The Bossticks - #14: Mimi Evarts, Work Life Balance, How to use Calendar Apps, What to do with Cheaters, is Twitter making a comeback?

Episode Date: June 7, 2016

We have Lauryn's younger sister Mimi on the show! Talking about tequila tasting, how to balance work and your relationships. How to use calendars for your business and what to do with cheaters. We also talk about what the youth is doing on social media and discuss the Twitter comeback!  To learn more about The Skinny Confidential visit the site HERE To connect with Lauryn click HERE To connect with Michael click HERE

I think it's part. Kim, Emil, Kim, Emilio's the dress. Hi, guys. We are back with the skinny confidential, him and her podcast. We have a special kind of guest today who's going to be asking us questions. That's Mimi. Hi.

We got Michael and I, and we've got a lot to talk about. But first, we want to just let you know. We really appreciate all your reviews on iTunes. Thank you guys for subscribing. Thank you for the five stars. It's amazing. We're obsessed. Thank you.

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Anyway, so we got Mimi today. Mimi, you guys have seen her on my Snapchat. She basically does anything and everything for Michael and I. She helps us with bombshell body recipes, with getting us organized, with packages, mail, what else, Mimi, everything, Instagram. She cooks from me so that I don't starve to death when Lauren feeds me bread. No, I feed him pumpkin seeds when I can't find anything. Have you ever seen that meme on social media?

Where the guy comes home is like he has two pieces of bread and some ice between it. I feel like that's what I would eat if Mimi wasn't around. Yeah. Well, you know, I'm busy. What can I say? Mimi helps with everything. She's awesome. And she's just basically going to be taking Jordan's spot because Jordan just got back from

Cabo and Mimi's going to be asking us questions. So, anyway, so this weekend. We took a break from social media. Kind of. Like, we did, but. I took a, I went cold turkey. You went cold turkey? Yeah, I needed a break.

I needed to slow down on the snaps. Yeah, yeah. You needed just a break from Snapchat and I feel like you're not on Instagram too much, but we're going to change that. I needed to get, I needed to go meet with Taylor Taylor, the man with two first names. and get some acupuncture and some cupping. Yeah, a lot of you guys have asked me on Snapchat where we get cupping and acupuncture and herbs,

and it's from Taylor-Taylor at Fix. Fix Body Group and Hillcrest and San Diego. And he is amazing. He did this thing on me this weekend called Pet the Dragon. Yeah, I've done the Dragon. No, you haven't. Because I have when he pets the needles. Okay, so basically he puts needles in your back down your spine,

which sounds really scary, especially if you have vasovaskel or Vascovigel or whatever it's called. called that I think it's Bezo-Vagel. Whatever. He puts needles in your back and then he pets down on your back to stimulate the needles. And you'd think it would hurt, but it feels so good. Mimi's looking at us like, what the hell are you talking about? That sounds terrible.

No, it's not. You should try it. Acupuncture is my one day where I clear my entire schedule. I don't speak to anyone. I hardly speak to you. You tried to speak to me and I was like, no, be quiet. And then I get cupping done, so my whole back is in bruises. Yeah, the cupping, I still am not so sold on the cupping, but I do like the acupuncture.

And, you know, me, I'm not all about the he-be-gibis or whatever you call that, all that stuff. Everybody's all trying to get me and do these weird things. You looked like you just got laid by 20 women when you walked out of Taylor-Taylor's office, though. Admit it. It's better than that, I think. It's such a good feeling. Is this weird? I'd rather maybe have an afternoon with Taylor-Taylor than be with 20 women.

Actually, being with 20 women sounds terrible to me. You know, let's see. I mean, how. Yeah, too much work. Too many conversations, too many problems. Moving on. Okay. So, yeah, we did a little acupuncture, a little cupping on Saturday.

But what's new at that? That's one of our favorite weekend activities. And then on Friday, if you follow along on Snapchat. We're like going in reverse. We're going in reverse. Whatever. I can't. I can't be.

I'm not perfect. Close to it. Thanks. Don't compliment or too much. One compliment a day. I'm just kidding. So tequila tasting was Friday. We had Weston and Jessica, who are some of our best friends, come over to my parents' house,

and they set up the most beautiful, beautiful setting, don't you think? Yeah, it was beautiful. Your parents are of the best at that setting up ambience. But Jesus Christ, they were getting us loose. They were getting us loose. Egoosey. Yeah, your dad's just like dump in tequila down my throat. Weston, I don't think he knew what planet was on.

No, Weston was on Mars. My dad was giving us Muscal, Muscal. Muscal. Let's go. He's like, oh, this is like a drug, but it's tequila. I love tequila. You came in later. Yeah, that was how he sold it.

I love tequila. Mimi came in later. She made us tea. I was there for about two minutes before I went to bed. Oh, yeah, that's right. You did. You made me some tea. You don't remember?

No, I do remember that now. Michael blacked out. I was just eating cheese. The cheese was good. We had cheese. We had cornishins. We had grapes. We had, I mean, the works.

