The Bossticks - #56: Weight Loss Tips, Fitness Tips, and Love Chub

Episode Date: March 28, 2017

Lauryn & Michael are talking fitness, health, diets, wellness, & everything in-between, highlighting their personal fitness journeys, how to get out of a workout slump, finding the time to exercise when you have a 9 to 5, creating realistic fitness goals, how to motivate your significant other to workout, the benefits of making your own sauces & dressings and Lauryn makes Michael relive his controversial overalls moment! To connect with Lauryn click HERE To connect with Michael click HERE This episode is brought to you by The Skinny Confidential Bombshell Body Guide and Meal plan.  tired of combating inflammation & bloat? Want to feel lighter and sexier? Check out lauryn's latest 7 day meal plan. In this simple & super effective plan you'll find: + tsc grocery list with every ingredient you need for the 7 days. + what the f*ck to do when you love carbs guide. + quick and delicious recipes: breakfast, snacks, lunch, dinner and dessert. You will also find 28 weeks worth of fat burning, muscle toning, 27 minute long, effective workouts you can do at home with no equipment. USE PROMO CODE: HIMANDHER at Checkout for 20% Off

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Welcome to the skinny confidential, him and her. Me, oh my, we have a show for you today. Me, oh my, we are back and we are rolling. We are going to talk about your overall moment because you see. certainly had an overall moment. I've had a lot of moments in my life. I wouldn't call overalls a moment. You have one picture from long ago that you keep calling like, like you thought it was like a regular occurrence. We're going to get into your overall moment because I feel like there's a story leading up to it. But basically this episode is going to be diet, fitness, and health. You guys have

asked us so many questions that we decided to just make one full episode dedicated to everything and anything wellness health and wellness michael's had some ups and downs of health and wellness but we'll get into that my rocky road rocky road's a way to put it yeah there was some rocky roads sticking out of your overalls hey i've made it this part it's it's my birthday it is your birthday um happy birthday honey the big two five no you know what's funny you guys i love to celebrate michael's birthday but but he is the biggest Ebenezer screwage I've ever seen in my life. I planned this whole party for him. I was going to do pizza and craft beer and margaritas.

But no. What do you want to do? You want to sit at home? No, no. I'm turning 30. And I guess that's kind of a big one. Everyone keeps saying, oh, you're going to, you know, 30. You know, I guess the biggest one before that was, what, 21.

And then there's 18 and then 16. You kind of lose track of the ages between 21 and 30 because there's really not a lot going on. 30 I guess is a big deal because you like you hit that like milestone you know okay so I'm trying It's downhill from here yeah it it was downhill after those overalls but um I tried to do like a celebration for you and you just weren't down no you know what i just i know what it's like with people that get really into birthdays and tell us what it's like because i do too so like tell us all about it nobody cares that much. Just nobody cares, you know. I think the only people that really care that it's my birthday is like you. And I think you really care that much. I mean, I care, but like, happy birthday. And, you know, my mom, I just got off the phone with my mom. She, she thought that you

had this whole thing planned. And I think she's kind of sad that we don't. So I did have a whole thing planned and you canceled it. So don't blame me. All what you really like your ideal birthday night would be in bed with a book and headphones on with me next to you. and the dogs, and maybe if we're going crazy, you would do a cup of sleepy time tea. Listen, I, I feel like, I feel like I've done a lot at this point, you know. There's not, there's not a party that I haven't seen. There's not a drink I haven't had. There's not an overall you haven't worn.

There's not, yeah. I just, I'm just, I get it. Like, it's a birthday, but like, it's just another day for me. I'm trying to, I'm trying to make progress. I'm trying to move forward. Okay, then don't ask for a card. No, listen, you have not gotten me a Christmas card. a Valentine's Day card?

I sent you a Christmas text. Tomorrow I want a card that says... I gave you a Valentine's Day massage. Yeah, that's a given. I want a... Tomorrow I want a Merry Christmas, happy Valentine's Day, and happy birthday card all in one,

and I want a handwritten letter. That's... That's... That's, is that... That's not that much to ask for. There's probably a lot of women out there's like, wait, all he wants is a card. You get other things than a card.

What? You know. Yeah, well, I think that, I mean, shit, what do we do? doing here if I'm not getting that. No, but I mean, seriously, all I want is a card. I don't really need anything. You know what I just got myself? This is what I got myself for my birthday.

