The Bossticks - #9: Psycho Ex's, Public Speaking, How to be productive and get stuff done, launching a business while you have a job

Episode Date: May 4, 2016

In this episode we talk about launching fast. Psycho ex's. Improving public speaking. How to be productive and launching a business while working a traditional job. To learn more about The Skinny Confidential visit the site HERE To connect with Lauryn click HERE To connect with Michael click HERE

And just like that, we are back with the skinny confidential, him and her podcast. We've got me, Lauren Everts, from the Skinny Confidential, and Michael Bostic, my fiancé, Jordan, over here to my right, and Taylor the Bare Naked Cucumber on the Sound. Really important, first things first, that you subscribe to the podcast on iTunes and leave us five stars, and a review would be much appreciated. And if it's going to be a bad review, make sure you leave your first and last name so that we can make sure you are not a disgusting bridge troll. Michael, come on.

Oh, we're going to start like that. I can't with you. It's been a long day, you guys. Can you tell? Actually, it's been a long week, and it's only Tuesday. So let's hop right into it. First of all, Taylor has gotten some amazing feedback on his bare naked cucumber. He's getting private messages.

People are reaching out asking to see the bare naked cucumber. I feel like we should make it a hashtag. Like he's never had before. Hashtag bear naked cucumber is our new. question if you wanted to end up question well i was walking down the street and some girl asked if she could see it it was awkward no she didn't oh my god i already can't with you guys it's going to be a long show today you guys i just i can't um okay so let's let's talk about the weekend uh first let's hear about your weekend jordan because we certainly saw it on snapchat and it was looking wild

jordan was pretty nervous she's like does my voice sound scratchy because she was not feeling too hot I was singing the Carrie Underwood pretty intensely, and I'm just getting my voice back. But I'm here. Stagecoach was a blast if you've never been. I recommend going. There's great barbecue and great music. I got to be honest. When I heard about stagecoach, I thought to myself, oh, my God, that sounds like my worst nightmare.

Country music and Carrie Underwood. But then I saw you guys on Snapchat and looked like you were having a lot of fun. Nico was frolicking around in the pool, spraying champagne. Nico's her boyfriend. Yeah. And also our lawyer. Shout out to Nico at N. Bacera Law. If you are in a jam,

it looked like a lot of fun. It is fun. I mean, the house is the best part. Like, we get pretty crazy. We made some jello shots and, like, did a little throwback to high school in college years, but it was really fun. Yeah, high school. How many times did you black out?

I don't black out. I try to keep it pretty PG. PG, please. But I definitely enjoyed a few jello shots, and it was very fun. Yeah, it looked fun. So we kind of did a pool day on Saturday. We made skinny margaritas by the pool with Weston, who's in the other room hiding. Weston works with Michael and I in the office, and he came over, and we did margaritas and guacamole and Michael's dad made us these jalapeno burgers that he is, like, obsessed with. Like, literally you'll tell him your whole entire family was murdered, and he'll be like, well, what did you think of my jalapeno burger?

like he's so intense about these burgers it's like he thinks they're like gourmet he kind of burnt him this time now listen my dad is a character i don't know if any of you see my snapchat he pops on there once in a while and he's definitely a character um he's literally as he as he gets a little older he reveals more and nor i've just learned that he now likes to lay naked out by the pool and you know we we me my sister and lauren we pop in there every once in a while said, listen, guy, you're going to be doing that. Make sure I don't pop into the pool and find you out there. Yeah, you don't want to pop in at the wrong moment at our parents' house.

So my dad's absurd. We go and I said, look, we're going to have a couple people over. I like visiting their place because it's nice and peaceful. And we get there and he wants to cook burgers. And we don't have tomatoes. So, or the hamburger meat or anything. Wait, pause. You can't cook anything at your dad's house if you don't have all the right ingredients.

And it can't be just a tomato. It has to be a certain tomato from a certain market. So just like prepa-baked-backed. I decided to tell this story with Jordan here because she doesn't know the story and she wasn't there. So I get to the house and I'm all ready to settle in and lay by the pool and relax and like get, you know, one day off without work. Me and Lauren are checked out. Wesen's there. Our buddy's Rockwindante came over.

