The Bossticks - #26: The Meth Neighbor, Birth Control, & Advice to Our Younger Selves

Episode Date: August 30, 2016

Mimi Evarts & Jordan Bosstick join Lauryn & Michael, to discuss a crazy neighbor on meth who dropped by their LA home, what your looking for when picking out a diamond, birth control, systems instead of goals, coconut coffee, how Snapchat has evolved over time, & they share some advice that they would give to their younger selves. To connect with Lauryn click HERE To connect with Michael click HERE This episode is brought to you by The Skinny Confidential Bombshell Body Guide and Meal plan.  tired of combating inflammation & bloat? Want to feel lighter and sexier? Check out lauryn's latest 7 day meal plan. In this simple & super effective plan you'll find: + tsc grocery list with every ingredient you need for the 7 days. + what the f*ck to do when you love carbs guide. + quick and delicious recipes: breakfast, snacks, lunch, dinner and dessert. You will also find 28 weeks worth of fat burning, muscle toning, 27 minute long, effective workouts you can do at home with no equipment. USE PROMO CODE: HIMANDHER at Checkout for 20% Off

The following program is a podcast one.com presentation. She's a lifestyle blogger extraordinaire. Fantastic. And he's a serial entrepreneur. A very smart cookie. And now Lauren Everts and Michael Bostic are bringing you alone for the ride. Get ready for some major realness. Welcome to the skinny confidential, him and her.

I'm so excited for a little champagne and rosyakiness and our favorite, Leconda Beneta. Veneta. Banana. A little delversole. A little bit of a little bestie time with the three of us. And Michael, you can sit at a different table. Welcome back to the skinny confidential, him and her podcast.

You have me, Lauren Everett's, the creator of the skinny confidential.com. And Michael, I'll let him introduce himself because he loves to do so much. Michael Bostic, head of dealing with really high maintenance, difficult to handle women. There's a lot of estrogen in the room today. Chihuahua Whisper Chihuahua Whisperer Serial Entrepreneur I'm going to be honest

I'm wondering if people are still listening after Taylor's episode last week he's a little out there No we wanted to bring a little female energy in here so we've got

Mimi Hi We have Jordan Hello These are our two Right-hand man's Or women's Women's

So we're really excited To have them both on here Especially after last week's show But first we wanted to thank you guys For all the support You guys know We love podcasting as a medium. It's been a blast delivering these shows to you on a weekly basis for free.

Along with the Skinny Confidential, it's just really cool to actually talk and engage with you guys on this platform. So if you like the shows, please tell your friends and ask them to listen. It's what keeps the show growing and going so that we can continue to produce the show for free every week. Every single week, which we have a blast doing. We do. We love it. We're having so much fun. Sometimes I still want to stop Michael after each show, but sometimes I don't, which is kind of different.

He's still alive. I am a much better fighter than you, and I would take you down in three seconds. I think if all of us came after you, we'd win. Yeah. Yeah. Oh, my gosh, it'd be three against one. I would take Lauren first. Jordan's too nice, and then I would make quick work of you, Mimi.

You would have no chance. I'm feisty. I would hurt you with my words. Yeah, Mimi's feisty. Don't screw with Mimi. She is feisty. She's like a closet, too. She, like, sneaks up on you.

She's like a shark underwater. You never see her coming. So I'm going to be honest, this is a little bit. There's a lot of estrogen here. There's women across, women to the sides. A lot of women. You know. Kevin's here.

He's my only saving grace. He's in there. Howdy guys? What is today's shirt theme? I feel like there's a new shirt theme going on each week. Honestly, I have such a wild shirt collection. I just like close my eyes and pick one and hope it matches my jeans. That sounds good.

Kevin's amazing. He really helps us do each show and make it amazing for all of you guys. We really appreciate Kevin and his amazing shirt. So people on Snapchat are always curious about Mimi. She's kind of always creeping in the background. She doesn't really care about social media. She does her own thing. She's in her own lane.

I'm kind of obsessed with her. How many years younger are you than us? I'm 11 years younger than Lauren. I think I met you when you were like 11. How old are you know? Maybe younger. Maybe like 9. She met me who has in like 5th grade, I think.

Let's just give a backstory on Mimi. came in. Is my little sister. I'm interrupting Lauren because you said, wow, Lauren's finally dating a winner. That's what your first thought was. The first time I met you,

Michael, you took me to a Batman movie, me and Miles. Boom. See, that's how you do it. You go in. You did?

