the bossbabe podcast - 138. The Mindset That's Keeping You From Abundance w. Reese Evans

Episode Date: December 17, 2020

Your mindset is the only thing that is keeping you from abundance. Join Bossbabe Co-Founder & President Danielle Canty and special guest Reese Evans to get the mindset strategy you need to create a new level of success and abundance in your life. If you’re interested in getting backdoor access to The Société, click here.  Follow:  BossBabe: @bossbabe.inc Danielle: @daniellecanty Reese Evans: @yessupply

When you understand the subconscious mind, you can program your subconscious mind to any amount of success that you want. You shift from trying to force or trying everything and nothing's working to everything happening effortlessly because you've used the autopilot function of your body and mind to get there. Welcome to the Boss Babe podcast, a place where we share with you the real behind the scenes of building successful businesses, achieving peak performance, and learning how to balance it all. I'm Danielle Canty, co-founder and president of Boss Babe, and your host for this episode. Now, I'm really excited about this episode because we are talking all

about mindset and I just want to be really open with you guys. Several years ago I didn't even know what mindset meant. Like I literally had no comprehension. Like the word mindset probably didn't even exist in my vocabulary which sounds absolutely wild now but that was my truth. I on top of that hadn't even heard of abundance mindset I'm like what is that and when I started getting introduced to it and I actually was the first introduction was probably by via a book called the secret which I'm sure loads of you have heard of I actually really started to kind of understand like oh wow like there's actually something to this and you guys know I'm a science girl so I'm like okay I understand the science around this and I also like the spiritual element

to this as well and so over the last few years I've actually started to really understand what my own mindset practice looks like and what that means to me because the saying is building a business is 80% mindset 20% skill and I really do think there was a lot of weight in that. Building a business is hard you have to have a strong mindset to keep you getting up time and time after again. And it's a muscle, right? Just like you would go to the gym and train your muscles. It's the same kind of thing. You have to exercise it. You have to learn about it. You have to strengthen it. And so I'm really excited to be bringing this episode to you where we're actually talking all about abundance mindset and how you can leverage it to help you create your dream life and business. And I want to

introduce you to an amazing woman called Reese Evans. She's actually a master manifestation and abundance coach. And she's also the creator of the Yes Supply Method. And she's actually on a mission to teach the world the power of their subconscious mind and the universal laws to create the life that they're meant to live and she became on this path because she actually started her own coaching business several years ago and from working with clients she realized that although she was having lucrative months she wanted to go deeper and she wanted to create lasting deeply impactful shifts not just on a financial level with her clients, but on a spiritual and emotional and energetic level. And that really helped them create more abundance

and herself. And so she started really looking into this and discovering the power of the subconscious mind too. And just like any woman on a mission, she then started going on a deeper level going, okay, well, what does this look like? What is the subconscious mind? How do we unlock this? And she started leveraging coaching techniques like neurolinguistic programming hypnotherapy emotional freedom techniques tapping techniques and energy work and she actually found some really really key answers which I'm so excited to say that she actually shared with us on the podcast so if you are listening to this episode wanting to learn more about abundance mindset if you were like me several years ago going hang on a minute minute, what even is this? Or maybe actually you do know

a little bit more, but you want to be doubling down on it, learning more from different other people, then you're going to absolutely love this episode. It's all about mindset and manifestation. And I want you to grab your notepad and pen because Reese does not hold back. She shares so many tips. I know you're going to want to make loads of notes and get ready to recode your mind and your energy as always please take a screenshot and share with us your biggest takeaways on insta stories tagging myself at daniakanti and tag at boss babe inc and also if you are loving the boss babe podcast we would be so appreciative if you would leave us a review they literally mean the world to us let us know what episodes you love let us know also what you would like to listen to or potential guests that you'd like us to have on because Natalie and I always read them and that

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She is on a mission to be her best self in all areas. It's just believing in yourself. Confidently stepping outside her comfort zone to create her own vision of success. Welcome to the Boss Babe podcast, Rhys. It is such an honor to have you on here today. Thank you so much, Danielle. I'm so excited to be here. I know. And also, you are doing this podcast, how many weeks pregnant? 39 weeks in a couple of days. So anything could happen at this point.