You're ready to relax. I'm ready to relax. And of course my dad goes into full meltdown mode because we don't have any of the supplies. He refuses to let me get the tomatoes from where I was getting the hamburger meat. He sends me in three different directions. And then not until I argued with him. I said, I don't want to go. We get into this huge thing.

And I'm like, listen, this guy's having me over at his house. I don't want to piss him off. I want to get him the right tomatoes. So I say, fine. Fine, dad. I go, fine, guy. I'm going to go. I'm going to get the tomatoes.

He goes, okay. So I get to the grocery store. The guy doesn't trust me that I went to the right place. He makes me put the grocer. The guy is in the produce section on the phone. This is true, you guys. We can't make good that. He makes me find the produce guy and literally put him on the cell phone with him.

So I get there. And of course, of course. They're out of the heirloom tomatoes. They're out of season. So the grocery, the guy in the produce section, I literally, I was like, listen, I know this is really strange. I need to put you on the phone with my dad. And I need you to tell my dad that they're out of season because if I show up again

without the tomatoes, he's never going to believe me. He already gotten a whole thing about it. So this poor guy is like, God damn it. You know, he's working. He doesn't want to be on the phone. It's Saturday. He's wrestling with the fruit cartons. And next thing he knows, he's talking to my dad.

And my dad is screaming in his ear about tomatoes. His dad is so loud, you guys. He's literally the loudest person in the moment. He's not screaming because he's angry. He's screaming because he couldn't hear him so well. So this grocer, I'm standing there. I'm in the middle of the store. The grocer's holding the phone six feet away from his head

in fear of ripping his eardrum out. And so finally I get my eye, go, listen, I told you, I promise they're not here. So he goes, okay, just forget the tomatoes. They weren't a big deal anyway. Classic G. So then he gets on the grill. He's like three margaritas deep.

He gets on the grill and makes his holopies. Pino burgers that he talks about like from 6 a.m. to 6 p.m. every day. And he burns him. Well, he burns him. No, he burned him. And your mom was so pissed and over him. So we all, like, we're looking forward to these burgers that he talks about, like, every second, and they're burnt. Yeah. So he's sitting there eating these burgers and he's going on some rant about why he doesn't like David Hasselhoff, like shoving the burgers. He's eating the burgers and he's going on a rant about why he doesn't like a wet swimming suit on his body when he's out by the pool, which is why, you know, he may go in there naked.

And so I'm like, you know, this is just a little too much. I've had enough. And then he, you know. I mean, I'm not mad about Susan Sr.'s, you know, snap material. I get great snap material out of it. So, I mean, I'm good with it. But I did hear a couple of stories that I don't know that I was supposed to hear. Have you ever heard a story of someone sending someone to the grocery store

and making him get the grocer on the phone about a tomato? Yeah, your dad. It's so your dad. Every time he sends me to the store, he's like, put the guy in the meat department on. I want to see what they have. The guys, like, know him at the checkout line. Like, I'm not even joking. He knows, like, all their names.

I feel like he spends more time at the grocery store than he spends at your house. That might be true. Literally, every time. And he loves Costco. Don't it? I mean, we could go on and on for hours about Gary and Costco and grocery stores. If anyone from Costco is listening and you want your number one spokesman, you need to hire my dad. I call him Gerber.

His name's Gary, but I make this name Garber. And so he loves his name. Sometimes I call him Susan, too, when he's not looking. But, yeah, if you guys want to hear grocery tips, maybe one time I'll have him on the skinny confidential and he can like share where he gets each of his things because he's very specific okay um so i am doing like a very strict summer tone up plan um i'm doing like you know a lot of protein um a lot of low carb just not that fun nothing fun actually so i'm kind of hangary kind of is an understatement yeah no i'm not like hungry like i'm not like hungry like i'm

full, but I would love a good piece of sourdough with like some carry gold butter. I'm not going to lie. Um, so anyways, I'm, I'm doing, I'm being really like, um, regeemed. I'm, I'm, you know, eating my chicken last night with my broccoli and my lemon and having like sparkling water. And Michael walks in and immediately he has like this guilty look on his face. And when you're hungry, your senses are like very strong. I don't know if it was so much guilt. Uh, not wanting to get my head bitten off. So I'm like, where were you? You're late.