These, like, beautiful potter. No, your dad and in Julia are the, best at that. They can, they just know how to set a scene. Yeah, my dad's opening a restaurant, which I'm so excited about. I'll be there like every day. We'll be there every day. Yeah, both of us, all of us. We'll film podcast there. And it's basically all based around tequila and just really amazing food. So I'm excited about it. I'm super pumped about it. Actually, I love tequila. Tequila, like, I'm not a big drinker, but tequila's my jam. I love when you have a shot of tequila. Your wrinkles relax, your personality relaxes,

everyone relaxes you take a deep breath you go to sleep on the table i didn't know to sleep on the you can't open your eyes you don't know where you are you don't know who i am i actually watched house of cards i can have my way with you do you really sicko we did watch house of cards finally got cut up on that yes um loving house of cards lord's my little claire ew you're my little david spacy or kevin spacy david spacy who the hell's that his brother whatever his his older brother is the outcast of the family, David. So, yes, we are back in the office today, hitting it hard. Per usual, I projectile vomited all of Ramini.

Not actually, but with all the stuff that I had to do today, she got probably about 40 text messages this morning. It's a normal day. I'm going to projectile vomit with all of these salad bowls with whatever yogurt and junk you're eating all over the office. I'm looking around. There's these plastic bowls. everywhere. There's disgusting

yogurt and I'm not, I don't like white yogurt. Wait, but let me explain to them what this is. Okay, so you guys know that I love the Kardashian plastic salad bowls. They're BPA-free and we wash them and reuse them. And they're perfect for the office and Mimi helps me meal prep. Give them an example of like something that you made today. So you really like grapefruit and so I'll cut the grapefruit into quarters and then I'll put it into the plastic bowl with yogurt and blueberry

and a little stevia or something. It's so good. So we'll have that, and then she'll also prep, like, a kale salad with turkey and mustard on top. It's awesome. So anyways... Speaking of mustard, that mustard chicken this week could be good. Maybe tomorrow. No, no, no, we're doing burgers tonight.

But we did meat sauce tomorrow. We did burgers last night. I like a ritual. You like the same thing every day. You say chicken and broccoli. I tell... No, I wanted to do that. Every woman that's ever been in my life, mom, grandma, you, exes, who are...

Not everyone can be so lucky to help women making them food every day. I just say that I'm the simplest person in the world. I don't need a lot of variation. Just like, I need like five staples. Okay. So anyways, back to the salad bowls. All the guys in the office have decided to copy me. Not me.

Besides my goal. So what Michael's employees do is they ask me a couple questions. Then they secretly email me. Behind my back. Yeah, behind your back. Can you please email me the link to those salad bowls? Then they ask me so many times about the salad bowls that I just end up bringing them salad bowls.

And then they try to order the salad bowls on Amazon. And when they see they're sold out, they come crying to me. Everybody's creeping around the office, like, winking at each other about the salad bowls. And everyone's just like, you walk by and one employee's giving the other a thumbs up about the salad bowl. It's like an inside thing, and I'm just completely out of it. I mean, not everyone wants to eat at Red Robin for lunch.

Taylor. Michael. Can you blame us? I mean, nobody ever hated on a good clucks and flot frying with that. No, I don't think so. We don't need milkshakes for lunch. So anyways, now we're all in the office. I'm trying to remodel the office.

So a lot of you don't know what this office is. I worked out of a shipping warehouse for my company Jetbed, where we sell beds for corporate and private aircraft, if anybody ever wondered what that was. So anyways, we've been in here for a long time, and what it is is just a big shipping warehouse. So there's nothing special. I mean, there's... No, it most certainly isn't anything special, Michael Lossack.

No, because it's a fucking warehouse, okay? Yeah. Listen, I want to actually touch on this. A lot of people... No, no, no, I want to get into this. I see a lot of people start businesses, and this is... And I'm going to jump into some business to it right now. I see a lot of people start businesses, and they go balls to the wall with their office space.

Like, unless you're a lawyer... On Fifth Avenue. Yeah, unless you're a lawyer or accountant or you're entertaining people and people and people are coming to your office to meet you and in and out. Like, you don't need that. fancy office space. And I think I've seen so many people waste all this money. Me and Weston had a business and I swear to God, we had, before we even had the business set up, we had a bar in there. We had people running in and out. There was a lounge area. Nobody was using this stuff.

It was just a huge waste of overhead. So when you're first starting out, you don't just take it easy on the office space. You can work very efficiently in a reasonably priced, small space and build into that dream office. Don't go balls of the wall in the beginning. agree with you but let's like work with what we have and what we have right now is a butthole we got we got to know listen so i got it i got you know moving some stuff around we just carpeted half of the warehouse which we're not using why'd you do that though why'd you carpet it i mostly did it for the chihuahuas their knees they had bad knees so i got to you know everyone had nobody wanted the carpet i said too fucking bad everybody carpets chihuahuas doesn't matter and um hashtag chihuahua whisper

i got so look it i got i'm painting the the walls bright white for you we're doing uh oh yeah I'm micromanaging you with the walls. Yeah, but then I got you some white desk. Weston brought in a big badass conference table that he built from his furniture line. We're getting some new whiteboard set up. So anyways, we're fixing all this stuff up. Thank God. I'm in the process of it.

