The Bossticks - 10 Tools To Make 2025 Your Best Year Yet: Habits & Mindset Shifts Ft. Michael & Lauryn Bosstick

Episode Date: January 2, 2025

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She's a lifestyle blogger extraordinaire. Fantastic. And he's a serial entrepreneur. A very smart cookie. And now Lauren Everts and Michael Bostic are bringing you along for the ride. Get ready for some major realness. Welcome to the skinny confidential. him and her.

Hello, everybody. Happy New Year. I couldn't quite tell if you were doing a selfie there if we were going or not. New Year, new you, new me,

knew all of us. Is it a New Year? It's new me. Maybe say me. Anyways, guys, I want to start the New Year off by addressing the elephant in the room that has been the elephant in the room

for a long time. We finally were able to fix the levels of the student. no more commenting. Take creatine, Your Honor. All these people out there is this big speculation. Why are you above the guest? Why you put the guests like this?

Listen, guys, when we built the studio, somebody's fuck up, Carson, I don't want to say it was yours. I'll take accountability, Carson. But anyways, long story short, we built the studio. It was actually me. Somebody who set the studio up wrong. And so whatever. I was like put us in like a box area situation

where we're like the DJ. Yeah, but it was. I know, but it didn't land on video. If you guys don't know what we're talking about. Oh, they know what we're talking about. Okay, if you don't know what we're talking about, though, we designed a studio. It's amazing. It's in Austin, Texas.

But when we designed it, the area that Michael and I sit at is higher than the guest. So it looks like we're looking down on the guest. They know. They know. They've commented. They've been tearing us apart. I don't read a lot of the comments sometimes. I understand that.

Listen, we've only been doing this show for about 10 years. How are we supposed to know how to set up a studio? So, right? Anyways, long story short, guys. It's the work in progress. We wanted to fix it for a long time, but we record so frequently because we're producing these episodes so often that we didn't have enough downtime to get somebody in here to take the whole thing apart and reset it. Recently, we just went to California for two weeks.

We're recording over there doing holiday party, end of your stuff in that office, and we had the time to set it. So now we fix the studio. You know what you've been saying. We get it. It's been awkward for us, too. New Year New Studio. Okay.

Let's hop right into it. 10 things that we are doing this year that we hope will inspire some of you. Are you going to look at me during the episode? Are you just going to... No, I don't want to look at you because I like this angle of myself. All right, fine. So I'm just going to side peripheral you and talk to you like this. It's really awkward because I'm staring at the side of your head trying to have a conversation with you.

Some people aren't watching this episode. They're listening, so it's fine. I'm peripheraling you out of my eyes. You're going to have to deal with it. At some point, we're going to figure out just the right geometry, trigonometry, algebra to get this studio set up so that we can actually look at each other, get the right angles, have the right height. We'll figure it out, promise. Okay, guys, so we wanted to do an episode to kick off the year to talk about. It's actually things that Lauren and I do every year at the start of a new year to completely enhance our year, change our lives, improve, get better, start it off on the right foot. We thought sharing it with you guys as we move into 2025 would be beneficial for those. that can maybe take some of what we do and apply it to their own life so that you can also have a fabulous year. So this episode, we're going to talk about these 10 things we do. I have five. Lauren has five. Lauren, do you want to kick it off? Well, first I just want to say that this is kind of like

an audit. So what, like personally, what I did is I looked at my last year. I looked at the areas where I think that I could improve for the upcoming year. And I wrote down all of those areas that I wanted to improve, but typically what I do with this is I do like a think week. My favorite, my favorite, I don't know if I'm going to be able to get through this without looking with you looking at me. This is so awkward. My favorite thing to do, my favorite time of the year, literally no one can unsee this, is the second to the seventh. January 2nd to the 7th. Then I'll tell you why. Everyone is exhausted by their family from Christmas or the holidays. And then they're exhausted. from the new year, so no one is like on it, which is so nice because it gives you actually

space to have clarity. So I do a think week from the second to the seventh and I go over everything I want all my intentions, all my goals, all my systems, everything. And I put it into a journal of what I want to accomplish for the upcoming year. And then I'll write a page of all my ideas that I want to get done by the end of the year and I'll fold it up and put it in a drawer. And I'll get to the end of the year and make sure I did all. Are you talking to me? Are you just talking off into space? This is anyways. I think we should run a poll. Okay. I think the best time of the year is the 26 to the 30th because everybody's out and checked out and it's wrong. You get quiet time. Because everyone's back the second though. Everyone's ready to go. They're nailing your inbox. Yeah, they're nailing your inbox. Do a poll. Go comment on

our latest Instagram. No one is ready to go the second. They're burnt out. They're tired. They're done. They want time to themselves. It's time to recharge the battery. No, Carson, what's better? Sorry, I was spacing out. Goddell. Is anybody listening to this episode? I was fixing the middle camera. Okay. Okay. Listen, I'm telling you, the question is, what is the most quiet, best organized week to kind of like go introspective? No, no, no, no.