Like, we left the office at the same time. Like, what's going on? And I see peeking behind his back, like the smallest piece of an in-and-out cup. It wasn't even a bag. It was the cup. He didn't think I would notice. I feel like it was a water cup, or was that Coke? No, it was Coca-Cola.

Okay. And I almost bit his head off and ate it for dinner. How could he go to In-N-Out when I have to? sit there with plain chicken and broccoli and lemon. No, but you know what is the worst part? And you should maybe feel bad for me in this situation. I didn't want to get caught with the in and out, right? But I knew that I had to get home. And I knew that there was like, we left the office at around the same time. So you're going to be like, where the hell did this guy go, you know? So I swooped into the in and out drive-through. I grabbed my double double

animal style. And you must have shoved it down your throat. That's what I'm saying. It's a sad story. because I was literally driving down the freeway with one hand slamming a burger down my throat with sauce all over my face. How could you do that to me though? I didn't mean to do it too. I just forgot to get rid of the cup because I was still thirsty. I needed a nice ice cold, co-coa to wash it down. You know, you know, if you guys are interested in toning up, I'm going to put the plan on the bombshell body guide. It's super easy.

It's, you know, like I said, high protein, high fats and low carb. But hopefully it'll tighten up my ass for summer. Is it looking tighter? He's looking pretty tight. You're looking pretty tight. Pretty, pretty tight. Ew. All right.

Wes, is it looking tight? Wes gave me a thumbs up. Wes goes mute when we go on this because he gets embarrassed. I'm excited lately. We've been getting finally, finally, we've been getting some pretty good feedback on the show. My whole theories of launching fast and throwing it out there are coming true. Lauren is finally looking at me. She's becoming happy with the product.

Lauren is a perfectionist. and doesn't like doing things half asked. Well, listen, guys, I've been talking about it since the beginning, and if you've seen my Snapchat's, I believe that you need to launch a product fast. You need to get out there in front of consumers. You need to get the feedback and you need to adjust from there. We definitely launch with a raw product out of our house. Raw is right?

Raw is right, yeah. Raw is right. Without the best sound equipment. By raw, we mean echoing and dogs barking. And stop myself because it wasn't perfect. But, you know, some really exciting things are starting to happen because of it. We're getting some good feedback. The sound quality is.

better. We're having fun with it. We've kind of got a rhythm going, you know, and so we're excited. But my whole point is if you're thinking about launching a business or launching anything, don't be scared to launch it fast with not a picture perfect product. Get it out there and get some feedback and adjust. Lorne, what do you think? Now that you've seen the results of getting something out there like this, what do you think? Do you agree with me or do you still disagree? Ideally, I would like to launch with a perfect product. It's just my personality. I do think there's a medium between what you're saying and what I'm saying. But I will say that we're making some moves with this podcast that we wouldn't be making had we not launched. So I definitely see your point. But yeah,

I think it's good that we did what we did. But that doesn't mean I didn't want to stop my eyeballs out when it wasn't perfect. I read a quote the other day in this book I read it said, if you're not embarrassed by your first product, then you launch too late. What do you think about that? I'm always late. So, you know, I don't know what to say about that. I just found out on Instagram that I'm going to post with you later. Oh, great. Can't wait. It's a guy sitting in a car outside dead as a skeleton saying, are you almost ready?

Weston's getting so mad because he's not getting photocred. Yeah, he's got photocryd. So yeah, it's a guy that's literally a dead skeleton in a truck and the girl says I'm almost ready. Okay, well, why don't you just accept that that's how women are and, like, get off my back about it? We've been together for so long, and he still doesn't realize that you're supposed to tell me a half an hour before. So if I'm supposed to be there at five, tell me 430. It's not that hard. I don't understand.

I lie to Lauren all the time. Everyone lies. Besides you, it's so weird. I tell her I'm pulling in when I'm literally leaving my house 20 minutes away. That's true. She does do that. Remember when you picked me up in an Uber to go to Pilates and you were like, I feel like you said, oh yeah, I'm like, I'm just pulling up and like, I don't know. It's perfect timing.

