The Bossticks - #35: Girls ONLY with Jordan Bosstick

Episode Date: November 1, 2016

Lauryn & Jordan Bosstick are hungover & in pj's podcasting from home! They discuss Lauryn's 'Lavender Lemon' Couple's Bridal Shower, Jordan sum's up the Bachelorette party planning, Lauryn shares her 'Tip of the Week,' and they answer listener questions. To connect with Lauryn click HERE To connect with Michael click HERE This episode is brought to you by The Skinny Confidential Bombshell Body Guide and Meal plan.  tired of combating inflammation & bloat? Want to feel lighter and sexier? Check out lauryn's latest 7 day meal plan. In this simple & super effective plan you'll find: + tsc grocery list with every ingredient you need for the 7 days. + what the f*ck to do when you love carbs guide. + quick and delicious recipes: breakfast, snacks, lunch, dinner and dessert. You will also find 28 weeks worth of fat burning, muscle toning, 27 minute long, effective workouts you can do at home with no equipment. USE PROMO CODE: HIMANDHER at Checkout for 20% Off

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Get ready for some major realness. Welcome to the skinny confidential, him and her. Hey guys. Hi. Hello. I am hung over as shit. We are struggles McGee today. It's a little funny why we're hungover. We'll get into it in the episode. I am Lauren Everett's creator of the blog and brand the skinny confidential and today we are sans michael bostic bye michael by michael you are yesterday's news so yesterday um no fear though because we have the best bostick here hello his sister who also works with me on the skinny confidential jordan bostick yep i am taking over today because michael is traveling for work i gotta be honest though i'm kind of excited about it because Michael's so type A. And as you can see from me today, wait, can we just kind of sum up the situation right now? We had a long weekend. So Lauren and I are

literally in her house, in our pajamas. Not looking great, might I add. We've got some green teas, some coffees, some blankets, hair in a bun. Not looking good. Not looking good. Two hours late. It's not my brightest moment, all right? Let's just be honest here. And the sad thing is, is the reason we're hung over is because of my bridal shower. Yeah, it was supposed to be a casual Saturday. I think I turned down the first drink that Lauren offered me and I said I wasn't drinking all day. And then wasn't so casual, Jordan.

Wasn't so casual. And we definitely ended up drinking. Here's the thing. I haven't been drinking because I'm getting married and I want to be like, you know, tight and toned and non-blooded at my wedding. So I haven't been drinking, and I've just been really watching when I eat because, you know, these pictures lost forever. So you've got to tighten it up.

I've been working out. And so the bridal shower kind of came out of nowhere. Yeah, it was kind of like, I feel like you were like, we're free. Finally, because we've been doing the meal plan, Lauren's meal plan on the bombshell body guide website. We've been following that, pretty much our whole team has been following that pretty strictly. because we all want to look good for the big weekend. But yeah, we kind of let loose, I think, on Saturday. And two days later, we are still feeling it.

Don't let loose in 10-inch platforms. A little note from me. Yeah. You might want to wear flats. Yeah, I probably should have been wearing flats. So basically, my stepmom and my dad hosted a lavender lemon bridal shower. It was a couple shower because I definitely wanted to mix in the men. I got enough of all women at the bachelor's party, so I wanted to do some men, too.

And so Michael came, all his friends came, Nico came, Jordan's boyfriend. He's been on the podcast before. My dad, your dad, Nico's parents were there. There was a lot of people there, and it was definitely fun to do, like, men and women, I feel like at a shower. That's not a normal thing, and it was definitely way more fun because we all went out after. Kind of made it like a full party rather than just like a girly, Yeah, I can't do that. We did the whimsical, you know, overly feminine bridal stuff.

Like, okay, like, it's just not me. So we kind of wanted to make it a little bit more fun, a little bit. Just skip the huddle around while she opens present. No presence moment. No, no, no presents. There were no games, no games. No pin the tail on the groom. No pin the dick on the groom.

