The Bossticks - #11: How to deal with Anxiety, Sexting, What to look for when Hiring

Episode Date: May 17, 2016

In this episode we talk about anxiety, sexting, what we look for when we hire, and how to rally.   

take you seriously with that R2D2 mug. This is my favorite mug. I'm pretty sure he has the exact same socks on matching socks. No, they're Stormtrooper stocks. No, no, no, no. No, no. You go Stan Sox. That's a free plug.

With your Earl Grey, like, T-bag casually hanging out. Well, he definitely has. All right, all right. Stant Sox is fucking cool. We are back with the Skinny Confidential, him and her podcast. You have me, Lauren Everett's from the Skinny Confidential, Michael Bostic, my fiancé, and Jordan. And, of course, the Bear Naked Cucumber Taylor on Sound.

Thank you guys so much for tuning in. First things first. We hope that you will subscribe and review our podcast on iTunes. It's super easy. Hopefully I'll give us four, five. How many stars? I mean, don't even bother with four. I only go for five.

And I just want to say, for those of you, last week I said I wanted to get to 200 reviews because I felt like that was an official podcast. And I thought it would be super cool to get to 200 reviews. And as of late, we're at almost 400. So you guys have doubled what I thought was possible. And you guys, Michael is by the phone pressing refresh. I am super pumped on you guys.

Thank you so much for reviewing it. It really means a lot to me. He sits by the phone and he's waiting for your reviews. You know why? Because I know it's kind of a pain in the ass. Like you've got to go into your iTunes account and you got to hit the five stars. I just checked. I'm checking right now.

We are literally five away from 400. So the next five people. You'll be our favorite people. So we have gone to be officially official. Okay, okay. Well, the good thing is, is that the reviews will not only benefit us, we provided value for you. I'm hosting a giveaway on the Skinny Confidential. It's a $2,500 giveaway for the most amazing beauty and wellness products. It's all my favorites, kind of combined into like this huge bag. And then I also have a juicer. And we're going to give away three bombshell body

guides to the runner-ups. So that's if you review and rate our podcast on. iTunes. For those of you that don't know what the bombshell body guide is, it's a 28 week guide complete with a full-blown workout schedule, three workouts a week. You're going to get in serious shape with that plan. I've been really using the bombshell body guide and kicking it up a notch lately. I really just want to get my ass into gear. I've been eating, you know, super healthy food and keeping my diet on point. So check the bombshell body guide out if you're looking to tone up and get a harder ass. Which I've been loving that Lauren is eating more healthy because I'm like always around

her just grabbing the scraps that I can of the healthy watermelon jerky and whatnot. And I have been loving the harder ass. You have? Yeah. It's tighter. Maybe not harder. That's kind of felt. Hard as a rock.

Ooh, okay. So. Moving right along. Yeah. Michael went to New York City by himself without me, which. No, not just by myself. I went with my partner. Well, I wasn't there.

Weston. You're used to having me on trips. And I missed you tremendously. You did miss me. You did miss me. You called me when you were drunk and you like confess your love. I know it's true love because every time I leave I just, I can't even function without you. You do though.

You called me drunk at midnight. I was having sushi. If I don't remember, it doesn't count. Okay. Well, you should remember because I, I mean. No, but let's talk about that. I recorded it. Even for me who's like a go, go, go person, that was, that was tough.

We, me and Weston trained up to L.A. but I said that train. We took the train up to L.A., which was actually really fun. We brought his mom, and we all had lunch together. And then Wesson had to go run some errands, and surprisingly,

Wesson's mom had to go get a tattoo from Wesson and I's tattoo artist. Shout out to Dr. Wu. He's the man. He's at Shamrock up there. And it was really strange for me because I was thinking of how much the times have changed.

