The Bossticks - #18: The Hangover Podcast, July 4th, Managing Couples Finances, and College Experiences

Episode Date: July 5, 2016

On this Podcast we are hungover! The day after July 4th we talk about managing couple finances, where we run around in LA, and we talk about our college experiences. 

The bedroom episode. No, no, no, no, no, no, no. No, I thought Beanie. Hi, everyone. We are back with the skinny confidential, him and her podcast. What episode is that I always forget? Can't keep track. Numbers aren't my strong suit.

I think it's 17 or 18, no. I feel like it's 18. So we're back with another episode. We have a lot of fun subjects to cover today. We're a little bit slow. We're a lot of bit slow. We're really, we almost put the same. off until tomorrow.

Yeah. Well, it's, it's, today's the 5th of July, which means yesterday was the 4th of July. Today was not my shining moment. And honestly, guys, like, I'm just going to give a full disclaimer. Like, this may be a half-ass show. This might be a little half-ass. We're in bed. We're literally podcasting in bed.

It's, um... You're not hungover. You had, like, one sip. No, but I'm slow. And like, like, when you're hungover, I'm hungover. Because, like, when you go to bed when you're drunk, you, you, you, you roll around all night and like whip and flail and it keeps me up all night. Yeah, I definitely drank a little bit too much last night.

I'm feeling it. I do not feel good. I felt like shit all day. I did not have my hangover cure handy, which I'll do a blog post on this week or next. So there's a giveaway right now on the Skinning Confidential. I'm sure a lot of you guys have seen it. It is for $2,500 worth of my favorite beauty products. Some amazing stuff is in there.

and there's like a clarasonic and a, what's a new face? It's like a facial like massager for lymphatic drainage and massage. Anyway, there's a huge giveaway. And one of the stipulations to win is to rate and review our podcast. So if this has brought you any kind of value, please tell your friends, let them know about the giveaway. Podcasting is new to a lot of different people, so it's fun to spread the word. Yeah.

And the reviews so far have been really awesome. Phenomenal. I'm super pumped on them. So Michael's going to tattoo them on his ass. Yep. If we can fit them all. My ass is looking pretty tight these days. I've been working out.

Your ass is looking really tight these days. So anyways, rate, review, subscribe. Let us know what you think. You can also send your questions into podcasting or podcast at the skinny confidential.com. Still a little slow, aren't you? I'm a little slow. I'm not going to lie. I can't lie.

kind of like a short week this week because obviously it's the holiday made it a four day week and then this Friday. And today didn't count since I moved like a sloth. I actually got a lot of shit done to them. So did I. It was weird. Yeah. And you know what? It's funny because you ride my vibe. Nobody anticipated

when I say nobody, I mean you and I that when we signed on the podcast that we would have to do them even on hungover days. Like so today's Tuesday. You're not hungover though. No, no. I'm a little slow because we drank. You pick up all my energy. Yeah. Maybe. But no, I'm a little hungover because me and your dad were taking down some margaritas. But you were just on a different, you were like much different than me.

I was on a different planet because what I did, what I did wrong is I was drinking margaritas and tequila, which was fine. And I was like having a good time. And then I decided to have a glass of champagne. Well, you switch to champagne and then you and your friends started jabbering about God and I was what. And I took a power nap while you guys were talking. And then I was so boring. You guys, he took a nap on Fourth of July. No, I had to take a power nap. And you guys were, I don't know. what you're talking about, but it was boring me. Okay, well, I was...

There was a lot of drama, and I took a nap, and I woke up refreshed. There wasn't any drama. It was the least drama free time. Whenever I see three women speaking, I feel like there's some drama. There was no drama, you guys. We made him go to a Mexican restaurant with three women, and then I got buzzed up and told him that he had never taken me to see fireworks. Yeah, but, well, yeah, which was absurd, because you've seen fireworks literally every

year with me for the last eight years. But, so anyways, this is a short week, Because we, you know, we only have four days. But then on Friday, we are going up to L.A. for the weekend. And we're really excited for Friday because, as you know, if you listened last week, we recently made our partnership with Podcast One official. Podcast One is the new podcast network. The OGs are coming back.

Yeah. What do you mean? The OGs, the Very Naked Cucumber and Jordan. Oh, yeah. So, yeah, I'm getting to that. So we're going to go up to L.A. this Friday. And finally, which I'm very excited. It's like I wish I had a drum roll sound effect and maybe on Friday I'll be able to get sound effects is where we're actually I don't want to give you sound effects.

