the bossbabe podcast - 395. Life Update: Avoiding Burnout, Having High Standards + “Balancing” It All
Episode Date: June 29, 2024Let’s do a quick life update with Natalie! She’s sharing everything from her updated morning routine, childcare status, how to say “no” as a full sentence, and all the other realtime things th...at are top of mind. So press play for a little coffee chat! TIMESTAMPS 0:30 - Recent Life Updates 2:00 - New Routines + Habits 3:33 - Push + Pull Seasons 5:09 - New Morning Practice 7:18 - No Is A Full Sentence 10:10 - Childcare Update + Letting Go of Expectations 13:00 - Being Fully Present 15:00 - Natalie Co-Founded A New Company Called Glōci RESOURCES + LINKS Try Glōci + Use Code “bossbabe” To Unlock A Discount On Your Order! Join The Société: Our Exclusive Membership To Help You Build A Freedom-Based Business. Here’s The Morning Read That Natalie Mentioned: “The Pivot Year” by Brianna Wiest. Get Our Weekly Newsletter & Get Insights From Natalie Every Single Week On All Things Strategy, Motherhood, Business Growth + More. Drop Us A Review On The Podcast + Send Us A Screenshot & We’ll Send You Natalie’s 7-Figure Operating System Completely FREE (value $1,997) FOLLOW bossbabe: @bossbabe.inc Natalie Ellis: @iamnatalie
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welcome back to the bossy podcast all right today i just want to drop in for a little mini
a little catch-up i'm sitting have a raw milk cappuccino i've got a little smoothie
and i just wanted to kind of turn on the microphone and just have a raw milk cappuccino I've got a little smoothie and I just wanted to kind of turn on
the microphone and just have a little life update see where everyone is at I oh my god so I got the
flu which turned into full-on bronchitis and I was sick for a good two weeks I fully lost my voice
had to cancel a bunch of podcasts um put up some repurposed episodes instead, which thank goodness
I have. It was rough. It was intense. We've moved through that now. So that feels really good.
And we are prepping for a full summer of travel, going to a house in the UK for just over a month.
And then we're spending some time in California. And I'm just really excited to change up the
energy and change things up a little bit. I feel like this year I have gotten sick so much more than I've ever gotten sick before like when
I was pregnant and breastfeeding which in total was three years I didn't get sick once literally
nothing I felt like I was completely untouchable and then I stopped breastfeeding and it feels like
I got hit with every single flu.
So I'm telling myself I'm going through a cellular upgrade right now because my immune system is normally rock solid. So that's what I'm telling myself. That's the story that I'm sticking with.
But it has really, really forced me to slow down even more this year, which actually has been such a blessing because I feel like the more that I slow down the happier I am the more perspective that
I have on everything business life all of it it just feels so much better so that's the season
that I'm in I am really just honoring my body and I'm listening to the fact that I keep getting sick
and assuming that it's my body trying to tell me something and just writing it so I've been
doing a lot of reading I've been spending a lot of time on my PEMF mat which by the way I think
gives me the best sleep ever like I'm really seeing a difference with it I've started working
with a health coach again I'm working with my life coach I'm doing um some online certifications and deepening my knowledge of
the nervous system I'm like just going all in on myself right now and that feels so good because
when I bought my co-founder out of Boss Babe I had to go really hard in the business like I
wanted to completely change up the way things had been and the way I wanted to run things and it's and it worked you know the
revenue has never been better the profit is actually mind-blowing that's six six x profit
um you know the team has never felt like it's in a better place all of the things feel great but it
was also a lot of work like that didn't just happen overnight that wasn't like I clicked my fingers
and it happened so I feel like now I'm in
a season of of me and you know we've been thinking about baby number two and when we want to start
trying again and I'm sure that's going to be in the near future but I want to just do all the
things to really dial in my health and dial in me and my happiness and my well-being my mental health
all the things and I feel like that's very
very challenging when you're also in a season of going really hard with work um and one thing that
I wanted to mention too is like I do feel like as entrepreneurs we have push and pull seasons
where I don't know about you but there's some seasons where I am so lit up I am so energized
I have like I just want to go all out. I have massive goals. I'm super
ambitious and just really, really motivated. And there's other seasons where I don't feel like that
at all. I want to cocoon. I want to hibernate. I want to pull back. And what I have really learned
in my career is honoring those seasons is incredibly important. When you're in a push season, going all out,
not holding back and just letting yourself pour your ideas, your creativity, your energy into
your projects and really going all out. But when you're in a pull season, allowing yourself to pull
back, not expecting yourself to continue running at the same energy you were when you're in a push season.