What? You didn't tell me you got yourself something. Drum roll. It took me a long time to get it. Actually, I think it's chance that this happened to me because I ordered these a long time ago. But it's the first time that I got them, and it's the first time they came in. And they came in today. And they are my air buds. Oh, no, AirPods. Are that what they called? Then you know the Apple pods. So there are another version of a headphone. Yep, I got my wireless headphones.

They're great. I think they're some of Apple's best products, shamelessly plugging them. So I don't ever have to have the long cords anymore. I can be just doing my own thing. Lucky me. Happy birthday to me. I thought you were going to say you got yourself some Oshkopf overalls.

Nope. I got my AirPods. Is that what they called? Are they earbuds or AirPods? You don't actually know they're AirPods. I looked airbud up earlier in that Golden Retriever that plays basketball came up. So that was the wrong thing. Okay.

So I feel like we should kind of just talk about our fitness story and get right into it with that. And I'll let you go first because we wouldn't want to deny the audience of your overall moment. Well, obviously, I get mistaken for a bodybuilder every day in my life. And it's difficult when people come up to you and they say, tell the story from the beginning. Get real. They say, hey, you look so good every day. Okay. And I just say to them...

Michael, start when you were little, when you had no muscles, and you looked like a wet noodle. We'll go from there. Well, no, okay, so I got... I've always kind of been into... I played sports my whole life, right? So, like, some sports I probably shouldn't have been playing, you know, maybe football. Basketball. No, I never played basketball.

Thank God. If you want to go way back, I had a mean right kick in kindergarten for soccer. All right, let's... Let's talk about kindergarten. But no, so I played a lot of sports, so I was always active as a kid. And, you know, I was always in the PE and gym classes and everything. So I was, I've always been into exercise. But when I was in high school, I started getting really into it.

And I always did the workout PEs and all that kind of stuff. So I don't know how interesting this is. I don't know if you why you really want to go down this. I was hoping you would just get right into the college moment. No, okay. So I was a boxer through high school, as you know. as everyone knows. So, you know, if you pop out of nowhere on the street,

you might get a mean right hook. Okay. So I was always, they always kept me lean and small. And then when I got to college, I lived with my college roommate Terry, who was a Goliath, who's been on your blog.

So if anyone's bored and wants to look up Terry on Lauren's blog, Terry Moncotta, he's a real life Thor. He has a real life Thor, you guys. He was at my wedding, making all of us look like wet noodles. Terry, if you're listening to this, fuck you.

You looked like a little limp deck next to Terry. So anyways, we used to live together. And as soon as I got to college, I started working out with him and he got me real beefed up. I think that's when you saw the overall moment, unfortunately. Wait, wait, wait, wait. Yeah, it wasn't my cool. It was a pretty dushy moment, right?

Let's do a pause. Before Michael and I got together, Michael was, I would say you were chasing me. I wasn't into you. And one night I ran into you and Terry, aka Thor, at the stingy little bar. and I looked over and you guys were both wearing overalls. Nope, you have it wrong. No, I don't have it wrong. No, I saw a picture of us in overalls.

No, I saw you at a bar. No, you didn't. Okay, you can't. It's impossible for you to see me because I was in college and you weren't there. Yeah, I was there. It was for one of those stupid date dash things. Shout out to all the Delta Gammas out there. I think it was DG.

Is it DG? I remember you guys in a bar with no shirt on. No, because you remember wearing overalls and you tried to hit on me and I said, No. No, you saw a picture that was posted on Facebook that's been buried. Thank God. I'm going to find it. Oh, please. I need a good TBT to Oshkosh overalls. But anyways, yes, it was, I was wearing overalls. It was a not my proudest moment. I think it's say. You know, I had never had muscles my whole life and all of a sudden I had some. I wanted to show them off. So he was peacocking with overalls on his muscles to all the girls with, I mean, I get overalls. I guess.

if it's like if you're a farmer for Halloween, but I'm not loving it without a shirt on for no reason. Oh my God. Oh my God. That was rough. This is, uh, I would say the me now would beat up the old me, but that old me probably actually would have kicked the shit out of me now.