Yeah, I'm amazing. I know, I loved it. You took us to Mir Mesa, Edward Cinema. That's how I win him over. Was I there? No, you didn't get the invite. Oh,

that was a good move, though. That's really strategic, because I was not into you until you did that. I'm kidding. You didn't even know I did that. Of course you were there. Was I there?

Yes. Okay. So Mimi's my little sister. She was 11, I think, when she met Michael. How old? We just went over this. Okay, I don't know. Okay, nine.

Excuse me, Michael. Matt isn't my strong suit. You're 11 years older than me. I'm 11 years older. Mimi is one of my best friends, though, along with the fact that she works for me. And I don't even feel like she works for me. I feel like she works with me. Yeah.

She does a lot of odd jobs, though. A lot odd jobs. I do clean the dog's food. and get down to my knees and put the waters into the bottom shelf. I have this weird thing, but the labels on the water bottle's all facing out, and Mimi definitely always make sure they're always facing out. And I think you also, one of your jobs, which I'm going to get into right now, is throwing away my stuff that Lauren doesn't like.

And you guys say you don't do it, but I am convinced that you guys throw away my stuff. We never throw it away. We give it to Tradesy. It's true. I know you throw away my hangers. No. What happened is once we had way too many hangers. And so we purged of them. And then you guys acquire so many clothes that we need more. True. Go with it. Go with it. You know what my favorite thing about Mimi is is I feel like she's like a low key psychic because she always seems to know what you or I or Michael or anybody. Like she could be around anybody and she seems to know what they want before they even know what they want. She's all about energy. She'll tell me she'll be like here, here is your water or whatever. And I was, I literally think I wanted a water and I didn't even know it. And then. you told me that I did and I'm, I did. I feel like you're a little psychic too. Maybe. Yeah,

a little bit. So Jordan and Mimi both work with us and they both do odd jobs and that's kind of who they are. Jordan's Michael's sister. Mimi's mine. We have had a really great success rate of working in our family and we want to continue that and it's been awesome to kind of grow with both of them. So I do a lot of odd jobs for you and Michael. I go to the store about 10 times a week. I open up all your mail, I unload everything. Speaking of my mail, I got Kopari a month ago, and I'm absolutely obsessed. If you're like me, the shelf space in your bathroom is precious real estate. That's why I'm super excited to introduce you guys to a line of beauty products that's as great at multitasking as you are, Kopari.

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sleep in yeah we used to have a lot of fun at Michael's parents house we really did I feel like some of those memories are my like my favorite memories when you and Tara would be playing and you were always over and it was so much fun and you were always the sweetest girl ever still the best I feel like our family's kind of all friends and then a lot of us work together so it's a lot of incest going on but in the best way possible yeah the whole clan working for us yeah we do Grandma, grandpa, I need a job. Uncle Tom, Uncle Jim. Cousins.

Whatever. Yeah, if you're related to us, just come get a job. Mimi and Jordan have been coming up to L.A. with us a lot because of the podcast, and they've also been helping me try to pick out a wedding gown. So there's been a lot going on. There's a lot of moving parts with the wedding. We stopped by Harry Winston. Oh.

Jordan tried on a million-dollar wedding ring. Sorry, Nico. You're finding out about this now. Run for your life. You know what? They wore some beautiful rings, got to think. She said it felt right. Yeah, Jordan wanted to try on Harry Winston, and she picked the biggest most expensive diamond without knowing it was the biggest most expensive diamond.

I have good taste. I'll say for any guys out there because I've had to go through the process that are looking for diamonds, rings, jewelry. Never go to a store like Harry Winston. They are going to upsell the hell out of you. Plus the light. Tell them about the light. The light, they do lighting tricks in there. They make everything dark, and then they shine lights down, special lights.

Taylor should take his bare naked cucumber there and put it under the light. Listen, guys, it's all about, and girls, maybe you don't even know what this is, maybe you do. It's all about the rap report. Remember that if you're a man buying a diamond, rap report. I want to actually give Michael some credit here. He picked out my diamond. I designed the setting. But he picked out my diamond and he actually did amazing research on it and he knows a lot about diamonds.

So what do you look for when you're searching for a diamond? I mean, to give like a quick thing, and I don't know if there's like a relevant or not so much, But cut, clarity, size, color. There's a lot of different things. And then you want certain certifications. I like GIA. I forget the other one, but I think GIA is the best. And then whenever you're buying diamonds, make sure you get them insured.

Make sure you get a second opinion. Wait, why should you get them insured? Well, we already went over this. Lauren likes to throw her jewelry into the trash. It was an accident. It bounced. It did bounce. And we looked for it.

