The Bossticks - #36: Our Love Story -The Pre-Wedding Podcast

Episode Date: November 8, 2016

Lauryn & Michael are drinking 'skinny margaritas' and podcasting from Cabo - celebrating their wedding week! From traveling the world, going into business with each other, the jaw surgery chapter, and creating the 'Bare Naked Cucumber,' the two detail their unconventional history of LOVE together. They highlight meeting in 6th grade, going to see "Star Wars" for their first date, being known for making-out in movie theaters, Lauryn's dad catching Michael in his underwear at age thirteen, and Lauryn explains what Michael did to make her fall in-love with him! To connect with Lauryn click HERE To connect with Michael click HERE This episode is brought to you by The Skinny Confidential Bombshell Body Guide and Meal plan.  tired of combating inflammation & bloat? Want to feel lighter and sexier? Check out lauryn's latest 7 day meal plan. In this simple & super effective plan you'll find: + tsc grocery list with every ingredient you need for the 7 days. + what the f*ck to do when you love carbs guide. + quick and delicious recipes: breakfast, snacks, lunch, dinner and dessert. You will also find 28 weeks worth of fat burning, muscle toning, 27 minute long, effective workouts you can do at home with no equipment. USE PROMO CODE: HIMANDHER at Checkout for 20% Off

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Back in Mexico. Back in the saddle. Back in the saddle. I wasn't going to drink today. Show is back on track now that I'm back. We can actually get going again. The show took a dive there for a while without me. He likes to think it took a dive.

And he's asked me 10 times if anyone was tweeting about Jordan and my show. I think it was like radio silent. They're like, all like, all I was like, where's Michael? Where's Michael? Like that's the best part of the show. That's the best whole thing. Come on. I know everybody out there.

I missed you. I hope you missed me. I was out. I was taking care of business in Orlando, Florida. Shout out to the home of Disney. I don't think anyone really noticed. I think everyone noticed. Everyone's like, wow, the show was really missing some heart.

It was missing some soul. No, it was missing some. Anyways, I'm back now, so we're back at it again. We know you're back. We can tell. Okay, before we get started, though, we want to thank you guys for subscribing, listening and rating our podcast. You're all amazing.

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If you like the show, let your friends and family know so we can continue to grow the community. The awesome community. So we're down here. I just want to apologize in advance because if you're coming for value in this show, you're going to get some kind of vibe, But I don't know if it's going to be the typical type of show. We're down here. We're down in Mexico.

We're drinking margaritas right now. We're drinking margaritas with a pixie straw. The hotel that we're staying at the one and only Palmilla had our favorite bartender standing with a tray of skinny margaritas and pixie straws. And it was just so thoughtful and amazing and on brand. Yeah. And to back up a little bit, we're not just down here running around. We're down here finally after years.

after years and years of trying and trying, I finally locked you down. We're down here to celebrate our wedding. Finally. And here's the thing. We're going to really get into our history in this podcast. So again, this is maybe not value that you can walk away with,

but hopefully you'll get a giggle out of it. We've been engaged for four years. So there's definitely... It's not been that long. Yes, it absolutely has Michael Bostic four years. Time flies when you're having fun, huh? Yeah, it sure diddley does. A lot of screaming fights, a lot of crazy girls, a lot of, well, not a lot of crazy girls.

When I say that, I mean you. You've really turned up the crazy switch in the last month. Yeah. When you're planning a wedding by yourself, the crazy switch goes out the roof. She got so mad at me yesterday. She's like, you haven't been planting the linens or the flowers or the dishes or this. And I was like, yeah, of course. Like, why would you ever, like, all of a sudden, am I going to transform into a different

person and, like, become a linen connoisseur and start becoming a flower expert? You guys, he thought all the flowers for the wedding would be like $100. Yeah. Hey, listen, getting in the flower game is not a bad idea. The markup on those things. Listen, you get a couple guys out there, he picks some weeds, he grabs some things from Ecuador or wherever, and then he brings them up here. That's not what they do. They don't pick some weeds from Ecuador.

Wherever they get them from. I'm telling you, the markup on those, that's, it's bigger than drugs. Literally, I need to, like, consider, like, what we're doing on Saturday with your personality today. Listen, count your blessing. So what we kind of wanted to do in this show is just tell you guys a little bit about our relationship and where it started and how it began because it's kind of like an in-depth long story. Really long, really long. It's a song that never fucking ends. Apparently. Did you think when you laid eyes on my handsome face when you were 12 years old that you'd be sitting here in Mexico getting married, podcasting? No, I wanted you to pass me the handball. You were holding a handball.

The tetherball. I was a tetherball expert. Some like to think so. So yeah, Lauren and I, we've had a wild ride. It's definitely not the traditional. Or maybe it is. Maybe it's like going back to traditional. No, I feel like we've had a very non-traditional relationship because, yeah, we met when we were 12, but there's been a lot more to the story than just meeting, you know, when we were 12

and, like, doing the whole dating in high school thing and then getting. out and dating in college. Our relationship has a lot of dynamic, a lot of layers. And I think that's what makes the best kind of marriage when you have a lot of different layers. I mean, I would be really bored with just one dimension. Yeah. No, I agree. I love when I like say something profound and you just say, yeah, I agree. No, I agree. I mean, no, I did listen. It's crazy though, like to think about all the things that we've done together now. I mean, we've traveled the world together. We've done business together. We've been in a relationship together. We've, like, we've been, jaw surgery. Jaw surgery. That's a whole chapter. We've seen life, you know, a nephew now. We've seen

death. We've seen, like, there's been a million things that we've gone through together. We could write a whole fucking book. Or we could just do a podcast. We could do a podcast. We invented a character called the Bare Naked Cucumber, who's. I feel like, okay, I trademarked and brand of him, but you're taking credit, which seems to be. You can, you can have that one. You can have them. I will have that one. All right, let's change the subject for Michael's sake. Sometimes standing out is all about doing things differently than everybody else. You guys know I love a little flair.