Wait too long in the two's question. Okay. What is the question? What is the best time of the year to have space to yourself? The 26 through the first? No. I said 26 through the 30th. Or the second, January 2nd to the 7th. I think there's second to the 7th. Yeah, 100%. Carson, we're back in office on the second. You better not be having spaced yourself.

You better be back on it. You're not, you know, no. Trust me. I'm telling you, because 26 to the 30th, nobody's around. Everything's shut down. My think week is the second through the 7th of January. So what is, is this your first thing you do is you take the think week?

I do my think week. That's number one on the list. You take a think week. No, no, no. That's not on my list. I pulled my list out. Oh, Jesus. Okay.

So I wrote my list out. I wrote it in my notes app. And I'll go first with mine. So you can do number one first. Yeah. Something that is so important to me, and I feel like this is important to you too, and I cannot perform like the athlete that I want to perform at in business if I don't have this is space.

Space on my calendar is something that is like, it's probably the most important thing because I can choose what to plug in to that space. So when I first. started the blog, everything was, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, I can do it. Yes, I can hustle. Yes, yes, yes, yes. Yes, got me so far for like nine years. And then yes, stops working for you. You have to learn to say no and you have to have sort of this transition. And now I'm at the space where I have said no to a lot of things for the last like, I don't know, five years. But now I'm at the point where this upcoming year, I want to see gaps on my calendar. Katie, I hope you're listening.

And I've noticed with even being your wife that if you don't have space on your calendar, you're not as efficient. Yeah, but I do think to play devil's advocate for people that are listening, there is a period in your career, you know, we're going to get a little older here here, where you have to have a lot more yeses in the beginning than knows.

Absolutely, absolutely. Luckily now, I mean, we've been doing this for a long time. You can have a few more knows, but I agree with you. I think in order to, You have to say yes for a long time in order to create opportunity, but then at some point, once you've drummed up some opportunity for yourself, and we did an episode with Ryan Holiday on this, then you have to kind of step back and protect those opportunities by saying, no, you can't just say yes forever.

He has this funny meme on his page where it's like all these different blocks on his calendar. And the first one's like, no, I cannot get my brain picked for coffee. I will be reading. And the next one's like, no, I cannot go to your event. I will be working on building my business. And like, that's kind of how I'm looking at it. And to be really honest, I'm just at a space in my life right now where if I don't want to do it and it's not moving the needle towards something that I'm super passionate about,

the show, my product line, my family, it's going to be a no for me. And I'm actually really comfortable with saying that. I used to be like, oh, no, but if I don't want to do it, I'm not doing it. That's just where I'm at. And that's this year. It's like that that's it. So what's the takeaway? Okay.

So the takeaway is what will I be filling that space? with because I think that that's the takeaway for the audience if you do want to create more space on your calendar. So what are you filling the space with? I like to fill it with creating, writing. If you want to write a book, you can fill that space every day with 20 minutes a day of writing that goes towards the bigger picture, which is a book. You've always wanted to write a book, get some free space on your calendar. You could fill it with meditating, which is going to center you, it's going to relax your nervous system. You could fill it with working out. You could fill it with taking a walk. You could fill it with, I don't know, making a morning coffee. The point is you're filling

it with things that you feel like move the needle for you to be better. So you're not just opening space to do nothing. You have to fill it. My thing is, yeah, like open the space, but be intentional about the space. So like for me, I have in my calendar, I know you have this too reading for an hour at night. That's in both of our calendars. That's open space. I like to open space in my calendars to be with my kids. So when I pick them up from school, I'll open space to bake cookies. It can be really simple, but it's opening space to do what you actually want to do. My first thing, I do this at the beginning of every year. Lorne knows I do this. I've talked about it on a solo episode. It's a system that I call the 7-1-1, which again, I didn't come up with, but it's something that I implement.