God, I'm going to hope. No, no, no. But we actually have a studio like official radio studio with like equipment and a producer and like they have that like glass partition. Right. And so we all get a record in there for the first one that we're the first show that we're going to be recording in the actual studio. So I'm excited because I'm going to be I'm going to feel like Howard Stern. Are you going to have a sip of champagne? You're going to be like my robin quivers, right?

And we're going to be. No, no, no. You're my robin. Okay. Whatever you want to do it. I'm going to just, we're going to be like officially official, which I'm excited about. Are you going to have a sip of champagne? Yeah, sure.

But it's going to bring, I think the production value of this show through the roof. We're going to have a place where we can actually bring guests. Can you not move your hand in my face when you talk? No, I like to. I'm a big gesture. And we're excited about it. So Jordan and Taylor will be coming up there. I thought it would be nice to bring them up there and kind of like round out the show, right?

So that like to show like, okay, we started from our living room and now we're in the studio. Yeah. Not yet, but we'll be. Yeah, I think that it'll be fun to bring them up. We're going to take them out to a nice lunch at the Ivy and kind of celebrate while we're up there. Or maybe we should go to our secret Italian spot. No, no, the Ivy's a good place to celebrate. It's like a trendy.

Like, they'll like that place. Okay. I'm excited too because I think Lauren and I are working on a new intro for the show. And I'm pumped, like I'm hoping for some new music, some new like an official intro. like, you know, like, not like a game show intro, but like... Everyone wants you to get naked and dance to the intro. Well, maybe you'll make a cameo. That costs extra.

So, yeah, we're recording in a studio on Friday. It should be really fun. Follow along on Snapchat at Lauren Everts and at Michael Bostic so you can see the BTS. Fourth of July has left us with a dreadful hangover, especially me. But I'm not that embarrassed because Michael got wasted. last week, which is a rare occurrence. Like, it's as rare as seeing, like, a dinosaur's footprint. Like, you...

Okay, so it was our date night. I take him to Cragg's. Craigs is, like, this, like, hot spot in L.A. It's a little... It's amazing. It's really good, but it's very trendy. It's... We like more retirement home vibes, but we do like Craigs.

So we ran into a friend there, and he proceeded to order a gin martini, which would have been fine, but he hadn't eaten. and then he ordered another one. And by the time I knew it, you were on your third martini, which is so weird. I was getting loose in Craigs. You were getting loose. It was like 9.30.

It was past your bedtime, let's be honest. And by the time our salad came, the first, like our appetizers, you were like blacked. I basically had a gin salad. You had a gin salad. They had a lemon and a cucumber in it, so that counts. I didn't know what to deal with you. I just couldn't even believe. He doesn't get drunk, you guys, ever.

No, I used to back in my day, which we'll get into later. But no, lately I don't drink as much anymore. I just, I don't know if I've, like, I've lost the urge to drink so much later. But this night I definitely had the urge. I had some old feeling surfacing. So Michael does this thing when he drinks too much, which is once in a blue moon, where he wakes up and he acts like everything's normal and wants to feel out the situation. Whoa, whoa, I don't do that for you. Yeah, you do.

No, I don't. I do that to trick myself out of the. the hangover. Okay, but you, you actually, like you didn't do anything and that you weren't a slob. Yeah, but you think that that's for your benefit. So, let me, I'll give some drinking tips here because. Oh, everyone can't wait to take drinking tips from someone that doesn't drink. No, no, I used to go. Pull out your scroll. I think, okay, listen, the reason I cannot drink so much anymore is because I think when I was younger, and this is fucked up to say maybe, but like, me and my friends when we were younger, used to get after it. And I think, like, we drank, like,

get after it on naughty light. No, no, but by the time we got to college, I remember. I remember, which I'll get into later as well. There's a lot of stuff we're getting into later that I'm going to get into now. Or Zima. When we got to college, we were in this fraternity, me and Weston, my buddy, Chris. And I remember the older guys were, like, trying to haze me. Yeah. And Weston and Chris.

And, like, they would feed us all these beers. But, like, we've been drinking like that through high school, which is really fucked up. Like, we probably shouldn't have done that at the time. So, but I think we did our college drinking in high school. And then, like, it got even worse in college. So then now I have the hangovers of, like, a 65-year-old man. of the game. No, I'm not. Now I'm done. Now I'm, like, I, I ruin myself. Now I wheel him in his wheelchair, and he gets his gin martini and his, uh, his, uh, a moosh-bush, and then he's ready to leave.