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the premise of it. Okay. So I'm in sixth grade. I'm doing my own thing. With 4-1. Yeah, I'm 4-1 at the time. playing handball, you know, holding hands on the playground. I had a girlfriend at the time. Shout out to Lauren. It was another Lauren. I don't know why. And in walks in this blonde girl.

You were fully developed. I thought you were the teacher. Did you really think I was a teacher? No, but I mean, my jaw dropped because I had huge tips. I was used to looking at, you know, what women looked like in sixth grade, right? So I was just like, you know, a little kid. And all of a sudden you walk in. and you're fully developed.

And I think I hit puberty right there on the spot. Ew, you probably got a boner. And, no, but I didn't, you know, it's funny when you walked in, I didn't even think about you. I was just like, okay, well, that's aggressive for sixth grade. But obviously, I was attracted to you, but I was just like, okay, that's like not happening. That's out of my league. I don't think I had the confidence I have now back then. I thought I looked a little weird.

You know, I was 4-1. I didn't really find my way. Only had one girlfriend before. You loved those striped shirts from Target. It's boys while. And you pursued me. I pursued you. The second I saw him, I was like, he is so cute, like, in a weird, like, cute young way

because he had that step cut that everyone had, but it was, like, parted in the middle. You were the cutest 12-year-old. Sometimes I, like, want to date you when you were 12. Like, I have a weird, creepy obsession with you when you were 12. So you want to date a 12-year-old boy? Like, I want my kid to look just like you when you were 12. If he's only so lucky. Oh.

So anyways. The confidence has changed. I dumped my, yeah, the confidence has changed. I dumped my then girlfriend, Lauren, a different Lauren. Sorry, Lauren. I dumped her right on the spot. No, you didn't. Oh, let me back up.

No, someone said through the grapevine, hey, Lauren Everett's, that fully developed, big-titted blonde girl, she wants to date you. I called up Lauren, the other Lauren after, and I said, hey, we're through, and then I called you up, and we went on a date. To Star Wars. To Star Wars. We were known for making out in movie theaters. We were known for making out.

We were getting frisky. We were getting froggy. We would make out literally the whole movie. Yeah, the whole movie. Some of the parents from the school would show up and sit in the back and watch us, which, first of all, that's fucking creepy, okay? What were you doing back there watching us making out? Little kids were just trying to have a good time.

It's not like we're doing anything about making out. The parents would sit in the back and watch us and then tell our parents. And I remember talking- Our parents were cool, though. Yeah, I remember talking to my dad. He's like, what the hell is that parent doing in the back watching you guys? They literally were hanging like gargoyles off. the ceiling with magnifying glasses staring at us. It was so weird. That's a whole different

podcast, though. So, there we were. Two young lovebirds. It was like a story out of the notebook. You know, you went away. I went to actually, I actually don't remember how the notebook went. So I just know that girls liked that shit. That is literally sick that you just said. Okay, wasn't out of the notebook. But whatever. It was right. Wait, everyone wants to know, like, why do you know what the notebook is. Of course. Every guy knows what the notebook is. But I think I forgot the whole storyline. So, okay, it wasn't like the notebook. Something just, I didn't remember. I'm not, I don't have Alzheimer's and I'm not dead yet.

Okay. And I'm not telling a story to my great grandson. Isn't that how it goes? Michael, let's get to the point. So anyways, we dated. We dated through six, seventh, eighth grade. And I know people don't think it's fucking serious then. Even Lauren didn't take it serious then.

If people joke around actually, oh, you did it in six and seven and eighth grade. People didn't take it. Yeah, people didn't take it seriously. But I swear to God, and this is, I'm going to get romantic here for a minute to win some brownie points. I swear to God, I knew in seventh and eighth grade. that I wanted to marry Lauren. And if you go on my Instagram and you scroll like a creep,

like hundreds of weeks back, you'll see a black and white photo of Lauren and I when we were 12, 13 years old. At the fair. At the fair. And I knew then that I was in marriage and I was sure of it. And it's weird because I don't know. I would never give like relationship advice

or give marriage advice to anybody. And I dealt with a lot of my friends that are in relationships and ask me. It's one of the, those weird things, I swear to God, like, when you know, you know. And I knew. How come I didn't know? Because it took some convincing, but I knew. And I don't think, I don't think it's one of those things in a relationship where both people have to know. I think one person has to know. And if you can convince the other person that what you know is right, then that's all you need. Our friend Steve would call that manipulative. Listen, one reasons is good of another. But it's true. I knew.

He knew what you knew in sex. I knew, no, maybe not in six, but I knew. like in seventh. Because every girl I dated after that, and I'm sorry if anybody, I don't think anybody listens that I dated. Maybe they do, maybe they don't.

But I never took any other relationship outside of this one seriously. And that's my, that's like me being, it's not because I didn't care. I'm a bad guy. It's just because like I didn't, I knew that I was,

didn't want that. I knew that I was looking for something else. I think your fake engagement ring is cutting the circulation off to your brain, which is why you're getting so romantic right now. Yeah, maybe. Maybe.

So we dated in 6th and 7th and then kind of, in 7th grade, there's 8th graders in middle school. So it's 7th and 8th graders. And there starts to be older guys. You don't say. And I was bossy in 7th grade, I would say. Would you? Yeah, if you looked at our, like, the me in 7th grade disgusts me. That's not nice.

He was a huge. He was a whiny little like, woe is me, a little bit too emotional, a little bit like, you know, I went through this, like, I went through the whole like, you know, punk rock phase. You wore the same sweater every single day. Yeah, I went through that whole deal and like got way too fucking emotional. And like the me now would kick the shit out of me then. Okay, you were literally like 13. But so, you went off, rightly so because I was being an emotional little bitch probably. And you, Lauren met some older guys.