It really could. Keep us posted. Yes. So Rhys, I want to start this podcast off because you describe yourself as a mindset and abundance coach. And I would love for you to share with the listeners what exactly that is, because I know it's powerful and I want them to hear about it yeah absolutely so my journey's been a long one even when I started my online business I didn't even know what coaching was but as I've gotten deeper and deeper into it I know that 99% of

success is your mindset and so for me what mindset is is figuring out what is the energetic set point that will create success for me, almost like a thermostat and setting your subconscious mind to that level and allowing your subconscious mind to work on autopilot to help you get there. So that's what mindset is for me. And then I've also realized for myself and also for my clients, the most important thing is getting into the energy of abundance. So recognizing that when you know what your mission is, when you know what you're here to do, there's no such thing as competition. There's more than enough success out there. There's more than enough money out there. There's more than enough dream clients out there. It's all about focusing on what you do best how you can provide service and knowing that whatever you want is available to you oh my goodness I am so excited to get into all the

nitty-gritty details of this because I have to share and I'm always really open on this podcast but I literally had such a poor money mindset when I first started in business and I remember feeling exactly the opposite to what you've described. I felt like there was a shortage of money in the world. There was not enough to go around. And I'm really excited to start uncovering and talking about that because I know there's going to be lots of people listening who are going to relate. But before we do, I want you to share a little bit about your background and how this journey started for you. Yeah, absolutely. So a little background around me. It wasn't easy for me. It's not like I was

handed everything. I grew up in a single parent household. I always felt very different from everyone around me. Like all my friends had the perfect family and I didn't. At school, I was one of the very few people of color and I just always felt like I was different. And I also felt like, why does everyone else get this and I don't? I felt like bad things just happened to me a lot. And then when I was about 10 years old, my mom actually got into a really abusive relationship, which lasted for about six years. And by the end of it, I just had so much low confidence, low self-esteem being in that environment for six years. And so coming out of it on the other side, I really didn't believe in myself. I had low self-esteem. I had self-loathing. I never thought I was good enough or pretty enough or could

accomplish anything. And so my inner world, my mindset was reflected in my outer world. I worked a string of restaurant jobs and retail jobs that I didn't love. And I remember one day working in this retail job and recognizing I've been job hunting, nothing's working out for me. And I realized if nobody else was going to give me the opportunity I wanted, I had to create that opportunity for myself. And it was at that moment that I switched from saying no to myself. No, I can't have it. No, they won't hire me. No, there's no opportunities to asking myself the question that really formed the basis of my entire business, which is

what would I ask for if I knew the answer was going to be yes? Instead of expecting that people are going to say no to me or saying no to myself before even trying, what would I go after if I knew the answer was going to be yes? And I just started journaling. And it's so crazy. When I started journaling, it was like this energy came through me that took over the pen and I couldn't even keep up with all the ideas. And I just envisioned this online platform that would empower people and show them how to say yes to themselves, even if they were like me and had gone through a tough time as well. And I didn't know anything about online business. Didn't know if making money online was a scam or if it was a real thing, but I just started off as a blog. I started interviewing entrepreneurs who had found their passion and turned it into a business and sharing my point

of view and what I had learned from speaking to these people. And I realized that there's no one golden Bible of success, but the people who are successful, they're willing to figure it out. They're willing to make mistakes. They're willing to try and try until they get it. And from sharing my perspective and my story and my mindset tips, I started to attract this audience and people started to ask me, what are you doing? How are you doing this? And also people were reaching out saying that what I was doing was helping them and changing their life. And so I realized I'm able to help them this much just after my job. Imagine what would happen if I was able to do this full time. And I realized that it was actually my duty to make money from what I was doing. And