I start every single year with the overall theme of what I want that year to be. So for example, in 2023, that theme was, I need to develop a fitness routine that I stay consistent with. And the theme was like, that's like everything else in my life worked around that routine. The theme of this year was like, I want to get in great shape. I'm almost approaching my 40s. I want to be in the best shape of my life by the time I'm 40s. So this year, the theme was health, fitness, wellness, getting my sleep under control, getting my diet under control, getting my body in shape, all these things. The theme of this year, now that I feel like I have a base is I just want to be an absolute beast in business this year. I want to go really hard. I want to get all the distractions out. I want the theme of this year to be,

when you look back on it, be like, this guy just crushed his business this year. And so anyways, I think overarching the takeaway here is that I pick a theme and I think anyone can pick a theme for what they want the overarching theme, again, I'll say it again, of their year to be. And then I implement the 7-1-1 strategy, which I've talked about before, but which I will remind everyone here again. The 7-1-1 strategy is you create a goal list of what you want to happen. in seven years. And the reason it's seven years is that gives you enough time and enough future perspective to pursue big goals. So you write down a list of maybe four or five things that you want to happen in seven years. That could be, you know, you want to be married or you

want to have a house or you want to have X amount in savings or you want to have X children or you want to be in this really whatever the whatever it is in seven years that you want to happen. And I think you can get specific with that. Like I want this kind of house or this kind of family or this kind of savings account or whatever it may be. then the next part of that is I do the one, which is a year. What do I need to do in one year's time? And I literally write this out, what needs to happen this year, this year being 2025, for me to move as far as I can against the goal that I've set for myself in the future of seven years.

And then once I know what this year needs to look like, for example, that might be, I need to save $20,000 in one year, or I need to get in a serious relationship in one year, or I need to be going to the gym or I need to whatever it may be. You set that year and then the last part is the last one, which is one month. What are the systems and things you need to do every single month to execute against that one-year goal? I think if you create a theme overall for the year, like I said, in my case, I want to really focus on my business. And then you have long-term goals in seven-year window to pursue against. And then you have a one-year plan mixed with one-month goals, you'll just start.

to be able to execute efficiently all the time. I think the biggest mistake people make is they make these huge goals with no execution plan and then they don't get anywhere. So pick a theme, do the 7-1-1 rule. That's how I would start every year. And that's what I think everyone else should do as well. I also think, though, that you need to talk about little things around being a beast in business, meaning you told me this, like you're going to drink less alcohol, which is then going to make you a beast in business. You're going to blank to blank. I think you need to give like, like little, because you're not just saying I want to be a beast in business. So if you pick a theme for your year, then what you're doing is you're also taking on an identity.

So if I want to be, quote unquote, a business beast, that's what I call me. But if you just say you want to crush your business this year, or your job, whatever may be, your career, then you take that on as identity and say, if you're going to be someone that's doing those things for this year, then it, then what would that kind of person who does those things do? Well, that means you can't be out at the bar every night drinking until 2 a.m. That means you... That's never really been new though to begin. You can't be playing video games all the time. You can't be trying to go on 18 million dates.

You can't be distracted. You have to say yes to a lot more things to move the business forward. You have to get uncomfortable. You have to maybe stretch yourself in a way that you wouldn't be. If you're in a company, maybe you have to volunteer more. You have to speak more. Whatever it may be. But by taking on the identity of what somebody that is a quote unquote business beast or career beast would do,

it helps you eliminate because you can ask yourself, what would that person not do? And so whenever I go into these years, like, for example, this year, if I want to be a healthy person, that means a healthy person eats well, goes to the gym consistently, sleeps well, takes care of themselves. You know, you're not eating McDonald's every night or treating yourself poorly because it's not what a healthy person would do. Are you at request for coaching? Sure. Do you have a request box? Actually, you know what? Now the way you're saying it, I don't know if I'm at request for coaching. I changed my mind. I have a request to put in the request box. Can 2016 be, I'm going to be a beast husband?

2016? Like when we got married? Yes, you got it. That's the year we got married. Nailed it that year. 26 should be that you are going to be a beast husband. Not next year. No, I'll skip a year.

I could, you know. Not 2020. I already made the theme in this year. Okay, so 2026. 2026. I'm going to be a sex machine. That's not what I was referring to, but, Sure.

Okay. Lauren, what's your number two? Number two. I guess this is me number three on our list. No, it's number two. Well, it's number three on the overall. You did one. I did one.