She went off, broke my heart, my seventh grade heart. threw me in the gutter. Wait, wait, wait. Before that, though, just for the record, so I don't sound like a complete cold-hearted bitch, I made Michael a scrapbook in seventh grade that was all these pictures and I saved all our movie stubs

and if you can imagine we like to make out a lot so there was about 6 million movie stubs. I saved all of our pictures, pictures of our friends and I put it together in the scrapbook and it's so funny when your mom pulls out the scrapbook because she still has it. Remind me that I have to get that thing out of the back.

page. But when she pulls it out, I did like a blog for you in seventh grade. I put together like a blog. It was like writing in pictures, but in a scrapbook. And then at the end of the scrapbook, I proposed. So are you claiming that you were blogging in like 1995? I was technically blogging in 1995. Technically. But the point is, is that I proposed to you with what's that thing that That should have been the red flag there when, you know, most guys, if they get a proposal from a girl, like you proposed to me when we were in eighth grade, like, it should be like, whoa, psycho, but I was into it. Yeah, I actually proposed to him at the end and I said, I wrote Michael Bostic and Lauren Everett's, and it was like this beautiful piece of like paper with a chapel on it.

But then what did you do? And then the date had question mark on it. But then what did you do? I need to get that from your mom for down here. Then you left me for the older guys. You guys, he talks about this every day. Okay. So anyways, yeah, on and up.

old story. On and off. You know, you left me. Oh, we could back up a little bit. So, Lauren and I used to get pretty hot and heavy back then. And, um, what does that mean, Michael? You know, I was trying as best as I could. I don't know if I knew what I was doing, but I was trying as best I could to get it. Oh, you forgot to tell them the story. Yeah, so I was going to, so one day, do you remember when I snuck over to your house? I remember. Crystal clear. So I snuck over to your house. I snuck over to Lauren's house when her dad wasn't there. It was during school. It was during school and work. Like, so it was like 12. No, it wasn't.

Yeah, it was like one in the afternoon. So I creeped inside and I started trying to get down to business. As I would, I was pretty... Just so you guys can imagine this time, I had a Titanic Leonardo Kate Winslet poster on my ceiling. Just so you can... Do you remember that? You do. Yes.

You were jealous of Jack, I feel like. No, I was Jack pretty much after you left me for the eighth graders. I was left in the ocean freezing to death. Okay, so he comes to my house in the middle of the afternoon when my dad wasn't there. and you wanted to get frisky. I did want to get prisky. I managed to get the bra off. You got the bra off.

I got down to my underpants. Ew, that was so creepy. She denied me every way possible. But I was trying. Listen, and if you could get an A for effort back then, I got an A plus plus. So anyways, denied, denied. I'm trying, trying, trying.

She's saying no. No, no. That sounds a little rapy, but you were saying no. And then I heard the sound that only, like that strikes fear into any young man's heart was the sound of her dad's car pulling into the driveway. So we got to have, we're going to have Brad on this show someday to talk about God. My dad wants to come on. Yeah, yeah, he's got to come on. So anyways, Brad, if you're listening, I know you love this story.

He tells it every day. He tells it every day. So I'm in my underpants. I'm scrambling around. I'm freaking out. You guys were 13. I'm 13. There's only one way to get out of the house.

No, there's two ways. One, you fly off the balcony and break both your legs and lay in the driveway. You considered it. Or two, you have to run down the stairs past the garage, past the dad. That would have, no, which would have been the smartest for you? So I'll get into that. So here's the thing. I go and I hear your dad and I get in the closet and you decide to get, for some reason.

I'm like, okay, I'm safe in the closet. Like, I'm fine. Like, nobody's going to think to look from you here. You get in the closet with me, which I still to this day have no idea why you did that. I wasn't thinking it through. You don't say. So, I mean,

it's one of those closets like out of like the movie Halloween where you can like see through the little slits. Like a horrible closet. Like from like 19, like 70. And I'm in there holding all my clothes. I'm in my underpants. I'm crouched down.

I'm four foot one. I'm freaking the fuck out. You didn't need to crouch it for one. I look through the little blind and I see your little sister Faye who got, how old was she at the time? She probably like seven or eight. Yeah. And Faye has a monocle attached to her when she was like.

And she's like an inspector gadget. Oh yeah. So, She's looking under the bed. She thinks Lauren's like playing hide and seek. And I'm sitting there like, oh, my God. So the dad comes home. He knows Lauren's there because you can hear us banging around and he knows she's there.

And just as I feared, he ripped the closet door open. It flew off the hinges. It flew off the hinges. And he says, Lauren, Michael, and grabbed my 13-year-old, 4-foot-1, 100-pound body and flailed me out of the closet. I've never been more scared in my life. And screamed. screamed, yelled, he threw me in the car. No, he said, Lauren, you're going to fucking boarding school.

Yeah, so Lauren's going to boarding school. I think I'm going straight to hell. I think I'm literally going to die. So he throws me in his car, I'm still in my underpants, and he drops me down the street at the local mall in my underpants. So I'm getting my clothes on. I'm like, oh my God, oh my God, I'm fucked, I'm fucked. I'm fucked. I call my dad for fatherly advice. I tell him everything that happened.

And all I can hear on the other end of the line is a huge bellowing laugh. Cackling. cackling with the words, why didn't you jump off the balcony, idiot? So there's just funny how that works. It's like the girls' parents were saying you're going to boarding school. You're fucked. You're done. Like you're in big trouble.

My dad said, why didn't you jump off the balcony, idiot? And laughed. I think he was actually kind of proud of me. Then my parents threatened another school for me, which that didn't work. Your parents called my parents. I wanted to do therapy talks. Yeah. We were sneaking.

You got punished, right? Like, you probably got grounded. I went home and played Mario Kart. Yeah, Michael, I got grounded. I took the fall on that one. So after that... I got a game of Mario Kart and a big case of blue balls. Oh, my God.

Well, after that whole sitch, we broke up. I went for the older guy. What did you do? I rolled around. With your blue balls. No, at that time, I was solving the case of my blue balls. How so, Michael. Shout out to all the case solvers.

