the bossbabe podcast - 268. BBS: The 3 Reasons You Didn't Hit Your Goals Last Year (+ What To Do About It)

Episode Date: January 10, 2023

So you missed the mark on last year’s resolutions... The real truth? Goals are meant to be hit just as much as they’re meant to be missed.  If you hit every single goal you ever set, chances are you’re setting the bar too low and limiting your potential. So how do you set healthy goals? And how do you recalibrate on goals you might’ve missed in the past? Dive into this episode of the bossbabe business school where Danielle breaks down often overlooked (yet crucial!) steps in the goal setting process + offers actionable tips and tools you can use to assess your progress, stake checkpoints for the future + begin living life as your highest self today. Highlights: Set your goals like you set your GPS – with where you started. Uncover the areas of your life that would benefit the most from positive change. Don’t treat your dreams like a task list! Learn how to TRULY embody your vision to reach your goals. Links: Wheel Of Life Workbook Uplevel Your Brain: How to Learn Faster with Jim Kwik, Brain Coach and Learning Expert Passion to Profit Training Follow: bossbabe: @bossbabe.inc Danielle Canty: @daniellecanty

A Boss Babe is unapologetically ambitious and paves the way for herself and other women to rise, keep going and fighting on. She is on a mission to be her best self in all areas. It's just believing in yourself. Confidently stepping outside her comfort zone to create her own version of success. Hey you guys, happy new year first and foremost. It's Danielle here, co-founder of Boss Babe, and welcome back to the Boss Babe podcast. So today is a Boss Babe Business School episode. But just like every single approach we take when we're doing business, we really talk about the holistic approach. And I truly believe that one

of the number one things that makes you really successful in business is really understand where you're going. But I also believe that if you want to understand where you're going, you really need to understand where you've been. And so this episode is the three likely reasons that you didn't hit your goals last year. And first and foremost, if you didn't hit them, that is okay. You're actually really not meant to hit every single goal. I feel like if you set goals that you're going to be able to hit every single year, then actually you're probably not stretching yourself enough. You're probably not pushing into the uncomfortable zone. And on my fridge,

I have a magnet that says shoot for the moon and you'll land in the stars. And I always really believe this with goal setting. But here we're now, I'm going to actually start calling it a vision. And you're going to understand why. As I go through the three main reasons that I see why people don't hit their goals year on year and how you can avoid that, you could actually really make way more progress towards that. I want to be sharing with you all the things that I've learned along my journey. So we're going to go straight to the point because you know, I don't like the fluff. I don't like the BS. I just want to give you all the lessons that I've learned so you don't have to make the

same mistakes I have. So first and foremost, the number one reason I think that people don't make the progress in a year that they want to is, like I said, they don't actually understand where they're starting. You have to look back before you can look forward. Think of this like setting your GPS in your car. It first asks you your current location, right? Before you even set your new location. Without both, it doesn't work. And the same thing applies with goals. You have to understand where you're at now to understand where you want to go. And I always review my life in eight categories. You might have seen it utilized as the wheel of life before. I tweet the categories to suit me and my lifestyle. And I want to share those with you. So first and

foremost, the reason that I recommend breaking your life down into sections is it feels a little bit more manageable. It feels a little bit more integrated and that you actually can start thinking about areas in your life where you already feel abundant, you already feel in flow and other areas that might feel like they need a little bit more attention. So these are the eight categories that I split my life into and I review each one rating it out of 10. Now, if you are listening to this, I'm going to put in the show notes a link so you can grab this Wheel of Life workbook so that you can actually do this exercise with me right now, or you can choose to do it at a later date. So the areas that I break down are personal growth.