None of that shit. I feel like you should trademark that. Lauren's coming out with a new game called Pin the Dink. dick on the groom for all of your wedding shower needs. Wait, is that actually a game though? I feel like it is. I have no idea. Okay, well, I'm not the type of girl. In fact, I'll never be the type of girl, and there's nothing wrong with this type of girl, but to open gifts in front of everyone. Like, I'm just not me. Like, in fact, if I were to describe the opposite of my personality,

it's to open gifts in front of people. So there was none of that. Basically, you came, there was lavender tray past mimosa's with little sprigs of lavender and lemon. There was peach bellinis and we had it at urban wood in san diego which is the most amazing restaurant yeah if you haven't been there it's new and it's so cute they have a little market on one side and then this beautiful open all like natural light restaurant so it's really great for instagrams and pictures the bar is insane like i've never seen a cooler bar it's light it's bright it's airy it's on brand it's like white marble it's like gold touches they had little grapes with pearls sticking out of them for our cocktails. I think Michael was sipping on like a gin

sprits with like a sprig of lavender. They made lavender and lemon macaroons just for you. Yeah, it was amazing. Like the party could not have been better. If you guys are in San Diego, you have to check out Urban Wood and the light is just really great for Instagram. So yeah, if you need an Instagram, just run over to Urban Wood. Which by the way, your mom, Julie, did such a good job with that party. Like everything down to, I mean, everything down to the candles were lavender lemon. Like everything was lavender lemon all the way. We had so many amazing brands come together and make it happen and Julie was amazing. Michael's mom brought lavender flowers. We had Kraft and Foster lavender candles. And then we also had Craft and Foster citrus candles to

like mix in the sense. I'll do a blog post, but basically it was just like a very like fun. I would call it fun bridal shower and we went out we went out afterwards a couple of us not all of us yeah just a couple which was really fun which is why we're feeling we're feeling it today but i must say morin you can agree with this we deserve to let loose a little bit because it's been pretty hectic lately with planning all this wedding stuff it has been hectic and at the bachelorette party i mean i let loose but i like i didn't like really let loose at the bridal shower really let loose. I was ordering everyone shots. I mean, I was ready to go. Yeah, for sure. Speaking of that, it's just kind of like when you're planning this wedding and you've got work and it's the holiday season,

there's a lot going on, which, by the way, November weddings, it's a lot with Thanksgiving and Christmas coming up and then the new year. I love to pack it on. By the way, today is Halloween. So, I mean, we're kind of missing that. My house stumes hungover. I was going to wear a costume and I forgot it. No one would see it but me, so who cares? Yeah. So we've been, we've been pretty busy and I feel like we didn't really get to talk about the Bachelorette party yet. Did we tell the story? Michael and I kind of talked about it, but I feel like we need to hear it from your perspective because you were the one that was hosting it and you wanted to... Well, there were moments where I was like questioning my love for you. Like I was like, I love you or my sister, I work with you, but it was

touch and go for a while there. But then you realize strategically I'm the best person to invest in for a bachelor party because when it's your turn. Yes. Then I realized, okay, I'm hopefully going to be getting married soon. So every single thing I do, it's just like I'm racking up the points and racking up the amount. My book is red, right? That's what they say. Or your book is red. No, my book's not red yet. We still got to get through the wedding. It's not red. Okay. We're a couple chapters in. It's a little red. Okay. Um, so. So anyway, just let me sum this up for everyone because I haven't spoken out about this yet. And so I feel like this is my moment.

Lauren came to me three months ago and said, I don't want to do a bachelorette party. I just want to do a casual, you know, easy, maybe spa day or dinner with a few girls. No overnight, just something super casual, maybe a massage, a couple glasses of wine. I'm like, okay, great, you're boring, but great. I'll put it together for you. We'll take like a car or something and I'll go get a massage and then we'll go out to dinner. Super easy. Then she goes out to dinner with Erica, a fashion lush, and just that Erica luckily convinces her

that she should have a weekend. Not so luckily. It wasn't lucky. I know, maybe I should go and get Erica and tell her, give her a peace of my mind. No, but anyway, Erica convinces Lauren that it's a good idea to do a bachelor's party. So fast forward. Just pods, though. Erica convinces me that she wants me to do a bachelor party in, or bachelor's party in Palm Springs

because Erica selfishly was wanting Instagrams for herself. True. And then she, she manipulated the situation and made sure that the theme of the party would fit her Instagram aesthetic, which is hilarious. But anyway, we accomplished it. The theme of the party was fitting everyone's Instagram aesthetic, so we were all good. But I kid you not, it went from zero to 60. No, it went from zero to 260.