That helped me along the way. I appreciate it. That's sick. So I started dating this older guy. All right, so we'll skip past that. She dated this older guy for a while. Oh, my goodness. I'm just kidding.

I'm not that insecure. Yeah, she was dating a guy. I dated a few girls. I dated one girl. Is that what you call him dating? Yeah, dating. Okay. Dating.

And then we both went to college, when are separate ways. Wait, you just skipped high school. Yeah, because high school, we just dated around. You can't do that. that to them. You can't let me... Oh, yeah. Oh, yeah, we did hook up on and off through high school. Do you want to disclose that?

Oh, yeah. I guess we could disclose that now. I mean, fuck, we're getting married, so... Yeah, we hooked up in high school every now and then. And I feel like you... I don't know. It was like indifferent there. What do you think about high school?

Okay, so not my proudest moments, but every time I would... If I was with somebody or not with somebody, more than not with somebody, this is what I've talked about in previous podcast where I've not... my proudest moments. But I think people will maybe not forgive me, but understand it now. Every time more would come around, I would do my best to try to convince her to come back, to come to the side. And not in the pathetic way, I don't think, in high school.

No, it was more than a way like, it was more than any time, like, at this time, thank God. The door was open. Yeah, I was like, the door's open, come back when you want. I never, like, no matter what she was going through in her life or what she was doing, close that door on her. I always wanted her to think, like, when she decided to grow, like, a brain in her head. I thought I was like too cool for school, I feel like. So I just waited for her to get like the stupid out of her head.

Oh my God. And realize like what she was, what she was missing. People are feeling bad for me. No, they're not. They're feeling good for you. You're in fucking Kabul right now. Enjoying a margarita doing a podcast. Okay.

Anyways. So every time she would come back, I would say welcome to it. Come on back. Welcome to it. At that time, I actually. I don't know about that. We, we had a couple limo buses. You had a couple drinks.

High school. What's up with high school kids in limo buses? That probably doesn't happen anymore with Uber. The reason kids like limo buses in high school is because it's a way to get away from all the parents and you can drink and the limo driver just kind of is quiet about it, which is really dangerous if you think about it now. But anyways, I dated a couple other guys in high school. You dated a couple other girls.

And we went off to college. I went to San Diego State and Michael went to a U of A. Shout out to the Thundercat. Oh, no, Wildcats. I don't even know. I forget. The Thundercats? You know what? I was thinking of that show, the Thundercats. I was, like, the least school spirit guy ever.

I don't think I ever went to one basketball or football game. You were the warden in your fraternity, so let's just say. I was an S-A-E. Yeah, because you know why? The warden got the best benefits. I was basically running part of a business. Oh, gosh. Before I was even in a business.

I showed up. I think I was the youngest. I know this, like, trots are kind of dushy, but I showed up, and somehow my sophomore year got elected to a high position, and I had all these pledges under me, and I'd have them running around. Anybody that went to UVA with me, no. And so like it was great because if they were ever late, go get beer. If they were ever this, like I remember I would I would lay in my room and have them bring up a lawn chair and carry me down the stairs like King Tide every day. That's a little much.

It sounds like you manipulated the fraternity. Like you manipulated me. I had it running like a business, right? Yeah. Okay. Well, that's great. And then we got Weston who works with me. He got the house manager.

So then we got all like the house funds to buy the tools and all this stuff. You guys are award the fraternity. Yeah. I was in charge of like the older guys. weird. I always laughed to myself at night. I was like, why would they, why would they ever do that? But anyways, that's a side. So yeah, U-A, I went to U-V-A, just took it easy out there, you know. Yeah, right. Okay, so if you guys have read The Skinny Confidential for a while, you know that I have talked about this company a lot. It is one for every girl. It's called Soul Society. So it's,

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We're in Cava. We're getting married. What can you do? We're having a margarita. So Michael comes back from college and he comes into the restaurant that I'm waitressing at. Now, this is my dad's restaurant at the time and I think I was 19 and I'm waitressing. And we had to wear the ugliest outfits. Do you remember the outfit or no?

No. It was horrendous. It was a brown maxi skirt with a baggy black shirt and a huge headband. It was like horrendous. So. I find you pretty in whatever you were. Oh, thanks, honey. I'm rocking up the points.

So I'm waiting on Michael now. And I really didn't, I didn't care to wait. on you. I was like, you know, this is what I'm doing. I'm going to school. I'm waitressing. And somehow your friend convinces me that I need a fake ID and I needed to meet him later. My friend was selling fake IDs? That sounds like, sounds like some scheme I'd be involved in. How do you not remember this? Oh, I do remember this now. Okay, yeah. So you guys go to another restaurant and I meet you for the fake ID. How do you not remember this? Oh, I didn't, no, you didn't meet me. You were meeting him. I was on a, I was like kind of on a date.

Michael was on a date, so I went and met my friend to get my fake ID when I was 19, or maybe it was 20. And Michael was there, and you guys, I had braids in my hair with no makeup and my brown maxi skirt with my baggy black shirt and a huge headband. And I was just going to grab the ID and go home. Didn't happen. Well, yeah, so I was on a date. And at the time, I was like just running around, having a good time doing my own thing. wasn't thinking about Lauren and then you showed up

and I think I left the date and I went with you you not only left the date you left the date in front of the date so the date I was I'm so like you owe a lot of people apologize you need a carrier pigeon to go around and send notes to everyone that you

want an apology to I was the worst honestly I was the worst I was ruthless yeah you were bad you know what though I probably like here's here's my thing with guys no no no I am taking accountability I was bad, but here's the thing with guys.

I think more guys should be like that and more girls. Like, if it's not going to happen, it's not going to happen. And like, don't drag somebody along. At least I never dragged any, I didn't drag too many people along. All right, let's just move on. If you were a car, you had 20 cans hanging off your car. Let's just move along. Okay, so anyways, I was in a relationship at this point with a surfer that was

super chill and go with the flow kind of guy. So I pick up my ID and Michael and I start drinking a little bit, but we're with a group of people and somehow he ends up at my house sleeping on my couch. I picked up a couple moves between. No, but you didn't get that many moves because I woke up in my bed and you woke up on the couch. Well, now that we're getting married, I can be honest. Before you had your jaw surgery, you snored like a fucking chainsaw.