He was a lot tougher. He did look huge, you guys. You did look huge. You had huge muscles. Your arm was like as big as my head. So I will give you that. No, I got really strong in college. It was so strong that people.

thought you were taking steroids and you weren't yeah i've never you know it's funny i've never done a drug in my life that's true you guys i can vouch for that um because i just don't i just don't need them and i feel like i'm already out of control alcohol's a drug though well yeah alcohol i'm a drug you can't quit me i have uh i have hit the devil's lettuce once in a while but usually usually what the fuck is the devil's lettuce usually usually that happens if i'm blacked out and it's been like three or four times and then it makes me vomit so i don't like it that much you smoke pot four times. Yeah, and I'm not into it. No, I like, I like being in control. So alcohol, like in control. You do take sleepy time tea. Is that a drug? If it is, I'm probably overdosing.

Yeah. Michael's like an 80 year old and a 30 year old's body. So, like I said, I've done it. I've done it all. Not the drugs. I haven't done those. But I have partied a lot. And so, in overalls. In overalls, yeah, unfortunately. Shirtless. No shirt. Like no shirt. Spiked hair. Anyways, where are we staying on this subject? Yeah. So I can't get over it. So I had some, so I had some overalls, you know, kill me, shoot me for it. Ouch. Thank God you met me. Okay, back to fitness, though. So I got for a long time, this was like, this was around the time when all these guys were taking pre-workouts, and that was like the new craze, you know, and I took a bunch of no explode back then. And I really overdid it. I got like really, really big, got up all the way up to 190 pounds,

was basically bench pressing close to 400 pounds at one point, which was pretty wild. And I know a lot of people probably won't believe me, but it's true, which is why I can still crush Taylor, which we'll get into in a minute. But anyway, so I did all that and got bigger and bigger and bigger and eventually, like, it was just, it wasn't good. I could barely touch my arms together and it wasn't healthy and it was, the diet wasn't right, and my joints were messed up. And so eventually I actually tore my shoulder and like almost popped my shoulder out of place. And so after that, I completely just like had I had to figure out how to like get into functional shape and train and diet right. And so that's kind of where I've been for the last eight years is just really

conscious of diet and really conscious of like mobility and just functional training. So I definitely don't work out to look like a big meathead anymore. Oh, I'm going to miss that meathead in overall. No, I'm actually not. You've also started and done a little yoga too lately. Don't don't forget about that. I really try to get into it. You open your horizons. But I just, I'm not that, I don't know. I'm just, I know a lot of people really like it.

I know a lot of, it helps a lot of people, but I just think, I just don't know if it's right for me. But I've tried. You do my workouts, though. You've been doing them every Saturday. Yep. And he's loving that. Okay. So, so that's Michael's fitness story.

If you didn't get the whole thing, just remember the word overalls. It's not that interesting. It's like. And you're good. Well, I mean, I'm just trying to like set the tone and like let everyone know what's going on. before we get into three questions. I think people want to know more about your fitness journey. I guarantee there's not a lot of girls listening to this

or guys that really give a shit about what I was doing. They might give a shit about the overalls. People need to know things like that. Okay, so my fitness journey is on the skinny confidential. Some of you guys have already read it. I've always been into tennis and I was on the cheerleading team for five minutes until I quit. It wasn't my thing.

But I've always been like, for instance, like I danced and I made it. like I made the tryouts or whatever and I got on the team and then I ended up not doing it. And then tennis, I played tennis. I've always been active but not overly active to the point where it was like a possessive. I just liked fitness. So I had my LA fitness, which you did too, membership throughout high school. But I feel like I was walking around with my boobs pushed up more than I was working out. I don't know what you were doing, but walking around my balls pushed up.

Kind of what Taylor does now. No. Wow. TVT. Taylor has two workouts that he does. The first one is he lifts his arm and stares into his cell phone screen. And the second one is he goes on the abs machine and does like 1,000 ab reps. And then I think the third part is that he just like eats like lettuce and like boring things.

You forgot about the fourth part, which is he takes an after workout selfie to post that he was at the gym. Yeah. And for some reason he's always like really sweaty. Ooh. Still wondering about that. Splashing water in his face. Okay. So anyway, so I worked out at LA Fitness, but like not seriously at all.

I started to get into fitness through my friend Jennifer Bell. Shout out to Wrinkle, not dead. She's my godmother. She told me when I was 19 that I had to try the spin class that she'd been going to at the training club in Del Mar. And I just started going to spin class. And I would go five days a week. I was always late.

