The Bossticks - Brooke Burke On Life Design, Diet, Weight Management, & How To Meet Your Potential

Episode Date: July 31, 2023

#594: Today we're joined by Brooke Burke, television host, cancer survivor, entrepreneur, fitness educator, philanthropist, podcaster and women's health advocate who has been thriving in Hollywood for decades. Brooke sits down with us today to discuss all things lifestyle & planning a life of your dreams. We dive into her story, how she created longevity for herself and her business in Hollywood, and what internal work she did in order to curate a life she loved. She gets into her dating history, what it was like being a single mom in the entertainment industry, and hard truths she learned when it comes to life in Hollywood. She gives us all the tips to designing a life to be proud of, protecting your boundaries, finding a lifelong partner, and meeting your own potential. To connect with Brooke Burke click HERE To connect with Lauryn Evarts Bosstick click HERE To connect with Michael Bosstick click HERE Read More on The Skinny Confidential HERE To subscribe to our YouTube Page click HERE For Detailed Show Notes visit TSCPODCAST.COM To Call the Him & Her Hotline call: 1-833-SKINNYS (754-6697) This episode is brought to you by The Skinny Confidential This episode is brought to you by Dr. Dennis Gross If you want to take your beauty routines to the next level with immediate and long-term benefits, go to ddgskin.com/skinny for up to 25% off Lauryn's exclusive bundles and new lip products. This episode is brought to you by Sakara Sakara delivers science-backed, plant-rich nutrition programs and wellness essentials right to your door. Their ready-to-eat meals are nutritionally designed to deliver results—from weight management and eased bloat to boosted energy and clearer skin. Go to Sakara.com/skinny or enter code SKINNY at checkout to receive 20% off your first order. This episode is brought to you by AG1 AG1 is way more than greens. It's all of your key multi-vitamins, minerals, pre-and probiotics, and more, working together as one. Go to drinkAG1.com/skinny to get a free 1 year supply of vitamin D3k2 drops and 10 free travel packs with your first purchase.   This episode is brought to you by Evlo Fitness Workout smarter, not harder. Visit evlofitness.com and use code SKINNY for one free month of Evlo.   This episode is brought to you by Poise Ultra Thin Poise Ultra Thins are bladder leak pads that fit and flex with your body, to provide protections so that you can cherish your postpartum moments worry-free. Learn more at poise.com. This episode is brought to you by Harmless Harvest Replenish your electrolytes and keep yourself cool so you can avoid losing yours. Go to HarmlessHarvest.com and use code SKINNY for 20% off your first order. Produced by Dear Media

The following podcast is a Dear Media production. She's a lifestyle blogger extraordinaire. Fantastic. And he's a serial entrepreneur. A very smart cookie. And now Lauren Everts and Michael Bostic are bringing you along for the ride. Get ready for some major realness. Welcome to the skinny confidential, him and her.

We are being raised in a society that is teaching us about Good Enough. We are marrying Mr. and Mrs. Good Enough. We are living in a space that's good enough. We are accepting good enough. Like the word extraordinary seems so big. Like we all have a blessed life. I have a blessed life. I live in gratitude.

I live in gratefulness. I'm so blessed for my life. But I'm still reaching for extraordinary because I can and because I will and because that's the commitment that I've made to myself. So if you're looking for an extraordinary partner, why not? Like, why we're settling? I have wanted Brooke Burke on this podcast. for seven years. I have DM'd her. I have emailed her. I have went through friends to get her attention.

I basically have done everything humanly fucking possible to get her on this podcast. Because not only do I admire her as a person, but I admire her as a mother. I admire her as a survivor, an entrepreneur, a fitness educator, and a philanthropist. She really does it all. But the thing about her that's so great is she does it all so effortlessly. So I wanted her to come on and not only tell her story, but to tell us how she does it all and does it so seamlessly. So she's here today and she's going to tell us details that she has never talked about with anyone. She's going to talk about lifestyle, her relationships, planning a life of your dreams, how she created longevity for herself and in the business of Hollywood, the internal work she's done,

fitness tips, health tips. I was taking notes from her smoothie recipe to how she intermittent fast, to how she looks so goddamn amazing. She really shares all the juice in this episode. You are going to love it. Let's welcome the iconic Brooke Burke to The Him and Her show. This is the skinny confidential him and her. Four children. That is amazing. That exhausts me just hearing it. It's a lot of work. It is a lot of work. I mean, what's the key? But it's the greatest job I've ever had in my life.

I don't know if there's a key. I learned from them. They learn from me. We raise each other. I also have a 23-year-old and a 21-year-old. So I lean in on them right now when I'm raising a 15-year-old boy. He's named Shiaa, my son. And raising a 16-year-old, we raise each other in our family in the same way that the four of you in your household, raise your little ones.

I can't do it alone. Or a tribe. So the gap's 23 to 15-year-old. Yeah. My son is 15. Rain is 16. Sierra is 21. And Ryan is 23. Who you know. How have you been able to do it so successfully, though, with L.A., Hollywood, everything you have going on? I mean, you're really like building an empire. How have you been able to manage all this? It's a lot. I would say the younger me didn't have much of a social life. I was always a working mom. My mom was a working mom. She raised three jobs growing up, really simple life. A lot of communication. a lot of sacrifice, a lot of honesty, a lot of quality time, maybe more than quantity at busy times in my life. We have a lot of family dinners. We give each other grace, and I'm always communicating with my children.

I have to do this. I might miss out on that, but I'm going to make up for it here. Do you like your fabulous life? This is how we get to have all that. Like I'm leading by example. When you were young and your mom was working all these jobs, what was that like for you? I think I didn't know the difference. I think vulnerably, I probably spent, I did spend a lot of nights waiting and wanting more of her, but I grew up seeing that and understanding that. And I think it gave me a great work ethic, gave me grind, it gave me grit. Like, you can't really teach that.

And she was a really loving, amazing mom without a lot of time. But she gave me, there were certain virtues and certain characters, and she made up for it. So I never really punished her for it. Like, I never made her feel guilty. Like, I don't... She just had to do it. She had to do it. Yeah.

And I didn't know anything different. It is hard, though, now that I'm a mom, even like today I have to leave, I have to go to L.A. And leave them. And it's, you just feel like you have to do it. Because, like you said, it affords them a certain lifestyle. I guess we're always wanting to do more or do it better as moms, right? And that's kind of the fucked up part about parenting. And I think the pressure that society puts on us.

I wrote a book a long time ago called The Naked Mom kind of a silly title because I think that was probably a little too provocative and moms don't have time to read books but one of the chapters was called not guilty straight up not guilty and it was an intention, an action to not do guilt and people were like, what do you mean? I'm like it's a choice.

You can feel guilty because you're coming to work to do something incredible. Everything you do is never going to be enough or you can just choose to do it and love them through. it and not feel guilty about it. I think that's really toxic. I think a lot of women have so much guilt. I mean, it's a big conversation. Well, because men, I think because of the social norms, I don't feel guilty going to work. Like, I want to spend more time with my children and my family, of course, but there's not that kind of pressure. Like, nobody ever comes to me. He's like,

you're working a lot. I know. It's so true. It doesn't happen. I feel guilty all the time. So isn't that interesting society and how far we've come as women and that now we're able to be ballers and bad? and entrepreneurs and CEOs and yet still be mothers. And some women feel that they have to choose between the two, right? Or they're going to do both and do it with a little bit of guilt. I have so many kids and so many responsibilities and I love what I do. And I give myself so much grace to do everything I want to do.