If there's any young people listening, just pace yourselves. Don't, don't turn out like me. You don't want a 55-year-old hangover at age 30. Anyway, so he was feeling out how bad he was in the morning, and he was pretty bad. You were drunk as a skunk. Um, so I don't feel that bad about my fourth of July display. I mean, why would any, why would you feel that? The only reason I feel bad is because it's so cliche to be hung over on the 5th of July, and I hate cliches. So that's the only reason I feel bad. So anyways, what we did. It started off nice.

We went and took a bike ride with Lauren's parents. We were running around all over bikes. Which, can I just say that I had so much fun riding bikes yesterday. I actually didn't do any work or anything. I just, like, let loose and rode bikes. I was listening to a podcast, though, while I was biking. but that was that's like for fun yes we went had a couple margaritas everything was fine we rode we got our bikes at this little boutique bike shop in cardiff and then we rode um along the coastline along the beach to las olas and they had the best shrimp tacos you gotta explain what las olas is to people that aren't from here it's a mexican restaurant that makes bomb margaritas and these shrimp tacos were insane yeah how good were those those were good you almost bit off my dad's hand oh yeah Yeah, well, I've been trying to get back in shape.

I've been lifting some weights. Can you not put it like that? Your dad tried to order a little tiny plate for us to share, and I was like, I don't think so, Bradley. Like, I'm a man here. I need some, I need my own plate. And so he was, he was kind of bummed on that because I think he wanted to just have a little splitsies.

And I was, I was not having that. Spitzies? Okay, no. I was like, not this time, buddy. And, uh. So then we went up, um, met up with my friend, Sean and Carly at Michael's parents' house. And that's when the champagne situation happened. and I got pretty loose. Yeah.

When your hair's in your tortilla soup and you're falling asleep at the table, I felt that pretty loose. I wasn't falling asleep at the table and I didn't order tortilla soup, so you're wrong. I ordered a tamale and chips and salsa and guacamole. So, anyways, we, let's get it to do it. You're just ready to get into it. I'm a little bit slow. She's a little bit slow. All right.

We're going to get into it. This is probably going to be a quicker show because we're pretty out of it. But Ben Rango on Instagram asks, I'd love to hear more about your college lives. I am currently in college and would love to know how you kept your shit together while in college. Well, Rango, I didn't keep my shit together. Not even close. Not even close. Which gives hope to everybody because if I can make it, anybody can.

that we were not dating in college. We were not together. No, you kept creeping around and I had to keep you at bay. I was not creeping around, though. Like, there were crickets, so I don't know what you're talking about. That's true. There was no creeping on my end. No, that's true.

The only end that was creeping was on your end. Yeah. Well, I would say I was definitely creeping around in college. Yeah, so Michael went to you over the place. Yep. I went to UVA. I'm very scholarly. Shout out to my wild.

cat friends, um, if you're listening. I went to you of A because I'm very scholarly. No, you were a partier. No, um, I was never, like, just so anyone out there listening, I was never a good student, never ever, like from kindergarten on. I was a B, C, D, sometimes student. He used to flick off the teacher when we were at 12. You mooned the principal.

Um, I got suspended one time for mooning the prince. You, actually, I didn't moon the principal. I found me and my buddy. days were down by the um in six or seventh grade we were down by the baseball court and they it was by the street and cars would drive by at lunch and we were we would moon them and so uh one car got super pissed and went and told the principal and um i would have got out of it but i had this one friend who i'm not going to imagine because i'm still friends of them and you know who you are if you're listening who started bawling crying in the principal's office and ratted on all of us and so we got

suspended for that okay so you so college so michael and i i went to san dieua state michael and to University of Arizona. We were not dating the entire time. He was kind of a nightmare in college. I always... What do you mean I was a nightmare in college? I just know. You weren't even there.

No, I just know how you are. You were a nightmare. You like, I feel like you were all over the place. No offense. Like, you were everything I wouldn't have dated. Like, you were a frat guy. Like, you were doing keg stands. Like, no.

Well, first, if anybody's been to UVA or to Tucson in general, you'll know that there's absolutely nothing to do out there between the ages of 18 and 20 besides join a fraternity because there's literally nothing going on. I say this with all the love in my heart in Tucson, but God damn it, that place is boring. So there was nothing to do, right? So we got there. You could go see Cherry at the strip club. We got there and a cherry.

