to brush my teeth.

I didn't want to get ready and I would make it sounds like exhausting. Maybe not every single one, but who knows what I really had going on. Clearly, I was trying to send a message to my parents. Clearly. Clearly. For us, we had, and I talk about this coming up in a little bit, but we had nine people on our house this weekend. Probably, yeah.

It's full house. Caitlin's brother, his wife, my sister-in-law, they're two kids, so that's four. Caitlin's mom and dad, that's six. Me, Caitlin, Billy. That's nine. We had nine people in the house. It was great. It was great. We had a wonderful time. I was glad that they could come because they live in California, not Caitlin's parents, Caitlin's brother and his family. So they came for the weekend. And they hadn't met Billy yet. And so we're kind of getting to that last round of folks who haven't met Billy yet that are in the main circle. But man, when they live in California, that's hard. Like my sister hasn't met Billy yet. And she's only a state over.

We're thinking about going back this weekend to the Arkansas, Tennessee game. How's that supposed to shape up? The game? The game, not so good, but we live by the stadium. And so also, that gives anybody from my family that hasn't met Billy a chance to, if they want to drive up, just for that, it would be a double. Yeah, more so for that, I guess. Yeah.

I mean, I need to go to a game or two, but God dang, man. Are you going to see your x-ray room? Oh, I haven't seen my x-ray. You have to take an x-ray, man. I haven't even thought about that. It's so bad right now. I haven't even thought about that. There's no good.

That would be good. Like, go see the X-ray room. Like, childhood you would be freaking out that you have your own room in the stadium named after you. Yeah, you're right. And you're not. Adolmey's not. Adolmy's like, we suck so bad. That's okay.

You told me, I think, think something like this, but it's, with transitions, it's going to get worse before it gets better. Boy, was that right. We need more transition. We need more people to go away first before the real transition happens. Okay, there you go. That's what it's all about. That was tell me something good. Hello, everybody.

It is Sunday night. It is after 8 p.m. when I'm recording this, which is a little later than usual. We have six guests in the house right now, which it's been pretty great. They got here on Saturday. Maybe Kailen's parents got here Friday night. But it's Caitlin's mom and her dad, Caitlin's brother. his wife, and they're two kids. So six, and then me and Caitlin and Billy.

That's nine. We got a house full of nine people right now. It's been pretty great. It's the most family that's ever been over at once. It's the most family Billy's ever hung out with once. I think it's the most people Billy's ever been around for more than 30 minutes at a time at once. But it's been pretty great because I haven't had to really do much

because everybody wants to do something with the baby. So it's been good. It's also why I'm recording so much later. And it's also why I may have less energy now than the energy I already don't have whenever I do these or really do anything. I'm not really known as a high energy guy. Not when I do this show. Not when I do any show.

Not really known as a high energy guy. It could be, but I feel like that would be pretty fake. And I would have to constantly fake having high energy when I don't. And I try to stay here. I was thinking about the Sunday night conversation that I have with you that loads on Monday and I was thinking about things I understand differently now

and I've been thinking about the people that I understand a little better now that I'm a parent, people that I understand better than I used to. And it's not like I have this 20 years of parenting experience but I do have almost seven with a baby and a wife that was pregnant for it's really 10 months, not nine, let's not kid ourselves. So it is still new, but there definitely

is a perspective change that happens. And so I understand why parents stay home. Look, I'm pretty much a home body anyway because I would always leave and travel and be gone and tour. So once I was in town, I would stay home. So I don't really consider myself a home body. I consider myself when I'm in my hometown, a home body. But I would never just stay home because if I were offered something cool, I would just go. But now, a lot of the times it's like I'm good. And I kind of understand why people just want to hang out with their family a little bit. I really didn't because I didn't really have a family growing up.

I used to wonder about that. Like, how do you turn things down, right? I mean, especially if you get an opportunity. For me, it's mostly I've been staying home when opportunities arise. And I think, you know how many people would want that opportunity that you're saying no to? And now that I've become one of these people turning things down, sometimes I still have to stop and check myself because it feels foreign to say no to things. I've spent so much of my life trying to get these opportunities.