Okay. Anyways, let's get into the show. We've got four questions today. A little bit of biz, a little bit of fun, a little bit of psychoness. I'll go ahead and let Jordan ask the first question. Okay, the first question is from Libby D, and she asks, My ex is legit psycho. He's doing things straight out of fatal attraction.

Have you guys ever had to deal with a crazy ex? Help, please, in all caps, by the way. Oh, boy, oh, boy, oh, boy. Well, well, haven't you had to deal with some psychos? I may still be dealing with one. Yeah, well, I'm psycho. don't forget it like I'm I'm crazy I don't know why don't you why don't you tell the first story I'll be surprised if you can top some of mine but about my psycho exes what's what does

she want she wants to know some stories and then she wants to know what you can do to help let's tell a couple stories first and then we'll like round it out um okay so I mean I've had I've had like boring ones like letters on cars like guys waiting outside when I was in school for me um yeah just like it's like the normal ones um I feel like you should tell yours because they really taught mine. Well, without getting into too much detail. Oh, but here's her name. No, no, no.

I had a girl bite through a wine glass one time. No, it's not the story. Like, you can't, what do you mean? You can't just bite through a wine glass. Okay, long story short, we were seeing each other. Then we weren't. Wait, what does seeing each other mean? Seeing each other.

Like, seeing each other or seeing each other? Like seeing, I saw her a couple times. Going steady. Going, I don't know how to do. Oh my God, is that what you call it? So, anyway. So, anyway, listen, guys, don't hold this against me. We're talking like college years here, so it's been a long.

so it's been a long time and if I was single now I wouldn't even know what to do I'd probably just sit there with a blank stare it's been I'm in a relationship now for eight years so I'm pretty much dead if you were single you'd be dead yeah I pretty much done to the single world but anyways we're seeing each other then we weren't I was the type of personality were like a lot of guys I wasn't really really into something and then I just wouldn't be in it and I always thought there was something wrong with me I kind of did a post about this on law and site but I just realized that you know I don't know I just really wasn't that into it.

Okay, so get what's the story? So I was into it hot and heavy real quick, and then I was done. I was over. And I guess I probably didn't handle that the best way. Girls don't like to just be told, hey, I'm done. Like, they want, like, a much deeper explanation. No, you don't say. So I probably could handle a little better.

Probably. Long story short, I was sitting in my apartment one day, and she busted in, and I won't say who. And she was drinking wine, and we were all in a community. What are you mean a community? Well, she was sitting there, and I was like, look, it's over. And she started drinking the wine. and next thing I know the wine glass was broken and she was chewing the glass and the blood was dripping out of her mouth.

Well, that's a sure, by the way to not get you back. Jordan is looking at me. That's like some vampire shit right there. Why would she eat glass? I don't know, but. What was she really eating it? Like, show me what she was doing it. But it was just like she bit into it and ripped her mouth open.

I kind of remembered as she was eating it. She probably just cut her mouth and spit it out. Was she trying to scare you? Because that's terrifying. Well, I don't know if she was trying, but she sure did. Did you date her again? No, I didn't. One time a girl.

hit me with a jetta. Another girl. Yeah, clipped me in the back of the legs. Took me right out. I kind of deserved that one. You won't get into why. Have I done anything psycho to you? I feel like I'm like, I mean, I tell you.

I mean, not like, not in those leagues. You haven't hit me with your car yet and you haven't. I would hit you with my car though if you did something that really pissed me on. Okay, but like the question, so how do you, I mean, what did you do to deal with it? What do you do to deal with it? I don't know. Michael ran away. I ran away.

I mean, I coward and ran. Here's the thing. The problem with psycho-exes is that the more you ignore them, the worse it is. And I have experience with someone that will not be named that I dated for a long time, that the more I ignored him, he became even more, like, obsessed. So if you're going to ignore them, just know that. I would continue to ignore, even though it makes them worse and, like, let them go off. be psycho. I've known girls that have to get restraining orders because it got so bad. Hopefully it doesn't get that bad for you, but I guess my thing would be to just wipe them from your life and

ignore them and delete their number and just push them away completely. Yeah, I think looking back on it, I probably would have given a better explanation. Maybe I didn't give the best explanation. I don't know. Of your psychoness? No, not. I don't, I'm not psycho. No, to the girl. So maybe she didn't know is over. Oh, I see what you're saying. You're saying that that you would have given a better explanation to the psycho. Yeah, but you know what? I was 20-something years old or 18 years old. You know, I don't know what to do.