Good old Cherry. No, so we got there and there was nothing to do but join a fraternity. So we joined the fraternity. I was a S-A-E and you just when you get there you just kind of do

what you do in fraternies which is party I guess Yeah so I met him on his Not I didn't meet him I've known him since he was 10 But I we rekindled our flame When he was in his third year of college You ended up graduating early

And coming back to San Diego I want to make a note on that Because graduating early makes me sound super smart I was not He learned to hack the system I was not the best student, and I've never been, like I said. But like Lawrence said, I learned how to hack the system or I learned how to game the system, meaning like I learned how to get my credits in order. I learned what summer classes to take.

I learned the easiest angles. I learned what classes I could coast buy on. Sounds like. And then when I figured all that out, I got the fuck out of there. I got the degree and left. And I would just make a mention, like, some people watch me on Snapchat and they think I'm anti-college. I am not anti-college, but I'm not for college for every. everyone, meaning I think that you can get some useful experience.

I think accumulating a shitload of student debt is on your own. For instance, I did not have to go to college. No. There was no reason for me to go to college. No, I mean, listen, you get some good life experience. It's like I learned a lot of independence in college. I learned how to take care of myself on my own. I was in a different state.

I was away from people. Did you? Yeah, I did. No, and then I learned how to game some systems. You learned how to work with people. How to da, da, da, da. that. But if I had to get out of college and have a shit ton of student debt without knowing what professional field I wanted to go into, knowing what I know now, I wouldn't do it.

So if anybody's out there, a young guy listening, young girl, and you're getting pressured to go to college just to go to college and they're telling you to get a shitload of debt before you go, really think long and hard about it. There's nothing wrong with taking a year off and seeing if you can get some work experience before. Everything I studied in college, I'll I'll tell you what I said. I said regional development and business management. Obviously, I use the business management skill, but regional development. Do you use the skills that you learned?

I was in a fucking water planning class. Me and Western were in there together, Weston and I, and we looked at each other like, what the hell are we going to use this for? And honestly, we have not used it ever. So I just think, you know, there's pros and cons of college. I'm not advocating for or against. I'm saying really just consider what you're getting into. You learned how to build a good slip-ins slide.

What are you talking about? A jungle party. Oh, yeah. Well, I didn't do that. Oh, you didn't? Oh, I have a good story. This may be useful for business. So when I joined the fraternity and I was a pledge, that sucked.

And I realized that I hated doing that stuff and taking orders from other people, which still to this day I don't like doing it. But I figured out to be an officer in the fraternity so that I could get the pledges, which were basically my employees back in the day. And I used that. them to get me things, build me things, bring me things, get food, get booze. And I, like, kind of like was running a mini little fraternity company at the time. Oh. Which was kind of cool. Learned how to manage some people.

I bet that's not that useful, though. My college experience was the exact opposite of Michaels. I went to San Diego State. I tried to join a sorority because it was the thing that you were supposed to do and quickly learned that I don't like to do the thing that you're supposed to do ever. Whenever I feel that I'm supposed to do something because of society, I rebel. So anyway, so I went to Rush and I had to go to 10 houses to make it in any sorority and I ended up going to two, cutting the time in half at one and going in my car and reading us weekly and taking a nap. Well, that's true at Rush. So I took my

nap in my car and ended up getting in the sorority and went to one meeting and found out I had to pay $800 a semester and never went back. I just, I don't understand the point of paying $800 to, and maybe you guys can tell me differently, but for me it was like pay $800 for almost friends. So what I ended up doing and I would recommend this to any college student that doesn't want to be in a sorority is I worked at a restaurant and it was like van der pump rules. I had like my own like click of friends there and ended up meeting my at the time boyfriend who was a surfer. And I made my own little group, I guess sorority at my restaurant where I worked. So I would come to school and just get my work done and leave, come in with my briefcase, leave with my briefcase. I got A's and B's,

but I was so unstimulated and so bored and nothing challenged me. And I'm not saying that like Like nothing challenged me like I'm so smart. I just didn't feel challenged. And I was just doing what society told me to do. And that is when the idea of the skinny confidential came about. I was just going to jump in and say that because I think we sound kind of anti-college here. And I think I'm anti-college for me. I did not need a job.