Jen, don't kill me. In my defense, I was cocktailing until, you know, midnight. I was partying. I was just not the best. So I would do spin with her and we would do a little bit of strength training and I started to just fall in love with it so much so that I started taking peer bar and from peer bar I was asked to teach there which was an incredible experience and where the skinny confidential came about. I felt like too I was getting credibility by teaching peer bar to be able to really start a blog on health and fitness and all the tips I picked up. And from there I started teaching performer or performer Pilates at Core 40. So I was teaching Core 40 and Pierbar and taking both of them

and then also doing spin. So I just became kind of like really in love with fitness. I've never been a fanatic about it. I've always implemented it into my day to day and it's always been very balanced for me. So that's kind of where fitness started for me. And after having the blog, it's just evolved. I've tried all these different things. I found out what works for me. and what doesn't. I found out when I'm my leanest, which is when I do strength training. I'm doing that now. I do that with the bombshell body guide. I do beach workouts with a lot of strength training and Pilates. So I mix those two together and I've just found really great results along with obviously eating healthy. I practice the 80-20 rule, which is, you know, sometimes I got to have an in-and-out

burger like I did on Saturday night and some fries and a Diet Coke. And then other times I'm just, You know, if I'm at home, I'm not going to reach for the unhealthy food. I'm going to keep really healthy food on hand. So basically what's happened is my journey has evolved over the years. I think fitness is always evolving. It is a journey. It's not something that there's really an end to. What do they say?

It's not about the journey, not the destination. I feel like that's how fitness is. So I think that everyone is different and you should do what works for you. I always say that. And I think fitness is very, very much like that. Okay, before we get into the him and her tip of the week, I want to mention something that I've been talking about a lot, and that is 5-4 Club. Okay, so if you guys want to look awesome, and you want to have some really great clothing at some really affordable prices, and you don't want to take the time to shop online or go to the mall, I have the answer for you, and that's 5-4 Club. It's an LA-based fashion brand that delivers curated items for $60 a month.

Yes, only $60 a month. It's not that bad. So for that price, you get two to four seasonally curated items that help build up a balance wardrobe. I actually even like it for me because I'm always wearing men's clothes. I always steal all Michael's clothes all the time. And I got one of these pink shirts on there that's kind of cute and insane. And a lot of you guys asked about it on Snapchat. Yeah, girls.

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go to 54 club.com and use promo code skinny at sign up and get 50% off your first month's package and five packs of socks. Okay. So again, it's 54 club.com promo code skinny and this offer expires at the end of this month. So check it out. So with that, I feel like we should get into the tip of the week because mine has to do with fitness and health. Does yours? Mine kind of does. Oh, but it's a little different. It's kind of curved. Okay. What else is carved? Your overall moment? You want to go? No, you can go for it. Okay, my tip of the week this week, you can apply some health and wellness to it, but here's my tip. There's an app that I've been using for the last three months, and I've kind of been testing it out,

and I didn't want to talk about it until I had a few months under my belt using it. And the app is called Way of Life. I don't know if any of you've heard of it or seen it, but it's a free app, and it helps you track good and bad habits. So at night, it has you fill out the information to determine if you implemented good or bad habits in your life. And it kind of like tracks your progress. So, for example, a good habit would be, you know, we're talking about fitness, get some

exercise, like get some daily exercise. So if you do that, you would mark in this app that you did it. If you don't, you'd mark that you didn't do it. A bad habit would be something like online shopping or drinking alcohol more than two nights a week or whatever you want. You can set any good and bad habit that you want. And this app basically tracks all of your habits for you, whether they're good or bad. And then it gives you a weekly report and it shows your progress.

So, you know, if you're doing a bunch of bad habits, you get these big red lines that look like you're just a piece of garbage. And it kind of like forces you to look like, oh, shit, I'm doing a bunch of bad stuff. But if you implement your good habits and you nail them, it shows like a big green line of positivity showing that you're implementing good habits. and it kind of breaks it down by percentages. So it's been, it's actually been really helpful for me because I track probably 20 different things, which I won't bore you with.

But I've been... Give us a couple examples of stuff you track. Okay, so like going to the gym or eating vegetables or taking my vitamins. Tell them about the one you have with me because you do have one. I do have one.