for anyone who's listening, who has a really big purpose and a really big mission, it is actually your duty to make money from doing this because then you can serve more people. Then you can reach more people. Then you can grow a team to support you or invest in marketing to share your message. And so from doing that, I started coaching. I realized I needed to be able to go so much deeper with my coaching clients and that the key to being a great coach was understanding the subconscious mind and energy. And that's when I started to train in hypnotherapy, neuro-linguistic programming, emotional freedom techniques, all the tools that we now teach in the Yes Supply Method. And I just became so obsessed with the subconscious mind and with energy. And so I just made it my mission to learn as much as possible for myself, because I knew that this was the key, and then to share it with as many people

as I possibly could. Let's take a quick pause to talk about my new favorite all-in-one platform, Kajabi. You know I've been singing their praises lately because they have helped our business run so much smoother and with way less complexity, which I love. Not to mention our team couldn't be happier because now everything is in one place.

So it makes collecting data, creating pages, collecting payment, all the things so much simpler. One of our mottos at Boss Babe is simplify to amplify and Kajabi has really helped us do that this year. So of course I needed to share it here with you. It's the perfect time of year to do a bit of spring cleaning in your business you know. Get rid of the complexity and instead really focus on getting organized and making things as smooth as possible I definitely recommend Kajabi to all of my clients and students so if you're listening and haven't checked out Kajabi yet now is the perfect time to do so because they are offering Boss Babe listeners a 30-day free trial go to kajabi.com slash boss babe to claim your 30-day free trial. Go to kajabi.com slash Boss Babe to claim your 30-day

free trial. That's kajabi.com slash Boss Babe. Oh my goodness. I love all of this. Okay. So I want to start. There's so many different places that I want to take with this conversation, but I'm going to start with talking about what is the subconscious mind? Because I think that can be a little bit deceiving for a lot of people. And I think let's start there. Yeah, absolutely. So our subconscious mind is what operates over 99% of our daily habits, behaviors, how we act, our energy, everything like that. And I didn't even know about this for the longest time. Like I just thought we had a brain, but there's our brain and there's our mind. And so the problem is most people, if they're trying to change,

they try to change consciously and they try to force it, right? It's like New Year's resolutions, they last for two weeks. So they say, I want to lose weight. So I'm just going to go to the gym and they're trying to effort and force. And that feels hard. And that's using about 0.005% of your mind. And so as soon as you get overwhelmed, you go back to old habits, but your subconscious mind, like I said, it's operating all of your behaviors. It's the reason why right now we're able to talk. And if you're like me, you're doing hand gestures, even though you can't see me right now. And our lungs are breathing and our eyes are blinking, but we don't have to say, hey, lungs, remember to breathe. Hey, eyes, remember to blink. Our subconscious mind is

doing all of that for us. When we cut our finger, our subconscious mind is what heals it for us. And when you understand the subconscious mind, you can program your subconscious mind to any amount of success that you want. So for me, when I wanted to start making six figures a month, I reprogrammed my subconscious mind to be that person. And then you turn on what's called your reticular activating system, which is almost like a heat seeking missile that's going to go after your goal for you. And you shift from trying to force or say, why is this not working? Or trying everything and nothing's working to everything happening effortlessly because you've used the autopilot function of your body and mind to get there. I love this.

This is so good. And those who listen to the Boss Baby podcast a lot know that I always like to dig a little deeper, make things super, super tangible. So I hear what you're saying around what the subconscious mind is and how we're on these programs, but how do people actually in practical terms, start changing their subconscious mind? Absolutely. So when you're age zero to seven, you're actually like a walking subconscious mind. So you don't have your conscious rationale,

the prefrontal cortex of your brain fully developed to rationalize like this is true or this is not true. That's why if you tell a kid that Santa Claus exists, they're like, okay, it makes sense. A man just comes down my chimney every year and gives me lessons for no reason. Right? So we take in everything. That's why also you can teach a kid a bunch of languages because we just soak it right in. And so the problem is if you've been surrounded by parents who say you have to work really hard for money or the media that makes you believe certain things or in school when you believe you can't make choices for yourself and you literally have to raise your hand to go to the bathroom and you don't think you have enough authority to decide on that type of thing, that all goes in and frames your beliefs and who you are and how you act.