Like, I can't even believe. It went from this casual thing to literally a 10-page scroll of demands. Lauren told me if she didn't have frozen grapes, a man-servant, if it wasn't like Beverly Hills Hotel vibe that she just was going to, like, freak out. So Mimi and I were running around like crazy. We probably ordered like 700 boxes worth of decor. This is a good tip, though, for brides out there that are about to throw a bachelorette party. Here's what you do. You act like you're so chill and your bride chilla and like no one cares and you're so fucking like easy.

And then at the last minute you pull a poster board from Rite ad that's the biggest you can find. And you small and Sharpie, write 100 demands for your friends. Yeah, I don't know if you saw on Snapchat, but she's not kidding. She got one of the largest poster boards you can buy at the store at like Staples or whatever. And I'm not kidding. She wrote lists like in the smallest pen writing you can. think of the list I can't even we have to show them we should blog about this list this list is insane and there was one for the wedding shower here's the thing though it's like that that's how my brain thinks

like I have like all these little compartments in my in my head and so I needed to like get it on paper I did the same thing when I started the skinny confidential like I need to see it on a huge poster board and so I just wanted to make sure like all my demands were met in the best way possible like the grapes couldn't be purple they had to be green yes and they were and the And servant fed them to you. And so all was good in the hood. But I will say that Mimi and I literally were panicking the day of because Lauren was like, oh, yeah, I'll meet you there at 11 to help set up.

So Mimi and I, okay, we decide we have all these boxes. So we're going to get up at 5 a.m. Get there. That was a little jumping the gun. No, it was necessary because we barely finished having everything ready by the time people got there. Really? I wanted everything to be set up, everyone to walk in. It was set up.

Yeah, but there were things you didn't notice probably. I noticed everything. Okay, well, people might not have noticed. Just let me have that one piece. You didn't notice. I wanted everything to be set up. But anyway, Mimi and I left at five. Then we could get there early enough to unload everything, set everything up.

Lauren said she'd be there at 11 a.m. Keep in mind, Palm Springs is 100 degrees. Yeah, I'm sweating. Like, I'm disgusting. I'm like, I'm disgusting. I had no personality by the time. everyone got there. I had like 17 venty coffees. But Lauren shows up at five. That's six hours late.

Yeah, I was literally six. I figured I needed to take a pure bar class in the morning. I just felt like I needed to like sweat it out before we went and lived it up. So then I needed to make sure every little detail was planned that I was taking. And then we decided we need to stop it in and out to get protein-style burgers. So Lauren was getting in and out, taking a pure bar class, you know, know, having a nice time with their friends, while Mimi and I are panicking in 100 degree of weather, unpacking boxes. And when I mean boxes, I mean boxes, like boxes full of cups and bases. Well, here's the thing. Like, like, I'm also, it's really important for me to bring

the skinny confidential readers along on my experiences. So to me, like, yes, this was my bachelor's party, but it was also an experience to showcase and, like, to have content and to show how I like to throw a party. Obviously, I, like, lived it up and we, like, had our own thing, and I definitely got off Snapchat for tons of hours on end while we were there. But, like, I wanted to make sure that I showed a very skinny, confidential bachelor at party, which I feel like we accomplished. Yes, 100%. And, I mean, right now it's the bachelor, like Lauren's posted all these Bachelorette-themed posts on the blog. So you can go and look at those and see like all the outfits all the decor. Another post goes live tonight. It's the last one tonight. And then

then it'll be bridal shower stuff. So you should go check that out because it was, I must say, like it did really end up very cute. So your scroll of demands was all worth it. It was executed exactly how I saw it in my head, which was amazing. Yeah. And the house was amazing. So if you want the house details, I think that's on the blog too, right? The house details will be on the blog tonight. If you guys want to know more about it, you can always email me. I'm always make sure to return you guys as emails and snapchats and tweets. So please email me if you want the details. You can just email, ask Lauren, Lauren with Y at the skinny confidential.com. So I feel like you guys have heard enough about the bachelorette party, the bridal shower. I mean, I'm wettinged out talking about it.