And also switch out with a zirconian later. No, no, no, no. I will be getting it appraised. Mimi, you're on it. The other day, I found the one diamond earring that was left, and I got so excited. I'm like, Lauren, Lauren. And you're like, that's the first one. I was so excited.

I thought for one second she found it, but she didn't. Mimi's helping us with the wedding. Jordan's helping us with the wedding. We love to be in L.A. We're here for the Dover's Soul today, a little podcasting. And on that note, let's get into it. Are we not into it? We're into it.

We're kind of into it. So now that we've confirmed that we are, in fact, into it, we're into it, right? We're into it, Jordan. We are. Deanie, we're into it. We're into it. Be deep in it.

Jordan, Lauren, is pinching me under the table. You guys, I feel like we've got to tell this story about what happened because we love coming up to L.A., but there was this one time, which was a couple weeks ago, which if you watch on Snapchat, you would have seen this debacle go down. But long story short, we're having the best time. Everyone's having the best energy. We're hanging out in Michael and Lauren's place here, you know, relax. with family, having a few drinks, everything is on point. And then everything went south really quick.

It was like a cold wind blew into the house. That's a good way to describe it. A cold, methy wind. So it turns out, I have a condo here in L.A. with Lauren. We have a place that we like to come up and stay in when we're up here working because hotels were getting really, really expensive and we're up here so much. So I got this nice little condo while back for us, and we were, sitting in there other day enjoying drinks, families there, friends. You guys were deflating my air mattress 60 times when I was trying to take a nap.

It was me and Michael, Jordan and Nico, Nico's her boyfriend. He'll be on the podcast soon. Mimi and her boyfriend, Asher, and the bare naked cucumber who was trying to get dates on Snapchat, just to set the tone of the story. And so we hear a knock on the door, like a little wrap, open it,

and one of my neighbors, who I'm not going to name, is standing there. And I've never met this guy. It's a guy. But I've seen him around the building. He looks a little dodgy. But I was like, okay, you know what? He showed up with gifts. Weird gifts.

It was a rose spray. So at first... He came in spraying rose water in people's faces. Taylor was taking... I was fine with it. I love a good rose spray. So my favorite part is Lauren, sometimes in these situations is not very self-aware. She sees this guy.

And right when I see him, I'm like, okay, drugs, drunk, something's fucked up here. Like, there's something's going on. But Lauren, no, come on in. He charges in, goes to the bar. He says, hey, can I have a drink? so Lauren starts trying to make him like a nice little spritzer, a nice little relaxing. I was doing a pomegranate rosemary cocktail for him and he was loving it. He's like, no, he was not. He said, no, I'll just take straight vodka, which I thought would be an indicator to you, but apparently was not.

So, of course, he starts slamming vodka. No, no, no, no, no. He sat down on the couch. It started slamming his vodka and then almost threw it up. No, that's later on. I'm going to get to that. Oh, I forgot about the throw-up. Oh, don't you worry. I'm going to get to that. Okay, good. So, of course, Taylor, who's all. We want every detail. Don't leave out one detail.

He's also not counting on you. Trust me, I'm going to nail it. He's also not very self-aware when it comes to strange individuals. He says, hey, Michael, can I try this gin? So Taylor said, yeah, man, I don't care. Try the gin. And at this point, I'm getting kind of fed up because I see what's going on. We've got a meth head in the house.

I had no clue. I thought good vibes were happening. Little pomegranate at Rosemary going on. The guy's tearing his face off or those fingernails. So anyways, he asked, Taylor has some gin. He's having it. And the guy says, hey, can I have a shot? And I think Taylor didn't understand that the guy was asking for a shot of vodka.

So Taylor poured him a shot of gin or tequila, whatever it was. The guy takes it, slams it down, gets a rude awakening, starts gagging all over my couch. And they didn't throw up. And I got to be honest, I don't get physical anymore. I left that part of my life behind me. But if this guy would have thrown up, I would have beat the living hell out of him. Because I just got an alpaca rug. Let's do a little, a tangent.

How do I feel about throw up? The worst. If someone throws up in my house, I have to move. So the thing is, I was like, okay, well, now he's almost throwing up. He's about to lose it. And now Lauren's going to get it. Lauren's going to say, okay, this guy's weird. Nope, wrong again.

Still doesn't get it. I was being nice. He got me rose water spray. Then he proceeds to say, can he use the restroom? And this is when I saw your face drop. And it was fine. Like, ah, like, I wasn't happy that it was occurring, but I'm like, finally now she gets it. Mimi was next to me.

Me and Mimi looked over to the left. And what did we see? Nico was completely ignoring him, too. Nico was, like, in the other room, pretending like, he was. He wasn't there. He was pretending he was asleep, I think. So he goes into the bathroom in the hallway and you'd think, new guy just met him, don't really know much about him. You don't say. You'd think he would be, you know.