And I think I'm a committed, connected. I think I'm a great mom. Well, I think it's interesting that you tell me that your mom did have three jobs and she was working so hard, but she was still a really incredible mom. And it sounds like there's no ill will towards your mom. You're actually got your grit and your perseverance from your mom. So that makes me actually feel a little more settled. I think you're probably a more well-rounded woman. I think you are probably a better wife, partner and a better mother. I actually joke around about this a lot with my girlfriends and mommy friends. Being at home with your kids is the hardest work in the world and sometimes going to work. It's like today I walk in everybody. I'm in this beautiful studio. Someone handed me a cup of coffee. For me, that's like, let me pull out the violins. Right, right. Just to be served, to have some escapism, to be in a space where I guess you're giving, even though you're working, but giving in a different way that's elevating your goals. I'm just, I'm just very pro. I'm pro women carving out time and finding

boundaries and being an amazing dedicated mother while being dedicated to themselves. We only rolled the red carpet for you. Normally we just throw a used pizza box at the person say, yeah, grab what you can find in the trash. It's in a nice cup. It's on a saucer. I told him, I got everybody ready. I said, Brooks coming in and get everything presentable. But once you leave, it's all going to fall apart. What was the first epiphany where you realized that you were sort of meant to be in entertainment? I never thought I would be in entertainment. I always saw myself as a business. woman, kind of dabbled in

entertainment, stepped into it rather by accident. I really educated myself on the road during Wildon and did my first real show on the road in Spain and signed a contract kind of faking it, faking it until I made it.

This is after Hawaiian Tropic, though. That was the first, I'm going to go back. I'm researched. That was the first moment, right? Yeah, that was the, well, okay, so you're talking about like bikini contest and going way back. Like what? 16-17-17? Oh shit. Yeah, maybe, maybe. Scush, you know more than I do than I can remember, probably right around there, 16, 17, 18. But at that time,

I was that young girl from Tucson, Arizona, from a really simple town, really scared and not super confident and really intimidated by everything that was L.A. Because that's just, when you're not from here and you're not in the business, it's bright and big and beautiful and antsy. and I think I just was always taking chances in my life as a human being, as a young girl. I wasn't afraid to screw it up or get it wrong. I still get it wrong. Awesome lesson for mommying. I was never afraid to screw it up.

But I never thought I was going to land here. No way. So how did you enter? Did you enter yourself? Does someone else enter you? Funny enough, Hawaiian Tropic, I won a really cheesy acting scholarship, if you want to call it that, that sent me out to L.A. and I remember speaking to my parents and packing my bags and taking my dog with me and my dad saying,

go to L.A. and do what you're supposed to do. And if it doesn't work out, come home. So can you imagine, like, my father, who was a New Yorker, Armenian, super strong, was like, go, you're going to stay here and just wonder what your life would have been like. Go to L.A. What's the worst thing that could happen? Like, I have goosebumps thinking about it. And you said, come home if it doesn't work out. But don't sit here and wonder what your life could be like. And that was probably, the riskiest best and scariest advice I've ever received. And I'm always grateful for that. And I always tell people we've got to take chances and go explore and don't be afraid to get it wrong. And I got it wrong a bunch of times. So what's your first memory when you get to L.A.? Got to L.A.

Nothing that I thought it would be. What did you think it would be? A little bit more organized, a little bit of a nurturing community, a little bit more of like a loving welcome. I didn't know. I didn't know that I was going to be like this young bikini girl from Arizona dropped into the freaking jungle. Like, go figure that out. You can't afford rent. You don't know what you're going to do. There's creepers everywhere. No one's nice to you. There's no sisterhood circle. Like, I just, I had no idea what I was getting myself into. And I kind of sucked it up and rolled up my sleeves and put my war paint on and decided I'm going to work this out and did the side jobs and had the six-month lease everywhere in town, worked downtown in the garment

industry. And then finally I went on an audition for Wildon and had no idea even what that was about. Didn't know the E-network, never saw the show, didn't have an agent. I didn't really know what I was going to do. It was a friend of a friend that sent me. It's one of those terrible stories for people that are aspiring to be in the business. Why? Just because it's like by accident? Because by accident, I went on a meeting and I wasn't so intense and nervous about it because I didn't really know what I was getting myself into. But there's a lesson there. There's a lesson there. Being you in person, though, I will say you have it. You can't really explain what it is.

It's kind of like a... Charisma. It's charisma. You just, you have it or you don't, so I'm not surprised that you sort of stumbled into it like that. I appreciate that. That's a really... I would say the same thing about you. It's a really nice compliment.

Whatever that it thing is, I guess we all kind of look for that. We look for it in love. We look for it in partnerships, entrepreneur opportunities. I mean, it's... You kind of, in your gut, you kind of know, right? I think that it's hard to say, oh, like, I knew I was going to be, famous isn't the right word. Maybe that you knew you were meant to be put here to entertain.

I don't know. I don't, I knew, well, you know, it's maybe a little gorier than you want to get, but I knew that I had faith in one step forward. And I totally get what you're saying. in taking advantage of the right opportunities without knowing what the end result would be. So I would say I probably spent a decade longer than I could have. Now as a woman and a businesswoman, I want to get from point A to point B. I want to be strategic.

I want to surround myself with the right people. I want to be thoughtful and educated. Back then, I was just carefree and faithful in my decision-making process. I mean, my daughter, Narayam, my oldest, who you know, I was pregnant. I went on the road and did 40 countries on the road as a single mom with a, I shouldn't say single. I wasn't married yet. I don't mean to be disrespectful to my ex. But I was on the road alone with my daughter hosting a television show traveling around the world.

Call me crazy. How old was she? She was a baby. She was three months old. I know. Like you should see her face right now, everyone. I know. I know.

But it's one of those things where maybe you just didn't know the difference. I didn't know better. I knew that I was not going to leave my baby at home. I mean, but when I say 40 countries, I mean, I wore her, I brought a nurse with me, and I was crazy. But what was crazier to me was thinking about not attachment bonding with my daughter and leaving her at home. And I didn't know better. And quite honestly, looking back, it was the most amazing stint of my life, one of the greatest shows I've ever worked on. And it was simple.

We had a simple bag of stuff. Like, I'm talking like books and Cheerios, not an enormous. amount of gear to entertain my child. We slept in the same bed together. Got a lot of criticism for that, but we were just making it up as we went along, and it worked for me. And then I got pregnant with Sierra, and I was like, holy shit, I need to get off the road. So I did wild on for two years, and then did a handful of shows at E, and then, you know, dealt with the challenges and struggles of life and that divorce and falling in love again and redesigning a new life and blah, blah, blah. But I think I just kept doing things that felt right and that brought me joy and allowed me to discover new talents and new things.