And I think that I sound like all I did was like fuck off. Fuck off and party. You did. But no, but really, I would say that as Lauren said, she had the idea and came up with the skinny confidential by being in college and being exposed to opportunities. And also while I was in college, you know, I forgot to mention, I ended up remodeling my first home. And I thought I was studying real estate at the time. And I ended up renting part of the place out to some of my college friends who were ultimately my roommates. So I got a lot of work experience there.

I did like a couple hundred thousand dollar redevelop on this. So I learned all this while in college. I learned how to communicate with people. There's definitely useful skills you can get from college. And to answer the question of how to keep your shit together, because that's the whole thing here. is I'd say just learn how to get through it, learn how to work with people, learn how to manage your time and yourself. And like, don't expect some huge opportunity while you're in college, but maybe set yourself up to propel yourself for what your life's going to have to offer after. Here's the worst thing you can do is think that by going to college that when you graduate college, there's going to be this job that's this amazing paying job with the view of Fifth Ave waiting for you at the end of the tunnel because there's not.

You have to create it. You have to create your destiny. You have to create your future. Like I said, I had the idea of the skinny confidential while I was at college. I remember being in line at Starbucks, and there was nothing to eat healthy on campus. And so I started modifying everything. I would go and get the protein box at Starbucks and eat the egg. And then I would use cinnamon as sweetener in my coffee. And I would go to Rubio's. And instead of getting tacos, I would get lettuce cups. So I started doing this. And I was looking around and I was like, damn it there's so many sorority girls here there's like there's like 20,000 women on campus or something crazy like that and no healthy options how can I reach all these women and that's when the idea of a platform that could reach the world came to mind so college definitely did set

that in motion for me but I just was not invested in it and I was just really bored and unstimulated and I feel like I learned more life advice from cocktail waitressing my way through college No, and on that note, just to give some value to this question because I want to. Like Lauren said, don't expect just because you've gone to college and you have a degree that you're going to get out and you're going to get some amazing golden job. For me personally, as an employer, I would hire the person with some real life work experience 10 times over the person that's just getting out of school. We've done that. Yeah. It's what's more useful to your business?

Hey, somebody that comes in has worked in the field for the last four or five years or somebody. that went to in school and how to people tell them about it for the last four or five years. So I would say in order and to get that experience, maybe think while you're in college to get some sort of part-time job, an internship, get some real-life experience. Don't just come out with your diploma in your hands and think, oh, the world's going to be handed to me now because that is just not the case. Yeah, you got to work for it. All right, next question.

Okay. I'm literally chugging a huge mason jar full of water with ice because I'm so hungover with my absorbic acid in it. You need this. Okay, Marty, Jennifer asks, I would love to hear more about the places in LA. I live here and you guys always seem to find fun restaurants and coffee shops. Well, we find them on Retirementhome.com. Michael and I have a very specific taste when it comes to restaurants and coffee shops.

Well, I keep it super simple. You just, I go where the good food is. I don't really look for trendy. We don't really... We like ambiance, though. We're about ony. Yeah, I like ambience. But, I mean, if you can, if you find a place in L.A. that's been there for 20, 30 years, go there because the reason it's still there is because of the food.

I mean, there's so many places in L.A. that open and close. This goes for anywhere, though. I mean, I like the Beverly Hills Hotel because it's kind of bougie and it's, it reminds me of like Elizabeth Taylor. I love, love, love, love, love that generation. So anything that has to do with that, I love. I love, like, the Ivy. For coffee shops, we're just going to be a basic. bitch here and say Alfred's and that's only because I just, they make an amazing almond milk

cappuccino. Well, because it's like two blocks from our house. Yeah. I also, what else do we like to eat? We have this little secret Italian place that we'll tell you guys, we have to tell them. It's called, Leconda Veneto. Yeah, and we get Dover's Soul with capers and lemon and a glass of rosé and always start with the caprice salad.

We also like the beef carpaccio there. And then where else do we go in? I'll like, what are my friend's hotel? Jones on third. I like to go to the Four Seasons for breakfast. Sometimes I like to go to Madeo's. I like to go to Craggs. We want to try Freds, which is in Barneys.

You want to try Fred's. I'm like that. What's Gobi Cooking? My blogger friend just took us to, what was that restaurant called? It was cute. It was underground. Do you know the name?

No. Crap. I'll get it from her. And then there's another restaurant that we're missing. Oh, my grandma is all about the Hotel Bel Air. and we're going to bring her up to L.A. and take her there. These are bougie places. They're like, I mean, you can go to, like, you do the typical sugarfish.