Modest. But nope, just starts peeing with the door wide open. He whipped his penis out and started peeing in front of Mimi and I. Yeah. So then I see more and realize, okay. This has gotten really real. And the funniest thing about you when something like this happens is all of a sudden like Zero to 60.

You go zero and you look to me like, Michael, what's going on? And I'm like, well, Lauren, you've invited a methhead into our house and he's picking his face off and peeing with the door open and we're all fucked. Like, we're just done now. So, of course, I have to take it into my hands. I have to. Wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait. First of all, our condo in L.A. is one bedroom. It's not like a huge condo.

And we had all of our family there, including boyfriends or girlfriends. So we're all sitting there, like, enjoying ourselves. And, like, the bathroom is in the living room. So he's like literally whipping his penis out, taking a piss in front of everyone, like casually just like talking about what's going on. We had to hear it. We had to literally hear him peeing like the water falling into the toilet. I got to, it's called urine. I have to give him a little bit of credit because he did have a healthy stream.

And that was that was going and going. Literally, Michael, that's great on material. So, okay, finally had to throw him out. The guy's trying to kiss me. Oh, no, no, no. No. There was more. He showed us his house, which was very.

Come to my house. Let's look around. We did a home tour. That was strange because... He did cribs. Tell us about his crips. It was dark and damp and... Dead plants. ...furniture. Little murdery.

It was a little Norman Bates not chic. It was a little American horror story on meth. There was a dish full of water with dirty dishes with mold on it from probably three years ago. But I actually felt bad for it. I have to say I thought... ...haping in the closet. Michael, there wasn't a corpse. No, so then we...

We were worried. We were like, uh-oh, what's going on here? This is a bad situation. Yeah, it was interesting. So, long story short, I threw him out. You didn't throw him out. Yes, I threw him out as he. No, he tried to kiss me. You forgot that part. Yeah, he was grabbing us. Yeah, kissing us. He did Taylor's hair. Oh, he did Taylor's hair. There's a lot of I'm forgetting now. He did Taylor's hair. Asher and Mimi's boyfriend. He got a double kiss, which did not make him happy. Asher was not loving that. He was nice. And I think we all were. worried about him and like concerned. I wasn't worried for shit. But it got to the point where it was starting to feel a little bit unsafe for us. And we were all trying to be nice. But then he

tried to like take, he kept trying to take more and more shots. No, listen, I wasn't worried about anything. It went south. No, he comes in. He's looking for kisses. He's looking for meth. He's looking for drinks. Can I just say something about me? When someone gets into like my bubble, like when someone gets too close and I feel that there's something going on, I push back. So I just read this book called bite me by Ali Hillfiger and I'll talk about this later. But basically she has a flag system. There's a yellow flag. There's an orange flag and there's a red flag. And a yellow flag is like someone's kind of uncomfortable, like, kind of like get me away from this person. And an orange flag is, okay, this is like a real situation. Like I have to get out of here. And a red flag is

get me the fuck out of here. And I feel like at this point, it was a red flag. It might have been a double red flag. Yeah, it was a red flag. And I was just like, it's too close. It's too much. I felt bad for him, but like we had to get out of the situation. So I ended up saying that we had to go to Alfred. Well, and let's back up because there's one other thing I forgot to mention. The guy came in with a broken nose, a black eye, a meth twitch, and skin falling off his face. So that maybe should have given you the red flag indicator from the start, but you were still on level green. I was on level white.

So he kissed everybody. He came to kiss me. I almost had to like crush his neck. And then I threw him right out. and we moved on. No, we went to Alfred's coffee. We had a little walk. And now I see him in the hallway. He really? Yeah, we saw him the other day. I think he robbed me at one point, but I can't be sure. That's a totally different story for a totally different day. We got robbed, but that's a different story. I feel bad for him, and I hope that he can get it together, but, you know, he can't be puking on the rug,

taking a pee with the door open and trying to make out with everyone. So yeah, if you, if you are a meth head looking for some hospitality, hit up Lauren Everett. She'll let you right into our home. And with that, I think we will take a quick break to slow down and decompress. We need to regroup. This is the skinny confidential, him and her. And we are back with the skinny confidential, him and her podcast. Got everyone here. Everyone's on their phone.

Can we regroup? Yeah. We can. Have we group after that story? Everyone okay? Everyone's fine. Just spray a little rose water spray. It's in my purse.