I was taking my best friend's mom to get tattooed. So anyways, that was fun. We went to do that, had some beers, she got tattooed. And then after me and we and, Weston or Weston and I as long as I would like to say we caught the red eye to New York which red eyes to New York are always a terrible idea and I totally disagree with that Lauren loves red eyes I love red eyes so much I can't sleep on them there's not enough hours I love the red eye I go on I put my earphones in

and no one speaks to me for six hours no one can text me no one can get a hold of me anyways I bought one of those neck pillows right you do that every time we've go to the airport you buy a damn neck fill out and they hold your head up like a neck brace so that you don't turn and kink your neck but so we did that and um if you know anything about weston and i we are the extreme versions of being on time so it's like susan times 400 yeah i mean so we get to the airport three hours ahead of time so absurd ridiculous i would go back to the hotel's like hey guys we don't even have a gate for you yet like the flight's not for three hours what are you doing here so then we sit there so anyways red eye get up we just go straight into it we ended up going to this creative

I'm working on something with Weston that I'm not quite ready to get into yet because I'm still doing some research and I don't know if it's ever if it's actually going to be a thing But as soon as I do know I'll for sure let you guys know Lauren I've kind of even kept her a little bit in the dark on it not really you asked my opinion on everything So I don't really know what you're talking about there kind of in the dark not really Anyway he flew back to L.A No, so then we went no we didn't just fly back we didn't just fly back Oh you went out right and I don't go out that much anymore I know he doesn't drink that's why I call me What we know is like past 1030.

Like past 1030 and past 5. I feel like it's past 9.30. That's pushing at 1030. So anyways, we were out and I guess I must have called you at whatever time. Three times. Three times. You called me three times and told me how much. I did some drunk dialing.

You missed me. How it wasn't the same without me. Did I call you there of you guys? He's turning beat red. No, no one else got a call. He said to me. No, I was actually kind of strange because I didn't get a phone call at all weekend. Were you waiting by the phone?

I kind of was. Were you with your bare naked cucumber? That's probably why I didn't call. So anyways, then we had to go and get on the flight. Once again, we're three and a half hours early. The gate's not ready. The guy says, what the hell are you doing here? And I came back and we landed in L.A.

And I met up with Lorne. And I slept from 4 o'clock in the afternoon till 7 in the morning. So about 14 hours. You needed your depends changed when you came off the flight because you were so grumpy. Your diaper was so full. You couldn't even, like, speak or form a sentence. So I sent you to bed. and you slept like a rock.

No, but first, I was so pathetic. I ordered Postmates. You went around for this. I'm so glad I was. And I had like three sandwiches and ate them alone on the couch by myself. And in the dark. And in the dark, pretty much,

and just went to bed. So shout out to Postmates for making that possible. And thank you so much for contributing to that. So anyways, once he got back from New York, it was nonstop in L.A., we go up there probably twice a month for a couple of days just to do everything we need to do. there, all the stuff that we kind of pile up and wait for until we get to L.A., so it was non-stop.

And yesterday, on our way back from L.A., we went to a Mexican restaurant, which is so good. I love that restaurant. It's called South of Nix, right? It's in San Clemente. And we met up with the cutest couple. You should follow them on social media at Wesley and at Brano, and they're adorable. and we had some drinks and some chips and some salsa, came home, crashed again, and up on Monday doing the whole cycle over.

And I just got on these new supplements that, after all this time that Lauren's telling me, they're like, nothing crazy men. These are for men, not for women. They're all natural men supplements. I'll probably do a post on them at some point on Lawrence blog for the men out there that are interested in the supplements. Okay, where did you get this idea to take these supplements that you're obsessed with? Seth told me to take a couple of them, and then I did some research online, found a couple more.

Tell everyone who Seth is, because we're obsessed. Seth is a trainer in Los Angeles that you met, that you're friends with, that trained me for the first time in a long time and completely traumatized my body. I can barely move. I'm trying to get more into heavy weights, and I need someone to help me with those heavy weights. So I found a friend in L.A. and he's helping me lift very, very heavy weights. heavy. I mixed that with the bombshell body guide and Pilates and cardio and I'm just really trying to like hit it hard. And so I manipulated Michael into seeing Seth. I think I just scheduled the appointment and put it on your calendar and forced you to go. And Seth literally kicked the shit out of

Michael. He couldn't walk. I think can you walk today? Well, I'm having a really rough time today. Yesterday was much worse. Like I couldn't stretch my legs and I felt like an old man. I couldn't get I couldn't stand up. I couldn't stretch my biceps out. Like, I feel like you got to ease into that. So this guy just threw me right into it. Yeah, you were complaining. But it was amazing. It was amazing. You were complaining for, um, every single hour on the hour for four days straight. He's sticking his tongue out at me. So Michael's the type of person that when he's sick, he tells you he's sick 400 times. So it's kind of like this. I don't feel good. I think I have a sniffle coming on. Can you pass the remote? I feel sick. Oh.