And I wrote three. Okay. So we recently had Mel Robbins on the podcast. I find her to be very interesting. And I think that her theories are very digestible and applicable. I think it's something you could wake up tomorrow and apply her five second rule. I think is a really good one to get you going. But the one that resonated for me is in her latest book.

let them and then let me. So she said it's like a two-part thing. So let people do whatever they want to do, just let them, but then let me. And I think let me is like, I'm going to respond how I think I should respond accordingly. And I think using that theory is so amazing because it doesn't allow you to give energy towards things that aren't moving your needle. And it doesn't, it doesn't, you don't really have the capacity to deal with everyone's bullshit. So I got her book. I've been highlighting it. I highly recommend it. I think it's a really good easy theory to apply to next year. And it truly gives you more gas in your tank to do things that are more productive. Quick break to talk about Symbiotica. You're currently listening to an episode all about starting the

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You're not going to be a backseat driver. You're not going to be micromanaging my time on X. That's fine. Well, yeah. You're not going to be wondering what I'm doing if I'm, you know, playing my games or... What game do you play? Tell everyone what game you play. He loves these games.

No, what I... No, what's the game? So tangent, I was talking to Dr. Craig Conover, who's our doctor, and he was saying, he looked at all my blood work. He's like, I think you should go and do something that's just good for your mind, de-stressing, and just like go back to play video games because they're active, you're actively participating, but you're also zoning out. So I don't, you know, I just play.

What's the game you play? I played Wukong. Carson knows that. I love that game. That was a good game. I'm playing Call of Duty six right now, but that's like you could do that on and off. I got this new Star Wars game. Didn't like that one that much. Okay. I got... It seems like playing games is like my housewives. Yeah. I just like go and I zone out. Okay. Hang out. But anyways, okay, I'm just going to hold you two that you're going to let me... I don't think you can't. My husband, you're not on porn. You're on games. No, um, I don't think.

guys should watch porn. Oh, here's a here's a twist, Carson. This wasn't expected in this episode. Okay. I've talked to too many people. It's just not it's not good for your sex life. It's not good for your attention. Lately, I'm not going to judge if you've watched porn. I've watched porn. I've watched porn on the past, but I don't find it protected. I think it lowers your testosterone. Maybe, maybe I'm myth about that. I think it's bad for your dopamine. We've also, we've talked to porn stars on the show. And after hearing their stories, I, um, or you got turned off on it after talking to porn stars on the show. talked to Lana Rhodes and she's like a prominent adult performer. Adult filmstores, is that what you call him? And after hearing, like, she was like, I didn't enjoy it. I didn't like,

I don't like the idea that someone's not enjoying. I think you had a daughter too. Yeah. Anyways, I've just found more productive things to do. You know what? Also, like, I'm fine if people watch porn, do you? I like a little porn sometimes. But there's something like, I don't know if it's Taylor's visual, but like a guy just actively, like, beating his meat alone in a room that's dark that feels like really. Guys, I got, I got. It feels like a lot. And I don't know if it's because Taylor confessed on the show that he watches it three times a day,

but it's just in my head. Let me paint a picture for you, Carson. Stuck in my head. Taylor stuck in my head. I've got young children running around, a wife. We've got nannies. We've got people in and out of the house all the time. The last thing I need is for someone to bust into the room with my ankles.

or my pants down around my ankles, beating my meat in the corner. Like, it would just be devastated. Like, that's just not, I don't need that to happen in my life. I'm way too far along to, like, get caught in that position. Okay. You know what I mean? Like, that would just be terrible. Can you imagine?

I was like, hey, I got the new flower collection for whatever you're putting in the hell. You know what? If I catch you watching porn, you know what I'm going to say? Let them. You won't care. I mean, that's the thing is, like, I would rather not have the porn than even risk for a second getting caught in that. house. I would love to catch you watching porn.

No, and imagine like the face. No, I would just love it. That's every guy's worst nightmare to be caught with that face alone. And that face is, that face is tough. You know, like, everyone's like, oh, you shouldn't be ashamed. Like, you should talk about sex. Some things you should be ashamed of. You get caught with her hands down on your ankle and your house.

Remember when we were in Aspen and I took Weston's phone and was like trying to order something and like all this porn popped up? Just put it, okay, I guess we're just going to put him on blast. Okay, what's your number two? Okay, this is number four now. Okay, Michael, whatever. Number four is I think this is a really valuable exercise that everyone can do that we don't do enough as people. And that is to make an audit list of what worked and what did not work in the year.

So that's a good one. Literally, you could create a T chart. Remember those old T charts you created in school? And you say on one side, what worked for me and the other side, what didn't work for me? And you could go down and you could say the routines that work, the routines that didn't work. You could say, you know, the habits that work, the habits that didn't work. You can say, you know, if you've been watching politics for the last eight years through two different administrations and you haven't been executing because you've been telling yourself that this administration's holding you back, maybe that's not working. I just went on a tangent.