Mm-hmm. So let's talk about the him and her tip of the week. I'll let Michael Bostic go first. So my tip is a little bit different. Everybody's grown up saying you need to set goals for yourself, you need to set milestones, and I actually disagree with that. I think setting goals for yourself is bullshit. You might be thinking what the hell are you talking about.

Goals are a good thing. I think what is better than goals are systems. When you set goals, sometimes you can be disappointed if you don't reach the goal, or maybe the goal is so easy to obtain that once you reach it, you're left feeling like incomplete, like you need to do something else. So what I recommend instead of goals is systems. Like a system would be, okay, I'm going to get up every single day and write this amount of content at this time.

I'm going to get up every single day and work out at this time and this time. So over time, you'll start to see results and you'll start nailing goals. And we won't call them goals in a situation, but you'll be hitting like milestones and you'll be crushing through things faster than if you're saying like, okay, I'm going to go and lose five pounds. Because what happens is either you fall short of that five pounds and you're disappointing yourself and get a little bit depressed. or you crush through that five pounds and you don't really give yourself the reward.

You're just like, okay, what's next? So instead of systems or instead of goals, I believe in systems. And if you're more interested in hearing a little bit more on this, I actually did a post on this on Lauren's app in the exclusive section, which you can find on the iTunes store. I write there on a weekly basis on topics like this. So systems instead of goals. Great tip. Mine's completely different. It's got to do with health and wellness and food.

So the other day I Snapchat Snapchated my absolute favorite thing which is coconut coffee. It's my new thing I'm absolutely in love with it. Basically what you do is you take cold brew and I like to fill it up probably a cup in the blender. I add a bunch of ice

and then I add coconut milk but I like the light one that's organic. You can find it on Amazon. It's in a can. I add that and then I add a couple drops of stevia only a couple like I would say three because it's too overwhelming. add more than that.

And then I add pumpkin pie spice and I blend it and it's amazing. If you want this at night, you can add a little bailey's, but don't tell anyone I said that. So basically you just add it all to the blender, you blend it up. It's not like a specific measurement. Some of you guys were asking you measurements. I don't have them. And then I just add it to my favorite Elo glass. I have my silicone straw.

I drink it down and it gives you a kick in the ass. I recommend drinking this before a workout and what's awesome about it is that coffee can be acidic, so you're automatically adding those healthy fats with the light coconut milk. It's amazing. Also, last thing, cinnamon balances your blood sugar and that is in the pumpkin spice. So you're kind of getting everything together. It's a real party in your mouth. So have some cinnamon, set up some systems, and hit the road. Mimi, I'm excited that you came on the show because a couple weeks back, we were talking about Instagram stories versus Snapchat. And the last time you're on the show we were asking, you know, what social media, social channels that your generation's using

and, you know, your generation being a generation that's 11 years younger than us, I look to your generation as like an indicator of what's coming. So we really, Lauren and I were curious to get your take on what's going on with Instagram stories. Do you like them? Do you dislike them? Do you still like Snapchat? Do you just like what's going on? In my personal opinion, I think that all my friends are posting on their Instagram story, their Twitter hand, or their Snapchat. handle. So their growth hacking it. Yeah. And they also do their Twitter. They do all their other social media, but they just put it on their Instagram story. So they're not using, like, they're not using Instagram over Snapchat. The only people who have been using the Instagram stories are the celebrities

that I follow. Interesting. And name a celebrity that you follow if you can think of one that's using an Instagram story. I follow like Tori's Secret models. Okay. Follow Heather DeBrow on here. And she's using, she's using Instagram stories. Yeah. I don't follow her on Snapchat. I only follow her on Instagram. I feel like your generation and you're 19, right? Mm-hmm. Okay, I feel like your generation, though, is still giving energy towards Snapchat. Like, you and I basically only talk over Snapchat.

You don't reply to my texts anymore. It's just you snap me and you say... Don't tell Jordan and Michael that I reply to you on Snapchat or they're going to start snapping me. No, I feel like you respond more on Snapchat than text. Yeah, I like Snapchat. I think it's fun. But what's interesting to me about your generation is it seems like,

all the eyeballs are there. Yeah, I never put anything on my story. I only watch stories, and it's the ones that are on the top. Would you watch everyone's stories, or do you pick and choose who you're watching? No, I watch the food stories because that's what I like. Okay, so you're just watching the story. Okay, that's interesting. To me, it sounds like her generation is looking at the Instagram stories.