I mean, we can just get real for a minute and talk about yesterday's situation. Yeah. So, So because we've been dieting when we let loose. And then yesterday I was dying and Lauren's laughing at me because I gave in and Nico and I got breakfast burritos in the morning. And then I was like, oh, that's all I'm going to eat all day. It's just one burrito and it's good and I'm fine. And then 6 p.m. rolls around and we were still hungry. So we went and we got Euros and some hummus. Euros is like the most random fucking thing I've ever heard.

Actually, he got a Euro and I got a falafel wrap. Yeah, that's not on brand. It was so good. I mean, that's not what I would want if I was hungover. I woke up so hungover yesterday. Michael, like we said, I think we said, is in Florida for a jet convention for his work. And I actually was, like, even though I was so hungover, I powered through it. because I'm thinking about my dress.

I don't know how you did it. It was hard. I'm proud of you because now I'm really regretting it, and I'm thinking about how I have to work out like three times today, and I'm chugging apple cider vinegar, and it's making me so sick. Apple cider vinegar does give you kind of a stomach ache if you chugged too much. Yeah, I took a shot of it this morning,

and I immediately felt like I was going to vom. Yeah, sometimes it hurts your stomach. I was noticing that. I'm doing a lot of aloevara water. it's 100% real aloeira water from Trader Joe's I highly recommend it I'll just do like a half a cup of it with sparkling water and a little bit of lemon you can throw in chia seeds if you want some fiber and I make it like a fun little fake cocktail I must say though that it has been all this dieting for the wedding has been less stressful following your meal plan it has made my life a lot

easier because I just go to the grocery store every week and I just get what I need to get and then I'm just done and I don't need to think about it. Do you really love it? I do love it. You did a good job. Yeah, you have to make something from it tonight. Yeah. The recipes are like so simple because I'm not a cook in any meat, but by any means, like,

everything is very easy. It takes two seconds. It takes two seconds. I think tonight for dinner I'm going to make the Nans's egg salad. Ooh, that's one of my favorite ones. I know it's so good, you guys. So good. But yeah, because we've been, like, going on this whole road to the wedding, it's been, needless to say, it's been a little stressful.

So I feel like Lauren and I have been. Upping the yoga. Upping the yoga. I was never one that was, like, really into yoga until I started wedding planning. Here's the thing about wedding planning. If I could go to a deserted island by myself and just make my list of demands on a poster board, I would be fine with it. But there's so many different personalities and different dynamics and family members to coordinate involved that it just makes it very stressful.

And then there's people that can't go or that can go and that need all these different things. It's just like so many different things to deal with and to juggle that it sucks your energy. And when you have to go like work and do a blog post and, you know, return a million emails and all this all this other crap. It becomes a lot. Yeah, I would say if you're going to be someone who's going to a wedding, just show up with all smiles and don't make any demands. Because the bride and groom are so stressed planning this wedding as it is. The people who have demands are just, it's quite interesting. Yeah, like, we have a couple of people that are coming to our wedding, and, you know, there's been questions, and I can't answer anyone else's question.

We've just, if anyone's listening, if you've had demands, we've completely ignored you, and we're just, Lauren's doing, what she wants to do. Yeah. So get excited. And Michael thinks he's planning the whole wedding. He's literally Bridezilla. He keeps, like, complaining about how stressed he is. I feel like when I'm pregnant, he's going to be one of those people that just, like,

talks about, you know, how tired he is and how he needs a foot massage when I'm the one that's pregnant. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah.

But speaking of foot massages, we have been pretty good on our wellness. We've been doing pretty good. We've got the yoga going. I have six appointments at Fix this week, which is, tell them what fix is. Okay, Fix is literally the most amazing find in San Diego. If you need like acupuncture, massage, chiropractor, they do cupping, all of that. It's amazing. It's just like next level.

It's the best. I can't even describe it. I don't even have words. Just go to Fix and Hellcrest and trust us. Yeah, just trust us. And hopefully we can be getting some acupuncture. down in Cabo too. Yeah, we're hoping we can get acupuncture at the wedding, you guys. Wouldn't that be cool? Don't tell Michael, though, because I feel like he might get a little overwhelmed with that idea.