It's called when a woman touches your office. Now, but listen, the last time, like when me and Lauren first moved in together and she was micromanaging money, I had a complete meltdown. Do you remember when I had this meltdown? Yeah. Look over there. You see those Star Wars Legos? Yeah. Okay.

So the first time I had a lot. meltdown with you. I, like, it was like, this is maybe like a... Explain the context of the meltdown. No, I mean, like, I got in there. You're screaming at me. Like, I can't move a candle. You got to wear the house? To the house. Okay. No, you can't move a candle. That's my house. I got a coffee table book. If I opened the coffee table book to read it. No, you're not supposed to read the coffee table books. Who does that? You got black, black hangers. Well, Mimi help with this. The closet, if one shirt is not hung the right way. Wait, you always leave your cuffs rolled. And so that's 90% of my job going through.

and uncuffing your shirts. He doesn't even know this. I can't believe we're saying this on the podcast. I am so OCD that he leaves his cuffs rolled on his shirts. What do you mean? And I make me go through the closet and unroll. Like your flannels. Oh, like I roll them up.

I roll the slings up. And when you hang something, you have to unroll the cuffs. Yeah, and you'll leave it. Like some parts are up. Like your hood is like out and it's not tucked in correctly. Drives us crazy. We can't deal. So anyways, this is why I had the metal.

So all these new things. And I started coming into my office. I went and spent probably like two or three grand. That's ridiculous. No, no. Yeah, I know. I'm just, I'm saying this out loud to hear them on it so that people can understand how big of a meltdown.

Everyone's going to think you're ridiculous. No, no, no. And I sat in my office and built thousands of Star Wars Legos. I have walkers. A therapist would have been cheaper. I have Jabba's sail barge. If anybody's the Star Wars fan, I got the sale barge. I got.

So now I'm blessed with many models. of Star Wars that no one cares about that I'm throwing away when you're not. No, I gave some away to the kids. I have a couple left. Yeah, we'll be giving those. So this time I'm on the verge of buying some more Legos because you're micromanaging me on my office rebuild. And it's the office that I've been in for five or six years. Listen, it's not perfect, but it's mine.

This is why you never, ever move in with a man, girls, ever. You always move into a house that's ours. Yeah. Because if you move into his space, he thinks it's his when it's not. No, I'm not saying it's mine. like this is mine. I'm saying like it was like it's a shithole but it's my shithole. Does that make sense? Yeah well I'm

going to come in here and clean this up. Mimi will be uncuffing stuff hanging stuff the right way. As long as I just I mean it's going to be way for here. This is the place I used to escape the first time with the Legos and I don't do now do I go to the house? Oh you can go to Red Robin.

You can go to Red Robin. Have some clucks and fries. Anyways We're also Mimi we're also building her a calendar that you guys can work on. No, we're going to talk about that in second, our calendar. That's a whole story that they're going to love. Okay, so let's do the first question since it has to do with calendars.

Okay. What apps do you use for calendars and how do you structure your calendar? Great question. This is why you wanted to wait on getting into the calendar. Yes. I was excited to talk about. I don't even know where to start because I love calendars so much. Well, first off.

We both love calendars. Yeah, we do. Cheers. So my friend, I've talked about this before, what's gobbie cooking? She's a blogger and she's adorable. She gave me the best tip because she's so organized. She said to buy these like, I think they're 12 by 16 calendars off Etsy, get four months worth, have them design and branded towards whatever your brand is.

So of course, mine are light pink with black. and then frame the calendars in four separate frames and have the four months laid out on the wall. Are you guys still with me? Then take Post-it notes and put on Post-it notes what you have to do that day or what piece of content goes live and stick the Post-it notes to the day.

Is everyone with me or am I not making any? I know what you're talking about, but I would, I mean, that sounds... Here's what I'm going to do. I'll do a blog post on it this week or next week showing the layout so you guys can see it. And I'll leave the links to Etsy. That's perfect for like you. No,

I have a couple other things. That's not the only calendar thing I do. That's very OCD. Yeah. Yeah. I mean, it's cute though, and it works.

So let me get this straight. You're going to have that and you're going to have your new giant calendar that also goes on this wall. Tell about my new giant calendar. So we're picking one of the walls in here and we're making a, we're painting. Are we painting?

What are you doing? You're painting a giant calendar. A micromanaged. tricked him into painting a wall right white so cute i don't mind that okay with i'm going to hire a painter to come in here and paint a calendar on the wall and this wall is huge the calendar is going to be like i don't how big i don't know how big so wait how are you going to write on it though or you just going to put post-it notes or something what are you doing well there's this there's this marker that you can write with on a wall space if you put like this shalac on top no you have to use no i know what

you're talking about but you have okay don't don't get in the way of my dreams you have to use dry, like drywall paint, or not drywall paint. No, no, no, no, whiteboard paint. Like the same stuff they use on a whiteboard. Let's make it happen. Okay. Early Christmas gift. Okay, you can do that.