Friends, relationships, all sorts of things. You could really and go through honestly, this is the hard part because a lot of us struggle with self-awareness, going through and saying, like, what really was serving me and what really was not. by the end of that list, you'll have a blueprint of what you should continue doing in the future and throughout the year what you should do more of and what you should maybe think about eliminating or doing less of. I think friends is a good one too. If you're constantly complaining about a friend, it's just not working. To me, I would rather walk on the beach.

I would rather take a walk outside. I would rather meditate. I would rather eat good pizza with my kids. I just, if it's not someone that you're really excited about, it might not just be a fit. And listen, there's different seasons of friendships. If you're constantly complaining about the same friend over and over, you're the problem, not the friend. Yeah, but you could even do it with content. Like what content's been working for you?

What's not been working for you? What's not been working? What's not? Like all of these things. I think we go through life and we just get into these habits and these routines doing the same things and the same patterns over and over. We don't stop enough to assess what's working and what's not. And this could even be for what's going on with dating or in relationships. Like once you go through the list and you're honest about it and you, and you, you put as many things on there as you can,

then you can at least move forward into the next year or this year with an idea of what you should keep doing and which you should maybe think about eliminating. Taylor should audit his Google history and look at all the different kinds of plethora of porn that he's been watching and see what's been working for him and what hasn't. I bet, I know we're on the porn tangent,

that if more guys were honest about if porn is working for them or against them, you would have less, people participating. And again, I have no problem. Like, if that's your thing, that's your thing. But if you're coming too quick in the bedroom, that's probably a problem. Yeah, or if you're having intimacy issues or if your testosterone's low or if you're not getting dopamine or if maybe you can't get turned on. Like, there's, there's a million things that I think that causes issues with. But anyways, um, hopefully Taylor's editing this. Okay, this one, I think every single person on the planet who has a phone needs to think about having really purposeful boundaries around my phone.

my 2025 energy. I don't want to be someone that is like Iqabod Crane. Like I don't want to be Iqabod Crane in my phone. I don't want my kids to see that. I want to put away my phone every single time I come home and spend uninterrupted, fully present time with them with my husband at the dinner table. I don't want a phone. I don't want to use my phone when I'm walking to the bathroom. I just, I want to be thoughtful about it because what I'm noticing is that everyone around us is addicted to their phone. Like, it's, it's honestly crazy. And I'm not discluding myself. It's just like we can't do anything without the phone. And so this year, I want to almost be like really mindful of when I'm using it and when I'm not. And one thing I've done, yes? I'm just waving at you

because it's really awkward to hear you talking. I'm just like, I'm over here, buddy. I'm just over here in the corner. I'm going to just turn your head a little. I'm not talking to you. Okay. All right. Let me get my protractor out. The phone is, I think, going to become a problem.

I see people getting more addicted, not less addicted. I literally think people are going to start going to rehab for their phone. It's so dismissive and obnoxious, too, when you're talking to someone. And by the way, I'm including myself in this. I don't think I'm superior. You're literally saying what's dismissive. and what is it while you're not looking at me as you're talking. Am I insane or are you insane?

Or are we insane? So, I just, you're making me laugh, Michael. Well, I'm surprised I'm making you do anything because you're sitting here and looking at me. You do look dewy. I haven't seen you today. Oh. What do I look like in your peripheral? You look dewey. I just really want this next year for me to put away.

my phone intentionally. So one thing that I've done this year that's been absolutely game-changing that I think everyone should try is I put away my phone at 730. That's it. The phone's on airplane mode. It's off. I never bring it to bed. I like don't want my phone to be my security blanket in bed. I don't think it's a good example for my children. I don't think it's time. I don't associate my phone with rest. Like I just think my phone's disgusting by 730. I work off my phone. My phone's constantly around me everything I do for social media is on my phone. By 7.30, I'm done with it. It's put away. And out comes the Kindle in dark mode. And that helps me to wind down and relax. So I think what I'm saying with this one is like I would really have a plan and a strategy when it comes to your phone for

this year. Don't just like numb out on your phone and use it as some distraction. I know for me, I'm also going to be making sure that my phone is away until like nine or 10 in the morning. So I have that time. I do that most of the time. But sometimes you get sucked. in. So it's kind of a work in progress. All right. I got half of that because I wasn't making eye contact with you. So hopefully that one I can apply. Brimeo River. This one I think you'll agree with me on. And I really thought about something that made me happy this year that I haven't done for the last few years. We've just been so into it with kids and work and the show and everything. But I think it's

interesting and maybe beneficial for everyone to think about taking on and learning either a new hobby or a new skill set. For example, what we did this year is we both got really into tennis. And this was something that I never played before growing up. It's something that I really wanted to learn how to get better in. I'm still obviously a huge work in progress. Tennis is very enjoyable, yet very frustrating at the same time. I know, but that's why it's like, it's fun. I love it. It's like chipping away. And so anyways, the tip there is it doesn't have to be tennis, but I think it's a great idea for anyone to think of a hobby or a skill or an art that you can pursue that takes you out of your

work, out of your family life, out of your relationship, out of your problems. It's going to force you to focus on that. So, you know, if you've been someone that's like, hey, I really want to get into art, maybe it's taking art classes. If you want to get into a new sport, maybe it's learning that sport. In our case, it was tennis. If you want to learn a new skill set or, you know, study something different, whatever it may be, I think we take life so seriously.