I just thought like, you know, kids, when you're done, you're done. But I guess, you know, I don't really have a good answer for this because I just, I haven't been single for so long that I don't even know what to do about this. I know for sure I didn't handle it very well in the past, considering I got hit by a car. Taylor, have you had any psycho exes? Unfortunately, I don't think so.

Unfortunately? Well, I don't know. I've always felt like, I always felt like hearing these stories, I kind of idolize it, is going, wow, like, I would have liked to just been in that situation. And Taylor's a psycho. Calling all glass chewers and car runner-overs, Taylor is looking for you and ready to have you get psycho on him. Yeah. Yeah.

Yeah, I would just, I would say don't give the psycho any ammunition because they just, they just get worse. Just ignore, ignore, ignore. Yeah, and maybe looking back, if I could give some practical bites to be upfront with somebody. give them a reason as to why, you know, you're breaking up. Don't leave them any wiggle room. I mean, some are just like Glenn Close and fatal attraction, though. They just don't stop. Yeah.

Hopefully they'll get the point. And the worst is though I feel like now with social media. Like, can you imagine you having social media in college? Can you imagine? No, thank God. Just imagine that. Weston, imagine. You guys all have social media in college.

There's probably some people that know me from college listening to this and be like, oh, imagine if that motherfucker had social media. If you have people from your college that are listening to this that dated you, then they're still psycho. So anyways, let's move. Watch your back in the parking lot. Let's move into the next question. Okay, the next question is from Frank, and he asks, you guys seem like you get a lot done. How do you make time for work, working out, and still find time to have a life? It feels impossible.

Well, Frank, I don't have a life. No. Slash. It's hard. I mean, how do I have time to have a life? You have to schedule everything, and I've learned that the hard way. You literally have to schedule from the second you get up to the second you go to bed, and you have to also learn to delegate. I always find time to work out, and you don't.

I do. I don't. I prioritize a lot of things, and I should probably prioritize working out more. I've consistently worked out. You should probably prioritize, like, oil on your forehead, too. You've got to put some oil on your forehead. Yeah, I've consistently worked out my whole life, so I feel like I can pick it back up pretty good. I don't like, I'm not one of those people that likes working out.

A lot of people feel like they get a release or they get a rush. I know it's something I have to do, so I do it, but I honestly hate working out. I really don't like it. I've done it my whole life. I don't like it. It's boring. No one likes working out. Like, no one's like, oh, yippy, I get to go work out.

I do. Let me rephrase it. There's a lot of people that don't like working out. It's boring. but and so they they don't they feel weird when saying that they're like oh like how can you say you don't like working out or like working out sucks or it's like working out does suck it's boring there's it's repetitive there's it's mind it's mindless you know what I mean like I'm somebody that likes to be fully engaged and like use my mind a lot so I get bored just clanking weights

around or running on a shut down what I do I'm listening to podcasts every time I work out now so I'm listening to TED talks and other podcasts so I can be doing two things at once since I'm such a multitasker and it's really helping me work out but actually look forward to it now. So what I will say, though, is I'm a disciplined person, so I do work out and to answer this question about how I find time for work and working out and have a life. This is an easy one for me. I talk about this all the time. I literally schedule out every single hour of my day. I've showed people on Snapchat. I've showed Lauren at multiple times. She doesn't seem to want to listen to me sometimes. No, I'm learning. I'm learning.

I'm trying to learn. What I think would help Lauren, what I think would help Jordan, what I think would help everybody is you really need to schedule out your time. And say you schedule a time to do emails, maybe from 8 o'clock in the morning till 9 o'clock in the morning. During that time, you should not be doing anything but your emails. You should not be returning phone calls. You should not be talking to coworkers. You should not be looking on social media.

I promise you that if you do that and dedicate your full attention to whatever task it is at hand, you will get it done a lot faster and more efficiently. What do you think? I do agree with you. I think time blocking's amazing, but as a woman, and you can attest to this, multitasking is like ingrained in us.