And that lasts until about eight years old when you start to develop a conscious mind and you start to ask questions. And so your conscious mind and your critical faculty, they can reject or accept information. And your subconscious mind will never make you a liar. So let's just say you grew up around parents who said it's really hard to make money. And now you're in your twenties and you want it to be easy to make money, right? Or you want it to be easy to start your business. Even if you're hearing people who are saying, oh, it's so easy to start a business. Your conscious mind is now developed and it's going to reject that because that's not how you grew up. That's not what you originally learned.

And so if you want to change a subconscious mind, you need to use the language of the subconscious mind. So even though we speak in words, we think in internal representations, which are pictures, sounds, and feelings. So I'm going to actually introduce you right now. For everyone who's listening to you, you can do this little exercise with me. But how we store our thoughts or our beliefs around something or even our beliefs about ourselves are in these thought packages of pictures, sounds, and feelings. So Danielle, if I were to ask you, think of how much you like coffee, for example. Do you have a picture? Yeah. Or do you have an

experience? Yes, absolutely. Or think about how much you like Instagram, for example. Do you have a picture? And it's probably in a different place or it's like a slightly different color. So when I learned this, I was mind blown. So we categorize everything about our thoughts in what I like to call a holographic filing cabinet. And when you now speak the language of the mind and you know the language of the mind, you can change the characteristics of those different thoughts in a matter of seconds and instantly change how you think or feel about something. So for example, if somebody hates doing live streams, they're like, oh my God, I'm so afraid to do live streams, but I know I need to do live streams to grow my business. Just like how you

teach in your Instagram course, right? If you think about live streams and the bad feeling comes up and you're storing it in a certain place, now all you have to do is think about something that you like, and you can literally shift how you store live streams being scary, for example, and shift it to how you store something that you love to do. And instantly when you lock that in, now you're going to be like, well, that's interesting. I'm actually not afraid to do live streams anymore. So that's one tool that we teach or one tool that you can use. And so it's so funny because some people will put off doing something for 10 years or be trying to work on something forever when really, if you're speaking the language of the mind, you can make that shift in just a few minutes. Does that make sense how I

explain that? Yeah, it really does. And I'm curious, let's say someone like you make this shift and you're talking about it, just taking a few minutes. Is it normal for that shift to try and revert back? Or once you've made the shift, does it stay? So it depends if the person's in alignment, it will stick. But if they have a secondary gain, then we might just have to do a little bit more work. So every problem, this is one of the things that we teach to our coaches. We teach you how to work with your clients with a structure rather than asking questions and crossing your fingers and hoping that you get the result. We show you how to listen for the problem to understand the structure of somebody's problem. So it's how

they do the problem. If they're feeling certain negative emotions, if they have a certain limiting belief, or if they have a certain internal conflict. And so just from listening to what our clients are telling us, their story, we're able to pull out, oh, that's a limiting decision. That's a negative emotion. That's an internal conflict. And there's specific tools. I just shared with you one tool, but there's specific tools for every single thing. So when you first get to know your client, you'll be able to pull out, okay, this and this, and this is the problem. And then you have the exact tools to shift it. So another great tool as well as hypnotherapy. And so what hypnotherapy does, which we also teach is it shows you how to relax the conscious mind. So you can speak directly to the subconscious mind. So

again, if you grew up and everyone was saying, it's hard to make money, it's hard to make money, you've literally been hypnotized that way. And so now as an adult, what we can do is relax the conscious mind through our inductions or through different ways to hypnotize someone. And now when that person is nice and relaxed, you can actually say to their subconscious mind, the new beliefs or identities or behaviors they watch. So for example, you find it easy to do live streams. When you show up and do live streams, you feel excited about your content. People love to listen to you or whatever it is. And now you've just put in your subconscious mind this new set of beliefs and you've released the resistance around it.