It says compliment my wife. So I make sure that I do that every day. What was your complimented and I didn't hear it? Well, I haven't gotten to it yet, but I'm on 44 days complimented. You have three hours and 30 minutes. Yeah. So anyway,

or like a bad one would be like I don't like to do like I had a bad online shopping problem for a while just like buy shit online all the time so I haven't done I haven't shopped online for over like 80 days now and I haven't bought anything besides my air AirPods which I don't count because those are I need those for work and and or like if you're just you know bad habit would be drinking every like whatever so like I track to make sure that I don't drink more than two times a week so I don't know the app's really awesome because it kind of forces you to look at good and bad habits and if you implement random things that, you know, one of them that you'll like, Lauren, is to put oil on my face at night. And I've done that every night for like 80 nights. Yeah. I have another habit for my other one. So anyways, it's called Way of Life and it's a free app and it takes three seconds to set up and it takes like maybe three minutes out of your day to do and I just think it's helpful. So check it out. I like it, honey. Can you do mine for me and set it up? Yeah, I'll put in your your habits. Can't wait to hear your compliment tonight. Um, okay, my tip has to do primarily with health. And that is protein pancakes. So I've talked about the two ingredient pancakes a lot, which is banana and

egg and then I add chia seed in there. But lately I've been making one big, large protein pancake. So basically what you do is you crack one full egg. I always like to get, cage-free. I'm really weird about that. So definitely look for cage-free if you can. They have them at Trader Joe's. And then I do three, sometimes two, egg whites. And then I do a fourth cup of oats. You can do steel-cut oats or just regular oats. And then I do a little bit of cinnamon, two scoops of protein powder. I like Moonjuces plant-based protein powder right now. Sometimes I'll do super elixir's chocolate protein powder if I want a chocolate pancake, but usually I do the moon juice plant based. And then I'll do a little bit of raw coconut oil to cook the pancake on. And basically,

you just whip that all up. And then you pour it over a pan with coconut oil under it and then flip it. And you take out your big, large, huge pancake, which is incredible because it tastes like you are eating a huge, big, large pancake. And you put blueberries on top. And then for the syrup, What I do is I mash chia seeds and raspberries together with a little bit of organic 100% syrup and mash it up and pour it over the pancake. And you guys, it is so good and such a great thing to eat before your workout because you're getting tons of protein. You're getting a little bit of oats for that carb and then you're getting your healthy

fat, which is coconut oil. And I am going to be making this on Snapchat for the next week and a half a lot. So make sure you're following me. It's at Lauren, L-A-U-R-Y-N-E-A-R-T-S, and I will make these pancakes on there. And if you guys like this recipe, then you have to check out the skinny confidential meal plan because all my recipes in there are just like this. They're quick, they're easy, they're efficient, and I feel like they're for the girl who's always running late, aka me. Awesome.

You want a pancake tomorrow? I want a pancake. For your birthday. I do. Okay. We will be right back with the questions. Hey, this is Raxidias. And this is me.

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Boone's snoozing on your lap. Had a couple healthy snacks. Little kettle corn from Trader Joe's. You got a piece of popcorn in your tooth, babe. Well. Kid, I'll be perfect. I do. I do.

I feel it. Okay. All right. We're going to rush this along. I'm going to get right into the first question. It's been a while since we've asked the questions. No, we did questions last week. No, I know, but I mean, usually we have somebody asking him for it.

So now I have to read them. It's been a while since I've read them. You might have to read them. And this question's for you. Okay. It says, Lauren, I used to work out all the time, but I've been in a slump ever since I got my new job. It's a nine to five and I have a hard time getting to the gym early. By the time work is over, I'm usually tired and go home.

What do you suggest I do? Okay, so my suggestion is going to be a little harsh. You make it work. You just make it work. and that's why I came up with the 27-minute bombshell body guide. You can do it anywhere. What I would do if I were you is I would cut my lunch in half. I would come prepared with like egg salad, whatever I made the night before, a protein pancake, a protein shake, whatever it is. I would eat that and then I would take half of your lunch break and I would go work out.

I would bring a mat. I would even leave little weights in your cubicle and I would make it work. I think that working out in the morning super early is definitely not for me. That wouldn't work for me. And working out after work, you're setting yourself up to fail, in my opinion, because how many times do you get off work and you're fucking exhausted? I know even after working at my office all day, the last thing I want to do is work out unless, and this is my second tip, I have a workout date. So if you don't want to work out at lunch, I would recommend doing what I do.

and that is doing a workout date. So what I'll do is if I know that I'm not going to drag my ass to the gym or a beach workout is I'll set a date with a friend. So typically I've been doing like 5.5.30, I'll meet a friend at the beach and we will just bring some stuff. Usually she brings a bunch of stuff and then we'll do a hour workout and it'll be done. I find if I don't set that date with a friend after work, I end up coming home. So it's really, really important for me to set that date.