Well, first of all, multitasking doesn't exist. Oh, here we go. Oh, my gosh. Do we really want to go off on this tangent? Frank was just asking a measly question. No, no. I'm not going to go more on that stuff. I'm just saying multitasking as an actual concept does not exist.

It exists, but it's a bad, it exists in bad space. The human brain can only process so many complex tasks at one time. So multitasking is actually inefficient. If you're a man. If you're a man. No, if you're a man and a man. But I think that's an excuse. Like you make an excuse for yourself.

No, I'm not making an excuse. I just have trouble doing one thing at once. I can't help it. I think you, I think it's the opposite. I think you have trouble doing a lot of things at once. Doing a lot of things at once. And you don't want to admit that you're scared to just do one thing at once. Yeah, maybe.

It's hard to do one thing at once. Don't you feel like that? Especially with our business. I feel like I get, I totally get the most done when I'm not multitasking and I just lock myself in a room and just power through it. But I like to multitask when I'm doing like mindless things. Like I'll talk on the friend and catch up with a, or I'll talk on the phone and catch up with a friend while I'm cleaning or something. That kind of multitasking, totally fine. Yeah, that's fine.

This is more of a complex tasks. Yeah. Yeah. I'm trying to learn to time block. I would recommend everyone getting one of those time block cubes. I'll do a post on it. It's really, really, really helped me. I got her off Amazon and it looks like a dice.

I think it's important for people to understand that, you know, part of your day really should go towards scheduling, planning, planning, and I know, that's weird. That's weird. People don't think about that. Like, okay, I saw Michael last night, we're in bed. What are you checking, honey? Go ahead.

Michael last night, we're in bed and he whips out his phone. It's like 10 o'clock at night. I'm watching Howell's Wives. and he starts scheduling tomorrow. And he's scheduling down to when we're having dinner at the house or when you're sneaking in and out in. And it was like amazing. I was like, what are you doing?

He says he's time blocking each hour of the day. You do like 10 minutes at a time, I feel like. Yeah, no, I schedule 15 minute intervals even for reading. I'll schedule 10 minute intervals for breaks. Don't you also schedule when you're going to schedule? Yeah, I have it scheduled tonight to schedule between 9 to 9.30. to schedule a whole day for tomorrow. Oh, I scheduled sex at that time.

Is that going to... I had the calendar invite sent you. I might have to rearrange some things. Okay, I'll schedule it from 931 to 932. Okay, I hope that answers your question, Frank. Get a time cube. It will help. Okay, what's next?

Nina Morrison asks, do you and Michael have any tips regarding public speaking and effectively conveying your ideas to an audience without getting too nervous? I think you can answer this question a lot better. Lauren just recently did some public speaking, and I know she was really nervous about it before she did, and she went into it and absolutely crushed it,

and I think she has a different perspective on it now. Okay, here's the thing, you guys. I spoke in public, and I don't know what was wrong with me, but I was so, so nervous, to the point where it was pathetic. I thought I was going to, like, not be able to speak when I got on stage. Um, so what I did was I just really tried to come prepared. Um, I wrote out all my notes on

note cards and just like planned a strategy. And when I got up there, it was surprisingly a lot more easy to speak in front of an audience and I had anticipated. And I had a couple of sips of champagne before. I'm not going to lie. Um, and it wasn't as bad as I thought it was going to be. And I actually ended up loving it. But I will tell you before I got on stage and you both saw me. I was a full blown mess. But what was, so like what was your? I don't know. I all of a sudden at this age got like a complex. I'm so used to being behind the computer and typing and talking through through Instagram and through Snapchat that being on stage gave me all of a sudden this rush of anxiety that I had never had. So what was your like what was the thing that turned it? Like how did you end up conquering that fear and

how did you end up doing like you did really, really well. I was there. I was actually nervous for you before you went up. I thought I was filming the whole thing on Snapchat. What did you think I was going to do? I didn't know. I was just nervous that you were nervous. I was trying to act like there was no big deal. Like you were going to crush it, but you did. You were nervous? You didn't tell me you were nervous. I was nervous that you were going to fuck it up. What if I did? Well, then I would just be like, I would creep out the back door. Would you really have? No, no, no, no. Michael was texting me the whole time like, I'm so nervous for Lauren, but I know she's going to do great.