So I always really review how I felt confidence wise this last year, how I felt about my achievements, how I have invested in my learning. And I review in this manner because it allows me to see as I go into 2023, am I already like at a good place with these bits or do I need to be creating habits to move this forward? So right now I would probably say my learning is really been about a seven in 2021. I feel like I haven't invested as much as I want to in my reading time, in my mentorship. I actually do feel like I could be investing in this further. So I'm going to give it a seven, right? And then when I come to just fast forward a second and looking at my vision, I know that, okay, I'm going to create some habits around my personal reading. I'm going to seek out a mentor,

et cetera, so that I can then notice higher into an eight, nine, and 10. So you can see how this is working, right? So if you haven't already, go print this out so you can do it with me. So personal growth, mine was a seven. I feel like I'm pretty confident I've done a lot of work on that over the last four years. It has not been an easy journey for me. And I'll share some of those things that I've done in the next one. So the next part is self-care. This is where I really evaluate my mental health and my connection with my inner self. I'm going to be really honest and upfront with you guys. 2021 was really hard for me on the self-care, like my mental health, my connection. If you remember, I actually left my relationship. So I would have said this was probably around five or six for me then. And then I did this exact same exercise in 2021. And so for 2022,

I knew that I needed to improve this. I booked Hoffman. I went to Hoffman at the beginning of February in 2022, which was a game changer for me. I really looked at my inner child stuff, any childhood traumas that I was coming through so that I could really work on this area. And I honestly feel like right now, my self-care, my mental health, my connection with my inner self is literally the best it's ever been. I would probably give it a nine and a half, 10, because I feel so supported by my mental health right now. And sure, don't get me wrong. I still have harder days, but that is actually really, really normal. We're not aiming for feeling good

a hundred percent of the time. I always say, if you don't feel the ups, you can't feel the lows. And so that really is really important to acknowledge. The goal isn't to feel happy and jolly all the time. It's just unrealistic. And if you aim for that, you're going to be really disappointed in yourself and harden yourself. But it is really important to recognize how much you are managing your mental health and how much you are pouring into yourself. So rate that out of 10 as well. Next, I would say is business. So business is strategy, like the purpose, how you feel about the success that you've achieved in 2022, the success that you've achieved in 2022, the growth that you've achieved in 2022. And the same thing, rate that out of 10.

Now I always would say as well, don't put it in a zero. If you're utilizing the wheel and you have it in front of you, that really messes this up. So make sure the bottom one is a one and really think about where are you on that business scale? And what are some of the things that you feel you've done really well in business this last year and what perhaps is there room for improvement on? I have some huge goals heading into 2023. And so where I started with my mindset at the beginning of 2022, even though there's been so much progress and so much growth, I actually, as I reflect on this and think about the goals and my vision for 2023, I'm actually

going to put that probably around a six because I really want to be making sure that Boss Babe is a household name and impacts more and more women. Because guess what? I truly believe that we all deserve to earn more wealth. And having been through my divorce and seeing the power of actually having my own money, money is choice. Having your own money allows you to be independent, to make decisions. And however you choose and what you choose to do with that is completely up to you. But at the end of the day, money is choice. And I want every single woman listening to this to have choice in the life that they're creating and they're choosing for themselves and their family and their partners. So next is health. This is physical health, sleep, relaxation,

exercise, meditations even. I always think about health. I really take a holistic approach to health too, like what I'm eating, et cetera. Am I taking my supplements, all of these things? So grading that out of 10 too. So maybe just take a second to really think about your health. Have you been getting eight hours sleep? I read, I don't know if any of you guys have read it. We've had him on the podcast too, Jim Quick. He's a brain expert. He had a brain injury when he was a kid. And so he talks about how you can learn better. He has a great book called he was a kid. And so he talks about how you can learn better. He has a great book called Limitless. And he came and spoke about this on a podcast a little while ago. If you search his name, he'll come up. And the power of sleep, if you're not

getting seven and a half hours sleep each night, your memory is actually affected. Your mood is affected. And really just seeing that as very, very important to your health and how you can support that. I completely acknowledge that if you've got newborn children or kids, like that's going to be actually really, really difficult, but what can you do that does support you in that system? Again, sometimes some of us are too busy to exercise, but time and time again, mental health and physical health improves even just walking. Like if you can't even get outside and walk, can you get a walking treadmill? Like what can you do that you're getting in 40 minutes of walking every single day? Because that is known to have a dramatic improvement on your mental wellbeing and your physical health. Just 40 minutes a day, that's it. Like even if sometimes