Yeah, but you're not posting to it. So that's interesting. It's what I was saying the other day, I was talking on my Snapchat saying, you know, Instagram stories are obviously, an important thing and there's a tool to be used, but Snapchat's not going anywhere because it's captured a generation of users, your generation in particular, that, you know, are still using Snapchat and can continue to do so. So I think you need to find the balance between each of them. I know some people are posting to Snapchat and then saving the story and posting it to Instagram,

which I think is kind of interesting, but I don't know if that's oversaturating yourself or then you're kind of dividing your audience. I know why. You know what I think Snapchat's no. where, like, it's not going anywhere, is because Snapchat is more of like a communication platform, like Mimi was saying. She doesn't really post stories. She communicates with people. And Instagram can never be that. I totally agree with you. Here's what my question, though, is for me. You joined Snapchat five years ago, six years ago. Okay. So you joined it six years ago. How has it evolved from six years ago to today? And when did you really love? Love it. Was it two years ago? Was it six years ago? Is it now? I really loved. When I first got

Snapchat, you could see everybody's three top best friends. And that was always really interesting. Because now you can't see that, but you'd go under like your ex-boyfriend or you'd go under your friends and you'd see who they were Snapchating the most. So you can be a real stalker spy. Yeah. And I was really sad when they took that away. But that was before stories even. I don't think you were on. I wasn't on. Mimi told me to get on six years ago, by the way, you guys and I was like I don't need another platform and now look what happened so what do you what kind of content are you producing I see a lot of food stuff yeah I really like baking I really like watching the baking like people frosting things that's my favorite or people putting ingredients in videos

speaking of baking and cooking let's talk about what I've been doing because Mimi normally really helps me in the kitchen she helps me cook but lately I've been getting in there myself and I'm very It's the first time that you're actually getting in there and cooking for me. I'm actually getting home-cooked meals. 100% honey, Blue Apron. Blue Apron's mission is to make incredible home cooking accessible to everyone. Thank God I need it so bad. They achieved this by supporting a more sustainable food system, setting the highest standards for ingredients and building a community of home chefs. And the awesome thing is they send you like new recipes every single week. So it stays fresh, which is great because, you know, you know, know, let's be honest, sometimes you get a little stale in the kitchen. You don't really know what to cook. They bring you fresh new recipes. They give it all portion controlled. They give you exact directions with pictures on how to use it. I hate shopping and I hate going to the grocery store and trying to figure out what to get. So it's really awesome for me and for Lauren to use this because we can actually cook together. I also think it's really annoying when you have to cook a recipe and you have to buy chili flakes just for one recipe. What I love about Blue Apron is it's pre-portioned and pre-packaged. you can just use the amount of chili flakes that you have to use and you don't feel like you're wasting food. I think that's awesome. Also, cooking together has been amazing for me and Michael. I feel

like it's built a family bond kind of. Blue Apron shows that families cook nearly three times more often. That's impressive. We are cooking more often. And it's also saving us a lot of money. Those who spend a lot eating out are high-end grocery chains now can spend under $10 per person for healthy, delicious meals. Some of my favorite meals are the spicy eggplant green bean and curry with garlic rice and gingered peanuts. We're also loving the summer noodle with cherry tomatoes, corn, and summer sweet pepper, especially since we just got back from France. I'm loving anything with noodles in it. The seared chicken and caramelized vegetables and roasted cherry tomatoes and mashed potatoes is amazing as well. So if you want to check out Blue Apron, just head over to their

site and you can get your first three meals free with free shipping. Amazing. We need to do that like ASAP. By going to blue apron.com slash him and her. You guys will love how good it feels and taste to create incredible home-cooked meals with blue aprons. So don't wait. That's blue apron.com slash him and her. You definitely have to check this out if you have a boyfriend and you're being lazy. Yeah. And for all the guys out there that are intimidated in the kitchen, this is the way I am cooking amazing meals on the reg. I kind of have a funny story about you in Blue Apron. So when we got our first three boxes, you legit thought you were a chef.

You're like, I love cooking in the kitchen. It's so therapeutic. You were like having me in the kitchen at eight, sitting with like a placemount, like ready to go. I feel like you should do this every week. I'm basically M now. Good. Well, on that note, let's get into questions.

Okay, sounds good. So the first question is asked by Anonymous. And I love that everyone wants to be anonymous these days. But, okay, so first question is from Anonymous. And he or she asks, if you could rewind time five or ten years and give yourself one piece of advice, what would it be and why? Get on Snapchat, right, Mimi? Yep. For you especially.

I know, no, no, I'm just kidding. Well, you know, if I could see in the future 10 years ago, to be like invest in Facebook, invest in Snapchat. invest in Uber. But real practical advice, like I would tell myself, and I need to tell myself this all the time, to slow the hell down and be patient, patient. That's a good one. You do need to be patient. I feel like I'm more patient than you if I'm going to give myself a compliment.