Yeah, I want to get... He mixed the foot massages at the pool. I can't even believe that. So rude. I'm going to be walking around with like cups on my, cut marks on my body at your wedding. That's so cool. Is that okay? Yeah, I'm obsessed at that. Okay. All right, speaking of wellness, let's talk about skin. Skin is obviously a huge priority for my wedding. So, as you guys know, I use bioclarity oil a lot. It's really helped my skin have like a shiny, dewy glow. I like to put it on again under my makeup. And what it really helps with, though, is pimples.

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I don't know what his would be. Probably something about email or business or books. but mine is going to be about hangovers because I feel like that's appropriate. Yeah, very in the moment. It's in the moment. It's what's going to, it's what's happening now. There's no facade going on here. Hashtag happening now.

No, there's like a lot of bloggers that like everything's always perfect and you know, things aren't perfect over here today. Not today. They're not. No, they're not. Not in our pajamas on the floor with blankets all over us. They're not. So, okay, my tip is absorbic acid with three eggs.

LA pills. Okay, so I've talked about this on the skinny confidential before. It's called the hangover elixir if you want the exact breakdown. And basically when I'm hung over, I do pure, pure, vitamin C. Make sure you get the non-GMO kind. It's a powder. You put a scoop in water with ice. I do like three scoops. Probably only supposed to do one, but I do. I do three. I like, I'm intense. And then I squeeze lemon into it and I take three ALA tablets on the side. And I swear to God, it's the hangover cure. That sounds much better than my breakfast burrito, Euro situation. Your Euro situation is out.

So this hangover elixir was invented by Suzanne Summers. And if you don't know who Suzanne Summers is, you have to get on board. She's the best. She looks so good. She's like 70 years old and her skin is flawless. Which is amazing. Anyways, so try it next time you're hungover. just make sure that you're using

absorbic acid vitamin C. You want like pure, pure, pure. And it'll take your hangover away. And if that fails, you can always get a euro. I don't know about Jordan. Is that your tip of the week, Jordan? That's my tip of the week. A little falafel, a little breakfast burrito,

a little sour cream. A little no. Sour cream is not a good hangover. Anyway, all right. Well, so now that we've done the tip of the week, should we get into the question? First, we're going to take a break. Okay.

We got to get our postmates order. All right. Oh, thank God. I know. All right. We'll be right back. What would happen if a well-known Chicago news anchor quit his job to drive a car for Lyft? What if he captured the real stories of the real passengers who ended up in the backseat?

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Yeah, we're trying. We're trying real hard. So we have three questions today, and we're going to try to answer them to the best of our abilities, but my hangover elixir has not kicked in yet. I just took it. So we'll see how this goes. All right, Jordan.

What's the first question? The first question is from Paulina, and she asks, what is a typical day like working for you, Lauren? Ooh. Well, I'll let you answer that first because you do work. I feel like you work with me. I hate someone saying that people work for me. The answer to what is a typical day like working with Lauren is that there is no typical day.

I could sum it up for you. I'll just use today as an example. today I got up answered some emails did some things from bed from bed a lot of emails a lot of emails lots of emails lots of emails more emails than you could ever imagine like imagine like your worst night in year of emails that's every day like when you're just cruising around town I'm constantly looking at my emails just to see if I can answer a few while I'm like in line at the grocery store or you know going through the drive-thru at Starbucks like those are those are the moments where I try to knock out a few emails. Um, so I woke up, sat and bad, answered some emails. Then I came over here to film the

podcast. I'm in my pajamas. After this, I'm driving down to the border, basically, of Mexico. Did you guys hear that? She's driving down to the border of Mexico. So just when you think you might want to work with me, you don't. Yeah. So I have to drive down. I have no idea where I'm going. I'm actually terrified that I'm going to accidentally cross the border. So I brought my passport. Like, I'm not even kidding. Are you serious? I brought my passport. Because I've heard that before, that people on accident drive past the, like, turn, and then they go to Mexico, and then they're there, and you have to sit in the line for, like, six hours. Okay, tell them why you're going to the border.