I just go for an evening walk with Darius, like round our block and just chatting about our day, it's not like a hike or anything, but it's just getting outside and moving woman's body if I haven't had chance to exercise. Another one is love, love, new relationships. I actually did this vision boarding, sorry, this will of life exercise before going into a vision boarding session with my girlfriends. They all came over. Some of us are in relationships, some of us aren't. And those who aren't, like one of them was like, I'm good with love. I don't want a relationship right now. And so my love, even though I'm not necessarily with a romantic partner, it's still at an eight or nine

because I'm happy with that right now. I'm happy dating. I'm happy doing what I'm doing. Cool. And then one of the other girls was like, you know what? I've been single for a little while. I actually really want to meet my partner this year. And so I'm going to grade it a two two because I recognize there's things I need to be doing. Like I need to be going on the dating apps. I need to be putting myself out there. I need to be like telling people I want to call in my partner. So what number is that for you? Then family. So I break down the quality of relationships, the energetic home life, you know, the people that are surrounding you, family, siblings, maybe if you have children, where are you on that scale? Then there's social, think about fun, recreation, time with friends. Actually, someone DMed me about this the other day. I always spoke really

openly about when I moved to Los Angeles in 2020, I literally would meet people and I would say like, oh, I've actually just moved. I'm really looking for friends. Like if you want to grab a coffee, I would love to. And I had no shame about saying what I wanted because I knew if I spoke it, I would call it into existence. And the people hearing that would either be like, oh, I actually want a friend too. Or like, you know, I don't want a friend and I don't want to go to coffee. And then I'm going to say like that, but that's also cool because then they're not wasting and I'm not wasting my time or their time going for coffee when I'm actually looking for more of a friendship than just like an acquaintance. So really think about what you're putting out there and call it in. Don't be embarrassed by your goals. Don't be shameful about your goals.

You share them, share your vision and also be honest about yourself, like where you're at. Let's take a quick pause to talk about my new favorite all-in-one platform, Kajabi. You know I've been singing their praises lately because they have helped our business run so much smoother and with way less complexity, which I love. Not to mention our team couldn't be happier because now everything is in one place. So it makes collecting data, creating pages, collecting payment,

all the things so much simpler. One of our mottos at Boss Babe is simplify to amplify and Kajabi has really helped us do that this year. So of course I needed to share it here with you. It's the perfect time of year to do a bit of spring cleaning in your business, you know, get rid of the complexity and instead really focus on getting organized and making things as smooth as possible. I definitely recommend Kajabi to all of my clients and students. So if you're listening and haven't checked out Kajabi yet, now is the perfect time to do so because they are offering Boss Babe listeners a 30-day free trial. Go to kajabi.com slash boss babe to claim your 30-day free trial. That's kajabi.com slash boss babe.

Lastly of the eight on the reflections is finances, income, investments, savings, and budgets. Like I said, this is subjective. So your tan might be at this level, someone else's tan might be at another level, but really get honest with yourself. Are you paying enough attention to your finances? Is your income where you want it to be? Have you invested the money you've got? Are you saving? Are you budgeting? What you look at and what you look after will really grow. So what is your attitude towards your finances? Do you have a poor money mindset right now that you need to be investing and grade it accordingly on that scale of one to 10 so that you know where you need to be putting your efforts in. So when you've done this and you can actually literally join all the dots up, you should be able to see whether maybe you have a nice even circle, maybe there's like spikes in your circle where you're really high in some aspects and really

low in others. And doing this allows you to realize where you want to be putting your energy. It allows you to see like, oh wow, I'm really set on self-care right now, but my finances or my social are really low. So let me think about some things and really call in my vision for the future and what I want to be doing. All right. So this is why it's so, so important to start with this reflection before diving straight into your vision. Because as you do this, I want you to start journaling about your reflections on 2022. So when you're seeing this, you're like, oh yeah, you know what? My social was really low because I realized that the people in my life are not actually people

that give me energy and that light me up. And maybe I want to think about the friendships and the people that I want to call into my life in 2023. Funny story, the society in Boss Bay was actually born through both Natalie and I feeling lonely as entrepreneurs. We were lonely in 2017 and 2018 and feeling like, where are our unapologetically ambitious friends? Like I have amazing school friends, but I don't have things in common with them. They're not ambitious. They're not entrepreneurs. And it was really hard for me to have conversations with them. And so I went and saw relationships that I had with people more in common with. So really think about that and journal so that then when you're setting your vision, you can be intentional about it. There's a saying about emails that if you like emails, other people's