Can you shut the shades I'm feeling sick? Literally tells me he's sick six million times in one day. You don't like being sick, do you? No one likes being sick. You complain just in everyday normal life. No, no, no. This is even worse. This is like being...

I don't know if you can get much worse. No, this is worse. This is worse. And you, with Seth, you told me you were sore 80 million times. I've never heard someone say something. Us men, when we get sick, that's like a window for you women to look into what it sounds like with all the complaints the rest of the year. I don't get it.

You're trying to even it out. So I get it, I get for one day I go into like what you guys do 365. Oh my gosh. You blow your nose like extra loud. The coughs are a little louder than they're supposed to be. You alert the media that you're sick. That's what it sounds like when I walk in the front door and you ask me to take my shoes off. Yeah, I hate when he wears his shoes in the house.

I like can't deal with it. So women, all these like when the guys are complaining about being sick, that's our little way of like showing you what is like complaints. What your reality is like. Oh, poor you. So luckily I don't get sick too often. Oh, boo-hoo. All right.

Well, that was our weekend. Let's get into the show. Andy asks, what do you look for when hiring someone? This is such a good question. I think she was specifically asking you, too. Like, what do you guys look for? I personally look for someone who's hungry. You know what I mean?

Someone that wants to work. You can tell they want to work. They have the energy. and they go above and beyond. When you started working for me, Jordan, I was really attracted to the fact that I would give you a task, and then you would deliver that task, but you would go above and beyond.

So say I asked you to, you know, put together a beautiful collage. You would put the collage together, and then you would add the links, the hyperlinks. Stuff like that. Yay. Yeah. Shout out to me. Like the bare naked cucumber when our sound wasn't the best,

he would go above and beyond and find the best sound that we could possibly have, right, Tay? Yeah, basically. Yeah. So, I mean, besides the basic essentials of like hard worker, you know, efficient, I look for somebody that's going to mesh with the company culture and kind of get the vision of what the whole company is trying to do. Because our company's different. Like, our company's different than the typical nine to five. Can you like explain one?

No, because there's so many random, like, there's so, like, you know, one of our businesses or my business that I was. running advertisements on Facebook and Google. One of my businesses is Jetbed. We sell beds for corporate and private aircraft. Obviously, one of the businesses is the Skinny Confidential, which is a blog. There's all sorts of different things. And I kind of look for somebody

that's going to be versatile in all of these things. Taylor's traditional job is not the sound guy on this show. He works for me mostly on the advertising side. And he's willing 100% to jump into this and say, listen, I'll take on this task as well. And I kind of look at it as he's, He molds. Yeah, he molds.

Like clay. He's on board and he's fluid. And, you know, I was telling Danny, who also works for me, that this is not, I'm not looking for a corporate structure. I know a lot of companies look for that and they want the, you know, the traditional nine to five structure, structure, structure. I don't think I would ever run a company like that. And I don't think I would ever have a desire to run a company like that.

It's just not how I am. Yeah, I agree. I also think Michael and I look for someone that works smart, you know, you know what I mean? Yes. They don't take 100 hours to do something. something, they get it done quickly and efficiently? I like someone that takes initiative. Like, for me, it's okay if someone does something and fucks up.

I know that sounds weird. A lot of people don't want it, but I would rather have Jordan or Taylor, like, do something and fuck it up a little bit and learn from that as opposed to, like, Lauren or I coaching them through it and then never letting them fuck up. Because if you fuck up, you kind of, like, you kind of learn, you learn a lot more. You learn quickly. Yeah, you learn quickly. But with that, like Lauren just said, nail on head.

somebody that learns quickly and adapts after doing that. Like, I have no problem with somebody messing up a little bit as long as they can learn from that and adapt and keep going and not lose confidence to do that kind of stuff. I also love someone that's creative, just because I'm creative and I love when creative minds mesh together. I think creativity is a big plus. And just someone that also doesn't have to be told what to do all day long. I don't want to babysit.