In some things, maybe. After today, I feel like I'm more patient. And I would also say, and I'll tell this to Mimi, I did, I've talked a little bit of others. try to travel as much as you can while you're young, even if you think you can't afford it. Like travel is very cheap and go get those experiences while you can while you're not bogged down. And why not take a stab at some kind of business, fail, fail hard, fail fast, learn from the mistake and come out stronger. Jordan, I feel like you can speak upon that because you have kind of put yourself out there

in a lot of different ways and you've tested the waters and you've seen what works and what doesn't work. Yeah, I think it's, I mean, for anyone who doesn't know, I kind of had a little flirt with politics for a while. And so, um, I think putting yourself out there is a great way to learn like, do I really love this? Is this something I want to do for the rest of my life? So you just have to try it. And if it doesn't work out, it's so easy to switch, switch gears and do something different. And you never really know what kind of experience you're actually gaining. Because I thought I was getting a political experience when really I was getting an internet experience. I feel like even more so like a website.

experience, like you know the ins and outs of the back end now. So it's awesome when you come and work for me for the skinny confidential because you know what's going on in the death site. Exactly. So like I said, you never really know what you're actually learning from the experience of putting yourself out there. But the whole point is that you've got to just follow it and see what happens. 100%. I agree. So we are planning a trip next year and we've already made Mimi start saving. We decided in the car that she would start saving her money. And I think we're going to do Airbnb. be instead of a hotel and get a bunch of people together and travel. So I would say if I could rewind time, I would just tell myself to go abroad in college. And I would really, really enjoy that time and stop

stressing and stop having anxiety because it's not worth it. I always say worrying is like a rocking chair. It gets you nowhere. And if I could take away any kind of worry or anxiety that I had when I was, you know, five years younger, I would do that. I also think what Michael said, patience. Patience is a virtue, the more patience you have, I think the better off you're going to be. If you're in a business right now, just take it day by day, chip away. You don't have to have everything at once. Sometimes when you have stuff too quickly, it can actually hurt you. In my opinion, if you have slow growth, it's more of a long-term kind of game than a short-term game. Yeah. And like, I mean, patience is, I know that sounds like so easy to say, oh, patience, be

patient. But really, like, I'm thinking about myself 10 years ago. and I blasted out of school. I was like, I'm going to go get it. I'm going to go get it all. And I've, you know, I've done well for myself in areas, but I think, like, sometimes not having as much patience as I wish I could have had in the past has hindered me. And I think, you know, we live right now. So in the now culture, got to have it now.

Got to, like, nail everything now, that sometimes you will take short-term gains now and hinder your long-term gains in the future. So I think patience, take it slow, be smart. be strategic and just take it easy. Another thing that I would say, and not everyone's going to agree with me, is that sometimes I wish that I put more energy towards building a business than going to school. And I think that I'm maybe, you know, like one of the only bloggers that would say this,

but I think that I would, again, like really focus towards the blog than school. Because I went to school for theater and television broadcasting. and it was awesome, but I feel like I've learned so much more running a business. I think personally I would have applied myself more in high school so I could have gone straight to four year because now I'm trying to graduate early and it's a pain. I'm at community college. And I just kind of want to have a college degree on my resume just because. That's fine and I think that that's awesome, but you will work to that. And like Michael said, patience is a virtue. I'm going to have you again on the show sometime and we're going to talk about

why you want that degree. And I want to like really question because I think it would be a valuable show for young people, like people thinking about going to college to hear and listen to. I think that society has put such a strong emphasis that you need college that you have to do. That that that's the path to success. And I want to play devil's advocate to that a little bit next time I have you on. And this kind of reminds me of what I think my one piece of advice would be for myself. And it would be I actually read it in that book, the one thing.

When they talk about how you should approach everything with the idea of wanting to master it, so you say you want to learn how to do Photoshop, instead of just paying someone to do your Photoshop, you would literally learn every single thing about that so that you know every little thing. Like you approach everything you do with the idea of mastering it. Or let me ask you this. Instead of just learning Photoshop half ass and also learning to play the violin and learn

Spanish at the same time, you take all your energy. and you apply it towards Photoshop. And then after you master it, maybe you don't want to do it, but then you move on. But the idea is that if you're young, you're acquiring all this knowledge throughout your life, rather than just kind of like Lauren said, half-assing a bunch of stuff. Okay. Well, next question. Next question.