So we're shipping a bunch of stuff down to Cabo for the wedding. And, yeah, I didn't know this until I started until this last week. But you have to ship international through, like, a special courier so that when it goes through customs, it doesn't get lost or stolen or, but I don't really know. I just know we have to send it through a career. So today she's answered emails, sat in her pajamas on the floor and podcasted, and then she's going to the border.

Yeah, and then I'm coming back up to finish answering emails and do any other tasks that you need help with. Yeah, we had a girl that worked for us like probably a year ago that didn't work out the best. And it just wasn't a fit. And I think she thought that when she was working for me, that all we were going to do was like take a couple photos, have a little rosé, eat an oyster

or two, maybe answer two emails. She loved the day when we had, what was it, what was it called? Spill my drink. What's, what was it called? What's the, the, we did, um, you know what I'm talking about? Yeah, we did like a video shoot. So she thought it was like a lot of like creating content all the time. And the thing with blogging is it's so much more than just creating content. And caviar oh caviar we had a caviar she loved that day yeah she loved that day um so i think that people have this misconception about if they ever were to work for a blogger that it's all just like shooting instagrams and um you know maybe doing a couple emails the bare naked cucumber said it best i don't remember when he said this but i remember when he said it i was like that is it working with loren and

michael you have to be like the ocean he said you have to be able to go with the flow and just the current and sometimes it gets rocky and crazy and other times it's smooth sailing and super chill and suns out whatever and i actually don't blame the girl that was working for me it's it's she wanted more structure like a nine to five and this just isn't a nine to five it's a very unique different job i mean you were working yesterday when you were hung over yeah i mean like it's not friday night we were booking flights for everything for yeah it's kind of a 24-7 job but then you get breaks and other areas. Like, you know, you'll get two days off or tomorrow we're going to go to L.A. all day and we'll probably, you know, go have lunch. Oh, yeah. Tomorrow. Yeah. So then that's another thing.

Like tomorrow we're going to L.A. all day. Thursday, we're going to L.A. So it's kind of all over the place. You know, sometimes there's shoots. Like the other day we went to the dress theory and we, you know, took a bunch of pictures and watched Lauren Try on dresses and blew your head off. Had some champagne. They were tired of watching me try on dresses. But yeah, so it's kind of all over the place. And I guess like the main thing working with Lauren and Michael is that you have to just be down to like get the job done, whatever it may be. You can't be not flexible. Yeah, it's not structured at all.

Nothing structured about it, in fact. No. And you have to be efficient with your emails. You got to be efficient with your emails because I micromanage in the email section. Yeah, you have to be efficient in general. It's like things are moving fast. You can't, it's not a nine to five job. So, on that note, we're accepting interns if you guys want to email them to ask

Lauren at the Skinny Confidential.com, but I feel like I've scared you all the way. Yes. You do get to drink rosé a lot. You, yeah, actually, sometimes I'm shocked at how much I drink on the job. Not to freak you out, Lauren. But yeah, there's a lot of, I mean, there's a lot of, I mean, even when we shoot the podcast, sometimes we're having a glass. Yeah, we're not having champagne now because. We had enough this weekend.

Keep it right for the way. All right, next question. Okay, the next question is from Jenna, and she asks, how do you deal with anxiety? I have major anxiety. I feel like that's such a phrase that everyone says nowadays, but I really do have really bad anxiety. And it's something that I constantly work at every day. Yeah. I feel like you just push through.

You just push through. You wake up and you set a plan for the day and you do you push through. But you also have to take care of it. Like there's been times where I've had really bad anxiety about something and I'll push it aside for like two weeks at a time. And then it'll blow up or it'll implode. So my advice with anxiety is it's something that you need to kind of nurture every day. So for instance, today I'm going to go take an hour yoga class. tomorrow I can't get in a yoga class so I'm going to make sure that I can get up and you know

maybe take a walk around the block with the dogs before and and get a green juice and not drink too much coffee like there's all these like little things that you can do every day to sort of help with the bigger picture of anxiety that makes sense you are really good you like don't have anxiety I do but I you manage it like for me yoga's huge I think for me like anxiety comes when you don't have mental clarity. Exactly. That is like the smartest thing you've ever said. I love that. Oh my gosh. Love you. Maybe it's just the smartest thing you've ever said because we're hung over and anything smart sounds smart right now. So prophetic right now. No, but really, truly, yoga gives me mental clarity. So I go to yoga for an hour and I clear my head and then suddenly I feel