And I think that when you have a. employee that you constantly have to babysit. It's exhausting and it becomes more time-consuming than you, like, wanted when you first hired them. So I don't want to micromanage anyone. I want to kind of give them what to do, and I just want it to get done, and I want it to get done in a creative efficient way. I have an interesting experiment. What's that? Jordan traditionally works for the Skinny Confidential, and Taylor traditionally works for me. Jordan, what do you think that we're looking for in an employee now that you've worked for us for a lot? Putting on the spot. I pretty much think everything you said about being efficient is key,

because there's a lot of things that need to get done around here. You have a big scroll of a to-do-lots, don't you? Yeah, yeah. So getting things done really quickly, efficiently. Like, I always ask myself, am I doing this the fastest way, the absolute fastest way that I can do it? So efficiency is huge. Yeah, you're good at that.

You're really good at being efficient. What do you think it is? You've worked for me for a long time. I think something quick and easy would be to be like water. you kind of want to be able to flow with whichever direction the current goes. How poetic are you? One day Michael says... Easy Shakespeare.

One day Michael says, hey, I want you to do this. So there's no way that I can go well, you know, I don't do that or that's not something that I want to do. So I kind of just flow, I go wherever the current takes me. Love it. So Taylor's like water. They do it well. And you know what else I think it is?

When they don't know, like a lot of the times some of the things we ask to do, Lauren and I are not experts in, and they're definitely not experts. experts in and they go and figure it out. Like there's been so many things where both Jordan and Taylor have figured things out on their own that has added so much value to everything that Lauren and I are doing that I think that's another thing I would look for in an employee. Somebody who really cares about the direction the company is moving and really cares about progressing it and takes the initiative to go and find new ways to add value to the business. Yeah, I think I totally agree with you. I think with the skinny confidential, it's such a new type of business

blogging is a new type of business. So you have to have someone that kind of gets the bigger picture and gets exactly what I'm trying to build. And when they understand that, it's easier to build the company and the way I want to build the company. And I think Jordan really understands what I'm trying to do and what I'm trying to achieve. And that really helps with an employee. And you have to like dogs because there's always a lot of dogs. There's six million dogs here. So if you don't like dogs, probably work out.

There's currently two dogs on Michael's lap, one next to Jordan. She's chewing her bone. Taylor's doing hand signals to tell her to stop chewing her bone. We got dogs in and out all the time. And the last one's self-sufficiency, because Lauren and I are on the go a lot, and I need people and so does she that we can rely on when we're gone. I mean, that's a source of a lot of anxiety for everything, both of us when we're gone, right? Yeah, totally.

You need someone, because when we're traveling, you got to know they're getting their job done. And, you know, it's hard. And I assume that, like, Taylor and Jordan probably felt this, like, you look and you see your bosses out of the office running around, and you're like, these people aren't working and we're here. So people that understand, like, that it's not just all, like, fun and travel, like, that there's business taking place. I think that's really, really important.

Like, Taylor gets so mad at me because sometimes I don't network as much as I should. And he's like, what the fuck are you doing in the office? Get out there and network. Right, Taylor? Not the biggest network. That's one of his strengths. So he gets mad at me. He's like, what are you doing in here?

Get out of here. And so, like, he gets it, right? Like, that's what I'm looking for. Yeah, I think, too, people have to understand that travel and movement is part of, part of blogging. It just is. People want to see movement. They want to see travel.

That's part of the brand that I've created. And so I think having employees that understand that it's really important to move and not stay stagnant is a huge plus. So, yeah, that's kind of a list. Yeah, but it's a good question. And for the, for the, Those of you who may be looking for jobs, I think those are good things to think about as well. Yeah.

All right. Next question is from Lenneth. I hope I'm saying that right. And she asks, what is your take on sexting? Sexting? Meow. You hate sexting. No, no, be honest.

No, no. I don't like having shit out in the ether. I mean, I guess I'm Snapchating all the time, but. No, no, no. you don't like having private stuff out on the ether. No. No. I don't like that.

So that's a definitive no for my... No, no, it's not that I don't like... I get it, okay? You know what I'm being sexy. I sent you a tip pick the other day. Like, it was like in the mirror and it was like sexy and hot. I feel there's like Russian spies captured that. And instead of him being like, wow, baby, you look hot, you sent like, delete that right now.