Yeah, I had a lot going on before my jaw says. And I was, no, how loud. Like tell everyone how loud. It's, no, I'm not kidding. Like a chainsaw. Do an example. Just for everyone. Like Texas chainsaw massacre.

Did I do an example? Did I do an example? No. Yeah. Yeah, like that. Like Texas chainsaw massacre coming out of the woods. I don't understand that you were turned on with my brown skirt and my snore. Well, the snore was a little much, which is hence why you found me on the couch.

But yeah, I know then, like, you know, obviously one thing led to another. I'm kind of glazing ahead now. No, you want, you can't do that to people. You have to give them the story. So after that, I was like, okay, this is just like one night you slept on my couch by. So my friend invites me to Vegas for her birthday. and it was a huge limel bus of us all going to Vegas. Now, just so you guys can understand Michael and I were always in the same group in high school.

So it was like he was in the guy group and I was in the girl group. So this group that was going for a birthday was the guy and girl group. And I didn't want to go because I was trying to reconcile what the guy was dating the server. So I was like on the fence. So Michael sends me this text when I'm at work in my brown skirt. And basically it was like this paragraph text saying like, Listen, like, I know you don't want to go to Vegas, but like come to Vegas because I promise it'll be fun. Do you remember that? That sounds like three sentences. No, it was long. It was a long paragraph. Don't try to get out of it.

Anyways. No. I'm very smooth. You were smooth. And it worked. So then the next thing I know I'm on a limel bus to Vegas with all my friends and guy friends from high school and I'm dancing in a tiara on a bar. And the next thing I know I wake up to Michael Bostic with a tiara on my head and a little champagne next to me. So after that, we kind of just stayed in Vegas and, you know, had fun. We stayed in Vegas and had a lot of fun. And I tricked her into falling back in love with me, I think. One reason is good as another. I swear to God. Like, you know, like I was saying the other day, like, everything works.

You just got to like test, test, test. And I'm going to do a little business thing here. Like, honestly, like, I really applied how I am. and everything in my life to how I am in this relationship, which, and when I was chasing, it was like, honestly, like, patience and persistence and, like, not taking no and just, like, going and going, like, the belief that you can do something. And I know that sounds weird because it sounds weird because I'm applying to a relationship, but, like, it worked, right? And I think way too many people give up way too easily when it comes to relationships. You don't want to be

that, like, creepy person that's forcing your will on someone. Like, there's a lot of times. there between seventh or eighth grade where, you know, and when we started dating again, which is like what in our 20s, right? So like, say eight years. But for eight years, I'm not creepy. I'm not pushing myself. And like girls and guys should listen to this. If somebody's not receptive, which you weren't at the time, don't push yourself on them. Don't tell them that they have to be with you. Don't force yourself. Like, honestly, if it's, if it's one of those things that's meant to be and if it's like it's going to be and if it's not then stop wasting your time and stop stressing over it but and this is like to get a little deep and have a little bit of relationship advice i see so many

people that just want something to happen right now and they want to force their will and their feelings on somebody else and the reason i think that it worked for me in this situation with you and you could disagree with me if you want or tell me why i never forced that on you i just did things to try to convince you in a in a way that it was your decision and not mine. Okay, but here's what you really did that convinced me and anyone should take notes. The real thing he did that convinced me to fall in love with him was when I was at work in my brown skirt and you would come stay at my house.

And what did you do? Oh, this is the number one thing. This is the number one thing. For guys that are listening. This convinced me I was done. I got the dog, Pixie, who was a total bitch to me when she first met me. Like bit his legs. Bit my, hated him.

Hated me. I got her to fall in love with me. And if anybody knows now, like Pixie is like my appendage. She won't leave my side. So Pixie would bite his face off every time she saw him. And then I started to notice as I came home that each time I would come home, she was laying closer to him, closer to him, closer to him. Pixie's like me.

It takes her a while to wrap her head around someone. She needs to trust them. It takes a good couple months to get it. This just reminded me too. You know what? It's funny because I graduated college early. A lot of people don't know that. I graduated in three and a half years.

And I swear to God, it's not because I'm some brainy. I'm like honestly a C. D.B. student, but, and I was fine to stay out in Arizona and fuck off. But when I started coming back and visiting you, I wanted to get out of school so bad that I figured out a way to manipulate this. I think honestly, like, if any of my counselors are listening, I took like, I got like fake intern credits. I did like work experience credits. I got people to take my classes for me. I got people to write my papers from me. I didn't learn shit that last year. I just bailed out just to be with you. If you're in school, don't. listen to Michael. Okay, so he would throw the ball for Pixie every single day and slowly but surely

she would come closer to him. So one night I came home, this, I would say this is like four months into dating kind of. Honestly, though, if you are listening to Michael, the person that figures out to do what I did and get out of there like that, that's the person I want working for me. Not the person that's just going to duck their head down and go through it. So Michael's accepting job application. I'm accepting people that are creative and clever. Okay, but you need to like explain how you manipulated the Chihuahuas because chihuahuas are very hard to manipulate, as you know. Well, it's just like, you know. Kind of like a woman.

Kind of like a woman. You kind of throw the ball out there. The old ball. The old ball. See what she doesn't like it. Throw a couple kernels out. Maybe she scratches at it and barks and bites and bitches. But then like over time, you know, maybe you, I fed her a little bit.

What does your dad say about cats and women? Well, cats and no. Listen, my dad told me a long time ago. If you want to figure out a woman, get a cat and get the cat to like you. Yeah, you did that with Fixie. So then I started to kind of like him, I guess, four months. Yeah. After about eight years, she started to like me again.