So again, you're going to take that action that you know you need to take. This is such an important conversation. I'm so glad we're having it because I think for a lot of people, and I personally know that I was this way way back when was like, you think the way you is the always the way that you're going to be right and when people listen to these types of conversations and they meet people like you or I or other people in the boss baby network you realize that actually you have a choice on who you are you do have a choice on how your brain works and I think that is a huge revelation for a lot of people going oh I actually

feel this way but you're telling me I don't have to feel this way or I have this thought pattern you're telling me I don't have to have this thought pattern wow I want to know more absolutely I'm really curious like you said you grew up in a single parent family your mom went into a relationship that was to say domestic abuse yes it was domestic abuse and like how old were you at this point when you realize actually I don't have to think like this and I want to just understand how you ended up going into discovering this in more detail because I feel like a lot of people listening are probably where you were then and it feels that's super daunting and still even a little bit like really can I really let go of some of these beliefs yeah absolutely

yeah so before starting guest supply I was so shy like you meet me now and I can literally get up in front of 100 people and just talk all day without thinking twice about it but I was so shy that to talk to more than two people at a time, it would actually make me really hot. Like I could feel the blood rushing through my veins and feel nervous. I could not do public speaking without shaking. I remember like going to networking events and just leaving. I didn't think I was interesting or I could make new friends. I was a completely different person. So if anyone's like, oh, Reese can do it or Danielle can do it. You can do it too. And you're absolutely right. How I look at it is like, think of how you're showing up in the world, almost like

clothing in a way, right? We've taken on clothing that maybe makes us feel safe. Like somewhere along the course of my life, I learned that it was safer for me to be quiet and to stay to myself. And so that was the clothing that I was wearing for a to be quiet and to stay to myself. And so that was the clothing that I was wearing for a long time. And then when I started to discover mindset, I realized I don't have to wear these old hand-me-downs. I don't have to put on the outfit that somebody else gave me. I can decide what I want to wear. And I think that that's what helps us step into that new identity of who it is that we want to be. And now that I am her, I realized that I am my true self. Now I say what I want to say without thinking about it. I am who I want to be.

And back then when I was shy, having a conversation in my head, I was overthinking, what should I say? So the like me, what should I say? So I'll be accepted. So that shy version of me, that quiet, low self-esteem version of me, that was a false version of me just to, I guess, fit into what I think would work. And now after doing the mindset work and deciding I get to be who I want, now I am the true me. I'm my higher self. And so going back to what you were saying about those six years that I lived in domestic abuse home, like I was just going to six years that I lived in domestic abuse home, like I was just going to say like hell, but in a horrible situation, I think I had little clues along the way that what was happening to me wasn't right, but nothing really stuck until I started to

do the mindset. And where the clues actually came from was my mom, even though I grew up in a single parent household, my mom, when I was growing up in a single parent household, my mom, when I was growing up was always so positive and so happy. I remember going to the roller rink with her and she was my hero. And even though my dad was rarely there, I never missed it because she just did such an amazing job. I sent her happy mother's day and happy father's Day gifts because she's just so amazing. And then when she was in this relationship, there was this dude who was telling her she's worthless. She's not worth anything, like being violent with her, everything like that. And so it made me realize, oh my gosh, what people say about you isn't true. Because I knew that all those things that he was saying weren't true. And it also made me realize that he was projecting his own anger or his own low self-esteem or

whatever was going on with him onto her. And I've realized that during those years, but it was information I didn't really know what to do with yet. But now knowing that it's so freeing because for all of us as entrepreneurs and people doing something new, that also applies. If you want to start a business or you want to do something that's never been done before, there's going to be people who are going to say, you can't do it. You failed in math or you can't do it. Like you're the party girl or whatever. And they're just projecting their own limitations of what's possible onto you. But that absolutely has nothing to do with you. And so that's why it's so important to just stick to your mission, stay in your lane.