So anyways, but like the app, like to answer the question, the app that we both use and that we both love is Google calendars. It's the, I mean, I've seen people, some people like Outlook. I like Google Calendarers better. I think it integrates more. I have the app, Google Calendarers on my phone. I used to use Sunrise, but when Outlook bought it, I switched over to Google. calendar. No, you're looking at me weird because you told me to do Google Calendar,

but for a while the app sucked and sunrise is better. But now Google Calendar is better. So we use Google Calendar and we have all sorts of different calendars set up within the calendar. Like I have one that's a personal calendar for me. Lorna has a personal one. We have one that's together. I have one for Jetbed. I have one with Weston. Mimi has one. We have one with the team. We have one for the podcast. We have one for Skinny Confidential. For Blog Due. We have one for BlogDoo. We have like 20 calendars basically. Yeah, and they're all color-coordinated, and we have one for trial. Anyway, this calendar is amazing because you can, we use it for everything.

We schedule every single part of our day out on it. You can invite multiple people. You can have multiple people share it. Some calendars can be viewed by the whole team. Some calendars can only view by us. I love it. Google calendars is the best. That's what I use.

I like Google calendars too because of the color coding. I'm all about the color coding. Everything's colored. So when I wake up in the morning, I can see what conference calls I have, what time they are, what's due, what needs to be turned in, what needs to get on the blog,

et cetera, et cetera, et cetera. So my whole day is laid out in front of my eyes. Why I want my big calendar on the wall, how big would you say the wall is? Because people are going to want to know how big this wall is. I mean, it's like 10 feet by, no, I know it's bigger than that.

It's like, well, the space you're going to use is probably like 10 feet by 10 feet. Okay, so my 10 feet, my 10 foot calendar. I don't think it's going to be that tall. I do. So my 10 foot calendar is going to have my editorial schedule and then what everyone needs to do that day on it. So for instance, it'll say Mimi, roll out Michael's cuffs. Speaking of it, we should get into a little bit how we like set up your calendar and how we like structure.

Yeah, because we talk about how we use calendars, but, you know, anybody, can just write down like due dates and stuff. Well we we actually for Lawrence because you know we're a blog that has seven posts a week five more than that more 15 right now. Oh wow. Okay so what we do is every time we have a post we sit down as a team and we come up with monthly content ahead of time and we try to blog as much as we can in real time and we leave spaces for like spontaneous posts but say that we're working on a post about Venice we just did I just did a post on Venice. We actually schedule, okay, the Venice post is due Monday, which is today.

And we, from there, we actually schedule the back work, too. So, like, my Venice work started last Friday, and it goes through a review process. And then once it's gone through that review process, we post, like, I finish it on Monday. A lot of the things I post are in real time as well. So if I say that I'm in Florence and I'm blogging about Florence, I have to, schedule the time in Florence to work on that post. So basically all the backwork is scheduled into the calendar even when I'm traveling. And then we also will schedule, you know, social pushes and newsletters and when things are due so the whole team can see the calendar.

And again, that's through Google calendars. So calendars are a huge theme here. Yeah, it just keeps everybody on the same page. It keeps management on the same page. It keeps me. It lets the whole team know what's going on and what we're working on. Basically, I have three calendars. Yeah. And so the ones that I really want to show everyone that's listening is the one that's the four pictures that are framed where I put my editorial notes on with post-its. And I promise I will do a blog post on that. So moving right along. What is the next question, Miss Mimi?

Logan asks, how do you guys keep a balance between work, friends, and your relationship? Ooh. Well, that's easy. We don't have any balance. Actually, balance, I think, is bullshit, kind of. I don't, I mean, there's no such thing as balance. Like, it, I think that balance is, is relative, like, it's, it's who are, no such thing as balance. No, I think my balance, my definition of balance is different than your definition of balance.

Because there's no such thing as balance. Okay, well, whether, whether it's like fake, but. Well, like, you're working on something, how are you, in, and you're, like, you're either working or you're not, or you're either with friends or you're not, there's like no balance. Well, like, someone that's a mom is going to have a different definition of balance than me who is not a mom. You know? Yeah, but it's different. I guess what I'm saying is you're always going to be out of balance. When you're doing one thing, you're not doing the other thing, which means you're out of balance.

So, like, it's a seesaw. It's not really a balance. It's a seesaw. Balance would be you're doing one thing and another thing at the same time, which again, we've talked about this in the past. My thoughts on multitasking. Thank you. We know your thoughts on multitasking. Yeah, so, no, we have a rough time separating, at least in our relationship when it's time to switch off because, you know, we'll try to go on a romantic day.

Oh, tomorrow's our date night, by the way. Oh, we got to tell them about that, but that's about that. I'm going to talk about that. We can't wait. It plays into it. So tomorrow's our date night, right? So we decided that once a week and the day is going to switch around. You've decided.