So we just kind of dated. He was at school. I was at school. One thing I would say to any girls out there is what I've always done in a relationship is I've always done my own thing. I've never put my life into a man. And I think that I've seen that example through my dad. My dad was single for a while and I saw him date a lot of women. and they would be so clingy to him.

And so kind of, I don't want to say the word desperate, but it was desperate. And they made their whole entire existence in their life and their job about my dad. So when I left the house, I really utilized that as an example to just have my own thing, be in my own lane. Even if I, you know, I'm just waitressing. Not that there's anything wrong with waitressing. It's like you just focus your energy towards what you're doing. It doesn't have to be big, huge, grand. You just, you have your own life.

And I think that that makes for a good relationship. Yeah, absolutely. I mean, I think where I've failed in the past, regardless of if, you know, in relationships, is I need somebody that is doing something outside of me, right? Like, I'm not one of those. And listen, not every guy is the same. Not every girl's the same. Some guys and girls really want to be needed and really need that validation and really

need, like, people to make everything about them. And I think, you know, you do you. That's fine. I'm not going to pass judgment on that. But for me, like, I actually don't want a girl that's so into what I'm doing all the time, right? Like, Lauren gets a little fresher to me sometimes because I think I go to the extremes of that. Like, I'll go to Orlando for work and I'll go there for four days and I'm working. And I don't need to be in constant communication.

I don't either. But when you were a week away from the wedding, you got to send me a text to ask how I'm doing or I'm going to cut you when you're sleeping. Well, that's a lesson learned. But no. And so I think. And I think if you don't have something going on and you would maybe be a little bit more needy. So I think it's important to have something outside of the person you're with. It doesn't have to be a job.

It can be a hobby. It could be anything. Remember my grandma gave us advice? She said, You could be the president of the fucking knitting club. I don't care. The guy needs to have his own thing. The girl needs to have her own thing.

And then you need to have something together. Yeah. So what do we have together? We have a lot of things together. Chihuahua. Reading. Podcasting. Podcasting.

Going crazy. Going crazy. There's a lot of different things. Traveling. We travel a lot together. Travel. Yeah, outside and inside. You got to have both.

We like to play, too. We like to ride bikes. I mean, we like to do like, I beat you in tennis every second. Yep. He thinks he beats me, but he doesn't. You never beat me in tennis. Remember when you went skiing and you thought you were going to beat me at skiing? We went down the greens the whole time.

Okay, well, I had just had jaw surgery, so I was a little apprehensive about going down a double black. Well, we're going in January, so we'll see now. because the jaw surgery's been over a year to have. Okay, we'll see. Okay, I think I might snowboard. Okay, sunny bono. That's so fucked up. Was that fucked up?

Okay, so where were we? We dated. So, Michael... I won her back. You won me back? I want you back. Michael moved back. He moved into his parents' house for a little.

You got rid of all those other jokers. Got rid of the jokers. Sorry, jokers if you're listening. I actually liked some of the jokers, so sorry. It's not nice. You're rude. Your theme is rude today. You chose right.

Congratulations. It's like, you know if it was like pick. We got it. No, it's like if you, you know that, remember that game show where you pick behind door number one, two and three? We got it. We got it. Whichever door I was behind and you hit the jackpot. Congratulations. You won the grand prize.

Well, whatever. So anyways, I convinced her that. You moved back in with your parents and I think that's a whole story in itself. So yeah, I came back from school. And I was actually kind of like doing my own side hustles back then. I was remodeling a house. Uh-oh. Hold on.

We got to answer that. I think it's our tequila and almonds. Hey everybody, I'm Heather Dubrow. And I'm Dr. Terry Debrough. Every Friday, check out my podcast, Heather Dubrow's World. We also have a brand new show, The Doctor and Mrs. Guinea Pig show, every Tuesday. So don't forget, iTunes and Podcast One. Tune in to Dr. and Mrs. Guinea Pig on Tuesdays and Heather Dubrow's World every Friday.

This is the skinny confidential, him and her. Sorry about that. We got our spicy nuts. Nuts are the theme in this show. Yeah. Are you going to do a shot? Are you going to stay? stick your tongue in a shot.

No, I'm going to take my shot, but I can't do it on this podcast or I'm going to be putting my head in the table. No, you aren't. You had one. So where are we? We were doing side hustles. We were doing this. What are we talking about? I don't know, but you're doing a shot of tequila.

I think everyone would want us to have a shot of tequila because we're celebrating our wedding. Yeah, we are. So have a spicy. We're excited to have you guys celebrating with our wedding. Yeah, so we're going to take you guys along on Snapchat. My Snapchat handle is at Lauren Everett. L-A-U-R-N-E-A-R-N-E-A-R-T-A-R-T-S. Mine is Michael B-B-B-S-T-I-C-K with two S's,

T-O-S-T-I-C-K, that's how you do it. Yeah, so make sure you guys are following along on Snapchat because you're going to see the whole entire wedding, not the ceremony. We're going to keep that private. Kevin is going to kill us, our producer, Kevin. He's like, where the hell is the sound file? I know he's got, like, honestly, like,

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doing my own thing. And I had to come back and live in my parents' house. And at the time, then, a lot of people don't know my background. I just got my ass kicked doing a residential remodel out in Tucson. Shout out to Colonia Street. I was out there by Cactus Moon. I don't know if any of you people know about that in Tucson. And I came back and was working on a commercial medical building,

realized I hate doing buildouts, or at least I hate it at the time. I think I might actually like it now. That's about the time me and my dad. We had the idea to do kind of like a side business for a small company called Jetbetter, which we hope we'd be a small company, which is now one of our biggest companies, which is why I was in Orlando last week. It's funny because a lot of people didn't see a lot of that struggle. Obviously, like the social media wasn't as prominent back then.

I mean, when Facebook first came out, I think you could only use it if you were in college. Did you use it in college? No. I used it like towards the end. I was more of a MySpace. Yeah. Really? Yeah.