priorities, right? And if you don't look after your priorities, you'll be swept in other people's. I really think about the same stands for visioning. If you don't create the vision of your life, you're going to get swept into other people's visions and create a life that is not a life that you want to create. So really bear that in mind when you are going through this process, because I see this time and time again, just people not taking that first step and reflecting on it. So don't be that person, go download this and reflect on it. So anyway, moving on, the second thing that I see is like the biggest mistake that lots of people make when they're setting goals. And this is where I'm going to start changing my wording is they go through their goals like a task list. A goal isn't about a to-do

list. It's not a productivity sheet. It's not a step-by-step process of getting somewhere. A goal should actually be your vision, like a vision of your future self. It's a dream. It's not a step-by-step process of getting somewhere. A goal should actually be your vision, like a vision of your future self. It's a dream. It's not about setting tasks to slowly get the thing done. It's about embodying the energetic frequency before you even have it. So for instance, we posted a viral clip the other day where Oprah, Sarah Blakely, Ashley Graham were all sharing the number one thing that they had in common that helped them achieve what they achieved in their

businesses and their careers. And it was that they created a vision. They embodied the person. And I always think, right, so I'm going to be really open and tell you guys on my vision board is a picture of me with my body and a picture photoshopped at the front cover of Entrepreneur Magazine, right? So I used my nifty computer skills and I took a photo of myself and I photoshopped it or I canvassed it, whatever it was, onto an image of an Entrepreneur Magazine. I printed that off and then I stuck it onto my vision board. Why did I do that? Because when I think about my long-term vision, I don't know how

I'm going to end up on the front cover of entrepreneur magazine. I just know that that woman who is on that cover, she is powerful. She is confident. She has impacted millions upon millions of women and help them achieve their goals and their own visions. That's what I care about. I'm here to help you guys make more money. I want to help more women build their own wealth. And so I put it on there because that woman shows up every single day. She posts on social media. She's vulnerable. She shares a story. She's an amazing leader. She does what she needs to do to lead a company that impacts millions of people. And so already when I put that on there

and I start embodying that energy, I'm not having drama. I'm doing business. I'm doing big things. I'm not got time for the petty little things in life. I'm not going to be stressed about things I don't need to be stressed about because I'm going somewhere. I'm going to that front cover of Entrepreneur Magazine. And so I want you to just really think about that. When you're creating your vision, you want to be embodying that image. So maybe something on your goal is like health, right? I want to have the body of my dreams, whatever that looks like. And guess what? That woman who looks like that, she fuels her body on good nutritious food. She drinks that water. She takes those supplements. She has this morning routine. She's doing these things and she has good self-confidence. She's not into body shaming.

She's not into chastising herself for not looking the way she wants to look. She embodies and appreciates every single thing that her body has done for her on this mission to be its best self as well. So can you see, like, even as I'm delivering this, my energy is shifting. And so that is the number one mistake or second mistake that people make when they're creating their vision is they go through it like a goals, like a task list. Okay. To get to Entrepreneur Magazine, I need to be doing this, this, this, this, this, this. And before you know it, you've got like a list of probably 50 things on there. Damn, that feels overwhelming. We don't

want that. So just really think about just embody, have fun with this, create a vision of a life that maybe isn't necessarily all going to be complete this year, but guess what? You're going to shoot for that moon. You're going to end in those stars. And whether you achieve it this year or you achieve it next year, it's going to happen for you, right? Picturing it as if these things have already happened. How would you behave differently? There's another story. Like, you know, let's say you want to run a marathon, right? Well, you're not going to be able to necessarily just be like, oh my God, all of a sudden I'm going to run that 20 odd miles tomorrow. No, you're going to like

work up to that. And part of that vision of running a marathon is actually just putting the sneakers on and doing some more mileage this year. All right. So just really set those visions, set those big goals. The third thing is most people think about step five versus step one. So let me explain. Once they set their vision, most people think about step five along the journey versus step one. And then they get all stressed and all overwhelmed about all these things that they need to do to either run that marathon or to appear on the front cover of Entrepreneur Magazine. And then guess what? They get overwhelmed. They start beating themselves up. They haven't actually done that thing. They're not close towards that goal by day four, month one,