When you get divorced for the first time and you're in front of the world, how does that feel? Awful. I think any time alone or in front of the world, for me, I would have swore that I would have stayed married because I really believed in love, but I was a really bad picker. I think I didn't choose wisely. I have no regret. I'm so happy that I married Garth and that I had in Ryan Sierra with him. One of the greatest, hardest,

most incredible learning opportunities of my life. But shocking and deflating, and I don't think I knew what I was in when I was in it because I was young and I was hustling and I was working. And I was so in love with my children and I just knew that it was time. for change and I quickly was in a new loving relationship which made it a hell of a lot easier to be honest there's no hiding the truth of my past being with a doctor too has like a whole different

layer because the doctor with at his level I mean he's well you talk about two completely opposite human being so when two worlds collide two souls collide two spirits collide whatever you want to call it and I've done this a couple of times I don't think that and I say at respect respectfully too because I always want to honor the people in my past, whether it was right or wrong for me. I don't think that we were ever going to, our spirits were ever going to align. We were completely opposite human beings really trying to work it out and really trying to work it out for our family. And I made mistake after mistake after mistake. My greatest regret, I don't think I've ever said this publicly, but fuck it, why not? My greatest regret is that he and I never really healed.

we kind of moved on and we still don't have a relationship which is really sad for my children but I don't think we were mature enough or capable enough in the process of that pain to kind of just meet each other with an apologetic honesty

you don't think that would happen now I've been after all this time no time's past I guess I would but no I don't think times past I think not everyone's capable or willing or wanting to heal and learn not everybody needs it I need it in my life as a woman

I think that it seems like with both of you guys, your careers took off so crazy from just like an outside thing that it's like maybe the reason that you didn't have the time or the space to heal is because your careers were so big. Yeah, maybe. And you're just trying to survive, I think. Right. I think you're trying to survive. You know, what I would tell people, younger people, the younger me, the new mom. And no one had, I don't know about you guys, but nobody had this conversation with me. Maybe we're more conscious now as parents, because we read and we study and we have access to

everything. But nobody ever said, choose wisely who you're going to raise a family with. Because you're going to be stuck with that person forever. No one ever told me that. I would tell my children that. It's so funny, we drove up from San Diego this morning, and we were talking about that. And I was telling her, like, I just subconsciously, like, to me, it always was like, okay, you're going to be with somebody for a very long time.

Like, don't pick some Dodo Bird, right? You got to pick the right person. But she was saying that like she never thought about this. I never understood what an important. Now that I'm older and I have wisdom, I'm like, oh my God, thank God. I sort of tripped in the right hole. Thank God. He tripped in the right hole.

But like it's, it really is one of the most important decisions because like you just said, even if you get married to someone and you divorce them, if you have kids with them, it's, you're in it. But you're right though. There's not, you know, nobody sits down and says, hey, this is going to be a really important decision. And I would argue it's one of the. most important decisions who you decide to have children with and who you decide to be in relationship. I think so. It might be the most important. I was talking to a single buddy of mine. I was like, listen, he was saying, oh, maybe I'll just have a kid. I'm like, listen, if you don't

just have, once you have the kid, you're parenting with that other person for, you know, hopefully as long as the child is alive. So, no. I wonder if you're capable, right? So you're in love and it's intoxicating, not chemically, but, well, no, chemically from a pheromone standpoint. And I don't know that you have the sense, the common sense, to really even have that dialogue with yourself. Like, I think opposites attract sometimes when it comes to raising the family. Does your faith align? Do your virtues align? Does your character align?

And it doesn't mean to say that somebody can come from a less than perfect background, but maybe they've done the work and realized that they're going to live differently. Or there's just so many things that the signs were so loud and are so there if we're just listening. And I don't know if we are as younger people. I don't know if that siren song is loud enough that we can actually hear it. I think that this conversation, though, is important for people to hear because you're right. There isn't a lot of conversation around who you end up marrying. I never thought about it.

Well, this sometimes hits a nerve, too, because we've touched on this. And I think there's the people that have not got in the relationship yet, and hopefully this reaches them. And they're like, okay, maybe I should be thoughtful. And then there's the people that are fine. Like, oh, yeah, I picked right. But then there's the people that are like, oh, shit, I picked wrong. And I'm in it. and it hits the nerve because some people are sitting there listening being like, shit.

I know. I had an incredible conversation with a friend of mine who happens to be a really brilliant gentleman. Gentleman, that makes him sound so old. He's in his 40s. I want you to describe me as a gentleman. A gentleman. I just aged myself. He's in his 40s.

And he's so smart that he's having these very cerebral intellectual conversations with himself about the quality of the woman he's in a relationship with. and can she level up? And does she fit the mold of the woman that I would want to mother my children? And he was really having an amazing conversation with me and I don't want to say dissecting, but exploring the possibilities.

And I was asking myself silently, not discussing them with him, is it because he's so smart and he's a little bit older? And he was able to have that conversation because I think when we're young, we're in love, and I just don't know if we're foreseeing complications.

that you don't know about. Maybe not thinking with the right brain. Yeah, I mean. Or the parenting thing is like next level of designing a relationship. And designing is a funny word. But I do believe that we have to start designing your marriage, your future, your home, your life, your love, your family, your children. You came to the right podcast.

We agree. You do? Yeah, we just did a whole podcast on creating your own future and designing your life and being thoughtful and being purposeful. And so many people are settling because, society tells you you need to settle by a certain age. I mean, girl,

I said this in that conversation. We are being raised in a society that is teaching us about good enough. We are marrying Mr. and Mrs. Good Enough. We are living in a space that's good enough. We are accepting good enough. And a lot of the transformational work that I do in the retreat work with women and men is to allow yourself, like the word extraordinary seems.

big. Like we all have a blessed life. I have a blessed life. I live in gratitude. I live in gratefulness. I'm so blessed for my life. But I'm still reaching for extraordinary because I can and because I will and because that's the commitment that I've made to myself. So if you're looking for an extraordinary partner, why not? Like, why we're settling all around. I mean, I think that word makes people uncomfortable. It makes people uncomfortable. I think it makes people uncomfortable that that someone would want an extraordinary life in each area. You said today on the car write up when we're having this conversation, you said,

I don't want to be that person that says, oh, but he's a good dad. Explain what you said the butt. I never want to be described as but. Like, so for example, if you met me and you're like,

hey, Michael, you're, you're okay at business, but you're a great dad. Like, I would hate that. If you're like,

hey, you're an okay dad, but you're great at fitness. Like, I never want to be the guy that's the, but, right? I want to be like, but, oh, meaning, meaning the dad, the amazing, meaning the meaning the dad being is making up for what you're not in other areas. No, just meaning like, it's like, basically you're cheap, someone saying like, okay, you're okay here, but that's okay, because

you're okay. He wants to be extraordinary in every area. I want to hold myself accountable, like, I want to be in shape. I want to have a good business. I want to be a good husband. I want to be a good, I don't want to, like, I don't want to just do one and not the other. Does that make sense? I think it's amazing. I think that you are unique in a unicorn and there aren't enough people who are brave enough or committed enough to high potential. And I really like to discuss the possibility, right, because we're learning and even if it's scary and uncomfortable, of never falling below that high standard that you hold for yourself. I think that the word extraordinary makes, if you say to your whole entire family and all your friends, I want to be extraordinary. What it

does is it maybe points out where they're not being extraordinary. So I think it's uncomfortable. But instead, what you're saying is we should all up level to be extraordinary. I think you're right. And I hadn't thought about that. I think you make a great point. It is uncomfortable. There's something about it that doesn't feel humble. But I think we need to get uncomfortable.

And even in my family, like with my children, I'm like, get uncomfortable. Do it or don't do it. And if you're going to do it, come high or hell water, freaking do it with commitment. Like even this might seem silly. We have a lot of family meals together as many as we physically can. And even tonight when I leave here, I'm going to grind. I'm going to go to West Lake, pick up my son from football from here. And people listening were really far away because I want to be there to pick them up.

Then I'm going to come home and we're going to have dinner. And if my daughter's setting the table and she's phoning it in because she's rushing or disconnected, I'll look at the table and I'll be like, I didn't teach how to set the table like that. If you're going to set the table right. Hold on. Hold on. No, no, no. Hold on.

We got to take a little detour here. We're going to take a little detour. Sorry to the audience. Brooke, I'm coming on for dinner. What is the music to my ears. What does it look like to set the table in an extraordinary way? I want to hear this so because maybe I'm fucking phoning in the table. I need to know how to set an extraordinary table, number one.