Like thinking that there was like a Russian spy. I'm going to take my tip pick. A lot of the time I'll be with people and I'll be like looking at my phone and it'll just pop in and there's like all of a sudden like two tits that just like pop up on the screen like and they're big and they're big they're cannons he calls him canon um i don't think there's any problem with sexting as long as you do it right no listen if that's what gets you off like by all means you never send me a good dick pick no i don't do that i feel like taylor's in the corner like laughing like there was a guy who came into our office and he was a while ago and he asked to charge his phone

and we plugged it in, and it usually pops up with the most recent photos, and there was actually photos of his girlfriend in pretty revealing clothing that you would want portrayed on an office screen. So I unplugged it, and I said, oh, yeah, you unplugged it. So we took it in the bathroom. It's not charging, and he's like, oh, okay, I'll do it when I get home. I just want to embarrass them or put him in an awkward situation. No, I think that you have to be smart about it.

I'd love a good dick pick for me tomorrow. Wait, did you tell me a story about somebody you knew that went to get their iPhone fixed at the iPhone? Yeah, there was, it's a, someone. Someone. Oh, gosh, that means it's someone we know. We'll leave his username below. They went into, they were having issues with their Mac,

and they brought it into the Apple Store. And when they were trying to get it working, or the app guy, he plugged it into one of the bigger display screens and the naked photos. In the middle of the Mac store. So this dude, what I'm going to say who, had like him with his bare dick out

in weird positions on the Mac store and the Mac guy is like trying to navigate through and get it off and this guy like you know. Was that really you Taylor? No no, it wasn't me. Definitely was me. Winky, I just don't want to, you know,

we won't throw the guy on the bus. You're going to have to tell us. That's my biggest fear is like something happens. You would die if that happened to you. Listen, I don't need to be hanging out the Mac technician with like that, you know, their weird birkenstock shoes and fucking pop up my dick all over the fucking Mac store. I would love that.

I wish they would put it as their desktop or something. That would make me really happy. Michael, Michael does not like anyone to see anything. If there's a peep in the curtain, he wants it closed. He's very private. I don't like, yeah, I just don't, I don't need people creeping in on me. Yeah, he's private.

So no text and sexting for Michael. I guess that makes me sound kind of boring, but like, you know. No, you're not boring. You're fun in other ways, but you're not a sexter. I just don't need to put it all out there. No, and you know what, sexing's kind of boring. Like, I'm sitting there and fully clothed them in my office. I'm like, there's people asking me to sign papers and shit.

And I'm like, okay, like trying to like sex at the same time. You're like, go on. Okay. All right. So moving on from the sexting question, Cindy asks, I'm always anxious. Do you and Michael ever deal with anxiety?

Would really appreciate any tips you have for dealing with it? Well, Cindy, you're talking to the queen of anxiety. I am always anxious. I've been anxious since I was about 18 all day long. Even into the night, I'm just anxious. And I try to channel that anxiety into a productive way. So if I'm starting to feel anxious about not doing something or getting something done, I'll log on to the skinny confidential and write a blog post or go on my email or feel like I'm doing something productive and that really helps. Another thing that really helps, and I've gotten Michael addicted to this, is calm tea.

Admit you're obsessed. Is that the magnetion tea? Don't act like you don't know how I'm talking. Is the magnesium tea? Yes. Yeah, I love that tea. I kind of wish that there was like a remote, like a microphone in the car yesterday when you and Westmore driving home because Lauren and. West and both deal with anxiety all the time. I don't deal with it as much, but recently I've

been dealing with it a lot. I wonder why. Maybe this podcast, maybe being called Susan, maybe having people on the street scream Susan at me might have something. But no, really, so I'm the type of person when something starts happening. I'm like, huh, what the fuck is this? I really have to go and figure out what it is. And so I read a bunch of books, which I can list somewhere. I've listed some of them on Lauren's blog, but I started reading a bunch of books on anxiety. Like, give us an example of one. Um, I got to, there's one called anxious. I can't remember the author's name. There's the happiness advantage. There's one called guerrilla mindset by Mike Sernovich, which is awesome. And, um, all these are really helpful.

But I wanted to know like the science behind anxiety and basically what it boils down to is the fear of future events that are in your head, which could be caused by, you know, either thoughts that are in your head now or caused by events that have taken place in the past in your life. And, Basically, I went into this study like, okay, what causes all this anxiety? Why do I have it? You know, if you've ever had anxiety, it really sucks. Your heart starts to race. Your mind starts to go crazy.