Okay, this is from Anonymous again. And the question is, let's talk birth control. What do you think is best? How do you feel about hormones? What about the non-hormonal methods like IUD? Do you ever worry about an unplanned pregnancy? What would a TSC baby look like? Oh, well, Mimi picks up my birth control

at right at every month. About every half month because it gets lost when you're traveling. I'm not the best with it. It's all over the place. I take the lowest hormone birth control you can possibly take because I found that the higher the hormone was that I was breaking out in a pregnancy mask. and what a pregnancy mask is is it's malasma or hyperpigmentation, aka a mustache.

So I just took it down to the lowest hormone. And you're on the same one I'm on. Well, you're actually on low estrin now. And I'm on microgestin, which is a little bit more estrogen because I get migraines. Does it help? Actually, more estrogen is supposed to hurt your migraines, but now I've been on it for so long. I'm scared to switch because I'd get sick. Did you gain weight?

Yeah, I gained weight on my first one. And then I told you about it. then we both made a switch and then I lost like 15 pounds or something. It's crazy how it can add weight and it also adds a lot of weight to your boobs too. So it's adding mustaches and weight? Yeah. See, I think I'm going to go ahead and be the anti-birth control voice here. Here's my thing about birth control.

There's so many things that it does like you're saying weight and pigmentation and da-da-da-da-da. You guys know I love to be natural. But what creeps me out the most is that so many girls don't take it and like aren't regular with it. and then they have sex and how do you know if it's working? You know, I think that it, the thing here is to each its own. I think you have to figure out what's going to work for you and your body. Everyone is different. You have mind-body connection. Some of my friends do the IUD. It's not for me. I don't like having a tampon up there. I can't even imagine having something up there all the time. It just doesn't work for me. I don't want any kind of shots, hate needles. It's just not for me.

So I think you need to figure out here what you want. If you want to use a condom, if you want to use birth control, if you want to use an IUD, just figure out what works for you and make it work for you. I've tried lots of different birth controls. Some have made me gain weight. Some have given me mustaches. This one has been awesome. Adding on to that, a lot of girls are worried about infertility with taking birth control

for so long. And I talked to my OBGYN recently about that. And they say that as long as you take the week off of birth control for your period or whatever, the break week, then your cycle should be regular and birth control shouldn't affect your infertility whatsoever. You know what my OBGYN said too? Because I told her I was like, I do not want to be on birth control. And I'm not on it.

But she highly was, she was very against it. And she said that actually having, because women wait so much longer to get pregnant these days than they used to, having all of those periods over and over again, it actually creates like scar tissue and you can build up scar tissue. Wait, Jordan, are you telling me you're not a virgin? Moving on. Michael, plug your ears or something.

Moving on from that. I'm not going to be able to give much value here. All I'll say is, you've been on birth control a long time. Little Michael's having a rough time. I've been on birth control a long time. It's really worked for me. Here's the thing. A lot of girls will email me asking me about my take on it.

I'm hesitant to give extreme advice. on this because again, everyone is different. Everyone's body is different. I would recommend you talk to your doctor. I would recommend that you keep track of how you feel. Are you getting a mustache? Are you gaining weight? Are you feeling bad? Are your period cramps lessening? Figure it out and just kind of, it's kind of trial and error here. Everyone's different. Don't you think they should also, when they go to their OBGYN and they should also talk about like their period? They should describe it to their OBGYN? Because it says a lot about the way it is, says a lot about what you should do. You have to be honest with doctors. They've seen everything. They don't give the fuck. So you got to,

like, you got to go in there and you got to tell them exactly what's going on and they can prescribe you to what's going to work for you. I also think that when you are going to have a baby, you need to get off birth control for a year to let your cycle and your, you know, your body kind of get like used to being off birth control. And I guess the girl, also asked here what it would look like if I had a baby on the skinny confidential and what it would look like is exactly what it looks like now. When Michael and I decide to have a baby, which is not like coming up super soon, but when it does, we are both kind of believers in in bringing the baby along, right? As long as everything is healthy. I can't wait for you guys to have a baby. Little Mike.

Wait, Mimi, I have a question. Are a lot of people your age on birth control? Absolutely. I think I went on it when I was 15 for my skin. Yeah, it works really well for skin. By the way, this is my last tip. I just want to let you guys know that if you're on birth control only for your skin, there's something new where they pull the chemical that's good for your skin out of birth control

and you can just take that one chemical as opposed to taking birth control. So you should ask your doctor about that. Okay, we got to get going. But before I go, I want to give you a little wellness and health tip, go to members. the skinny confidential.com for all my health and wellness tips. You can use code him and her at checkout for 20% off to all podcast listeners. Basically, it's just my full-blown meal plan. I broke down everything

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