Okay. So candles are lit. And even if they're little candles, like the napkins folded, it's on the table. The silverware is right. The glass isn't like in the middle of the plate. Is it a linen napkin or a paper? No, it's paper. Paper, okay.

It's paper, let's get real. Okay. And it's probably not paper plates unless we're really lazy, but I'm not mad at that. Okay. I'm not mad at that. As long as we, as it's pretty. It looks nice. There's an intention.

And it has vibe. Okay. And I'll go on and the lights are right. So we're not like blasting fluorescent vibe. Michael just learned about a dimmer. Come on. Dimmer, Michael. Listen, I had a dad that literally the lights.

These are nearly as bright as the lights I wrote. It makes me. I'll walk in up. There's a dimmer. What else? And there's probably like a nice playlist, like a home suite home or like a nice loving playlist on. And it's just, it's ambience, right?

And it doesn't matter if we're eating takeout. It doesn't matter if we're eating frozen. but oh, I see you nodding your head. No, keep going. Keep going. No, no, no, no, no. Well, okay. So, like, as a woman, I feel you.

It's about ambiance and it's about setting the mood. And, you know, I'll pivot for a second if I'm walking into my bedroom with Scott and the, like, lights are blaring. And, like, I'm like, babe, like, I want some ambience. I want to be seduced. I'm learning about ambience. I know. Oh, my God. I would say I want to be desired, but seduced is a better word.

Seduce me. Level up. Don't stick it in before you feel me up. Oh, my goodness. Can we just go on? Can you take a journey? Can you take a journey around my body? Take a journey around my body, bitch.

The other day, he asked me, do you want seven minutes in heaven? When my kids were watching a show and I was like, okay. That's not bad. It was one minute in heaven. I said, you got to put some effort into it. Can I use that line? If I offered my man seven minutes of heaven, oh my God, it was three. No, listen.

That's being generous. It's better than one. Our child. We were in this house now. I like some ambience. I want to be seduced. And the children are everywhere and there's people of everyone. I was like, I need it. We need to go in the closet. But Brooke is saying to put in tension behind everything you do from setting the table.

But seven minutes of heaven was kind of poet. I didn't have to light the candle and get it going. It's kind of a romantic question. Put some home sweet home music. I'm going to share the playlist. This is also a very weird time. It was like 10 a. We went from family dinner to seven minutes of heaven.

I'm sorry. We're going to go back. I want to say one more thing about this. You know, I think we are living in an interesting time where people want to feel good rather than actually be good. And what I mean by that is like people are like the reason it's uncomfortable when say, when people say, oh, like, I want to be extraordinary is because if you say that, maybe people are thinking, well, then that means other people can't be, right? Or like, or other people know they aren't. And I think we're getting in this weird place now where people feel bad about saying they want to be

great. And I don't think this has ever been before. And I personally don't like it because if it's, if I'm, you know, as a new dad, like I want my children to demand the most from themselves. And of course I want them to be good and all that, but I want them to hold themselves to a high standard. Level up. Yeah, I mean, listen, when I was a kid, like, I had a half Japanese mother. So like there was no like, you know, of course you had to hold yourself high standard. Like compliments were rare. And so I think it's uncomfortable because people may feel they're out of integrity in certain areas of their life. And it's easier to just say, don't worry, I'm okay as opposed to, you know what, I could try a little harder. One thing that has been constant in my skincare routine from the beginning is Dr. Dennis Gross. I am so, so in love with him as a human, but also his skincare products. So they just launched this situation that I need to tell you about. It is the derma infusions plump and repair lip treatment, okay? It is this lip treatment that plumps your lips to two times the volume. How do I know I've been trying it for the last month?

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So extraordinary could be that you're having a really shitty day and you don't feel like doing anything, but you took 11 minutes to go listen to a meditation to reset yourself. That might be your extraordinary moment for the day. it doesn't mean that it's big and beautiful and fabulous. It means that you're connected. And I love what you said about integrity. If you're meeting yourself with integrity, that might just mean that you're listening.

And you're dialed in and you're present. And, you know, holding yourself to that standard and living in integrity means a lot of different things. Yeah, I mean, it's easier to just kind of phone it in. But like, you know, it takes discipline to be great in areas. And that doesn't just mean in your business. but like with your, it takes discipline to be a good wife or a good husband, a good father, all these things, right? You can't, and I think people telling themselves that they don't have to hold themselves

to that standard, but then also demanding those results are living in delusion. I think some people don't even feel worthy to do it, to be honest. I mean, I posted something the other day and I'm spending a lot of time thinking about this. I'm writing a body of work on it, but like protecting your boundaries. Like be willing to be worthy of protecting your own boundaries. And that might be the boundaries of carving out time for love and romance. And that might be, you know. Let me ask you a question, Lauren.

Would you rather me not take that time to do that? I had to, you know, like that's the thing is I think, joking aside, I want my wife to know that at any given moment. She could be desired like that, you know, in the middle. Even the kids are really. Because I think also, again, like people start phoning it in a relationship. It's like, oh, like the kids are there. So we better not do it. No, of course it's hard.

I mean, it is. I mean, it is. It is hard to get into the mood and to be in that sexy space when you know the kids are on the other side of the door. Like, I do get that. I mean, I'm going to keep it real. Like, yes, set the mood. But it is hard. Like, sometimes you have to, like, roll up a towel and stick it underneath the door crowd as if I think it's muffing up.

Yeah, I jammed a door wedge in there. I lock us in. Mom, before I want to go back to Wildon, before I do that, just because you brought it up, you have to tell me what you're going and cooking for dinner and how you're whipping it up, like, so. efficiently and quickly for four children and picking up your son all within this small window. The older, my oldest one is not at home, so I'll be honest, it's three. And normally on a day like this, I use a slow cooker crock pot all the time. Love a good crock pot. Honestly, I can throw it in there in the morning and it'll be ready by the time we get home. What brand? And it could be, I got to look it up on Amazon. I'm the queen

of Amazon and we'll find the brand. But I'm talking like, I'll put two packages of chicken in there. I'll get a bottle jar from Trader Joe's of like terriaki sauce or salsa. I'll throw it in there with garlic and onions. Put the lid on it, put it on low. By the time I get home, there's like another tool on Amazon that you can separate the chicken with. They look like two claws.

It's like amazing pulled chicken. And it'll last for four days. I'll make a big pot of rice and I'm off the hook. That is such a good tip for a quick meal. There's been so many people that come on this podcast that cook dinner at night, but it's so overwhelming. That does not sound overwhelming to me. I want easy and efficient.

I want it to be mindful and yummy, but I mean, we're busy. Okay. I'm getting a crock pot. You will see a crock. I'm going to share the recipes with you. No, no, honestly. Please. Will you post it on your Instagram story so everyone can see this in this goes live?

Yes, I will. We have a clock pot. Yes, I will. You know I will. How to mindfully pull apart the chicken? Listen, it's either that or you're boiling, do boning. This is the easiest recipe of all time. And honestly, I love it.

I'll make a pot of it that is so big. And then my son will roll in like four football players. And I will feed all of them for. two days. This one pot of crab chicken. I bet your son's football player friends love your pulled chicken, and I'm sure they love you making them pulled chicken. I hope they do. I'm sure they're not bad. We're going to Brooks House again for dinner. My poor son. It's terrible. Okay. We couldn't figure out anywhere else to eat. Taylor wants to come over for pulled chicken. He's celebrating. Everyone's invited to my house for So when you were on Wild On, what was that like balancing all these different things?