The only thing I can do in the morning is yoga. So that is something I'll do in the morning. But if you have a 9 to 5, I totally recommend taking your lunch break, cutting it in half, and going to the gym. I mean, you really don't need an hour lunch break, right? I feel like that's not even efficient. Take 15 minutes to be on social media, 15 minutes to eat your egg salad and take a half an hour and work out. And the bombshell body guide's awesome because you're not dripping sweat.

like it's not like hot yoga or something. So put some dry shampoo in your purse and you'll just use that and you're good to go. I mean, I'll chime in here even though I know the question's not for me. Whoa. You know, it's just this kind of goes back to the question last week when we were asked about reading. It's kind of like you make time for the things that you decide a priority in your life. And for me, you know, while I'm not the best all the time with health and fitness, like I do my best to make it a priority to try to go to the gym at least four to five times a week.

And you like working out in the morning. I like getting up early and working out the morning because I feel like it gives me energy. But it's definitely not easy. You know, I think people put a little bit too much pressure on themselves. Like if you can get to the gym and work out even for 20, 30 minutes a day and just really go hard in those 20, 30 minutes, you can't tell me that you don't have time 20, 30 minutes. And maybe, you know, it takes time to get there, get to the gym. But during that time, I don't know, listen to a podcast, listen to a book on tape, do something productive. It's, you know, it's your life you're talking about. You only get one of them. And it's one body. So, you got to take care of it. If I hear the phrase, by the way, one more time, I don't have time. I'm going

to stab my eyeballs out. You have time for what you want to make time for. You're not making time. You're not making fitness your priority, which is fine. But then don't go complain about it. So I know I set seven days a week a time in my calendar to work out seven days a week. Typically, I make five of those. But the point is it's in my calendar seven days a week. I don't give myself Sunday off. I don't give myself Saturday off. I make appointments.

Now, like I said, I'll probably make five of those. But at least I make five. You can't be super hard on yourself. But if you're not making a fitness a priority right now, it's because you're not making fitness a priority. It's not because you don't have time. There's 24 hours in a day. You know, we all have the same 24 hours. That's so cliche, but it's true.

Make it work. Like, make it work. No, and you know, this reminds you, we've talked about this in the past, a little bit about this kind of stuff. I think one of the biggest mistakes people make when it comes to fitness is they set these goals. And a lot of the time, they're unrealistic goals. Or it's like, I want to lose X amount of weight or I want to get this strong or gain

this amount of weight or do this. And the problem is what happens. happens is if you miss that goal, you get really discouraged and you give up or you hit the goal too easily, in which case you're like, you know, you need to find another goal that's, that's harder. And so again, you're setting yourself up for failure. So what I like to do is set up systems that enable me to be able to go to the gym or be able to get some exercise. And that system could be something as simple as like, okay, at this time I go and take a walk or at this time, I have to drive to this area so that I can go. Or even if it's just something where it's like, okay,

set time in a calendar to drive to the gym. I guarantee if you can just drive to the gym and get yourself there, you'll work out. But even if you end up just going there and not working out, it's the attempt that counts. Setting up a system to get you in a space where you can get some exercise. So try to abandon fitness goals and set up systems instead. And I think that everyone will have a lot more success. I totally, totally agree. If you want to work out, make it happen today.

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And let me tell you about Love Chub. Love Chub is about how you're this badass boss that works out and eats healthy because you're single and you're ready to mingle. And then all of a sudden you get into a relationship. And this has happened to all of us. and you get comfortable. You can't get comfortable. This applies to women too, right? Yeah, 100%.

This applies to women and men. So everyone's just love chubbing. No, I find, and this has happened to me too, that when you get into a relationship, you just think, oh, I don't need to work out as hard or I don't need to eat as healthy. I've learned that working out just isn't about losing weight anymore at my age. It's about feeling good and setting the tone of my day and taking an hour to detach from

everything that I have going on with work and family and friends and letting my brain take a minute to just focus on the workout. And I find when I'm done with the workout, I come back to the task that I have at hand and I'm a much better communicator. I'm just better. I'm more productive. So that's why I work out. And I think that working out shouldn't just be about impressing your partner or, excuse me, not your partner, impressing someone that you're trying to be hot and cute for if you're single. It should be about, it should be about you. Yeah, it should be. But I think you also, there's a way to make it about them. How so, Michael. So, and whenever I've gotten into a slump, and I think same with you, I think

we both drive each other in the sense of like, if I'm in a slump and I'm not working out and then you're just training your ass off, it motivates me to get going. And I think sometimes when you're in a slump and I start training, you get going. It's usually, though, that, yeah, babe, don't give me a bad look. No, it's, I'm, I'm in great shape, okay? I'm, I'm like a machine. Well, the problem with Michael, you guys, too, is he's a guy and he doesn't have to work as hard as I do. No, no, no, no, I have, I have, I, I think, it's not that I don't have to work as hard. It's just that I've consistently worked out for a longer period of time. Yeah, maybe that's it. I, you've worked out ever since you were like, one.