I feel like prickles too. Like on my skin. Yeah, I mean, it can be really debilitating. And I sympathize with anyone that has anxiety. But just know, and this is maybe going to sound bad. And whenever I say this, people are like, no, you just don't get it. But anxiety is all in your mind, right? It's created by yourself.

and it's easier said than done to just conquer it. But for me, once I kind of know something like, okay, this is taking place because of the thoughts in my head that I'm creating, I can kind of work myself down from the, let's call it the cliff. I can kind of like work myself back off the edge. So you just kind of start talking to yourself and, like in your own head and breathing and saying, okay, this is the real situation. This is what's really happening.

Like understand that whatever's in your head and however back, you think it is, it's probably not as bad as it really will be. I was telling Lauren and Wesson, a good way to work back is like, think about a time in your past where you had a shitload of anxiety about something that was going to happen, and then think about what actually happened, and ask yourself, was it really as bad as I thought? And most of the time it's not. The human mind will go to places much darker and much worse than its actual reality. What do you think of that? I totally agree with you. I think there's been two things. that have really, really helped me. One is intervals running for a minute on, a minute off, so it takes

your cortisol up and then brings it down and goes up and down. That's really, really, really helped me with my anxiety. Actually, I cannot believe how much it's helped. You wouldn't think it would, but it just does. I don't know why I have to look more into the science behind it. And another thing that has really helped me with anxiety is meditation. And that's something that you and I have been doing in the morning. Yeah. Michael has a weird spot. He does it. No.

You do it in the closet. Yeah, that makes me sound weird. With the dog. Yeah, I'm in the closet. No, I get up much earlier than Lauren, and I don't want to bother her, but I do want to meditate. And I find that five to ten minutes of meditation a day is really making all the difference. Listen, I'm not somebody that gets extreme anxiety, but I've maybe developed a little bit in the last year, more than I've ever had in my life. And, you know, like I said, I read a lot about it.

I go in the closet in the morning when I wake up, sometimes the dog's with me, sometimes and I meditate for five to ten minutes, and it's just a lot of like breathing deep, clearing my mind, and I think it makes all the difference because it kind of sets your day up to be, you know, you start with a clean slate a little bit. You kind of clear all that bad stuff out of your head when you wake up. Also, what's important, I think, when you're going to bed, try to clear your mind. Lauren just started meditating. I saw her this morning. I brought her some coffee and she was meditating in the room. I didn't want to disturb you. You actually knew I was meditating?

Well, yeah, when the like Concha, Rancho Rancho was like playing on in the house, and you had your fingers in weird positions and you would close your eyes. No, I didn't have my fingers in your eyes. I was sitting up in bed with a green hot tea next to me, with my meditation music on that the dogs love sitting there with my eyes. She was wearing a turban on her head. I wasn't wearing a turban. And it really helps me set the tone of my day. It's very difficult for me not to wake up and check my email.

A lot of people will wake up and check their social media, but I wake up and check my email. and that's a horrible way to start your day because you get flooded with all these things that create anxiety. Do dates, things that need to be done, what you haven't done, something's wrong. Dada, da-da-da-da. Waking up and checking your email is the worst thing ever. Did you do the tip that I told you to stop checking your phone right when you wake up? Yeah, I haven't done that.

You still do it? Yeah, I've been stopping to do that. Because that's like a key tip that I told you about. I actually read The Miracle Morning, which has been life-changing, and I've been trying to do that. So basically the Miracle Morning is where you wake up and for one hour you do 15 minutes segments of something different. So first you wake up and you sit in silence for 15 minutes. Then for the next 15 minutes you do an exercise.

So like sit-ups on the floor. The next thing you'll do is you'll maybe organize something. So I'll organize, you know, maybe I'll make the bed. Maybe I'll organize my day, whatever it is. And then the last 15 minutes you set affirmations for yourself and, you know, you make a list of of what you want to accomplish that day. So the Miracle Morning, I definitely recommended it. I found it on Amazon, and they also have stuff on YouTube about it,

but supposedly it's changed a lot of people's life, and it seriously sets the tone for the day. I also have to make my, you know, I'm always in the kitchen making my detox drink. I wish you would drink that. I drank the one last night. It tasted like piss. No, that was absorbic acid. So I mean...