And then you're going through a divorce. How are you doing all this when you're traveling to 40 countries? Like, what was that like? It was a lot, lot, lot. That was the beginning of the relationship. So I wasn't going through the divorce there. But I was figuring out what it's like to be a mother. And I was figuring out without a lot of skills, how to host a show live on the road.

So I was kind of making it up as I went along. And I didn't know anything different. So I was just managing it all. Your question is how, I don't know, I didn't know anything else. When you are known for Wildon, that's how you come into the scene and then you want to transition to other things. What is that like? That was really hard because Wildon went from when I first started being this really cool travel show, having a little bit of TNA, covering the party is a little bit of culture and a little bit of geography to then be. becoming this like crazy ass party show with the confusion often with girls gone wild back in the day

you remember so you had wild on and then you had that crazy joe francis girls gone wild that was all well it was very easy to and it was e which aired in 120 countries around the world so i could be covering a body of work in jamaica that could have been like at some i don't know provocative location with nudity in every other country, it was like you're seeing everything in here in America. They were kind of masking it off. So the show, I think, took on a little bit more of a party and a little bit more of a provocative vibe before I left.

So for many people in transitioning from that show, I was always going to be that quintessential travel girl, which was cool. But I also had to mindfully kind of take on some other more respectable opportunities. Without downplaying it, though. I mean, it was a great show. I love when people come up to me and go, oh, I went to Bisa.

I went to spring break in Cancun. I went to Italy because I lived vicariously through you around the world. Or you made me want to go climb the Mayan Riviera, like all of these cool things, which I really loved. But to a lot of people, I'll always be that wild on girl. That's okay. Was it hard to be in a constant party state, or did you just separate it? People would never know this, but I was pregnant with Naraya on the road. Then I had Naraya, got back on the road.

three months after I gave birth to her. So I would walk in, do my stand-ups, do my walk-out, do the out-tros, and let my crew go in there and cover all the drunk craziness. I was sober for most of the show. Wow. So I thought, everybody thought I was this party girl. I was pregnant. Like, the camera shot was like belly boobs, like, was less and less of me because my belly

was growing, my boobs were growing. And the camera shot was getting smaller and smaller. I was on a bikini in the beach around the world. Oh, I remember watching when I was little. less and less of me. Go back and look like you'll, it's ridiculous. Like, I remember you so well from that show. And you started seeing less and less of me because my belly was growing, so nobody knew it. I didn't never notice that. Didn't you wonder why my breath's reading something? No, I just thought you, I mean, you do have great breasts. I never thought anything of it. Thank you. I'll go back and watch.

I'm sure Taylor will too. Come on, Taylor. Taylor's back there on Google. Taylor's ferociously Googling it. Taylor, don't do it. But the magic of television. And so that was, that was a, that was a a lot and then, you know, packing up my daughter and my life and then continuing that for a few years was a lot. It was amazing. I laugh about it now because that was reality television before reality television. I did my own hair. I did my own makeup. I had two young producers. Yeah, no kidding. We're like on the road where now, you know, now our needs and our contracts and our desires in any deal. They're like, they're big. You couldn't even go make a show like that today. No, because no one wants to do their own hair and make up. There's no way. Right.

So we were able to get in there and be ghetto and have a small crew and bring to life travel like a local, which was really cool. What was the thing that you did after Wild on that you felt was like something that you were really proud of? CBS Rockstar, so I did that show with Mark Burnett. That was my first network gig. It was amazing. It was three nights on CBS, bringing unsigned talent to life. Amazing. Rock and roll.

We were looking. The first season was in excess. Rockstar and Access looking for the replacement from Michael Hutchins. Epic talent. We did three nights. Everybody lived in the rock star mansion. So we had one night reality, two nights, prime time. It was amazing.

Is everyone flirting with you? Yeah. Not really, because I'm on stage. Okay. So not really. I can't believe that. Not really. I mean, I'm on stage, live audience, rockers that are scared shitless to get up there and

showcase their talent. And then you've got the band and Dave Navarra. like not really it was such a doing live television like that you know you've got stage managers there's so much going on no so is this the next season was with Tommy Lee that was a little bit different and that was like a little and I was like running I was running she's running away from him just like the drama the drama so are also pregnant again on that show pregnant again I was pregnant on every show you're pregnant again trying to be a cool rocker Tommy's chasing you pregnant I mean I I ran faster.

It was fine. I don't think he's cared. So is this, are you divorced by then or no? So I was actually in a, so yes, divorced from Garth in a new relationship with David and pregnant with rain. Okay. During that rock and roll show. And David was huge on Baywatch. I remember him on Baywatch.

Is this before or after or during his Baywatch name? After. And David and I knew each other since we were 21 and 22. So we always had a love affair. we had a very long relationship. We had a very deep friendship. And then we finally pulled it together and decided to really give it a go. And then we had two more children.

We had two children together. That was a lot. Have you felt like with David you've been able to maintain a friendship with him now? We have a great relationship. We parent together. Super close relationship. Like we speak every day. I would consider us to be the best of friends.

I'm still really close for this. family. I didn't divorce them. We live in the same neighborhood. We like, we have dinners together. He'll come over for family dinner, even with Scott and I. To someone, if someone, the different, you have the advice. I feel like, what's the advice of being able to have an amicable relationship with an ex-husband? Like, what's the difference? I think it's choosing love. I love David. I'll always love David. My new man knows I love David. It's just how it is. I've loved him since the moment I met him. I've loved him since we were 21 years old. We weren't great husband and wife. And then when we divorced, it separated. It was the saddest

time ever. It was epically sad and painful. But we both knew that it was time for us to stop living as husband and wife and having a very complicated relationship. We knew that it was necessary for our children. And then we chose our children. We took the high road and we designed, if you can imagine, and this is really possible, everybody who's fighting the fight, I know how fucking hard it is. We designed a working relationship as exes. He is the greatest ex-husband of all time. Like he's my best friend. It's crazy. What does some of that design look like? Because I think there's people, if they're going down that path, I don't think we've ever talked about this, like what that looks like post. Because to your point, you have these children together. You

have this relationship. That was a great relationship. You have a friendship. Tragically painful in the beginning. Sure. Because we had tremendous chemistry, a deep love. And we were so committed and fought the best fight we could to raise our kids together until we realized that change was necessary. Then we took a pause. And then there's the pain of dating other people. Oh my God. Do you have to like take time from each other as well for a while? Like you have to like distance. We did. And then I don't know if everybody would agree or has experienced this who's listening but there's also the missing like I had kind of a different approach to it there's the missing when you're not together anywhere that's painful and it's necessary so we were able to stay in each other's lives

and kind of love each other through that pain of missing each other I mean there were periods of time where he's like well can we still cook together and hang out together and have family dinners I'm like well David if we keep doing that then neither one of us get to move on and so we can't really do that yet we were so used to doing that. It was a very complicated, necessary separation. It was a loving separation. And we agreed that we were going to stay in each other's lives and love each other through those difficult times. And when I say how close we are, I mean, we have dinners with Scott. Like, we'd probably travel together, but I don't really want to do that because like we've got to move on

and I want him to find someone that's gonna love him and bring joy to his life and what is it like when you start dating other people? Like how do you do that? Is it like a liaison? It's weird.

It's hard. Like do you have to call him? You don't even know this part, Lauren, anyways. Don't worry for you. I pray and wish that he'll never be in it. When I move on to my second husband, I just want to know.

I think it's weird and it's different and I had to do a lot of work to realize that love looks different, feels different, sounds different, is different. And then when you met Scott, was it love at first sight? It was wow, oh my God, what the fuck at first sight? It wasn't love at first sight because I had that once in my life and I wasn't looking for that.