That's interesting. Not surprised, though. So yeah, we did all that. And then I came back primarily to be with Lorne. Who knows where my life would be. If you weren't here, I'd probably be. In the gutter at Cactus Moon. Yeah, the Cudder at Cactus Moon.

Ladies Night Wednesdays. I actually, short story about Cactus Moon, I actually saw a guy get knocked out and run over by a truck. This is not about our relationship and I'm getting married on Saturday. So I would appreciate if you would move the perspective. All the T-Lokes out there know what I'm talking about. Shout out to the Tucson Lokes. So Michael came back.

He was living at home. I was living with. a couple of psycho roommates at the time. One had scabies. One was addicted to fentanyl patches. And the other one had this thing where I wasn't allowed to touch her drawer. That's a whole different podcast. But I totally did the whole like roommate thing. I was living paycheck to paycheck. I think I was making like $800 a month paying for school. Just really bored and uninspired. You guys know that story. And Michael and I would just hang out. I feel like you just come over.

I come over to your house. We had Pixie. Pretty mellow. Yep. I was building Jethead. You were. I was waitressing. Wadressing.

And then I got a job as a bartender, which was right next to your parents' house, which was convenient. And right when I got the job, Michael decided to move downtown, which was 45 minutes away. See, I had to give it to her because... That sounds so perverted. No, I mean, I had to punish you a little bit because you made me wait eight years. So I was like, you know what? Now I'm going to, you know, I started doing, I started doing a little better, started doing a little bit of marketing. Started, you know, selling some beds.

Started peacocking. Started doing a little investing. And I got a place downtown and I made it hard on you. But here's the thing, you guys, the place needed so much help. We call it the brown place because it was all brown. No, we called the brown crest because he didn't know how to decorate. So he moved into the brown crest. You had bad taste.

Yeah. Just let's admit it. And then. We partied downtown. We kind of went through the party stage, go out, have fun. And then we both started getting real serious about our businesses. Yeah. That's around the time, like, you know, for the, like, I've always been an ambitious person.

I'm running around. I'm seeing people making it. I met a lot of really interesting people down there. Some good, some bad, some great, some not so great. I just kicked it up a notch, really wanted to, like, start putting my, you know, myself out there and making a name for myself. and that's around the time Lauren started doing her blog as well. You took me out to Morton's one night, and we were having oysters and champagne, and I was like,

I really want to do this idea that I have about the spinning confidential. And he said, no, no, you didn't just take me one time. You took me 50 times. Okay, this was like the 80th time, but we were in Mortons, and you said over oysters, pull the trigger. Yeah, I said the same thing I say now. I said, launch, who cares, get it out there, do it quick, see what people say. Listen, there's so many people, and then we'll get a little bit of business now to get outside of this. There's so many people out there that'll sit there and they'll constantly, and you know who you are, you'll give yourself an excuse to not do something because there's because something can go wrong or something might not be right or it's too early or it's too late or there's too much competition or there's too little competition, whatever the hell it is.

It's so easy to give an excuse about why not to do something and really. Everyone can win too. Anyone can win. It doesn't just because someone's doing something. really great doesn't mean you can't come into the market and do it better or just as good. No, and here's the thing. I promise. Let's say you do something, you completely fucking bite the dust and fail. You're going to learn so much so that the next thing you do, you have a better chance of doing that well. This constant fear of being scared to pull the trigger and not take the

plunge and not do the jump is like it's holding everybody back. And I'm not saying everybody, that means everybody needs to start their own business. This could be applied to anything. If you're thinking about doing something, just fucking do it. So just like, you did in our relationship. Just do it. Just manipulate the dog. It might take a long time. It might take eight years. You might fail for a long time. Might have to deal with some fucking joker older guys. All right. You guys know I spend a ton of time researching beauty. The good, the bad, the ugly, the trends, what works, what doesn't. You guys get it. So today I'm excited to talk about beauty con box because it's a real deal. It's quick and efficient to the point. Basically,

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I had the skinny confidential. This was two years in. I had started making money with this getting confidential. And I was also still bartending and teaching peer bar. And I came home one night looking like a full on homeless person. I had rats in my hair. My nails were chipped. You really could have waited.

But let's back up a little bit. More presentable. Even after all that persistence and all that time, I'm a practical person. And I still took my sweet time to propose. Yeah, we took our time. And here's the thing that I would say. when Michael and I were dating so many people would say, oh, when is he going to propose? And that would make me upset because Michael and I together had a very team-like discussion of when it was right for us.

And I didn't feel like we needed to share it with everyone. We just had like a game plan. And so when people went infringe on that and ask that question, it was really like, it was kind of like coming into our privacy. So if you're out there and people are putting pressure on you to get engaged, just like do you? Or like, and this, honestly, this is primarily for women. Honestly, it is. Not sexist or anything, but it's women that push this shit a lot. If you're, if you're one of those women that's in a relationship and you're getting

shit from your friends about when a guy is going to propose or when he's going to do this or when he's going to get serious, honestly, the only person that you should be taking counsel from is him or her in yourself. Really other people's opinions are irrelevant. I don't know, like, when it became, like, I don't know what. happened where society decides what the timeline is on something like this but I remember when we

were going through this you would give me so much shit because people say things or girls say things and I'd always think to myself like what's wrong with these women that they're passing judgment on our relationship yeah I don't feel like I ever pressured you but it was really annoying when people would say things it was like mind your own business listen we're not making a choice to go down to the

baseball game no and like we're making a choice to spend a fucking life together when we got engaged we just stayed engaged for four years. Yeah, and that's another thing. When you get engaged, you don't have to jump right into the wedding. How fun is it to be engaged? I'm going to miss being engaged. Just to let you guys know, I see a lot of women get engaged and they get married six months

later. Being engaged is so fucking cool. Like, be engaged. The guy likes you. We get it. Be engaged. You can live separately. Do your own thing.

You can live together. It's such a cool period. No one's asking you questions. about kids, I loved being engaged. Yeah. Did you? Yeah, I think, you know, listen, I don't believe in marrying for love, right? Like, that's going to piss a lot of people off.