No, we've decided. Yeah, no, no, but it was your idea, which is cute. Yeah. So in hopes of, I'm just going to put it in quotations and call it balance, right, Mimi. You see me doing the quotations here? Yep. I'm going to say that we are seeking balance, Lauren. Hum.

And so in hopes of trying to find that, I said, hey, how about once a week we do our date night for when we're not traveling or running around? And this week, I'm going to pick a surprise thing to do. It could be dinner. Can't wait to see what you have planned. Maybe you get on the reservation. Yeah. Mimi, I can help. And so the problem is we're going to set up this nice romantic date night and none and

but I guarantee in the middle of the date. Like even if we both try, like even if we say we're not talking business. Let's try. Let's report back and try. I guarantee we're going to try. Why don't you tell me how pretty my hair looks? Yeah. It does look great.

Well, here's the thing. I say your hair looks pretty, your ass looks good, body's tight, like shirts great. And then we get in, I'm like, okay, so what's going to work? Because we run out of shit. I mean, that's what's going on in our life. We're hustling around. We're working. That's what we talk about.

I mean, I can't imagine a dinner just sitting there. What else are we going to talk about? I guess we could gossip about it. One time on a romantic date, I told you that it may be time for a retainer. Then the next day, you got a retainer, though. And now your teeth are fallless. I lost that retainer. Well, you probably need to reinvestment.

No, but the point is, so how do we keep balance? I mean, we just check ourselves. We go like, we'll be like having a really romantic dinner. I'll say your eyes are beautiful. We're doing this. We're getting levied. The candles burning. And then boom, I'm like, yo, what's going on with accounting?

And it ruins the moment. Accounting, whatever, bring that up. Or I'm like, yo, what's going on with this post? And then I get a smack. No, I actually enjoy discussing business with Michael. because Michael, the one reason I fell in love with him, giving you a compliment here. Only one reason? The main reason is because he stimulates my brain.

I thought I was going to say something different, didn't you? Yeah. Isn't that cute? He stimulates my brain, and that sounds weird and creepy, but his conversation, there's so many layers to it, and we have so much fun talking about what books were reading and how to grow our businesses and how to growth hack and what we should talk about on the podcast and blog. And I mean, there's so much to talk about there that it's kind of never ending. And it's fun when we work together, even though we want to kill each other sometimes,

to go after work and get out of the setting, but still kind of talk about it. No, I mean, this is why I think it's so important to develop things to talk about, right? I mean, like... It doesn't have to be work. Fortunately and unfortunately, a lot of our stuff's work. But it doesn't have to be like, I'm not saying that, no, not every couple is going to be able to work together. As a matter of fact, like probably most aren't. We're still kind of navigating it.

But still, you've got to have something interesting to say besides what other people are doing and gossip and blah-da-da-da-da. We can talk about the way that you take care of your closet tomorrow. On the date? Yeah. I have a full list of things to change. Canceled. And we do not put our socks inside out and put them together. And then as for friends, I mean, honestly, like, we should.

should we could probably do a little bit of a better job with the friends department well i mean the problem is is that when we're not working the time goes it's allocated towards our family so that leaves a limited amount towards our friends but here's the other thing a lot of our friends work with us yeah that's true i've got you know we went to palm springs last weekend yeah but one of the people that we went with weston works with us yeah um but we we definitely do try to have time for our friends and we do we make time but um it's definitely hard yeah i think sit here and say oh it's a breeze like nbd i'm a big fan of acquaintances i like i like to have just a small group of friends that i don't that i don't have to satisfy the needs of too much and i know that sounds like a terrible thing to say but

i just like i like a couple good friends and then a bunch of acquaintances where i could be out and be like hey jim bob what are you up to or hey sally like you know what i mean and then i and then that's like they're like oh wasn't that good no okay no girl no sally yeah yeah Yeah, Sally, who the fuck is Sally? Yeah, Sally. No, you know, it's good. They'd be like, oh, wasn't a great saying, Michael? Yeah, it was good.

But then they don't really care what else I'm doing. They're just like, no, like, I'm, because I'm busy. I don't have that much time to, like, run around anymore. Yeah, so you. And when I do have time, I want to read and be with my chihuahuas and you. I feel like you're obsessed with time with your chihuahuas. Let's just admit it. That's what a lot of people don't understand.

They're like, don't you want to be out and just raging and, like, drinking and, like, don't you miss hanging out with those? I'm like, listen, guys, I know this, like, I'm good just with my chihuahuas. He spent a good hour yesterday walking the chihuahuas, bathing the chihuahuas with lavender essential oils, I may add, and then brushing their teeth with peppermint holistic wipes. True or false? True. 100% true. I got no shame in the game.

You also fed them organic turkey that was supposed to be mine and gave them a little sprinkle of pumpkin enzymes. No, look, I mean, I used to go, I mean, if any of you know me from the game, the past or have seen me like I used to go out all the time and I don't know what I was doing for because I really didn't have that good of a time I'll just like out there drinking and partying and then I get home and I'm like you probably drink one beer no I used to get after it I didn't know you then no you knew me a little bit oh shucks anyways did you notice that um Twitter's making a comeback yes Mimi okay first of all when we have a question about social media

we asked Mimi because Mimi's, how old do you? I'm almost 19. She's almost 19. I don't know how she's almost 19 because she's the most responsible person in my entire life. At 19, I couldn't even find my ass with both hands. At 19, I was cocktailing and I had three boyfriends.