I mean, I've spent so much of my life trying to get opportunities that, I think I would just get used to chasing them. Like that was so much of it. Now one shows up. It's supposed to be excited. But it's, you know, I think I'm just going to not go. Not take that job. I think I'm just going to stay home.

And my life's a little different now for a couple of reasons. One, obviously I have a baby. But two, between the radio show, which is a significant part of the day. and doing the Bobbycast, which is basically four episodes a week and the NFL show and 25 whistles. And, you know, it's not just the shows. It's all the preparation. And also, I'm not asking you to feel sorry for me. I'm just saying that's where my hours go. And so I used to have the time to get everything in by Thursday, midday. And if I needed to leave, I could have everything done, everything done by Friday. I don't have that anymore.

so that's part of the reason, but now it's also, I kind of get why people just want to stay home and hang out with their family a little bit. I mean, I've become the person turning things down that I wouldn't have 18 months ago. So tonight, as I'm here, alone in my studio, on my property, I just thought I'd talk about some things that I understand differently now.

And some of it's because I've become a dad. Some of it's because I'm getting older. And some of it's probably maybe just being a little burned out and trying to figure out what to do, what not to do without making a dumb decision. And I have not figured it out. I also have the awareness to know that I will never figure it out. But it's been pretty cool staying home.

Even things like Billy is now like sitting up on her own. She started doing that a bit ago. But it's funny the little things that happen with the baby because you're with them all the time. And when they start to crawl, she started crawling a month and a half or so ago or eating solid foods or whatever she's been doing, like every little milestone.

You're like, oh my God. I mean, that's exciting. And to somebody that doesn't have a baby or has never had a baby, that might sound like a very low bar, like your baby sits up by herself. But I get pretty pumped about that. Actually, I never thought about something like that

until it happened. I wasn't missing out because I didn't know, but now that I know, boom. And if you ever had a baby that sat up and you thought it was cool, nobody congratulated you, well, congratulations for me to you. Because when it's your baby and you know what she could do before and you've watched all the little things leading up to it and then when she does it, it's a big deal, it doesn't matter what it is.

I understand that now in a way that I never could have before. I also don't want to pretend that I have some big theory about parenting and it turned out to be right or wrong. I have no theories about anything, no theories about parenting. I didn't. I just hadn't thought much about it. I knew people had babies. I knew it was a lot of work, but knowing something is a lot of work and being there for the work are two different experiences. And just two different rewards. The thing that surprises me now, and that's one of the questions that I get asked the most, is how much constant attention is needed. You have to be paying attention

all the time to a baby, especially ours. Well, I don't know especially because I don't know yours. But at about five months old, she just started crawling everywhere. And it's like, dear God, if you look away for 10 seconds, she's crawling somewhere as you shouldn't be. So the babyproofing had to start a little earlier than I thought. So yeah, I'm impressed that she can sit up. I'm impressed that she can crawl. But also I'm looking around and I'm going,

I'm not impressed with what you can grab. and what you want to stick in your mouth because every new thing that she learns we have to learn something new as well and so I have her picture on my phone lock screen so if we're together you can see it you don't have to do the thing where you're trying to decide whether you're supposed to ask to see a picture of her

this is kind of what I tell my friends or even people that I'm talking with on the podcast I think a little bit people go well you don't have her on the internet you don't show her face so maybe you don't want to show her to anybody well that's not really the case at all. And so I kind of removed that decision from folks.

And I keep her on my log screen. And if kids come up in any way, I'm just like, yeah, here's my baby. I don't make you stare at it for a half hour or anything. But I'll just show you. You know, just because we know show our face online, I think some people think we're hiding her face from every single person on earth.

We are not. I mean, today I had a listener come up to me while we were walking down the street. Because again, all of Caitlin's family's here, so we take them to do some semi-tourist stuff. And whenever we do semi-tourist stuff, there are listeners and fans of the show. And I know that when I'm going to a place like that.

And we know we stopped multiple times. And we had our baby and we didn't put a Spider-Man mask on her head whenever someone stopped to say hi. Not at all. Now if someone pulled out of phone and started trying to take pictures over, that'd be a different story. But it's fine. It's awesome.