You could do... They're not like, they're not like rich places. They're just like, they're... When he says boozy, he means, like, kind of old school, like old Hollywood. Yeah, these are not hip places. So if you're looking for hit places, like, honestly, I don't know about Lauren, but I'm the wrong. I'm the wrong dude. No.

Yeah, you are to ask. Every time I get invited to those places, I'm just like, eh. Yeah. We like, we like older crowd. Madeo is really good. Try Madeo. That was kind of like a not... Jones on third has the best damn BLT ever at avocado, though.

That was not such a jam-packed question. That's kind of... Yeah, there's a lot going on. All right. I think this is the last question for tonight, and then we're going to have to crash. Okay, it's from Brooke Adams 5, and she says,

I'm curious if you can both talk about who manages the finances. What's in your throat? Nothing. What? So yeah, we can talk about this. This is a question that a lot of people ask. Yeah, we've been kind of hesitant to answer this question,

but we're going to get into it now that we're on episode 17, 18. So what's interesting is in terms of managing the finances, I don't think there's a designated role of who manages. So the way that I'm going to take credit for this, actually. Whoa, that's weird. You're going to take credit for something? When Lauren first started her blog before she had ever run a business, I said, I want to set you up with your own company. So the Skinny Confidential is its own business, its own solely by Lauren.

Trademark. Trademark. Her company, whatever she does through there is her business. None of mine, I consult with her on it. Like, I help with whatever advice she wants. Until recently, I haven't, like, I didn't step more into the business. But the finances of the skinny confidential business, those are Lauren's decisions. And I leave those to her.

and I think that it's really important that she has that. And then for me, I have my own businesses that I manage myself as well. And then more recently, we have a joint business together that we call MB and LB Enterprises. She jumped the gun and put LB at the end for Bostick, because we're getting married. So we kind of contributed to that. What about Pixie Bean? That's another company. We have a company called Pixie Bean, too, where we share finances and that too.

So, but to back it up, what we do, Lauren has her companies, I have mine, and then we have some joint ones. In terms, we're in a unique situation where we both make a living separate of each other. And so when it comes to the manager of the household, we made a decision like, okay, let's not, let's make it simple where we just split the rent or the payment or the whatever it is. 50, 50 down the middle. She takes care of her car. I take care of mine. But we kind of make it a non-issue. Sometimes when we're somewhere in I.

I've planned it. I'll pick up the tab. Sometimes she picks up the tab. I find myself picking up the tab a little bit more when we're running around. But yeah, we may push the tab towards him. You know what I will say though. My number one thing about money and I've always been like this and is just don't be greedy. Yeah. I've never been greedy. Like I've, I believe that if you want to make money, you have to spend money. And I also believe that when you spend money, it makes you want to make more money. so I'm not greedy with money. I'm not, I'm almost to the point where what's the opposite of greedy? Giving. No, not giving, not giving. Generous? That's not what I'm looking for. No, I'm looking for a word that's like I'm a little bit too, like it's like hurting me.

Yeah. Well, recently we've actually had to step into, to have a management discussion. Not the best of money, guys. No. Lauren thinks that if she gets $10, that she has $100. Yeah, I'm learning, though. I'm saving. I just started saving because of my grandma. Remember, she told me to put 10% of my income away? No, that was me on that show with your grandma.

No, that was my grandma. Don't take credit for the Nans. Play the tapes back to you. What else me? I will. I will. So we kind of try to make it a non-issue. I mean, money is important. I don't think it's the most important thing. It's also fleeting. For us, yeah, it comes and goes. We try to just get as much enjoyment out of life as possible. We try not to make it like, you're paying for this. I'm. paying for that. If somebody...

If somebody bought something in the house, we make it ours, not theirs. Like, we're just, we're very, like, sharing with each other. I think when we get married, most people would say, like, okay, you're going to sign this or sign that. Like, when he's not looking, I, like, steal money out of his wallet. Just kidding. Yeah, well... That's one of my favorite hobbies. No, I'm just kidding.