I was a full-down disaster. No. No. You were like on. I was like a side dude. Yeah, you were like on the, eh, whatever. Yeah. Could go without it.

Yeah, so I feel like when you, were just like starting your blog, I told you to get Snapchat and you got one. This is six years ago. Yeah, and you never really like understood Snapchat and so you never used it. And then it started to pick up all this speed and you had one. You just weren't using it. Never since then, I feel like you've valued my opinion more. Yeah, I wish I valued your opinion six years ago.

Mimi told us in the beginning of the game. Mimi told us six years ago. Wait, how old were you six years ago when you told me that? Like 13. Yeah. What were all the kids doing this now? Snapchat. Well, at first, they didn't have stories. Way back in the day, there's no story. Vintage. Yeah. It was only to one person. You couldn't send it to multiple people.

Love it. Yeah. What were you guys doing on there? It was just like you would talk or you'd send news. Yeah, you'd send pictures of us smoking the bong, you know, when we were 11 years old. Yeah, right. Yeah, they would. Me and your sisters. Oh, Jesus Christ. Yep. So, yeah, she told us to get Snapchat six years ago. We didn't listen to her. here we are. Snapchat's huge now. Thank God I listened to her like a year ago and got it because

it's definitely one of my favorite platforms. But on that note, I keep asking her, what's the next platform? And surprisingly, I've been thinking that Twitter is coming back because I never used it. Twitter was out for about two years. So out. Yeah. And now I've been kind of coming back slowly. Why? And I've been leaning off of Snapchat for some reason. Really? I've been leaning off of it. I don't want the, I hope, if any of the youth is listening, I hope he's steal on Snapchat and just don't leave me. Well, I don't like sound on my phone. That's something, I don't like to hear it unless it's on Bluetooth in my car.

Got it. But I'm always in public, like when I'm working. I'm not going to be playing Snapchat. No, no one wants to wear that. Yeah. I'd rather kill myself. Unless they're real diamond or like real gold, no one wants those. Wait, so Twitter's coming back.

I've been liking the interaction. You know what I think for a pure bit like in the internet? No, yeah, I've been liking the internet. Internet's a great thing. No, Twitter is awesome. I think that right now, like the attention dropped off it so much. And so people were like the engagement was really, really low. So right now I think it's a really, really good opportunity to jump in and have some engagement with people that you normally wouldn't get it from.

Like right now, if you're trying to reach out to that person that has a bazillion followers that you couldn't get to before or that person that doesn't respond to your emails or hasn't responded to your inquiries, like Twitter is where you're going to get them. Like Snapchat, you know, Lauren and I do our very best to answer every single thing on Snapchat. But still Snapchat, there's so many messages and there's so much activity that sometimes it's hard. Twitter, when I get a Twitter message or a tweet or whatever, I respond right away because I see it. It like pops right up. And I've seen a lot of people with a lot, and, you know, I don't have shit on Twitter. But I've seen a lot of people with huge followers on Twitter start to respond and engage with people, which tells me that right now is a very, very good opportunity to reach out to that person

that you've been wanting to reach out to and get a hold of them. I think it's your best chance. I respond to every single tweet I get. I make sure to retweet. I make sure to engage. I think Twitter is a very valuable kind of platform, and I think it will make a comeback. But what's next after Twitter? I've been searching for what's next.

Do you guys use like musically in those things? No, that's a feel like younger. Musically's younger. I've never heard of musically, so maybe I'm outdated. What about after school? Is that an app? Or are you talking about what I do after school? Yeah, that sounds like a pedophile.

No, after school is an app. I have a boyfriend. Yeah. After school is an app. And what I do is I just go on, I go on the, why are you guys laughing at me? Because Boone farted so bad. Stop, you make you embarrassed.

Don't embarrass him. So wait, you don't use it. Use after school. You don't use musically. No, I think that you guys are really searching for these apps. Like, what's next? And I kind of just let it come to me, you know? She's right. And so, unless I hear about it, I feel like after school is probably not cool. Yeah, after school sounds dreadful. What about Kiwi? No, I've never heard of that either. Let's see. All these things are in the top 20 apps. Well, maybe Mimi's too old. Yeah, well, I now have just been listening to podcasts

in my car and doing my car and books before bed. After school. After school is funny anonymous school news. So maybe that'd be a little creepy. Maybe that'd be a little creepy if I jumped in there because I probably don't belong in the school gazette. No.

We're not going to have you yet. You're not going to join after school. Yeah, that's a little creepy. I know, because I was just looking at it right now. This is like party tonight at someone's house and like... You going? Yeah, I don't know about that. Okay, so yeah,

We're not going to do after school. What's the next question? You talked about monogamy last week. What do you do when someone cheats? I really liked last week's episode. Oh, thanks, Mimi. Yeah, it's good. We're getting a rhythm going, Mimi.