Like, you are cute. Yeah, don't, you know, don't hurt my heart exterior. I was nervous for you, but so I was wondering, like you got up there and it was almost like it was a different person. Or it was the person that I know. You weren't nervous at all. So, like, what can we tell this person that helped you conquer? I would say that I made note cards and I went over it, but I didn't memorize. I think that's where the bat.

And I practiced for Jordan. It wasn't memorized. It was just we had a conversation and I spoke in front of her and it was really comfortable. Don't memorize anything because if you memorize, that's more pressure than already, like, the speech. So I went up there and I just winged it, but I also had like an outline of what I was going to say. So it just kind of intertwined. And I'm telling you, once you're up there and once you're in front of the audience, it is so much easier. And it helps if you know the topic.

Like, they were asking you about blogging and you're a blogger. You've been doing this for how long now. So it's your profession. You know what you're talking about. Exactly. And when you know what you're talking about, it's a lot easier. I mean, next time I feel like we should bring Weston in on this question because Weston is a great public speaker. Let's not even get into that.

But you know what's funny is that like Jordan brings that up. It's the whole time when you were acting like you were so nervous about public. speaking, I kept saying to you, I'm like, hey, it's not like they're asking you questions about bioengineering or, like, how to build a steamship. Like, they're asking you about shit you do every single day. I know, but that was even more intimidating for some reason, because people want value when they're coming to a speech like that about something that you do every day. So I don't know why, but it was just intense pressure. And listen, you guys, I have, I've been on stage. I've done the whole, like, acting ballet tap dance routine that everyone in the world has

done. I've been, like, in front of people. It's not. like I've never done it. But for some reason, talking about my profession that I care so much about, that I'm so passionate about, and making sure that that came through to the audience was so important to me that it was like almost debilitating to get up there. You know, like, in this, I'm not going to harp on this too much. It comes down to like not being bullshit in authenticity and knowing what you're talking about. I think if you go into any public speaking engagement or any conversation, you actually know what

you're talking about and you're not bullshit, you'll do fine because you're going to be like, oh, I do this shit every day and I talk about this every day. So if you had to give like a speech on Chihuahuas, you would be fine. Oh my God, I could give a Pulitzer Prize winning speech. Really? Wow, confidence. Surprisingly has helped to me, which is non-traditional. And I think that, you know, you didn't have this tool years ago.

And I swear to God, I'm not joking and I'm not lying at all, is Snapchat. Snapchat. This is the third plug you've done on your Snapchat. I'm not even plug my name. Michael Watson. But I swear to God, I'm not joking. I was talking to Weston about this other day, and I said, honestly, since I've got Snapchat and I've started filming videos and then pressing my story and sending it out there to all these

people, I have gotten way more comfortable on camera, I've gotten way more comfortable public speaking, and I've got way more comfortable with myself. I really think it's a really good place to practice, and it's a safe place to practice because you kind of control a little bit what you put out there. No, someone told me I looked pasty the other day when I was talking. Yeah, I get all, people say shit to me all the time. But the point is, is like, you can consistently talk as yourself on Snapchat and then have the confidence to not send it to your friends, but put it to my story for anyone to see. It really is a confidence builder.

And I think that if you're sitting there and you're like, I don't have a tool to practice public speaking, honestly, try practicing on Snapchat for a few days and tell me what you think because I really do think it's a really helpful tool. That's a good tip. Good advice, honey. You're full of them today. Okay, what's the next question? Last and final.

Last question is from Simon, and he asks, what do you do when you want to start a business, but don't have any money and you have a family to sport? I have three children, and I'm scared to take the risk. Do you want me to go or do you want to go? You can go. Okay, Simon, you know, I get these questions a lot on my Snapchat, and I hear these a lot.

Again, this is going to sound harsh, but people are always looking for excuses of why they can't do something. I don't have children, so I'm not going to pretend like I understand what it is, but I do have financial responsibilities and I take risks all the time, seven days a week, 365. And what I would say is, look, if you have a stable job right now and you are supporting your family, that's great. But what are you doing between the hours of seven till two in the morning? Well, he's probably sleeping.