They will not have the vision that you have. You have your vision for a reason. And, you know, I envisioned all of the things that I have now before they were even real, like before they existed in the physical world, but my vision was so strong. And now that it is physical, now anybody who ever doubted me can see that I was right. And so a little bit of sass there, but it's like, it's so important to remember that. It's so important to remember. And yeah, it's so important to remember there, but it's like, it's so important to remember that. It's so important to remember. And yeah, it's so important to remember that, that it's like everyone around you, they might

not get it. Your mom might not get it. Your sister might not get it, but that's okay. Cause if you get it, you will create it. And it doesn't matter if you have no money or no business degree. Like that's what I started with. I started making videos with my iPhone cause I didn't even have a webcam. And it's like, you can start at absolute zero with free tools.

And as long as you have a passion, you're willing to figure it out or YouTube it or Google it or invest in yourself if you can, then you will get there. So, so true and so powerful to really own that. One thing you spoke about a little bit there, which I really want to dive a little bit deeper in is about energy and the ex-partner of your mom really imposing a lot of his energy onto her which is then impacting on you and I think it's like foreign concept for some some people are listening to it going yep totally get about energies but we all have our own energies and we vibrate at a certain frequency. So do you want to share a little bit about, because I know that you do energy work, so you talk about the power of energetics. And I think this is actually just when, for me, when I started to understand this, a lot of things fell into place.

And I'm like, oh, this is why I can sometimes feel this way when around this person. Or this is why I sometimes feel this way. And I think it's that, if I said to people, you know when you walk in a room and you're like, oh, what is this energy in here? It feels frosty. Or you meet someone and like their energy is not welcoming and they've not even said anything, but you're just like, oh. And I think it's really important for people to recognize this because for me, when I became aware of this, I ultimately became aware of my own energy and how to protect my own energy.

So share with me your understanding of energetics and how people can leverage it for the better. Yeah, absolutely. So I love talking about energy. So I'm so glad we're getting onto this topic. But one of the things that we don't realize, and I didn't realize for the longest time, is that everything is energy. And so we're so programmed to think that everything around us is physical, like the desk that I'm sitting in front of is physical, or even me and you are both physical and separate.

But the only reason it seems physical is because that's all our eyes can see. But it's like, we can't see the internet connection, right? That exists. We can't see a radio broadcast, that exists. So we have to understand that there's actually a lot happening for us at the energetic level. And so if you were to go smaller than the smallest atoms, there's electrons and protons and energy, empty space. And so with the law of attraction and the laws of the universe, you attract what you are the energy of. And it's my belief as well that our thoughts hold an energy and what we want to create actually starts in our thinking process. So this is one of the things that I teach my students. When you're taking action, you're writing your sales page or whatever, that's obviously going to contribute, but action doesn't

start or creation doesn't start or creation doesn't start when you write your sales page. It actually starts when you create the vision in your mind. And if you're doing a whole bunch of things and you don't have the vision, you won't actually see the result. And so what I found is that how I achieve my goals is I think about what do I want specifically? And then I asked myself, what energy does that feel like? What emotions would I feel in my body if I had already achieved it? Because our emotions are actually our conscious awareness of what energy we're vibrating at. And then I make sure that I stay in that energy as much as I possibly can. And I do the mindset work around it. I literally become a magnet. And so if you know

what you want, all you have to do is know what you want and allow the inspired action that comes to you through intuition to let you know what action to take, but you will become a magnet for it. And there's been so many things in my life that I literally just thought about and didn't even necessarily need to take action on them. And they showed up in my life. Going deeper into energy too, every single thing exists on a frequency. So one great thing to look up for anyone like after this call is the scale of consciousness. This comes from a book, Power Versus Force from David Hawkins. And he shows that there's a whole bunch of different frequencies. And essentially when you get to the

frequency of love, so you do what you're working on, on the energy of love, you can have such a positive impact on the people and things and opportunities around you. And your heart actually has an energetic field that allows you to become a magnet for what it is that you want. So I aim to stay in the energy of love or higher love, joy, play. You know that if you're staying in these energies, you're just becoming a magnet to all good things because good things also match that energy. And you talked about protecting your energy. That's so important too, because there's some people who are going to be at a lower frequency. They're going to be at like 100 or 200 frequency, like anger or fear or frustration. And maybe they're even taking that out on you. And what we have to recognize as well is as energetic beings,