don't incorporate nearly enough play and leisure and downtime. And so for us, it was tennis. It was also a little bit of Pilates. I think I'm going to pick another thing this upcoming year to try to get into. You're going to talk about your Pilates. Well, I got into it a little bit. I'm still learning more. But these are things that Pilates and tennis I never did in my entire life before. I'm 38 or 37. And so to take those on at this stage life, it just proved to me like, hey, you can keep doing things. And I think the learning curve is interesting. And it takes me out of. of my work and out of the stress and out my family life and all of that. So I would suggest everybody just kind of pick one thing that's been in the backburner or back of your mind to

pursue in 2025 because I think it's enhanced everything else. Michael is very good at Pilates. I'm not very good at it. Tennis also was recommended to me by Dr. Amen because he scanned my brain and told me that to avoid dementia or Alzheimer's, I needed to take on a sport. What was it that that used my coordination. People that play rocket sports, particularly tennis, ping pong. I don't know the other one. Studies have shown that they can live 10 years longer. Yeah.

It's a great sport. It's so much fun. I think it's helped our marriage. It's like we've even involved our kids and we got the best tip. And our friends. Our friends are involved. We got the best tip from this teacher that said that you should take your kids on the court for only 15 minutes. And then when it's starting to get fun, you should pull them off.

Well, he's also very confident. But the idea is that you want them to crave doing it as opposed to hate. And be excited and not be overwhelmed with like, oh my God, I have to play the sport. I'm not, I don't want to be a parent that's like constantly pushing my kids into every single activity every day. I want to see what they gravitate towards and I want to see what they like. And I want to make sure they're enjoying it. I don't want to be like a mom that has 6,000 things for them to do every day. This is like a bonus for the couples out there.

I think Lauren and I deciding to play tennis together has also been good for a relationship because when you travel or when we're together, we can play it together. Yeah. You can age with it. And there's always tennis courts around the world. So we found something to do together as a couple that we're both learning at. We don't do enough together. Yeah.

Well, we want another thing to do together. Okay. What's next? Let's see. What is this number eight? I don't know, Michael. Losing track. Number seven. Oh, this one you'll be so happy about. So I read every single night. It is non-negotiable. It's the

most important thing. One of the most important things I do every day. It's to me like working out. I want to work out seven days a week. I want to read seven days a week. It's a streak that I'm on. I think it just makes you smarter, better, faster, sharper, more powerful. What if I start talking like this? Michael. Isn't that going to be weird if I was just like, if I was just going to be happy. This is your Christmas present. I'm finally committing on air to reading the books that my husband has asked me to read. Oh, we'll see. We'll see.

No, I am. Which ones have I asked you to read that you're going to read Shogun? You're going to read Shogun by James Clove. Loansome Dove. Loansome Dove by Larry McMurtry. Noble House. Hypan first, but then Noble House. Weston said he didn't love Tai Pan.

No, he loved Tai Pan. He didn't like Guy Jen. Okay. But Guy Jin is... I don't know about Guy Jen. Listen, for the James Clavel readers out there, James Clavel is amazing author. They just made Shoggan into a showgan. show, which was pretty good. So one thing that I'm committing to is reading outside of the typical

genres that I read in. And you should be really excited about this because Michael and I, we love to read together. Another thing we did together. Was it because this morning I crushed you in Trivial Pursuit and you thought you were going to win, but your focus was too narrow? No. No. Oh. No. You knew questions about Hello Kitty today. Yeah, I read vast and wide and far and long. Okay. Well, I am not only going to keep my streak of reading every night, but I want to examine what I'm reading and make sure it's very broad. So that's sort of just like a New Year's resolution that I can implement every day a little bit. I don't like to take on this huge sandwich of a resolution. As a tangent timeout here, anyone that reads Shogun and Lonesome Dove will write in

and thank me later if you haven't read them already. Because these are like some of the greatest works of our time. Okay. Right. And you're going to read and be like, wow, I should have read that a lot earlier. Okay. I read each of them three times. I love them so much.