like I can focus and whatever I had anxiety about just isn't as big of a deal. And you just, You just deal with it and you just do it. I mean, most of my anxiety comes from like, oh, my gosh, I have to do this or that. And like Lauren sending me a thousand million cajillion emails. So the best thing for that is just get my freaking emails done. Like, just sit down and bust out a bunch of emails. Yeah, I think that what Jordan just said about mental clarity, mental clarity is something that takes away anxiety. So if you, in any way that you get mental clarity, whether that's, sometimes I have to stop my day and just go read a book for

half an hour. Yeah. To like distract my mind. I'm really in tune with my body. I feel like I have a lot of mind-body connection. You definitely have more than me though. I will say that. We're both on the path. No, but you're Norley. Jordan's Norley, you guys. I have a lot of mind-body connection. So when I'm feeling off, I recognize it right away. I'm very sensitive. Um, so like I said, I manage it every single day. It's something that that I really, you know, like watch. I find that, that writing at night is the best way for me to write. It's when I have the least amount of anxiety and I can sit down and my to-do list is crossed off

and I can just write and there's no other distraction because let's face it, anxiety is distracting. Yeah, so distracting. Extremely distracting. It's hard to think. You can't, you just can't, you can't visualize what you need to do and then take action. So anything you can do to have a clear mind

and then be able to take action, that's what's going to push you through the anxiety. Which is why I love yoga. lately. I think that you also need to recognize where the anxiety is stemming from. So I've had a lot of situations in my life where I have felt very out of control, which is one of the reasons that I'm a huge control freak, aka the Bachelorette party. I'm like a huge, huge control freak. My house always has to be in order like everything has to kind of be controlled. And I think that that definitely stems from things that have happened to me that are out of my control. So

Once I know kind of where the anxiety is coming from, I can troubleshoot it. That's actually, that's smart because you can't ignore it completely, just because you have a clear mind and you're not like stressed or super like giving into your emotions. That doesn't mean that you can ignore whatever is giving you anxiety. You have to like try to solve the issue. Deal with it. Yeah. You can't ignore it. And you power through.

You wake up and you tell yourself, I'm fucking amazing. I'm going to have a great fucking day today. and you kill it. I mean, I wake up every single morning and give myself a pep talk. There's not a morning that I roll out of bed and I'm like, merry fucking sunshine and I'm like, ha!

Like, I have to wake up and be like, you know what? I have a lot to do today. Like, I have to get in the mindset. You know what's my yoga something I heard in my yoga studio that really helped me like be able to think clearly and not feel as much anxiety

about things that shouldn't, like, because sometimes you stress out about things that shouldn't stress you out is they told me they were like, write down and clearly defined your values and your priorities and like the things that are important to you. Like for example, if you really value loyalty or hard work or whatever it is. And then anytime you're stressed, like look at your list of values and be like, am I stressing over something stupid? That's great advice. Yeah. I'm reading this book, The Stubble Art of Not Giving a Fuck. And that's

kind of the same advice. Like you have to pick like where your your fucks are going to be given. Yeah, like if one of your main priorities is your family and you have something going on with your family that's stressing you out, then obviously you need to solve that. Because that's something that deserves your attention because it's one of your values. So I think that really helps too. Yeah. So, all right. Last and final question and then Jordan and I are out of here, you guys. The last question is from Rachel and she asks, how do you handle having friends and family work for you?

I feel like Michael and I have kind of answered this. We have Jordan, Michael's sister working for us and Mimi, my sister working for us. We've also had my brother work for us. We've had, we have lots of friends. Lots of friends working for us. And I think that the answer to that is you mix it up. We also have, you know, a girl named Valerie that works for us. She's amazing.