it's so important to protect our energy. And if there's somebody around us who isn't in that energy, maybe you just have to separate yourself from the situation maybe you need to do a meditation like a cord cutting meditation or an energy clearing meditation but it's so important to stay at your higher vibration and not let other people bring you down because if you do go down to that level that's what you're gonna start to see yourself magnetize into your life really Really, really something that's, I think it's important to be aware of. And like a lot of people that say don't realize that,

but now when they're listening to it, I'd be like, oh yeah, like I'm around that person. I always come away feeling a little bit more downhearted or a little bit, my energy feels different. And so I think it's really, really powerful what you say. And I love it about the frequency of love totally I always really try and go in to things like lead with my heart because I think that's one of the most powerful things that you can do and that's when things really feel fully aligned and you can raise the frequency of your vibration one of the things that he talks

about in that book too is that everything that you do can hold an energy. So it's like, if you're starting your business or writing a book, make sure you're in a good energy before you get into do it. Don't write your book or do your sales page in a frantic energy because it will actually hold that energy. And then when people come to your website or whatever it is that you're doing, they're going to be like, like you just said, you walk into the room and you'd be like, something feels off. Something feels frantic. And so make sure that you're feeling good and you're doing what you're doing in energy of love, because whatever you're creating, it's going to hold onto that energy. There's a Japanese scientist as well named Masuro Emoto, who talks about how our words can actually change the physical reality around us. So he did all of

these experiments with water and he was able to see that if he took a vial of water and taped the word love on it, it would actually, when it's frozen, turn into these beautiful water crystals. And then if he took another vial of the exact same water from the exact same tap or lake, and he put the word hate or a negative word, it would turn into these like ugly asymmetrical water structures. It's insane. It is insane, isn't it? But at the same time, not. Yeah. And so you can look that up. And so it's so important to remember that because as humans, guess how much water we are? We're over 70% water. So if we're walking around complaining or even being around people who are in that negative

energy, that's actually changing 70% of our body. And so do we want our body to feel powerful? Do we want our auras and our energy to be powerful? Or do we want them to be affected by these negative words or the negative influences that we're being surrounded by so true i did a podcast with radhi davlukia and we were talking about ayurveda and she was sharing some of these principles but also about conscious eating and conscious cooking and she was saying exactly the same like the energy that you cook with goes into the food and so like it's really important to if you're cooking for other people to cook with love and

cooking for yourself you put energy into that food and it's a very similar principle and we were also just saying that it's funny because it seems so foreign and far-fetched to so many people yet when you actually break down the science of it it's wild that we don't know that this right from the beginning and that we aren't taught this that we aren't even talking about it because the science really is there and I think when you become aware of these things you become more conscious around one energies and to what you're putting out on the world and also what you're receiving which is really powerful to be not in control of but to be aware of yeah i totally agree i always tell people just because you didn't learn it in school doesn't mean it's not real like we didn't

learn taxes in school but they are certainly real yeah and just because you can't see it as well yes totally like internet connection it's clearly working because we're not in the same place right now, but we're talking to each other for sure. 100%. So I want to ask you about the abundance anchor. Yes, absolutely. So actually, why don't I like kind of guide you through it? And then anyone who's listening can create their own abundance anchor at home. So anchor is one of the mindset tools that we teach. And so what an anchor is, is it's a neurological connection between a stimulus and a response. So like a feeling in your body. And we've all experienced anchor. So if there's that song you hear that takes you back to a

vacation 10 years ago, or a certain smell, the Vera Wang princess perfume, it always takes me back to when I lived in Paris because I always wore that perfume. So there's anchors that happen all the time, but we can actually use anchors with conviction to help us feel the way we want to feel. And based off of our conversation that we had right now, we know if we want to be abundant and rich and be able to attract the money or the clients or whatever it is that we want, it's so important to stay in that positive vibration because the universe is interacting with us all the time and it's feeding off of our energy and it's saying like, oh, she's already grateful.