Thanks for saying hi. That's our baby. That's Billy. Check it out. And one of them was like, dang, your baby's so cute. And I was like, I know, but you said that to everybody probably.

But I get at times why people are on uncomfortable even asking to see a picture since we don't show pictures of our online. And a little bit, I have a friend that's in the, I will say, a government agency that is known by letters and has said, don't put your baby's face online. Because I would have been all about it. Honestly, I would have live stream the labor. We had gotten lots of clicks on the old stream. If we got to go on for the delivery.

but I can understand someone being unsure about asking, but I'm happy to show you if you see me in person. And it's all good. I'm happy to show you. I'm her dad. I got a picture ready. I have several pictures ready, depending on how much time you got.

Something else I've noticed is how much it means to me when people want to come over and see her, especially at the start when people wanted to meet Billy. And you kind of, you find out who your friends are. I catch myself judging a little. Who wants to come over, who's interested. And then I think about my friends who had babies before I did,

and I wish I'd cared a little more about their babies. I had no idea. I just thought I was bothering them. Now I understand I'm not. I also understand the nuances of, you know, really drop food off and knock and have them come to the door because the baby may be asleep

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It's called Don't Lie to Me. I'm Lexi Youan. We're two best friends, 22 years apart, but so close at heart. I'm Lisa Di Giulio, the old one, which means we have wildly different references, occasionally different opinions, and at this point in my 50s, I've lived it all. I'm not going to get anyone you fighting. That is wild. I learned that about you today.

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I don't really care. If anyone wanted to commit a murder, up here would be the greatest place in the world to hide the body but someone will find it he acted friendly he talked friendly he sounded friendly they all knew that I did the scary boogie stuff and they said maybe she'll find out where this girl is

I saw him violent backhanded a bow and that's exactly what made us all think he had something to do with it the clock is ticking down in the woods are calling. There are a lot of demons

in Putnam County, but I've met the devil, and he's real. I'm Paul Solitarev, and this is season two of the devil's quarry. Listen to the devil's quarry season two on the IHeart

radio app, Apple podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. And to hear the devil's quarry season two add free with exclusive content subscribe to Lava for Good Plus on Apple Podcasts. So, yeah, I think I judge the people I know a little bit on if they wanted to come over and meet Billy at some point. And also there were friends that I did not think would want to that were extremely adamant about doing it.

And that meant a lot to me. And there are people like Eddie who was here a lot and his wife, his wife would just come over without Eddie. and they always wanted to see the baby, always, always, always. They would come over. They were asking, can we have the baby? Now you have four kids already. But, and, you know, Mike D would see the baby a lot because Mike D. is just at my house a lot.

And Mike D's wife would make appointments. I don't know if that's the word, but just tell Caitlin, like, give me a time I'm coming over. And like Natalie Stovall, and she was pregnant. She was about to pop. And she was on the road in other countries going, As soon as I get back, I'm coming to meet your baby. Which reminds me, I need to go see Natalie's baby.

But she just had it. Ah, good reminder. I need to even text her. It's that fine line now that I know too, if it's a brand new baby, I still need to reach out and say, we want to meet your baby. And then let her tell me when it's not okay. But still a part of me has the,

I don't want to bother people. But I wish I had paid a little more attention to my friend's babies. That's a weird thing to it. admit because I did care about my friends. It just wasn't my world yet. I didn't understand how much it might mean for them to show up or for me to show up and be interested in this new person that is very much part of your life. A lot of the time, again, I just didn't want to impose. I thought they were busy. They had a baby. They probably didn't want me coming over and getting in the way. So my head giving them space was being considerate. And now I have to remember that when I'm looking

at who has to come over to see Billy, maybe they're thinking what I thought. Maybe they're thinking to be consider it. I can't suddenly rewrite the rules here and expect everybody to know them because I still, as you can hear me talking it out, don't know them. But I think if you've had a baby, you kind of know the rules. But what I do understand is how much showing interest matters. You don't have to have some incredible insight about babies. You don't have to know what questions to ask, just wanting to meet someone's child means something to them. At least it does to me. So I don't know that I've become more social or less social or what I want from being social, but I do know what I want has changed a bit coming over to see us to meet Billy is more appealing to me right now than going anywhere