Oh, absorbic acid, wait, I have the hangover cure. It is the hangover cure. It's a scoop of absorbic acid, which is 100% non-GMO. vitamin C mixed with two ALA tablets and you drink an entire cup of water with the absorbic acid, take the two tablets and it takes care of the hangover. It's vitamin C. Why didn't it taste like emergency? Because emergency has fake shit in it.

I love the fake shit sometimes. I know you do. It's so weird. This stuff tasted like sour. I think it's good. It tastes like lemon or something. I don't know. Not lemon. Okay, well, when I don't have a hangover, you do, don't come crying to me with your headaches that you get. So yeah, there's a lot, so there's a lot you can do for anxiety. I think that's a, I mean, I think we could do a whole

episode on anxiety, like a whole thing. There's actually something that you guys, there's a situational anxiety where, for instance, I don't have bad anxiety at all, but when I go to a restaurant, after I'm done eating, if the waiter doesn't bring me the check right away, I get super anxious. Are you serious? I have to get out of the restaurant because I feel like I did something terrible. Almost like, I'm not joking. Like, I committed a crime and I have to leave. Wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, back up. This is a whole another episode. Wait. So, set this up.

You're at the restaurant. You know, you've got to explain this better. You're at the restaurant. At a restaurant, if I go to, like, just say Red Robin or anywhere where you sit down. So you're having anxiety in Red Robin. So let me get the straight. You probably ate some clucks and fries. You had a milkshake and now you're having a shit ton of anxiety.

If it's a date, I don't get anxious. But any other, like, classification of seated meals, where there's a waiter and you have to kind of sit there and your fate is determined by the check. Wait, how is your fate to turn? I know that, I know why, because his grandpa made him sit at the dinner table and finish every single scrap of food when he was a kid and he has complete anxiety. It's weird. We've talked about this. So when the check comes, before you get the check or when the check comes, the anxiety starts it.

No, if he doesn't get the check, he's having a bell done eating. I like the check sitting there so I can sign it and get up and leave, like right away. It's almost like I just want to, like, it never happened. I got to get that, but for a different reason. I just want to. I don't know. I just my hands get sweaty. It's weird. I kind of get that, but I just, my reason's just because I'm, like, it's done, it's done, like, time to go. I'd love to go out to eat with you. When can we plan this? Let's schedule this out.

Well, because then that would classify in the more, like, long, drawn-out dinners where I don't necessarily get anxious. But if it's, like, a quick turn and burn, oh, I'm like, Gabby's always like, I want to. Gabby's your girl. Gabby's my girlfriend. She's always like, oh, I want to relax. I'm like, no, we've got to get out of here. It's so funny to me, like, this is so fucking funny that you're dating a European. Like, I can't even with that because they love to relax and eat and drink.

And you're just like, you can't, you can't do that. You're incapable. Now, I want to know when you and I are going to go to Red Robin. Well, if you want to come, once, we go to Red Robin, like at least. Does he do this with you? Twice a month? They don't know it, but I always have the exit planned in my head. We're going to make a pick away. Wow. Wow. Okay. Well, that's never heard of that. I'll have to look that up on Wikipedia. So I always got the great comments. Okay. Olivia asks, I know you were joking about scheduling sex two podcast episodes ago, but how do you actually

fit it in when you're super busy and tired at the end of the day? I feel like a psycho planning it out with my boyfriend, but at the same time, I don't want to be too tired. So I'm going to give everyone advice that my stepmom gave me when I was 22. I called her one day. I was working three jobs. I was so tired to the point where I would literally. hit the pillow and my eyes would be closed asleep done and I asked her what do you do when you're so

tired and you just don't want to have sex and you're over it and you're not in the mood and I thought she was going to give me some sweet answer about oh you're tired like don't have sex just relax it's all fine and she goes you rally and ever since she said that I rally Because when you're going to marry someone and you're going to be with someone, that's a part of the game. That's a part of the plan. Like, you rally. Get over it. You know, that's, I think in a relationship, you're committed to that area, you kind of just have to put your bootstraps on and get over it.