So maybe that's definitely it. But I, muscle memory plays a big part and like, you know, it's definitely like it's not about, okay, is it fair, unfair? Like, I'm fortunate that I have some good muscle memory so I don't have to work out as much. But I definitely fall victim a lot of the time just slipping and like ever since I've started getting like, ever since I was 28, 29, I can tell now. If I, if I let myself slip, if I eat something bad, if I drink too much, like I start to gain weight in areas I didn't know I could gain weight pretty quick.

Really? Yeah. I got this, you know, this thing on my stomach that's going on. I don't know what's happening there. A little bloat. Little bloat, you know, the ass. We got to get you eating a little more vegetables, though. That's our goal for this year.

But I guess my point is what motivates me to work out when I'm not working out. When I see you, like, go and start training your ass off, I, you know, I want to keep up. I think the problem is, is sometimes the man or the woman motivates in the wrong way. like just like if you're a leader in a business or a leader on a team like lead by example if you want your significant other to get in shape and work like go do it yourself and show them how hard you're working and that's exactly what the chapter in my book says it says wake up make a green smoothie make another one and leave it on the guy's desk yeah if he doesn't drink it that's his own prerogative but at least it's there add chia seeds to his oatmeal underneath it i'm really manipulative

of like that. Add spinach to his muffins like I did the other day. Did you even know there was spinach in those? Those green muffins? No, those muffins were great. And there was spinach in them. So there's this book called like Deceptively Delicious and it's all about hiding things in children's food like hiding vegetables and fruits and stuff.

I feel like if your husband doesn't like fruits and vegetables, you should buy that children's book and just make a lot of recipes that are deceptively delicious. Yeah, I'm not a big vegetable guy at all. I have a rough time eating vegetables. I sneak vegetables in your shit all the time. Yeah. No, and I think, you know, if, again, that's like you leading by example. I think that the hardest way to get people to do things is to tell them to do things or to try to guilt them and to do things. But leading by example, you know, people, you know, it's inspiring. People want to, you know, if you're getting in shape, your partner's going to want to be in shape. And, you know, it might take some time. But I think, you know, just riding them saying, hey, you're like, you're not, you're not in shape and, you know, you're disgusting. And that's not, that's only going to make them feel bad. So you got to lead by example. That'll be my decision. And then, or my, uh, my. choice and then if they're not if they're not responding to it if it's a man you know sometimes you got to have that conversation with a man and say listen you know you got to you got to step it up because

your friends could kick the shit out of you and you don't want to get too far either i mean you don't want to get too far get active take us take the dogs for a walk take the kids on a walk take the kids to the park like do anything you can to get moving um i think that it's really cool to like maybe even get an app on your phone that tracks your steps and see who can walk more steps in a day, make it a competition. Get a really hot guy trainer and start working out with him all the time and scare your man into working out. I'm just kidding. Don't do that. Why? That's a good idea. I love that. I think that leading by example is super important. Like, I'll drink a ton of water and then just show Michael how much water I drink and brag about it. I also will eat vegetables

and tell them how great I feel. The other day I tricked you into eating vitamins. You've been eating more vitamins lately. I'm taking vitamins. I don't even know what they're doing. I don't even know what they are. I just take it because you tell me to. Good. So he finally is like catching on. Then like what happens is that it's so ingrained in him is he'll start bringing things home that I've suggested. For instance, puer tea. Yeah. Yeah. Tell the story. Be honest. Don't lie. I am guilty of kind of doing things that you've talked about for a long time. Tell a couple stories about that. I'm into the teas now. I've been talking about teas since 2010. He comes home the other day with like, you literally like had 20 bags of tea.