Really honoring where you are at.
I think we have to do that as entrepreneurs.
Especially, you know, those of us that have been in entrepreneurship or been in our careers for quite a long time.
If you are constantly pushing and you're not honoring those seasons, it's just such a recipe for burnout.
And when burnout really hits hits you are so forced to
slow down you do not have the option to push forward you have to slow down so I am honoring
that for myself especially in this season but it is one lesson that just continues to come to me
over and over and over again so that feels really good just to hear my body and listen to my body
and take the time to tune in and
and just yeah understand where I'm at one thing I've also been doing in this season
is every morning uh Brianna Wiest I think that's how you pronounce that name she just released a
new book called The Pivot Year I love all of her books she's amazing and this is basically um a
passage that you read every single day for a year. And it's a year of pivoting and stepping into what's next for you.
And I feel like every year for me is a pivot year because every year I'm changing.
Every year we're going through so much, we're evolving.
So every year is a pivot somehow.
And so I'm loving doing this every single morning.
It's the first thing I do when I open my eyes.
Stephen normally goes and gets Noemi and while he's making her a bottle and things like that I
open this book and I read the passage and then once it's very short and I put it down I think
about it so versus like hopping into my phone or hopping into distraction I read something and I
sit with it Noemi comes in I give her a bottle snuggle her and I'm still thinking about that
passage one of them that I read I posted on my Instagram but I wanted to read it out because
just so much of this resonated with me and I feel like, I feel like I know you guys, I feel like
it's going to resonate with you too. Let me read it to you. One day you will realize that happiness
is not what your house looks like but how you love the people within its walls. Happiness is not finding success
by a certain time but finding something you love so much time itself seems to disappear. Happiness
is not thinking you have earned the world's approval but waking up each day and feeling so
at peace within your own skin, quietly anticipating the day ahead, unconcerned with how you are
perceived. Happiness is not having the best of everything but the ability to make the best of anything. Happiness is knowing you are doing what you can
with what you are given. Happiness is not something that comes to you when every problem is solved and
all things are perfectly in place but in the shining silver linings that remind us the light
of day is always there if you slow down enough to notice.
And there was a couple of things in this that really, really stood out to me.
One of them was being unconcerned with how you are perceived.
So one thing I've been talking to my therapist about is,
I feel like I get a lot of inbound.
Do you want to do a launch?
Do you want to hang out?
Do you want to come on my podcast?
Like a lot of great inbound, but I'm in a season of of pull pulling back and not wanting to do all the things right and I was talking to her like how do you turn down those things and she was reminding me she was like Natalie no is a full
sentence and the only reason you don't use it as such is because you are very concerned with how
you're perceived so if you are unwilling to say no and
you feel like you've got to have this elaborate excuse or you've got to go ahead with it just
because you want to be liked or whatever it's because you're thinking about how you want to
be perceived and that really really landed with me because I do feel like I am a recovering people
pleaser and my work right now is being able to use no as a full sentence and trusting that you know someone is going to
be doing their own work to understand it's not about them it's just no is a no I was listening
to an episode um of a new podcast by Andrew Wilkinson called never enough and Sam Parr was
on that and he was talking about how his default is always no do you want to hang out no do you
want to do this thing no his default is no and that really serves him because he can really prioritize his priorities and his inner
circle and his family and you know it doesn't mean that he's never making new friends but it's not a
season of new friends and I love that episode and the way that he was talking about it really
resonated with me because I just feel like we're in a society where we there's constant contact right it's like the dms and the texts and the calls and there's just
so much going on all the time there's constant contact and I don't feel like biologically this
works for any of us like it's so jarring on the nervous system to be in constant contact with so
many people all day every day and I don't like it
I'm sure most people don't like it like yes it's great to be able to check in on family and friends
that you don't live close to and it's great to be able to have a community that you lean on and all
the things and there's part of me that just daydreams about having a new phone when no one
has my number and that's the phone that I mainly use and I just check in on my like
normal phone once a week but it sometimes feels like there's so much constant contact that that
is like a pipe dream so that was a big thing is like okay I'm gonna start just just saying no and
working with that part of me that wants to be liked and is concerned about how I'm perceived