And you can go back and read great books. So I'm just going to really be mindful of what I'm reading this upcoming year. Your son's middle name is one of the names from the characters of Lonesome Dove. I picked it out. How would you pick it out if you've never read the book? I'll tell you how I picked it out. This is a true story. You guys do not believe him.

I started reading Lonesome Dove and I'm about 40 pages in and in it I met the character Woodrow Call. No, yes, but that's, but hold on, that's even worse. And then I looked at you and I said we should name Towns Middle Name Call. You know why it's worse? And you lit up and then you rebranded it as your own idea. You know why it's worse? Why? Because you have no clue what that character did or what happens or who did.

I just knew that that was your favorite book. So I was like, this is genius, Lauren. You know that character is a serial rapist. Okay, Michael. I'm just kidding. It's not, but what if it was? It's not, but what if it was? Hey, what's next, Michael?

Fuck, see, you don't even know what's going on. This is why you need to read the book. Go ahead. Hopefully that joke's not too off color. It's already in there. We're not editing it. Okay. My next one is that, you know, we've done all this work to figure out our intentions,

to set the year, to figure out our goals, to audits what's working and what's not doing. And then I have a note that I always talk about with people close to me. with people close to me. I say it's now it's time to rally the troops, the team, the support system, the people around you. I think if you just hold your goals and your aspirations inside, that's half the battle. But really, when you share your intentions and your goals and what you want to happen with people that are a true support system around you, that's when they actually start to manifest and become real. So a lot of things we're saying on this show, we're sharing to a very wide group of people. And now we're going to be held to account by that group, which is you

guys. I also think, you know, you see this work when people start to get in the gym and they have a buddy system, someone they can train with. You start to see better results. If it's a reading, if it's a reading friend, you're in a book club, whatever it is, if you're in a company and you're with a group of people and you say you want to achieve a certain goal, if you're in a relationship and a family and you sit down as a family and say, this is what we want to happen. So it's important to speak these goals and intentions into the world and into people around you that actually care about you so that you can be held to account. Even for the negative things, say you have, um, maybe poor friendship patterns or poor dating habits, saying what you won't do to people around you

and asking them to help you through it is going to help you stay accountable to yourself. And so it's a very simple one, but it's basically speaking to the people around you, sharing your intentions, sharing your goals and letting people know that you expect to be held accountable to all of them. I kind of agree with you, but I kind of don't. Okay. I was talking about this to my trainer Brent today. I'm not a fan of people that run around talking about what they're going to do without action. So while that's different.

Yes, but I also think like less talk, more action. Yes. I mean, listen, there is nothing worse than people just chatting and chatting and chatting and just an idea. We've covered that for many years on the show. If you're just saying what you're going to do or you're talking about how this guy or girl is so terrible to you in the relationship and you're not going to, you're just droning on on without making changes. Or there's a business idea that we've been talking about since 2003. Yeah, no. The idea here is that, again, this is why you have to share it with people that are

actually your support system and actually care about you. If you're just saying things to people and they're not holding you to account or calling you in your bullshit when you fall short of what you've said you're going to do, then those people don't really care about you. They're not really your friends. By the way, I also think this is important to say this, I've done this before multiple times. I remember, and I don't think we've ever told the story on the show, I was talking about launching this blog 14 years ago. I was talking about it all the time to Michael. I have this idea for this blog. It's going to be like this resource for women everywhere. It's going to have little tips and tricks and health ideas. And I would talk to him about it and talk to him about it.

Finally, one day, over oysters at Morton's, we were having chilled martini's with blue cheese stuffed olives. You said, this is the last time I'm talking about it. Launch it. And I did. I did. But this is like when your back hurts. This is also like when your back hurts. You tell me your back hurts. It's not the same as your back hurts.

6,000 times. My thing is if your back hurts, let's put some systems in place. Let's go lay on the PMF back. My back hurts. I'm carrying all your bullshit, right? Let's go get a body worker. Let's go get your back stretched. Let's get in the gym.

Let's move. Let's get it together. Let's get some Ben Gay. Some fucking Tiger Bomb, bitch. Let's get some. some systems to get your back feeling better. It's not a good analogy, but I get where you're going with it. Okay. Is it my turn?

No, but anyways, yes. To wrap that up, though, you have to share these things with people that are going to hold you to account. If you have people that are just commiserating with you and listening to you share the same thing over and over without holding you to account, then it may be time to revisit that support group. Also, I had young sisters. I would watch them gossip with the gals. Is that what you call it? Over and over.