No, but this is a perfect example though, because all these things, and I'll be the first submit it. Yes. Yes. I never did any of these oils. I never had any of these teas. I didn't eat these smoothies or vitamins. But I do them because Lauren does them and she seems like she knows what she's doing,

you know, when it comes to health stuff. So manipulation at its finest. But you see, but here's the example, though, is what I want people out there to understand is that these things I was able to come to. my own conclusions. Yes, Lauren. So we think. No, no, you showed me the way and you showed me what, but I was able to make my own choice saying like, I agree and think this is a good idea. If you just were jamming this down my throat and telling me I had to do this whole time, I'd be resentful and I'd be resistant. So again, I think the best way to get anyone to do anything in any

organization or any relationship is to lead by example. Good. All right, if you're in a relationship and you have love chub, check it. All right. Last question. We'll make this one quick. Lauren, what are your go-to snacks for weight loss? Okay, so if I am trying to lose a few LBs before I get in a bikini, like say it's Fourth of July, the first thing I'm going to do is cut dairy. Dairy just doesn't do anything for me. I just find it very pointless, and I find it adds weight for me. So I would immediately cut dairy.

Then I would cut alcohol. I think that's another one that adds weight. If you're not going to cut alcohol, then just do tequila on the, the rocks with lemon and lime. Another thing I would do is scale back on the white carbs. So I would do no white carbs and I would do a lot of steel cut oatmeal, sweet potato, you know, complex carbs that are really, really good. And as far as snacks, you guys know I like the RX bar. I like the peanut butter one. I also like doing fruit and hummus. I know that sounds crazy, but it's so good to dip like tangerine slices and hummus.

I also love like flaxseed and chia seed. I love nuts. Make sure you get raw unsalted nuts. I love nut butters. I just like the raw unsalted unrefined nut butters. I do a lot of coconut oil for healthy fats, avocados, and of course veggies. Lots of protein too. Lots of eggs.

Cage-free. You know, it's funny is I've been being healthy this whole month with you. and listening to, you know, everything you're saying. And I've been doing your meal stuff, your meal plans. And I cut out white carbs, which I didn't, or what is it called white carbs? I had you cut out white carbs, red meat. That's another one. The red meat was the hardest thing for me.

But it's so good for you to just cleanse off red meat unless it's grass fed, but we did no red meat. And then I had him cut out dairy and alcohol. Yeah, that was hard. No dairy, no alcohol, no red meat and no white carbs. I really didn't think it was hard. You know what? It wasn't that hard, though.

it's hard when you don't know what to do, but when you gave me the options and when I was looking at that meal plan thing, you, like when I know what to do, I'll go do it and it's easy. It's just I think a lot of us run into trouble because we don't know what to do.

We don't know like, okay, I'm cutting out all these things that I normally eat and I don't know what to replace them with. So when you laid it out for me and showed me, it was easy. And I actually did feel really, really good.

But, you know, then the problem was this weekend when we drank for Jordan's birthday, I had the hangover from hell. The devil himself sent me this hangover. Yeah, because you haven't been doing anything, like you did no dairy, no red meat, no alcohol.

I got a hangover that I didn't even think was possible to get. Yeah, it's gnarly. It's gnarly when you cut it out and then you implement it back in. Another thing really quick before we go, I just want to talk to you guys about sauces and dressings. I do all my own sauces and dressings with olive oil aged balsamic. I use a lot of chili flake. I use cayenne.

I use turmeric. I use so much lemon, as you know. and I mix those together and I play with it. I use so many herbs like basil, fresh rosemary, ginger. There's so many things that you can play with as opposed to go buy a bottle of dressing. Even if it says like low fat,

low cal, I just make it myself. And I find that that really, it really cuts the weight to when I'm using my own homemade herb like lemon infusions. All right. With that, we are out. It's always. Thank you guys for listening to the show.

We both really appreciate all the support. We have a ton of fun doing this show. And if you guys have any requests for guests or topics, please email us at podcast at the skinny confidential.com. Next week, we have a show that I'm a little bit nervous about. You actually are nervous because today I suggested it and you were like, I don't think we knew that. Well, it's because I, this guy that's coming on, he's a fucking character to say the least.

And he has, I'm surprised we haven't had him on yet. Not a lot of people know him. He's kind of a, he's a private guy. But no, I'm not going to say, I'll let you know who it is. So my dad's going to come on the show. And this is someone who obviously I have a very close relationship with business and personal. The old man's coming on. And let me just warn you.

If you guys think that I'm a lot, just wait until this guy comes on. I can attest to that. He's, he definitely doesn't shy. away from speaking his mind. So he'll be on next week. We're going to get deep into it. You'll probably hear a little bit more of my younger years, which I don't know how I feel about.

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