just to go. And I probably owe some friends a little credit. They were excited about their kids for the same reason I'm excited about mine. I just needed my own version of that to understand it. And as of right now, I tend to not travel unless there's a definite reason that I'm excited reason that I need to go. If it's a close call, I don't go. I have not played golf once for my own fun. I have not gone. I'm a member of a country club. Country music is what I love. I'm a member of club. I haven't been one time. And I'm cool with that. I've also had some really cool invites to play some big fancy tournaments where they give you lots of free stuff at like Pebble Beach, et cetera.

And I don't go. I love golf. This isn't me pretending that I don't want to do those type things because I do. There are things that I've been invited to that sound awesome. Again, that California tournaments, it was at a, like a PGA event, and then you have access to play all those courses. And so that's an incredible invitation. And there was also NFL work at that time.

without that commitment, maybe I would have considered it, but it was just too many commitments for me to be gone for too long. Again, me nine months ago, wouldn't have even thought twice about it. But that's the part that decides it for me now. I mean, I could probably swing it. It used to be enough to get me just trying to chisel out the schedule. Can I move this? Can I get a flight at this time?

How do I make this happen? Now, if the whole argument is that I technically can fit it in, I'm probably going to pass because technically is all I need to think. If I technically can't, I don't really want to. Because fitting something into a calendar doesn't tell you how much is going to take out of you, how much time you're giving up at home. I don't need to pretend those courses wouldn't be fun. They would be.

I've done it before. It's really one of the most amazing experiences I've ever had. I mean, I can want to go, which I do and did, and still decide to stay home. And that's something I'm getting a little more comfortable with, which is pretty nice. I don't know if I'll always feel this way that's very much could be the new baby boom right now that I'm feeling. But it's not just a baby, it's also my wife.

I want to be here for my wife. So I reserve the right to change a little bit. But I'm also getting more comfortable with not feeling the need to do everything. I'm not just talking about fun stuff. It's been a change for me. Because I've had work opportunities and being okay with knowing

I might not get another shot at a particular thing. Okay, that's fine. I mean, there used to be a lot more urgency that I would attach to that. Now I can say, that would have been cool and then move on without spending the rest of the week trying to talk myself back into it.

I was offered a residency in Vegas. I've mentioned it on the show or the podcast just in passing, and it paid well. And it was the same theater over and over and over. And they pretty much did all the marketing. And they just wanted me to come

I'm going to do stand up. And it was one, be out there a weekend of every three weekends. I just can't see myself being gone that long and that often and that far away right now. Now that is the kind of opportunity I would have had a hard time managing to turn down two years ago. Even hearing the word residency sounds exciting. I did one in Nashville. That one was easy because I just drove right down the road. But a Vegas residency is a little more elevated. I mean, that's an opportunity. But I have to think about the days now,

how often would I be gone? How long would I be gone? What would that meet at home? Those questions matter more than really anything else right now. It felt foreign at first, turning things down, especially cool big things or missing things. I mean, I felt a little guilt leaving the cruise this last time.

Even though my wife was giving birth, right? Like, we went to the doctor the day I left to make sure that she was not dilated. did because she was due then. And I went and the doctor recommended and I'm not going at all, but I still went, did shows, was there for a couple days

and I couldn't say anything about it. And I remember people just being so rude to me and mean to me online about having to leave early and I just wanted to be the person to go, my wife's having a baby any minute. There's a helicopter standing by in case she gives birth while I'm on the boat. But I didn't, because we weren't sharing that.

It's not, things aren't just mine to share. now. But I felt guilt about that. And when I say it out loud sometimes, it does feel a bit ridiculous. My wife's about to have our baby. Of course I need to leave. My rational brain prevailed. But there was still a little part of me that felt guilty about leaving

something that I was involved in. And that tells you how strong the habit is. You can know exactly what you need to do and still have an old feeling show up and question it. The way I look at opportunities now, I need to have a clear reason to do. do them. It could be personal fulfillment. It could. It could just be something I think I would really enjoy or it could be enough financial sense that I'm going. I really can't turn that down.