And I would have to say, Jordan, Tara, that girl's not your friend. She just wants to see you fall down. and I would have to tell her to step back from those kinds of people. So guys, girls, if you're just commiserating with people and you're never making change and they're just sitting there empathizing me all the time, like maybe that's not what you need. Once in a while it's okay to kind of get things out. But if it's all the time over and over and you're all both in the same place, it's time to switch front of groups. Anyways.

My last and final one is I do this chart. I have done it every year for the last five years. Michael doesn't even know this. And it's called the more and less chart. And I've done this every single year. And what I do is on one side of the page, it says more. And on the other side of the page, it says less. And I write what I want more of this year and what I want less of.

This could be anything from you want less alcohol. You want less toxic friends. You want more time on your calendar. You want more space on your calendar. You want less housewives. Whatever it is, you make more and less. And you write down everything in a very granular. way. So it's not like broad things. It's actually very specific. And sometimes my list has like

50 on each side. And every single time where I need like my compass straightened, is it a compass, my leveler straightened? I don't know what you. Like a picture leveler. Yeah. Every time I want my leveler straightened throughout the year or I need clarity, I go back to that list and I just look at it. And you can literally take a picture of it and put it on the background of your phone. You can just have it on your phone in your favorite section so you can constantly just remind yourself of where you're going and who the fuck you are got it i will just say this one last time on this episode because i just wanted to be honest if i miss anything here i am a much better communicator when i can look at someone in the eyes so on your list you can write less side view more straight

off we are trained to when we have interactions with people to look them in the eyes so that you can listen to them clearly. So I think I... You know what I say to that? Let them. I think I kept up. Okay, this is the last one on the list, guys. I think it's interesting.

It's different. I've only done it once or twice because I just came to me. Again, I will not take credit for it. I am a huge fan or Mstale was fan of Charlie Munger. Rest of Saul, he just passed. And I've read a bunch of his work and I follow him and I like his speeches and I just think he's got a ton of wisdom. So anyways, he wrote something along the lines of write your own obituary and then live in that way.

Meaning like he was saying if you were to write your own obituary about what you want people to say at the end of your life. Have you written yours? No, no. So I'll get to the point. Okay. I should write it. So don't do it. Don't you real me here.

So he was saying write your own obituary and then live. So like, for example, if someone said, oh, he was a loving husband that was faithful and treated every like all these things. Then it's really easy to kind of live in that way. You wouldn't live counter to your obituary. I think for the year in the third person right now this month, you could write a summary of what you would want people to say about you at the end of this year. So in my case, you could say, hey, Michael Bostick was such a great businessman this year. He stayed so focused. He managed all of his stuff without stress.

He still took care of himself. You could write all of this stuff down. I'm just giving an example. And essentially, if you write that, it sets again the intention for the year because now you're held to account. And I think periodically, if you have that written down in your journal or in your computer or in your phone app or whatever, maybe you could refer to what you would want a third party to write about you from an accomplishment and a human perspective at the end of this year. And then again, you just act accordingly. So a lot of the advice that I've been giving on this episode is actually just to get in the mindset to create the identity that you need in order to execute against your vision and your goals. Again, something else I won't take credit for.

if you read atomic habits from James Clear, who I want him on the show. He says that it's much easier to adopt a habit when you take on an identity. So you can't just set a goal or say you want to do a habit without also taking on that identity. So again, like some of the examples he uses, like, I want to be a, I'm going to be a healthy person. So then you can live the way a healthy person. When I want to be a great career person or business person, then you could live that way. And I think the same thing here. You just, you write down this summary of what you want someone to say about you at the end of the year and then you just live in that way with that intention and with that identity.

Happy New Year. Happy New Year, everybody. Thank you for listening, watching. Tell us what the best time of the year is on my latest post. I'm not sure it's saying that to me because it's the first time you look at me. No, I want to know what everyone thinks. The best time of the year to have time to yourself to do a think week is January 2nd to the 7th.

Tell me if I'm wrong. Lauren, I'm again going to just like you are living in the clouds. Everyone that works in a company is getting bombarded on the seconds to the... They're not, though. Everyone is burnt out. They're tired. They're tired. It's like they just...

It's like kind of a hibernation period. They didn't take a break if they're around their family the entire time making small talk with Aunt Fran. I'm sorry. But that's why you get the break after making small talk with... Carson, I'm going to go ask the entire office right now. I said it. You get the small talk done on December 27th to the 30.

By the way, I'm going to beat Michael's out. and trivia tonight. No, you're not. Thank you, everybody. Appreciate you all. Happy New Year.