But I definitely felt that, oof, like that wow, the second that I saw him, that oh my God, what's this? Where'd you guys meet? We met Wally's in Santa Monica, which was a bar I was. I know. It's so cheesy. I was having a glass of wine with a girlfriend and a gentleman that's like a father figure to me. And Scott was there with his friend. So it was definitely unexpected and it was meant to be. And I swore I would never do it again. I swore I would never get married again. I swore I would never get married again. I swore I would never get engaged again. It was going to be my kids. And then I was going to love and date. But I knew that I was never, ever going to do it again in the way that I committed to. David. And I was kind of having fun anyway. I thought this was going to be a great summer and I was going to date and I was, which was a disaster. I wasn't good at that at all. And then I met an extraordinary man. What does it look like when someone hits on Brookberg at Wally's? What's the pickup line? I'd like to send this to a lot of my friends. It was actually pretty

amazing. And I will say that I really wanted to be picked up on and I wanted to date and I wasn't dating. All the men listening have a giant note card. Guys, no one was talking to me. No one was walking up to me. I was a girl, I swear to God, that would go to Mastros and sit at the bar because I'm a big girl and have a beautiful steak dinner and a glass of wine by myself, not looking for love, but looking for company and very open to sharing that seat next to me and maybe making a new friend. And it was never happening. And I'm not like, or I'm not saying, oh, poor me. I was not dating and I wanted to date. I wasn't being set up. I wasn't on a dating app. It might be a little intimidating. Yeah, but I mean, okay, but get over it. So I was,

But get over it. Like I was ready, willing, and available. No, but that's the secret because our friend Taylor back here. Now I'm going to get weird DMs. Oh, you're going to get Dick Picks. I swear to God. Dick Bigny Packs. I don't get Dick Picks.

I mean, he's in a relationship now, but this guy, he just charges. He says hi to every girl, everybody. How did Scott come up to you at Wally? He walked right up to me. See, that's the move. What do you say? Rule number three. Walked right up to me.

Completely ignored me. Ignored my really hot blonde girl, stylist girlfriend. And I was sitting with a gentleman named Larry who we called Papa, like a grandfather to my children, who honest to God is in his 70s, distinguished gentleman hat, like all Guccied out, like a fabulous man with a cane. Okay, I don't think it looked like we were on a date. He looks like my father. And Scott walks right up to the bar and says, hello, sir, I really like your hat.

He had like a Nick Fouquet hat. And I'm like, my jaw dropped. I'm like, this guy's so foxy. And he completely ignored me. And I'm like, what the F? And he walked away. And I look at my stylist I'm like

And we always joke around about this Because you gotta like give credit Workerner I was like that guy was so foxy What the fuck you didn't even say hi Like didn't even say hi to you me We're like crickets This is the story of my life Isabel Like I no one talks to me

I walked away And I'm like what the hell And then he came back He came back But when he came back I was already gathering my things I had to get my stuff out of Isabel's car Papa was driving me home

I really couldn't stay I was in the city I live in Malibu and we had already got the valet. So he walked up to me, invaded my space, grabbed me by the arm, not in a creeper way,

but you would interpret that as creepy. And he said, hi, I'm Scott, come and have a drink with me. And I was like stuttering. I was like, I would love to have a drink with you,

but I can't. And it only was because, which I guess sounded like a rejection. Yeah, sure. And my, was that a rejection. Most people would take most men. And I didn't mean it like that.

I just was like, da, da, da, da. And he goes, no, no, no, come and have a drink with me. And kind of grabbed me by the arm off of the barstool, but not in a weird. Like, who does that nowadays? No one would dare touch you or bear. You know, we're living different times.

I know. Now you get hit with the taser. Wait, he went for it. And inside I was like, I think this might be my man. Like, this guy is so fucking brave. This guy just invaded my space. Grab me by the arm and didn't take no for an answer. I think this might be my man.

You see, though, but this is why the times are so fucked up because you're. Women want to. are bad advice. Women want a little dominant. We want to be ignored. No, but listen, Brooke Burke is on the show saying that she was grabbed. I know, and I liked it. And she liked it. And that was the right approach.

And now this is the guy. But if you do that, if you give that advice in a 20, 23 world. Here's what it is. Women and men do not like desperate energy. You cannot be desperate energy in any facet of a business relationship, of a friendship. We can smell desperation. Do we agree? No one wants desperate energy.

Everybody can. And Scott, to me, sounds like he came up. He asserted that he is not desperate because he ignored her. And then he came back and he gave a little bit of dominance. Super confident. That is the recipe for success, in my opinion, for a relationship. It's a good foundation. I'm going to talk really fast so I won't bore everybody with the story.

But you have to hear the next part of it. So then I say, I'm so so sorry, I really can't have that drink. And I really wanted that drink. I so do you have no idea how that I want that drink. So I'm so sorry I can't. I leave. My girlfriend's getting. the valet. I walk outside and she's like, well, what happened? Did you give him his number? Did

you get his number? And I'm like, no, I just said I had to leave and he just let me leave. Like I just walked off into the sunset. We'd never to be seen again. And he just let me leave. So Mr. Super Confident, who went in for the grab, let me leave. And I think he may have he felt like it was a rejection. Yeah. I'm sure. So she goes, going back in there. And I'm like, Isabel, wait, wait, no. She goes storming back in there. Grab Scott. and goes, hey, she's really spunky. Can you imagine some blonde little skinny blonde chick doing this? She goes, hey, what's your name?

And he goes, I'm Scott. She pulls out her phone and she goes, do you want her number or what? And he's like, he didn't even know what to say. It was really aggressive. And he goes, okay. She goes, let me give me her a number. And don't be that guy. He's like, she goes, you call her tonight.

And she comes fucking out. And I'm like, what happened? And she goes, I gave him your number. I'm like, you what? Like my, for me, part of the dating part, I think it's like my phone. It's my kids. It's my life. Like, I don't know.

I'm weird like that. If you call me on my phone, I know you or not. Oh, you didn't want just like a strain. You're having your number. She goes, that's how it works, Brooke. It's the only way you're ever going to hear from him again. Well, no shit. Wait, hold on.

Do he call me that night? Yeah, did he call you that night? And by now it's like 8 o'clock. Call me that night. And he was like, I'd really like to have that drink. So what'd you guys do? That night? Yeah.

See? I know. And my inner dialogue was like booty call, no bad idea. But you know what I said to myself? I'm going to go have that drink. And so? And I did. Where was it?

Did you guys go back to Wally's? We didn't go back to Wally's. He goes, Palisades or Malibu. And I was like, I have my choice. I'm not driving. I don't know you to Palisades. Come to Malibu. And trying to find a place that's open in Malibu by 9 p.m. now.

And yes, it looked like a booty call. I know. Sorry kids for listening. We met at the Malibu. in and we had that one drink and it was amazing. Before, before, before, before we, I committed to that. I said, what's your last name on the text? I had to do some Google if? And he said, do you want to buy you? And I said, yeah, I do. And so he sent me that. And then he goes, what's your last name? He didn't know who I was. No way. So he says, he says he didn't. And I said, don't Google me.

Now he was like, wait, he didn't know who you were. That's what he said, which was another great line. Another great line. I believe. I believe. I actually believe him. So I said, see, don't Google me. Because that was, I was like, don't Google me. Because you never know what's going to... You never know what's going to come up. Well, it's what's hard with public people. You don't want to come in to be like, I already Googled you. I got all the things. It's weird. It's weird, but you kind of, that's what we do.