I think that the best advice I can give anyone is don't create such an attachment. to money. Yeah, but when it comes to, I agree, but when it comes to like who manages the finances of the house, there's not really like one person who's sitting there managing the finance. I mean, we kind of just split it 50-50. And if, if one month, one person pays more, one person, the other pays more, like, we don't really make an issue. Or spends too much, like, if someone spends too much me, I get yelled at, but I've been better lately. Yeah, she has been better. I've been better. I grew up, I grew up very, very normal and, and, um, in a humble environment. And I grew up around a lot of people with a lot of money. So, um, you know, while everyone was getting brand new BMWs and Mercedes, I was getting, you know, a used car, which was totally fine. And I have to say, I'm so happy with the way I grew up because I think that it hasn't made money such an issue. Um, I had to work. I wanted a Lexus. I, I remember when I was in high school.

Everyone had brand new Lexuses and brand new BMWs. So I wanted a Lexus. So I literally worked at a boutique, I think five days a week for two years and saved up money and got a down payment and went in there and found a co-signer and got the Lexus that I wanted. I wanted a boob job when I was 18. So I saved my money from that same boutique, put it in a savings account. And the second that I graduated, I ended up. up, you know, going to a boob job doctor and putting the down payment down.

Everything that I wanted, I had to make happen for myself. So that's kind of the way I've grown up. And I think that by growing up that way, I haven't had this huge attachment to money. And I agree. And I think all those are great things. But with that comes the other side of it where sometimes you don't pay attention to the money. Yeah. And I'm working on that.

I'm going to make a list of things you have to work on tonight. And I'll make a list of things I have to work on. And that's one of them. You're planning on writing a dictionary tonight or what? I have to work on how I manage my hangover. Yeah. No, but for anybody that's like wondering about, like, maybe we don't have such a typical situation.

And I'm not saying that you should go with your significant other than like open companies or do that. But we're also business partners and a lot of things. Which is, you know, as we've talked on this show is, is great and complicated and difficult. It's complicated. Our relationship's like a spider. and a mess and great. There's a lot of different layers. The best, but also the worst.

Say it's the best. And the best. But I would say, like, one thing that I would really caution against is not making it so that one person is fully in control of the money and one person is full, is not. I think a lot of issues coming. You know, I've had, I've had women and men message me asking questions like this on Snapchat. And I got a question one time from a woman saying, listen, this guy, I'm with him.

He's buying me a car. he's doing this, but he's keeping, he's doing that. He's keeping in his name, though. The house is in his name. And I said, wait, I'll say, that doesn't seem right. I call that blood diamond. Yeah, maybe don't. When someone holds something over your head,

because, and they make you do stuff that you don't want to do because they gave you something. Don't be in a situation like that. I don't care if you're a woman or a man or whatever. You do what you want to do on your own terms and buy your own stuff for yourself. You'll feel so much better about it. Or don't, but understand. what comes with that territory. Let me tell you guys, too, when someone does something, you know, when someone spends a lot of

money on you, and they're trying to hold stuff over your head, it always comes to the price. Yeah. If I've ever bought Lauren anything in my life, which I have. You have? Yeah. I'm just kidding. I do it wholeheartedly with the intention of knowing that that is hers, that it was like a gift.

Like, I don't ever hold it over ahead or come back to it and say like, this was given to you or this was mine and it was now it doesn't do that no because i think that when you do that a relationship it's a it's a huge problem because you don't want somebody to feel subservient or feel like they're less than without you and i think using finances or money to control another individual is a really slippery slope so if you're in a relationship that is going that way maybe have a discussion and say listen this is not going to be good for either of us it just won't like i've never seen that end well And, you know, you don't want to be a wife or a husband, like, later in life that's just so miserable because you've been controlled by money. It's just not worth it.

Like, you can, like I've said this from day one. You can live on less. You don't need that car. You don't need that jewelry. You don't need all that stuff. You don't need those clothes. Like, yeah, they're nice. But, like, I promise you you're not going to give a shit at the end of your life.

You're going to remember the times when you're happy. So just, you know, don't let money control you. There's nothing more liberating, too, as a woman to be able to afford your own shit. can everyone just like really think about that out there there's nothing more liberating to be able to pick the car you want and pay for the insurance and have your own health insurance and pay for half the rent and step up to the plate and and just be your own person and not have to worry about anyone else but yourself it's really liberating and um i believe that any woman out there can create that destiny for herself if she wants it um and i just want to say my goal that

I am going to hold it over your head that I gave you half custody of my two chihuahuas. First of all, I own Boone P. I own Pixie 100%. So we can split them 50-50. I feel like I'm 51. You can be 49. Well, that's it for today. I need to go drink some absorbic acid and have a couple ALAs. I'll do a blog post on that hangover cure. It works. I don't know why I'm waiting until 930 at night to do it.

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