But if I'm going to have to work really hard to convince myself, I skip it. That doesn't mean every decision is easy. It means I don't automatically assume the opportunity deserves it. Yes, I got to consider the whole thing. I did work hard. to get choices. I'm just trying to get better at making them. And also, I know there's no right answer to anything ever. There's no right answer to anything ever. There's the part that feels a little weirder talking about, but I'll talk about it here because I feel like if you're listening to this podcast, you have chosen to hit play on this because you know me and you understand how odd, funny, stupid, I can go through all of the different adjectives about me.

you know me. And I don't mind sharing feelings that maybe are just mine and not anybody else's. I don't even mind being judged for certain feelings. But, you know, I'm burning out a little bit right now. And that's all right. I told my wife I'm burning out with purpose right now. And a little bit of too is I come right home. And I feel guilt if I come right home and do anything other than help her.

It's not because of her because she recommends I do the opposite. but I come home. If I, because I'll be gone 12 hours or so between multiple studios doing multiple shows and again this is not the sawmill

that my stepdad worked out worked at. I don't claim that it is. So that's not me saying that. But I do get home and go right in and then go right into the show and then just collapse asleep.

And even then I don't sleep well. You would think I would sleep better. So I'm burning a little bit. That's all right. We all burned. And so I want to be honest about that without acting like I've reached some big conclusion about what happens next. I haven't.

I know over and over sure if I'm making the right decision. I think I've said that 84 times. Sometimes you make the best decision you can and you still wonder about it afterward. And that's also okay. One thing I try not to do is make decisions when I'm upset or, I mean hungry. Don't go to the grocery store hungry. don't make a career decision or family decision upset.

The hungry one is easier to fix, obviously. Upset can hang around longer, but I don't want either one making a big decision for me. And I won't make a rash change because I'm feeling burned out because I know if I'm exhausted, I'm not going to make a good decision. So I got to pay attention to the feeling for a minute

if it's telling me something. I'll listen. I don't want to jump straight into having some sort of feeling that I need to change something. And I understand people who stay in, situations a little better because I've made enough decisions right or wrong to know how complicated it can be to stay or to go. From the outside, it's easy to say, well, why don't you just leave? I understand people who stay. I understand people who move. I'm mostly a mover. I have friends who

maybe sit stagnant a little long and they keep going, I don't know what to do, so I'm going to do nothing. I have often found that if I don't know what to do, I make the best decision on what to do, and then I learn from that. Because if you just sit, you don't learn anything. If you pick away, let's say there are two options. You pick away. It's either right or it's wrong. And if it's wrong, at least you know something

and hopefully you can fix it. If you're still sitting there and you didn't make a decision, you did nothing. You don't know more. You didn't get closer to your goal. You didn't even do something wrong so you can fix it and be right. You're just still sitting in the same exact spot.

I think for me, fear played a big role, especially early on. So, but again, I've gone to a lot of therapy. I think I have good awareness. So I'm just trying to be honest with myself. Now at this point of my life about why I say why I go, why I say yes, those are questions worth answering when I'm calm enough to hear the answer, when I'm not upset when I'm not hungry. And I encourage you to do the same. I'm a bit rambling.

I think I'm still kind of on the topic here of just understanding others and myself and why we do things. I'm more understanding of people's decisions now because I've also made so many of my own that I've learned to take my own instincts seriously. Usually my first instinct is right. For me, it's been right way more than it's been wrong. When I challenge my first instinct, I often end up back where I started.

And if I don't, there have been plenty of times I've regretted not going back to where I started. So what I'm going to encourage you to do if you're listening to this, is you know how someone says you have a gut feeling it's in your gut? That's actually your brain. making a very quick decision based on all the data in front of.

And that's your instinct. That's usually what's right. There's really nothing in your stomach making a decision for you. Yeah, you're feeling, but it's your brain weighing, analyzing and telling you. And if you feel it in your gut, go. If I keep coming back to the same answer, I don't challenge it as much as I used to.