We're figuring out. Yeah, you're building off of last week this week. I like it. Cheating. Cheating, cheating, cheating. I feel like you want to talk about this a lot. I have a lot to say about cheating. But here's the thing.

cheating can be circumstantial. So sometimes... What does that mean? Yeah, I'm not quite sure about that one. What do you mean? Like, per circumstance, it can change. Okay, continue to explain further? Like, there's maybe like a little wiggle room,

depending on the situation. Sometimes there is. You disagree? So I, it's like I cheated, I'd have wiggle room? If you cheated... Basically. You and Sally. Your penis would be sliced into small salamis.

I give them to the dogs. No, what did they do on Game of Thrones to, what's his name? Theon. I'd Theon you. Wait, but so expand on this circumstantial cheating. I think like if someone made a really big mistake and made me made out with a girl and you're in college and you're both at separate colleges, there's wiggle room. I think if you're in a full-blown relationship,

you're 25 and up and it's based on trust and you live together, it's absolutely not acceptable. Yes. Can I build on what you just said? You always do. I always do. I think like you said, the example of someone making out with someone or doing something, I think if you're going to let that fly, that's fine. You can let it fly, but don't complain if it happens again. Okay, can I build off that? Yes. Okay. If I was in a serious relationship and I knew that this is going to be the person I was going to marry, I would never put up with it. Because the second that you give an inch to a man, they take a mile. Or woman.

Or woman. Or woman. They take a mile. And I'm telling you. That's why I rule you with an iron fist. You don't rule me with shit. I've got you locked down. You're not going nowhere.

I'm so happy that you think that. I'm actually just too tired and busy to cheat to be real honest with you. I know. Too much effort. Mimi, can you put it on my Google calendar? Yeah. Unless it's calendared, I can't. cheat.

Put it in pink. No, but seriously, let's give a real answer. Okay, a real answer to this is that if someone cheats on you and you're 25 years old and you think it's the person that you're going to marry and you're living together, it's breakup. Yeah, I'm going to... It's breakup. Yeah, I think it's, well, no.

You have to set a boundary. No, it's not breakup if you're okay to live with it and you're okay to get past it, but it's breakup if you can't. You can't, I see so many people where it's like, oh, they cheated on. me, oh, they cheated on me again. It's like, listen, at that point, it's your fault. It's not their fault. It's your fault for allowing that behavior to continue and to occur. It's well, like, it's well within anyone's power to leave, to just leave. Like, it's over. Like, if I cheated on you, if you cheated on me, I would leave. I would be, even if I, I would, I would leave. I would take the

dogs and I would leave. You would not take the dogs. That's why I would take the dogs. No, but seriously, even if I was super, super sad just in principle, like, I would have to leave. Like, That's just like how I'd have to be. So I think once that trust is broken, it's very difficult to get back. And, but everyone's different. I mean, if you're okay with it, then you're okay with it. But if you're going to say you're okay with it, you're going to get past it, like girls, or guys, if your person cheated on you and you said, okay, it's over and we're moving on, then it's

over and you're moving on and don't go back to it because then it's just going to be a nightmare. Well, I have a very kind of cynical view on this, if we're being dead honest. I used to work when I was, I think I was 22 to 25 in a bar. And I worked in this bar that was in this very like prominent area in San Diego. We won't name names. But the area was very affluential and there was a lot of very wealthy people there. And for some reason when you're surrounded in that area and you incorporate alcohol, men, especially because that's what I saw, feel that they are deserving to cheat.

It's very interesting. They get a little froggy. They get froggy. And so I was the bartender behind this bar and there was all these men coming in all the time because it was a very like men, a manly bar, I guess. And for some reason these men just wouldn't kind of notice the bartender. Like I was just basically pouring them drinks. I didn't have any eyes or ears.

But I did have eyes and ears and I watched. And it was very interesting how these affluental men acted when they started drinking because they would do things that when they were married that were so inappropriate. I mean, I could tell stories like up the wazoo. That's for a different podcast. But these men just would like blatantly cheat in front of their wives, not in front of their wives, but when their wives were like a couple miles away.

And they're friends with these people too. It's like a close circle. A very close circle of people. So what's the point? Very incestual. So the point is, is that is unacceptable. However, the wives would come in weeks later with their husbands. And they knew that their husbands were cheating.

And it was an unspoken thing between them. So that's my point is like if that's okay and that's their thing, then that's their thing? That's what I'm trying to say. So what I'm saying is... Some people are fine with sweeping it under the rug and going on and living a normal life. And if that's how you are, then that's fine. But if you're not fine with it, like it wouldn't work for me if you cheated on me. If you're not fine with it, then you have to leave and you have to sit down to you.

Because if you say, listen, Jimmy, you know. Can you stop with Jimmy and Sally? Like, these names are from like 1941. Listen, Joe. Listen, Joe. You know, if you've done it once and you said you're not going to do it again, like, and then he does it again, like, don't be surprised because it's like you had the, you had the option to leave.