She's already abundant. She's already rich. And so it's going to bring to you, you're literally going to magnetize whatever is a match for it. So one of the tools that I love to help you stay in that abundant state is anchoring. And so all you have to do, it's really simple and really easy is we're going to do a physical anchor together. You can also do it with a scent too. If so, if there's an essential oil or something like that, you can also do it with a scent. But what you do is we're going to bring you back to a memory that helps you feel abundant.

So you can think of a time where maybe you got a raise or a random check in the mail. And so you're going to think back to that time where you felt abundant. And we're going to help you feel that feeling all through your body. And as you're feeling that feeling all through your body and you feel rich and abundant and amazing, I'm going to ask you to press down on one of your knuckles for about 10 seconds while you're feeling that feeling really strong in your body. So pick a knuckle right now. You're going to press down on it for about 10 seconds. And then what's going to happen is when you tap on it after, you're going to feel this little like zoom of abundance go through your body. And you can do this over and

over and over again. You can continue to anchor on abundance, or maybe you want to add in happy and rich and confident and all these other feelings that you want to have. And so if you're ever feeling down, or maybe you're about to do a live stream and you want to have that energy before the live stream or a talk, and you want to have that great energy, you can simply tap on that abundance anchor that you created, and it's going to bring you back to that state. Does that make sense? 100%. And so, so powerful. Yay. Okay, cool. So I'm going to ask everyone, if you're driving, maybe do this at home so you don't close your eyes, or operating heavy machinery. I'm going to ask everyone, if you're driving, maybe do this at home so you don't close your eyes. Or operating heavy machinery. I'm like, what type of machinery are people operating?

This is the warning sign for meditation. Please do not do this in the car whilst driving or whilst operating heavy machinery. What are these people operating? All right. So what I want you to do is take a nice deep breath in. Just breathe in some nice white light energy. And I'm going to ask you to think of a time where you felt totally abundant. So again, maybe you got a check in the mail, a big raise, you had a great sales day.

So think of a specific time that you felt totally abundant. So now go back to that time and float right down into your body. See what you saw. Feel what you felt, hear what you heard, feeling totally and completely abundant. And as that feeling is feeling strong through your body, press down on that knuckle for about 10 seconds and make that feeling stronger, make it more powerful, make it completely surround you. You're feeling totally abundant and amazing and when you're ready you can let go of your knuckle

and then now tap on that knuckle how do you feel oh I love it yeah I love this and like you can just tap into it yes the first time it's like a little electric signal and then you can just do this over and over and over again and you make it stronger and stronger and stronger. So I'll like tap on my anchor whenever I want to feel that abundant feeling. So powerful and so easy for people to implement as well. And I love this about this whole episode. There's just been so many takeaways from this. You've been absolutely amazing at just giving actionable items for people to go away and do and really understand that we all have control over our minds, over our mindsets, what we create in this world. And it's up to us to really take that control into our own hands. And so I just want to say thank you so much for such an amazing episode and showing up with such wisdom and knowledge today. You've been absolutely

phenomenal. Oh, thank you so much for having me Danelle. I'm so honored to be here. And so I want to give our listeners the opportunity to first of all, tag us and share their biggest takeaways. So what's the best handle for people to share with on instagram at yes supply so y-e-s-s-u-p-p-l-y amazing thank you so you guys heard that tag at yes supply tag at danielle county and tag at bossweep.inc because reese and i would love to know all about your takeaways and also see you utilizing the anchor technique i want to hear from people utilizing it because that was actually the first time that I've done it and it was really powerful so let thank you for letting me join in with that oh my gosh I'm so

excited to see all the anchors and by the way you can use them for anything so confidence happiness oh my gosh I can't wait to see them all it's gonna be amazing thank you so much Reese and we also look forward to welcoming your baby boy into the world. Yes, yes, yes. Very soon. Thank you so much. If you loved this episode, please subscribe, download a few more, and please leave us a review.

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