I've just had it happen a lot. So anyway, my baby can sit up, which is pretty cool. I got a picture on my phone. I'm understanding some people a little better than I did before she got here. So I'm encouraging you guys from all this to have a little grace for yourself. If you're just entering a new season of your life or your understanding now for the first time, don't beat yourself up over what you didn't know. And have a little grace for others because they may not know.

I did not have a baby before. I did not know. And a little bit of me wants to slap me in the face for not being more present for my friend's kids. But I'm not going to do that. I'm giving myself a little bit of grace. Maybe it's having a kid. Maybe it's getting a new job.

Maybe it's moving to a new city. I've done all of this. Whatever it is that you're going through right now, give yourself a little bit of grace as you learn. give other folks a little bit of grace as they learn because they're going through something too. And the more I learn on what I'm now understanding, the more I actually realize I understand way, way less than I thought I ever did. And that's also okay. So good luck to you, friends. I'm going to say something and I'm going to try to take my own advice as I say this.

You're not in anybody's way. You're not in anybody's way just because you message them and suggest that you can come over or call them, you just stop by. Doesn't it be for a baby? You can just be a friend. I always feel like I'm imposing. You know what?

You're probably not. And if you are, but with good intention, that's okay too. So I'll encourage you to impose away. All right, that's the Sunday night conversation that's up on Monday.

Thank you, everybody. I don't know if anybody listen to all this. Dang, I'm way longer than I usually do. I'm at 25 minutes right now. supposed to be like 12 to 15 minutes. If you like this, let me know. Send me a DM. I'd appreciate that because I wonder sometimes

if anybody ever listens to this, this ranting I do. Have a great week. And until next, well, until next time, I'm sure we're going to talk many times throughout the week. But when it's just me and you, until next time.

Goodbye, everybody. It's time for the good news. With Bobby. Tell me something good. She was very pregnant, and she woke up, and there were four. flames engulfing her bedroom.

So it was hard for her to get up, but she got up and then got her boyfriend up immediately. He ran out of the house. And then, again, she's very pregnant. She then, Incredible Hulked a screen door because she couldn't get in because her dad was in there. Oh, wow. Okay. Tore through that door. That's what it says, tearing open a screen and kicking out a window to reach him.

That's incredible. I wonder if you have extra adrenaline because you're pregnant. Or extra strength, yeah. Like two bodies? One in the eighth, maybe. Maybe. The family looking at the pictures completely destroyed the home, but had she not woken up then, I don't think that they would have gotten out. Well, and your sense of smell is heightened when you're pregnant, too. They went and checked her too, and the baby's all good.

Wow. The Red Cross is assisting. The house is completely lost. But there's even a crowd fund to help them. And so Devin Sandoval is her name. So good for her. Saving everybody. Well, really pregnant. That's from WGME.

That is what it's all about. That was Tell Me Something Good. It's time for the good news. With producer Eddie. Tell me something good. So there's a group of five cyclists that have been doing this for four years. They ride for 1,000 miles across the country from Illinois to Virginia, raising money for families that don't have electricity.

So for every $50 raised, they get a solar light for a family that needs light in their home. Oh, wow. Is this what they do? on their vacation. Yeah, like, do they have jobs? What's I'm saying? They have two weeks off here. I'm wondering if they go, okay, we're going to take our vacation and we're going to go ride this trek and raise money before we go back to work. I feel like you go back to work tired. I remember, like, my news job, you could have two weeks of vacation back to back, like if you you worked there for five years or whatever. So that makes sense. You get two weeks off. This is what

they do with their time. But you just go back tired. Oh, that's my point. You're exhausted. You just go back tired. school. What are their names to say? No, I didn't say the five cyclists, but I'm surprised they're only five. Like, we should add on to that. Why don't you do it? Well, whoa, whoa, whoa, I'm going to suggest that other people do stuff. Uh, nice job, anonymous cyclists. Good job. Listen, they probably don't want to keep up with a bunch of people. Yeah, but more money gets raised. Nice. Yeah. Okay. Yeah. Anyway, that's what it's all about. That was Tell Me Something Good. Lisa? Tell them about our new show. We have a new podcast. It's called Don't Lie to Me.

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