What do you think about that? Michael, what do you think about that? Oh, Jordan is going to answer. Deflict, deflect. Well, yeah, I mean, there's always that thing. Like, if you're not getting it there, you're going to go get it somewhere else, right? And, like, I don't think you can blame a guy or a girl if you're not. I mean, what's the point, right?

Like, what's the point of putting in the work in the relationship if you're not going to have that benefit, right? What was that show you were having me watching? And there was, like, that couple and she, they were, like, pumped that they didn't have sex for, like, six months. And I was like, what the, like, what's the point then, right? Like, why are you going to deal with all the aggravation? Like, why not just be good, best friends? Housewives? No, it was a reality show.

Which one? The young guy, the young people? A Vanderpump Roles? Yeah. Oh, I don't know who that was. Yeah, there's this guy, and I was looking at him like, dude, what are you doing, man? Like, that guy doesn't seem, like, that didn't seem too happy. I think men and women need sex.

It doesn't matter who you are. I think it's a big part of a relationship. Some people choose not to have sex before they get married. That's fine. But if you have chosen to have sex, you should rally. You know, get over it, pull the band-aid off, get it done. And everyone says this, but sex is like fitness. No one really wants to go to the gym and put their gym shoes on and their sports bra.

But you just get in there. And once your workout's done, you feel great about it. Yeah, once I wrap, once I strap on my gym shoes and my gym clothes, I thought you were going to say once you strap on something else. Yeah. Once I strap on my gym shoes and my gym clothes and I get in there with Lauren, then, you know, I'm good to go. No, once you finish a workout and you do it, there's no workout where you're like, God, I hated that workout. I mean, sex is fun. It's not like someone's making you, you know, go do something you hate. Sex is fun with the right person. Oh. But you can definitely have a, there's been definite times in my life when I've said, well, that wasn't too fun.

you're sick that's disgusting there's also been a lot of times in my life where I've curled up in a blanket and wanted to cry myself to sleep not with Lauren of course no well why did you ask me to marry you because I don't curl up in no I'm a rallyer yeah Lauren's a rallier you just do it and no we actually don't schedule sex that was that was a joke although I would love a good Google Cal with you and I on it scheduling our sex I love it in like red so it's like very obvious. If you're at the point of having to schedule sex, you might want to re-examine. You told me to time block my day. Yeah, but I mean you could time block

like spending time with like, you know what I mean. We could just call it. I almost feel like if you have to schedule it, that's like time. You're going to throw me into a conundrum now because I've been so about scheduling. Yeah. I'm like a robot whose brain's about to blow out. No, but if you have to see you at 7 p.m. tonight. If you have to schedule it. See you at 7.32. Meet you in the room. Dimm the lights. Frank Sinatra playing. You know, we have a rough time, though, because our chihuahua sleep in the bed of us. And every time that we want to do this, we have to go and put them outside the room, and they scratch at the door and cry like mockingbirds.

It's so true. This is real life. They cry and whine, and they can't imagine not being in the room with us. The other option is to keep them in the room with us. Whenever I hear a chihuahua scream, it gets me going. Ew. I'm just kidding. We could keep them in the room with us.

I had never heard the term Raleigh used to define sex, so I just searched it up in the Urban Dictionary States, clawing your way out of the depths of drunken hell and rejoining the party in full-on pimp style. That's pretty good. Thanks for that, Ty. You're always there to provide the best content there is. So, yeah, if you're a girl, if you're a guy, rally. Get over it, put your bootstraps on, and get on. And really, I think guys or girls, if you're not being intimate, like, you know, guy or girl is going to go.

and get it somewhere else. So, you know, don't put yourself through that. And you can't blame them if they do, right? Like, if you're withholding sex, you can't really blame them. I would stab you about it. But, like, what are you supposed to do? Like, hey, we're not going to have sex and, like, I expect you to stick around and just not have sex.

Even when we're in a fight, I'll still have sex and continue to ignore you. That's actually some of the best. Like, we got in a fight the other night and then I just, oh, John, you probably don't want to hear this, but we woke up in the middle of the night and I just animalistic. Oh, you are sick. No one wants to hear that. You were. I was still mad at him though afterwards.

Yeah, but I didn't care. I was like, we're done now. I was like, bye, you're out. Move. Hate sex is some of the best sex. Jordan's so uncomfortable. Her palms are sweating and her arms are shaking. So on that note, we will end this podcast.

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