And so he gives me in this little bio, which was cute and cool and he seemed respectable. And then he texts me again, and this is where he had me. And he said, one more thing. I forgot. I am a happily divorced father of two beautiful children. And I was like, oh, now you have my attention. Let's go have that drink.

That's really cute too because it lets you know that he's on good terms. He's happy. I know. He's divorced. He hits a lot of the things. He has kids. That sentence, if you're divorced and you're trying to hit on someone is a real candy drop.

Remember for life number two. Hold this clip for wife number two. But it's true for people that are dating and you think you want to downplay that or somebody might not love that, you know, you're in a divorce or you're divorced or you have children. Like, just lay it on the line. Be up front. Be up front. I thought it was hot.

I mean, this is the. way to hit on a girl if anyone is listening and needs some text. You know, I think, careful at the grab, though. We talk to all, a lot of, like, a lot of friends are single and, like, and there's a lot of, there's a lot of game playing now. I don't understand it because. I love a game. Yeah, but it just

seems like, I love a game. I do love a game. What do you mean, how do you think I got you? No, no. How did you guys, like, I mean, I guess everybody knows of it. We met when we were 12. It's a whole long story. But I played games for about 20 years. Continue playing games. I do. No, but you know, but you know, like, we want a little. We want a little.

Sure. But I think like the men, like, a lot of men are like, what should I text? Okay, what's the, I'm like just, it's a little strange to me. I think it's very rare that people are just upfront and honest and vulnerable. Yes, I would agree. I do. I think a little hair of a game, though, to keep them a little like dangle of the carrot. Yeah. Yeah.

Are we in a game right now? I feel like I'm going to go. You never know. Like, I avoid your call sometimes. You guys are talking about like your next spouse. So, you know, that's kind of, you know, keeps you on your toes. We did a sexy stranger one time in Malibu, but it was so awkward. She did it completely wrong. I didn't wrong. One of our favorite, what's it, Georgia Obaldi over there? Okay, so sexy stranger, you're supposed to go to a bar and like, ideally like, I pick her up. If she dressed up.

Were you in like a wig? Were you in like a wig? No, she got fully dressed up. But she went to one of our favorite places that we go all the time and schedule the reservation. So we're sitting there in Georgia Ovaldi. It's too small. If people think you're a bunch of freaks. People know it's in there. Oh, God. Did you look like a different person? Yeah, it looks like. And that's where rumors start. That's bad. Of course. And I'm sitting there like a dope. Who knows, I have like a mustache on or something. And now they have no respect for you. They're like, I saw those two. What are they doing in Georgia O'Baldi? I am feeling a shift. I think everyone is really starting to realize the importance of building muscle.

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locator to find the best location or a retailer near you. So now that you have Scott, And it's easy to blend with David. It sounds like. It's easy. I have to give David huge credit because he really encouraged the kids to accept him and let them know that it was okay to accept him and love him. Wow. And I've been on the other side of that. And that's, you know, another big part of blending a family, separating, designing a working relationship.

If you don't allow your children that freedom to be open and receive and eventually love someone or just be open to that relationship, friendship, whatever it might be. then there's there's so much in the way of that that they don't allow themselves the comfort they have guilt and and being close to a new person so david was amazing with that scott's really easy to love and like and he's an honorable man he's a he's a quality man an amazing father so it was easy and i've been in it before where it wasn't in other relationships and it's a disaster i think you need to write a book that's and maybe you already are it's already in the works but i feel like a book and a guide to navigating all of this. It's impressive. You drew it with very eloquent. I appreciate that. I had conversations about doing it before and I always said no because I

thought I haven't figured it out and I'm still getting it wrong and it's not successful yet. And I've had two divorces and like who am I to speak about that. But now, now I feel like there's little things that you do to come out on the other side of it with love and acceptance and respect and integrity. Maybe a podcast. You need something like I feel like people, because you're actually a practitioner and someone who's been through it. Thank you. And you've tried all different kinds of ways and seeing what works and what doesn't. And it seems like you really got to the other side. Thank you. I think it's style. I think it's tone and timing. I think it's self-respect. I think it's meeting your partner with respect. When I say partner, I include David to be that partner too.

Like for life we're raising our kids. I define really clear boundaries. And, um, I'm lucky that my kids are accepting, and I'm lucky that Scott's kids accept me. And I'm lucky that David is a strong enough man to allow that. I mean, honestly, like, you have to take your ego out of it. Thank you, David. Check your ego. Yes. And we had a lot of ego in our marriage.

Oh, my God, it was part of our problem. We both did. And we were young and hot-headed. But it's worked out. It's worked out. Thank God. I have to ask you the question that I'm sure every single person who's listening wants to know. how do you have four kids and look so good?

What is, like, what, I would love to know your pillars of what you do. For example, do you eat a lot of meat? Do you do weights? Do you do Pilates? Like, what are your pillars that you stand by? I really love to simplify it for people because I design this lifestyle for many men and women. I started my app to be able to teach people how to do it with a limited amount of time and do it and do it well. I used to eat five meals a day.

I used to weigh my food. I was probably more voluptuous as a younger woman. I was in that gold gym phase. You guys are too young to probably even remember that. But working really hard to maintain my body. And now I spend less time when I do it more efficiently and I work out smarter and differently. So I intermittent fast, big believer of that.

How many hours? How many hours? How many hours? I've ever done. An eight hour eating windows, 16 hours of rest. I'm not much of a rule follower in life. I believe in a healthy lifestyle and boundaries. If I go to dinner late, I'm not really counting the clock if I'm starving.

I will tell everybody you will not be hungry if you intermittent fast properly. And it's not for that chick that's just skipping breakfast and binging. Tell us not intermittent fasting. Exactly what you mean. Like let's take today. And it's confusing if you research it. So intermittent fasting means that you are giving your body and your gut a break in time to repair. Most of the time you're sleeping.

So I woke up today at a really busy day. I can't even tell you all the things that. I did today. But I taught my workout class, sweat my face off, knew that I was going to have a long day and I was going to be on the road. So I had a shake at about 1130 noon. That was my first meal. I broke my fast. But in that shake, if somebody were to ask me if I count calories, hell no. There's probably more calories in my one shake that most people who are dieting, which I hate that word, having an entire day. So my shake has a superfood powder, almond milk, maybe MCT oil, which is a lot of fat, almond butter, super fat.

Not a lot of sugar, but a little bit. Maybe cinnamon for antioxidants. Like a lot of different things, but it's heavy, frozen banana. I never ate a banana as a younger woman. Are you making the shake or does someone make it for you? I usually make it at home, and I'll usually double or triple it up for my kids. So I'm all about saving time. Today I was at Rafi's teaching my class, so I grabbed a shake to go and then I hit the road.

But generally speaking, I'll have one delicious filling high-calorie, high-fat shake. that breaks my fast. I have coffee in the morning. So you broke it at 11 o'clock. Exactly 11.30. Black coffee doesn't break the fast. No. Well, see, here's the thing. So I do coffee with half and half. Okay. But still. You could do coffee with full cream. I was a non-fat girl my whole life. Non-fat milk. It's loaded in sugar. Non-fat everything. It's full of shit. Sugar. So high fat would be full cream. Think of it like an Italian coffee. Half and Half Full Cream. I never used to drink half and half. Is there a brand of half and half that you drink? Whatever's organic. I think.