But she lived across the country before this and we've never, you know, knew anything about her before we hired her. So I think you definitely mix it up. And I think you just have to have a really honest conversation with the family member or friend that says when you're at work, you're at work. And this is not me being a bitch or being rude. This is just the expectation I have. With Jordan, I think it's been very easy because Jordan wants the best for her brother and I. So her expectation is already set very high. So when I come in asking for something that's completely outlandish to maybe another employee, she knows like,

She sees the vision. She's a visionary. So I think that that's been pretty easy with her. And then I also am a huge believer in giving people things they're good at. Yeah. That's a big one. Yeah. I think, I mean, from my perspective, working, you guys have been great bosses, honestly. Sometimes we're a little annoying.

Don't lie. You can be annoying. Who's more annoying near Michael? Michael. Just kidding. No, but 100. Love you, Michael. Just kidding.

But Michael. Yeah. Well, Michael's just got. he's got a lot of things going on and you and I are kind of always on the same page. And I don't. No, well, Michael's like different things. Like you're focused on the skinny confidential. He's got Jetbed. You know, he's got like a little other things. Michael's intense. But you and I are always on the same page. Like we, I think we are on the same wavelength as far as like what needs to get done. What's a priority? Um, so I think the main thing is that like for me, I've had to be like,

okay, they're the boss. So I have to do what they say. And that's the most important thing. I think the problem with family members is sometimes they'll try to take advantage. And you can't take advantage. You can't take advantage. And you also can't be emotional. You have to be logical. Yeah.

This isn't feelings and how people feel. It's logic. It's work. We have a strategy. We have a structure. We have a goal. We have a vision. Get on board or get off.

We've got shit to do. Yep. We do have shit to do. Yeah, we do. But yeah, so it's been, I think that's the main thing is like you guys, probably wouldn't hire someone within family or your family or friend circles that you didn't already see the characteristics of like getting being able to get shit done and keep the relationship professional when it needs to be professional and fun when it needs to be fun you probably wouldn't

hire people no you don't want to get awkward yeah oh i hate awkward like i don't i don't want it to get awkward we have a very like fun work environment where it's super casual if someone needs to go take a walk They can go take a walk. If you need to go post an Instagram, you can go post, you know what I mean? Like, you can say like, I need however long you want for lunch. And I think what that does is it allows the person to thrive. Yeah. Or they take advantage and then they don't stay.

Yeah. So you either sink or swim in that kind of environment. I never want to be that person to my employees. It's like, you have to work nine to five. I don't work nine to five. I hate fucking working nine to five. It's not my style. It's not how I work.

I work a little here. I work a little there throughout the day. Yeah, I mean, it's nine to five doesn't work for me. So I can understand when it doesn't work for someone else. I think that you give people the opportunity to have a relaxed work environment. And like I said, they either thrive or they don't. I bring my dog to work. You bring your dog to work?

Yeah. You like, I don't even know what time you get to the office. What time? I usually get there at nine. But sometimes like, sometimes like 10. It depends. It depends. And sometimes like, sometimes you don't go in like today.

I don't go in. Yeah. I don't think I'm going in at all this week. Maybe on Wednesday. But yeah, it's so it really just depends. But I make sure that I get my work done. And so that's, I think that's like the main thing. Yeah, I don't really care like what hours people are working as long as shit gets done.

So in a nutshell, just make sure they get, she just makes sure that everybody gets shit done. Or don't have family members work for you at all. But I will say it is, it is a fun thing if it works out. Yeah, we have fun. Yeah, we always have fun. sometimes a little too much fun. Clearly. All right, you guys, before we go,

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Thank you guys for downloading, subscribing, and supporting us. I hope you enjoyed Jordan and I. We want to kind of mix it up, and we're going to throw you guys curveballs once in a while. Like, we can't do the same fucking thing every show, you know? Yeah, hopefully Michael will be proud of mine.

Sorry, Michael. I hope, yeah. Michael's probably over there listening with his headphones waiting. Michael's texted me like 60 times since we started recording. I know he gets nervous, but he's not on the show. Maybe we should kick him off. Just see me in the Bar-A-Cucumber.

Bye, Michael. Bye, Michael. All right, send your questions into Twitter or Instagram using the hashtag Ask Him and Her, and you guys can always send us questions to our snaps at Lauren Everett's and at Michael Bostic. We will see you next week. We are going to go nurse our hangover with a little vitamin C absorbic acid and ALA. Maybe a euro or two. No, no, no, no, no, we're not doing that before the wedding.

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