Yeah, but that's what I'm saying. Simon, you need to get your ass up out of bed. Oh, my God, my God. No, I'm being serious. You need to get up out of bed. There's plenty of ways that, like yesterday, for example, I built a, I don't, build websites, but I'm working on a project with my buddies. And I built out my very first e-commerce site using Shopify. How long did it take? Honestly, it took me like four hours,

but that's because I didn't know what I was doing. Okay, so four hours it took you to build a full-blown site. A full-blown functional site. I mean, yes, it's not perfect. It did look good. It did look good. You know, you could probably make some tweaks here and there. It ended up costing. I ended of buying the theme on Shopify and this is a good Shopify plug for like 120 bucks and I bought a couple widgets for maybe 10 bucks a month so I'm probably in the project like 150 bucks Simon if you don't have that money you can also go on wordpress.org that's a site that lorns that lorne blog uses taylor and i have some web properties taylor uses WordPress i've jordan's used wordpress Taylor watches porn on wordpress no he doesn't it's it's another free website service you can get out there you can create

you can create your own website free of charge i mean it's a good place to start starting any business everything you know is heading towards online and then you know you can work on this stuff slowly but surely along the way you can launch slow you don't need to go balls to the walls out the gate or you can launch fast let me tell you something i launched this podcast with or we launched this podcast lauren's looking at me like like i'm gonna stab him yeah okay we launched this podcast with a couple hundred bucks in equipment really like it doesn't take a a lot to get something together. It's 2016. Technology exists. The internet exists. You can do a lot more outside of your job now. Also, start a podcast. Take an hour and tell us about your three kids,

Simon, tell us what it's like to have three kids in a family and do a podcast about families. Start a blog. Take an hour a day. Spend an hour a day on your blog seven days a week. There's so much you can do with social media and the internet. There's actually no excuse for you not to do something productive every single day towards a larger goal. I am a big fan, and I will keep saying this till I'm blue in the face, then at chipping away every single day, even if it's an hour towards something that's a bigger picture goal. So say you're working a nine to five, you have three kids, you're completely overwhelmed. You can find one hour every day, seven days a week, to work towards a bigger picture. Big success comes from tiny little things. That's how extraordinary

success happens. Every single person that's successful says that. So my advice would be to take an hour day, time pocket with a cube, chip away, and you'll be good. No, but I mean, a lot of people think that in order to start something or do something, they need to quit their job and that's all that they can, I mean, there are 24 hours in the day. There's plenty of resources online. There's, there's plenty of things you can do now to launch a business slowly. You don't need to go. From home. From home. From home. Little Johnny sitting on your lap, little Susie pulling at your apron. you can do it, right, honey? I don't know about Johnny and Susie, but yeah, I mean, I don't know.

I'm harsh on the people when they say that because I get that you have kids, I get that you have financial responsibilities, I get that you're busy, I get that you're tired, but so what. I mean, honestly, so what. Business is not supposed to be easy. If you have an idea. You're like Corella DeVille today. No, I mean, I just, I think that people need a little bit of a wake-up call. It's like, listen, you're going to go through your whole life.

You have this great business idea, and you're going to get you. get to your deathbed and if you hadn't tried it and you're sitting there, you're going to have a huge regret. So you might as well take a chance and do it. I mean, you know what? Honestly, your kids can live on a little less. You can live on a little less. You can struggle for a while. You can try something. And guess what? Worst case scenario, you go back to exactly what you're doing right now, which is your job. But you might as well get out there and take a chance. I mean, money is fleeting. It comes and goes. Really, it does. And people figure out life. Okay, guys, that is it. We talked about some major realness today, including public speaking,

psychos, time blocking, and taking risks. If you want to hear your question answered on Ask Him and Her podcast, just use the hashtag Ask Him and Her on Twitter or Instagram. Make sure to subscribe on iTunes. Leave us a five-star rating and we will see you next week. Yeah, and you know what else I think I'm going to do? I think I'm actually going to create an email called Podcast at theskinfinancial.com where they can send questions in there because a lot of people want to email their questions in. You do that. You do that. Okay, all right. Jordan, can you get that?

All right, I'll be right on that. And we're done.