Horizon. I don't know, whatever I get at Whole Foods. Just like an organic. Nothing fancy. Okay. So, okay. So you're having a coffee with half and half. And by the way, that's a lot of fat, but it's no sugar. Right. So I'm full and I have two of those. Your sugar's what kills people. I have two cups of coffee. And that's like an Italian creamy coffee. So I frothed my milk. I have my coffee and I'm full. And then I'll have a second one because I need energy because I got a lot of stuff to do. Then I'll work out or I'll teach my class. Then I have a big shake and then I'm kind of satisfied. So on most days, I haven't had anything since then. So you'll stop eating after your shake until dinner. I'm full and I'm satisfied. I get that. I'm the same way. I'm not someone who wants to

sit and eat all these meals all the time. So I get what you're saying. And if I had a lunch, a late meeting, because I do like to eat, I enjoy eating. I would have, for example, a cob salad that maybe had a little cheese in there, a little bacon, I'm not afraid of dressing, I'm not afraid of olive oil. I would go have sushi. I would have grilled salmon and some vegetables. I would have a Caesar salad with chicken. A lot of people that are dieting are like, I can't eat that.

There's so many calories in that dressing. I don't mind that fat. Avocados, olive oil, nuts. So good for your skin. So good for our hair, our brain, our skin, our nails. So I had to retrain my brain. Now I eat a lot of good fats. Dinner.

And I also eat rice. Look at the Asian culture. And I don't do brown rice. It has more calories. It's too heavy. I try to keep it pretty. simple and basic and clean, but I eat rice. What kind of rice? Jasmine rice,

Basmante rice, sushi rice. I love rice. See, that's the thing. I told you, like my grandma's full Japanese, my mom's half, and we grew up white rice. We didn't have brown rice. It was just a thing. And if you look at that culture, Japanese, like that, you know, it's thriving on that. Exactly. And I love rice. And some people would say it's too many carbs and it's a staple and it's too filling. You really do have to listen to your body. But for me, a typical day would be my shake. It would be a big lunch if I was not, you know, I would time that. Because lunch is for me a big meal. I don't like to eat a big

meal before I go to bed. Right. And dinner would be steak, chicken, salmon, maybe soup, a really crunchy, healthy salad, lots of vegetables. I drink a lot of water. I drink a lot of green tea. I'll have a glass of wine if I need it. I'd rather do tequila and be a little bit organic and no sugar. So if I was really being strict, I would have tequila on the rocks with maybe an orange wedge. but I eat and I eat well and I love to cook because I know what I'm putting into my body and I'll do a lot of vegetables, a lot of salads, lean proteins. If I'm starving, I'll have a handful of macadamia nuts. Maybe I'll grab a few dates.

If you're out at Wollies, what are you ordering? I don't love the food at Wally. Sorry, everyone. You're going out to dinner. What's your order? I'm going to order a filet mignon with like tomatoes and onions or a Caesar salad or sauteed spinach. a side of vegetables. I'm always going to have a salad. I'm always going to drink a lot of water before I

eat. If you're hungry, you're probably dehydrated. So if you're hungry and you're not drinking enough water, you are thinking you're hungry and you're really dehydrated. So I'll drink, sometimes my body weight in water. So whatever your body weight is, change it to ounces. It's an amazing flesh and cleanse. And you're not hungry because you're full from the water. And by the way, if I go to an Italian restaurant and I want to have pasta and I'll have a bottle of wine with Scott. And then tomorrow I'll get back on my program. I don't do that all the time. Sounds like you don't stress about it.

I don't stress about it. I don't do guilt about it. I design a healthy lifestyle and a nutritional program that's sustainable that works. And honestly, my shake is so yummy. It's like a milkshake. Can you please put the shake on your Instagram story too? With the chicken. If you click on the longevity button or even click on recipes, you'll find it all.

So longevity is a superfood blend that I did a collab with. I put two scoops every day. I make it from my kids. It's so good. cacao. I'm going to try it. I've heard you talk about Sun Life, too. You like Sun Life. I used to go there every day and I was spending 20 bucks on a shake. And then they have the billionaire that's like a $27 a shake. I'm like, what the fuck is wrong with me?

Khalil, what the hell, man? Kalil. I love you, Khalil. Make a Brooke Burke smoothie. Here, here, I think that you guys should do a collab and make a Brooke Burke smoothie. Come on, Kalil. I mean, my daughter's first job was at Sun Life and I love Kalil, but by the time you take four kids in there. I just spent $100 on a smoothie. Khalil, get real, dude. I love you. He lives out in Texas with us now.

I know. Yes, I didn't know that. And then I would line up all those fantastic. What about the billionaire? It was like $27 with go to classroom. The bone broth is my favorite. So I make bone broth at home too. Why do you have to put out so many pockets? Do you make phone broth in your crock pot?

I make it in the crock pot for two days. It's the greatest thing ever. You need to do a collab with crock pot. Make it like a nice pretty white. You're right. I'm not joking. Mine's like brick red. It's so ugly.

Yeah, make it delicious looking great. Lauren. And then also Sun Life. Because it'd be so cool to like be able to postmates your smoothie. I'm gonna, gosh. Because people are busy and they want like if I could postmate it from Sun Life, Kalil, that would be really nice and often. They're really expensive suits, really. Literally, I've heard you talk about the smoothie when you did a podcast with Jorge Cruz. Yeah. I remember taking notes. This is like three years ago. That's so long ago. And that was way back when. So now I've simplified it. So now I have one superfood blend. And instead of the five, 10 ingredients that I used to line up, it's all in this one blend. And it's really good. And it's by longevity. It's longevity.

I'm going to buy that. So everything is, it's all, it's all just one scoop. You've got like 10 mindful young superfood ingredients in one scoop, and I double it up. And it's longevity by Brooke, Brooke Body. We did this collab. I went to the lab. It's solid. What's in the scoop?

So there's macca, macha, probiotics, cacao, goji berry, flaxseed, like everything that we love and need. You know who's going to buy that? Me. I'm going to send it. He's really wellness-y. I'll buy it. And it tastes great. It doesn't have that dirty, earthy.

And it's got natural protein. And I'm not a big believer in protein powders. I don't think we really need them. Because people go too crazy with them. I think so. Can we give away like a membership to your app? Oh, I would love that. All you guys have to do is follow at Brookbrook on it.

Yes. So at Brookburg, and then there's also at Brookbrook Body. And I'm really, everything is easy to find even on Brookbrook.com. So if you want to see where you can meet me, live events, retreat. come to a class, come to a breathwork, like find some feel good. I'd love to connect and hear from your audience. And I'm happy to give away several memberships. I mean, honestly, this is an act of service for me as much as it is a business. I'm really passionate, obviously, about this space. So give me a handful of people that need a change and we will sort them out.

You tell me how many. What do you want to do? Let's give away a dozen. Oh, that's amazing. She's giving away a dozen memberships to her app. All you do, all you have to do to win is follow her on both accounts. tell us your favorite takeaway of this episode. I know there was a lot. I mean, you can get as cheek as you want on my latest post at Lauren Bostic. And then where can everyone find? You said, I know that you have your app, but is there anywhere else that they can find you, shop, do anything? I think your longevity powder.

I know. I mean, everything's on brookbork.com. That's probably the hub. And I feel like even you guys in my deep research of there are so many Instagrams that are feeding all of these opportunities that it's just important to stay connected. And I love those conversations with people. I do. I want to hear from people. Thank you.

I hope that you get a podcast. This was fun, Brooke. Let's do a podcast. Anytime you want to come on. Thank you. Yes. Thank you, Brooke Burke is giving away so many memberships to her platform. All you have to do is tell us your favorite takeaway from this episode on my latest post at Lauren Bostic.

Also, I'm going to have her back on the podcast because she's so much fun. I feel like I need her alone in a solo episode to talk beauty and wellness. So we'll kick my glove.