month two, whatever it is. And then they give up. They're like, oh, might as well not bother, right? The point is you just need to make the first step. So let's take, for example, the entrepreneur one. So to be a pair on Entrepreneur Magazine, maybe the first step is in doing that is having a clear impact, like getting really clear on the impact that I want to create, creating that business plan. Or maybe there's a step behind that for some of you,

which is like finding your passion, finding your purpose. If you want to go and create and start a business, maybe the first thing is just to do is to find something that you love. And I do have, if you need it, I'm going to put a link to a training in here, turning your passion into a profit that you can utilize and you can take that training if that's something that you want. Maybe if we go back to the running one where you want to run a marathon, the first step isn't run 25 miles tomorrow or even run 12 miles tomorrow like that's step five. The first step is, okay, let me go buy running shoes. Let me buy some new running kit that's going to inspire me. Let me get an app. Let me join a running club. Don't get so overwhelmed and doing all the things.

The point is every single day is to make progress. So just like when we first started Boss Babe, I didn't set out to be like, wow, I want to build a multimillion dollar company. No, I started as a side hustle, you guys. I just wanted to make an extra $2,000 a month, right? I had a goal. And I've heard this story too. I had a goal. Someone asked me, how much will be your dream income in a year? And I said, $200,000. He said, double it. And I was like, and it was then took it to 400,000. I wasn't even a hundred thousand at that point, you guys. And I didn't know how I would get there, but I had a goal. I had a vision. I started embodying it like, okay, what does Danielle do who earns $400,000? Well, she has a business. She's not working for someone. Okay. So what else does she do? She's delegating. She's a leader. What else

does she do? She surrounds herself with people who are on a mission like her. What else does she do? She's delegating. She's a leader. What else does she do? She surrounds herself with people who are on a mission like her. What else does she do? She has greater impact. She stopped trading time for money. She's doing these things. And so I just want you to embody yourself, embody that future and be, take the first step. Don't think about step five. Just take the first step. So the first step right now might be like, right, okay, I know I have a lot of improvement to do. So I'm going to download the workbook and this wheel of life that Daniel is talking about. I'm going to do that. And my second step is I'm going to come to that vision warning session that she spoke about where they're literally going to help me create my vision. We're going to be doing meditations. We're going to be pulling boards together. We're going to be making desktop computer screens and phone screens so we can be reminded of that vision every single day. And guess what we're going to do after that?

You're going to surround yourself with badass women like you, boss babes like you, who are going places, who are more interested in doing business versus drama. Be so conscientious about the energy that you are absorbing right now. Okay? This is a new year. It's a fresh start, fresh habits. Make sure your habits are going to serve you. And when you fall off the wagon, because you sometimes will, don't beat yourself up about it. Hop back on and don't worry about it. Just keep looking forward. I hope you have enjoyed this behind the scenes Boss Bay Business School episode. It just felt really important for me not to do one that's 100% focused on business, but really just helps

all of you on this journey that we call life. I don't want you to make the same mistakes that I made and I really can speak for heart. And when I say vision boarding and analyzing where I've been and where I'm going to is one of the biggest learnings. And one of the things that I will pinpoint all my change stemming from, like I literally started vision boarding and goal setting and reviewing in 2017. And that's when my life changed. So I just wanted to pass on that piece of wisdom. And if it's worked for me, I know it's going to work for you because I'm not special. I'm just like you. I'm a girl with a dream, but I just took action towards it.

So if you loved listening to this episode, please, please, please share with me your goals. Message me, DM, share this podcast with your listeners because I just really want more women believing in themselves. That's so important to me. And so if you have someone in your friendship group, in your family that you're like, you know what, you need to have this podcast because you need to believe in yourself more because I know you are going to go and do epic things. And I want

you to believe in yourself as much as I believe in you, then please share this up with me in the world to me. And I also know that they will probably benefit from the encouragement. Bye for now. And I will see you on the next couple of episodes. Thank you so much for listening. And if you enjoyed this episode on the Boss Babe podcast, then I'd absolutely love it if you leave us a review. As a thank you, we'll send you our side hustle success kit, your simple no BS guide to keeping track of everything that you need to do to start and grow your business. To access this freebie, all you need to do to start and grow your business. To access this freebie, all you need to do is leave us a review, then share a screenshot of your review with contact at bossbabe.com and we'll send this must-have kit straight to your inbox. Outro Music