I think that everyone's, what do you mean? Obviously, I love Lorne. That's a big thing. I think you can really, really be in love with somebody and just, like, completely be incompatible or not compatible, right? Like, you have to figure out, yeah, maybe you love this person. Maybe you really want to be with them. but can you be with them?

Are you compatible? Do you guys have the same interests? Do you have the same life goals? Do you have the same vibe? You have this vision. Do you want to do the same things? Love is not enough in 2016. People weren't bred to get in or people weren't,

they haven't evolved over time to just be in a loving relationship. I mean, you're either compatible and you have the same goals and the same mission. You want to do the same things or you're not. And if you're not, there's nothing wrong with that. You shouldn't feel pressure. You could still love somebody. So you proposed. So I proposed.

How did you propose? Don't give too much away. So everything Lauren does is so on social media that I wanted, I wanted when I proposed you to be not social media. I would have killed you if you proposed on social media. Isn't that weird? Yeah. I wouldn't have liked that.

I'm not going to like have one of my friends hiding in the bushes with a camera to pop out when I like get down on one knee down at the beach front. No, I did not like that. So I snuck into her house when you weren't there, arranged it with some friends. And we're going to do it a whole point. podcast on this, so don't give too much away. And I got all of her favorite things. Got all your favorite things.

You had Vasanova playing. Vasanova. I had hot Cheetos. You were looking a couple of your recipes. So hot. I've never seen you look hotter. I think you were looking at the ring and you were, you were, I could have worn a trash bag on my head.

The ring was great. But I was looking at you. You were looking handsome. I'm giving you a compliment. Thank you. So we got engaged. We'll do a podcast on that. And I continued to live in my own house for another year.

And I loved it. I loved living more. Yeah, we were engaged and not even living together. We didn't live together for a year and a half. So he lived downtown and I lived in Del Mar and I absolutely loved living on my own. I would recommend it to every girl out there. You really find your style and your voice and your jive. Living alone is one of the best things hands down I've ever done for myself.

I feel like it totally helped me establish my independence and your independence living alone. Yeah. And when we moved in together, this is another tip, and I say this a lot. Make sure you don't move into his house or he doesn't move into your house. We've talked about this in the past. I had a beautiful place. He had the most beautiful place. You guys looked over the park in San Diego, was at the top floor.

Didn't want to move in. Amazing space. Don't care. She made me leave the place. I would have moved into a shack over your place. Because here's the thing. I missed that place. If I moved into your place, you would have been like, can you please pick up your towel off my floor?

So now it's really great. We have a living room we can't sit in because it's all white furniture. Now we have a bright light place that's perfect for blogging and he's not allowed to sit on the couch but we can't have everything can we? No, we sure can't? We sure can't? Before we just continue the end of the story, can we just do a shot with an almond? Come on. I don't need the almond.

Cheers. Why don't you want the almond? Good. Not a little girl. Tell them about the pulmia almond. I take it down. It's a spicy almond. It's a spicy almond.

We're getting off track. We're starting to get a little. loose here. So I want to keep the show on track. I'm hopefully, I'm hopefully that the show, I breathe life back in the show now. Can you feel the energy? When Jordan and I were talking, it was chill. It was chill. It was chill vibes. A little too chill. People were like, he's panicked per usual. Okay, anyways, to wrap up this story, we ended up moving in together into a new place. And I guess what we're trying to get out of this podcast or trying to give you guys is that take it slow. It doesn't have to be rushed. We were together forever. We've known

each other since we were 12. Nothing is perfect. We work at our relationship every single day. On the flight down here, I literally thought I was sitting next to the devil. I am the devil. I was scared for my life. Good. I think that's pre-you're just pre-wedding jitters. No, that's how I'm going to be. No, but Lauren's right. Listen, honestly, this is what we've been saying for a very long time. A relationship is like a business in some way. You have to water it every single day. Everything is like a business in some way. Really, I'm not kidding. You're managing relationships. manipulating chihuahuas. I don't like the word manipulation, but yeah, I didn't like, I didn't manipulate the chihuahua.

But no, I mean, nothing, you, when you rush into something, and I've been, and I've definitely been guilty of this in the past, you hurt yourself. You get into some trouble. You're going to, you're going to encounter things that you weren't expecting. When you take your time, go slow, and this isn't anything, your business, your relationship, your friendships, you have time to figure things out. You have time to make calculated decisions. You have time to decide, yeah, wrap your head around. You have time to decide if this is the right fit for everybody. And so now we're going to walk down the aisle on Saturday, and I'm going to speak for myself, not you.

I'm going to walk down the aisle knowing exactly who I'm marrying, exactly who I'm taking on this life journey, whether it's pros, cons. I know exactly what I'm getting. So my, unfortunately, my advice would be to just take your time. There's no rush. And you don't have to be in a relationship. You can be single and be happy too. On that note. You can be completely single and be happy.

Okay. Well, we told a big chunk of our relationship story. We are going to have some popcorn souffle, maybe a little saviche, and we are off. Remember to send in your questions to Twitter, Instagram. You guys can ask us whatever you want. We're pretty open.

Use the hashtag, ask him and her. Or you can send questions to our Snapchats, Lauren Everts and Michael Wostick. Remember to follow along the entire wedding. We will be snapping away besides the ceremony. We're going to keep it cash then. We have a really fun idea for the for the wedding podcast. We're going to bring in a bunch of our friends to pop up, have a drink. Yeah, if they're not too drunk. Yeah, if they're not too drunk. So yeah, thanks for bearing along in this episode. I know it's a little bit off the normal format. We're down here. We're in Cabo and honestly, we just said fuck it this time and we just want to have a good time.

I love a little flare. Tell our story and, you know. Get loose. All right, you guys, thank you so much for listening. Make sure you're following along on Snapchat and we will see you next week after we're married. Make sure to send your questions in at podcast at the skinny confidential.com. Thanks for listening to The Skinny Confidential, him and her,

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