I want to ask, Mimi, like being, you're a high old, you're 19, what are your thoughts? I definitely think it's, there's a little bit of wiggle room. Like, I'm in a long distance relationship. And so stuff, you know, I don't know what he's doing. I don't know his friends. I don't know. She's also 19. Yeah.

And it's just kind of like I have to accept that. But if I were older, crossing the line would be, personally, I thought girls in the room. Like, I know that's kind of funny. No, that's okay. Yeah. That's girls in the room's crossing the line. Yeah. Like alone together in the room.

No, even just like in the room, I think is inappropriate. Just Mimi is very conservative. of you guys just to let you guys know which i love about her i mean just with alone alone together in the room or is it like what if all like what if it was a bunch of like a group of people no i don't only think that's okay why would they be sitting on his bed and if there's something in his room oh his room yeah michael this isn't like you're not like inspector gadget like there's girls in the room but that's my circumstance you know and that's that's again you have to create your own boundaries you you have to sit down i think with your partner and like lay the line like this is not

what's your standard learning girls in the city Um, I'm just kidding. Well, I mean, you're living on campus. I'm actually pretty loud. Lauren's pretty cool. I don't like, like, you know why. Do you know why? I will just say this about Lauren and I's relationship.

We both just, like, we trust each other so much. And I think we both know that if either of us cross, like, it would just fuck so many things up that it's just, it's just not worth it. Like, we just don't. I mean, I trust you 100%. My parents were divorced when I was 10 years old. And, um, I just watched my dad and mom go through. so much unnecessary stress that they wouldn't have had to go through if they didn't get a divorce. And it's almost like adding shit to your life that doesn't need to be added.

Yeah, I said, if you don't want to be faithful, then don't be in a relationship. Exactly. Wow, the 19-year-old wisdom. Can you say that again so everyone can take note? Say that again. If you don't want to be faithful, then don't be in a relationship. Every guy I want you to tattoo that on your six-pack, wear it around like the scarlet, letter six-pack yeah they need to tattoo that if you if you don't want to be faithful then get out of a relationship and guys just a little note from a girl the worst thing you can do is cheat and then lie about it because we will find out and imagine me with the a knife emoji and you know it's the same it's the same thing

what i said last week we always you cannot force somebody to be faithful if they don't want to be so that's on you as well it's just as much on you as it is on them and but let me ask you something michael why your friends even go into a relationship when they know they're not going to be faithful, and I can name a couple of them. So, no, no, it's called the Sunday Lonely Game. So like, you have all week, during the week, you're all like, focus, you're hustling, you're getting your work done. So like you don't have time to be thinking about anything else.

Friday Saturday comes around and you're drinking and your party. Yeah, you're out there, you're getting going. And then Sunday comes around and you're coming down from the week of work and the weekend of parting and you look around and there's nobody there and you're just depressed. And then like you get that Sunday call and, you know, that's, okay, listen, I know, don't just tell every girl in the world one thing. If a guy calls you on Sunday, if you want to get back at him, I used to do this to my ex-boyfriend all the time, never pick up. Sunday is the worst day to pick up.

Don't pick up. Don't return his text. Don't like his Instagram. Don't retweet his tweet. Don't watch his Snapchat. Do not engage with him on Sunday. Radio silent. They go.

crazy. I used to drive my ex-boyfriend so nuts. I was unavailable on Sunday. That's cute. You have the Sunday blues. Sorry. Go out, have a mimosa, be with your friends. Do you know what? There's a laundry. There's some advice that I think applies to anything in life in any kind of hard situation. And I always talked about this. I said, it's difficult to like take your own advice. So you're going to take it a step further. And if this was your best friend in the world or your sister or your brother and that's the person you're trying to protect what is the advice you would give them if they were in your exact situation and then take that advice because a lot of times you have a rough time taking like the advice you would really give somebody else that you cared about so you know

if if you if your sister was being cheated on over and over and over by the same guy what advice would you give her okay now you take that advice right my advice would be if you're over 25 especially or i'm going to say 22 actually If you're over 22 and someone's unfaithful to you, next them. You know that show next? MTV? Next. Like next?

Swipe left. What is it on Tinder? I don't know. That was a trick question. I just wanted to see if you've ever been on it. Well, I want to end the show with done with this subject, got over it. I want to talk about, you know, if you have a business or you're starting out, I really want you to think about taking Twitter seriously and reaching out to some people that you think

could help your business or would, um, benefit from your services and just hit them up on Twitter and see what happens. I think you'll be pleasantly surprised with the results. And I think now is better time than ever to get someone's attention. You got to keep in mind, a lot of these people with huge followings still have those followers and still have those numbers, but they don't have the engagement. Sorry, that's my love. They don't have the engagement.

So right now it's a great time to jump on and try to get their attention and interact with them. And I highly recommend it. Well, that's it for today. hope you guys enjoyed Mimi. I will retweet a tweet that she tweets so you guys can follow her. Oh, thanks. Anyways, we hope that you enjoyed episode 14.

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