and like being okay maybe not being liked or being okay with like someone might not like you or no
and that's okay and then another part of this that really stood out is um happiness is not
something that comes to you when every problem is solved and all things are perfectly in place but
in the shining silver linings that remind us the light of day is always there if you slow down
enough to notice so I've kind of talked on this podcast about our child care this year it's been
quite sporadic um our nanny left as she is ready to start her own family which is beautiful and
we've been interviewing and just haven't found the right fit and I was chatting to Lindsay I was like
why am I just not saying yes to someone that doesn't feel like a hundred percent a yes like
why kind of like why do I feel like I need excellence in this role why can I not just
like say yes to child care like make my husband really happy and like even if it's not perfect
child care it's child care and she said to me she was like well you do have a standard of excellence
in your life which I do like I hold people to really high standards and it's kind of like
like if you're on my team that either works for you or it doesn't but there's no compromises
there and I do feel the same way and she was like you know you have the kind of schedule where you
can spend most of your time with Noemi and yes there's certain work calls where you might need
to put the screen on for her to be distracted while you take a work call or whatever but that's
a high standard of care and you don't then want to outsource child care to someone who's going to do a worse standard of care than you and that's
that resonated I was like yeah I don't so I haven't had child care for months now like every
now and then I'll get some but it is very very rare that I have child care and so it's made me one work a lot less and work a lot smarter but secondly while it feels like
that could be a situation for chaos I've actually let it be a situation of pure joy like how
incredible that I get to be with my daughter full-time and how incredible that I have the
choice because so many people don't and then all of the other things like I don't think parenthood
and motherhood is stressful I think the stress is all the other shit that you're expected to do alongside it
I have just let my expectations drop on everything else like if all I did in the day is play with
Noemi that was a successful day because that was my priority for the day and I might be behind on
some stuff at work I might be behind on the laundry whatever it and I might be behind on some stuff at work I might be behind on the
laundry whatever it is I might be behind on but actually just letting myself be behind and not
having all the expectations to do all the things and be all be everything to everyone has been
really freeing so I've been really enjoying this season and just what's in my head is like you know
I don't have that long with her being at home you know at some point she's gonna go to like a little preschool or a nursery and I won't have her at
home and to have that time with her now I'm really I'm in a place of really soaking it up and enjoying
it but I do realize the times like when say my nanny would call in sick and I have this crazy
work schedule and I'm trying to do child care I would get so stressed out and feel so chaotic
like I just don't do well in stressful like I just do well in calm environments and I'm just not
letting myself be in that place so that what that those words really resonate with me that whole
passage was like yes yes yes that's exactly where I'm at right now and it feels so good and so just
wanted to share that because maybe you're in a season where things aren't
perfect right now maybe there are things you would change but it's like can you be in the season like
be so fully present in the season that it feels good that's where I'm at right now and it's and
it's so freeing to just be so present with where you're at. Like be where your feet are and be so present, be so all in.
And then also working on the people pleasing and like how you're perceived.
And like I think about like what would I do differently if I was so not concerned with how I was perceived?
What would I say no to?
What would I say yes to?
Like how would my life be different if I felt that way and it's
something that I try to journal on and whenever I do there's always some things that come up that
I'm like oh I didn't realize that was there but if it's coming up it's obviously something that
needs addressed so just wanted to share that that's just kind of where we're at right now
just a little mini life update but I right now I feel really excited about the podcast I feel excited about our
newsletter our membership and beyond that I just feel like I don't want to do anything else work
related like I'm not in a space of like trying to grow like crazy I'm not trying to start new
projects I'm just trying to really be present with what I have got and go all in there and do
my best work while also just prioritizing the rest and the pull season that I'm in. So like having
that awareness of am I in a push season or am I in a pull season and going with that has been amazing.
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feeling good i'm very excited for a European summer a Californian summer getting out
of Austin for a little bit and just seeing where that takes me um so yeah hope you guys have a
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